We have all heard so many times how important forgiveness is, but no one has ever said it was easy. It actually gets painfully hard to hear those same old meaningless words, “I’m sorry” or even worst, “It will never happen again” because they lost their significance years ago. These words had meaning before they were over used, but unfortunately now they are just empty words put together to form a sentence.

It often seems like the same people apologize for the same things time and time again, almost like a revolving door. Nothing changed after the first, second, third or I lost count of how many times I have heard those words. I guess it is possible these people had temporary amnesia and did not remember what they were doing was causing irreplaceable pain and distress to those they love. There must be some kind of reasonable explanation, like major miscommunication or confusion because why would anyone cause the same heartache, to the same people, over and over again without making any changes in their behaviors?

When there have been too many years of tears falling for the same reasons, it is no longer only one person’s fault. Of course the person causing those tears is responsible and should have know, better, but the one with a tear stained face is responsible as well for allowing things to continue on the same dark path. No matter what the situation may be, we all have choices to make that can  alter what the end results will be.

I do understand there are times when someone wants help to correct their negative ways and in that situation at least they have already acknowledged the problem. At the same time, there are those that do not see anything wrong their behaviors and do nothing at all to make things better. In my personal opinion acceptance is a huge step for anyone to take, but implementing the much needed changes is another colossal step that takes time and patience. 

I will say that being able to forgive and forget isn’t easy, but will actually benefit the one that is forgiving. Letting go of anger and resentment will only create peace of mind. Having the knowledge that you are not able to help someone that doesn’t want help is vital! Also accepting the fact that you are not able to fix another’s troubles and problems is necessary because we unfortunately do not have magical powers. In all honesty, there is only one person that can correct their own lives and if they do not ask for help, there is nothing that can be done. 

I wrote this not because of anything I was currently feeling, but what I have felt many times in the past. Life is difficult and when you are holding onto any negative feelings because of something you went through, it will only hold you back from living your own life. I have always been one that wants to fix everything for everyone else and accomplished nothing in the process. I often think that caring too much and investing too much into things with no end, only creates way too much stress.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. This post may have been a little dark, but I did try adding light to it. Y’all know by now that everything I write comes from the heart with nothing but honesty. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you had a good day and you have a peaceful evening. Please always remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa