Sunday thoughts

Full disclosure and I am sorry in advance. I know I am mentioned the following statement multiple times over the years, but it still stands to be true, and I feel is worth repeating. Although life can be complicated and exhausting at times, life is short. No matter what we go through or how overwhelmed we feel, we should never give up and must do what brings us the most joy. We do not need to explain ourselves to anyone because this is our life. Other people may not agree with how we live our life or any of the decisions we make, but no one needs to understand why we made certain decisions. As long as we are not causing harm to anyone else, it should not matter how we are living our lives. 

Over the past several years and the first days of knowing what COVID was, and the damning effects it inflicted, many have been stressed and scared. These feelings are normal because COVID has killed so many. I am sure everyone has heard another strain that is more contagious making its way through the world. The new strain BA.5 has caused illness in people that have been vaccinated and boosted, which has been upsetting. However, we all must keep our vaccinations current because, without them, the chances of survival decrease significantly. It does seem as though anytime we think we have seen the last of COVID, something new appears.

I do understand that many people were hesitant about the COVID vaccine when we were first introduced to it, and many refused to get the vaccine because it was so new. We are all entitled to our opinions, but if we look at how many unvaccinated people have died when they got COVID to the number of vaccinated people that had a breakthrough infection and survived, it seems like an easy and logical decision. Scientists have stated that those who get the newest strain of COVID that are vaccinated have experienced less severe symptoms and heal faster than those who are unvaccinated. Recently, a friend of mine got sick with COVID. She has an underlying condition and was double vaccinated and had the booster, she has made a full recovery but might not have if she was not vaccinated. I think the decision to be vaccinated or not is a gamble with our lives and I am not a gambler!

Another issue everyone around the world is experiencing is the unbearable heat! Yesterday I had to go out to do a few things, which I normally do not have to do. The heat was so awful that walking from my front door to the truck caused more dizziness and irritation. Do you wonder why the heat is so out of control? Is there any doubt that global warming is real? The healthiest people in the world cannot tolerate this heat, so for anyone who battles with health issues, it can feel like their life is being sucked out of them. Extreme temperatures have always caused me additional problems with my Multiple Sclerosis, but the extreme heat is making things 100 times more intense. I told my husband yesterday that I am not leaving the house during the day anymore until at least November. I did look ahead at what the weather was going to be like next week and it looks as though more miserable days with heat are coming!

What are some of the most important things in your life? Do you think anyone should have to explain why they love who they love? Does it seem like there is too much hatred filling this world? I am unable to understand hate and I do not think I ever will understand it because, in my opinion, we are all human and deserve to be treated fairly and with compassion. We will never know what someone else is going through in life unless we try. Sometimes a person will have an unpleasant attitude because they are struggling with something in their life, but it is possible they just need someone to understand and offer them love. Do you ever think that being kind to another person might have a HUGE impact on their life and make a difference? I do without a doubt!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good weekend and staying safe. I am looking forward to reading your comments and hope that you have enjoyed this post. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. It is a little sad the weekend is becoming to an end soon and we will be getting ready for another long week, but if we view each week as an opportunity, it might make it a little easier😊! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Stand up for rights

On June 24th, the US Supreme Court decided amongst themselves and others with the same ideology to overturn a landmark decision made in 1973, Roe vs Wade. As it should have, this incredibly unethical and terribly flawed decision has caused an uprise in the country. We were supposed to be evolving in our lives, not devolving, and creating additional turmoil in a country already overflowing with hatred! The ruling regarding Roe vs Wade was brought into light almost 50 years ago when the thought processes of the people had not advanced to a kinder and more understanding way, which was the way things were in the past.

Please allow me to explain more about the way I feel about what has taken place. I am not pro-abortion, but I am pro-choice and believe women have the right to decide what happens with their bodies. Not all pregnancies were meant to go full-term, and it is not necessarily murder. Sometimes deciding what is best for the unborn child and a mother may seem unconventional and cause disagreements, but it should remain a choice. If a mother knows she does not have the means to provide a good and happy life for a child, why should the unborn child have to endure a difficult life? It is already challenging enough for people to survive this unpredictable and demanding life without dealing with hardships that could be prevented.

If the United States was truly a “free” country, there would not be a question or argument about a woman having the right to decide what happens with her body. Clearly, this is not the case because of the Supreme Court. It does not matter anymore if the pregnancy was from rape, incest, or merely an accident, abortion is now the choice of each individual state. I am an empathetic person and do not feel any woman or child needs to suffer the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. A child’s life does need to be valued, but can they be loved unconditionally if they are the product of rape or incest? Are those that are making an abortion difficult going to care for a child of incest and possible birth defects this may cause?

Unfortunately, there are people out there that do not have the means to afford birth control or to see a doctor to obtain birth control. What about the men involved? Why do they not have to suffer any consequences and why do some men think all they had to do was one small thing to become a father, but they do nothing else with a child’s life? Sex does not make them a father but being there and helping does! It enrages me that some men have unprotected sex one time, which causes the woman to be pregnant, but they do NOTHING to support the mother or child. If a woman’s right to abortion is compromised, why should men get off free?

On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court made same sex marriage legal in all 50 states. There was NO reason why this should have been an issue in the first place. Love is love and should NOT matter if it is the same sex or opposite sex, as it does not cause anyone any harm. Seven years later, some within the Supreme Court want to change this again and make same sex marriage and relationships illegal. I do not understand if these individuals fear what they do not understand or maybe they prefer the same sex and are afraid of what people will think. Again, if the United States is a “FREE” country, what gives anyone the right to say who one should love or not?

What does love mean? Is there anything in the definition of love that says you can only love someone of the opposite sex? I have never seen this in any definition and think that love is love. Who cares if someone loves another that is the same sex or opposite sex? The problem with people that want to put restrictions on love is, that they do not understand what it means to love and probably lack love in their hearts. Of course, so many want to quote the bible, which I think is a weak and ignorant person’s way out of understanding. Again, if this is a free country, why does it matter who someone marries? Just as long as love is involved, no one is getting harmed!

Considering this is “supposed” to be a “free” country, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but should those opinions weigh in on the choices people make for their lives or what they are able to do with their bodies? Of course, when something is harmful to the lives of other people, there should be laws in place to prevent and protect it. I realize some people believe abortion is murder. With that said, what is worst for an unborn child to be born into a life where they will not be safe, offered food, and a room over their head, OR to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months and go through delivery, and either keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

These topics are controversial, and I am sure what I have said will cause people to be angry, but if my views cause you to be angry, please explain to me why. I want to understand why anyone thinks anyone’s life should be controlled, especially when they are not harming anyone. I understand abortion can be viewed as harming an unborn child, but their life might be worst if they are born. And what harm does someone cause by loving someone of the same sex?

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. I do understand that not everyone is going to agree with anything I have said, and I do know you have the right to your opinions. I am just a firm believer in equal rights and do not think anyone’s right should be ignored. Life is so short, and we only get one chance, so why can we all not be considerate of others? Why should anyone be forced to change who they are or why should a woman not get to decide what happens to her body? Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

World of Hurt

I think we can all agree the past several years dealing with COVID fears has not been easy. The COVID pandemic put our lives on hiatus. All the things we wanted to do and took for granted were halted. It was not easy to be stuck at home all the time and only see the same four walls, day in and day out. While COVID has not vanished from existence, many have taken the necessary precautions by getting the vaccine. I still have hope that life can start becoming closer to the normal we once knew, but I do understand things do not always work out the way we want them to.

The truth is, we are only offered one chance at this life, so we should not waste any time on anger and hate. Instead, we should always continue growing, changing, learning, and striving to improve. Each day we encounter numerous challenges and struggles, which even though it is not easy to see in the moment, make us stronger and more courageous. No matter how difficult the challenges we face seem, if we can think of them as opportunities, they might get easier.

We have been dealing with stress and loneliness due to COVID for so long, that I can hardly remember what life used to be like. I cannot remember what we used to do on weekends or vacations. The only way I can view weekends now is time I do not have to work. It seems like for years we have had nothing to look forward to or be excited about.

Although I know cases and deaths from COVID have decreased, there are still lingering fears in my mind that I cannot erase. Besides COVID, other terrible things are occurring too often. I understand the United States will not take away the people’s right to guns, but something needs to change. We should not have to fear going to a grocery store, hospital, mall, movie theater, out to dinner, or children going to school. Gun control may help save lives or at least lessen the chance of an unstable person being able to purchase a gun. Assault rifles and semi-automatic guns are not meant to be in the hands of ordinary people and should only be used during war times. Schools, stores, restaurants, and hospitals are not acts of war.

Mental health has been a serious issue for decades, but it does not seem like anyone is trying to make changes. Those that suffer in silence and alone need to feel comfortable asking for help, without fear of ridicule, judgment, and not having the ability to afford help. There are too many people battling addictions, which can lead to depression and possibly death. Why should people be forced to suffer without any viable help? The United States is one of the wealthiest countries in the world, but the citizens cannot afford help, healthcare, or medications. That just does not seem right to me!

Unfortunately, we continue to live in a world of fears. We should all try to understand others and help when we can. Of course, we need to try putting our needs first because if we are not well, we will not be able to help anyone else. Putting our needs first is not selfish, which I do tend to have a hard time understanding because has always been in my nature to put other’s needs ahead of my own. This is something I am working on and know I will succeed with someday.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared today meaningful. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and remaining safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Is a perfect world possible?

What would it mean to have peace in our world and is this something that could be possible? Should it be so difficult to have everyone be happy, free, fair, equal, and forgiving? Unfortunately, for centuries this does not seem to have been the case. Through war, people have tried to gain more control and the desire to force everyone to think the same way. War does not do anything but get too many people killed. Attempts to overthrow other countries, killing and destroying the lives of innocent people is complete nonsense in my eyes. 

The amount of hate that erupts between people due to differences that cannot be changed is not solving any issues and only creates more problems. Why should anyone be allowed to judge someone based on the color of their skin, race, national origin, sexual preference, religious and or political following? Who can say the way another person is living, is not the right way to live? I strongly believe if we were all the same, the world would be an incredibly boring place to live. The past several years has shined new light on the way people think because it was made to seem normal and acceptable. These behaviors only spark hate and violence. Why are so many people unable to think for themselves and simply follow others like they are sheep? Why are so many unable to love and treat others with respect? It is 2022 and we all need to start evolving and being much better than we have been.

Do we even understand what peace means? I almost doubt it anymore because it is not something we have seen much of or seen at all. Peace is societal friendship and harmony, in the absence of hostility and violence. There is NO conflict or fear from impending war. We are all human, but no one is perfect so we SHOULD be able to get along. We may not have a lot in common, but we do all have a beating heart and feelings.

If you were able to make changes to the world for the better, what would your perfect world look like? What changes would you to accomplish this? Even though there is no such thing as perfect, changes could be put in place to make the entire world happier.

One MAJOR issue is corrupt politicians need to be replaced and bring in honest people that care about the safety and happiness of the world. People from every country need to rally together and become stronger. If we could support one another with love, compassion, and empathy, HUGE and AMAZING things could begin. Even people within the same country should start understanding each other.

Why does it matter where someone is from? Why does it matter what kind of job someone holds? Why does it matter who another person loves? None of these things should matter to anyone. The reasons people feel hatred in their hearts are unacceptable because most of them are meaningless. Unless someone does something to mentally, emotionally, or physically harm someone, there should not be any animosity. One person is not able to fix the issues we see, but if there was a big enough following and joining together, change is possible, and we could all live in peace!

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I know some people will not agree with a single word in this post, which is okay because these are my feelings. I will respect how you feel but expect the same in return. I would love to read your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

Happy Tuesday, y’all! We have already made it through one day this week and only have four more to go until the weekend is back! I have always wondered why the weekends are SO short and the workweek is SO long, but I guess we just have to learn to make the most of it. I do believe it is true, no matter how challenging the days or weeks are it could always be worse. My grandfather, who y’all know I idolized use to tell me no matter what I was going through in life, someone else was dealing with something much worse. I guess his words stuck with me through the years, partially because he could do NO wrong in my eyes and partially because it is incredibly true!

I will not say unfortunately we have four days left until the weekend, but I will say with there being four days until we reach the weekend again we could use something positive to hold onto. Sadly, the world seems to be struggling not just with a deadly virus, but with there being way too much hate. I have never understood and do not think I ever will why people hate someone else because of the color of their skin, who they love, where they are from or, who they worship because I see everyone in the same light. The only thing I judge people on is the way they treat others. I always say that I am an equal opportunity hater. I guess that is why I love the quote I am sharing with y’all today, but would love to know what you think!

How do you feel about the way things are going in the world today? Do you think people should be getting the vaccine because it will stop the spread and hopefully end any new variants from popping up? Where you live, has there been an increase in the levels of hatred, or has it always been there? I think there is a chance I have been naïve to levels of hate because I have never hated anyone for anything besides their behaviors. I have always been a firm believer in love, equality, respect, and fairness!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a great week and you are staying safe! It might not be easy, but it is crucial to try to stay optimistic. Just like negativity is contagious, so is an optimistic outlook! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Admiration

Admiration is a strong and powerful word, but what does it mean? Admiration is an emotion that is felt when we witness an individual that is competent, talented, and or exceeds the typical standard. We may feel deep respect or show warm approval for that person. Admiring someone could cause us to envy or be jealous of what another can do, which may motivate us to try hard and assist with self-improvement.

What are a few qualities you admire in an individual and why? There are numerous qualities that I admire in an individual that help me to continuously try to be a stronger and better person. One quality I find admirable is determination. All too often it can be easy to get discouraged when it seems like something is impossible and we want to give up. When someone is filled with determination, they never give up and use those feelings to make what was thought to be impossible, possible. There have been times in my life when I felt discouraged because life threw too much my way all at once. However, even though I felt this negative way, I always try to keep pushing forward to accomplish what I desire most.

I find people that are resilient extremely admirable. I would say that determination and resilience go hand and hand to help us succeed in life! Those that are resilient can recover quickly from the challenges of life. There is no denying the fact that life can be difficult, and it takes a lot to make it through. However, I am sure we have all survived many challenges in our lives and we keep going!

I believe an important quality to have is integrity. A person with integrity is honest and has strong morals. We might not always agree with our friends and family, but we must all remain honest. It seems like many in the world have forgotten what their morals are or even what that means. Morals are an individual’s standards of behavior or beliefs that concern what is and is not acceptable for them to do. For instance, I am a strong believer in treating everyone with respect and have never judged a person on anything but their actions.

Another quality that I find admiration is when someone is empathetic towards others. We never know what another person is going through in life, and I think it is crucial to try to understand, even though it might not be something we have gone through personally. The person that is going through a difficult situation may just need someone to listen and not judge.

A quality that I wish more people had is the ability to believe in the importance of equality. It does not matter what the color of a person’s skin is, where they are from, what their religious beliefs are, who they love, or anything else because we are all human and deserve to be treated with respect. I do not think what is going on with racial discrimination is fair. Too many people feel like they need to hide who they love because the other person is of the same sex. I believe that if people are loving and not hating, I do not see why it matters at all. During Pride month there was a very disturbing situation that occurred on a lake. One boat had a Pride flag flying not causing any troubles, while another boat began harassing them. The boat that was harassing them ended up catching on fire, which I think what karma all is about. The crazy thing is the boat that was being harassed saved their harassers by helping them get to safety. I was impressed that the boat with the Pride flag flying and being harassed saved the ignorant people because I do not think I would have.

Is there a certain person that you have a lot of admiration for? If so, who is this person and why do you admire them? Even though a certain person I have a lot of admiration for is no longer with us, I still have deep admiration for my late Grandfather. All the qualities I listed admiring, he had and then some. My Grandfather had a heart of gold and he will be forever missed by everyone that was honored to have known and loved him.

I am simply curious what would you have done if you saw the boat with the Pride flag flying and another boat harassing them, but then end up catching on fire. Would you have helped the boat with the ignorant people harassing the other boat? If you would have helped them, why would you have helped? If you would not help them, what would your reasons be?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post, and I am looking forward to reading your comments, which I will respond to as soon as I can. I hope you are enjoying your weekend safely and you can relax for the last few hours of our weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

End The Hate & Spread Love

I have started this post a few times and was not able to finish it because these issues are horrific and intensely upsetting. In the United States, we are all taught in school that we live in is a free and great country, but as we get older and learn more it is not easy to believe this anymore. I could be wrong and if I am wrong, I will admit it and you will have my sincere apologies.

Over the past few years, there have been so many acts of violence against people of color, and I believe passionately this is wrong. I have always believed that we are all humans beings and color, ethnicity, religious beliefs, sexual preferences, and anyone else that is being discriminated against should be treated equally and with respect. I have seen that the moment certain people are seen differently, they are automatically viewed as less than and I just do not understand this.

Unfortunately, since January 2020 when we had first learned of minimal information regarding the COVID virus, there has been an undeniable increase in racism that is targeting the Asian-American community. The escalated reports of Asian-Americans being threatened and/or harassed while innocently walking down the street have skyrocketed.

I think it is safe to say that we have all heard of COVID being referred to as the “Chinese Virus”, “King Flu, or “Wu Flu”, which has created vast amounts of animosity around the world. I do not have to mention any names because we all know who came up with these despicable and offensive nicknames. Too many ignorant extremists continue using these names while spreading antisemitic and racist conspiracies. There are many people in the Asian-American community that are senselessly being blamed for COVID and being told to “Go back to China”. Most of these individuals are not even Chinese and/or have been to China.

It is not my intention to make this post political, but this information has nothing to do with how I feel about former President Trump and everything to do with the verbiage he used. We may not always be aware of how the words we use can become a dangerous weapon. Sadly, the hate and racist rhetoric Trump used while speaking during news conferences and on Twitter only made “some” people believe there was nothing wrong with repeating and spreading the hate-filled lies. After all, we have been told to trust what the president says, but let us face it, politicians are not always honest. Even though Trump fueled these views, it is each person’s decision to keep the untruths spreading rampantly.

The Center for the Study of Hate and Extremism at California State University discovered disturbing information regarding an increase in hate crimes. During this past challenging year, there have been a staggering number of 3,800 hate-filled incidents against Asian-Americans. These hate crimes against Asian-Americans in 16 of the largest cities in the United States have increased almost 150&, which is grossly devastating.

I do not think I can say how we can help end these hate crimes, but we can try. It is so important to treat everyone with respect and equality. I cannot say that COVID did not originate in China because we all know it did. However, even knowing this fact, none of the Asian-Americans living in the United States are at fault. I honestly do not think anyone living in China is at fault either.

Everyone around the world has been forced to find ways to deal with the COVID challenges and we all need to continue working together so we can live a safe and happy life. There is no need to feel hate and no reason at all to spread hate. Love and kindness might not spread nearly as fast as hate does, but we need to learn how to embrace these emotions and help others feel them as well. No matter who they are and how perfect we think another’s life is, we all have struggles and we all need kindness, compassion, empathy, and support during life.

I know I have not done a post since Monday, but it is because these past few weeks have been difficult. Y’all know we adopted two kittens about a year ago, which has been great. The only bad part is our older cat has keeps getting sick. The vet told me that is normal for kittens to be carriers of infection and with Sundance’s asthma, it might take him a little longer to adjust to this. Last Sunday, I took Sundance to the emergency vet because I was overly concerned. You would think with how much an emergency vet costs they would help him improve. Unfortunately, they made things for our sweet boy much worse, and I took him to his normal vet on Monday. Thankfully, he has gotten much better and is finally eating, taking his medication, and drinking. My husband and I are so happy that Sundance is back to his normal silly self and he is getting along great with his two sisters.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope this post provided you with some helpful information and you can understand the awful struggles in the states right now. I would love the chance to read your thoughts on this post and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can! I hope you are having a great and safe weekend, and you have done those things that make you happiest. Please never forget hat I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Ways to Spread Positivity

Happy Friday eve y’all! Life has been incredibly challenging throughout the world for several years, but at the worst during the past year or so. It is not only due to dealing with COVID difficulties, but we are also seeing a massive increase in violence and racism, at least this has been a tragic issue in the United States. Most of the issues do not even begin to make sense to me because I still believe that COVD should not have reached the level of anguish it has. As for the violence and racism taking place in the states, it is 2021 and it is well past the time for people to grow with the times and end the unnecessary hatred-fueled circumstances.

We all know people who shine with positivity and we enjoy being around these people, while also find these individuals captivating. Many find a peaceful outlook to be effortless, while others may take a little extra practice to see things in a positive light. The energy we portray not only determines our interactions with others but also speaks volumes about how we feel about ourselves.

Developing a positive mindset is a skill that is well worth the practice it requires. As you begin to shift the way you are thinking, you will start to see amazing new opportunities come your way. You may start feeling better about yourself and the world we are living in, no matter how difficult things may get.

A few ways to have positive energy from the inside out are the following:

1. Make yourself be a priority:

This does not mean you are neglecting others that are in your life, but when we feel good about ourselves, it is much easier to display inner contentment to the world. Looking after your needs and developing a habit to do simple self-care things that make you feel good can make an enormous difference in how you carry yourself.

2. Understand the difference between a FACT and a THOUGHT:

The truth is, we are all human and tend to have less than flattering thoughts regarding ourselves at times. It is important to understand and separate facts from thoughts. An example of a fact is, I had a less than easy conversation or difference of opinion with a friend the other day. The thought might be that this friend thinks differently OR negatively of me now. When we focus on what the facts are, it will help to keep things in perspective and avoid expressing all those negative thoughts that can feel suffocating.

3. Learn ways to be kind to yourself:

We all have days when we feel down and that is okay because it will pass. When we do feel down, we need to learn to recognize and honor our thoughts. Being kind to ourselves can be as simple as repeating one of your favorite quotes that make you feel good and happy. Or, it could be to make an honest effort to treat ourselves with the same compassion we would treat someone we care about.

4. Use positive words more often:

The way we communicate with others has a direct impact on the energy we display. Using words such as love, willing to, solutions, absolutely, great, excellent, interesting, enjoy, etc. will produce a much more optimistic outlook!

5. Smile more frequently:

A smile is an exceedingly small action, but it can make a HUGE difference. Of course, it is not an issue if a smile is not authentic and sincere initially, but you will start to feel happier and friendly shortly and possibly appear more outgoing to others, which allures the positive energy you desire.

6. Work to achieve a goal or goals:

When we work towards accomplishing a goal or more than one goal, if you are feeling extra determined, it can serve as a confidence boost! The people that are around us will be encouraged by our strength and the belief we have in ourselves to achieve our dreams and goals.

7. Offer compliments to others:

When we show appreciation to others it can serve multiple purposes. One purpose is making that person feel good about themselves. The second purpose is this will make us feel good as well, which we are all deserving of those good vibes. Acknowledging when someone does something we admire can be an immediate boost to what we are feeling.

8. Starting living in the moment:

Try doing simple things such as putting your phone away when having lunch or dinner with another person. OR turn the TV off while cleaning the house. Shockingly enough, these distractions prevent us from living in the moment and enjoying the everyday task in life.

9. Practice good posture:

Our posture is a non-verbal way to show how we feel about ourselves. Standing up or sitting straight, shows we are both confident and approachable, which will be a good feeling.

I hope you have enjoyed this post and it helped you some to help spread positivity. Of course, it is not easy with all we are dealing with now, but we can work together and let our light shine onto those around us. A little positivity can go a long way!

Thank you for visiting my site today and I do look forward to reading your comments. I do promise to respond to all your comments as quickly as I can, but it might be after my not-so fun dentist appointment this afternoon. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Random acts of violence

Unfortunately, it is not uncommon to hear about violence taking place in the United States. Anytime we turn on the TV there is at least one, if not more awful things happening. We are constantly hearing about mass shootings, cops killing unarmed people (most often black men), or other acts of violence where innocent people are dying Some people have become desensitized to the various amount of hate-filled violence that occurs, which these acts cause others vast levels of distress and despair.

When you combine isolation due to COVID and feelings of despair from the violence taking place, the emotional impact can be extremely intense. Of course, working from home is great, but I do feel very isolated and like I am on house arrest a lot. Situations like what happened with George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Rayshard Brooks, and countless others murdered by those that are “supposed” to protect and serve, the police cause me to feel anxious and angry and I am not an angry person. The case against Derek Chauvin, the police officer who murdered George Floyd in Minneapolis had me on edge. When I watched the verdict being read it did give me a glimmer of hope, but there is still a lot that needs to be done.

The recent and senseless mass shootings that have occurred in the United States are heart-wrenching. The one on March 16, in Atlanta GA at 3 spas left 8 people dead, 6 of which were women of Asian descent. It has been stated this murder rampage was due to anti-Asian racism, which does not make any sense to me. These women were innocent and simply doing their job to take care of their families. Atlanta, GA is only about two and a half hours from where I live, but these acts can happen anywhere because the levels of hate and racist behavior are exceedingly high. I do not understand why some many Americans have any issue with people of Asian descent because these people are NOT doing anything wrong or causing any harm to anyone else.

Only six days later, on March 22 in Boulder, CO another gunman went on a shooting rampage at a supermarket. This incident left 10 innocent people who were at a grocery store picking up items needed dead. People that knew this 21-year-old gunman said he was prone to anger problems and his arrest record showed where he assaulted a classmate in 2017. It was obvious this person had issues, so why was something not done to help him?

Less than a month later on April 15 in Indianapolis, IN at a FedEx facility a gunman started shooting people in the parking lot before he continued his shooting spree inside the building. This mass shooting left 8 innocent people dead before the gunman turned the gun onto himself. Not to sound insensitive, but if the end result was taking his own life, why did he not just do that in the beginning and leave the innocent people he killed alive?

There are no motives to make sense of these tragic deaths or to make it easier for the 26 families that lost a loved one. Even though there is not anything we can do for those affected by these events, there are ways we can help ourselves to cope better.

We have all been dealing with the pandemic for over a year now, often fearing for our safety, as well as for those we love because this virus is deadly. Then adding mass amounts of violence can shake communities to their foundations. Whether you live in the United States or another country, how do these situations make you feel? Some of us may feel like we are in danger if we just go to the grocery store or other normal activities outside the home. Other common reactions may include numbness and shock, difficulty making decisions, anger, inability to turn off the images seen on the news, tension, anxiety, loss of appetite, headaches, disturbed sleep and bad dreams, and or worry about future mass violence events.

Just knowing about these traumatic situations can be emotionally draining and cause you to feel unstable with typical life challenges. Issues with work, ongoing issues with the pandemic, financial struggles, or just staying on top of our daily activities can feel overwhelming and stressful. Try being kinder, patient, and more understanding with yourself because you are not alone.

Urgent do not forget to take care of yourself. Everyone reacts to these situations differently. It does not matter if an act of violence occurred where you live or on the other side of the world because our mind and body can react as if it were much closer. The following eight tips are ways we can practice self-care.

1. Safeguard your body’s needs by focusing on eating healthy, get proper amounts of sleep, and spending time outdoors.

2. Stay active in ways you are comfortable with. There is no need to push yourself too far and causing any extra stress on your body.

3. Embrace relaxation exercises such as meditation and relaxing breathing techniques.

4. Maintain a consistent bedtime routine to help you relax at night.

5. Collect information regarding the available mental health services and support.

6. Avoid using alcohol and drugs to help you cope.

7. Take the necessary breaks from watching the news on TV and or social media.

8. Give your attention to things you enjoy such as listening to music, walking, writing, other types of arts and crafts.

I know this post was not very uplifting or positive, but these are real issues the world is facing, and they are upsetting me tremendously. I do not like being negative or angry but wanted to bring these issues to everyone’s attention. This was not to upset anyone or ruin your day, so please forgive me.

I want to thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I hope you are having a good week and continuing to stay safe! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

~A Little Inspiration, Can Go A Long Way~

We have already made it halfway through this week, which means there is not much long until we see the weekend again! How is your week going? I do hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe! Of course, sometimes the weeks seem much longer than they are and all we can do is keep trying. We might be going through challenging times, but we do still have a lot to be thankful for and just need to focus on that.

Considering all of us are still dealing with various struggles, I think a little inspiration might help us through some of those times. With all the stresses that COVID has put on us all, it is hard to remember that someday things will get better. There are also so many built-up frustrations and hatred blanketing the world, which we can help by being kind and understanding. Of course, no one knows exactly when things are going to improve, but that is where hope and determination come into place. I do realize how difficult it is staying home all of the time and when we do finally leave the safety net of our homes we have to wear masks but all troubles, and struggles will someday dissipate, and we will have so much to be proud of because we made it. It is easy to want to throw your hands up and give up, but the strong people I know we all are will not just give up without a fight!

I hope your week is going well and you are remaining safe, and not having any extra stresses added onto you. Life has never been easy and we do all face numerous complications, but somehow we make it through them all. Our strengthens build character and further perseverance for which we should feel gratification. I know how difficult life can be, I mean I was diagnosed with a debilitating illness when I was still a teenager and did not let it deter me from trying to achieve my goals in life.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the quote I shared with y’all and it provided you a little inspiration! I am looking forward to reading what you thought about the quote and everything else I have shared with y’all today. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa