Forgiveness, is not always easy

Inspirational Quotes SJ image 1We have all heard so many times how important forgiveness is, but no one has ever said it was easy. It actually gets painfully hard to hear those same old meaningless words, “I’m sorry” or even worst, “It will never happen again” because they lost their significance years ago. These words had meaning before they were over used, but unfortunately now they are just empty words put together to form a sentence.

It often seems like the same people apologize for the same things time and time again,It’s-one-of-the-greatest-gifts-you-can-give-yourself-to-forgive.”-e1505928600412 almost like a revolving door. Nothing changed after the first, second, third or I lost count of how many times I have heard those words. I guess it is possible these people had temporary amnesia and did not remember what they were doing was causing irreplaceable pain and distress to those they love. There must be some kind of reasonable explanation, like major miscommunication or confusion because why would anyone cause the same heartache, to the same people, over and over again without making any changes in their behaviors?

arch_forgivenessWhen there have been too many years of tears falling for the same reasons, it is no longer only one person’s fault. Of course the person causing those tears is responsible and should have know, better, but the one with a tear stained face is responsible as well for allowing things to continue on the same dark path. No matter what the situation may be, we all have choices to make that can  alter what the end results will be.

I do understand there are times when someone wants help to correct their negative ways and in that situation at least they have already acknowledged the problem. At the same time, there are those that do not see anything wrong their behaviors and do nothing at all to make things better. In my personal 07-11-17-all-about-love-five-things-forgiveness-is-not-2opinion acceptance is a huge step for anyone to take, but implementing the much needed changes is another colossal step that takes time and patience. 

I will say that being able to forgive and forget isn’t easy, but will actually benefit the one that is forgiving. Letting go of anger and resentment will only create peace of mind. Having the knowledge that you are not able to help someone that doesn’t want help is vital! Also accepting the fact that you are not able to fix another’s troubles and problems is necessary because we unfortunately do not have magical powers. In all honesty, there is only one person that can correct their own lives and if they do not ask for help, there is nothing Awareness-and-Gratitudethat can be done. 

I wrote this not because of anything I was currently feeling, but what I have felt many times in the past. Life is difficult and when you are holding onto any negative feelings because of something you went through, it will only hold you back from living your own life. I have always been one that wants to fix everything for everyone else and accomplished nothing in the process. I often think that caring too much and investing too much into things with no end, only creates way too much stress.84dcc668249d70a1bb91eba8d2f544a8

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. This post may have been a little dark, but I did try adding light to it. Y’all know by now that everything I write comes from the heart with nothing but honesty. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you had a good day and you have a peaceful evening. Please always remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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Pick-Me-Up-Thursday!

7aece15726b5782fac815aaf68133a2aGood morning y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are preparing for a fantastic weekend! Can you believe that is already August? This year has gone by so fast and I am not sure what exactly I have to show for it. I do not like sounding negative, but the weeks have not been getting any better for me, instead the weeks have just hovered around terribly LONG and mildly unpleasant.

Learning to accept what reality is and what empathy is supposed to be is often difficult to deal with. I say this because what our reality in the United States  tends to be is terrifying, as we are often left to wonder what other corrupt things can Acceptancepossibly happen. It also seems that so many American’s have forgotten what it means to empathize with others. I know that everyone has their own struggles in life, which can be very painful, but this is why I think it is so important to try to understand things from another’s perspectives. It is hard for me to listen to what hard times someone is going through and not be able to fix things for them. It has taken me years to understand that I just download (6)do not have the power or ability  to fix the problems anyone is going through and accept it is only something they can do.

I am so thankful the weekend is upon us and maybe I can rest and recuperate from a LONG week I had. Even though my week felt long, it definitely doesn’t compare to what my sweet co-worker has dealt with. She has been dealing losing someone that she loved. The quote I am sharing with y’all today can hold various meaning to everyone and I am looking forward to reading what you think!be yourself

 Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I really do love ❤ and appreciate all of the amazing and brilliant comments y’all provide! I hope your have a wonderful day and without any unnecessary stress. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Pride Month

imagesThere are various things that are celebrated and or recognized during the month of June. I have already discussed Scoliosis Awareness because it holds a lot of meaning for me, considering my mother recently received this diagnosis. In the past I had worked with children that battled this disease, but I only knew and remembered the bare minimum about it. The research that I did recently was very interesting and I was glad I was able to share this knowledge with y’all.

The month of June is known for being “Pride Month” and I wanted to share some images (1)information about what this means and how the name came about. Pride Month is celebrated every year in June to honor of the Stonewall riots.  On June 28, 1969, police raided the Stonewall Inn located in New York City’s Greenwich Village area. This was the first major demonstration for gay rights in America and had a lot of support in doing so. The patrons at this bar were all gay men and drag queens that joined together to fight back against the police, which I find admirable!

What I have learned regarding the Stonewall Inn was very eye-opening and extremely Stonewall_Nasdaqinformative. For starters, the Stonewall Inn was operated by a mafia organization known as Genovese. This crime family viewed the LGBTQ community as a profitable group. During this time it was pretty much illegal to be a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer. I find the laws in place during this time were invasive and absolutely awful. There were actual laws on the books prohibiting same-sex public display of affection. The police would arrest a person for simply wearing too many gender related articles of clothing, which still makes absolutely NO sense to me. Gay-friendly bars were a problem because officials would actually withhold liquor licenses from the bars which of course caused a major problem for the bars. Once the Genovese organization purchased the bars, they would blackmail city officials to tip them off prior to a raid which gave them a chance to hide all liquor. Sadly, homosexual activities were deemed illegal in most states, but that only made bars like this a lot more appealing to the mafia!images (2)

Brenda Howard, also known as the “Mother of Pride” is a bisexual activist. Brenda is the one that organized a march and other events to commemorate the one year anniversary of the Stonewall riot. Today Pride Month around the country includes educational and awareness events and even parties to celebrate gay pride.

For some reason on June 28, 1969 the mafia was not tipped off about the raid. The police allegedly targeted the Stonewall Inn for its lack of a liquor license and potential GettyImages-141510668.0.0blackmail attempts on the gay attendees present. Not only did the police confiscate all the bar’s alcohol, but they arrested 13 people present for violating the statue on inappropriate gender apparel, which heck that could have been holding hands.

It wasn’t until witnesses saw an officer strike one of the patrons being arrested on the head when all hell broke loose. Patrons and residents lashed out with anything they were able to get their hands on such as bottles, stones and even loose change. With things getting a little out of control, there were even some thoughts of starting a fire. Crowds grew into the thousands rather quickly, which made the police scared for their own lives. I will be nice and not say how I feel about that kind of coward behavior. As more reinforcements arrived, crowds started to get under control during the first night of the riot.2700103_0

On night 2 of the protest, things grew much more intense creating many more aggressive and hostile feelings from both sides. The level power that was felt was something that wasn’t seen before from the protestors, which made them feel their voices were finally being heard!

Several days after the protests had ended; the local paper “The Village Voice” published two demeaning articles. The homophobic slurs infuriated the protesters and once again they started their protests. Protesters took to the streets and this time it included the office of “The Village Voice”. If the newspaper had not been so ignorant and left things alone, there probably would not have been another massive protest.

images (3)During the many demonstrations, the protesters had decided to opt out of any kind of violence. Trying to keep things as calm and safe as possible, the protesters simply formed Rockettes style kick lines with the protesters on one side and police on the other, while chanting “Liberate the bar”. We all know that way too many protests lead to violence which NEVER solves the problem, but creates a lot more issues!

The Stonewall Inn is now a National Monument and considered an important and historic venue for the new era of gay rights. On June 24, 2016 former President Barak Obama made the inn and surrounding areas officially designated to National Park services for appropriate care!images (1)

During 1970, Martha P. Johnson who was a participant in the protest for the Stonewall Inn, started additional acts for the LGBTQ community. Martha started the Street Transgender Action Revolutionaries (STAR), which was an organization dedicated to helping the LGBTQ youth. Martha wanted to help those living on the streets who were also dealing with hateful and judgmental people.

download (4)Today the Stonewall Inn is still in operation. Unfortunately patrons are still facing harassment from the police departments finest. It is possible I am being a slightly facetious because I just cannot understand what kind of person would attack another emotionally and or physically because of their sexual preference. I think y’all know by now that I strongly believe in treating everyone equally and with respect!

Since the riots the Stonewall Inn has changed several times. Just a few months after the riots had settled the Inn became a juice bar. Then between the 1970’s and 1980’s what images (4)used to be the Stonewall Inn had become a bagel shop, Chinese restaurant and even a shoe store. To me it seems as though business in this location was not doing all that great and it is probably because of all the chaos that had occurred. In 2007 the owner decided to renovate the inn and once renovations were complete it turned back into a bar and club once again. This time there were no restrictions on who was allowed as it was open to everyone!

I know this post is rather long, but I have one more thing to say about this. June 26, 2015 maxresdefaultthe US Supreme court ended all states ban on same-sex marriage and legalizes it is all 50 states! The US Supreme court also required all states to honor out of state same-sex marriage. I never knew this, but Massachusetts was the first state to legalize same-sex marriage in 2003.

It really upsets me that in 2019 those that are part of the LGBTQ are still mistreated. Personally I have several friends that are part of this community and they are great people. These people are NOT harming anyone and just want to love who they lovedownload (3) without judgment! The United States have come a long way with how people are treated, but we can keep trying to do better and be better! We are all FREE      to ❤ love whoever we want and should be respected when we make our choice.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I always appreciate and value your comments and do look forward to reading what you think! I hope you are having an amazing weekend and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Pick-Me-Up Thursday!

Not Thursday Friday EveGood morning y’all! I hope you have had a wonderful week and you are feeling well! I am so glad the weekend is almost here, but I think I say that every Thursday! Over the weekend, I plan to try teaching myself the new Editor with WordPress and definitely play catch up. There are many things I want to write about and share with y’all, but find it difficult to do during the week. Working full-time is a lot more difficult that I remember it being, but I will get there.

Of course I found a great quote that I want to share with y’all. I think it is a great pick-me-up after a long week, but I look forward to reading your thoughts!quotes-less-alone-deepak-chopra-600x411I think y’all know this about me by now, but I think everyone deserves to be treated equally and with respect. I strongly believe that we all have a beating heart and we have feelings. I am an advocate that it doesn’t matter your race, skin color, national origin, imagesreligious beliefs, sexual orientation or anything else that makes you a little different from another, respect and love ❤ should be given! I find it heartbreaking that there are others that think the opposite and if someone isn’t like them, they should be shunned and belittled. 

Thank y’all for stopping by my site today and I hope you have a great day!  Just think, one more day and we get two days do rest and recuperate. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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Things I didn’t know about Gluten Intolerance!

good-evening-images-63Good evening y’all! I hope you are having a good week so far and hope it stays pleasant! Just think, we already made it through two days of the week, so we are almost half way there!

Y’all already know I have been battling with what I thought was a nasty stomach bug, but after doing a little research I do not think that is the case anymore. Of course I haven’t seen a doctor about it because I do not have insurance, but I think I figured it out on my own. I am about 99.9% sure I have developed Gluten Intolerance. I guess that is actually a good thing because understanding what is images (1)going on and understanding how to handle it will provide me with some relief or at least I hope it will! Obviously I am not a doctor, but I think I am familiar enough with the body I have lived in for almost 38 years. I am going to share with y’all what I have learned and please if you have any other helpful tips or ideas, please let me know!

Wheat-Gluten-IntoleranceI first want to clarify a few important details I have learned! Gluten Intolerance is often confused with other issues, like Celiac Disease or food allergies, but there are some differences and similarities. Gluten is a protein found mainly in wheat, barley and rye. This protein can cause digestive problems like gassiness, abdominal pain or diarrhea. With food allergies, the immune system overreacts to a particular food causing various reactions and levels of severity. Celiac Disease is an inherited autoimmune disorder that can damage the small intestines, but Gluten Intolerance almost mimics this.

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  1. Bloating: This is when the belly is swollen or full of gas after eating. This is very common and does occur in 87% of individuals with Gluten Intolerance.
  2. Diarrhea, constipation and smelly feces: About 50% of individuals with gluten intolerance deal with diarrhea and 25% experience constipation. This is when you would experience inflammation in the gut after eating gluten. This damages gut lining, leading to poor nutrient absorption.
  3. Abdominal Pain: This is something else that is very common with Gluten Intolerance. 83% of individuals living with this intolerance experience abdominal pain.
  4. Headaches:  About 10-12% of the Western population experiences migraines. People with Gluten Intolerance are prone to migraines. 
  5. Feeling Tired: This is also being very common, leading to 60-82% of individuals with Gluten Intolerance experience this. People with this condition are prone to Gluten-Intolerance-Symptoms-Do-You-Have-Themfatigue and tiredness, having very low energy. Gluten Intolerance can cause iron-deficiency anemia. This is a condition in which blood lacks adequate healthy red blood cells. Red blood cells carry oxygen to the body’s tissues
  6. Skin Problems: There is a blistering skin condition called Dermatitis Herpetiformis, which is a manifestation of gluten-sensitive enteropathy, commonly known as celiac disease. This is not as common and can improve once on a Gluten-Free Diet!
  7. Depression:  Depression is not as common and only affects 6% of those living with11246-health-1-1 this intolerance. People with digestive issues seem more prone to both anxiety and depression.-Even though depression is not too common, there are a few theories for how Gluten Intolerance can lead to depression.*Abnormal  serotonin levels. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter allowing cells to communicate and is commonly referred to as “Happiness” hormones.

    *Gluten Exorphines, these peptides are formed during digestion of the gluten proteins. The gluten proteins may interfere with the Central Nervous System, which may raise the risk of depression.

    *Changes in gut microbiota. This is increased harmful bacteria and decrease beneficial bacteria increasing the risk of depression.

  8. Unexplained Weight Loss
  9. Iron-Deficiency Anemia: This causes symptoms such as low blood volume, fatigue, 6-signs-of-gluten-intolerance-300x165shortness of breath, dizziness, headaches, pale skin and weakness.
  10. Anxiety: This can affect anywhere from 3% to 30% of people worldwide. Involves feelings of worry, nervousness, unease and agitation. People with gluten intolerance are more prone to anxiety and panic disorders.
  11.  Autoimmune Disorders: Even though Gluten Intolerance is a separate issue from Celiac Disorder, I thought it would be good to share this as well. Celiac Disease is an autoimmune disorder causing your immune system to attach the digestive tract after consuming gluten. Typically people with gluten intolerance also have another autoimmune diseases to cope with.Gluten-Intolerance-Symptoms
  12. Joint and Muscle Pain: There is a  theory that people with Celiac Disease have a genetically determined over-sensitive or over-excitable nervous system. Gluten exposure may cause inflammation in gluten sensitive people. This inflammation may result in wide-spread pain, including joints and muscles.
  13. Leg or Arm Numbness:  Neuropathy symptoms involving numbness and tingling in the arms and legs.
  14. Brain Fog: This issue affects up to 40% of those with Gluten Intolerance. Forgetful, difficulty thinking, feeling cloudy and mental fatigue.

After learning more about this the things I deal with almost make more sense in  a way. Battling with stomach issues for over on month, numerous headaches/migraines, ud6zQ3sJTmewbULOd0n7_Beyond-Gluten-Free-Article-2018-1280x720-1constant feeling of fatigue, obnoxious levels of anxiety, nervousness, worrying and quick agitation, dizziness at random times, weakness, joint and muscle pain, numbness and cloudiness in my mind. I always blamed so many of these symptoms on Multiple Sclerosis and maybe that is still the case, but maybe it is a Gluten Intolerance causing more of it. 

I am doing my best right now to change my diet, but it really isn’t easy. I bought several gluten-free products at the grocery store, clementines and carrots, but honestly have not seen much of a change. Logically, I have only been trying this for a couple of days and I know it takes time for this type of change, but at least I am trying! Do y’all have any advice you would be willing to share? I know you always have great ideas and fantastic suggestions that I do appreciate!download

Thank y’all for stopping by my site today and I am sorry this was a little longer than most of my posts, but there was so much information to share. I hope you have a lovely and relaxing evening and of course I hope you are feeling well! I know it often takes me longer to respond to your comments, but I promise to respond as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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Lies and Deceit!

images (1)I think it our society today, politicians and even BIG corporations have glorified their skills with lies and deceit. We watch many of these individuals make speeches with hardly any truth to them, but yet many people believe each and every lie they hear! For the life of me I can’t understand why so-called smart people can actually fall for the blatant lies even when there is solid evidence of the lies that were spoken. 

The truth will always come out and the liars will be revealed for what they truly are. It download-1-1.jpgseems that those that believe the lies they hear from, let’s say politicians, often think it is perfectly acceptable to do the same and only speak lies themselves. Of course there is a slight possibility those that constantly tell lies actually believe what they are saying to be true, but it is also possible they just get some kind of insane thrill when they tell lies, which is really sad! 

lies and deceit 1I do believe people can change, BUT only if they can admit to themselves what they are doing wrong and work to correct their unacceptable behaviors. None of us are perfect, but most of us do learn from our mistakes and do our very best to not make the same mistakes again! 

We live and learn to become better, not worse. Our lives should be about finding ways totime-will-inevitably-uncover-dishonesty-and-lies-history-has-no-place-for-them-f3ae1e880f2fbb24bd5e1e51d026a4ad not only better who we are, but to also progress into something more than we were. It does seem like SO many people choose to digress, which really doesn’t do much for them or anyone around them.

Is anyone else just completely sick and tired of hearing nothing but lies daily?? I think I have heard more than I can take and am choosing to eliminate anything to do with lies from my life. I guess this means I can’t watch the news or read images (2)about it anymore, not that I intentionally watched the news before, but my husband does and tells me what is happening! If someone can’t be completely transparent and truly honest with me, I just don’t have room in my life or tolerance for it anymore! The only thing that lies accomplish is hurt and disappointment. Even holding onto these words, “Enjoy the good times, but always expect the bad to return,” isn’t helping anymore!!

Please forgive me for yet again another rant, but seriously downloadwriting is the only thing that helps ease my troubled mind. I do appreciate you taking the time to read this post and I am looking forward to reading your comments! I hope you have had a lovely and relaxing weekend and of course feeling the best you possibly can! Never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Benefits to finishing!

happy fridayHappy Friday y’all! It’s crazy how fast the week went by, but at least we made it through. My week was full of much anticipation for a new journey I will be starting down on Monday. Y’all can join my count down as I are currently at 2.5 days before starting a new full-time job again.  I do plan to go into this new job with a minimal amount of expectations and an open mind. I know this doesn’t need to be a permanent job, it’s just a means of getting insurance and making a little bit of money to pay bills with. 

20190314_130644Y’all know I have been finding a lot of comfort and relaxation with crocheting. I shared with you already the two blankets I made for our living room, but I just finished another blanket for our spare bedroom. I love the colors in this blanket and think it looks pretty darn nice on the bed, but let’s see what you think! I do think that submerging myself into creating 20190314_130652something beautiful helped get me through a difficult time in life. 

Now that this blanket has been completed, I had to start another blanket. This new blanket is going to have four colors and these are the favorite colors of husband, his grandparents and myself. The colors include dark gray, pink, light gray and purple. I guess I felt like this would pay tribute to the loving people my husband’s grandparents were! So far, I think it is looking very nice and the colors work well with each other! I promise to share pictures as the new blanket grows!

Now that I am starting a new job on Monday, I will probably not be writing as much as I would like, at least not until I get through training and get adjusted to having an actual schedule again. I do still plan on doing Motivational Monday and Pick-Me-Up Thursday because I find them very helpful! I do still have many fellow bloggers that I want to recognize, as they are just amazing people who I cherish! There are also a fewmultiple_sclerosis_ms_hope_1_postcard-rf4358a5de94a4cb4a8713cdf21813817_vgbaq_8byvr_307.jpg more things I want to share in honor of Multiple Sclerosis Awareness month because I think this is very important and  should not be overlooked!

I know I will get adjusted to this new job pretty fast and do not think it is going to be stressful at all. There are two great things about where I am going to be working. One great part of this new company is, it is only 2 miles from my house! Considering I really do not enjoy driving, this works very well for me. The Best-is-yetother benefit is, I will not have to be on my feet all day. There were a few other interviews I went on, but most of them I would have been on my feet for 8 hours a day. I think I am being logical and know that being on my feet for long periods of time would only cause me more even pain issues and my goodness I didn’t want that. It wasn’t easy for me to admit this because I am pretty stubborn, but I had to be realistic with my own abilities and health. I do not like admitting I can’t do something and will fight against this will everything I have!

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I am looking forward to reading what you think about the blanket I just finished! I hope your weekend is filled with nothing but happiness and joy! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of        love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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