Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday eve, y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend. Do you have anything planned for the weekend? I plan to try relaxing and resting because I am still a little rundown from the mini vacation for my husband’s birthday. The only thing I will ask you is, please stay safe. Several people that I work with and remember, I work from home and have not met anyone I work with personally, but I learned that several of them were diagnosed with COVID. I am unaware if they received any of the vaccines or boosters, but they did say how miserable they were feeling, and I would not want anyone to feel that way.

It does not matter who we are or what we have overcome in life, we all have bad days. When we have a bad day, it can be difficult to get over it when others are behaving negatively or unpleasantly. Yesterday, I was frustrated because of a few things that occurred when I was out, and I felt like someone was throwing me under the bus and making a mountain out of a molehill. I ended up chatting with another co-worker about the issues and told her how foolish I felt. This co-worker has become a good friend and she was able to say a few things that turned my bad day into a much brighter day. This is the reason I am sharing the quote I am today, and I hope it helps you deal with challenging days a little better😊!

We may not always be able to say the right things when communicating with others, but we can most definitely say the wrong thing that will make another person feel terrible. Our words and actions can make a HUGE difference in another person’s life, but we always want it to be for the better. There is already too much negative that occurs in the world around us, but we can do something positive. Unfortunately, we will never know the way someone else is feeling or if they are struggling and ready to give up on life. I know that none of us want to be the reason why someone does something they cannot take back!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the two quotes that I shared, and they resonate with you, and you will turn around and share them with someone else. I have always believed it is easier to be kind, understanding, and compassionate with others as opposed to being mean and rude because that takes too much energy, and is a waste of our time. All it takes is to do or say something nice to another person and it could change their entire day for the better😊! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Kindness is the way of life

We have successfully made it through the first day of the week and I hope it was a good day for y’all. I am thankful for my job and the people I work with, especially during this slow time of year. It can be easy to get discouraged in this life, but it is wonderful to have family, friends, and co-workers to make it a little easier to tolerate. Even though work has been rather slow, I try to help my co-workers because I value them and want to help them keep things on track, and so they do not feel overwhelmed. It can be exhausting when things pile up due to meetings or training, and some people have children they need to tend to. I feel like taking a little off their full plates when I can help them not get too overwhelmed and frustrated.

We never know what another person is going through in their life. Many people will put on a fake smile to hide their pain because they do not want anyone to know they are going through something complicated and mentally draining. They hide their emotional pain by acting as though their life is happy and they are not suffering silently. Others that are going through something in their personal life that is problematic and troublesome might behave negatively with an abrupt tone because they are angry and or frustrated with something personal. Even though it is not easy, we need to not take their behavior personally.

Instead of reacting negatively to someone who says something harsh or behaves rudely, we should learn to take a step back and think about what that person may be going through. If this is someone that we know and understand their personality, we should be able to figure out if something is different. It should be easy to know if their behavior is normal or out of the ordinary. There is someone that I know that can be really kind and understanding most of the time, but every once in a while her demeanor changes drastically, and not for the better. I tend to ignore the negative behavior of this person because I do know she is battling with something on a personal level. Instead of reacting in the same way she is, I do the opposite and treat her kindly.

If we react with emotions every time someone acts negatively, we would constantly be dealing with hurt feelings. Then if we speak out of hurt feelings with a negative tone and say something that makes the other person feel even worse than they did before, we will never be able to erase those hurtful words. Too many people resort to suicide when they cannot handle life anymore and we would never want our mean words to be the last words another person hears. I am not saying it will change anything, but sometimes all a person needs to hear when they are struggling are kind, supportive, compassionate, and loving words.

I think if we could all just try being nicer and more understanding of others the world might be a happier and better place to live. Maybe if we all try spreading kindness, love, compassion, and understanding, it would catch on and spread as far as and beyond negativity. I believe we can all admit that negativity can spread like wildfire, so why can kindness and love not as well? None of this should take too much energy and should be rather easy😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and my words resonated with you. Many people reading this might be battling with a medical issue, which I do understand is not easy, so it should be so easy for us to be kind to others regardless of how they behave. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Post of 2023

Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Last Monday of 2022

How has your year been and is there anything you wish you could have changed? I have many questions that may not have answers, but I am going to ask anyways. Why are so many so quick to make a judgment? Why do some people think it is acceptable and humane to not be kind to others? Do people really think their way of life and how they behave is much superior to everyone else in the world? I am starting to believe that I might have missed something when I was younger because I was not ever taught that any one person is better than anyone else as I was taught, we are ALL EQUAL no matter where we are from or anything else people think it is acceptable to judge others for.

Why are so many people afraid of what they do not understand and automatically think the way others are choosing to live THEIR life is not the way they should be living? Who can say there is only one way to live? I guess I was under the impression that the United States is a FREE country and therefore people can live how they want to live. As I am sure you can tell by several of my posts, this is something that bothers me tremendously.

Over the past several years, it has seemed like there has been a vast amount of people devolving instead of evolving. A lot of this might be a result of our political leaders’ comments which might have made it seem like it was okay. Too many have glamourized racism and hate because of what they were feeling inside their heart, which to me is cold and dark. It is almost 2023 and we need to get back on track with evolving with the times.

Why should anyone care who someone else loves? I mean love is love, right? Does this affect their lives in any way shape or form? Who really cares about the color of someone’s skin, where they are from, or who they worship? They cannot control or change it and it does not cause issues in anyone’s life. The things that do matter are the way we treat others because that is something we do have control over. Superficial nonsense is not things that matter in the bigger picture of this life.

2022 is almost over and 2023 will begin soon, so I think we need to begin the new year with a better and kinder outlook on life. We need to start being more accepting and compassionate towards others that live differently than we do. I think learning about others’ way of life is fascinating. Different cultures are something we should all want to learn about because no individual is the same in this HUGE world and there is nothing wrong with that. Think about it, if we were all the same, would the world not be boring?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today, and it resonated with how you feel about the world we share. I believe we should all learn new ways to think and start treating everyone equally and with respect. The only time an individual does not deserve our respect is when they disrespect us personally or someone else, but even then, it is best to not sink down to their ignorant way to behaving. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Letting Go Of The Past

Something everyone around the world has in common is, we all have a past. This can include positive and negative situations. Of course, we all enjoy remembering the positive things that happen and never want to forget those memories. Unfortunately, life is not perfect, and we encounter negative experiences during our lifetime. Although our first reaction to negative situations is to try forgetting them because they were traumatic and caused emotional pain and anxiety. There are better and more effective ways to handle those negative situations.

Instead of trying to ignore and forget about the past, it might be better and longer lasting to confront the past head-on. Confronting the past involved a conscious, dedicated choice to approach past emotional pain and begin to process them. When we continue trying to avoid the past, it is only going to circle back around. This will continuously force us to remember the pain over and over again, which is a vicious negative cycle.

There are numerous ways to confront the past and I am going to share some steps that I hope will help you. I do understand that you may have other ways that have helped you, which is great. Everyone deals with emotional pain and stress differently, so I would encourage you to share what has helped you face these issues.

One: Acceptance:

Accepting the traumatic events that were experienced is the first step and can be the most challenging step towards recovery. It depends on the severity of the trauma, but it may require professional help to overcome it and move forward. Mental health is critical to take care of before it escalates, so seeking guidance from a professional should not be viewed as a weakness and no one should feel shame from this.

Two: Consider the effects:

Any hurt we experience is going to include a reaction. We will gain additional wisdom that we must value. We should always try using what was learned from our painful experiences to have a better reaction when faced with future pain. Everything experienced in life is meant to help us deal with similar situations that we may encounter, and they are all learning opportunities. These opportunities are a gift to help us handle complicated situations we may endure and should not be viewed as a punishment, but more as a benefit.

Three: Distance:

We have all heard that sometimes it is necessary to distance ourselves from negative situations or toxic people in our life. It has been suggested by psychologists, that distance from a situation or the individual causing us to feel upset or stressed can help with letting go because we are not around the individual or situation and not forced to think about whatever is causing us to be upset. Often, we need space and time to process things on our terms.

Four: Allow yourself time to let the negative feeling flow:

We may try to avoid negative feelings out of fear but understand this is normal. Many people are in fear of feeling such as anger, grief, sadness, and disappointment, but these are common and natural feelings to experience once you have been hurt. It is okay to take time alone to let your tears flow or scream your frustration and anger out when no one is around. This release may severe you well and you are one step closer to recovery. If you do not want to scream or cry your feelings out, you can try writing a letter that you do not plan to send to whatever has you upset.

Five: Accept you may never get an apology:

Waiting for another person to accept responsibility for hurting you and apologizing can be a wasted energy. If you wait for an apology, it will only slow the progress of letting go down. It is not easy to understand why people are so unwilling to accept responsibility for the wrongs they do, but unfortunately, it is the way things are and we deserve the chance to let go so we can be happy!

We have almost made it to the end of the week, and I know we are all looking forward to the weekend. I know I have talked about this before, but PLEASE if you have not already been vaccinated for COVID, PLEASE do so. The vaccine can save lives and we all should be wearing masks when in public places to keep ourselves and others safe from getting COVID. Over the past years, too many have lost their lives and this COULD have been avoided. My mother and her husband, both are vaccinated have recently been diagnosed with COVID. I am thankful they were both vaccinated because that might have saved their lives! Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers! 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have shared will be beneficial for you and if you have other advice, I do wish you would share it. Life is challenging and we do not need additional stresses added to our lives because it is not worth it. It is so important that we try to be understanding towards what others might be going through and know there are probably things we do not know about. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The importance of being Considerate

We are living in a chaotic and unpredictable world that has too much anger and hatred consuming the population in mass numbers. People have seemed to have forgotten how to or lost the ability to be understanding, kind, and considerate towards others, which is unfortunate and heartbreaking. We are not always going to agree on everything because we all have opinions, but we can disagree in better and more respectful ways. In this post, I am going to explain what consideration means and why it is an important practice to learn and include in our daily lives.

To be considerate means must be thoughtful or have sympathetic regard or respect and thoughtfulness for others. It is careful thoughts, normally over some time. This can be related to simply remembering the “Golden Rule”. We all know how we want to be treated and it should be easy to implement that same treatment toward others. I know everyone has an opinion, but I strongly believe it should not be difficult to be kind, understanding, and respectful to others.

There are many benefits to being considerate. This can simply mean we are being friendly and reliable, which should not be overly challenging. These behaviors can improve our reputation and invigorate aspects of culture making communities more cooperative and loving. The positive impacts can greatly affect our lives. When we are considerate it can increase levels of trust among others, which will make the people we interact with feel better and more secure.

Consideration of others can also be good for our overall health. The reason is it triggers the reward center of our brain, which elevates dopamine, a chemical that makes people feel good about themselves and their environment. The simple act of being considerate makes everyone involved feel good and happy, so it cannot be denied it is well worth it.

The reason that I am writing about this today is that I am tired of hearing about hate filling the world and think people need to wake up to reality. We are all human beings and most of us are trying to live a good life. There should never be anyone shamed for their life or the choices they have made because we all make mistakes. If we could all try to be nicer and more understanding towards others and help when we are able, the world would be a much better and happier place.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a great and safe weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I cannot speak for other countries, but there is too much hate in the United States and some of it stems from political views, which is crazy. The truth of the matter is no single person has the power to make the changes we think should happen, but we can rally together and try. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Almost Thanksgiving

Twas the day before Thanksgiving and many are excited to visit with family with COVID numbers decreasing. This time last year many were isolated due to fears of COVID, which caused most to feel sad about not being able to spend a holiday with their families. Unfortunately, last year we were seeing high numbers of COVID, and no one wanted to get sick or cause their loved ones to get sick. Yes, this year the numbers have decreased, and many have been vaccinated so all we can do now is hope for the best😊! I know that I am not the only one that is tired of hearing about COVID, as we dealt with it for far too many years!

Thanksgiving is a time to remember the things that we are thankful for. Of course, we should show how thankful we are daily, but with tomorrow being Thanksgiving this post is going to be about being thankful! What are a few things you are thankful for? Unfortunately, many of us have lost loved ones and we wish they were with us to celebrate, but we can still honor those we have lost by cherishing their memory. Our lost loved ones would want us all to keep living our lives and be happy while still remembering them😊!

Years ago, my husband and I would try to spend Thanksgiving with my mother. It was a nice time to get together and catch up. This year, my mother is living in another state, and it will be a little different. I am beyond thankful that my mother has found love and happiness and is living her best life. We were talking about having her and her husband come to visit us around Christmas, but I am logical about money and thought it would be a less expensive flight to wait until after Christmas for them to come!

I am very thankful that my husband and I are safe and healthy (besides my having Multiple Sclerosis). We have a wonderful life with our three amazing cats that bring us so much joy. We do terribly miss our cat Chloe whom we had for almost 16 years, but the two little cats we adopted are wonderful and all three cats get along so well. We both find it incredible to watch the three cats interact with one another, the bond they have formed, and the unconditional love they have for each other and us.

Another thing that I am thankful for is my husband’s side of the family. They have all been so welcoming since the day he and I met, and they continue to be the best in-laws any girl could ask for. Family can be unusual and unique, but love is consistent and unconditional.

In a very strange way, I am thankful for my job and my work family. I have not met any of my co-workers in person but have built strong relationships with several of them. The few that I have made a strong connection with are my supervisor and a few of my other co-workers that share the same title as I do. One of the girls loves her cats as much as I love mine, and sadly lost two of hers back-to-back a few months ago. We spend more time at work than we do not at work, so it is nice to be able to work with good people!

Too many people in this world forget how to be thankful for what they have in their lives and then take things for granted. I think that is sad because there are so many people, especially in the United States that do not have a roof over their heads, food on the table, or love in their hearts and are unable to have compassion or understanding for anyone else. We all share the world we are living in and it does not matter the color of someone’s skin, who they love, where they are from or anything else, this world is for us to live and grow in!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading your comments and what you are thankful for. I was going to make beef stew for dinner tomorrow, but we are now going to order a turkey dinner to have for Thanksgiving. My husband was looking forward to turkey, so this saves me from cooking! I am still hopeful that everyone around the world can remember what love means and start being kind to everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

Saying hello to Tuesday means we made it through the most difficult day of the week, which is a great success😊! How was your day yesterday? My day was pretty good and not too busy. I had my monthly one-on-one meeting with my supervisor, which went great because she is the best supervisor and so understanding! I let my supervisor know that I have been helping my co-worker with insane political views, which she informed me that I did not have to do anymore because she was “supposed” to be communicating with someone else that was delegated to be her mentor. I do not mind helping others because it is just in my nature, but I have too many people coming to be sometimes and it gets a little overwhelming.

Many of us only have to work four days this week because of Thanksgiving, but it is still important to remember to stay calm and at peace at work. Unfortunately, we do not live in a positive world because there are still SO many negative people that are full of hatred. Instead of allow the negative to control our lives and destroy our sense of good, we need to surround ourselves with kind, understanding, compassionate, and optimistic people. The more we surround ourselves with people with a positive mind, the more we can influence others to feel that same way!

Do you have any plans for Thanksgiving? I believe we are going to be celebrating with our three cats in the warmth and comfort of our home, which will be nice. It has been so cold where we live and I prefer to stay home and not go out in the chilly weather. I am thinking that I am going to make my husband something he likes to eat for dinner, which might be challenging because I have never made beef stew before, but I found an easy recipe to follow with a crockpot! I know most people would want turkey because it is Thanksgiving, but we normally do things a little differently than everyone else! Heck, I used to make lasagna because it is something I know how to make and am good at!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the quote helpful and it makes you feel at peace! I am looking forward to reading your comments and promise to respond as quickly as I can. I hope your week has been good up until this point and it keeps getting better! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Mid-Week Inspiration

We are halfway through this week, which means we are much closer to the weekend! The week started kind of challenging and mildly stressful, but hopefully, the last part of the week will not be as difficult. One thing I have noticed about life is once one situation improves it just leaves room for additional difficulties to arise. Even though it often seems the harder we try the more exhausting life is, we should try never to give up because there is light at the end of the extremely LONG tunnel. 

Even though we are halfway through this week, we do still have to make it through the last half. No matter what we endure during this life it is important to remember, we are stronger because of all of those challenges. We may not be able to rewind the clocks and correct things we should have and make better decisions, but we can move forward and make each tomorrow we are offered better! Of course, no one is guaranteed tomorrow, but we MUST try to live each day as if it was our last so that we do not have any regrets. We must treat others with kindness, be understanding, and be compassionate because we might be able to make another person’s life a little better. Sometimes all we need is to have someone care and listen when we need to vent about struggles we are dealing with!

We all deal with struggles in life, but most of the time they are not catastrophic. Even on the days when I feel out of breath from what I am dealing with, I try to remember that someone else is always going through something worst. Sadly, many of the issues we deal with in life are self-inflicted and they could have been avoided by making better decisions. Honestly, I hate the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” because it seems a little harsh and I am not sure I believe this. I am not saying that the struggles will not kill because they do, but most of what we deal with just is not that serious. 

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I shared today and you found meaning in the quotes. How has your week been up until this point? My week may have been a little frustrating and challenging, but there have been a few people that made a positive difference. Often it is the simple things we can say to someone, that can make the biggest difference. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

Happy mid-week, the halfway point in our short week means we are much closer to the weekend returning. How has your week been going so far? The good news is that we only have a couple of days left before we are back to the peaceful times of the weekend, so I think we can handle it😊! I am going to try to do a post every day this week because it helps me to unwind and come to terms with the stresses of the week. I am hoping to not miss a day of posts and that the week is not too incredibly stressful!

Even though it is a short week, the days can become stressful and we can lose hope for better days. At the halfway point in the week, I think we can all benefit from an inspirational quote, which I hope will inspire you and help you through the rest of the week. Oftentimes, the only thing that helps me through the pain of multiple sclerosis and the stresses of life our the love and compassion of my loving husband and adorable cats. After a long day watching the way our cats play with one another is hilarious and always makes me laugh😊. It amazes me how animals love without any expectations or ulterior motives and are so forgiving!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and you found the quote inspiring. I hope you are having a good week and it will only get better over the next couple days. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa