Mystery Blogger Award

NominatedI would like to thank Cindy, from https://validatingchronicpain.com for nominating me for this really wonderful award! Cindy suffers from chronic pain and the terrible issue of anxiety, but she is very resilient and keeps fighting through all the struggles those two issues impose on her daily life. Cindy shares freely about what she battles and how she continues on with her life the best way she can. Even while she struggles with her own issues, she never stops being compassionate towards what other bloggers are dealing with in life. Cindy leaves great and thoughtful comments that show how big her heart is and I definitely value her friendship! I am so sorry it took me so long to share my answers and fully accept this wonderful award Cindy. I appreciate you being patient with me taking about a month to complete this!!

What is Mystery Blogger Award?

“This is an award for amazing bloggers with indigenous posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve everyrecognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging and they do it with so much love and passion.” – Okoto Enigma

We all know there are always rules to all awards, so please see below what those rules are:

  • Thank whoever nominated you and include link to their blog
  • Tell your readers 3 things about yourself
  • Nominate 10-20 bloggers you feel deserve the award
  • Answer the questions from the person who nominated you
  • Ask your nominees 5 questions of your choice with one weird or funny one
  • Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog

Three things about me you might already know, but here goes anyway:

  1. If I could I would move heaven and hell for those I can about!
  2. I am quite often stubborn almost to a fault
  3. I have dreams to escape the place I live in and travel the world so I can experience as much as possible in this short life I was given.

Answers to Cindy’s wonderful questions

1. What’s the most surprising self-realization you’ve had?

No matter how hard I try, I do not have the ability to fix everyone else’s issues they are dealing with. This was a very hard realization for me because I am the type of person that wants to make life easier for everyone!

2. How do you hope you will change as a person in the future?

It is my hope that I will learn to live a little more and stress a lot less in my future

3. What is the most annoying question that people ask you (if you have a chronic illness/pain, what is the most annoying question that people ask you about your illness/pain)?

Honestly this is a very easy question for me to answer because the question I am asked way too often is, “Won’t your illness go away if you exercise or eat differently?” No matter how many times I answer this same question, it never gets any less annoying!

4. What is something that a ton of people are obsessed with but you just don’t get the point of and why?

I will never in my life understand why so many people are so obsessed with the playing violent video games. People tend to allow video games to control their lives and get so stuck in their house playing video games, when I feel like there is way more to life than gaming! I guess we all have our outlet to difficult times, but some games people are obsessed with are pretty violent. I think if these individuals are trying to escape the struggles of real life, violent games would be the last way to get away from life because the world we live in is already full of violence!

5. What’s the best thing that happened to you last week?

The best thing that happened to me last week was I found out that over 1,000 people are following my blog! It is an amazing feeling to know that there are so many already amazing people that enjoy reading what I write about. It has always been my goal to help encourage and inspire others that might be struggling with their lives and to see that so many really do care what I have to say is a fabulous achievement!

I know that according to the rules of this award, I am supposed to nominate 10-20 fellow bloggers for this award, but I am going to break the rules just a little! Some rules are meant to be broken, right!? So instead of trying to choose only 10-20 amazing and well-deserving bloggers, I am going to leave this open for everyone to join in this award! I know we all live very busy lives and I do not want to add any stress to anyone’s life by nominating them for this award. I do believe everyone that follows my site deserves to be nominated because y’all are absolutely fantastic! Any of you that want to participate, please do so by answering the same questions I did! I will look forward to reading anyone that wants to join this award answers! I hope that whoever wants to play along has fun with this!  

I hope y’all have had a wonderful weekend and you are feeling great! Enjoy the rest of your weekend by relaxing this afternoon and getting yourself ready for another week! I truly hope you have a great start to the next half of 2018 and the remainder of your year is absolutely fabulous! Thank you again Cindy for thinking of me for this award nomination!

I do appreciate y’all visiting my site and you already know I always encourage your comments, which I will respond to as quickly as I can! I want to say again that if you have not already visited Cindy’s blog, I do not think you would be disappointed if you visit her site today! I do feel you would love reading what she writes as much as I do! Thank you again Cindy for your nomination! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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First Friday of Summer!

Be someones sunshineGood morning🌅 and happy Friday y’all! I hope you had a pleasant week and I know you must be looking forward to the weekend!! I want to wish you a wonderful day and remind you to stay cool as you can in the summer’s unrelenting heat!

I hope today we can all try to be the☀ sunshine for another person that might be in a darker place in their life. All it takes is one person to make a dramatic difference to someone else that might be suffering. After all, we never really know what the person standing right next to us is dealing with, so maybe we can help bring them some happiness they were lacking.  Spreading love❤ and compassion can go a long way and maybe this could end up being a chain reaction that inevitably spreads throughout the entire world! Wouldn’t that be absolutely fabulous? I think the world we live in would be a much happier place to continue living in, if only we could all embrace each other without any negative thoughts and or unfair judgments! Kindness, solicitude, empathy and 💝love can go a long way, if only everyone would encompass these thoughts into their daily life! Believe it or not, it does not take a fancy magician to accept others for who they are, instead of what we may think they should be! The only person we can change, is ourselves! It obviously just makes me so💧 sad and disturbed when I hear of anyone not being treated fairly. We are all just human-beings and deserve to be treated with respect!

 

I hope y’all have a wonderful Friday! Your comments are always encouraged and appreciated! I will respond to all of your amazing comments as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Behind the scenes of life with Multiple Sclerosis!

My-life-with-Multiple-SclerosisGood morning Y’all🌼! I hope you have an amazing day!! I wanted to take a moment to share what life is like living each day with Multiple Sclerosis. It obviously is not all sunshine🌟 and rainbows🌈, there is so much more to it!

I have lived with Multiple Sclerosis for almost 18 very long years and this illness is still a mystery to me! I mean for some the cold makes them feel much better, whereas for others it makes them feel absolutely horrible. Some feel a little better with warmer temperatures and others it takes away all their energy and makes them feel terrible. ribbonThere is no right or wrong, it is all based on each individual person!

My doctor always told me that the heat is the worst thing for me and that might be true in a sense, but the heat does not bother me near as much as extreme humidity!!! Of multiple-sclerosis-quotes-3course the heat causes me a lot more fatigue, but it does not cause the increase pain that cold weather does. I actually swear by my friendly heating pad because it decreases my pain immensely! I might live in the city, but I am a beach girl at heart🏖! I love the beautiful and relaxing sounds of the ocean waves. I think it is the only time that I am not full of stress and anxiety.

The cold weather on the other hand causes me nothing but extreme pain because I get so tense from being cold. Of course with cold weather you can put enough layers of clothing on to stay warm, but the chill that lingers in the air can be miserable. I did find an thermacareamazing solution for dealing with the frigged temperatures. They sell a heating pad that is mobile and no batteries needed. This fabulous product is called Thermacare Heat Wrap.

Living with Multiple Sclerosis comes along with a lot of decisions that need to be made and sometimes they need to be made immediately, which I am not all that great at. There are tons of diseases modifying medications available now and finding the right one can be quite challenging. Of course when I was first diagnosed there was a limited amount of choices, so I put ALL of my trust into my doctor. We soon found out that I am not one that can give myself shots. The funny thing is I do not have any fears of needles; it was the only choice we havemedication I was injecting myself with that I could not handle. The medication would cause me to feel like I had the flu and burned like fire going in. I did try everything possible to stay on the injection based medications, but I failed and just stopped without telling my doctor at first! After a few months, I did finally confess to my doctor and we had to figure out what I would be comfortable with and could tolerate. After several failed attempts, I did finally find the medication that worked best for my body chemistry. My goodness my doctor was a very kind a patient man❤, it really is too bad he had to retire! I do not think I will EVER find another doctor I will connect to as much as I did him.

Of course there are always more decisions that need to made because MS is a constant changing illness. Even after deciding on the disease modifying medication there seems to always be more medications that doctors think should be taken. I do believe that living with MS you have to be willing and able to alter your life when necessary. To me it does seem that the conditions with MS can change at any moment and without any kind of warning.

positive over negativeOver my years with MS, I have experienced vision loss (which I did gain back), intense legs pains, muscle spasms throughout my entire body, fierce back pain, persistent headaches and some memory loss at random times, which is a little unsettling. But through it all, I have never truly given up. Of course I have had some massive frustration issues, but I will NOT let this illness to defeat the strong person I know I am. I am very determined to remain as strong as I possibly can, but I also want to help others hold onto their optimism. Y’all know that I am  a very strong believer in the fact that positive thoughts will bring positive results. I honestly believe that it takes a lot more energy to be negative than to just be as positive as you can!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today❤. I hope y’all enjoyed my thoughts on my life with MS so far and of course I will appreciate any comments you have. I do promise to respond to all comments just as soon as I possibly can. I hope y’all have a wonderful Wednesday! Thankfully we are half way through the week and the weekend is coming up soon. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

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What I have overcome that has made me stronger!

happy tuesdayGood morning Y’all! I hope your long weekend was full of nothing but happiness and you are feeling great starting this short week at work! I can say that the majority of my weekend was dedicated to resting to get myself feeling better and hopefully making my pain issues just go away! I guess we will see now that the week has started!

When I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis almost 18 years ago, I honestly viewed this as a punishment of something I must have done wrong during my life. I could not for the life of me understand what I could have done so wrong to deserve a battle like this to live with. It took me so many years to accept the diagnosis and findHope ways to live a❤ happy life not allowing an illness to EVER alter or control my life in any way! I wanted to be the one to continue controlling my life because I did not feel it was fair for an illness to be in control of MY life!

The sad truth is we are not able to choose the way our life is going to play out before we are here to actually live it. Once we are born we just need to live the life we were given the best way we can and not ever give up when things get too difficult. Life is not all about ☀sunshine, butterflies, rainbows and waltzing through the days easily, hard times fall on every one of us and we must learn to alter life when it is required.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and even if we do not like it or 11324-Everything-Happens-For-A-Reason..agree with what is happening, it is just the way it is! Any obstacles that we are given are not intended to be a punishment in any way, it is just what was meant for our life and all of these obstacles make us even stronger than we were before! All the hurdles along our journeys are put in place so we can just learn to sore over them with grace and strength! These frustrating impediments are all a learning experience for us to grow further!

Let me just say that I think overcoming the complete shock of my diagnosis in some crazy ways made me a stronger person. Yes, I have my bad days when I feel absolutely terrible, but in time I get back to my “normal” self or maybe it is better to say my “new normal” self. It sounds so crazy to say that an incurable and sometimes debilitating present situationillness made me stronger, but it really has! This illness gave me so many reasons to keep fighting for my own health and it has empowered me with determination that does not waver.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I always appreciate you taking the time to read my thoughts and ❤LOVE to read your fantastic comments. I hope you have a great day and I really hope you are feeling well. Please always remember that I am sending you LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Who Am I?

Who am IHave you ever asked yourself this what should be a fairly easy question, “Who am I?” I sometimes am forced to ask myself this question a few times a day, especially when others challenge the person I know I am, by being disrespectful and even a little demeaning. I find that other people can cause a slight change in my views of myself and then I react unkind. For instances, there is a person I work with that seems to enjoy treating others as if they are beneath him, which creates a very hostile work environment, or at least it does for me! I do not need someone to blow smoke up my rear end, but I do demand and deserve to be respected. This negative treatment causes an excessive amount of anger and frustration in me, which then causes my attitude to be so NEGATIVE and this is not me! In your experiences and opinion, what is the best way to handle this extremely disturbing individual?

Underneath everyone is a person that is so much more than what can be viewed from their exterior appearance! Our exterior is just a visual image, but underneath that visual image is an entirely other person with emotions and passions. When I was first diagnosed with MS, I thought that people just viewed me as just my illness and not for underneath-copywho I was on the inside. Even now, almost 18 years later I feel that is all people see me as which could not be further from the truth, but I am learning that is their problem and not mine! Others view me from my outside as a vertically challenged (I am a little short) and petite person which makes people make annoying comments that I do not eat, which I do! The verbal attacks cause frustration to me and therefore make me very uncomfortable, but again I know this is those doing the talking problem not mine!

At 36 years old, I am still learning how to deal with other’s personalities and how to interact with them when it is the complete opposite of my own. When I ask myself, Who am I?, I typically answer it the same way every time! I pride myself on being ❤kind and understanding of everyone. I also have never been and never will be ❤judgmental towards anyone by judging on race, color, religion and or sexual preference. I always butterfly who am Iwant to help others get through hard times by offer support and encouragement to those! I will always be compassionate, loving❤, caring and giving to a fault despite how most around me are not. So, if I ask y’all the same question, “Who are you?” what would your answer be?

I really appreciate you visiting my site today and I really look forward to any comments you may have! I do promise you, I will respond as quickly as I can! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your weekend and I hope you are feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Seriousness of Depression

depression (1)Good afternoon Y’all! I hope your weekend is beautiful and going very well🌤! With May being Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to continue sharing some additional information about what people can deal with! I also want y’all to never forget that one kind word to another can make a HUGE difference to that person’s day! ❤Love, acceptance and kindness can go a long way!

Depression, like all other illnesses does not discriminate and sadly affects people of all ages, ethnicity and socioeconomic backgrounds. Depression is more than just going through a rough patch in life or feeling sad, but can be quite debilitating. In fact, depression is the leading cause to disability in the United States among people between the ages of 15-44. You would never think that a child as young as 15 would experience depression, but it happens way more than we could imagine. In the United States alone 16 million American adults which are 7% of the population will or have experienced depression in their lifetime.Depression

What is the world causes depression for so many people? While there really is no known single cause for depression, but this may possibly occur from a series of events in life or even one major situation. Certain events in life can cause some, whereas chemical changes in the brain can cause others. Depression can be triggered by a life crisis or physical illness, but also can occur spontaneously.

Some factors scientists believe can contribute to depression are:

  • Trauma at an early age can cause long-term changes in the response to fear and stress
  • Genetics, mood disorders do tend to run in the family
  • Life circumstances such as marital status, relationships changes and financial standings can influence depression
  • Brain changes
  • Medical conditions
  • Drug and alcohol abuse. Approximately 30% if people with a substance abuse problem also have depression, which maybe these individuals were trying to self-medicate their struggles as that does happen quite frequently

There are numerous different types of depression one can experience, but I am only Depression-types-300x300going to touch on four of them: Major Depression, Persistent Depression, Manic Depression also known as Bipolar Disorder and Atypical Depression.

Major Depression is when a person is actually depressed most of the time for more days a week than not. Symptoms for Major Depression include:

  • Loss of interest of pleasure in activities
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Trouble getting to sleep or feeling sleepy during the day
  • Feeling restless, agitated or very sluggish and slowed down physical or mentally
  • Being tired and without any energy
  • Trouble concentrating or making decision
  • Thoughts of suicide

A doctor may diagnosis Major Depression if there are five or more of the symptoms I mentioned on most days for two weeks or longer.

Persistent Depressive Disorder is when the depression lasts two years or longer. This type is actually used to describe two conditions dysthymia and chronic depression. Dysthymia is a low-grade persistent depression and chronic depression is persistence of depressive symptoms for an extended period of time.

Symptoms for this type of depression are:

  • Change in appetite, either not eating enough or eating too much
  • Sleep too much or sleep too little
  • Lack of energy or fatigue
  • Low self-esteem
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Feeling of hopelessness

Manic Depression also known as Bipolar Disorder is another type of depression that so many people are living with. With this type of depression, a person can have mood episodes ranging from extremes of high energy, which is referred to as mania to low depressive periods, but they also have “normal” moods and energy in between. The mania part of this illness may involve long periods of sleeplessness along with Depressionhallucinations, psychosis or paranoid rage. The depressive episode can be very devastating and difficult to treat. Through studies there has not been any proof that antidepressants are beneficial for those with Bipolar Disorder, but a small percentage can actually increase risk for the high phases or speed up frequency of more episodes to occur.

Atypical Depression is specifier for either major or dysthymia depression. This is typically experienced first at an early age such as teenage years. This can be distinguished from melancholic depression because a person will see a mood improvement when something positive occurs, whereas with melancholic depression a positive event will seldom change the person’s mood. To diagnosis, a person will need to have at least two of the following symptoms to accompany the mood reactivity:

  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Increased appetite or weight gain
  • Intense reaction or increased sensitivity to rejection which can result in problems socially
  • Having a feeling of being weighed down, paralyzed or leaden which means dull, heavy or slow

In my opinion, people with depression often feel shame and do not feel comfortable talking to others about their struggles. I feel that it is incredibly important to never judge depression-quote-3-1-healthyplace_copiaanyone for what they are battling with in life, but we should all be accepting and offer our support❤! In some situations, depression can lead to suicide which I find extremely sad. Maybe if these people felt that they mattered and could confide in another, they would not have gone that route. Of course that is not always true as we really can not help someone who does not want help, but we can at least try to offer our compassion❤!

**Please note that I am NOT a physician or mental health professional. All the information I have shared with you is from my own research and experiences in life. So, please take this as advice not an official diagnosis for anything!**

Thank y’all from the bottom of my heart ❤for stopping by my site today. I hope you found this information valuable and offered you an understanding of what some have to deal with in life! Of course I will appreciate your comments and I will respond just as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you have  fabulous and beautiful day! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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Always, Alyssa

No one said it was easy

living with chronic illnessGood morning Y’all and happy Friday Eve!! Just one last day until the much desired weekend is here! I hope y’all have a wonderful day!

I do not think anyone that lives with a chronic illness has ever said, “This is so easy to deal with.” Living with any type of chronic illness, no matter what it is, takes the willingness to adjust to a life you never dreamt of living and never giving up the fight against the illness itself! It means taking on tasks, that before the diagnosis would have been so simple to handle, but after the diagnosis adds some new challenges you never even knew existed.  It means learning about new medications, that still may seem foreign to you, but you understand them enough to know the benefits to your health. It means relying on doctors to give you accurate and detailed information, but also having the strength and courage to question everything they say to you. It is all about knowing your own body and learning what your “new norms” are and knowing when something is not right! It does not matter how long the doctor went to school for or how many awards he or she has received or even how many of their patients sing their praises, they will never know your body better than you do. They are there for us, as the patient to feed us the knowledge about our illness and the various medications approved to manage said illness, not to tell us what to do because that is not their choice!

weathering-the-storm-alone-can-be-scary-but-in-the-24568066.pngThere are so many things I would have done differently when I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, if I had not been SO shell-shocked by the news! I do not think I was ever fully prepared when I went into my doctor’s appointments; I just went because it was required of me. I was so young when I was diagnosed, so I was not mature or logical enough to think things through first, I just acted solely based on impulse and impulse control when we are young is pretty much non-existent.

I have thought a lot about what advice I would give the young me that would be helpful. I would tell the younger me to always keep a notebook of questions and or concerns for the doctor, so that I did not forget them as I so often did. I would also strongly advise the young me to get all doctors’ notes printed out and keep them with the notebook. It is amazing how many inconsistencies there can potentially be between what the doctor puts in his notes, that we do not see and what was actually said in the office. Unless the blogger-image-1184647580doctor’s notes are specifically requested, they will never volunteer them to you and those notes are your business to protect!

How long have you been living with a chronic illness? Do you remember how you handled it in the beginning and would you have done anything different, if anything? Knowing everything you know now, is there anything you would have changed or did you handle everything well and you do not have any regrets? I think most of us have defensive mechanisms that help us with dealing with tragic events in our lives and that is okay, as long as we handle the issue or issues at hand. Some people deal with the difficult events life throws their way in very negative ways that only causes additional issues. I think some of the most troublesome events from life have a way of teaching us valuable lessons and they are not punishments in the least bit! 

I want to thank you, from the bottom of my heart for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments as you know they are always encouraged and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can! As always I am sending y’all LOTS of love and comfort!

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Always, Alyssa