Category Archives: Anxiety

Rights To A Safe Life

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The world seems to be filled with hatred and chaos. There once was a time when my husband and I looked forward to going to concerts because we enjoyed live music, but due to several years of COVID, it has been years since we were able to enjoy this. Is there anything that brought you joy that has been sitting on the backburn for numerous years? If so, what are these things that you enjoyed doing and are you planning to start back up again?

There are many concerts over the next few months that I really want to go to, but I asked my husband what I think is a very valid question, is it safe? We have all heard about the daily acts of violence in the United States, so who is to say it is even safe anymore? There appear to be shootings happening nearly daily at different places, from schools to restaurants to malls and in the streets. Even though I do understand we are all going to die someday, I would much prefer to not die at the hands of a mentally unstable person who thinks they have a right to own a gun.

In the United States and anywhere else around the world, we all have a right to a happy and safe life, which means there must be better control and understanding of ownership of a firearm. I think people think that guns are interesting and fun, which I am sure they can be, but there needs to be an understanding of safety. There is much more involved to the meaning of the 2nd Amendment right or at least there should be. Regardless of if the 2nd Amendment needs to be amended or not, it is also crucial for people to understand we all also have a right to not live in fear!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have been able to enjoy your weekend to the fullest. For the past two days, I have been feeling very fatigued and therefore did not have much energy. Last week did a number on me, and I needed this time to do nothing. I do understand there will be some people that disagree with what I have shared in this post, but that is your right, and I respect your opinion. I hope you can respect my opinion as well that I believe everyone around the world has a right to live life without fear. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Grudges and Forgiveness

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Letting go of anger, bitterness, resentment, and grudges is easier said than done, especially when you have been holding onto it for too long. Unfortunately, many of us have been hurt by the words or actions of another during our lives. Maybe this was inflicted by a parent who disappointed or criticized you multiple times or a friend or partner that deceived you, or possibly you encountered a traumatic experience, such as a form of abuse during your life. Deep wounds from the past can create these negative emotions and so much more, but we do not have to be held prisoner by them.

The fact is that holding onto and dwelling on the pain will only cause you more heartache. When you can embrace forgiveness, you will feel peace and less pain. Embracing forgiveness may lead you to physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

What does forgiveness mean? The actions that caused you emotional pain may always stay with you, but forgiveness can release and reduce the grip the resentment has on your heart and soul. Forgiveness can give you freedom from the control of the one that hurt you, In time, forgiveness may even provide you with a sense of understanding, empathy, and compassion for the person that hurt you.

When we are hurt by a person that we love and trust, it can be easy to hold a grudge. The feelings that are involved with this grudge can steam from anger, sadness, confusion, resentment, and hostility. Allowing these negative emotions to take hold and derail the positive thoughts can cause you to become overwhelmed with bitterness.

Holding onto a grudge can be toxic and have several negative effects on our lives. A few negative effects a grudge can impact our lives with may include:

~Carry anger and bitterness into new relationships

~You may become so consumed with your anger, you are unable to enjoy your life

~You may experience depression, irritability, and anxiety

~You forfeit valuable and rewarding connections with others

Letting go of a grudge you have carried and moving into a state of forgiveness is a commitment that takes practice and time but may offer you several benefits. Forgiving someone for their wrongdoings does not excuse their behaviors nor does it mean you will forget what happened, but this is necessary for your mental well-being.

A few benefits to forgiveness may include:

1. Building and maintaining healthier relationships

2. Improve our overall mental health

3. Reduce anxiety, stress, and hostility

4. Lessen symptoms of depression

5. Lower blood pressure

6. Maintain a strong immune system

7. Enhance self-esteem

8. Improve heart health

I hope you found this post helpful. I do try to not hold onto grudges, but there have been several times when I have failed miserably. It is not healthy and will only hinder you in life holding onto grudges and resentment whereas letting go and allowing for forgiveness will only free you from the negativity. I do not think it would cause anything negative if we try forgiving those that have wronged us. Again, this does not mean we will forget what happened, but it can allow us to be less burdened with negative emotions!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a wonderful weekend doing what brings you the most joy and peace. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. There are many people that I can forgive for what they did wrong, but there is only ONE person that no matter how hard I try, I will NEVER forgive. Even though I am unable to find forgiveness in my heart, I do not allow this person’s wrongdoings to prevent my happiness. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Dentist experience update

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We survived this week and can now enjoy the weekend! How was your week? Mine was spent dealing with my least favorite kind of doctor, the dentist. I went to one earlier in the week because she was right around the corner, but she was anything but helpful. Not only was she not helpful, but she also lied. First, she told me that she was unable to pull my tooth and she needed to send me to an oral surgeon, and she also said the tooth was not infected. None of this made sense to me because my husband had a tooth pulled that was even worse than mine.

Considering I was desperate to get this tooth taken care of before we went on our vacation to celebrate my husband’s birthday, I called my original dentist. The only reason I did not go to her in the first place is that she is a little further away and I was trying to get things done during a long lunch break at work. I ended up calling my normal dentist and having the x-ray sent to her and she said she could pull the tooth for me.

I left work at lunch yesterday and went to the dentist to have her pull my tooth. I was a nervous wreck because I have never had a tooth pulled before and I am already terrified of all dentists. For someone who hates all dentists and fears them to an irrational level, I do like the dentist. It helped that she let me have her little dog on my lap while she pulled my tooth. The little dog was so sweet and just laid on my lap and offered a lot of comforts. The entire process was not too bad, but it was not fun either. Of course, when they did the shots to numb my mouth it hurt, but not for too long. The cracking sounds when she was pulling the tooth were a little uncomfortable.

Once the numbing medication wore off, I was in pain last night. I was only able to eat soft foods but could not eat much because I was very nauseous, which was probably because of the infection the first dentist said I did not have. Things were better today, but I was still not feeling 100%, but I did work today. Thankfully, work has been very slow, so I did not have to do too much. Overall, I highly recommend therapy dogs be at doctor’s and dentist’s offices because they make the experience much better.

Thank you for visiting my site today. The reason I have been absent from blogging is because of the tooth pain, but now that is all taken care of, and I am thankful the weekend is here because I need to rest. After the traumatic experience of having my tooth pulled and fearing the dentist, I think I could sleep for an entire day! I hope you have had a good week and you are able to enjoy your weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Overcome Fears in 2023

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Now that we are three days into the new year, are there any changes you want to make? Do you have any struggles or fears that you want to overcome this year? This is something different than creating goals or new habits because I am talking about overcoming things in life. We are all human and we all have fears and things we want to avoid because certain things make us incredibly uncomfortable. I have heard people say the best way to overcome fears is to embrace them and continue doing the things that are feared until the fears do not exist.

I have had an intense fear of the dentist since I was younger. I try my best to avoid the dentist, even for cleanings because they all make me too nervous. Unfortunately, I have had a bad toothache for several days and now I need to swallow my fears and go to the dentist. What a way to begin the new year having to go to the dentist where I know they are going to pull my tooth☹. I can deal with most pain, but I am not able to deal with any pain in my head and the tooth pain is also creating a nasty headache.

Is there anything that you have an intense fear of, and do you have any ways to overcome the fears? Life is so short, and it is probably not good to live with any fears. I do think it is normal to have a fear of things like roller coasters or heights because I think there are a lot of people that feel that way. This may sound crazy, but I do have a fear of roller coasters, but I am fearless when it comes to heights😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know I mentioned on Friday that my husband and I got the 2nd COVID booster, and I was going to do a post about it. Unfortunately, the booster had me out of sorts for a few days. It was the same thing that happened after I got the 1st COVID booster, and I just felt achy and tired for several days. What a way to bring in the New Year, not feeling well because of the COVID booster and awful tooth pain. Maybe I got all the negative out of the way in the first few days of 2023 and the rest of the year will be great😊! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as soon as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Build Up to Holidays

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The holidays for the past few years have been abnormal, to say the least. We had been forced to place family gatherings on hold, with no idea when to reschedule them for. COVID caused holiday celebrations to change drastically and add even more stress to an already stressful time of year. Although COVID is much better than it was a few years ago, the pandemic has not seen its final days yet. The good news is that travel restrictions have been lifted, which is helping make long-distance family gatherings more manageable. Everything seems as though there are promises life will see what we used to consider “normal” again soon.

Even though life is starting to become normal again and COVID stress is decreasing some may still feel increased stress as the holidays approach us. Many have adjusted increasingly well to being at home and isolated from the outside world. Of course, for anyone who naturally enjoys socializing, the ability to interact with others, and to have mindless conversations, the holidays will be a breath of fresh air and excitement.

The low-key, mellow homebody type was thrilled to have a logical excuse to stay at home for the holiday of their dreams. Changing back to the spectacle of talkative relatives, rambunctious children, and loud noises may be a complete shock to their sheltered systems. Human beings do have the ability to acclimate to new environments quickly and adjust to change, which COVID pushed all of us to learn quickly.

Everyone needs to remember that the holidays do not mean we need to make up for all the holidays missed due to COVID in one day. We need to enjoy these times without feeling increased pressure. We can converse and interact with our family and friends, while still protecting our personal space.

For anyone that is an introvert and enjoys the comforts of their home, the following tips might be beneficial to read. I am sure there are many more ideas available, but these are just a few that I came across and wanted to share them.

Take Baby Steps:

Now is a time to take things slow and not push ourselves too far. Many of us might be tempted to try avoiding social gatherings and holiday parties, but we should try to at least make a conscious effort. Avoidance can potentially make things far worse than they truly are.

The best way to readjust and ease back into the “normal” holidays is to take it one manageable event at a time. Remember, to stay true to yourself, if large events and gatherings cause you too much stress and anxiety, choose to attend smaller gatherings until you begin to feel more comfortable and less anxious.

It is crucial to create and maintain time limits. If you know you can only tolerate an hour or two at a family dinner, let this be known so everyone is aware and understands. You could simply say, “I am so excited to celebrate the holiday with everyone, but unfortunately, I must leave by 9 PM.” If you are with your significant other or a friend, establish a code word to let that person know you are ready to head home, so you can begin saying your “goodbyes”.

Envision Success:

During the days leading up to your holiday gathering, try to self-talk. Do not tell yourself, it is going to be an uncomfortable and awful situation. Instead, remind yourself you are going to be surrounded by family who loves and accept you, and everything is going to be fine. The more you tell yourself this, the more that is what your brain will hold onto and remember.

Allow Yourself Breaks:

Whether the holiday gathering is with family or friends, keep your needs in mind. Stay aware of any indicators you are getting overwhelmed, your heart begins racing, you become overheated, etc. If your stress and uncomfortable feelings build up, simply politely excuse yourself to the restroom or step outside for some fresh air. A short and quiet break can help to calm yourself and be ready to socialize more.

The holidays do not need to be stressful, as they are meant to be enjoyable. We still have a few days left before Christmas Day, so try to keep yourself stress free and look forward to spending time with your loved ones. If you are not able to see everyone in your family due to distance, there is nothing wrong with picking up the phone to chat or even chatting on Zoom.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the tips I have shared helpful, but if you have others, I will encourage you to share them. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope your week is going well and you have a good day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Letting Go Of The Past

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Something everyone around the world has in common is, we all have a past. This can include positive and negative situations. Of course, we all enjoy remembering the positive things that happen and never want to forget those memories. Unfortunately, life is not perfect, and we encounter negative experiences during our lifetime. Although our first reaction to negative situations is to try forgetting them because they were traumatic and caused emotional pain and anxiety. There are better and more effective ways to handle those negative situations.

Instead of trying to ignore and forget about the past, it might be better and longer lasting to confront the past head-on. Confronting the past involved a conscious, dedicated choice to approach past emotional pain and begin to process them. When we continue trying to avoid the past, it is only going to circle back around. This will continuously force us to remember the pain over and over again, which is a vicious negative cycle.

There are numerous ways to confront the past and I am going to share some steps that I hope will help you. I do understand that you may have other ways that have helped you, which is great. Everyone deals with emotional pain and stress differently, so I would encourage you to share what has helped you face these issues.

One: Acceptance:

Accepting the traumatic events that were experienced is the first step and can be the most challenging step towards recovery. It depends on the severity of the trauma, but it may require professional help to overcome it and move forward. Mental health is critical to take care of before it escalates, so seeking guidance from a professional should not be viewed as a weakness and no one should feel shame from this.

Two: Consider the effects:

Any hurt we experience is going to include a reaction. We will gain additional wisdom that we must value. We should always try using what was learned from our painful experiences to have a better reaction when faced with future pain. Everything experienced in life is meant to help us deal with similar situations that we may encounter, and they are all learning opportunities. These opportunities are a gift to help us handle complicated situations we may endure and should not be viewed as a punishment, but more as a benefit.

Three: Distance:

We have all heard that sometimes it is necessary to distance ourselves from negative situations or toxic people in our life. It has been suggested by psychologists, that distance from a situation or the individual causing us to feel upset or stressed can help with letting go because we are not around the individual or situation and not forced to think about whatever is causing us to be upset. Often, we need space and time to process things on our terms.

Four: Allow yourself time to let the negative feeling flow:

We may try to avoid negative feelings out of fear but understand this is normal. Many people are in fear of feeling such as anger, grief, sadness, and disappointment, but these are common and natural feelings to experience once you have been hurt. It is okay to take time alone to let your tears flow or scream your frustration and anger out when no one is around. This release may severe you well and you are one step closer to recovery. If you do not want to scream or cry your feelings out, you can try writing a letter that you do not plan to send to whatever has you upset.

Five: Accept you may never get an apology:

Waiting for another person to accept responsibility for hurting you and apologizing can be a wasted energy. If you wait for an apology, it will only slow the progress of letting go down. It is not easy to understand why people are so unwilling to accept responsibility for the wrongs they do, but unfortunately, it is the way things are and we deserve the chance to let go so we can be happy!

We have almost made it to the end of the week, and I know we are all looking forward to the weekend. I know I have talked about this before, but PLEASE if you have not already been vaccinated for COVID, PLEASE do so. The vaccine can save lives and we all should be wearing masks when in public places to keep ourselves and others safe from getting COVID. Over the past years, too many have lost their lives and this COULD have been avoided. My mother and her husband, both are vaccinated have recently been diagnosed with COVID. I am thankful they were both vaccinated because that might have saved their lives! Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers! 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have shared will be beneficial for you and if you have other advice, I do wish you would share it. Life is challenging and we do not need additional stresses added to our lives because it is not worth it. It is so important that we try to be understanding towards what others might be going through and know there are probably things we do not know about. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Benefits of Journaling

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Journaling has been around for decades. Many legendary people from our history, such as Albert Einstein, Marie Curie, Leonardo de Vinci, and Frederick Douglas kept a journal to record their experiences, thoughts, and feelings. This has been a beneficial self-care practice for scientific geniuses, brilliant artists, and anyone in between that is much less expensive than talking to a therapist. I am going to share several amazing benefits of journaling with you and hope this helps you to start of continue to journal.

Enhances Mental Health:

The simple art of taking pen or pencil can help you to relax, control anxiety, deal with depression, and best of all enjoy one of life’s greatest pleasures, of writing😊! When we can get our thoughts, positive or negative down on paper, we can often gain some clarity and a deeper understanding of what is creating our internal and emotional conflicts. We can also discover what external difficulties we may be experiencing. All of our problems, fears, concerns, and dilemmas will come to light as we write them down and allow for us to address them and determine a solution.

Promote Self-Confidence:

When we add positive experiences into our journal and reread them later on, it allows us to relive these good experiences, which can make us feel better and happier. Journaling our thoughts and maintaining an organized schedule may be helpful to reduce anxiety. It can be a good feeling when we check boxes off of our to-do list!

Heal past and current emotional pain:

Studies have shown that journaling can help the healing in short and long-term. When we put our thoughts and emotions down on paper, it can help to reduce stress and improve our moods. If we can find the words to describe our experiences, it may help us to organize our thoughts and emptions and gain a clearer understanding, instead of ignoring them and expecting them to improve on their own.

Of course, journaling can help relieve stress, but it can help us to confront other issues we may be dealing with. The other issues journaling may help us dealing are grief over the loss of a loved one, feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt, feelings of fear or anxiety we may feeling during our day, concerns for others and or their intentions, feelings of anger and or stress and SO much more.

Build and strengthen emotional intelligence:

Journaling may help you understand your feelings towards a certain person or situation. This may provide you with a clear understanding about what upsets you and inspires you. Journaling may offer you an understanding of what your triggers are, how to avoid them and or how to cope with them. When we write down our feelings, it is in a judgment free and private zone, which allows for self-discovery. While we get to know ourselves better, we can establish a deeper comprehension of our reactions, strengths, and weaknesses and ways that help us thrive.

Help achieve and remember the importance of our goals:

Studies have shown that when we write our goals down and the reasons, they are important, it increases our chances of success. Setting SMART goals, write down how your goals meet the following criteria:

Specific– be sure your goal is as clear as possible, so that there is no confusion.

Measurable- set milestones.

Achievable- make sure your goal is something that you can achieve.

Relevant- ask yourself how and why the goal will be beneficial to your life.

Time- set a reasonable timeframe.

Improves and increases your memory:

Studies have suggested that it is easier to remember something after you write it down. When I know I must be able to recall something later, I must write it down and sometimes multiple times. Letters, ink colors used helps our brains to remember important information. When we record our thoughts on paper, we can easily refer to it, be reminded of insights we had, and our goals that we may forget days, weeks, or months later.

Increases communication and writing skills:

When we write our ideas down on paper, it forces us to organize our thoughts. This also helps to communicate more effectively on paper and verbally, as there is a strong connection between writing and speaking.

Expands creativity levels:

Journaling allows for something called “Stream-of-Consciousness”. If we practice this type of writing, thoughts, and ideas may come more freely. This may help us become more expressive with language and communication. If you draw blanks on what to journal about, various prompts are available by doing a Google search. I can provide a few possible topics that may be helpful.

What are four things you are grateful for today?

What is your favorite thing about yourself today?

What was one thing you wish you did differently today?

What was something that happened today that made you happy😊?

Of course, I already blog as much as I can, but I am going to start adding journaling into my weekly routine. There are somethings I might experience that I want to keep personal and not have many people if any know about. Journaling is a private and personal way to get feelings out and I think this is something that we all need at times. It would be a bonus to be able to increase my writing and communication skills as well.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have shared was useful and interesting for you. I would love to read your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. I am sure you are looking forward to the weekend, but I do hope you had a good week. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Irritating Sounds!

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Each person has unique qualities that set them apart from everyone else. These qualities are not something negative or to be ashamed of, but they can create challenges for the person to handle. Since I was a young child there have been certain sounds that I found extremely irritating, which I thought made me strange. It is not loud noises, but small noises such as people chewing gum, chips, popcorn, ice, or anything else that crunches. I remember a time being in the car with my mother or anywhere else when people were chewing gum and it caused an intense feeling of pure and utter irritation. Are there any sounds that you find irritating?

There is a rare disorder known as misophonia that affects about 20% of the population. Scientists suggest that one in five people suffer from this disorder to some degree and less than 1% experience extreme symptoms. This disorder can trigger emotional or physiological reactions to sounds. Of course, those that do not suffer from this view the reactions as an unreasonable and illogical response to sounds that can range from anger and annoyance to panic with a need to flee.

Those that live with misophonia have explained they are triggered by oral sounds, such as the noise a person makes when they eat, breathe, or chew anything. Other sounds people have found to be irritating can include the tapping on a keyboard, table, or steering wheel, or the sound of windshield wipers or blinkers. Some have said small repetitive motions are the cause, such as someone fidgeting or wiggling their foot.

Those with misophonia have said they respond to visual stimuli accompanied by sounds and have an intense reaction to repetitive motions. It has been suggested by researchers that those with this disorder have issues with the way their brains filter sounds and one feature of “misophonia sounds” would be their repetitive noises, which exacerbates other auditory processing issues.

Misophonia appears to range from mild to severe. Many have reported various physiologic and emotional responses. Mild responses can cause people to feel anxious, uncomfortable, disgusted, or have the desire to flee the situation. The more severe response may include rage, anger, hatred, panic, fear, and or emotional distress. 

Doctors are unsure what causes this condition but have stated it is not an issue with the person’s ears. They do believe it may be related to the way sounds affect the brain and trigger an automatic response in the body. The onset is not known, but symptoms have been reported to begin between the age of 9 and 13 and last a lifetime. This is more common in girls and comes on quickly and does not appear to be related to any specific event.

A recent breakthrough study discovered that misophonia is a brain-based disorder. Researchers have referred to a disruption in the connectivity in parts of the brain that processes both sound stimulation and the fight/flight response. This is said to involve parts of the brain that code the importance of sound. 

If this is something any of you deal with, I am sorry because I know how incredibly frustrating it can be. There have been times I had to cover my ears to avoid the annoying sounds because it causes me massive amounts of frustration and anger. It was so hard to deal with when I worked in an office setting because many people loved chewing gum and that is one of the most annoying sounds in the world. Thankfully, I am not working in an office setting, so I do not deal with this anymore, but my husband does love chewing ice and tries to say it is soft ice. It is NOT soft ice! If this is something you must live with, how do you handle it without losing your mind?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared is something you do not live with, but if you do, please know you are not alone. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope your weekend has started pleasantly and you enjoy these two days! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Power of music

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Music has some magical powers, and some songs can touch our hearts and souls in different ways. There are countless numbers of songs that mean something different to each person listening to it at any given time. Certain songs we turn to during a variety of emotions that we can relate to may stabilize whatever mood we are in or emotions we are experiencing. 

Have you ever thought about music and why you feel the way you do about some songs? Of course, I have given this a great deal of thought. I will not go through every song because that could take days. However, I am going to tell you about a few songs, but please know there are so many more where these come from. For me, music has been an escape from the reality and craziness life can and has been. I find the songwriter’s creativity fascinating and captivating, which leaves me intrigued by where their inspiration comes from.

One song I turn to when I am having a bad day and feeling extremely down with little hope is a song by Simple Plan, “Welcome to my life”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0U0AlLVqpkIf you take a few minutes to listen to this song and feel the meaning behind the words by answering the questions in the beginning honestly, you will be able to understand why I feel so strongly about this song. There have been many times I have felt like breaking down and a few times have broken down. Too many times I feel out of place because my views are distinctively different from everyone else.

As I just said, I do feel like I do not belong and many do not understand me, I cannot change who I am and do not want to.  I would rather not fit in than conform to be like everyone else because I think too many people are followers, more like sheep. There are several parts of this song, “Welcome to my life”, that hit home to me. There have been times I have wanted to run away, but never do, and instead, I turn the music up loud to drown my thoughts. It is not that I hate feeling trapped in this world, but I do not hate the way things are going in the world. There is too much mean and evil behavior, lies, and deceit. These are the things about life I will never understand, which is something that sets me apart from others.

On a more positive side, there is a song I listen to that always brightens my day and makes me smile. This song has a calming vibe and makes me happier. “Down South” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BX4KhF2Zdz4 is from a California-based band called Radical Something. This is an upbeat and positive song! Many of you probably already know how much I love the beach and this song provides a beach type. I have mentioned in other posts that the beach is my happy place because the sound of the waves eases all negativity from my mind.

I think once you listen to this song, you will understand how the ambiance from this song is soothing. One line from this song says, “And, you could smile if you learn to put your pain away”, which I think is a very true statement. Every word in the chorus reminds me of how I feel when I am at the beach. This reduces my stress and anxiety, which is a necessity in life, especially with the way things have been recent.

A song that reminds me of a good time is from a band based in Florida called, Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. The name of the song is, “Your Guardian Angel” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7Em4fUOrZo. This is the song that played after my husband proposed to me on stage with the band eleven years ago. I still remember every minute of this day and the time we were on stage when my husband asked me to be his wife. It was a day written in a time that was as perfect as can be. No matter what happens in this life, that day will always be the most magical and amazing day in of our life. Therefore, it will always remind me that good things can happen in life.

Life has been painful and difficult, but no matter what I am dealing with in this life music can make most things better. The songs that are written come from something someone else has gone through and being able to listen to the meaning is a wonderful chance for discovery. I think trying to relate to the songs we listen to can provide clarity and peace, which we could all use at from time to time.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have written and the songs I have shared. I hope you are having a great and safe weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and maybe you will share some of your favorite songs as well. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Is a perfect world possible?

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What would it mean to have peace in our world and is this something that could be possible? Should it be so difficult to have everyone be happy, free, fair, equal, and forgiving? Unfortunately, for centuries this does not seem to have been the case. Through war, people have tried to gain more control and the desire to force everyone to think the same way. War does not do anything but get too many people killed. Attempts to overthrow other countries, killing and destroying the lives of innocent people is complete nonsense in my eyes. 

The amount of hate that erupts between people due to differences that cannot be changed is not solving any issues and only creates more problems. Why should anyone be allowed to judge someone based on the color of their skin, race, national origin, sexual preference, religious and or political following? Who can say the way another person is living, is not the right way to live? I strongly believe if we were all the same, the world would be an incredibly boring place to live. The past several years has shined new light on the way people think because it was made to seem normal and acceptable. These behaviors only spark hate and violence. Why are so many people unable to think for themselves and simply follow others like they are sheep? Why are so many unable to love and treat others with respect? It is 2022 and we all need to start evolving and being much better than we have been.

Do we even understand what peace means? I almost doubt it anymore because it is not something we have seen much of or seen at all. Peace is societal friendship and harmony, in the absence of hostility and violence. There is NO conflict or fear from impending war. We are all human, but no one is perfect so we SHOULD be able to get along. We may not have a lot in common, but we do all have a beating heart and feelings.

If you were able to make changes to the world for the better, what would your perfect world look like? What changes would you to accomplish this? Even though there is no such thing as perfect, changes could be put in place to make the entire world happier.

One MAJOR issue is corrupt politicians need to be replaced and bring in honest people that care about the safety and happiness of the world. People from every country need to rally together and become stronger. If we could support one another with love, compassion, and empathy, HUGE and AMAZING things could begin. Even people within the same country should start understanding each other.

Why does it matter where someone is from? Why does it matter what kind of job someone holds? Why does it matter who another person loves? None of these things should matter to anyone. The reasons people feel hatred in their hearts are unacceptable because most of them are meaningless. Unless someone does something to mentally, emotionally, or physically harm someone, there should not be any animosity. One person is not able to fix the issues we see, but if there was a big enough following and joining together, change is possible, and we could all live in peace!

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I know some people will not agree with a single word in this post, which is okay because these are my feelings. I will respect how you feel but expect the same in return. I would love to read your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa