Halfway there!

Let’s not think of today as simply Wednesday, let us think of it as we are halfway to the weekend! I am not sure how, but we managed to survive the first half of the week, which at least for me was not easy because it was crazy busy! All I can say is I hope the last part of the week is a little easier and the pain and stress will ease up at least a little!! Why is it some weeks feel so much longer? I understand it comes with the territory, but it would help if people could be just a little less demanding and a lot more understanding.

During our lives, we are going to experience good times and bad times, but the bad times should never define or destroy who we are. It is so easy to get discouraged when negative things occur in our lives, but why let the negative times win when we have choices we can make? No matter what we go through in life, there is always a way out or a choice to make that may have a positive outcome. I hope the quote I have shared with you will inspire you and help you to understand bad things may happen, but we can decide if we let them destroy us or make us stronger. I am going to always choose the latter because I do not want to allow anything to destroy my life.

It is kind of funny that I have never met any of the people I work with in person, but have been able to get to know so many of them and make friends with them. Many people have said to me that they think it would be challenging working remotely and not meeting people face to face, but I have become used to it and enjoy it. Working with customers in person is complicated, but working with them through email is a lot more challenging because people seem to think it is easier to be rude and disrespectful. I do not understand this and doubt I ever will. I almost doubt some of these customers would behave the same if we were face to face, but I guess they might behave the same. No matter how much people decide to be nasty and rude, I have learned to just shake my head and pour on the kindness and good customer service I always provide!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a good week and never forgetting how amazing you are. I would love to know what you thought about this post and the quote I have shared with you. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday, y’all! Is it just me or has this been an extremely long week? I am sure I feel this way because my week started with a headache that refuses to go away, but even on the other days when the headache was tolerable the days at work felt LONG! I have given up trying to understand why people behave the way they do because I do not think I will ever understand how people can be so demanding and rude. I think I have been looking forward to today, since Sunday night!

I have always thought that Friday is the perfect day to let go of all the negative and frustrating things that occurred during the week because we deserve an opportunity to enjoy a couple of days. We are forced to work five brutal days each week and we are only given two days to rest and live life, so why carry the negative thoughts into our time? I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing helpful to let go and live your weekend happily and without stress!

I might be wrong, but I do believe the people that cause us the most stress and pain are battling with themselves internally and their negative emotions seep out to others. This type of behavior does not make their days or lives better and only ruins another person’s day. I know I get upset and moody, but I also know how my temper can ignite to an explosive level, so I try to stay quiet. Anyone that knows me understands why I am quiet, something is very wrong and I need space. I prefer to be silent, so I do not hurt anyone’s feelings and then have to apologize a million times!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today. I hope the quote provides you with the strength to leave last week in the past where it belongs and you can have a stress-free, and enjoyable weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! We have almost made it through this week and the weekend will be here shortly! This week has been a little challenging because of the nasty migraine I had for more than two days. I hated having to call out of work on Tuesday, but the head pain was unbearable and I was miserable. I am not sure why these keep happening. I mean it could be heat, stress, fatigue, or who knows what else? I keep hearing that the daith ear piercing helps migraines, but my husband keeps telling me it will not. Does anyone reading this have this piercing and if so, does it help migraines?

At this point in the week, we have made it through three full days and only have a couple left. Even though the week is nearly over, we could all use some positivity to pick us up, right? I have seen so many times when people are unhappy and miserable, they want to criticize others. Why do people think that misery loves company? That is so awful because why do people think that making others feel bad will make them feel happier? Seems a little sick and twisted to me. That is why I decided the quote I am sharing today would be a good pick-me-up. I think it is better to live our lives in a way that makes us happy and not care what others think. We do not owe anyone an explanation, as long as we are not causing harm to anyone else!

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I know how boring I must sound, but after a long and exhausting week, I enjoy having no plans! Why make any firm plans when your work week is already planned out for you? We are forced to work five days a week, that is 40 hours each week dedicated to working for someone else. There is always someone else telling you what you MUST do and I prefer not being told what to do on the only two days I have away from work. I think it is inhumane to work more days than we get off to enjoy this short life! Would it not be amazing to work three days and have four off? Or even work four and have three off?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have had a great week and your weekend is filled with everything that brings you the most joy in life. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I apologize for any comments I have not responded to yet, but I will play catch up this weekend. The first two day this week, I was battling a mean migraine, so I fell behind. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~How to deal with manipulative people~

What does manipulation mean to you? The Webster’s Dictionary shows manipulation to mean a few different things, but for this post, it means, “to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means, especially to one’s advantage”. To your knowledge, has anyone in your life ever tried to manipulate you? If so, how did this make you feel and how did you handle it?

Unfortunately, manipulative people can be found anywhere. These people can be family, friends, co-workers, or even new people in your life. They are not always easy to detect because they can easily lie and deceive you. Although they are skillful in their deceptive and treacherous behaviors, they are careless and selfish with only their benefits in mind. 

Manipulative people know how to find your weaknesses, use them against you, and convince you to do what will benefit their interests. Some may attempt using positive tactics, such as disingenuous compliments and artificial closeness, but they typically use negative means like silent treatment, criticism, and emotional abuse. 

The feelings felt when being manipulated are unpleasant, to say the least. This can easily leave a person feeling sad, disappointed, hurt, and even betrayed. If you have even been on the receiving end of manipulation, please let this be a lesson and never treat another person in this way.

**Please note, I am not a psychologist, mental health professional, or medical professional in any way, but the following tips are what I discovered through research and I hope they will help you end manipulative people before they can hurt and deceive you**

Remember, NO means NO:

Learn how to say “NO” in a firm, calm, and diplomatic way. There is no need to add anything else to the conversation. When we offer any reason, it can just provide ammo for the person to use to get through your defenses and force you to say “yes”. Initially, the manipulative person may become irritated and persistently try to convince you of something other than what you have already stated. Do not allow their determination or pushy behavior to change your mind. Continue to say “NO” and they will eventually give up. 

Do not apologize automatically:

Manipulative people are skillful at turning the tables to make everything be your fault, even when in your heart you know it was not. These types of people are always the victim. Of course, we are all human and it may seem easier to apologize to keep the peace and end the conversation, but this will just provide them with more control. Stand your ground and know manipulative people will never take responsibility for their actions.

Do not react:

Although it is not easy, the more you defend yourself or explain your reasons, the farther you fall into their web of control. Manipulative people know the way you think and will take advantage of it. They will create drama and chaos and the more emotional you become, the calmer they will feel. They want to make you seem like the crazy one and they are sane. No matter how many accusations and criticisms they throw at you, try to walk away and simply say, “I am sorry you feel that way”.

Establish clear boundaries:

Manipulative people are drawn to and prey on people pleasers because their boundaries are often weaker. Boundaries are important in all relationships as lines are clearly drawn. If there is a manipulative person in your life that continues to cross even one of your boundaries, know when it is time to walk away and not engage further. Define ahead of time what the consequences are when the person continues to disrespect you and your boundaries.

Take time to make decisions:

Often a manipulative person will be forceful and demand an answer right away. Try to never cave into their pressure because it only gives them more control. Take as much time as you need to provide them with an answer.

Keep your distance: 

The best and most challenging thing to do is to cut these manipulative people out of your life because they will try to make you feel guilty. Sometimes ignoring the person is easier because they are unaware of what is going on.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information in this post will help you deal with a manipulative person in your life or at least prepare you to handle on if you ever are forced to. Life is not easy, and we always need to do what is best for us because it is our life! If you have dealt with this type of person before, I am interested to read about it and how you handled it or knew it was happening. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

I have always known that weather conditions, extreme temperatures, and stress can create issues with how Multiple Sclerosis behaves. If I am being honest, Multiple Sclerosis tends to misbehave frequently and have crazy toddler-like temper tantrums. I am not sure which issue causes more issues but do know that combination causes massive and miserable pain. I do not enjoy complaining about the pain and know that tears do not fix a thing, but yesterday my pain was at a high that makes me wonder how I managed to make it through my workday.

Of course, it has been rainy a lot lately with some wild storms. The power did go out while I was working yesterday, but only for about fifteen minutes. There was a part of me that hoped it did not come back on so fast because of how awful I was feeling. My poor cats hate when it storms because they seem to think the thunder is going to kill them and they all hide under the bed. I swear I often think where I am living is trying to be like Seattle where it rains most days☹.

What can you do when you are in so much pain and nothing helps? Right, there is nothing that you can do. I have heard so many times that stress is the silent killer, and I could not agree more with this. Stress can cause additional pain, headaches, loss of appetite, sleep disturbances, and invade your mind. Unfortunately, I have always worried about those I care about and worry about what they may be going through in life. The world is such a mess right now. We already went through years of COVID fears and now we need to worry about Monkeypox. I mean, when is it ever going to end? Right, no one knows, so all we can do is follow the experts’ advice.

We have finally made it to the end of this week and my goodness has it been a long week! The weekend is going to begin soon, and we need to let go of all the never emotions the week has caused. The weekends are so short, so we do not need to carry the negativity from the long week into the weekend! Friday is the perfect day to just let go and I hope the quote I am sharing with you today will help you do so. I hope your week went well and you did not have to endure any unnecessary stress and hardships.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the quote I shared helps you to learn to let go of negativity and enjoy your weekend. I know I have asked y’all before to stay safe and do what is necessary with vaccines, but it is looking like Monkeypox can be extremely dangerous. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I promise to respond as quickly as I can. I will be playing catch up this weekend with comments as I do not have anything else planned. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

We are halfway through the week and much closer to the weekend than we were yesterday. Sometimes this helps me get through when the week feels like it is never going to end. Yesterday did go by fast because I was really busy dealing with demanding people that thought what they wanted was a difference between life and death when logically it was far from that. I try to help give everyone what they want, but it is not always possible.

At the halfway point in this week, I feel we could all benefit from some inspiration. Life is too short to live with mass levels of stress and feeling helpless. One thing we all need to hold onto is hope because no matter how difficult things may seem, there is always room for hope. I do understand all too well how much of a struggle life can be and we all have to endure different challenges, but if we lose hope, there is nothing left to hold onto.

One thing that I think is important in life is to always try to understand others and be kind to everyone. Of course, it is not easy to be nice and understanding of everyone because some have extremely unique personalities. Even those most challenging and frustrating people deserve compassion because it might help them to realize their behaviors are not the best way to be. I had an uncomfortable conversation with someone earlier this week. This person is not bad , but tends to put me in an awkward position that I have to remind him is unacceptable. Unfortunately, he is elderly and does not understand his actions are not appropriate.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared and the quote resonates with you. We have almost made it through this week and I am sure y’all are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. Of course, I do not have any plans, which is the kind of weekend that I prefer. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Survived Monday!

We managed to survive another Monday😊! I made it to my pain management appointment on time and of course, they had me wait 40 minutes before the Nurse Practitioner came in to see me. Big surprise, right!? I was getting frustrated, but when she came into the room, she apologized for making me reschedule my appointment two weeks ago and for the wait. She had a doctor’s appointment that she could not miss, which I can understand. I know that doctors are always running behind schedule and the only reason I can come up with is terrible time management. The hour and a half drive to my appointment were just like I had expected, miserable!

I did check the weather on Sunday night, and it was not calling for rain, but of course, as soon as I walked out the door to my house it started raining. I do not like driving in the rain, especially on the interstate. I have a fear of those big 18-wheeler trucks, so anytime I am near one I go much faster just to get past them. For some reason, the drive home was much faster than the drive to the appointment. The only time traffic came to a standstill was when I crossed the county line to where I live, which always seems to happen, and it does not matter the time of day.

How did your week start? I hope you had a wonderful and stress-free day yesterday and each day that goes by until Friday is fantastic😊! I think throughout our lives we learn many valuable lessons that might not seem that important at the moment, but years later make sense and you implement them into your daily life. We are always going to come across people that may seem unpleasant and even downright miserable, which they might say or do something that insults us or makes us feel disrespect. It is important to never go to their level and maintain your dignity and self-respect. I hope the quote I found will help to remind you to never allow anyone else to forget who you are and the manners you hold close!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed this post and the quote sparks something inside you mind and heart. When you have a kind, compassionate, loving, thoughtful, willing to help others way of thinking, it crucial to stand up for yourself in a firm but kind way. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Animal love is pure!

No matter how hard we may try, we do not and may never understand their language. Unfortunately, we cannot know with 100% certainty if they can understand everything, we say to them because they clearly do not speak our language. In a country that contains massive levels of discrimination due to what I consider the fear of the unknown, how are so many able to form bonds with animals? Maybe those that are full of hatred are unable to form strong connections with animals because they can sense evil. A huge difference between humans and animals is they love unconditionally and do not judge anyone based on anything besides the way they treat others.

For as long as I can remember, I have always had a strong love for animals. My love and appreciation for animals extend to all animal life because each one is an innocent and precious creature in need of love, safety, and kindness. I cannot remember a time in my life I did not have a pet. One thing some people are going to either agree with or think is crazy is I believe my pets are more than just a pet, they are part of my family.

 Currently, my husband and I have three precious and loving cats, all of which are indoor only! Each one of our cats has a unique personality and antics to fit that personality. Our oldest is Sundance. He is a big ball of fur and love. Sundance has clear expressions that show what he is feeling. Let’s just say, he could never play poker😊! When we lost Chloe a few years ago, the sadness in his eyes was painful and broke our hearts because we did not have a way to explain it to him. The times when Sundance was sick, the lookout of his beautiful blue eyes was heartbreaking because I could not fix it for him☹.

Sundance being silly

Sundance was mourning and lonely, so we decided to get him a friend. Sundance was not used to being an only child and even had siblings before we adopted him. While I was working in our home office, I would often hear Sundance crying because he was lonely. We adopted Willow and Luna, aka Lunatic after losing Chloe. The truth is we meant to only adopt Willow, but when we went to pick her up, there was another kitten with her that was on her way to PetSmart to be put up for adoption.

Willow

Willow is a beautiful girl with the most unique and unusual personality. She takes time to trust people and is very standoffish. Willow loves spending time on her own but also enjoys laying on my lap, snuggling with Sundance (even when he is not in the mood for it), and playing with anything in her sight. Although she looks sweet and innocent, she can be extremely aggressive with her siblings, which forces me to break things up!

Luna being cute!

Luna, aka Lunatic’s personality, is very fitting to her name. On the day we adopted the girls, she seemed to know what was going on. She decided that she wanted to come home with us. She went into the carrier we had and made herself comfortable and ready for the ride home. Luna was showing off for my husband by rolling over and doing adorable little “tricks”. She without a doubt manipulated my husband, but I am glad she did. Not only does she enjoy playing with her siblings and the numerous toys, but she loves to cuddle and sleeps with me most nights. Due to a medical condition, Luna does not meow like other cats and has awful breath, but she does make the funniest and cutest little noises. Despite her breath being deadly, she is so full of love that you just can’t help loving her😊!

Camie rolling around

Recently, I noticed a couple of stray cats roaming around our house. Two of the looks like they are from the same litter. Of course, I started putting food out for them. My husband did tell me to not feed them and to not get too attached because we cannot have another cat. After all, it would cause our cats too much stress. It only took me a couple of days to get one of the kittens to trust me. She went from keeping her distance and growling at me to allowing me to pet her and now she is more interested in my attention than the food I put out for her. I have named the two cats that look like sisters, Cali, and Camie😊! Unfortunately, my husband knows me too well and I am attached to Camie because she is too cute, loveable, and playful!

The crazy thing is, when I was younger, I had cats. One was Eagle and the other was Jake, both were indoor/outdoor cats. Sadly, both were hit by a car and did not survive. After my 2nd indoor/outdoor cat was hit by a car, I somehow because allergic to cats. Several years ago, while working at an apartment community, there was a neighborhood pregnant cat. This mama cat had her kittens under my desk and did not want them moved. I was the only person the mama cat would let touch her kittens, needless to say, I managed to overcome my cat allergies!

I do not think I will ever understand how allergies work. I do know my allergies are not seasonal because I endure them year-round. Maybe I can blame Gilenya for my allergies. I will be forever thankful my cat allergies went away because I could not imagine life without my sweet, funny, loving, and adorable cats. Life without unconditional love from an animal would be sad. I know many people do not want the responsibility of a pet but will never understand how anyone could not love animals. It seems it would take a heartless and selfish person to not at least like animals!

I know the weekends are never long enough, but I hope you enjoyed the weekend. We are starting a new week and a new month today, which I hope has a lot of great opportunities for everyone. We sometimes need to make our own magic and happiness, which is why we need to find the good in each day. Yes, it can be challenging at times, but there is something wonderful in each day even if we have to look a little harder.

I hope you enjoyed this post and you have a wonderful start to the week. I know it is not easy, but try to stay as cool as possible and stress free. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday thoughts

Just like that July is over and August is here. It always surprises me how fast time flies by. Tomorrow we will begin the 8th month of 2022. I guess the positive side is, that summer will end soon, and cooler days are near. Of course, August and September can still be hot in the south, but I am looking forward to days when the temperatures are not in the low 90’s at 10:00 at night. This heat has been awful this year and I do not expect next year to be any different☹. I am hopeful that next year we will have central air in our house, so we will not feel like we are living in a sauna even with window units.

Tomorrow, I have my follow-up doctor’s appointment with my pain doctor. You know the one that forced me to reschedule because I was a few minutes late and two minutes away after driving for an hour and a half a couple of weeks ago! It probably is not a good thing that I am still feeling a little sour about this and I already know they will have me wait for no less than 20 minutes tomorrow. Why is it okay for them to always run late, but when I do one time I have to reschedule, leave work early again, and drive that long drive for a second time within two weeks, especially when gas prices are out of control? This hardly seems fair to me, and it is going to be extremely hard to not let them know how I feel about this!

I think I have mentioned this to you before, but the Gilenya I take for the MS is a blessing and a curse. It is a blessing because it seems to be keeping the MS at bay and not letting it progress, which I appreciate. It is a curse because one of the main side effects is sinus issues and I have had an evil sinus headache for three days now. If you remember I did post several years ago about stopping the Gilenya and trying something different because I was sick of the sinus headaches. Honestly, there was no way to know that this medication was helping as much as it is. I knew years ago I would have to decide to either deal with the sinus headaches or risk my health, which logically seems like a no-brainer. I hate the constant headaches but would regret changing medications and end up in a terrible situation. This is a catch-22 situation, but I decided a long time ago that I would just endure the sinus headaches.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your weekend has been full of relaxation and doing what you enjoy. Tomorrow is the start of a new week and a new month, which will hopefully include many amazing new opportunities. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Heat, Headaches, and MS Hug

For the past several days I forced myself through my workday and the things that I had to do. Unfortunately, I was unable to do any posts, work on my essay for the writing competition, or read because I have been battling a headache that seemed to be never-ending. Anytime I thought it was improving, I was proven to be incorrect when the massive pounding in my head returned with a vengeance.

Many of you reading this post today and may have visited my site before are already aware that I have Multiple Sclerosis. Anyone new to my site, thank you for taking the time to visit and I hope you will return. I enjoy writing about various topics and hope you will enjoy what I write about as well.

I have lived with Multiple Sclerosis for over 20 years, so basically more than half of my life. Over all these years, I have had numerous challenges, setbacks, disappointments, frustrations which fueled stress, and enough tears to fill the ocean. The one thing I have not experienced is giving up and letting MS control my life.

One of the main reasons why I refuse to give up is I made a promise to my late grandfather shortly after my diagnosis that I would always continue to try to move forward, and I would never surrender to MS. Although he has been gone for almost 9 years, I will continue to keep the promise I made to him. It might help that I am also extremely stubborn and obviously a born fighter, just not the violent type of fighter😊!

During the 20-plus years of living with MS, I have dealt with vision impairments, numbness, various forms of pain, stress from the harshness of symptoms, fears from potential disease progression, changing and deciding the right medications, relapse, neuropathy, doctor’s appointments, dizziness, and much more. Most of my pain does not prevent me from living my life and I just push through it and try my best to ignore it. After all the years of experiencing head pain, I am still unable to tolerate it. Unfortunately, it does not matter how many headaches I have already had in my life or how often I battle with them in any given week, the headache always wins our war.

There once was a time when I had a headache, I could take Advil and lay down with an ice pack for an hour or so and the headache would be gone. I wish I could explain how much I miss those days! Unfortunately, over the past few years, nothing provides me with any relief. Although I had many reservations, I ended up trying everything my doctors recommended, but they were all a complete waste of time and money because they did not help. I have tried combinations of over-the-counter medications, such as Advil, Excedrin, and Sudafed, which have helped more than anything else.

Over the past several days, not only was I dealing with the headache straight from hell but the invasive tight band feeling also known as the “MS Hug” visited me. The only good thing about COVID was social distancing, but I guess the MS Hug did not get the memo. I am just speculating, but I think I am experiencing the tight band feeling because of stress, the insane heat, or a nasty combination of the two.

This outrageous and uncontrollable heat is my enemy because it always causes me to feel awful. Over the weekend, I had to run out to two different stores and when I finally made it back home, I told my husband I am not leaving the house again during the day until at least November. I am pretty sure if the temperatures get any hotter, it will be the death of me. I do understand that this massive heat is being felt all around the world, and I do not think anyone can say global warming is not real anymore.

How are y’all handling the incredibly dangerous heat? One thing that I believe helps is to stay hydrated. I have four different stainless steel insulated water bottles. I fill the bottles about a quarter of the way with water and put them in the freezer. This makes it so I always have ice-cold water handy! I strongly recommend them, especially during the summer months. These stainless-steel insulated water bottles are very affordable on Amazon and there are any colors you can think of😊!

Another thing I recommend during these HOT summer months is if you must leave the house, start your car, and let the A/C run for a few minutes. It is never a good idea to try driving when you are hot because you could get overheated, which can cause you to feel dizzy and faint. The heat can do some terrible things to our bodies and minds, so it is best to do everything we can to stay as cool as possible.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared was helpful for you. If you have any other suggestions regarding staying cool with these drastic temperatures, please share. Also, if you have experienced the evil MS hug, is there anything you do that helps? I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as soon as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa