Pride Month

imagesThere are various things that are celebrated and or recognized during the month of June. I have already discussed Scoliosis Awareness because it holds a lot of meaning for me, considering my mother recently received this diagnosis. In the past I had worked with children that battled this disease, but I only knew and remembered the bare minimum about it. The research that I did recently was very interesting and I was glad I was able to share this knowledge with y’all.

The month of June is known for being “Pride Month” and I wanted to share some images (1)information about what this means and how the name came about. Pride Month is celebrated every year in June to honor of the Stonewall riots.  On June 28, 1969, police raided the Stonewall Inn located in New York City’s Greenwich Village area. This was the first major demonstration for gay rights in America and had a lot of support in doing so. The patrons at this bar were all gay men and drag queens that joined together to fight back against the police, which I find admirable!

What I have learned regarding the Stonewall Inn was very eye-opening and extremely Stonewall_Nasdaqinformative. For starters, the Stonewall Inn was operated by a mafia organization known as Genovese. This crime family viewed the LGBTQ community as a profitable group. During this time it was pretty much illegal to be a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer. I find the laws in place during this time were invasive and absolutely awful. There were actual laws on the books prohibiting same-sex public display of affection. The police would arrest a person for simply wearing too many gender related articles of clothing, which still makes absolutely NO sense to me. Gay-friendly bars were a problem because officials would actually withhold liquor licenses from the bars which of course caused a major problem for the bars. Once the Genovese organization purchased the bars, they would blackmail city officials to tip them off prior to a raid which gave them a chance to hide all liquor. Sadly, homosexual activities were deemed illegal in most states, but that only made bars like this a lot more appealing to the mafia!images (2)

Brenda Howard, also known as the “Mother of Pride” is a bisexual activist. Brenda is the one that organized a march and other events to commemorate the one year anniversary of the Stonewall riot. Today Pride Month around the country includes educational and awareness events and even parties to celebrate gay pride.

For some reason on June 28, 1969 the mafia was not tipped off about the raid. The police allegedly targeted the Stonewall Inn for its lack of a liquor license and potential GettyImages-141510668.0.0blackmail attempts on the gay attendees present. Not only did the police confiscate all the bar’s alcohol, but they arrested 13 people present for violating the statue on inappropriate gender apparel, which heck that could have been holding hands.

It wasn’t until witnesses saw an officer strike one of the patrons being arrested on the head when all hell broke loose. Patrons and residents lashed out with anything they were able to get their hands on such as bottles, stones and even loose change. With things getting a little out of control, there were even some thoughts of starting a fire. Crowds grew into the thousands rather quickly, which made the police scared for their own lives. I will be nice and not say how I feel about that kind of coward behavior. As more reinforcements arrived, crowds started to get under control during the first night of the riot.2700103_0

On night 2 of the protest, things grew much more intense creating many more aggressive and hostile feelings from both sides. The level power that was felt was something that wasn’t seen before from the protestors, which made them feel their voices were finally being heard!

Several days after the protests had ended; the local paper “The Village Voice” published two demeaning articles. The homophobic slurs infuriated the protesters and once again they started their protests. Protesters took to the streets and this time it included the office of “The Village Voice”. If the newspaper had not been so ignorant and left things alone, there probably would not have been another massive protest.

images (3)During the many demonstrations, the protesters had decided to opt out of any kind of violence. Trying to keep things as calm and safe as possible, the protesters simply formed Rockettes style kick lines with the protesters on one side and police on the other, while chanting “Liberate the bar”. We all know that way too many protests lead to violence which NEVER solves the problem, but creates a lot more issues!

The Stonewall Inn is now a National Monument and considered an important and historic venue for the new era of gay rights. On June 24, 2016 former President Barak Obama made the inn and surrounding areas officially designated to National Park services for appropriate care!images (1)

During 1970, Martha P. Johnson who was a participant in the protest for the Stonewall Inn, started additional acts for the LGBTQ community. Martha started the Street Transgender Action Revolutionaries (STAR), which was an organization dedicated to helping the LGBTQ youth. Martha wanted to help those living on the streets who were also dealing with hateful and judgmental people.

download (4)Today the Stonewall Inn is still in operation. Unfortunately patrons are still facing harassment from the police departments finest. It is possible I am being a slightly facetious because I just cannot understand what kind of person would attack another emotionally and or physically because of their sexual preference. I think y’all know by now that I strongly believe in treating everyone equally and with respect!

Since the riots the Stonewall Inn has changed several times. Just a few months after the riots had settled the Inn became a juice bar. Then between the 1970’s and 1980’s what images (4)used to be the Stonewall Inn had become a bagel shop, Chinese restaurant and even a shoe store. To me it seems as though business in this location was not doing all that great and it is probably because of all the chaos that had occurred. In 2007 the owner decided to renovate the inn and once renovations were complete it turned back into a bar and club once again. This time there were no restrictions on who was allowed as it was open to everyone!

I know this post is rather long, but I have one more thing to say about this. June 26, 2015 maxresdefaultthe US Supreme court ended all states ban on same-sex marriage and legalizes it is all 50 states! The US Supreme court also required all states to honor out of state same-sex marriage. I never knew this, but Massachusetts was the first state to legalize same-sex marriage in 2003.

It really upsets me that in 2019 those that are part of the LGBTQ are still mistreated. Personally I have several friends that are part of this community and they are great people. These people are NOT harming anyone and just want to love who they lovedownload (3) without judgment! The United States have come a long way with how people are treated, but we can keep trying to do better and be better! We are all FREE      to ❤ love whoever we want and should be respected when we make our choice.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I always appreciate and value your comments and do look forward to reading what you think! I hope you are having an amazing weekend and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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Let it go Friday!

242860-Good-Morning-Happy-Friday-Flowers-And-ButterfliesGood morning y’all! I hope your week has treated you well and you are looking forward to the weekend! My week has been a little busy with car shopping. Car shopping has been nothing short of a nightmare and the for some reason it shocks me how many people just LIE. One day my husband and I drove 6 hours round trip to look at a car because the seller “said” it had sharp paint and no rust. Not only was the paint NOT sharp, but it was rusted all to hell! I have decided to not allow these negative experiences get me down and just keep looking around!

With how busy things have been, I did miss my normal Pick-Me-Up Thursday post and I am sorry about that. I might try starting a Friday post to add some additional positivity, so please let me know what you think of this! let go7

The reason I have thought about an additional day for positive quotes is because with how negative the world can become, we could all use just a little extra positivity. I also feel with all my heart, soul and mind that letting go of anything that happened negativespread the positive during the week is very important for our own peace! I am interested to know what you think about this though!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend and you are able to enjoy it to the fullest! After so many setbacks, I am finally starting my new job on Monday. I do think it will be a great fit for my personality. I had done this type of work for many years before, but it has been a while. I have always excelled working with people because for the most part enjoy it. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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A Day of Remembrance!

memorial-day-1.jpgMemorial Day, is an American Holiday that is observed on the last Monday of the month of May. This holiday is to honor the men and women who lost their lives while serving in the United States military. This day did not actually become an official federal holiday until 1971. Memorial Day was originally known as Decoration Day in the years that followed the Civil War.

I still cannot understand how any war can be referred to as “Civil” because 620,000 people lost their lives in this war. This “Civil” War or the War Between the States went Memorial Day Tributeon from April 12, 1861 until April 9, 1865. The absolutely absurd thing about this war is, it was fought between the United States of America and the Confederate States of America. The Confederate States of America was 11 southern states that left the union in efforts to form their own country and consisted of; South Carolina, Mississippi, Florida, Alabama, Georgia, Louisiana, Texas, Virginia, Arkansas, North Carolina, and Tennessee. The Confederate States of America were fighting to freedom isnt freeprotect their so called rights for slavery.

For me this is a shameful thing to even fight about because I do not believe slavery should have ever existed. Y’all already know this about me, but I strongly believe everyone should be treated equally regardless of their skin color or anything else some might judge on. In 1865, the United States of America defeated those that were part of the Confederate State of America and slavery was abolished.

 Of course in 2019, people are using this day to visit cemeteries, memorials, hold family gathering and participate in parades. Today is aimages (14)day to honor those that fought for equality and to not have anyone referred to slaves. The real meaning behind this day is something honorable and should be recognized. To really honor this day, those that are still judging people need to make a true attempt to change their hateful ways and just share love ❤ with all. So many people risked and gave their lives so we could have the opportunity to live among each other. All of us have a beating heart ❤ that feels and has real emotions. With that said, why do so many people still seem to live to only hate? My hope for today is, everyone will realize and understand that love ❤ is the only way to live and hate images (16)should not be allowed to cloud our thoughts.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a wonderful day and send a little kindness and love ❤ to another that may really need it. We never know what someone else is going through and it is very possible kind words will not only bring them joy, but it may also make their day! Please know that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

It wasn’t meant to be easy

life has a funny wayLife has a funny way of throwing random things in our direction when they are least expected and often VERY unwanted. It definitely isn’t easy, but these are the times we must pick ourselves up, dust off the difficulties and strive to carry on!

For the most part, I think that the troubles we get faced with happen to remind us just how strong we truly are. We all go along through the motions of any given day and never stop to give ourselves the much deserved credit for the accomplishments we have made. Our daily routines have become so embedded into our minds that we just naturally react to every situation in the best way possible. Sometimes things will work out right the first time around and other times we have to try again! The best way to handle these situations is, NEVER GIVE UP! As long as we choose to not give up and remain determined to succeed, we will never fail.download (3)

What happens when something occurs that was so unexpected; it throws major a wrench in our day to day activities? Of course the process we need to go through may be challenging to figure out, but our minds will lead us in the right direction, if we just listen to our own intuition.

Sometimes life becomes more like a movie that is just set to automatic repeat, or at least it is for me. Monday-Friday every day is the same, which is perfectly fine and preferred. What some might call boring and predictable, I call calm and drama-free! With all the insanity that goes on in this world, who really needs additional drama? I actually love coming images (14)home to be greeted by my ❤ husband and two adorable cats❤! We eat dinner while watching our favorite shows and then just spend good quality time together. I will read, write or crochet in the evenings, so it is very calm, happy, and peaceful!

When I stop to think about how precious life is and how quickly things can change, I am thankful for what I do have in my life. Sure maybe life may have been easier if I didn’t have MS, but I do and I choose to continue living! I try to NOT think about what could have happened or what should have happened because really, what is the point? 63449-Life-Has-Many-Ways-Of-Testing-A-Person-s-WillAnything that did happen did so for reasons I may never know and that is okay. Hell, if it was not MS it may have been something far worse.  

My heart breaks for the people out there that do not have the faintest idea of what actually makes them happy. It almost seems as though these people got lost somewhere along the way and never managed to find themselves. I cannot say they did not try, but I might say they gave up the search. I have known people that went through some pretty severe depression, but even in their darkest hours knew a couple images (15)things that did bring them joy. Of course, those joys did often get shadowed over by their negative thoughts and bad situations, but they were still able to recognize a few positive things in their life. Unfortunately, I have also learned that I do not have the power to turn someone’s mind around when it is clouded with depression. In times like these, there is only one person that can create happiness and that is themselves. For instances, my mother has been struggling lately and neither herDPere-vWAAAeBey husband nor myself can make her truly happy, she needs to do that on her own. I hate to put that so bluntly, but it is the truth and I do think that any legit therapist would agree with me on this for anyone.

The sad reality is life can be harsh and painful, but it is how we handle it that counts. Challenges happen to everyone, no matter how you are or where you live. Unlike so many other things in this world, hard times do not discriminate and will try destroying anyone images (16)and anything that stands in the way. The good news is, if you never surrender and continue fighting back, those hard times will move onto its next victim.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I do encourage you to take a moment to leave a comment because I love knowing what you think of what I share. I hope you are having a pleasant day and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

What brings you happiness?

Tough-times-dont-last-tough-people-do.-300x300There are many times during our lives when things get very difficult! I feel like it is important to do our best to push those feelings aside and not dwell on the negative. Is this easy? Absolutely NOT, but sitting around allowing for the hardships to dictate our life will never do us any good. I find that during the difficult times, we must try to think about what brings us joy. Maybe flooding our minds with the positives will actually bring them into reality; we will never know 100% unless we try it!

I want to ask you a question and really look forward to reading your response. To show how much I want to do the same, I will answer my question for y’all!beautiful times

What are five things that bring happiness to your life?

The answer to my question is:

  1. The love ❤ I share with my husband is quite powerful and never-ending.
  2. My two absolutely adorable and loving cats. I don’t think anyone could be around them and not find joy!
  3. It makes me very happy to be able to write what I want to 
  4. write about.
  5. The incredible connections I have been able to make through my blog. Y’all have truly been amazing and I am thankful for all of you!
  6. Travelling to new places when we are able or even travelling to places we have been many times before. The beach  is by far my preference.

motivational-quotes-for-someone-down-with-i-might-fall-but-will-not-stay-gym-2During times when I get very stressed or very upset, these are the things that can change my mood. My husband knows what I am feeling and thinking before I even say it out loud. Even though there was no consoling me after my accident, if he did not get to me as quickly as he did, I would have been much more upset and terrified! Both of my cats know when I am feeling horrible and or in pain, so they do not leave my side or shall I say my lap until they think I am feeling a little better! It is hilarious both of them trying to fit on my lap because even though the older cat is very petite, the younger one is a big boy!download (1)

I know I have said in earlier posts that writing is the best outlet for me.  Writing has always been one of my strongest passions and I have no doubt my love for writing will never fade. By continuing to read what I share, y’all are not only giving me the opportunity to continue to write, but also the chance to make great friends that truly understand!

During the truly frustrating times after the accident I had last week, I am trying my best 0fb54ae29b2fd5f0b57ec18d819ce11eto keep these positive things in my mind! We are currently waiting for the driver that was in this accident to accept responsibility because there needs to be payout for the repairs and a rental car for me. I will never understand this considering the police report stated clearly it was his fault! I mean who is really ever going to take responsibility for their wrong doings when they can just prolong the situation by either not answering calls or denying responsibility all together? It is pretty ridiculous, but I am trying to be patient which isn’t one of my strongest qualities.

Thank you for visiting my site today and I do look forward to reading your answer to my HOW_TO_THINK_WHEN_LIFE_GETS_DIFFICULTquestion! There are two options we have when it comes to being happy. One is we can hold onto and dwell on negative emotions or choose to remember the things that bring us the most joy in life and hold onto those instead! I do hope you will take a few moments to answer my question, but I understand if you aren’t able to. Of course I will love to learn what makes you happy and I will respond to all comments as soon as I can! Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

My accident that shouldn’t have happened!

images (15)Just because a bad day may have turned into a bad week doesn’t mean that we have done something to deserve the troubles we are faced with! All this could mean is, whatever has occurred in our life was just meant to happen exactly when it did and not a moment sooner or later. I know this does not make it any easier to accepted, but I promise life will continue moving forward in the order it supposed to.

My week started off incredibly aggravating because I was dealing with way too many hostile, spiteful and negative co-workers. Even though we are all on the same “team”, we do images (14)work on slightly different tasks. Now each person and each different task contributes to the success of the work getting completed accurately. The ultimate goal for everyone on the “team” should be to ensure the client receives their medication that keeps them alive on time. However, it seems like some of these co-workers get angry we with me because I am able to get more work completed in less time than they can. During one of their many complaint parties, I nonchalantly said how much I understood where they were coming. This was just a way to get them to stop their download (8)complaining and also let them see I also had struggled before.  When I was asked how I managed to do what I do as fast as I do it, I said I had to play with different ways of organizing before I had one that was perfect for me! Of course being the person I am, I shared with them my work-flow with details.

Even though dealing with several snide and bitter co-workers was not easy, it is far better than dealing with purchasing health insurance. I know I have already made my views about this topic perfectly clear, but I actually found out more horrendous images (15)information on Thursday morning. If I were to go through my employer for health insurance the cost would be outrageous and that is an understatement.  My husband and I decided to purchase our own health insurance policy, well at least until he finds job that offers insurance at a more reasonable rate. We were both very pleased when we saw that the monthly rates and deductibles were far lower than the plan through my job. The plan I would get through my employer was going to only include myself and would cost about half my paycheck. The plan we can purchase would include both me and my husband and cost 21%t less than the one I could get through my employer.

The funny thing is, it isn’t even the cost anymore that has me so upset and disgusted because things got even worst. On Thursday morning, my husband and I were talking images (14)before I started work and he told me that the policy we can purchase will NOT cover pre-existing conditions until January. Y’all already know that I do have a pre-existing condition and I worried the day would come when an insurance company could discriminate against me for something I cannot control! It seems like insurance companies and the government want to punish people more that have a chronic illness and this is just NOT right! I think we are punished enough with what we already have to deal with. Maybe I am too emotionally close to this situation, but how the hell can anyone sleep at night when they are creating an awful situation for many Americans?

On Thursday, I ended up leaving work early because my pain and headache were at a high. I thought going home to rest would actually help me recover and feel better. images (16)Unfortunately, I was wrong because no more than 5 minutes of being in the car, I was in an accident. The accident was not my fault; it was the fault of a young kid. We both had a green light, but he was “supposed” to yield to on-coming traffic.

In all the years I have been driving this was the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced. Things kind of went in slow motion before the cars collided with each other. I did everything I could to avoid the crash, but it wasn’t enough. When I realized the kid was not going to stop, I laid on my horn and my foot was appearance of twoon the brake. My car is SO little and I know things could have gone much worst that they did, but it was still terrible. The sound the cars made when they made contact with each other, scared the hell out of me. I always act like a lady and try to be polite, but I got out of my car with furry and colorful language. The stupid and ignorant kid never even had the decency to apologize to me. The only thing this idiot said to me was, “We need to move the cars out of the road.” This was the first accident I have ever been in and I basically told him hell no, not until the police arrive. Honestly there were many more words than that, but I thought it was best to keep this a lot cleaner than The two carsit was!

I know my first call should have been 911, but mine was to my husband. We live so close to where the accident happened and I needed him there immediately. Thankfully my husband got to me in less than 5 minutes. When I called 911, the dispatch lady did tell me to move the cars, but of course I took pictures first. I wanted the cop to see the end result and there to be no questions at all whose fault it was.

The end result was my car was towed to a car repair place and the kid drove away with hardly any damage to his jeep. I am going to need to get a rental car until my car has been fixed, but I am terrified to drive again. Two days after the accident, I am still very sore. Y’all know I am use to dealing with pain, but it has elevated drastically. I am doing my best to just rest because that is the only thing that will calm the pain down.

on-the-tow-truck.jpgAnother thing I must say is, if my husband wasn’t there with me at the accident scene I would have been way too shaken up to handle it. Even with him there I was inconsolable and just cried and shook. Later he told me he was worried I was going to have a heart attack. In an effort to make me feel better, my husband gave me a new crochet bag and hooks, which are so great!! He has also been very attentive and helpful! I do want to let y’all know that I am okay after this accident and only dealing with extra pain.

Unfortunately I think we have all probably had a bad day or even a bad week when nothing seems to be going the right way. There comes a time when we have that thought, “Why me?” or “What did I do so wrong to deserve this?”  Well the truth is, there are NO reasons at all and it is definitely not a punishment. My experience with negative people and greedy insurance companies is just part of life. Even though I don’t know what it is, there was a reason for the accident to happen. We have been discussing selling my little car and images (17)getting me something that is much safer and maybe this accident was a push to do so!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I always appreciate your kindness and love reading your comments. I am sorry this post was SO much longer than I normally do, but I had so much to share with you.  I hope your weekend is going well and please be careful if you have to drive anywhere, it can be very dangerous out there! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤, comfort, and may positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Pick-Me-Up Thursday!

you-say-thursday-i-say-friday-eve-have-a-tayzerific-10147394Good morning y’all! I hope you have had a great week and you are feeling well. This week has really taken it’s tole on me and left me feeling not only frustrated, but with LOTS of pain! Of course for me pain is just a normal thing, but for some reason it has been out of control this week. I can not emphasize enough how glad I am that this week is almost over!

Let me just say, I do my best everyday to be kind to everyone. So I find it incredibly frustrating and difficult that 1304c439f46d2ddfc7f1510122176295many people feel the opposite. The shear amount of mean behaviors in a day makes me extremely sad. Even when someone is just outright hateful towards me, I still try to ignore the rudeness and continue being nice to that person. I am beyond DONE with all the ugly attitudes and poor treatment though!!!! In my heart I know that I do not deserve to be disrespected and mistreated by anyone. I decided yesterday that I will no longer tolerate this poor etiquette from anyone!

On a more positive note, I think we all probably need a little pick-me-up to get us through one final day of this very LONG week! The quote I am sharing today is short and sweet, but has so much real meaning to me! I do hope you will find this quote as positive and uplifting as I do!keep your face towards the sunshine

It is very clear to me that my way of thinking are not always going to align with others 1_-cgfWQ1evxKgmxl_PdBbIQand that is okay. I still feel that if we were all the same and thought exactly alike the world would be a boring place. Diversity is a great think that we can often learn a lot from. However, even though people do not need to agree with me or think the way I do, respect is something that is required in my mind and not something I am willing to bend on! 

Thank y’all for visiting my site today. I always appreciate you taking the to read what I share and even leaving a comment with your fantastic views. I hope you have a great day and your weekend is filled with LOTS of happiness and joyful times! Please, never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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