Outlets are important!

environmental-writer-300x156Do you have an outlet from the pains that life hands us? I do believe having an outlet can be the most therapeutic thing for anyone, almost like a short escape from reality. It doesn’t matter if you write on a blog and share you deepest feelings with others or if you take time alone to write in a journal about your feelings, it is just important to get those emotions out. Releasing positive and or negative emotions can create so much true comfort!

Obviously y’all know I write on my blog as much as I can, but recently I have started download (5)writing in a journal as well. There might be times when I may not be ready or comfortable sharing how I am feeling with anyone yet and writing these feelings down in private offers me serenity. I find that writing down what is going through my mind at any given time allows me to reread what I am dealing with and gain some perspective. I think that by writing in a journal, I can just be honest with myself and not have to worry about what anyone else thinks or someone trying to tell me how I should feel or how I should cope with my struggles. There are many times that I just wanting to come up with solutions on my own, but then there of course times I do want advice.

I really do enjoy writing on my blog as well because this gives me a chance to not only outletshare with y’all, but also gain some amazing feedback from y’all!! I have told y’all many times before that I am very critical of my own writing, but reading your thoughts helps me in so many ways. I have always dreamed of being a writer and having freedom to write about whatever I want! My ultimate dream is to gain the confidence to write the book I have mulled over for many years. I do believe that if I continue writing on my blog, which I do intend to, I will gain a tremendous amount of knowledge from each of you and about my own skills.  I am very curious about what you consider an outlet. Is writing on your blog, writing in asunrise_music300[1] journal, or do you even consider writing to be an outlet at all?

I also consider music to be an outlet. It amazes me how much passion and meaning can be in just one simple song. I am sure what I take from any given song can be much different that it would anyone else and it might be a lot different than what the writer intended. I appreciate the creativity song writers hold and value what they are sharing with the world.

I am looking forward to reading what you consider an outlet to be and how it has helped you! I am so pleased to say that I do not have to work this weekend, which is allowing me to download (5)do things I really needed to do, like clean the house and rest. I know how crazy that just sounded, cleaning the house and resting seem like they are opposites, but for me being able to get the house nice and clean is a great feeling. Of course all the extra work did create a lot of pain for me, but now I am able to spend the remainder of the weekend resting and preparing myself for another LONG week at work and unfortunately I have to work next weekend!

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and feeling well! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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Fight the battle & Win the war!

images (2)Living life with a chronic illness that brings on pain is not easy, but letting that pain win the battle should not ever be an option. Of course it is easier said than done, but isn’t it worth trying? There might be days that it hurts to even get out of bed, but just lying in the bed solves absolutely nothing because the pain will is still there later on.

There are things that can be done to fight against the pain we may feel. Now this is just howlove your life more than you hate your pain I think and what I have tried training my mind to think and believe. It is amazing what we can trick our minds into believing! The things that work for me might not work for anyone else, after all we are all different. Sometimes simply taking a nice hot bubble bath can make a HUGE difference! I think it is something about the calming feeling of the warmth that eases my aching body. Of course, my doctor has told me numerous times that hot water isn’t 579ef8182e48d1ac880303bd79cb9696good for me because it is not supposed to mesh well with Multiple Sclerosis, but it helps me. It is just like while at work my heating pad becomes my best friend!

For me, as crazy as this will sound, if I try to keep moving I feel that my pain actually lessens. It does not make a whole lot of sense to me because I would think when it pain resting would be way more beneficial. I often think when I stop doing something like cleaning, doing laundry or any other household chore, my pain settles in and I feel so much worse! 

I also find it helpful to keep my mind preoccupied, so I do not have time to even think about images (5)pain I am feeling. This could be reading a good book, writing either on my own blog or commenting on another’s, watching some mindless TV show (my favorite is General Hospital, which I know sounds insane) or even watching a good movie (my favorites are anything from the Fast & The Furious). Little things can create a distraction for the mind and possibly alleviate our pains, even if it is for a short time.

Anyone that lives with any type of chronic illness understands that it can and does create various challenges. I think it is extremely important to discover ways to deal with these challenges and never stop searching for new ways to manage difficult times. I know I have mentioned Web-Ad-3this before, but I strongly feel the only way to fail is to give up.

The promise I made to myself years ago when I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis was to never allow the illness defeat me. With a much more mature mindset now, I still value what my younger mind thought during one of the hardest times in my life. Nineteen years later, I will still keep this promise to myself.

Do y’all have any special ways you deal with your pain issues? All of us that struggle with this can understand one another and offer very valuable advice to each other. It does make me sad that anyone has to deal with constant pain, but at the same time it makes us so much dont-give-up-galaxy-hold-on-hope-Favim.com-1428490stronger! WE can fight this battle together and WE can win the war together!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am sorry I missed my normal Motivational Monday quote, I was dealing with a massive migraine and wasn’t able to do it. I hope this will make up for that! Not only do I hope what I have shared beneficial for you, but also reassured you that you are not alone in the fight and we can win the war together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Let It Go Friday!

maxresdefaultHappy Friday y’all! I hope you had a lovely ❤ pain and stress free week! Now let me be honest,  just typing “pain and stress free week” almost seems like a fairy-tale or climbing Mount Everest in heals. I am not even sure I can remember a week or just a day, where there was not something that caused stress or pain. I do believe life can be difficult, but through all the difficulties ❤ life can still be beautiful. 

I think it is much better to not dwell on any of the hardships we have faced or are currently facing because all the stress in the world will never change the outcome. I find it is much healthier, both physically and mentally to just accept when it is time to just LET GO. Letting go is not giving up, it is just a way to take a time out so you can think a lot more clear. Each-time-we-face-our-fear-we-gain-strength-courage-and-confidence-in-the-doing.

Through my years, I have learned when I am overwhelmed the only way I will ever succeed is to take a short break away from my work location. If I do not walk away from a negative situation, I will probably make an ugly comment or remember something awful from the the past few days, as crazy as that might sound!images (2)

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed and found meaning in the quote I have shared. Isn’t it better to let go of all the negative feelings from all those awful situations we have dealt with and gain much more, like strength, courage and confidence? I hope you had a great week and you are looking forward to some time. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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What brings you happiness?

Tough-times-dont-last-tough-people-do.-300x300There are many times during our lives when things get very difficult! I feel like it is important to do our best to push those feelings aside and not dwell on the negative. Is this easy? Absolutely NOT, but sitting around allowing for the hardships to dictate our life will never do us any good. I find that during the difficult times, we must try to think about what brings us joy. Maybe flooding our minds with the positives will actually bring them into reality; we will never know 100% unless we try it!

I want to ask you a question and really look forward to reading your response. To show how much I want to do the same, I will answer my question for y’all!beautiful times

What are five things that bring happiness to your life?

The answer to my question is:

  1. The love ❤ I share with my husband is quite powerful and never-ending.
  2. My two absolutely adorable and loving cats. I don’t think anyone could be around them and not find joy!
  3. It makes me very happy to be able to write what I want to 
  4. write about.
  5. The incredible connections I have been able to make through my blog. Y’all have truly been amazing and I am thankful for all of you!
  6. Travelling to new places when we are able or even travelling to places we have been many times before. The beach  is by far my preference.

motivational-quotes-for-someone-down-with-i-might-fall-but-will-not-stay-gym-2During times when I get very stressed or very upset, these are the things that can change my mood. My husband knows what I am feeling and thinking before I even say it out loud. Even though there was no consoling me after my accident, if he did not get to me as quickly as he did, I would have been much more upset and terrified! Both of my cats know when I am feeling horrible and or in pain, so they do not leave my side or shall I say my lap until they think I am feeling a little better! It is hilarious both of them trying to fit on my lap because even though the older cat is very petite, the younger one is a big boy!download (1)

I know I have said in earlier posts that writing is the best outlet for me.  Writing has always been one of my strongest passions and I have no doubt my love for writing will never fade. By continuing to read what I share, y’all are not only giving me the opportunity to continue to write, but also the chance to make great friends that truly understand!

During the truly frustrating times after the accident I had last week, I am trying my best 0fb54ae29b2fd5f0b57ec18d819ce11eto keep these positive things in my mind! We are currently waiting for the driver that was in this accident to accept responsibility because there needs to be payout for the repairs and a rental car for me. I will never understand this considering the police report stated clearly it was his fault! I mean who is really ever going to take responsibility for their wrong doings when they can just prolong the situation by either not answering calls or denying responsibility all together? It is pretty ridiculous, but I am trying to be patient which isn’t one of my strongest qualities.

Thank you for visiting my site today and I do look forward to reading your answer to my HOW_TO_THINK_WHEN_LIFE_GETS_DIFFICULTquestion! There are two options we have when it comes to being happy. One is we can hold onto and dwell on negative emotions or choose to remember the things that bring us the most joy in life and hold onto those instead! I do hope you will take a few moments to answer my question, but I understand if you aren’t able to. Of course I will love to learn what makes you happy and I will respond to all comments as soon as I can! Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Puzzle of Life!

Good afternoon y’all! I hope your weekend is starting off great and only gets better moving forward! Weekends provide much comfort and relaxation, which is often very needed and well deserved. I am still trying to get adjusted to this working full-time thing and still maintaining household duties, my blog and anything else that comes my way. Honestly it isn’t easy, but I also think I can handle it!

Over the past week or so, I have been thinking about how much our lives actually resemble a huge jigsaw puzzle. Sometimes we have a piece that fits together perfectly and other times nothing at all fits the way we expect or want  it to. It really is like when you try putting a large puzzle together, but some of the pieces you have in front of you become difficult to place because of their shape and size. We all face the same situation daily when we are confronted with people with different views and behaviors. We may strongly disagree with others point of views, but we are all entitled to our own views and perspectives. As long as these  thoughts do not cause physical and or emotional harm to another it should be accepted. 

Personally I think I am very capable of getting along with everyone and anyone, as long life-is-like-a-puzzle-stop-trying-to-place-people-where-they-dont-fit-quote-1as they are respectful of me and my beliefs. I have never tried changing another person or their views because that is just wrong to do! I feel that if we were all alike the world would be downright boring and we need diversity! I enjoy being around people who are different from myself and find learning about how they view things pretty fascinating!

All relationships and even jobs can be like putting a challenging puzzle together. When you start a new job, there will be some that51accc1426746b8fa9976fe7436086f5  co-workers you mesh well with and others whom you don’t and that is perfectly okay! You really can’t force the pieces of life together, things just fit when it’s meant to be! I have always believed that everything in life happens for a reason and when it is supposed to. Of course I tend to forget this often and get frustrated because I just want things to work out perfectly. I guess that is the part of me that is controlling, but we all have our faults and we deal with them as needed. 

Other parts of life, like dealing with a chronic illness or other difficulties just adds to thepuzzle-pieces-of-life-2-stock-illustration_csp34374889 puzzle of our life. It can be incredibly frustrating and test our strengths, but at the end of the day we can be proud of what we have accomplished. It is so important to never give up and know all the pieces will fit perfectly eventually.

I did try the new Editor version of WordPress, but did not do all that well with it. I will puzzle-piece-quotekeep trying and I am sure I will understand how it works soon. Have y’all tried it yet and do you have any advice for me?

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I always appreciate your words of wisdom and kindness. I am still working on getting caught up on reading and commenting on your posts and should be caught up before the weekend ends. I hope the rest of you day is amazing and you are feeling the best you can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Outraged!

IMG_0579I can’t believe it’s only Tuesday because it certainly feels we should be much closer to the weekend. It is crazy how fast the short weekends go by and then how LONG the work weeks are. I am thankful I found a job that is close to home and all, but strongly believe 40 hours a week is too much for anyone to dedicate to a job! I think it is even more outrageous that here in the United States we are often forced to wait 90 days before we can even get insurance, not to mention the fact it is INSANELY expensive! I mean, if I were to get insurance for myself and my husband the cost per pay check would be more than a quarter of my paycheck!

I know I have written about this before, but now it is getting painfully more real! The obamacare-pre-existing-conditionsnews I heard, after a long day at work, was so disturbing and caused me so much ANGER, as it would anyone with a heart and any empathy for others! For someone during their campaign they ran to become president, no names being mentioned of course, saying they wouldn’t do anything negative to those of us with pre-existing conditions, to now doing the EXACT OPPOSITE and trying to eliminate protection for pre-existing conditions! I know this person in the white house has some of-nonelderly-adults-with-a-pre-existing-condition-twitter-v1crazy issues with the former president,  but to banish the good things that were done is very wrong. How anyone could still support this person is beyond me because I sure as hell couldn’t and never would! There are millions of people in the United States that will be affected by this and many could even lose their lives if anything happens to their health insurance. 

I try my best to keep my blog encouraging and never talk politics because we are all understandingtheacaentitled to our opinions, but when something can change my own life for the negative, I can’t help but to share my thoughts on the matter! I have been trying to tell myself that no one would ever think about doing something so awful and ruin lives for so many, but it just may happen! Striking down the Affordable Care Act, as has been put on the table, is wrong on so many levels, no matter what your political views are! I wish there was something more I could do to stop anything like this from happening, but I do not even know what that would be! Of course I can write about it, but I don’t know how much that will really change the issues! I do understand there is a chance that nothing being proposed will pass, but what if it does? How can anyone afford the medications they need to live their lives? I know there is absolutely NO way I could ever afford the medications I take to slow the progression of my Multiple benefits-affordable-care-actSclerosis down without insurance. Where would this leave people battling with a chronic illness and does anyone in power really care??

I am sorry for my second rant in a matter of days, but I am hoping we could some how all join together and find a way to help make things better for millions of people! We all deserve WAY better than this and it is shameful we are facing this fear now! I have always heard that there is strength in numbers, so all I can do is hope for better times!

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this rant! My frustrations are sky-high and the only thing I know to do is write about them! This helps me calm my nerves and ease my stress some! I hope y’all have a pleasant and relaxing evening. I always encourage your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can! Please know that even though I am a little high-strung right now about all this, I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

More talk about MS!

ms march awarenessMultiple Sclerosis is a very complex and frustrating battle to face. Unfortunately, this illness does impact everyone’s life in  so many different ways and to the point it’s almost hard to pinpoint what is what! There have been various names people choose to use when referring to  MS; such as the snowflake disease or invisible illness. I think these terms can also be used in many other chronic illnesses as well because they are fitting. I mean if you think about it, there are no two snowflakes that are exactly the alike,  just like no illnesses experiences the exact same symptoms. Also, there are so many of these illnesses that are completely naked to the eye, so they are pretty much invisible in the bigger picture. 51209211_2039825619447292_5206443739896197656_n

Let me ask my wonderful fellow bloggers, whether you live with MS or know someone else that does, what do you already know about this not so fun illness? Honestly,I think the only thing everyone knows to be 100% true is this illness can vastly differ for each individual! There might be times throughout the years each person with MS will unfortunately have a new symptom emerge and they need to learn to cope with this. While no one wants to deal with anything additional and all symptoms can be daunting, there  really are always ways to carry on with life!

symptomsI know there may be countless responses to this, but what are your top 5 most challenging issues you have been forced to accept during your journey? One thing I find very challenging and the most aggravating is how completely unpredictable this illness is. I have and probably always will be an obsessive planner! It drives me crazy for any unplanned issues to appear without any warning! Over the years, I have learned to expect the unexpected and be willing to rearrange my plans.

Another part of my MS life I find challenging, but am learning to accept is there are th-26-300x111NEVER any real answers for the numerous questions I ask my doctor. I would have never thought my questions were so difficult that my specialist can’t answer them. I mean these doctors go through enough schooling they should have a wealth of knowledge to match this. I am sure the schooling for many years is very expensive and probably more money than I will make in MANY years! Maybe while in school they should have a class in good bedside manner because most neurologist have a terrible personality. I think they have a godlike and ego maniac demeanor. 

flat,550x550,075,f.u4The third challenging aspect of this life that I have almost accepted is, the complete ignorance and total lack of empathy most people have for others. The ugly glances and degrading comments I have seen and heard over my years, especially when I park in a handicap parking space are nothing short of hurtful! Even though I have lived with this for many years, these glances and comments still can bring me to tears. This really doesn’t have anything to do with me, but is all on them! These people probably believe that misery loves company and try to bring me down to their level, which I try to avoid!

It doesn’t matter how long I have struggled with this illness, fatigue still tries to kick my Worst-MS-symptombutt daily! It was always complicated for me when I was working full-time because it never failed at about 1:00 or 2:00 if I am lucky I was exhausted! I have accepted this issue and try my best to conserve my energy so I am not ready for a nap at lunch time!

Lastly and to keep this from being too terribly long, the final challenging thing for me to accept is the constant pain I feel. It often seems like I am going to always to battle with pain and with little to no relief. I do know that dwelling on this pain only causes the pain to worsen instead of lesson and this just  isn’t an option for me! I do try focusing on the positive in my life instead of the negative hoping these thoughts will trick my body into healing! I also believe acceptance is half the battle and laughcan help keep my stress in check which will in-turn lessen the pain.

I would like to thank y’all for stopping by my site today. I told y’all on March 1st that for MS Awareness month I wanted to shed more light on this illness because knowledge is power! I am looking forward to reading your comments and do hope this was helpful for you!

I hope you have had a good week and of course hope you are feeling well. The weekend is finally here and  I hope you enjoy every moment of it! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and  many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