The Wolf You Feed

the-wolf-you-feed-3-2015-blog (1)Good evening Y’all! I hope your week is going well so far! Y’all already know that I strongly believe that positive thoughts will provide positive times into our lives. I also believe that it takes a lot more energy to hold onto negative thoughts! How do you feel about that? Do you agree or disagree?

I know everyone has probably already seen this before”The Wolf You Feed”, but I find this extremely powerful. When you read this, what does it mean to you or does it mean anything at all? I know sometimes I do over think things because I am a pretty emotional person. The reason I find this so powerful is because we all tend to feed one more than the other. Personally I try to feed the good wolf more because it is more my personality and I just do not have the ability or power to feed the evil. Of course I have my bad days when I get angry and have a hard time letting go of those feeling. But, I also think it is very destructive to hold onto anger and resentment.

I received some very valuable advice from a fellow blogger today about making a doctor’s appointment really count. I hope I add this the right way, but Caz’s site Invisibly Me had some fabulous advice http://invisiblyme.com/2016/10/12/make-it-count-6-tips-for-your-next-gp-appointment/. If you have not already checked out Caz’s site, it is definitely worth checking out! Thank you again Caz for this great advice!!

I hope y’all have a lovely and relaxing evening! I always appreciate you visiting my site and I love your comments, which I do respond to just as quickly as I can. Sending y’all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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Invisible Illness?

chronic illness factI am so frequently hearing about invisible illnesses now. What does that really mean? Fibromyalgia, Multiple Sclerosis, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Depression, Diabetes and Digestive Disorders are just a few illnesses that have been labeled as invisible illnesses. I have Multiple Sclerosis and yes, for the most part it is invisible because no one can see the pain or any other issues that I am dealing with. I do think the most frustrating things I hear are: “You do not look sick”, “Have you tried vitamins?” and the classic “There must be a cure for it.” I want to believe these comments and questions are not from ill intent, but from those that just do not understand. you don't look sick

Honestly, I think the reason why the label of “Invisible Illness” brings many questions to my mind is because most illnesses are invisible. Why does someone need to have skin rashes, walk with assistance of a cane or walker, require a wheelchair or be attached to an IV to be sick? There are many people out there that may be battling cancer, well that is not really seen. Or what about those that deal with Chronic Sinus problems which is also not seen. They may have a running nose or watery eyes, but no one pays attention to that.

We can even take this a step further! What about people who are HIV positive or even have AIDS? These illnesses are not normally seen unless there has been extensive progression, which may cause rashes, sores and or lesions. You could be walking through the mall and pass several people who suffer from HIV or AIDS and you would not know it because at that moment, it is invisible.

invisible illnessWhat about people who suffer from Migraines or Chronic neck and shoulder pain? Now for the most part this person may look and act completely normal, like they do not suffer from extricating pain several other days of the week, but the fact is they do suffer in pain! During the times when this person does not have a Migraine or shoulder and neck pain, this would in my opinion be an invisible illness, but please tell me if I am wrong.

I do not mean for anything I said to not show credence for our issues, but I would like to be able to acknowledge all the other illnesses that are not visible to the naked eye. I guess I just do not believe those that are dealing with Migraines or other pains should not be included into an invisible label. Statistics state that 2-3 million adults in the United States suffer from Chronic Migraines and 90% of them are forced to miss work because of this issue. As far as I know, Migraines are not in the invisible illness bubble but really should be. Migraines can be completely debilitating and just miserable!

I believe that there is a huge difference between sympathy and empathy. We never really know what another person is going through in their lives, so the best thing to do is always be kind to everyone! We may meet someone who has just been diagnosed with a chronic illness and they are completelyKind word devastated, so something we say to them can either make their day a little better or even worse! Kind words can go along way in another person’s life. I always ask myself when I am talking to a new person, do I want to be a positive in their lives and make them smile or do I just not care enough to make a difference? I always choose to try to make a positive difference in everyone life because everyone’s feelings matter to me!

I appreciate you taking the time to visit my site on this rainy Sunday! I hope y’all had an amazing weekend and I hope you are ready for the new week to start tomorrow. I really do treasure the comments you make and I do always try to respond as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you are able to spend the rest of your weekend comfortable and relaxed. I did not want to forget to mention, the picture at the top, “I Don’t Look Sick? You Don’t Look Stupid. Looks Can Be Deceiving!”, is on a t-shirt that I actually have! I think it is a pretty great shirt, but some would probably disagree! Sometimes you have to add a little bit of humor to a bad situation! As always I am sending you lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Hot Topics!

177073-Beautiful-SundayI hope y’all have had a wonderful weekend! It is always so amazing how fast it goes by and then we have another 5 very long days we have to be at work! I guess it is kind of a blessing in disguise because at least we have another chance to make our week great!

I am sure everyone already knows this, but there are some topics you should never talk with family or friends about! Most of us have our own very passionate beliefs regarding politics and religion that probably do not match up with everyone. It is okay that we all have our own thoughts about these topics, but arguing about them will never solve the issues and you will never be able to change someone else’s mind! Never in my life have I ever been a political person, but I do have my strong opinions on the topic that are not influenced by anyone but myself! 

Another hot topic that should be avoided with family and friends is same-sex marriage! I am one who believes very strongly that we are entitled to love whom ever we choose Love no boundariesand therefore should be able to marry whom ever we love! Same sex marriage does not harm anyone, but talking ill of this in a “free country” will ultimately harm others. Why does it seem that so many are only okay if you marry someone of the same color, religious following, same ethnicity, but it must be the opposite sex? Who has a right to say who you should or should not love?

As y’all can probably tell, there are some things I am extremely passionate about and feel very comfortable sharing my thoughts! I think we should all feel comfortable with who we are and never feel any shame about it! I believe very indomitably that we should feel free with our beliefs! I will not get into how I feel about politics though only because that is probably a more intense conversation!

I want to thank y’all for visiting my site today and reading my semi rant! I get so frustrated with the negative thoughts surrounding these topics and will never When-you-look-at-your-enemy-in-the-face-and-all-you-feel-is-love-then-you-have-achieved-acceptance.-Joan-Ambuunderstand the hostility with certain things! Sometimes facts are facts and can not be changed, no matter what you do or say. I really feel that if there was more love and acceptance around us, instead of hatred and judgement, the world would be so much happier! I did not mean to go all pageant queen with that statement wanting world peace, but it would be really nice if we could all just get along!

I hope you have  a wonderful evening! Remember to always stay positive because it will pay off! Please feel free to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can! I would really love to hear your thoughts! Sending you love and comfort always!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Huge thank you!

Thank-You-So-MuchI am completely astonished by the amazing amount of support all of you have offered me since I start my blog in July 2017. I started this blog with only one follower initially, my husband. I made the decision to start this journey because of my passion for writing and my strong desire to help others that may be going through hard times. I felt that after living with a chronic illness for almost 18 years I could offer some hope, courage and strength for others. I am very proud to say that I am achieving my goal more and more each day due to the gratitude I have received from many of you. At this moment with each post I make over 600 individuals are reading what I write and so many make gracious comments to me that I am helping them through difficult times. I have heard so many times that my positive thoughts and encouraging words have inspired others, which really makes me incredibly happy. All I have ever wanted to do is help and motivate others that may have fallen on hard times or may possibly be struggling with illness.i-am-here-for-you

I want y’all to know how much I have enjoyed getting to know you and also learning so much from each of you! All of us deal with something that is not easy and we all have special and unique ways to cope our situations. I truly hope that y’all know that I am always here to help in any way I can. Our struggles are real, but they are always strengthening our abilities to handle the next day! Continue to stay positive and know that it is okay to lean on others. It is also okay to have a bad day and not feel very optimistic, we all have those days. However, it is important to not dwell on a bad day and remember that tomorrow is a new day with new opportunities for happiness!

I hope y’all have a great evening! Thank you so much for stopping by my site today. I look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments and I do promise to respond to you as quickly as I can! I love the fabulous communications we have had! I am sending all of you lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Amazing Realizations!

baddayI think it has taken me a while to realize that it is okay to have a bad day. It is okay to not be positive all day every day. Sometimes life might just not seem fair and putting on a happy face just does not work at that moment. It is okay to admit you do not have all the answers to everyone’s issues in life. Admitting and talking about what is on your mind is so important! Smiling through the pain can help some days, but other days it is even more important and helpful to just say “I can’t do it today.”

One day might be absolutely amazing and the next day you just wish you could go back to bed and start over again. The truth is all good days will always be followed by a bad yinday. It might not be the following day or even the same week, but it is the yin and yang to life. Rain comes with sunshine, warmth comes with cold, happiness comes with sadness, strength comes with weakness and good comes with bad, and there really is not a way around it. The only thing we can do is keep pushing forward to the next day!

No two days are the exact same for me. One day I might feel relatively normal and the next day hurt so much it is a struggle to move. I guess that is just the life I was meant to live. I do believe strongly that our lives are a gift and we are just supposed to live it the best way we can without too many regrets. On those days where my pain is at its highest, I do know in my heart a good day is just around the corner. I used to think the bad painful days were some kind of punishment and for what I never knew, but now I think those bad days are just building me as a person and giving me more strength for the next day in life.

Y’all know that I felt as though I was being negative yesterday, but so many of you graciously told me I was actually a pretty positive person. Through the comments I received you showed me how true my first statement was, that it is okay to have a bad day! Letting go of the troubles live like you were die tomorrowfrom yesterday will make way for a better tomorrow! I guess it is important to learn something from our struggles so that we know how to handle them better in the future because difficult times will always reappear. 

I hope y’all had a fantastic day and you are feeling well! Each of you have a strength that benefits someone else in your life and you may not even realize it. Thank you for stopping by to read my thoughts for the day, which let me say are much more positive! Please feel free to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I am able to! I hope y’all have a wonderful and relaxing evening. Sending y’all much love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Martin Luther King

MLKMartin Luther King Jr was an incredibly influential man, who dedicated his life to fight for equality. He was born January 15, 1929 in Atlanta Georgia into a home of strong religious beliefs. His father, Martin Luther King Sr’s birth name was actually Michael King Sr but he adopted the name, Martin Luther King in honor of German Protestant religious leader, Martin Luther. In 1931, he stepped into the role as Pastor of Ebenzer Baptist Church after his father in law passed away.

Even during his youth Martin Luther King was a brilliant man. While attending Booker T. Washington High School, he skipped both the 9th and 11th grades. At age 15 he entered Morehead College in Atlanta, GA, where against his father’s wishes choose not to study ministry because at the time he was questioning religion in general. In all honesty, I can understand why he would question religion. The treatment of African-Americans was so unjust and unfair how could anyone believe in what religion is supposed to be about? Somehow during his junior year in college his faith in religion was renewed and hemartin-luther-king-jr-6 wanted to have a career in Ministry. In 1948 he earned his Sociology degree and decided to continue his education at Liberal Crozer Theological Seminary in Chester, PA. I was not surprised to learn that he graduated as the Valedictorian and was elected as Student Body President in 1951. Upon graduating from Liberal Crozer Theological Seminary, he was accepted at several colleges for doctoral studies and enrolled at Boston University. King earned his PhD at a young age of 25.

From deciding the road of Ministry, to his final speech “I’ve Been to the Mountaintop” on April 3, 1968, Martin Luther King made an enormous difference in the world. He dedicated his life to equality that should have continued to be upheld through the years but unfortunately seems to have diminished rapidly. How many people today would organize peaceful protests that would help humanity? In 2018, 63 years after King Stick with Loveorganized the Montgomery Bus Boycott, how many people would stand up for their beliefs in the harmonious way he did then? I feel that all these years later, anytime there is a protest it ends up being a riot and there is an incredible amount of unnecessary violence. Why have we not evolved into more loving individuals?

King wanted nothing more than to have peaceful changes amongst the treatment for African-American. I am a strong supporter of equal rights for everyone because we are all human beings with feelings and it does not matter the color of your skin, love choices, religious or political beliefs. On August 28, 1963 King and his supporters organized their plans for a monumental demonstration on the nation’s capital. The March on Washington drew in more than 200,000 people all wanting amicable changes. It was during this demonstration when King made one of his famous speeches, “I Have AI have a dream Dream.” 55 years later it almost seems that so many have forgotten the very powerful words that were made during that speech. What happened to having a dream of fairness and justice?

It was due to King’s relentless efforts that the Civil Rights Act was passed in 1964. The act authorized the federal government to enforce desegregation of public accommodations and outlawed discrimination in publicly owned facilities. During that same year, King was awarded a Nobel Peace Prize Award for his refusal to accept racial prejudice in America.

Sadly, Dr. King was assassinated April 4, 1968 while standing on the balcony of the Lorraine Motel in Memphis TN. The day before his death, he made his final speech, “I’ve Been to the Mountaintop.” Dr. King motivated so many Americans to stand up not only for their rights but their beliefs. Are there many people today actually motivating society? Is it really too hard to embrace and value others for who they are? I believe that ethics has vanished from the world and it is really sad. Dr. King was just a man who made life altering changes for the world. I only wish that in 2018 we could remember Inspiring-Martin-Luther-King-Jr.-quotes-Keep-Movingand honor him for all he did for Americans and not disgrace his memory, values and strength.

Much of my post for today was to teach you more about Martin Luther King but also to share just how passionate I am for respecting and caring everyone. It only takes one person with a belief to make incredible changes. Always stand strong to how you feel and never allow anyone to discourage you. What would have happened if Martin Luther King allowed someone to demoralize his beliefs? He never lost his spirit during all his battles and cruelty that was inflicted on him.MLK Keep the Dream

I hope y’all enjoyed this post today. I encourage your comments because I would truly love to hear your thoughts. I hope the rest of your day goes well and you have a very peaceful and restful evening! Sending love and comfort to you everyday!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Community blog- keep it mindful group now up and running.

My very dear friend Kim is very passionate about starting a Facebook group for those suffering with illness. Both Kim and I have MS, so we have been chatting a lot about what we deal with. Her blog has been wonderful and what her plans are to have a nice support group is very admirable! All her information is included in this post that I have re blogged. Her blog is definitely worth checking out and joining her support group will be great!! Sending you lots of comfort and love!!

 

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Hi everybody, this is more of an update really. I wanted to create a community. I want a place for those dealing with difficulties to be able to come to and share and express feelings day to day with the comfort of knowing we will help, we will listen, we will be there. I am dealing with MS and a lot of people with chronic illness showed interest, I want us to have a safe haven and this will be the place for it. We can get to know each other and be there to help people’s down days, problems but also we are all normal people. We can laugh together and get along knowing we are not judging and most importantly we understand.

I’ve created a closed group so it is just between us so just request to join and I will accept and just leave a comment, let…

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Freezing Cold Temperatures

BabyItsColdOutside750It seems that the frigid temperatures are not just isolated to the north anymore but have expanded into the south. The temperatures in the south have not gone about 32 in several days and we are facing more chilly days this week. Some areas are even expecting 1-3 inches of snow. Snow is beautiful to see but not so friendly in the south. With just the anticipation of snow businesses and schools are talking about closing tomorrow. I grew up in the north so to me 1-3 inches of snow is very mild.

What I can say about these freezing temperatures is it makes my pain skyrocket! I guess it is because I get so tense with the cold air I cannot help but stiffen my muscles. I have found the best thing to do to combat these issues is dress very warm, make sure to heat my car before leaving the house and always have  heating pad available at home and pain-and-cold-weather-1-kate-the-almost-great-previewwork! I know it is winter and it is supposed to be cold, but living with a chronic illness that already comes with a lot of pain, the cold weather never makes it any better! 

This might sound crazy considering I am not a big fan of the cold, but if it is going to be this darn cold we need a little bit of snow! They are expecting snow to the north of where I live but not actually in my area. So we just have to deal with freezing temperatures without the sight of beautiful snow covering the ground which does not seem right! I will admit one reason why I would love for it to snow is my office would definitely close for at least a day! If it snows I would not have to leave the house and could just stay nice and warm snuggled up on the couch with my adorable cats!

Now that it is finally a new year, how is your year going so far? I was very excited for 2018 because I think it is going to be full of wonderful opportunities. I am hoping for so many positive changes both for me personally but also around the world! I know I have already said this, but I am hoping 2018 is going to bring love and respect back into hearteveryone’s life. I feel strongly that respect has been lost and I am not sure why. It seems that people are very quick to pass judgement onto others without getting to know them first or at least trying to understand them! I am the type of person that treats everyone the same and always try to be kind and compassionate. The truth is, we never know what another person is going through in life unless we ask and offer our assistance. Kind words and actions can go a long way in making someone’s day better!

I hope y’all had a great day today! I really appreciate all the comments y’all have made on my posts and I love getting to know you better! I feel like I have learned so much from so many of you and it really has been beneficial to me! I said in my New Year’s post that I am going to start writing about more things that I am passionate about which will give you an idea of who I really am as a person. I hope you have enjoyed my previous posts and I hope you will continue to enjoy my future posts! Have a fantastic night and try to stay warm! Always hold onto positive thoughts because they will help through the hardest of times in life! Much love and comfort to all of you!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Hopeful for 2018

Love heartYou might be battling with pain. You might be struggling during difficult times life has thrown your way. You might be dealing with heartaches. You may be enduring life altering changes. You might be trying to figure out where life is taking you. This might be a really tragic time in life and you do not know where to turn to. But, no matter what your struggles are you do have the strength needed to get to a brighter tomorrow. It might be hard to find positivity in life right now but the more you look, you will find something that is positive and that will push away all the negative thoughts. It may not be immediate but one positive memory can brighten your path. It could be that kind hand that reached out to show friendship or love. There is always going to be dark times throughout our lives but we need to focus on what we have found happiness in.

We are so close to the end of a year that may have had traces of struggles for some. Some have been diagnosed with chronic illnesses with no cure. Some have lost or given up a job either due to company cutbacks or downsizing, progression of an illness, family reasons, wanting a change in a career or leaving the work force. You may have had significant losses during 2017 which caused much sadness. Some may have experienced many traumatic events causing depression that is so hard to get past. If you already had a chronic illness you may have encountered a relapse that caused some difficulties. You may have decided to try a new medication with the hopes it would work for your illness, which may not have been the success you had hoped for leaving you back to making quotes-about-life-and-struggle-image-39decisions again.

This past year may have brought on some delightful changes to your life! Maybe you married the person of your dreams! You may have had the exciting opportunity to move to a new city or state to build new memories! Some may have welcomed a child to this world. Maybe you graduated from college and are starting your new career. There are so many glorious events that could have been possible making your year absolutely amazing and unforgettable.

Perhaps during this past year you beat an addiction of some sort. So many people battle addiction to drugs, alcohol and nicotine. It is always common to set a resolution at the beginning of the year to quit whatever you may be addicted to, some succeed but many have minor setbacks. Even if you did have a setback to your goal, never give up on yourself because you do have the strength to win this fight! Whether you did have a never give upslight hindrance in meeting your goal but then successfully won your battle, congratulations to you and be very proud of yourself! Many do have to try again to win the battle and that is okay, just never give up on yourself because you really can do this!

While you look back over 2017, what were the great things that occurred in your life? Did you have numerous misfortunes that required new outlooks on life or forced you to reevaluate your life? Are there any events you wished you could erase? What were the most wonderful things that occurred during the year? Did you have any massive changes during the course of the year that were either encouraging or discouraging? Are there any changes you want to make going into a new year?

Personally, I am looking forward to the New Year! With only 3 days left of 2017, these are my thoughts for the start of ending 2017. The last few months of 2017 have come with a lot of struggles but successes as well. I had a massive flare up that started in October and is gradually healing. I had made the decision to switch my MS medication to Tecfidera after being on Gilenya successfully for 6 years, because I thought the headaches I continued to have were due to the Gilenya. There is no telling if my flare up was due to the change in medicine or due to stress, but through positivity and rest I am on the mends to recovery. Of course I found out that the Tecfidera was not strong enough for my MS and ended up going back to Gilenya, but I am glad for that decision because I would have always wondered if another medication was better for me. I know that the damage my body experienced from the flare up will get better over time and with a lot of patience on my part.Why-Im-Already-Looking-Forward-to-a-Happy-New-Year-1024x512.png

I am hopeful that 2018 holds many positive changes. I am logical enough to realize there will not be some magical cure for all illnesses over night, but there is a chance we are getting just a little closer each day. I hope that the ways of society will start to improve and all that has been lost will be found. Love and respect will be once again practiced.

I started my blog almost 6 months ago and this has truly been one of the best experiences I have had during 2017. I am looking forward to continuing my blog and getting to know more of you! Everyone I have had communications with has been wonderful. It is great getting to know people all over the world and learning about their lives. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on my thoughts today. I would love to hear your thoughts on this past year and your hopes for the upcoming year! I hope you had a great day and I hope your evening is relaxing! It might sound like it but this is not my last post of the year! I wish you much love, comfort and peace! 

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

Be True To Yourself!

true to yourselfKnowing who you are and remaining true to yourself is essential in life. Never allowing anyone to influence your thoughts, desires or passions can become difficult in a world full of judgments. But we can be who we are and want to continue to be despite what others may think. We do not have to be perfect or even close to it but be genuine to ourselves and what we believe.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but sometimes it is hard to admit what those are. Faults are not always a negative but can be deemed a remarkable quality. One of my many weaknesses is my stubbornness. Even though being stubborn can be viewed as a negative trait it has also given me resilience for coping with difficult events in life. In a unique way my stubborn attitude forces me to remain positive when struggling with the pain MS can cause. My incessant stubbornness can also create problems as well. Fully understanding that sometimes there are things I need to ask for help with but refuse to do so creates additional pain or injury.

Compassion can be a blessing and a curse! When I see someone who is struggling, I want to help them. I tend to put others needs ahead of my own, especially if that person is a loved one. I will think of others pains and how I can possibly help them before I focus onCompassion 2 my own health. I go out of my way to take care of others and ensure their comfort before I think of what I need. The reason I say it is a blessing and a cure is because I know that I do not have the abilities to make everything better for all.

I hold strong to my beliefs and will fight tooth and nail to prove my point. I will defend those that are not strong enough to defend themselves or just not present at the time when they need to have someone in their corner. I feel that EVERYONE deserves to be treated equally no matter how they choose to live, as long as they are not causing harm to others. People are entitled to love who they want to love and live the way that brings them happiness. We are all able to make our own choices in how we want to live and anyone on the outside should not say that is wrong. Who has the right to say we are not living the right way? What is right for me may not be right for someone else and that is okay!

Have you ever sat down and really thought about what your strengths and weaknesses are? Sometimes those things we view as our negative traits can actually turn into a strength over time. We should be constantly growing and evolving as individuals with what we have learned. However in 2017, it almost seems like some people are devolving into what we should all know better from. We need to be learning from past experiences, whether it be our own or someone else’s to become even better than we are!

As I have already stated, I hold very strong to my beliefs and do not allow anything waver those beliefs. I feel strongly that the color of someone’s skin does not determine who they are or what they are going to do in life. I believe that the homosexuals in this stand for somethingworld should be FREE to love who they love with acceptance. I do not feel that anyone should have to hide who they are just so they can be embraced by society. Our society often sets standards as to what they think is normal, but that is not the norm for everyone and should not be forced onto people. Not everyone wants to have children but once you get married it is the first question that is asked, “When are you going to have kids?” If you say that you do not want children, it almost seems like you are considered an outcast because that is what you are supposed to do. My husband and I are perfectly happy in our life with our cats and not having children. It does not mean that those who do not want children do not like children, it just means they do not want to bring another living being into this world of chaos and it should be respected. 

My entire point of this post is that it is so important to know yourself and know what youbelieve in yourself truly believe in. To never allow anyone’s judgement or negativity to impact how you live. You are the only one that knows what in life works for you and what doesn’t work and there is not anyone that can determine how you should live. Everyone has an opinion but that does not make them right. The power of mind is an amazing and wonderful thing, so never stop believing in yourself! Never forget that you are an incredible and strong person!!

Thank you for reading and commenting on my thoughts for today or maybe I should say rant of the day! I truly appreciate all of your comments because it does give me things to learn from and become a better and wiser person! I hope y’all had a good day and have a wonderful evening!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa