One Year Blog Anniversary!

Good morning FriendsGood morning y’all! I hope your week has started off wonderfully and you are feeling good on this Tuesday morning or at least as good as possible! My Monday went fairly well and I was actually able to work six and a half very LONG hours! I found this to be great success and I was pretty happy about it! If I am being completely transparent with y’all though it was not easy because I was in pain, but I did make it! When I finally was in the comfort of my home, I received a message from WordPress that read:

 

“Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!

You registered on WordPress.com one year ago.anniversary-2x

Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.”

 

It is so hard to believe just one year ago I embarked upon my blogging adventure! I will admit that at first I knew absolutely nothing about blogs, how to blog or really anything about it at all and I was incredibly nervous about sharing my personal experiences with others. My thoughts and feelings have changed dramatically over this year with y’all and there has never been even one day that I regretted my decision to take this fabulous journey!

I have been so honored to be able to get to know so many fantastic and absolutely amazing people all around the world that really understand the struggles I deal with on a stranger-become-important-peopleday-to-day basis. It has been very humbling to have been nominated for numerous awards over this past year and receive many astonishing comments from fellow bloggers with praise for my positive outlooks and my perseverance with fighting this illness I live with. I feel that I have made some real true bonds and friendships with so many of you and I am far beyond thankful for each and every one of you! With your help I have gone from three followers to over 1,000 before my one year anniversary! My goals from when I first started my blog have not wavered as I am still very determined to spread as much positivity, compassion, encouragement and support as I possibly can!  Every word I share comes straight from the heart and will always be very real; I tend to not have the ability to sugar coat things because my thoughts are my reality.

So many of you have offered me some excellent advice and it has all been extremely appreciated! I value the connections I have made over this year and really look forward amazing-people-quotes-8to learning even more from y’all in the future! I sincerely hope that the posts I have shared thus far have been helpful and encouraging to you as well and I promise to continue sharing uplifting posts!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today and for always being so breathtakingly amazing! I hope you have a wonderful day and really do hope you are feeling as good as you possibly can! Of course your comments are always encouraged and I will respond to them as quickly as I can, unfortunately work has been busy so I can not respond until I get home from work, but I still will! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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First Friday of Summer!

Be someones sunshineGood morning🌅 and happy Friday y’all! I hope you had a pleasant week and I know you must be looking forward to the weekend!! I want to wish you a wonderful day and remind you to stay cool as you can in the summer’s unrelenting heat!

I hope today we can all try to be the☀ sunshine for another person that might be in a darker place in their life. All it takes is one person to make a dramatic difference to someone else that might be suffering. After all, we never really know what the person standing right next to us is dealing with, so maybe we can help bring them some happiness they were lacking.  Spreading love❤ and compassion can go a long way and maybe this could end up being a chain reaction that inevitably spreads throughout the entire world! Wouldn’t that be absolutely fabulous? I think the world we live in would be a much happier place to continue living in, if only we could all embrace each other without any negative thoughts and or unfair judgments! Kindness, solicitude, empathy and 💝love can go a long way, if only everyone would encompass these thoughts into their daily life! Believe it or not, it does not take a fancy magician to accept others for who they are, instead of what we may think they should be! The only person we can change, is ourselves! It obviously just makes me so💧 sad and disturbed when I hear of anyone not being treated fairly. We are all just human-beings and deserve to be treated with respect!

 

I hope y’all have a wonderful Friday! Your comments are always encouraged and appreciated! I will respond to all of your amazing comments as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Who Am I?

Who am IHave you ever asked yourself this what should be a fairly easy question, “Who am I?” I sometimes am forced to ask myself this question a few times a day, especially when others challenge the person I know I am, by being disrespectful and even a little demeaning. I find that other people can cause a slight change in my views of myself and then I react unkind. For instances, there is a person I work with that seems to enjoy treating others as if they are beneath him, which creates a very hostile work environment, or at least it does for me! I do not need someone to blow smoke up my rear end, but I do demand and deserve to be respected. This negative treatment causes an excessive amount of anger and frustration in me, which then causes my attitude to be so NEGATIVE and this is not me! In your experiences and opinion, what is the best way to handle this extremely disturbing individual?

Underneath everyone is a person that is so much more than what can be viewed from their exterior appearance! Our exterior is just a visual image, but underneath that visual image is an entirely other person with emotions and passions. When I was first diagnosed with MS, I thought that people just viewed me as just my illness and not for underneath-copywho I was on the inside. Even now, almost 18 years later I feel that is all people see me as which could not be further from the truth, but I am learning that is their problem and not mine! Others view me from my outside as a vertically challenged (I am a little short) and petite person which makes people make annoying comments that I do not eat, which I do! The verbal attacks cause frustration to me and therefore make me very uncomfortable, but again I know this is those doing the talking problem not mine!

At 36 years old, I am still learning how to deal with other’s personalities and how to interact with them when it is the complete opposite of my own. When I ask myself, Who am I?, I typically answer it the same way every time! I pride myself on being ❤kind and understanding of everyone. I also have never been and never will be ❤judgmental towards anyone by judging on race, color, religion and or sexual preference. I always butterfly who am Iwant to help others get through hard times by offer support and encouragement to those! I will always be compassionate, loving❤, caring and giving to a fault despite how most around me are not. So, if I ask y’all the same question, “Who are you?” what would your answer be?

I really appreciate you visiting my site today and I really look forward to any comments you may have! I do promise you, I will respond as quickly as I can! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your weekend and I hope you are feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

800 + Followers!

Sending best wishesSince starting my blog on July 17, 2017 with 3 fantastic supporters my husband, mother and mother in-law, I have had the opportunity to get to know so many incredible people all over the world❤. My goal for starting my blog was to raise the awareness about Multiple Sclerosis and I really wanted to help others battling Multiple Sclerosis and other chronic illnesses by offering support and endless encouragement. We all know that our daily lives are not easy with random symptoms that appear with and without warning, taking various medications, going to countless doctors’ appointments, being confronted with numerous challenges, being forced to accept innumerable changes to our lives daily, even hourly and so much more! It is never easy finding others that truly understand what our lives are like.💕 By creating this blog, I have been able to learn from so many others that live with Multiple Sclerosis and other chronic illnesses affecting their daily life how they find the strength and courage to keep moving forward!

In our society today, I think it can be really difficult to be “different” from everyone else. I do not believe being different should be frowned upon, but it should we should all be proud of our differences no matter what they may be💕. Whether our illness is visible by the way we walk or talk, or invisible it can be challenging. Some people have been forced to leave their career as it became too much to handle. Some people have even been forced out of their career because people have lost their ability to have compassion and empathy for others. That just is not right to cause anyone unnecessary stress and shame!

❤I am so excited and honored to be able to share this with you! As I said when I started my blog in July 2017, I had 3 followers and that was great. Now 10 months later I am 800+ Followersfortunate enough to have more than 800 amazing followers that I am able to get to know! ❤The individuals I have met through this blog have been absolutely amazing! I would say that starting my blog was one of the best decisions I have ever made as it has brought me so much joy! 🌷The numerous extraordinary people I have been able to make strong connections and friendships with has been beyond incredible! All of us know what it is like to live with a chronic and incurable illness so we are able to offer support and encouragement to each other! ❤Y’all have truly been a blessing in my life and I am thankful for each and every one of you!

💕I really want to thank all of you for continuing to follow my blog and making incredibly inspiring comments. Through the comments you make on my site and the communications we have on your own site, I feel like I have made so many lifelong 🌷friends! 💕Let me just say once again, thank y’all for your support, encouragement, great advice and never judging my crazy moments, because I do tend to have them! I hope y’all are having a fantastic week and I hope y’all are feeling well! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa💕

Seriousness of Depression

depression (1)Good afternoon Y’all! I hope your weekend is beautiful and going very well🌤! With May being Mental Health Awareness Month, I wanted to continue sharing some additional information about what people can deal with! I also want y’all to never forget that one kind word to another can make a HUGE difference to that person’s day! ❤Love, acceptance and kindness can go a long way!

Depression, like all other illnesses does not discriminate and sadly affects people of all ages, ethnicity and socioeconomic backgrounds. Depression is more than just going through a rough patch in life or feeling sad, but can be quite debilitating. In fact, depression is the leading cause to disability in the United States among people between the ages of 15-44. You would never think that a child as young as 15 would experience depression, but it happens way more than we could imagine. In the United States alone 16 million American adults which are 7% of the population will or have experienced depression in their lifetime.Depression

What is the world causes depression for so many people? While there really is no known single cause for depression, but this may possibly occur from a series of events in life or even one major situation. Certain events in life can cause some, whereas chemical changes in the brain can cause others. Depression can be triggered by a life crisis or physical illness, but also can occur spontaneously.

Some factors scientists believe can contribute to depression are:

  • Trauma at an early age can cause long-term changes in the response to fear and stress
  • Genetics, mood disorders do tend to run in the family
  • Life circumstances such as marital status, relationships changes and financial standings can influence depression
  • Brain changes
  • Medical conditions
  • Drug and alcohol abuse. Approximately 30% if people with a substance abuse problem also have depression, which maybe these individuals were trying to self-medicate their struggles as that does happen quite frequently

There are numerous different types of depression one can experience, but I am only Depression-types-300x300going to touch on four of them: Major Depression, Persistent Depression, Manic Depression also known as Bipolar Disorder and Atypical Depression.

Major Depression is when a person is actually depressed most of the time for more days a week than not. Symptoms for Major Depression include:

  • Loss of interest of pleasure in activities
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Trouble getting to sleep or feeling sleepy during the day
  • Feeling restless, agitated or very sluggish and slowed down physical or mentally
  • Being tired and without any energy
  • Trouble concentrating or making decision
  • Thoughts of suicide

A doctor may diagnosis Major Depression if there are five or more of the symptoms I mentioned on most days for two weeks or longer.

Persistent Depressive Disorder is when the depression lasts two years or longer. This type is actually used to describe two conditions dysthymia and chronic depression. Dysthymia is a low-grade persistent depression and chronic depression is persistence of depressive symptoms for an extended period of time.

Symptoms for this type of depression are:

  • Change in appetite, either not eating enough or eating too much
  • Sleep too much or sleep too little
  • Lack of energy or fatigue
  • Low self-esteem
  • Trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Feeling of hopelessness

Manic Depression also known as Bipolar Disorder is another type of depression that so many people are living with. With this type of depression, a person can have mood episodes ranging from extremes of high energy, which is referred to as mania to low depressive periods, but they also have “normal” moods and energy in between. The mania part of this illness may involve long periods of sleeplessness along with Depressionhallucinations, psychosis or paranoid rage. The depressive episode can be very devastating and difficult to treat. Through studies there has not been any proof that antidepressants are beneficial for those with Bipolar Disorder, but a small percentage can actually increase risk for the high phases or speed up frequency of more episodes to occur.

Atypical Depression is specifier for either major or dysthymia depression. This is typically experienced first at an early age such as teenage years. This can be distinguished from melancholic depression because a person will see a mood improvement when something positive occurs, whereas with melancholic depression a positive event will seldom change the person’s mood. To diagnosis, a person will need to have at least two of the following symptoms to accompany the mood reactivity:

  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Increased appetite or weight gain
  • Intense reaction or increased sensitivity to rejection which can result in problems socially
  • Having a feeling of being weighed down, paralyzed or leaden which means dull, heavy or slow

In my opinion, people with depression often feel shame and do not feel comfortable talking to others about their struggles. I feel that it is incredibly important to never judge depression-quote-3-1-healthyplace_copiaanyone for what they are battling with in life, but we should all be accepting and offer our support❤! In some situations, depression can lead to suicide which I find extremely sad. Maybe if these people felt that they mattered and could confide in another, they would not have gone that route. Of course that is not always true as we really can not help someone who does not want help, but we can at least try to offer our compassion❤!

**Please note that I am NOT a physician or mental health professional. All the information I have shared with you is from my own research and experiences in life. So, please take this as advice not an official diagnosis for anything!**

Thank y’all from the bottom of my heart ❤for stopping by my site today. I hope you found this information valuable and offered you an understanding of what some have to deal with in life! Of course I will appreciate your comments and I will respond just as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you have  fabulous and beautiful day! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Reality of Struggles

struggle-strengthsI know just how fast life can become difficult and how frustrating that may be. Struggles are very real and most often completely and totally unavoidable. It is not ever easy to continue fighting a battle that seems more like an uphill battle, but we are all living and breathing proof it is possible and can be won in time or at least made more tolerable. It is important to realize that you can not rush change or success, it just happens when it is supposed to, not just when we want it to! This is when we much practice something I have never fully learned, patience.

So how do you maintain a positive and bright outlook while in a dark and gloomy struggle 1situation? Each person is so different with various strategies to survive the craziness of the world we live in. It makes me terribly sad to be witness to the misfortunes of others, not just in the country I was born in, but literally all around the world. Everyone falls on hard times over the course of their life, but sadly some experience it more than others and way more than they deserve. I do not believe anyone really deserves to fall on hard times, but when they do through no fault of their own, some recover faster than others by the sheer force of determination. There are times though that even the person with a significant amount of strength and determination can get beat down to a very negative level. So many events in our lives can crush our willpower to push forward; instead we tend to give up.

Is it true to say that bad choices can land people in bad situations? It is most definitely possible that poor choices can lead to a terrible amount of despair and difficult times on the roads ahead of that person, but it does not have to be a permanent situation. struggleLearning from our poor choices of the past can be beneficial to our future. The important thing to never forget is, we can not live in the past because it will always hinder our future! It is not by poor life decisions people end up battling cancer or chronic illnesses, it is just the way the story of life unfolds. It should not be viewed as a punishment, but maybe a way to show the strength we have.

 Isn’t it hard to believe we are already in May? I feel like we just celebrated the New Year recently with the hopes of so much positive changes, but I honestly have not seen many great changes. It still feels like the world is in massive chaos and so full of negativity and hatred. I think many of y’all know me by now, so you know that I try to spread a lot of positive vibes your way and I have a tremendous amount of compassion for everyone. I do not believe there is one ounce of me that has the need for drama, negative thoughts and hatred because all that does for anyone is bring them down to levels that are not healthy. I appreciate so many of you that try to spread nothing but positive thoughts and ❤love to everyone! 

Thank y’all for taking the time to visit my site today. I always appreciate all of your support and lovely❤ comments that I do my best to respond to as quickly as I possibly can! I hope y’all have a fantastic day and I hope you are feeling well! As always I am sending y’all lots of love  and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

The Wolf You Feed

the-wolf-you-feed-3-2015-blog (1)Good evening Y’all! I hope your week is going well so far! Y’all already know that I strongly believe that positive thoughts will provide positive times into our lives. I also believe that it takes a lot more energy to hold onto negative thoughts! How do you feel about that? Do you agree or disagree?

I know everyone has probably already seen this before”The Wolf You Feed”, but I find this extremely powerful. When you read this, what does it mean to you or does it mean anything at all? I know sometimes I do over think things because I am a pretty emotional person. The reason I find this so powerful is because we all tend to feed one more than the other. Personally I try to feed the good wolf more because it is more my personality and I just do not have the ability or power to feed the evil. Of course I have my bad days when I get angry and have a hard time letting go of those feeling. But, I also think it is very destructive to hold onto anger and resentment.

I received some very valuable advice from a fellow blogger today about making a doctor’s appointment really count. I hope I add this the right way, but Caz’s site Invisibly Me had some fabulous advice http://invisiblyme.com/2016/10/12/make-it-count-6-tips-for-your-next-gp-appointment/. If you have not already checked out Caz’s site, it is definitely worth checking out! Thank you again Caz for this great advice!!

I hope y’all have a lovely and relaxing evening! I always appreciate you visiting my site and I love your comments, which I do respond to just as quickly as I can. Sending y’all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa