Show love and respect for animals!

What does it mean to be an empathetic person? To be an empathetic person is to show an ability to understand and share feelings with another person. After reading what it means, do you think you are an empathetic person? Is it possible to feel too much empathy for others? I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I am a very empathetic person. I would never say anyone can feel too much empathy because I believe everyone’s feelings are meaningful and should be respected. Of course, I can admit that I am an emotional person and act based on emotions before logic most of the time!

On Monday, I learned one of my co-workers lost one of her cats. Her poor cat was hit by a car and sadly, her kitty did not survive. This struck a cord in my mind because I remember losing our cat, Chloe, and know how incredibly painful this is. Unfortunately, when my co-worker was taking her cat that was hit by a car to be cremated, her other kitten escaped her home. I know how hard it was losing one cat and cannot imagine losing two within two days. I was in tears Monday when I learned about the first kitty and then last night was hysterical because it broke my heart for my co-worker.

In my heart and mind, I think animals are important and full of love. My husband and I have three cats and we treat them like they were our children because, for all intensive purposes, they are. I cannot imagine life without them because they bring SO much joy to our lives and for that, we make sure they have everything and then some they need. When I see things about animals being mistreated, it makes me so angry because animals are the only creature that loves unconditionally and they do not judge, as most humans do.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know this is a rather sad post, but I hope it resonates with you and you understand what empathy means. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I promise to respond as quickly as I can. Remember, if you have a pet to give him or her a little extra love. If you do not have any pets, remember to always be kind to all animals! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Blessing OR A Curse?

Is it a blessing or a curse to be an emotional kind of person? I used to believe it was a blessing because this allows you to empathize with others, but over the last several years I am starting to think it is more of a curse. Anyone that can turn on the news and see what has occurred in the world, and not break down into tears, I envy them. So many times, even during the past month, I am unable to not do this. There have been SO many tragedies and lives destroyed throughout the world, and many were in the country I was born and raised in, which I find extremely appalling. Honestly, how seeing what has gone on in the United States, how can anyone still say they are “proud” to be an American?

I do not know any of the people who have gone through tragic times, but my heart still breaks for them. I cannot imagine what the parents have gone through and continue to go through after losing a child or the families that lost a loved one in the Uvalde school shooting. It was my last year in high school when Columbine occurred and even as a 17-year-old girl, it was horrifying. I will never forget that many thought it would be funny to pull the fire alarm to make everyone run outside, but I refused to do so after the first few because I knew what could happen as it did a week before they were pulling these immature pranks.

When I kept hearing the interviews with people who lost someone due to COVID-19, I would cry along with them. I will never understand what they went through saying “goodbye” to a loved one on a computer screen. Of course, I did not get to say “goodbye” to my late grandfather, but I was able to go to his funeral (which truthfully did not bring any peace for me as it was such a painful loss). It is hard enough losing someone we love, but not being able to say our goodbyes or have a proper funeral would be awful. Many people thought COVID ruined their lives because they were not able to do the fun things they always did before, had to wear a mask or get the vaccine or isolate at home, but the loss of a loved one or becoming ill due to COVID would be devastating.

I have seen some horrible images of Ukraine and interviews with people from the country. I might not find the way things are in the United States upstanding or positive, but at least, for the most part, we do not have to fear bombs and the military killing us daily. Of course, there have had far too many shootings in the United States, but the gunmen were typically deranged and mentally ill people with no morals or love for human life, which I guess can describe the individual responsible for attacking Ukraine.

I mentioned to y’all that my mother got married on Monday evening. Of course, I was not able to attend in person, but my husband and I watched the wedding via Zoom. It was a beautiful wedding and they looked very happy. I wish her and her new husband nothing but the best in life. I do think it is true that love can be unexpected at times and that good things come to those who wait!

I also told y’all I had a follow-up appointment with my pain management doctor. I am NEVER late for anything, but because of the insane stop and go traffic on the interstate, I was running 10 minutes late. I was three minutes from the office when the office called to tell me the Nurse Practitioner had to leave, and I was going to have to reschedule. I cannot explain how incredibly angry I was about this because every other time when I had an appointment, I was at least 15 minutes early and was forced to wait for the Nurse Practitioner for at least 30 minutes. I had just driven an hour and a half, left work early, and had to turn around and go back home! All I can say about this now is, I am glad the appointment was rescheduled in two weeks because I need that time to cool down and best believe, they better not have me waiting 30 minutes when I get there!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a good week and staying safe. The good news about today is, we are halfway to the weekend, so we are closer to the weekend than we were yesterday😊! I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Stand up for rights

On June 24th, the US Supreme Court decided amongst themselves and others with the same ideology to overturn a landmark decision made in 1973, Roe vs Wade. As it should have, this incredibly unethical and terribly flawed decision has caused an uprise in the country. We were supposed to be evolving in our lives, not devolving, and creating additional turmoil in a country already overflowing with hatred! The ruling regarding Roe vs Wade was brought into light almost 50 years ago when the thought processes of the people had not advanced to a kinder and more understanding way, which was the way things were in the past.

Please allow me to explain more about the way I feel about what has taken place. I am not pro-abortion, but I am pro-choice and believe women have the right to decide what happens with their bodies. Not all pregnancies were meant to go full-term, and it is not necessarily murder. Sometimes deciding what is best for the unborn child and a mother may seem unconventional and cause disagreements, but it should remain a choice. If a mother knows she does not have the means to provide a good and happy life for a child, why should the unborn child have to endure a difficult life? It is already challenging enough for people to survive this unpredictable and demanding life without dealing with hardships that could be prevented.

If the United States was truly a “free” country, there would not be a question or argument about a woman having the right to decide what happens with her body. Clearly, this is not the case because of the Supreme Court. It does not matter anymore if the pregnancy was from rape, incest, or merely an accident, abortion is now the choice of each individual state. I am an empathetic person and do not feel any woman or child needs to suffer the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. A child’s life does need to be valued, but can they be loved unconditionally if they are the product of rape or incest? Are those that are making an abortion difficult going to care for a child of incest and possible birth defects this may cause?

Unfortunately, there are people out there that do not have the means to afford birth control or to see a doctor to obtain birth control. What about the men involved? Why do they not have to suffer any consequences and why do some men think all they had to do was one small thing to become a father, but they do nothing else with a child’s life? Sex does not make them a father but being there and helping does! It enrages me that some men have unprotected sex one time, which causes the woman to be pregnant, but they do NOTHING to support the mother or child. If a woman’s right to abortion is compromised, why should men get off free?

On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court made same sex marriage legal in all 50 states. There was NO reason why this should have been an issue in the first place. Love is love and should NOT matter if it is the same sex or opposite sex, as it does not cause anyone any harm. Seven years later, some within the Supreme Court want to change this again and make same sex marriage and relationships illegal. I do not understand if these individuals fear what they do not understand or maybe they prefer the same sex and are afraid of what people will think. Again, if the United States is a “FREE” country, what gives anyone the right to say who one should love or not?

What does love mean? Is there anything in the definition of love that says you can only love someone of the opposite sex? I have never seen this in any definition and think that love is love. Who cares if someone loves another that is the same sex or opposite sex? The problem with people that want to put restrictions on love is, that they do not understand what it means to love and probably lack love in their hearts. Of course, so many want to quote the bible, which I think is a weak and ignorant person’s way out of understanding. Again, if this is a free country, why does it matter who someone marries? Just as long as love is involved, no one is getting harmed!

Considering this is “supposed” to be a “free” country, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but should those opinions weigh in on the choices people make for their lives or what they are able to do with their bodies? Of course, when something is harmful to the lives of other people, there should be laws in place to prevent and protect it. I realize some people believe abortion is murder. With that said, what is worst for an unborn child to be born into a life where they will not be safe, offered food, and a room over their head, OR to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months and go through delivery, and either keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

These topics are controversial, and I am sure what I have said will cause people to be angry, but if my views cause you to be angry, please explain to me why. I want to understand why anyone thinks anyone’s life should be controlled, especially when they are not harming anyone. I understand abortion can be viewed as harming an unborn child, but their life might be worst if they are born. And what harm does someone cause by loving someone of the same sex?

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. I do understand that not everyone is going to agree with anything I have said, and I do know you have the right to your opinions. I am just a firm believer in equal rights and do not think anyone’s right should be ignored. Life is so short, and we only get one chance, so why can we all not be considerate of others? Why should anyone be forced to change who they are or why should a woman not get to decide what happens to her body? Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

Knowing what is important in life

In a world where there are many important issues at hand, why is one of the top news stories about the incident that took place at the Oscars between Will Smith and Chris Rock? I do not think that violence is the appropriate way to handle things, but I also do not think anyone, whether they be a comedian or not, should make any comments about a person’s medical issues. People can be insulted and hurt when comments are made regarding their medical issues. When we are hurt, many people will not react logically because they are responding with emotions.

Most people already know that I suffer from Multiple Sclerosis, so I understand what it is like to live with a condition involving the immune system. The condition Jada Pinkett Smith lives with is Alopecia. This is a type of hair loss that can be caused by the immune system attacking hair follicles, causing hair to fall out. Last year because of her condition, she shaved her head. Many people living with this condition wear wigs others may choose to shave their heads. The comment made at the Oscars might have been innocent, but many in the crowd did not see it that way and Smith did slap him for his ignorant joke.

I do not want anyone to think that I am condoning Will Smith’s action, but he may have felt that his wife was embarrassed and insulted so he wanted to defend her honor. I would not expect my husband to jump in if someone commented on my health because I believe I would be able to take care of that on my own. I do not think I would become physical because that is not who I am but would make it well known the comment was rude, distasteful, ignorant, and completely unacceptable.

There is nothing we can do about the health condition we live with. It is hard enough to accept it and we should not have to worry about people making comments about something we live with. Unfortunately, we do not have control over how other people behave, but we do have a choice to ignore the comment or explain how hurtful the comment was. After we discuss how feelings, the other person has a choice to apologize and be respectful of our feeling in the future.

I was not going to write about this because important things going on in this world and I do not understand why people are making this so important. I think what is going on in Ukraine with innocent people dying daily is much more crucial. Even the gas prices being insanely high is more important. Suffering and tragedy are occurring around us and what happens in Hollywood is extremely trivial. I do believe we all need to focus on what is important and how we can help to make improvements in the world. We also need to be mindful and empathic of the way other people are feeling.

I hope you had a good week and your weekend is filled with joy. This was my second week of training and the week felt extremely long. The new job is much different than anything I have done before, but I am sure I will be successful because I am stubborn and determined. I am lucky because the trainer is patient and helpful. Next week we are going to be in smaller groups as we start doing the work on our own. I am nervous, but I have a lot of notes to use when I get confused.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you can feel the meaning behind my words, and it resonates with how you feel. I always try to understand what others may be going through in life and do anything I can to help them. We are all dealt a certain deck of cards in life, and we should never simply fold when things get too difficult. We should choose to fight for something better and know that good things come to those who wait and are patient. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~Advice to younger self~

If you could go back in time and talk with your younger self, would you have any advice to give yourself? Through our years and as we grow, we learn many lessons. Most of these lessons have built us into who we are today. Even though we learned from our mistakes in life, there are always those things we look back on and wish we had avoided because it was not an easy lesson to learn.

Years have passed by and there may have been things we missed out on because of fear of failure or lack of confidence. Would you have any advice to give yourself that could change the way your life is today, and would you want to? Over my 40 years, I have learned some valuable lessons, but I also think the way life has played out is the way it is supposed to be. However, even with that said there is some advice I would give myself that may or may not alter how my life is today.

The most important piece of advice I would tell my yourself is, never think you are not good enough. My entire life I have battled with self-confidence. I never believed that my skills in any part of life was good enough and that I should do better. I wanted to become a writer but thought that my writing was never up to par, and I would be ridiculed because of it. When I started my blog five years ago, I worried I would fail, but I have not failed and would have failed if I did not try.

I think another piece of advice I would offer my younger self would be stop second guessing myself. There have been many times I second guessed myself and then come to find out I had been correct from the start. This was not anyone else’s fault but my own because I lacked confidence in my abilities. I am not saying that I am always correct, but in some situations when I have a strong belief in something, I am 100% correct. My mother has witnessed this and is finally listening to what I say more. It only took 40 years, but at least something changed.

The third piece of advice I would tell myself is to always be proud of the person you are. You are not always going to agree with everyone around you, but if something means a lot to you never back down. I have always been firm in my beliefs and have never allowed anyone to change my mind. Of course, this has created tension in some situations, such as politics, how I treat everyone equally, and think we all have a right to love who we love. I do not judge people for who they are, unless they are harming someone else. I also do not try changing anyone else’s beliefs and will respect what they say, even if I disagree. I do tell myself that my late grandfather that I idolized would be proud of the woman I have grown to be!

The appointment I was forced to go to at the unemployment office yesterday went well but was completely pointless. The lady I spoke with asked me five or six questions and it was over. She said I should not have any issues next week with the unemployment payout, but we will see. It is terrible they require someone that has a weak immune system to go into a facility with too many people and some were not wearing a mask. Of course, I had my mask on and tried being as safe as I could.

Sadly, it is nearing on a month that Ukraine has been dealing with threats to their life. It is incredibly heartbreaking to watch the news and see what they are sharing, but even more upsetting to know they are not showing the worst of it. I guess it is good they are not showing everything because anyone with a heart and any empathy would be extremely upset. I cannot imagine what they are going through because I have never been put in this kind of situation. All I could think is it would be like North Carolina or Georgia wanting to take control of South Carolina. I mean, what do you do fight or run?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared meant something to you and I look forward to reading what advice you would have for your younger self. It is a little interesting reflecting back at life and realizing what has been learned. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

~Motivational Monday~

Happy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely and safe weekend. The new week is here and hopefully, there will be many positive things happening this week. I would like to believe that with each we are offered all obstacles we face we can build our strength and continue to be better individuals. Unfortunately, today I have to go to the unemployment office for an appointment because they are not paying unemployment this week because this appointment was not scheduled. I am not sure why these people think it is okay to withhold money from someone with bills to pay and who is trying. It is a terrible situation, but I will be sure to not surrender to this nonsense.

The world is a crazy place and many negative things happening in the world, so I think we all need to stay optimistic and motivated. I am hoping the quote I am sharing with you today will provide this to you. Bad things happen in our life, but we can choose how we react. Sure, it is easy to give up, but I think giving up is the only way we can actually fail. Please, everyone stay strong and hold onto your beliefs because this is what makes us who we are. Anyone that knows me understands that I am strong with what I believe in and never allow anyone to change my mind.

Please keep those in Ukraine in your prayers because what they are dealing with is harsh and awful! This country is being tormented and innocent people are dying daily. I have been told the reason the United States to sending active troops to Ukraine is to avoid World War 3, but we are sending weapons to help support this country. In my opinion, the United States has the most powerful military in the world and should be able to assist even further without fear of a war.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have shared today and found the quote I shared motivating. The new week has started and I hope you have a great week and each day only gets better. While the world is suffering, we all need to stay hopeful and optimistic. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Feeling Pessimistic

Happy Friday y’all! How has your week been? Do you have any plans for the weekend? I had planned to start a new job on March 14th but learned yesterday I will have to wait until March 21st. I am not going to lie, I was a little disappointed because I have been unemployed since being laid off on December 9th and miss working. WOW, those are words I never thought I would say, but I do enjoy working and having an income. This disappointment kind of falls in line with how life has been lately, but I will explain why I say that shortly.

Anyone that knows me would say that I am not an angry person, but the way things have been in the past few years has made me angry and frustrated. I hate the way things are in the country I live in and the world we all live in. My anger stems from the incredible amount of hate that has ravished the world and I do not understand why it has become so awful. I cannot understand why people have become so selfish and evil. Even though I have become angrier and more frustrated than I have ever wanted to be, I am still kind and empathetic to other’s struggles. I guess you could say it is a blessing and a curse, but it is something I have no control over.

The heinous issues going on in Ukraine are terrible and heartbreaking. Previously, I worked with two sweet ladies that were from Ukraine. I cannot imagine how they must be feeling worrying about their families. A neighboring country should NEVER torment its neighboring country just because one country wants to control the other. Two countries that share a border, should want to work together, and help one another, NOT destroy the other.

Last week, my husband and I went on our last snowboard trip for the season. Unfortunately, it was not the best trip we have ever been on because anything that could go wrong, did go wrong. The trip started terribly before we made it even an hour from our home. There was a point, I was ready to turn the truck around and head home because things were that unpleasant. I knew it was the last trip of the season, so we went on to the mountains. After a few days, of being in the mountains, my mood had become so negative I was ready to be home. The state we were in do not think the vaccine is a good idea or needed and I ended up getting into a heated debate with someone about it. I guess no matter how nice you are to someone and how logical you are, you cannot change people.

Another reason for my frustration and anger is that my pain levels have been incredibly high. Between the back and leg pain, and neuropathy issues it is hard to move around comfortably. Thankfully, I do not enjoy snowboarding as much as my husband does because the neuropathy issues made it almost impossible. The cold weather always increases my pain, so between stress and cold, I have been in excruciating pain for days. I cannot think of anyone who was dealing with the pain I have been would be overly optimistic.

The truth is that the reasons for my anger cannot be changed until the world changes. I do not enjoy being an angry person and I am trying to see the bright side, but it is getting harder. Always trying to see the good in people is a good thing but can also be painful and challenging for the mind. Even though I have been on the wrong side many times and people have betrayed my trust, I will continue to try to see the good in people. Yes, sometimes are easier than others, but there are still those few and far between times the good we see is beneficial and helps me to be the bigger person.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know this post was not very positive, but unfortunately, the way I feel is not positive currently. I know things will get better and my mood will change for the better. I do hope your week was great and you have a safe weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Is a perfect world possible?

What would it mean to have peace in our world and is this something that could be possible? Should it be so difficult to have everyone be happy, free, fair, equal, and forgiving? Unfortunately, for centuries this does not seem to have been the case. Through war, people have tried to gain more control and the desire to force everyone to think the same way. War does not do anything but get too many people killed. Attempts to overthrow other countries, killing and destroying the lives of innocent people is complete nonsense in my eyes. 

The amount of hate that erupts between people due to differences that cannot be changed is not solving any issues and only creates more problems. Why should anyone be allowed to judge someone based on the color of their skin, race, national origin, sexual preference, religious and or political following? Who can say the way another person is living, is not the right way to live? I strongly believe if we were all the same, the world would be an incredibly boring place to live. The past several years has shined new light on the way people think because it was made to seem normal and acceptable. These behaviors only spark hate and violence. Why are so many people unable to think for themselves and simply follow others like they are sheep? Why are so many unable to love and treat others with respect? It is 2022 and we all need to start evolving and being much better than we have been.

Do we even understand what peace means? I almost doubt it anymore because it is not something we have seen much of or seen at all. Peace is societal friendship and harmony, in the absence of hostility and violence. There is NO conflict or fear from impending war. We are all human, but no one is perfect so we SHOULD be able to get along. We may not have a lot in common, but we do all have a beating heart and feelings.

If you were able to make changes to the world for the better, what would your perfect world look like? What changes would you to accomplish this? Even though there is no such thing as perfect, changes could be put in place to make the entire world happier.

One MAJOR issue is corrupt politicians need to be replaced and bring in honest people that care about the safety and happiness of the world. People from every country need to rally together and become stronger. If we could support one another with love, compassion, and empathy, HUGE and AMAZING things could begin. Even people within the same country should start understanding each other.

Why does it matter where someone is from? Why does it matter what kind of job someone holds? Why does it matter who another person loves? None of these things should matter to anyone. The reasons people feel hatred in their hearts are unacceptable because most of them are meaningless. Unless someone does something to mentally, emotionally, or physically harm someone, there should not be any animosity. One person is not able to fix the issues we see, but if there was a big enough following and joining together, change is possible, and we could all live in peace!

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I know some people will not agree with a single word in this post, which is okay because these are my feelings. I will respect how you feel but expect the same in return. I would love to read your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

End of weekend thoughts

I hope you had a nice weekend and you are staying safe. I have been thinking a lot over this last week and there have been many times when I felt discouraged and even useless. I do know this is not a good way to think, so I am trying to improve my thoughts, not myself. This quote has shown me hope and how to be patient with myself and my job search. I know as long as I do not stop trying, I am not failing!

The truth is, I am proud of the person I am and know that I do deserve to be treated with respect because that is the way I treat everyone else. The things I know about myself and I am most proud of is, I am determined, strong, kind, compassionate, empathic, and most of all resilient! This may have been a last minute idea to do for a post, but I feel good about it and hope you enjoyed it!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Finally, it is time to say happy Friday Eve! How has your week been? As I have already said during the week, work is staying rather steady which is great and exhausting. Even though it might have been a long week, things could always be worst. Life can often create monumental levels of stress and we must try our best to maintain the most optimistic perspective on things. I think it is important to try seeing the bright side of all situations and even though that is not always easy, we can help support each other through challenges we face!

I hope your week has been wonderful and you are looking forward to the weekend ahead of us. Do you have any plans for the weekend? I know you will not be surprised, but I have nothing at all planned and after how long the week felt, it is just what I need. So, now that we have almost made it through the week and the weekend is so close, it might help all of us to have a short and sweet pick me up quote! I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today will give you the boost needed to make it through one last day of the week! With the troubles in the world, I believe we need to find a way to hold onto hope and never let go. With enough hope, compassion, empathy, and strength we can do anything!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I shared and I am looking forward to reading your fabulous comments. Hopefully, your Friday eve is wonderful and lacks any unnecessary stress. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibe!

Always, Alyssa