Friday eve bliss!

The weeks can be long, but today is Friday eve so the weekend is almost here! Today I want to remind everyone how important it is to be kind and understanding, especially during painful and tragic times like so many are at this awful time. Something critical in life is to know we never can be certain or understand what another person might be facing in life. We are not walking in their shoes and they may try ignoring their feelings, which can make them behave in unusual ways. When we encounter another person that is acting negatively or unpleasantly, STOP and THINK because they could be dealing with extremely challenging times in their life!

Most of us have seen the news and the terrifying issues that Ukraine is dealing with now. We might know someone that has family and or friends living in Ukraine and understand they are fearing for those they care about safety. Now is a great time to try to go the extra mile for others. Life is short and fragile, which is why I have always believed we should live each day as if it is our last because we never know when our time on this earth is going to run out.

The quote I would like to share with you today is meant for every day of our life, not just today. I hope you will see the beauty and meaning in this quote and I would love to know how it made you feel. I have been tired of the hate this world is filled with and want more than anything for it to end. Unfortunately, I am not able to change the world, but I hopefully can shed a little light on this. Maybe this is something you feel as well and want to discover a change. If everyone around the world could work together, there might be a chance!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared resonated with you and you want the same things as I do, happiness and love from sea to shining sea, and everywhere in between. Let us not just stand for those in Ukraine, but let us be united together as one with all countries. I hope you have a great afternoon and do all you can to stay safe. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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The halfway point of the week

I have never been able to only see Wednesday as just that because viewing it as the halfway mark is a little more positive. We all know how long the weeks are, so knowing we are halfway to the weekend makes the week feel easier to deal with. What do you think? There is too much negative thinking and behaving in unpleasant ways. Even if only a few of us act in a better way, maybe we can spread the optimism. I mean, hate and anger spread like wildfire, so why can good feelings not do the same?

Today I want to share a quote with you about something I think has been lost for a long time. Too many people think being dishonest with no respect or love for others is the way to live. In my eyes, this is not a good way to live because it is not living with morals or values, but with deceit. How can anyone be happy or comfortable in life if they are not able to trust those close to them? I do not think it is possible. Trust takes time to gain and seconds to lose. We should always treat everyone with kindness and respect, and be HONEST! Remember, lies and deceit hurt and destroy relationships!

How has your week been so far? As y’all know, I was offered a job and I am just waiting for the background check to be cleared and the drug screening to be scheduled. It is nice knowing I have a job, but it would eliminate my stress to have everything completed and handled. I do not like having things being left to do because it leaves too much uncertainty and we are already living in enough uncertainty. I am not concerned about either of the things left to do, but want them DONE!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and look forward to reading your comments. I promise to respond to your comments as quickly as I can. As the days carry on, do not forget to stay as safe as possible! Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Is a perfect world possible?

What would it mean to have peace in our world and is this something that could be possible? Should it be so difficult to have everyone be happy, free, fair, equal, and forgiving? Unfortunately, for centuries this does not seem to have been the case. Through war, people have tried to gain more control and the desire to force everyone to think the same way. War does not do anything but get too many people killed. Attempts to overthrow other countries, killing and destroying the lives of innocent people is complete nonsense in my eyes. 

The amount of hate that erupts between people due to differences that cannot be changed is not solving any issues and only creates more problems. Why should anyone be allowed to judge someone based on the color of their skin, race, national origin, sexual preference, religious and or political following? Who can say the way another person is living, is not the right way to live? I strongly believe if we were all the same, the world would be an incredibly boring place to live. The past several years has shined new light on the way people think because it was made to seem normal and acceptable. These behaviors only spark hate and violence. Why are so many people unable to think for themselves and simply follow others like they are sheep? Why are so many unable to love and treat others with respect? It is 2022 and we all need to start evolving and being much better than we have been.

Do we even understand what peace means? I almost doubt it anymore because it is not something we have seen much of or seen at all. Peace is societal friendship and harmony, in the absence of hostility and violence. There is NO conflict or fear from impending war. We are all human, but no one is perfect so we SHOULD be able to get along. We may not have a lot in common, but we do all have a beating heart and feelings.

If you were able to make changes to the world for the better, what would your perfect world look like? What changes would you to accomplish this? Even though there is no such thing as perfect, changes could be put in place to make the entire world happier.

One MAJOR issue is corrupt politicians need to be replaced and bring in honest people that care about the safety and happiness of the world. People from every country need to rally together and become stronger. If we could support one another with love, compassion, and empathy, HUGE and AMAZING things could begin. Even people within the same country should start understanding each other.

Why does it matter where someone is from? Why does it matter what kind of job someone holds? Why does it matter who another person loves? None of these things should matter to anyone. The reasons people feel hatred in their hearts are unacceptable because most of them are meaningless. Unless someone does something to mentally, emotionally, or physically harm someone, there should not be any animosity. One person is not able to fix the issues we see, but if there was a big enough following and joining together, change is possible, and we could all live in peace!

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I know some people will not agree with a single word in this post, which is okay because these are my feelings. I will respect how you feel but expect the same in return. I would love to read your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

Good morning, Tuesday! We have survived another day this week, so the weekend is closer than it was. How is your week going so far? I hope your week has been good and you are feeling the best you can. Is it just me or does it seem like yet again, the days are flying by? I used to hear that as we get older, time goes by faster, but this is insane and I am not that old. Of course, most days I do feel twice my age, but I blame Multiple Sclerosis for that.

I have slowly been trying to do at least one post a day before I start my new job. I also was trying to follow the schedule of my posts as I did before. So, with that said, I wanted to share a fabulous quote that I hope will offer you a sense of peace. I feel that being reminded when one thing ends, something else beautiful can be created. I have always loved butterflies and viewed them as a message from a higher power, maybe an angel. I guess my love for butterflies is one reason I found this quote so uplifting!

Recently, I did something I have not done in months, which was to check the number of new COVID cases and deaths. They were high, which upset me, but then my husband being the logical man he is pointed out they are a lot lower than they were last year and that shows improvements. Although many people have received the vaccine, several others are still resisting. I know there are numerous people still losing their fight with COVID. Some of the deaths included fully vaccinated people, but it was stated those had other health risks.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed the quote I shared and I look forward to reading what you thought about it. With the days I have missed doing a post, I appreciate all of you for continuing to follow. I hope you have a great day today. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Happy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely and safe week. How ready are you for the new week to begin? The new week is here and hopefully, it is full of great opportunities for all of us. It is crazy how short the weekends are and how incredibly LONG the weeks are, but I guess it is what it is, right? Hopefully, I will be starting a new job in mid-March because not working is driving me crazier than I already am, which I guess is saying a lot! I know my old job used to get a little old, but I actually miss it and never thought I would say that.

Now that the week is beginning, we could all use a little motivation and encouragement. I hope the quote I am sharing with you will provide this and much more. I think it is important to understand in life, once things are done you cannot change them and when something is gone, we need to accept that and move on. None of us have the power to rewind and change things in life, so there is no use in trying to do so. It is never easy to let go, but life is short and sometimes that is what we need to do!

Unfortunately, the weekend is over and I know not working it does not matter much because nothing changes. I remember when I was working, my cats hated the weekend ending because that meant I would be in the home office closed away from them for another week. The cats tend to be a little clingy and love to be on Mommy’s lap. The bigger kitten we have is hilarious because the minute I walk into the living room, she thinks she must be on my lap whether I am sitting down yet or not! Gotta love animals because their love is unconditional and never-ending!

Thank you for visiting today and reading this post. I hope the quote I shared resonated with you in some way and would love to read your thoughts. I hope you have a great day and each day that passes gets better until the weekend returns. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pain & Neuropathy

Over the weekend, I was experiencing a lot of pain in my legs, feet, and back. This is nothing new, but it was so intense it was hard to get comfortable. At one point, I was so distraught about this pain I asked my husband, “What in the world could I have done so wrong in life to deserve this pain?” Of course, my husband was trying to help make me feel better and told me I did not do anything to deserve the pain I live with. The same as my grandfather did when I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, my husband told me how strong I was and even though I should not have to deal with these issues, I could conquer them all and he was there to help me in any way he could.

Unfortunately, when my pain gets too bad there is not anything anyone can do to ease it. It is frustrating when nothing helps, and all tears do is give me red eyes the next day. I cannot even say if the pain or neuropathy is worse because they are both miserable. Maybe it was silly of me to think I did something in my life to deserve the pain and neuropathy, but why else would this happen?

I do know that stress only increases pain and I think it increases neuropathy issues as well. The bad thing is they both make me stressed because I want it to end so badly and cannot find a way for it to STOP! My levels of frustration and disappointment can become so out of control, being logical is a foreign topic that seems so far away.

I would say it is unfair to have to endure pain and neuropathy, but it could be worse. I know others are dealing with much more and I should not complain. It takes a lot for me to complain because it does not change anything, so I do not see a point. I know stress is a HUGE cause for symptoms to increase, but it is also incredibly defeating when there is NEVER any relief. Even the strongest people in the world need a break sometimes!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your weekend was wonderful and you have a great week. I would love the chance to read your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Process of Forgiveness

Unfortunately, most of us have been profoundly hurt and disappointed by someone we trusted and cared about. Forgiveness can be extremely challenging because the emotions involved can be intense. Understanding that forgiveness is not for the other person, but for our peace and happiness does not make it easier. How can you forgive someone that caused you so much pain, whether they apologize or not? I have always thought the words “I am sorry”, are just empty words and even more so when the same situation happens repeatedly.

Before I continue, it is important to understand forgiveness does not mean we are excusing the other person’s behavior, or we are forgetting what occurred. We can forgive, but the mind is not able to forget the pain we felt. Forgiveness can release us from the control of the person that harmed us and offer peace to move on.

When someone we trust causes us pain, we often want retaliation and revenge. We desire to hurt that other person as deeply as we were hurt. This does not do any good for anyone involved and allows for a negative and endless cycle to continue that pain.c

The benefits of forgiveness are infinite. Letting go and releasing the anger and pain can improve our health and enable peace into our hearts and mind. Forgiveness can lead to healthier relationships, improved mental health, less anxiety and stress, fewer depression issues, a stronger immune system, and an improvement in our heart health and self-esteem.

The bigger question is, how do we forgive. This is a process that cannot be rushed. It takes time because the pain feels so raw. You first need to be able to talk through your feelings. Before we can forgive someone, we need to embrace the feelings and put them into words, so we understand them clearly and the person that caused the pain understands what the damage was done.

Finding the bright side of the painful situation will not be easy, especially at first. Once you have had space from the issue, you may be able to see what was gained from this experience. You may never find the benefit to the cruel and emotional situation, but chances are you will feel like a better person for the compassion and understanding you embraced.

The bigger hurts can take a lot to forgive. Instead of seeing every detail and every hurtful moment, try to start small and forgive the small issues first. It is natural to struggle with forgiveness, but we can become better and learn more by practicing forgiveness daily.

We must also decide if we want to forgive or not. This decision should be thought about clearly and not taken lightly. Will forgiveness strengthen the relationship, or will it destroy the relationship are just a few things to think about before you decide.

One thing I always do when I have been hurt is, I never go to bed angry. Anytime I tried to sleep when I was upset and hurt, I cannot sleep. I think we should never go to bed angry or leave the house angry because bad things happen when we least expect them.

Overall, I am decent with forgiveness. I will be honest with you, there are a few people in life that I struggle to forgive because of how awful and painful the experience was. There is one person I will never forgive because the situation went on for a long time and did immense damage to my life, but that person is no longer alive. I guess when someone is not alive, there is not a need to forgive is there? Other people in my life have done some detrimental things and I know holding onto the hurt is only doing further harm, but some things are impossible to let go of. I am working on this and know there will come a day I can forgive these people but will never forget the hurt.

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post about forgiveness. When you have been hurt in the past, how did you get through the pain and forgive, or did you not decide to forgive? I am looking forward to reading your thoughts on this post and will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Dealing with feeling overwhelmed and stressed

Over the past few days, weeks, months, or years, how many times have you felt incredibly overwhelmed? Many of us have been overwhelmed with COVID stresses since the pandemic began. Would you be surprised to know, according to a survey administered to over 3,000 United States residents in 2020 by the American Psychological Association, 60% of those participating reported feeling overwhelmed by issues they have been plagued by? I am honestly not surprised, but lately, nothing surprises me anymore.

We may feel alone when we are suffering from feelings of being overwhelmed, but the truth is many are feeling this way daily. It is easy to deal silently with these feelings because we see so many awful things going on in the world. These feelings along with stress do not discriminate and can impact everyone. Age, gender, race, national origin, religious and political beliefs, or sexual preference does not matter with these feelings.

There are countless causes for stress and overwhelm that include work, relationships, traumatic experiences, finances, political issues, health concerns, job searches, and the global pandemic. I have been experiencing being bombarded with being overwhelmed and found a few ways to handle these feelings that I am going to share with you, in hopes it will help you as well.

The first step is to identify what is causing you to feel overwhelmed. Think about areas in life that are adding to your stress. Is it your job, lack of job, home, or your relationships? Determine what is specifically causing you to feel overwhelmed and write down the contributing factors, so you know and understand your triggers.

Keep yourself grounded by living in the present. There is a technique I recently read about called the “5-4-3-2-1” technique. This technique only requires you to use your five senses:

1- Look around and name five things you can see from where you are sitting or standing.

2- Just listen and name four things you can hear.

3- What are three things you can touch?

4. Take a deep breath, what are two things you can smell.

5. Lastly, name something you can taste.

There is an important phrase we should try to remember, especially when we are stressed and overwhelmed, “Outer order, inner calm”. When we are feeling overwhelmed, cleaning up the area around us can restore a little order in our life. It can be a small room in our house but tidying up that one room can bring us a calming and peaceful feeling.

When our life feels chaotic, taking tiny steps can resolve some of our stress. We all have many things we think we “MUST” do, so much that our list will become overwhelming. Do one thing at a time and do not rush anything. Everything will get done in time!

In a world full of uncertainty, it is critical to accept what we cannot control. This does not mean we should give up and throw in the towel. What this does mean is we need to allow for uncertainty and the uncomfortable, without complaints and resistance, and dwell on things we cannot change. Trying to only focus on what we can control, might reduce some stressful and overwhelming thoughts.

Sometimes through all things life throws our way, we must simply take a deep breath and walk away. There are times things causing us to feel overwhelmed are right in front of us and we need a little separation to have a short break to assess what we are feeling. This can promote relaxation and lower the stress we may be experiencing.

Create a gratitude list. When we feel stressed and overwhelmed, reminding ourselves what we are grateful for can be a powerful way to transform thoughts of stress. Simply write down 5-10 things you are grateful for at the beginning or end of each day. Reflecting on these things can be very helpful for our mental health.

Discover a creative outlet, such as writing, dance, music, art, or anything else that gets your creative juices flowing. Studies suggest connecting with our creative side at least once a week can reduce stress.

