Human Rights

Abortion has been a controversial issue for decades and long before anyone had heard about Roe. Since June 24, 2022, when Roe vs Wade was overturned, abortion has become an even more heated topic. The views and beliefs of people around the world are plentiful and remain extremely controversial. I understand some of these views fall in line with religious beliefs, which is their right and no one can alter their beliefs. Row vs Wade was a ruling made almost 50 years ago in January of 1973, during a time before things were more progressive. In the past, nearly 50 years have we progressed at all? Are we trying to evolve or are we only consistently devolving?

I am very aware that there will be numerous people that are going to disagree with my thoughts, but I am going to share them anyway. This issue has caused me a lot of frustration and anger, and this post has taken me over a week to finish. First, let me start by saying that I do not agree with using abortion as a form of birth control. There are risks a woman may experience from having an abortion, which may include pain and cramping, plus some intense mental health struggles, and social and financial burdens. There is already a negative stigma surrounding abortion, so I do not believe any woman is going to choose to have an abortion if it is not truly necessary.

People do need to be responsible and practice safe sex, but unforeseen things can happen. When a woman decides for whatever reason that she wants to have an abortion, there are safe ways to have this procedure completed. According to the World Health Organization, about 45% of all abortions are unsafe of which 97% occur in developing countries. Unfortunately, unsafe abortions are a leading avoidable cause of maternal deaths. If women lose the ability to get a safe abortion where the dangers decrease, the problem will be more unsafe abortions and an increased number of women dying unnecessarily.

Another HUGE problem I have with banning abortions is it is taking away a woman’s right to decide what she can do with HER body. The United States “claims” to be a “free” country”, right? Please explain how taking away a woman’s right to her body is freedom because this does not sound like what I consider freedom.

If a woman is raped, how can anyone force her to keep her rapist’s baby? That baby will be a constant reminder of the worst day in her life, which is NOT fair. If a woman gets pregnant and can be mature enough to admit that she does not have the means to provide a safe and happy life for that child, WHY should she be forced to? She was trying to put that child’s needs first and not bring it into a world where it would not have what it needs to flourish.

Please take a look at the states that have already banned abortion. Do you see a common denominator to these states? The first two states to put an abortion ban were Indiana and West Virginia. I am not surprised about Indiana, but I have been to West Virginia and have seen what people are like there, so I am shocked they were the 2nd state to ban abortion. I do not mean to bring politics into this as that is another hot topic and causes more arguments, but most of the states that have banned abortion are Republican leading with the voting poles. This is not an opinion, but a fact!

Regardless of an individual’s political or religious ideology, what gives anyone the right to tell a woman what she can or cannot do with HER body? In a “free” country, how can a government dictate law for a human body? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months? I have heard the argument that she can give the baby up for adoption, but nine months is a long time to carry a baby and endure childbirth all because a man did not listen to the simple two letters word “NO”.

Again, I understand that many people reading this post will have opposite views that I do and that is your right. I am not trying to take anyone’s rights away from them, like so many states are doing to women. Like I have already said, I do not think abortion should be used as a form of birth control, but that is not my right to decide for another woman, it is hers and hers ONLY! I believe in a woman’s right to decide if she can take care of another human life and if she knows she can’t, I do not think she should be forced to. More than anything else, I do not think any woman should be told she must carry her rapist’s baby because this was no fault of hers.

I am sorry if this post has offended anyone but am not sorry for the way I see things. I am not sorry that I think a woman is the only person that can decide what happens to her body. I am not sorry that I do not agree a woman should never have to carry a baby from rape or incest. I am not sorry that I do not agree with what is going on in the United States. I am not sorry that I view freedom differently than some do. I am not sorry that I feel a woman has the right to decide!

Thank you for visiting my site today. Although I do know many will disagree with everything I stated, I do hope it provides you with an understanding as to why I view things the way I do. When I find something extremely disturbing and when something upset me, I feel the need to write about it because it helps me to accept things and let the anger go. I hope you are having a nice and safe weekend. I do encourage you to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes. 

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday eve, y’all! How has your week been? It seems to have been a long and exhausting week, but as my late Grandfather always said, someone else is always going through something worst. Of course, one reason my week has felt long is because of pain, but the thing about pain is it lets you know that you are still alive. Maybe that is my way of coping with it because I am aware some of the pain I deal with is never going away.

It has been a couple of years, but I mentioned how it felt when we lost our dear sweet cat, Chloe. That kind of pain is emotional and it is awful. Unfortunately, a lady I work with lost her dog yesterday and I know the pain she is suffering, which breaks my heart for her and her family. Physical pain is awful, but I think emotional pain is far worse. I know it is not much, but all I can tell this lady I work with is that I understand and I am here for her anytime she needs to talk. I also know right now the pain is so raw, she does not want to talk but that I will be available when she is. I still remember the pain from losing Chloe and still break down in tears when I think about her.

We are towards the end of the week and have the weekend to look forward to. We do still have one more day to make it through, but considering we survived the first part of the week, I hope the last part will be much easier. I do believe we could all benefit from a little pick-me-up to lift our spirits! I hope the quote I am sharing today offers you support to help you to shine as bright as you can. No matter what we go through in this crazy life, there is always something positive that makes us smile😊. It is crucial to look on the bright side because things can always be worst.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week has gone well and you are looking forward to the weekend ahead of us. We all go through different struggles in life, but when we learn someone we know is struggling I think it is important to offer our kindness, compassion, and support! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday y’all! What do you enjoy doing most on a Sunday? What do you think Sundays are best for? Are you doing anything special today or just relaxing around the house? Of course, it is the day before the new week begins, but we do not have to think about the start of the week until tomorrow morning! Whatever you decide to do on a Sunday, is your choice and no one should ever try to make you do anything you do not want to do. Today is your day to do whatever it is YOU want to do😊!

My day started by waking up to our adorable cat, Luna (aka Lunatic). The sweet little girl fell asleep with me last night and stayed with me all night. I think she was trying to find a way to make my evil headache go away, which was sweet! Like every other morning, I give our older cat his medicine and all three of them their Fancy Feast breakfast! I then watched a few things on YouTube that my husband wanted to show me after his long night of work and before he went to bed. Of course, I did the last few loads of laundry, while watching a movie with our cats. My favorite way to spend a Sunday is relaxing with my loves in my house and trying to write or read a little!

I hope you have enjoyed your weekend and you were able to do the things that bring you joy. Life is short, so we should ALWAYS try at least once a week to do something that makes us happy. I think y’all know that I enjoy reading and sharing quotes. I discovered one this weekend that stood out to me. We are living in a crazy world right now where the only thing that is not unpredictable is chaos and insanity. I suppose this is the reason I found the quote I am sharing with you to be so incredibly profound. I guess this quote makes me wonder if we try seeing the world from a different angle if it could start to make sense!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will be responding to comments as quickly as I can because this is something that I feel brings us all closer together. We might not live in the same state or country, but we do share this same enormous world together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Promises are a commitment

Promises no matter how big, small, insignificant, or even who it was made with, should be valued and sacred. When we make a promise, we should strive to uphold and honor whatever we promised. A promise does not always have to be with another person. There have been numerous times in my life I made a promise to myself and even though they may not understand, I have made promises to my cats😊! Unfortunately, many people make empty promises, but maybe they have forgotten what a promise is and what can happen when a promise is broken. Through the rest of this post, I will discuss the true meaning of a promise, what broken promises cause, and what all of this means to me.

If you Google what a promise means it shows the meaning as a declaration or assurance that one will do a particular thing, or a particular thing will happen. I think our promises are giving our word to another and our word is our bond. It has been suggested that people with strong relationships have higher emotional intelligence and tend to be more likely to stay loyal and true to their commitments. Whether the commitment made is to yourself or someone else, making a promise is a commitment that you will keep your word. It is within commitment that reinforces and solidifies trust.

Breaking a promise can result in an abrupt breakdown of trust. A broken promise can be felt as betrayal and disrespect. Not only does breaking a promise disappoint other people, but it can damage your self-esteem. This can tarnish friendships, destroy marriages, and undermine businesses. Failure to keep your promise leads to declines in personal and professional relationships, creates emotional conflicts, you lose honesty, and your relationships are poisoned with doubts and skepticism. There may be lasting anger towards the one that broke their promise and feelings of shame for trusting the person in the first place.

Relationships are built on trust, so before you make any promises make sure so with the intention of keeping the promise. Trust is not easy to build, and it takes time, but it can be lost in less than a second when there is any betrayal involved. I am doing this post because I have learned through the years who I can count on and who will never let me down, but at the same time, I have learned who does not deserve another second chance. One thing that has helped me is to have low expectations for anyone that has a history of letting me down so that I am not disappointed by the same person over and over again.

We have almost made it through this week with today being Friday eve. I will never know how we made it through this painfully long week, but we almost have. Of course, we all are happy that tomorrow is Friday and then we have the weekend to look forward to, which maybe we have plans or maybe our plans are to just rest and recuperate from the week😊, either way, we are strong, and powerful. I think it is important to remind people of this because it can be easy to forget. I hope this post was beneficial to you and helped you to understand the importance of trust and commitment because those are things no one can take away from us.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week has been great and you are looking forward to the weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Remember to stand up for what you believe in and be true to who you are😊! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, support, comfort, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday, y’all! Is it just me or has this been an extremely long week? I am sure I feel this way because my week started with a headache that refuses to go away, but even on the other days when the headache was tolerable the days at work felt LONG! I have given up trying to understand why people behave the way they do because I do not think I will ever understand how people can be so demanding and rude. I think I have been looking forward to today, since Sunday night!

I have always thought that Friday is the perfect day to let go of all the negative and frustrating things that occurred during the week because we deserve an opportunity to enjoy a couple of days. We are forced to work five brutal days each week and we are only given two days to rest and live life, so why carry the negative thoughts into our time? I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing helpful to let go and live your weekend happily and without stress!

I might be wrong, but I do believe the people that cause us the most stress and pain are battling with themselves internally and their negative emotions seep out to others. This type of behavior does not make their days or lives better and only ruins another person’s day. I know I get upset and moody, but I also know how my temper can ignite to an explosive level, so I try to stay quiet. Anyone that knows me understands why I am quiet, something is very wrong and I need space. I prefer to be silent, so I do not hurt anyone’s feelings and then have to apologize a million times!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today. I hope the quote provides you with the strength to leave last week in the past where it belongs and you can have a stress-free, and enjoyable weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! We have almost made it through this week and the weekend will be here shortly! This week has been a little challenging because of the nasty migraine I had for more than two days. I hated having to call out of work on Tuesday, but the head pain was unbearable and I was miserable. I am not sure why these keep happening. I mean it could be heat, stress, fatigue, or who knows what else? I keep hearing that the daith ear piercing helps migraines, but my husband keeps telling me it will not. Does anyone reading this have this piercing and if so, does it help migraines?

At this point in the week, we have made it through three full days and only have a couple left. Even though the week is nearly over, we could all use some positivity to pick us up, right? I have seen so many times when people are unhappy and miserable, they want to criticize others. Why do people think that misery loves company? That is so awful because why do people think that making others feel bad will make them feel happier? Seems a little sick and twisted to me. That is why I decided the quote I am sharing today would be a good pick-me-up. I think it is better to live our lives in a way that makes us happy and not care what others think. We do not owe anyone an explanation, as long as we are not causing harm to anyone else!

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I know how boring I must sound, but after a long and exhausting week, I enjoy having no plans! Why make any firm plans when your work week is already planned out for you? We are forced to work five days a week, that is 40 hours each week dedicated to working for someone else. There is always someone else telling you what you MUST do and I prefer not being told what to do on the only two days I have away from work. I think it is inhumane to work more days than we get off to enjoy this short life! Would it not be amazing to work three days and have four off? Or even work four and have three off?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have had a great week and your weekend is filled with everything that brings you the most joy in life. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I apologize for any comments I have not responded to yet, but I will play catch up this weekend. The first two day this week, I was battling a mean migraine, so I fell behind. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

We are halfway through the week and much closer to the weekend than we were yesterday. Sometimes this helps me get through when the week feels like it is never going to end. Yesterday did go by fast because I was really busy dealing with demanding people that thought what they wanted was a difference between life and death when logically it was far from that. I try to help give everyone what they want, but it is not always possible.

At the halfway point in this week, I feel we could all benefit from some inspiration. Life is too short to live with mass levels of stress and feeling helpless. One thing we all need to hold onto is hope because no matter how difficult things may seem, there is always room for hope. I do understand all too well how much of a struggle life can be and we all have to endure different challenges, but if we lose hope, there is nothing left to hold onto.

One thing that I think is important in life is to always try to understand others and be kind to everyone. Of course, it is not easy to be nice and understanding of everyone because some have extremely unique personalities. Even those most challenging and frustrating people deserve compassion because it might help them to realize their behaviors are not the best way to be. I had an uncomfortable conversation with someone earlier this week. This person is not bad , but tends to put me in an awkward position that I have to remind him is unacceptable. Unfortunately, he is elderly and does not understand his actions are not appropriate.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared and the quote resonates with you. We have almost made it through this week and I am sure y’all are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. Of course, I do not have any plans, which is the kind of weekend that I prefer. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Animal love is pure!

No matter how hard we may try, we do not and may never understand their language. Unfortunately, we cannot know with 100% certainty if they can understand everything, we say to them because they clearly do not speak our language. In a country that contains massive levels of discrimination due to what I consider the fear of the unknown, how are so many able to form bonds with animals? Maybe those that are full of hatred are unable to form strong connections with animals because they can sense evil. A huge difference between humans and animals is they love unconditionally and do not judge anyone based on anything besides the way they treat others.

For as long as I can remember, I have always had a strong love for animals. My love and appreciation for animals extend to all animal life because each one is an innocent and precious creature in need of love, safety, and kindness. I cannot remember a time in my life I did not have a pet. One thing some people are going to either agree with or think is crazy is I believe my pets are more than just a pet, they are part of my family.

 Currently, my husband and I have three precious and loving cats, all of which are indoor only! Each one of our cats has a unique personality and antics to fit that personality. Our oldest is Sundance. He is a big ball of fur and love. Sundance has clear expressions that show what he is feeling. Let’s just say, he could never play poker😊! When we lost Chloe a few years ago, the sadness in his eyes was painful and broke our hearts because we did not have a way to explain it to him. The times when Sundance was sick, the lookout of his beautiful blue eyes was heartbreaking because I could not fix it for him☹.

Sundance being silly

Sundance was mourning and lonely, so we decided to get him a friend. Sundance was not used to being an only child and even had siblings before we adopted him. While I was working in our home office, I would often hear Sundance crying because he was lonely. We adopted Willow and Luna, aka Lunatic after losing Chloe. The truth is we meant to only adopt Willow, but when we went to pick her up, there was another kitten with her that was on her way to PetSmart to be put up for adoption.

Willow

Willow is a beautiful girl with the most unique and unusual personality. She takes time to trust people and is very standoffish. Willow loves spending time on her own but also enjoys laying on my lap, snuggling with Sundance (even when he is not in the mood for it), and playing with anything in her sight. Although she looks sweet and innocent, she can be extremely aggressive with her siblings, which forces me to break things up!

Luna being cute!

Luna, aka Lunatic’s personality, is very fitting to her name. On the day we adopted the girls, she seemed to know what was going on. She decided that she wanted to come home with us. She went into the carrier we had and made herself comfortable and ready for the ride home. Luna was showing off for my husband by rolling over and doing adorable little “tricks”. She without a doubt manipulated my husband, but I am glad she did. Not only does she enjoy playing with her siblings and the numerous toys, but she loves to cuddle and sleeps with me most nights. Due to a medical condition, Luna does not meow like other cats and has awful breath, but she does make the funniest and cutest little noises. Despite her breath being deadly, she is so full of love that you just can’t help loving her😊!

Camie rolling around

Recently, I noticed a couple of stray cats roaming around our house. Two of the looks like they are from the same litter. Of course, I started putting food out for them. My husband did tell me to not feed them and to not get too attached because we cannot have another cat. After all, it would cause our cats too much stress. It only took me a couple of days to get one of the kittens to trust me. She went from keeping her distance and growling at me to allowing me to pet her and now she is more interested in my attention than the food I put out for her. I have named the two cats that look like sisters, Cali, and Camie😊! Unfortunately, my husband knows me too well and I am attached to Camie because she is too cute, loveable, and playful!

The crazy thing is, when I was younger, I had cats. One was Eagle and the other was Jake, both were indoor/outdoor cats. Sadly, both were hit by a car and did not survive. After my 2nd indoor/outdoor cat was hit by a car, I somehow because allergic to cats. Several years ago, while working at an apartment community, there was a neighborhood pregnant cat. This mama cat had her kittens under my desk and did not want them moved. I was the only person the mama cat would let touch her kittens, needless to say, I managed to overcome my cat allergies!

I do not think I will ever understand how allergies work. I do know my allergies are not seasonal because I endure them year-round. Maybe I can blame Gilenya for my allergies. I will be forever thankful my cat allergies went away because I could not imagine life without my sweet, funny, loving, and adorable cats. Life without unconditional love from an animal would be sad. I know many people do not want the responsibility of a pet but will never understand how anyone could not love animals. It seems it would take a heartless and selfish person to not at least like animals!

I know the weekends are never long enough, but I hope you enjoyed the weekend. We are starting a new week and a new month today, which I hope has a lot of great opportunities for everyone. We sometimes need to make our own magic and happiness, which is why we need to find the good in each day. Yes, it can be challenging at times, but there is something wonderful in each day even if we have to look a little harder.

I hope you enjoyed this post and you have a wonderful start to the week. I know it is not easy, but try to stay as cool as possible and stress free. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Blessing OR A Curse?

Is it a blessing or a curse to be an emotional kind of person? I used to believe it was a blessing because this allows you to empathize with others, but over the last several years I am starting to think it is more of a curse. Anyone that can turn on the news and see what has occurred in the world, and not break down into tears, I envy them. So many times, even during the past month, I am unable to not do this. There have been SO many tragedies and lives destroyed throughout the world, and many were in the country I was born and raised in, which I find extremely appalling. Honestly, how seeing what has gone on in the United States, how can anyone still say they are “proud” to be an American?

I do not know any of the people who have gone through tragic times, but my heart still breaks for them. I cannot imagine what the parents have gone through and continue to go through after losing a child or the families that lost a loved one in the Uvalde school shooting. It was my last year in high school when Columbine occurred and even as a 17-year-old girl, it was horrifying. I will never forget that many thought it would be funny to pull the fire alarm to make everyone run outside, but I refused to do so after the first few because I knew what could happen as it did a week before they were pulling these immature pranks.

When I kept hearing the interviews with people who lost someone due to COVID-19, I would cry along with them. I will never understand what they went through saying “goodbye” to a loved one on a computer screen. Of course, I did not get to say “goodbye” to my late grandfather, but I was able to go to his funeral (which truthfully did not bring any peace for me as it was such a painful loss). It is hard enough losing someone we love, but not being able to say our goodbyes or have a proper funeral would be awful. Many people thought COVID ruined their lives because they were not able to do the fun things they always did before, had to wear a mask or get the vaccine or isolate at home, but the loss of a loved one or becoming ill due to COVID would be devastating.

I have seen some horrible images of Ukraine and interviews with people from the country. I might not find the way things are in the United States upstanding or positive, but at least, for the most part, we do not have to fear bombs and the military killing us daily. Of course, there have had far too many shootings in the United States, but the gunmen were typically deranged and mentally ill people with no morals or love for human life, which I guess can describe the individual responsible for attacking Ukraine.

I mentioned to y’all that my mother got married on Monday evening. Of course, I was not able to attend in person, but my husband and I watched the wedding via Zoom. It was a beautiful wedding and they looked very happy. I wish her and her new husband nothing but the best in life. I do think it is true that love can be unexpected at times and that good things come to those who wait!

I also told y’all I had a follow-up appointment with my pain management doctor. I am NEVER late for anything, but because of the insane stop and go traffic on the interstate, I was running 10 minutes late. I was three minutes from the office when the office called to tell me the Nurse Practitioner had to leave, and I was going to have to reschedule. I cannot explain how incredibly angry I was about this because every other time when I had an appointment, I was at least 15 minutes early and was forced to wait for the Nurse Practitioner for at least 30 minutes. I had just driven an hour and a half, left work early, and had to turn around and go back home! All I can say about this now is, I am glad the appointment was rescheduled in two weeks because I need that time to cool down and best believe, they better not have me waiting 30 minutes when I get there!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a good week and staying safe. The good news about today is, we are halfway to the weekend, so we are closer to the weekend than we were yesterday😊! I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Not just any kind of Monday

Most of us dread Monday morning, but today is a VERY special day! I do not have the words to explain how happy I am that my mother is getting married tonight. After kissing many toads, she has finally found her prince charming and soul mate in this life. Love is not an easy thing to find and hold on to, but she is happily marrying a man that is kind, loyal, understanding, easy to talk to, giving, loving, loves her unconditionally, and everything else that is wonderful. In all my years, I have never seen her this happy and it is refreshing. Not everyone finds love in their lifetime, but she finally has and I could not be happier for the two of them!

Unfortunately, I am not going to be at this wedding in person as she lives in another state which is over which is over 1,100 miles away. However, we are doing the next best thing and I will be at this wedding via Zoom. I know it does not seem like an ordinary way to watch your mother get married and I can admit it is far from ordinary, but due to COVID still lingering and my weak immune system getting on an airplane was not safe. I am thankful for the man she is marrying, which I have known for over two decades. It is funny how life and love work out, but things like this always work out for the best for everyone!

This afternoon I have a follow-up appointment with my pain management doctor. These appointments always go the same way and are relatively pointless, but I jump through all their hoops and follow what they require. The worst thing about these appointments is driving there because there is WAY too much road construction and too many people cannot drive. Overall, I know my appointment will go well as the Nurse Practitioner listens to what I say and knows I will not be willing to try anything different. Why change something when it works?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and look forward to hearing from you. Considering I am leaving work early for my doctor’s appointment and I have my mother’s wedding tonight, it might take me longer to respond to comments, but I will as soon as possible. I hope you had a wonderful weekend and your week begins great. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa