Breakthrough the Barriers of Social Distancing

92101563_1597447863745824_3525203181490511669_nIt was not that long ago when simply going to the grocery store did not involve the fear of a new and potentially deadly virus. For the past several months we have been faced with a world-wide pandemic, stay at home orders, businesses closing their doors (hopefully temporarily), job losses, widespread fear for our health, mask, and gloves for protection, social distancing, and many other issues that have caused panic. Truthfully, I can’t even remember the last day I wasn’t terrified to leave the house or when social distancing was not practiced by most people and then getting frustrated when some do not respect the social distancing.

I feel confident saying that while I do understand the reasons behind social distancing, it Screen-Shot-2020-04-01-at-2.23.33-PMhas been very challenging and isolating. Granted, I do have my husband and two cats home with me (24/7), but let’s face it being home all the time with no changes can make anyone get irritable. I do love my husband and cats dearly, but sometimes I need a break.

I have found some ideas for activities that could help heighten our moods and encourage Boost-your-moodmotivation.

  1. Express and stay in touch-

Acts of kindness should always be something we try doing. With all everyone around the world is dealing with today a simple email or handwritten note to someone you know could offer a positive boost to their day. Think about memorable previous bosses or co-workers and send them a note. I know some previous bosses we were glad to be rid of, but I know I have at least one that I still miss and really enjoyed working with her. This person’s name is Mary Close Hall and she really was amazing! Offer to go to the grocery store or pharmacy for an elderly neighbor that struggles with getting out of the house during normal times. While in a store, either for yourself or a neighbor, thank those on the frontline and essential workers for what they are doing for the community.

  1. Stay connected digitally-Resources+2

Today’s technology has had extensive changes over the years. Millions of people around the world already rely heavily on social media sites, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. The social media platforms offer positive ways to stay connected virtually, while we continue to practice social distancing. People from various locations can interact with one another face-to-face, well a better way to say it is screen-to-screen. The possibilities are endless to stay connected safely with family and friends.

  1. Discover your creativeness-

creativenessTasks that are repetitious such as knitting or crocheting can create a meditative state of mind and relaxation in the body and brain. These meditative and relaxed feelings have also been known to decrease worry and negative thoughts. You do not need to have or run out and buy needles, crochet hooks, and of yarn there are many other forms or art that can reduce anxiety and even be uplifting for our moods.

  1. Learn a new language-language-2

While we are stuck at home with very limited interaction with others, we can be getting prepared for future travels. There are numerous apps and YouTube videos to help teach us a foreign language. We can make the most of the times of isolation and be thankful for the time we had to learn something new!

  1. Become Cultured-

WHAT'S_YOUR_LIFE_EXPERIENCES_SCORE-_(2)Now is a great time to explore art institutions and cultural events virtually. Back when things were not so complicated, did you ever think of or find the time to visit a museum virtually? I know that it never crossed my mind to expand my worldly knowledge from my living room, but now we all can try this. Google is a fantastic tool that can act as our tour guide to these exciting new experiences.

  1. Passion Projects-passion-project_4x

Is there anything you have wanted to try, but never found the time to do so? Maybe you want to write a short story, or a book, or learn more about your ancestry. Now is a good time to pursue these projects you have thought about for so long. While we are stuck at home and feeling beginning to feel anxious, diving into a long-term project can offer us a sense of purpose.

  1. Attend a virtual class or event-

physicalMany local attractions and studios are becoming creative and offering options for enjoyable free and digital experiences. I am listing a few free options for you and your family to check out and hope you enjoy them!

https://www.facebook.com/philadelphiazoo/

https://www.amrevmuseum.org/education-museum/students-and-teachers/virtual-field-trip

https://artsandculture.google.com/partner?hl=en&tab=pop

https://www.instagram.com/artwellphilly/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/travel/a31784720/best-virtual-tours/

These are just a few examples of fun things we are able to do from the safety of our we are in this togetherhomes. Do you have any other suggestions of things we are able to do from home? I would love to read your thoughts and any advice you might have!

downloadThank you for visiting my site today. I hope your day is going well and you are feeling the best you can. Please continue to stay safe and take care of your health! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Living a Minimalist Lifestyle

b2bf61c49baf8b9f9f9cbe41ccf92fb6What does minimalism mean? Where did the term arise from? What are the advantages and disadvantages of becoming a minimalist? Why should we become a minimalist and how do we become one? These are all great questions to have and I am going to do my best to provide thorough and clear answers to each of them.

Most of us have heard about minimalism, but how much do we really know? Sure, maybe we have a basic understanding of what is meant, but there is so much that is now completely known or understood.

For starters, minimalism has been around for decades, but in distant derivations. Even though religious groups, such as Buddhism to Christianity, did not refer to their rejection of possessions to gain spiritual focus and knowledge in the same way, that was the beginning of minimalism as we know it today. Both Buddhist monks and Catholic nuns are much more extreme examples of minimalism that has occurred in our history.

Minimalism was also used in music and art and design during the 50’s and 60’s. minimalism-for-musiciansWith music, it entailed removing all but the instruments. Then when used with home design and architecture, there were whitewashed images with just a simple element as a focal point.

Living a minimalist lifestyle in 2020 means you appreciate yourself more than material things. It is about making logical decisions involving what is needed, instead of always what you want. The thought process behind minimalism is rather than purchase inexpensive items simply because you want them; you purchase what is needed without focusing on the costs.

minimialist lifestyleIt seems as though we are spending more time working to make more money, only to spend what we have made on things we do not really need. Many of our possessions do not have any meaning to them and only add clutter to our lives. All possessions do is cause distractions from what our purpose in life is, all we should be appreciative for, and what brings us joy in life. After all, it is not our possessions that define who we are in life, the person we are in life go far deeper than material items.

There are numerous benefits to living a minimalist life which includes the following:

  1. Decluttering helps people breathe easier

Simply clearing things from drawers, closets, basements, attics, and spare rooms will open up space in our homes. It is important to not free up space just to turn around and buy more things that are not needed. By getting rid of things you are freeing yourself of any burdens that may be weighing you down and holding you back from a simple life.

  1. Living a minimalist life allows for refocusingMinimalist-lifestyle-Is-it-worth-being-a-minimalist-cover-1024x576

Too many material things end up causing our focus to be scattered around. All the material things create worry about working enough to pay for everything and spending unnecessary time searching for or where to put everything in our homes. When there isn’t as much to go through and bills are becoming fewer, being able to focus our time and energy on more important things such as family and doing what brings us joy will increase.

  1. Less material things will equal more money

36e7d404ad0d932ba67339a1e0f724e4As we eliminate material items and unnecessary luxuries from our homes, others are opened up. All the money that was spent on buying and maintaining them and always having the best will be in your account instead of the store’s account. When we have less material things, we are spending less and there is more money that can pay off debts, which will free up even more money for us.

  1. Living a minimalist life frees up time

When we are spending less, we do not need to work as much, which frees up time. This also doesn’t require as much time dealing with the extra things we have because we will not have as much. This will allow us to focus time on what we need and use the extra time we have on what we enjoy doing.

  1. A minimalist life give us more energyminimalism-saves-money-buried

When we are not overly consumed with clutter, all the energy we would be using to deal with it can be used for other pastimes. The people that don’t have the burdens that come along with a materialistic lifestyle tend to result in being happier and healthier.

Life as a minimalist doesn’t work for everyone because we are all unique in our own ways. Everything in life has its advantages and disadvantages. I just described the reasons a minimalist life can be beneficial, so now I am going to explain the reasons a minimalism lifestyle can be viewed as a disadvantage.

  1. Until a minimalist lifestyle is explained to friends and acquaintances, you might be f817f5ed8377987cdcfbdaa5c2af324bviewed a weird or strange.
  2. While you go through everything you have and begin getting rid of things, you might accidentally get rid of something you need later on.
  3. You might be ready to get rid of many things and begin to live a minimalist lifestyle, but your significant other might not be as willing, which could cause arguments between the two of you.
  4. A minimalist lifestyle when children are involved could have a child thinking you are a cruel parent. This is only because they have friends whose parents have not adopted the same lifestyle; therefore the child has all the latest toys and electronics.
  5. If you enjoy shopping and getting the newest electronics becoming a minimalist may be a little challenging at first.

Lifestyle changes can be challenging, but some can be very rewarding and beneficial. The following steps might make becoming a minimalist a little easier for you.

  1. Write your goals downgoals

No one has ever said living as a minimalist is easy, so you have to remain persistently focused on your goals. Write down the problems you have experienced, which are the motives behind the lifestyle change. Maybe your reasons are too much debt or the inability to save money or you are under too much stress, whatever your reasons are write them down and this can be what keeps you motivated for the change.

  1. Donate to others

It can be very rewarding when we have a chance to donate our unnecessary things to

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others that actually need them. If we do not need something we currently possess, so many people that are in need, so why not help others?

  1. Declutter your life and home

A cluttered home and mind creates too much stress, where as a clear mind and home can be very relaxing. You can start decluttering your home one room at a time and one day everything will be clear and open.

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Unless you are working in the fashion industry, you probably do not need lots of watches, shoes (well we all need shoes!), jewelry, and clothing. We all know how much is too much, so we also know what we should rid ourselves from. The clothes or shoes we do not need could be helpful to someone else.

  1. Implement frugal living

simple-life-is-a-happy-life-think-positive-words-30752286A frugal life and minimalist life pretty much go hand and hand. A frugal life is not only about living in a meaningful way, but also about living within your means. These lifestyles allow for us to save more, pay-off more debts, plan for exciting vacations, and can eliminate stresses from our lives.

I hope the information within this post was beneficial for you. Again, this lifestyle isn’t for everyone but could be worth trying. I do enjoy going through my clothes periodically and donating them to Good Will because if something I use to wear could help someone else get a job that will help them provide for their family that is worth it to me. I do know there are many other reasons a minimalist life can be beneficial and other ways to begin the lifestyle, but want to write y’all a book! If you movementhave heard or learned other ways, I would encourage you to share your thoughts. I do enjoy reading what you think about the various topics I have shared and also learn so much from y’all.

I hope your weekend has started off great and you are staying as safe as you can. Wearing masks can be uncomfortable, but wouldn’t you rather downloada little discomfort and not become infected with the deadly virus spreading around the country? I also want to thank you for visiting my site today. I do appreciate your continued support. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Interesting Individuality

Be differentWe are all extraordinary, rare, and complex puzzles made up of personality, experiences, comprehension, and emotions. Each person develops their viewpoints and beliefs system, which are mostly powered by their personal experiences in their life. No matter what choices we have made in life or which paths we choose to take along the way, all journeys can leave bruises that will help shape the person we have become.

We do not necessarily end up destined to a specific outcome. Every one of our qualities that make us who we are as an intriguing individual can be sharpened, refined, and increase growth as we continue on our life’s travels.different

What are the things about you that set you apart from anyone else? How many people have you met during your life to this point that has similar personality traits as yours? How many people have you come across that were polar opposite to yourself? A difference among everyone creates distinctiveness that can be interesting instead of monotonous and mundane. Opportunities of being exposed to the way other’s viewpoints and beliefs were initiated and how they affect that person’s daily existence.

Be uniqueWe all have characteristics and qualities that make us exceptional and fascinating. Numerous things will set us apart from anyone else we meet during our lives. I am going to describe 10 things that make us remarkably rare.

  1. Individual Personality-

Our personalities are a mixture of characteristics, attributes, and patterns influencingpersonality our behaviors, thoughts, motivations, and emotions. It steers individuals to continuously think, feel, and behave in particular ways.

Each positive and negative experience, all of our successes and weaknesses provide us with the wisdom that guides us through life. There is no one else that will respond the same way. Our perceptions and gained knowledge is distinct to only us and our choices.

  1. Individual Attitude-

Individuals attituteEach person’s attitudes are created by their personal thoughts. Attitudes dominate the ways we distinguish life and the behaviors of those we are surrounded by. Whether it be a positive or negative, attitudes can be very infectious and influential. Unfortunately, negative attitudes have a way of limiting what can be accomplished in life. Those that maintain a positive attitude can be successful and will also limit their time with others that have a neutral or negative attitude. Honestly, people with a constant negative attitude are mental draining to anyone they are around.

  1. Individual Experiences-

Without a doubt, all of our past and future experiences will influence and define our experiencesdistinct character. All of our experiences assist us in the ways we interact with others. It is common when someone goes through a negative experience in life to feel distressed, uptight, hostile, and or defensive when in hurtful circumstances and want to avoid the same issues occurring again. Those that try searching for positive experiences in order to gain a clearer understanding of the world, the other people in the world, and ways to discover a happy and fulfilled life are creating positive experiences. We never have to remain a prisoner by any negative experiences, but can gain additional wisdom from them.

  1. Individual Habits-

habitsHabits are practices, actions, and or behaviors we complete instinctively, allowing us to accomplish vital tasks such as brushing our teeth, taking a shower, and getting dressed for the day. We may do these simple good habits daily and not ever put much thought into them. Of course, there are bad habits some might do daily, such as eating unhealthy foods and not exercising which can make you feel constantly fatigued. Everyone can establish new habits to try improving their mental health and well-being, such as reading or meditating.

  1. Individuals Creativity-Creative Creativity Innovation Design Vision Concept

Creativity is an amazing way to express one’s self. There are various ways of creativeness ranging from painting, drawing, dancing, singing, writing, building, gardening landscapes, and anything else showing your unique creative side. Everyone from all walks of life has a form of creativity and there are no limits to the beauty within our creative visions.

  1. Individual Perspectives-

No one has experienced life the exact same way you have. No one perceives life the same way you do. The knowledge we gain during our life will never be the same to anyone else you talk to. No one else’s your perspectiveperceptions in life are right or wrong because all way of understanding is simply based on each individual.

  1. Individuals Taste-

There can be some similarities in taste among others we know. Our taste in foods, drinks, people we have relationships with, etc influence our lives. Each person’s tastes are mainly as aspect of our personalities. For instance, my husband and I both like pizza, but he like shrimp and I do not like any kind of shrimp at all.

  1. Individual Goals-goals

Each person’s goals influence the way they spend their time, energy, and efforts. Everyone puts time and energy into what they personally want out of life and how they want to be able to give back to the world. No one else has the exact same short, medium, or long-term goals as you do. These goals are what provide individuals with guidance, ambitions, and initiative in life.

  1. Individual’s Hobbies-

HOBBIES Activity Amusement Freetime InterestThe question regarding our hobbies is a common ice-breaker when meeting new people. Our hobbies do not necessarily define us as a person, but how we spend our time does let someone else know the kind of person we are and what provides us with happiness.

  1. Individual’s Passion-

Our passions offer us direction towards the goals we have. When we understand our passions they can show us a clear path that will lead by our values and perceptions of the world.passions

I hope you enjoyed the information in this post. I think it is interesting to learn about how other people view their life and the world. I think differences make the world go round and if we are all alike it would be a boring existence. What do you think?

downloadThank you for visiting my site today. Please remember to stay safe out there in the world because we are sadly not out of the woods from COVID-19 yet. I would love to read your thoughts on this and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

images (2)Happy Friday Eve y’all! I hope your week has been lovely and very safe! Times are still a bit of a struggle and so areas have reopened. This is of course only my opinion, but it does not matter if everything is open as it was before the pandemic, it is still best to follow the same to follow the same protocols. Staying 6 feet away from others and also wear a mask and gloves. It really is better safe than sorry! I do not think any of the states are truly ready to reopen because it is still too dangerous. If everyone could find more value in the lives of others and less value in money, everyone would be able to stay safe and alive!

With times being as stressful and difficult as they have been over the past few months, we all need a nice Pick-Mebef96fe9d8292c04956c351cc9d8c64d-Up to help us through one last day before the weekend is here! How has your week been? Do y’all have anything planned for the weekend? I do hope if you have anything going on over the weekend, you will do all in your power to keep yourself and your family safe! I hope you find this quote inspiring and gives you a little extra strength!

I would love to read your thoughts on the quote I have shared and your weekend plans! I have been a little behind on reading and responding to comments because a72ce0b1a2c01f01d41e55f1b6ed40aa--peace-and-love-happinesslife has been a bit overwhelming and insane for the past few weeks, but I plan to get caught up over the weekend.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. Your continued support and kindness appreciated more than I can explain. I hope you have a great day and you are feeling well! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and positive vibes!

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Let It Go Friday

welcome fridayHappy Friday y’all! I hope your week went well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Can y’all believe it is already May 1st? I always heard people say the older we get the faster time flies by, but this is insane because time is going way too fast. Do y’all have any plans for the weekend? Honestly, my plan is to stay home where it is Coronavirus free! It amazes me how many people are not taking this virus seriously and will freely walk around without a mask and gloves. 

The quote I am sharing with y’all for “Let It Go Friday” is short, but it hold so much truth. 2571237-Bob-Parsons-Quote-You-got-to-go-down-a-lot-of-wrong-roads-to-findWe all have to go down many wrong wrongs, before we find the road that will offer us so much bliss. Even though we will go down many wrong roads, we just need to let go of any negative emotions they put on us. Friday is a good day to let go of any pessimistic feelings we may have and begin the weekend with only Welcome Maypositive and joyful emotions! 

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope the first day of May goes great for y’all! Please stay safe and embrace the positives in your life! Never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Motivational Monday!

new-monday-new-week-motivational-gym-quotesHappy Monday y’all! I honestly lost track of how many Monday’s it has been since the stay at home orders were put in place, but I do know many states are trying to put an end to those orders. Personally, I do not think it is the right time because it gives a false sense of security. Truthfully, I do not think the orders should end until there are NO new cases of COVID-19. The numbers might be stabilizing in some states, but that isn’t happening in the state I live in. COVID-19 still scares the heck out of me because it has already taken way too many lives and I do not want anyone else to become another number. social distanceWith the weaker immune system I have because of the medication I take for Multiple Sclerosis it would be easy to become infected. Until the number of cases drastically decreases I will plan to continue using a mask and gloves when out of the house, as I hope everyone else will do the same! If you do have to leave your house, please keep practicing social distance and wash your hands frequently!

The quote I want to share with y’all today, I hope will offer motivation to start your week Love yourself enoughoff the best way possible. I do think the people we surround ourselves with says a lot about who we are. We should only surround ourselves with people that show respect, compassion, love, kindness, and encouragement. If we end up around others that do not respect who we are, they will only bring us down and we do not deserve that! I pride myself in treating everyone with respect and equality. I have never mistreated anyone and try to see the best in everyone, until they prove me wrong. beautiful_butterflies_pink_orange_motivational_postcard-r95e27e5473e64295977e92908166a912_vgbaq_8byvr_540

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope the quote I shared with y’all offered you the motivation needed to begin another week! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Common Causes for Mood Swings

download (1)Every day we are faced with numerous challenges and circumstances that may hinder our plans and goals. We still do not give up and know we must conquer the struggles with pure determination. Maneuvering through the tribulations of life can be extremely complicated, even during the best of conditions. Once moods and emotions become an influence, things can easily spiral out of control quickly.

Moods and emotions are commonly viewed to be one and the same, but this couldn’t beMoodsVsEmotions_Chart-PaulEkmanGroup-1024x768 more false. It is important to understand the difference between a person’s mood and emotions. Emotions can range anywhere within happy, elated, sad, etc. Emotions are momentary feelings that stem from an unknown cause and have no known starting point. Moods are feelings that are long-lasting and are much deeper. Moods are either positive or negative with nothing in between.download

I am sure there are several other factors that can create changes in a person’s moods, but I am only going to describe seven commonly known causes for mood swings.

  1. Restless or interrupted sleep:

Sleep is an important part of our well-being. During our deepest phases of sleep, our brain generates and restores mood and emotion balancing chemicals. When the sleep cycle is interrupted or we are experiencing restless sleep, our brains do not have adequate time to restore the chemicals needed.

1_t41ClNBdkWHw8wfTuCMRjAIt is possible for someone to deal well with a lack of sleep for the first part of the day, but midway through the day their mood incomprehensibly crashes. Moods begin to crash because the mind and brain simply ran out of necessary chemicals.

Maintaining good sleep is beneficial to manage mood swings, but also for the essence of our mental health and mood control. There are things that can be done to improve sleep quality. Avoiding caffeine and sugar later in the day, set a regular bedtime and stick with it, work around your Circadian Rhythm, and put all electronics away at least one hour before stressful-life-having-lots-challenging-situations-45994588bedtime.

  1. Stresses from life:

A person that spends a lot of time worrying about work, finances, family, and or the other responsibilities that come along with life can experience a great deal of stress. Those that worry a great deal of their time may end up completely worn out and just plain exhausted. Stress can cause issues with how we sleep, what and how much we eat and drink, and even how we feel about the world.

It is important to find ways to lessen, control, and cope with stress, which will also help sustain our state of moods. It might mean we need a change in our lifestyle, find a new job, and reduce the time spent on social media.

  1. People that surround you:

You-cannot-change-the-people-around-youThe people we are around daily can impact our lives in a positive way by adding benefits and happiness, or they can take away from our life by not adding anything but negative and only taking away our happiness or a person may remain neutral by not adding or taking away from our lives.

It can serve as a positive or negative, but those we are around the most will have an impact on our life. It can be beneficial and healthy to every now and then review the friends we are closest to, make sure the person or person is not taking more than others or not providing anything positive.

  1. Medications or treatments:

When someone with certain health issues does not follow the directions of their physician, mood swings can be a result. Problems with memory can cause someone to forget to take the medications, which can cause issues with their moods.165047c7a5e7a2b1e7ec94e92bb1e5e8

  1. Insufficient amounts of exercise:

Exercise can help stabilize both our emotional and mental well-being because it produces an endorphin boost. An inactive lifestyle can negatively affect our physical and mental health by contributing to pessimistic moods and depression.

Consistent amounts of exercise can improve an individual’s moods and even help maintain a balanced and stable state of mind. The exercise does not need to be anything more than a short 30-minute walk at least 3 times a week, but the positive impact on our mental and physical state will be noticeable.

  1. An undesirable diet of food and drink:

best_79ce6cfd04a770c66ea3_moodfood-picFood and drink are what fuels our bodies and keeps us moving throughout the day. Both the quality and types of food and drink we consume furnishes our physical and mental health.

Lower quality and beverages such as highly processed and fast food, alcohol, soda, and caffeinated beverages tend to make a person feel worse and can lead to mood swings.

  1. Weather and seasonal changes:unnamed (2)

Everyone handles the seasonal changes and weather differently. It is common for sunshine to assist our bodies to generate additional Vitamin D and serotonin, which can cause our moods to be brighter. Cloudy skies and changes with the seasons reduce the amount of natural light and can contribute negatively to the stability of our moods.

downloadWhere some people are happier with sunny weather and less happy during the winter months, some are the direct opposite. Neither one is right nor wrong, it all just comes down to each and every individual’s preferences.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope this information was beneficial to you and will help you in the future. For the most part I am a kind person that enjoys interactions with others, but if I am sleep deprived for too long, I tend to have some mood swings. I do try my best to avoid this though because then I will feel awful if I wasn’t nice to someone. I would love creates magiclove to read your thoughts on this information though and promise to respond as quickly as I can.

I hope your week is going well and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Faith in humanity

must not lose faith in humanityOur world has been suffering for an incredibly long time. There has been abundance in the amount of hatred and deceit around the world. A huge part of our problems stems from our government officials not understanding what honesty means. As we continue struggling with this deadly pandemic, we all need and deserve honesty, compassion, sympathy, and empathy from those with in power.

During the past several years, the strong faith I had for humanity has been tested. I always wanted to see the good in everyone and was able to look past their flaws. Sadly, finding the good in people and the world we are living in has become challenging and sometimes nearly impossible.little by litte

My faith in humanity became so feeble; I had to look up the meaning. I thought that maybe I had been confused about the meaning because there was NO way something could change so drastically and so quickly. The easy way to define humanity is, it’s the human race, including everyone here on earth. Humanity does not separate individuals for race, color of their skin, ethnicity, and sexual preference, religious belief, or anything else people base their judgments on. Humanity is also the word for the qualities we have.

It turns out I was not confused about what humanity means. I am proud to be the type of person that can get along with anyone and never will make an ignorant judgement of another individual. My entire life I saw each person I came in contact with an as equal.

humanity is dyingObviously, I completely understand what humanity is, so why has my faith in humanity become imperceptible? This is the million-dollar question that I am trying to uncover. The very unfortunate truth is there could be several reasons or a mixture of reasons that have caused my faith in humanity to be diminished. I am going to provide a few examples that will hopefully keep you alert of possibly losing faith in humanity.

I do not mean for this to sound negative, but anytime we hear anything on the news, it is never positive and happy events, instead it is typically heartbreaking. For the past several weeks all we hear about is either new cases of COVID-19, fatalities from COVID-19, childlike politicians blaming anyone besides themselves for what the world faces, and or snarky comments towards someone with different views. I know it is important to be knowledgeable about what is going around the world we live in together, but it can bring a great deal of overwhelming negativity in our lives, which can be nearly impossible to process and cope with.2917903_0

When an individual witnesses brutality or cruel actions towards another person, animal, or the planet we live in, our brains can’t process such horrific events and it triggers emotions that all humans are immoral, malicious, and despicable.

During times when our world is turned upside down by a family member, friend, or romantic partner, our fundamentals and views of people can become distorted. It can be challenging to handle being abused (physically, emotionally, or sexually), manipulated or deceived by someone close to us. It is normal to struggle having any faith in humanity if we are treated badly by someone we can deeply for and at one point had respect for the person.

love is the only wayOnce we are let down by the government or an organization that was meant to protect us and then we only hear lies when they speak. How are we supposed to trust and have faith in any part of humanity?

Unfortunately, there are many scam artists in the world looking to make money from our struggles. Once you have dealt with being a victim to such an awful thing, naturally it can be difficult to trust again.

Most of us have probably experienced being disrespected and some of us have been discriminated against. Personally, I have dealt with both and I can say being 0702d7308a3d4d04a14de5f55991a897 (1)discriminated against because of my health issues was extremely hurtful. Whether you are being discriminated against or disrespected, they both can make you question trust and humanity.

There are four main emotions you might feel when you are losing your faith in humanity, which may include but is not limited to the following.

  1. Hopeless- Your hope for the future might be a little unstable and it is hard to find anything positive.
  2. Anger- It is completely normal for frustration to contribute and lead to extreme anger.
  3. Sense of not belonging- When questioning your faith in humanity, you might start feeling like an outsider because you think society is in nothing but mayhem.
  4. Yearn for change- While you have been dealing with your lost faith, you could develop a desire to make changes to your own life and the world.

love creates magicI have discovered seven ways to help restore faith in humanity, but you might already the ways that worked for you and if you have I would love to know what process worked for you.

  1. Treat others the same way you want to be treated. We obviously have no control over what goes on in the outside world, but can control the way we respond and react to situations.
  2. Actively search for good news
  3. Do not share negativity on social media, there is already enough negative we see daily to fill the Grand Canyons.
  4. Spend time with children- Children do not focus or even pay attention to negativity. It might be refreshing to see how the cynical world looks through the eyes of an innocent child.love heals all
  5. Volunteer- Aspiring to help others struggling with their issues in life may give us a new perspective on our own lives
  6. Focus on gratitude- It might be helpful to write these ideas down in a gratitude journal
  7. Be more trusting- Slowly build your trust, but remember to take your time

Spread-The-LOVE-thisI hope y’all had a great week and you are feeling the best you can. I want to thank you for visiting my site today and I would love to read your thoughts on this post. I hope you are able to have an enjoyable weekend and of course stay safe! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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What is the meaning of forgiveness?

hgjbkodzNPD1V19r9N7NiGmibxCcp34dviR8z162MwwifYmr3eipg3vP9WGWqqZjbPbfW47hj7He6Djg1ZhY7p48xEWhat does forgiveness mean to you? According to psychologists, whether forgiveness is deserved or not, it is a conscious and deliberate decision to release the feelings of resentment or vengeance towards the individual who caused the harm. Now, forgiveness does not mean forgetting what has occurred that you are excusing the wrongful and indecorous acts.

Forgiveness is not an easy task, especially if there was an intense amount of hurt and loss of trust involved. There are some acts that take hours, days, months, years, or even a lifetime to forgive. Coming to terms with what happened to cause your hurt can be very complicated, but taking the proper steps can provide both emotional and physical benefits.unnamed (2)

Forgiveness is so complicated that psychologists have broken it down into two parts.

Part One is referred to as decisional forgiveness. This part means to make the decision to forgive and not seek out retribution or retaliation. This is typically the easier aspect of forgiveness because it is the type of person we are. It is understood that someone has done us wrong, but our morals remind us that causing them harm will not solve any issue and will cause additional problems.

Part Two is known as emotional forgiveness. This is the second part of forgiveness and tends to take longer than decisional forgiveness. During this part of forgiveness, there is download (2)a release of the negative emotions we are feeling towards the person that was part of the wrongdoings.

Forgiveness is often considered to be fulfilled when there are not any negative emotions lingering and our feelings are neutral. It has been suggested that forgiveness occurs when the feelings you once felt for the wrongdoer are able to return. Emotional forgiveness entails us to abolish any unforgiving feelings.

Many people seem to get confused about what forgiveness is and isn’t. The following items are examples of what forgiveness isn’t.

  1. Forgetting- Even though we may have come to terms with what caused our hurt, itimage-asset doesn’t mean we have forgotten what took place. Remembering the wrongdoing can be beneficial for us so we do not fall into the same negative trap again.
  2. Condoning- You do not have to view the wrongdoing as acceptable or allow the person that did wrong to behave in the same manner again.
  3. Denying or minimizing- Emotionally you may have moved on from the hurtful situation, but this doesn’t mean the severity of hurt inflicted should be denied.
  4. Pardoning- Even if we have forgiven the person that hurt us, it doesn’t mean justice can’t be served. You may need your local law enforcement to get involved if the situation requires them.
  5. Reconciliation- Forgiveness could involve mending a damaged relationship. However, just because we have forgiven someone, it doesn’t mean the person that forgiveness_1080x675_originalcaused the hurt should remain in our life.
  6. Repression- When you are hurt by someone, this is a valid feeling. Just because we have forgiven someone, doesn’t mean we should push our feelings into our unconscious mind.

Forgiveness does offer many health benefits as it can effectively combat the physical and emotional effects of the wrongdoing. Other benefits include positive effects on anger, anxiety, grief, post-traumatic stress, depression, blood pressure, and even lower back pain.6a00d83534ac5b69e2017d40acc967970c

There have been several models developed to help make forgiveness a little easier.

Robert D. Enright, Ph.D. a processor, at the University of Wisconsin-Madison and a pioneer in the scientific research of forgiveness created The Enright Forgiveness Model. Dr. Enright broke forgiveness into four phases, which are as followed:

  1. Uncovering phase-

This phase consists of four questions to answer before forgiveness can take place.

  1. Who has hurt you and who are they to you?
  2. What was done to cause your hurt? What took place, was said, and the circumstance encircling the act
  3. What was the outcome or the act? What ways were you impacted?
  4. How did the act affect your mental and emotional well-being?

forgiveness_05-1This phase allows you to uncover as much as you can about what took place. Addressing the issues will cause emotional distress.

  1. Decision Phase-

This is a decision you will make to direct your life in a positive direction. This relates to decisional forgiveness and requires you to let go of any feelings of retaliation.

  1. Work Phase-

You may need to change your views of the person that wronged you. This could requireTyler-Perry-Its-not-an-easy-journey-to-get-to-a-place-where-you-forgive-people-copy-686x440 you to look past the way this person has hurt you and view their background for answers regarding their behavior. Once you can view this person in a different way, you may realize the actions were due to their childhood or other aspects of their past and be able to empathize with them. Nothing you have discovered requires reconciliation, but you might be able to start taking small steps to rebuild the relationship if that’s what you want.

  1. Deepening Phase-

arch_forgivenessThis is the final step in understanding that forgiveness provides an emotional release. You can acknowledge that the negative emotions felt are because of the wrongdoing has eased up and it is time to forgive the wrongdoer. 

You know that our growth tends to come during the most difficult times in our life. You may even begin looking at your own life and actions made differently and see that you may need to seek forgiveness from another person.forgiveness-is-another-name-for-freedom

This was a short and simple overview of Dr. Enright’s process. If you have further interest, there is a book available on Amazon that I am including a link for. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1557987572/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=aconret-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1557987572&linkId=1bcd69054c6ba8b9b4855006995193ad

  1. A semi-retired professor at Virginia Commonwealth University, Everett Worthington Jr. Ph.D. created a different model called Worthington REACH Forgiveness Model. REACH is an acronym, each letter representing a stage in the model.

R- Recall- This is the first step, where you need to look back at the event that caused your hurt. It might be difficult, but keep things as objective as you can. Only stick to the facts and words that were spoken. Remember the person that wronged you is not a bad person, they are simply human. You are not a victim, but you are just another images (2)humanbeing. The wrongdoing you experienced is no more than a series of actions taken.

E- Empathize- This will be challenging, but we need to try putting ourselves in the other person’s shoes. If we asked this person, what would be a possible reason they behaved as they did? Did they have motives? Were there circumstances involved and how did they contribute to the hurtful event?

Are you able to see any reason you can feel sympathy for the wrongdoer?

A- Altruistic Gift– We will be viewing forgiveness as a gift to the wrongdoer in this model. This is a gift coming from a purely unselfish point. This is not an easy step, but it is an important step.Power-In-Forgiveness-FBK

Think back to a time you may have hurt someone else causing that person to have a challenging time, but this person forgave you. How did this make you feel? Were you relieved you were forgiven?

Now, recall a time when you previously forgave someone? How did this make you feel? Completely understanding that forgiving in the past offered you comfort and peace; would you consider this to be a gift?

C- Commit- When you finally reach the point you are ready to forgive the wrongdoer, 2015-03-23-1427149821-7830006-CommitToForgiveness-thumbyou must be sure you fully commit to this.

How are you going to move forward with forgiving? Write a letter or email; call the person or any other means you see fit. Whatever you decide to do, remind yourself you are fully committed to forgiving and act on it!

H- Hold onto forgiveness- In the previous stage, we were committing to forgiving in a way that we would not change our minds. Remember, forgiving is completely up to you and you hold the power to choose what emotions you allow to control your mind. The memories of the situation will always be there. Just remember, you are not taking the forgiveness away, just know and remember the way you felt, so you will hopefully not feel it again.images (2)

Anything can be forgiven; just some acts may take longer to get through. When we forgive someone nothing will happen overnight, so remember to take the time you need to be ready to forgive!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope this information was beneficial to you. Sometimes forgiveness might seem impossible, but with the right amount of time and beautiful_butterflies_pink_orange_motivational_postcard-r95e27e5473e64295977e92908166a912_vgbaq_8byvr_540understanding, you will get there. I would love to read your thoughts on forgiveness. We have all been in a position we had to make a choice to forgive someone or not. I do think forgiveness is more to help our emotional state of mind, than the other person, but what do you think?

Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!!

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High sensitivity makes you stronger, not weaker

main-qimg-abb7dd235b660e3e1e5867419d060fb0Throughout your life, how many times have you heard that you are “overly” sensitive and emotional and care too much for others? First of all, this doesn’t make sense to me because I believe in a world that is full of negativity and hatred; we all need more compassion shown. Maybe the “overly” sensitive and caring people are here to combat the ugliness in the world today.

Unfortunately, many times our level of sensitivity and ability to care is viewed as a weakness. I do believe that anyone who can say Emotionally-Sensitive-Quotesanother person cares too much and views that person as overly sensitive does not understand just how the traits they very as a weakness are in fact a sign of vast strength.

It is because you care why you are not able to do what so many others do and turn a blind eye to someone who is suffering. Instead of turning around to walk away, the desire to do all you can to help runs deep within your soul. You will do whatever you can to contribute to alleviating the anguish another has experienced.

highly-sensitiveDue to how effortlessly you care, you have an endless ability to understand the unpredictability of the world we are living in today. You have the inner strength to look beyond your own needs but look toward to needs of another person. You do not have any issues sacrificing if it will help someone else find their way to better and happier days.

The way society is in 2020 is causing many to show little to no respect for another person and only look out for who they view as most important, themselves. You on the other hand always try seeing the good in everyone. You refuse to judge anyone for their flaws and can recognize we are all flawed. By having the ability to understand everyone has their own set of flaws, you can care for everyone despite their flaws and treat them with the respect they deserve.

One issue that gets your blood boiling is when someone in a powerful position abuses too-sensitive-1024x765their power. You will stand up to those behaving in a disrespectful manner and stand up for those that are being mistreated. You feel strongly that people deserve to be treated fairly and with the utmost respect.

While so many people are significantly passive, you are strong enough to fight for what is right. You always have the ability to be proactive solving problems, instead of reactive and fully understand the difference.

Your morals and convictions are powerful enough to not allow for your beliefs to be influenced. You are stubborn almost to a fault but instead, you are completely determined to do the right thing. You hold onto your integrity and remain passionate about your beliefs.unnamed

You do not have any issues showing your emotions in front of people. Like so many fears showing their emotions because they think they will be viewed as weak, you pretty much wear your heart on your sleeve. It takes a stronger person to be comfortable crying rather than a person who tries hiding their feelings.

Personally, I think it is sad that sensitive people are often viewed as weak. Honestly, it is the sensitivity that provides us with an ability to be strong, effective, and prosperous Too-sensitivewhen facing hardships. The traits that make us highly sensitive are the qualities that develop our inner strength. It is so important to not try being less sensitive but to acknowledge these as our strengths.

Somethings that highly sensitive people need to understand is:

  1. Awareness- Most highly sensitive people are very aware of their surroundings and feelings, which help them understand when stressed, overwhelmed, and what is required to be calmer.
  2. Creativity- Our creative adventures provide us with the ability to the way our energies to flow in positive ways.
  3. Empathy is being able to put yourself in someone else’s shows easily. This gives a sense of recognition while understanding human nature.64d884de435829b732b5bcae2d6bd0cb
  4. Appreciation- Highly sensitive people are able to notice details and deeply appreciate the beauty the world has daily. Appreciating life builds our inner strength because we do have so much to be thankful for and also brings a sense of inner calmness, happiness, and joy.
  5. Passion- Even though highly sensitive people tend to be gentle and compassionate, they are also extremely passionate. They often have very strong beliefs regarding their values and strongly believe in certain topics, which helps them to be resilient. Highly sensitive people will continue moving forward regardless of the challenges they may encounter, risk and dangers they could face and even their own internal fears.66dd38238519bc06a28f0b15bf8ba9af

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your day, but also staying very safe. I can’t believe it is already April, but I guess time just flies by. I wanted to let y’all know that there four different awareness’s I am going to be writing about, one is Parkinson’s which will be dedicated to my stepfather, two is alcohol awareness as this affects so many, three is stress awareness which directly impacts my life and lastly is child abuse awareness.

I hope the information provided in this post was beneficial for your life. I do look oiupforward to reading your comments on it and promise to respond as quickly as possible. I do feel like y’all are a lot like me and you are highly sensitive people, which is not something to ever feel ashamed of. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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