If you are not comfortable talking about things causing you to feel overwhelmed and stressed, consider writing out your feelings. This can be a quiet and private way to alleviate our anxious feelings. It does not need to be perfect, just write freely. Everything you write is kept between you and the paper. There will be no judgment or explaining why you are feeling the way you are.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post today. I hope you found it useful, and you will find ways to eliminate feelings of being overwhelmed. I know it is an unpleasant feeling and want to help others find peace from this. I would love to read what you thought about this post and if you have any other ideas that could help others. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

A Happy Saturday Wish

Happy Saturday y’all! Do you have any exciting plans for your weekend? I normally have nothing planned, but today I am going to pick up my new contacts. I know nothing exciting, but for someone that hardly leaves the house anymore, this is thrilling. I would love to say I was going somewhere fun, like Bath & Body Works, but nothing that fun, YET! Hopefully, there will be a day the COVID is in our rearview mirror and a distant not so pleasant memory, and thousands of people are not continuing to die daily because of the virus. A girl can dream, right?

When I looked at the world now and the way things are it makes me so sad. There is so much hate and anger, which I can understand anger because most of us have been since the start of the pandemic, but that does not explain why people are SO mean to one another. Life is fragile and short, so I think while we are here we should be trying to be kind to everyone. All humans have a beating heart, of course, some people are forgotten how to use it, but maybe if we try a little harder it would help those consumed with hate be kind.

In this life, it is crucial to have things that bring us joy and help us to escape from the stresses of life. Are there things you do that make you smile, even during hard times? What do you do that helps you to escape the stress you feel? One thing that always makes me smile, even when I feel like crying is our adorable cats. They are three of the most loving and funniest souls. I feel a little guilty because our smaller cat needs to get medicine twice a day one week out of the mouth. It is a liquid medication that I have to give her and the poor little girl hates it. I know it is to help her, but it torments her.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and the quote that I shared. I am looking forward to reading your comments and promise to respond as quickly as I can. I hope you have a relaxing and safe weekend, and is filled with happiness. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What would you do?

How would you react if you were forced to live in fear of your life? What would you do if you knew driving a few miles you might be faced with a deadly attack on your life? When you leave your home, you see men with assault rifles or other military forces circling the border to your town, what would be racing through your mind? When there is nowhere to hide because troops are barracking your life with the means and plans to destroy you and everything you love would be a terrifying existence and not something anyone should be faced with.

Sadly, these fears are what those in Ukraine must be dealing with. Sharing a border with Russia and having to live with knowing that at any moment, missiles or bullets may invade their life. I cannot imagine knowing that someone I share a border with wants to cause irrefutable damage all in the name of control.

It would be difficult to be glued to the television, watching the news, and hoping to see good news across the waves. The decisions the Ukrainian people are having to make are painfully difficult. Deciding to flee the country they live in or become part of a country that is an authoritarian dictatorship would not be an easy decision because either way would be dangerous.

I have always been an empathetic person, so I am trying to put myself in the shoes of those living in Ukraine. I have lived in the United States my entire life and never had to be part of something so appalling and devastating. This would be like North Carolina or Georgia trying to overthrow South Carolina because they wanted to control. Would I learn to use weapons to protect myself and my family, like many in Ukraine are doing?

Although other countries are offering support to those in Ukraine, there is still massive levels of fear. Women, children, and men are learning to use weapons to protect themselves against evilness. They are living every minute of every day with the fear things will escalate. I feel it is unfair for anyone to live being terrorized by another country. For one moment, think about what you would do if you were in this situation.

I am not trying to get anyone to change their views on religion, but I do believe that those living in Ukraine could use some prayers. They may never know who we are or who is praying for their safety, but they could feel peace and hope through these tragic times through forces we may not understand. For those of you who have been following my blog, you know I normally do not discuss politics or religion but feel this is much different. I wanted to spread a little insight into what is going on between Russia and Ukraine in hopes we can send positive and uplifting energy to those in Ukraine.

Thank you for visiting today. Although I know how devastating the information in this post is, I hope it will provide you with the knowledge you need to try understanding. Thinking about what we would do in this situation can bring anyone to tears, but hopefully, it fuels you with compassion and love for those who are experiencing this tragic event. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa