Two weeks has past!

Time-for-an-UpdateGood evening y’all! It is incredibly hard to believe that it has already been two weeks since my husband and I uprooted our lives by moving to a new state and city! Two weeks ago when we made this change I was terrified about the decision we had made, but now I couldn’t be happier we made this fabulous move! I think the new city and my new job have done so much for the sanity I still had left and my massive stress-levels. The new city is a little smaller than where we were living and so far the people are a lot nicer.

My new job has so far been absolutely amazing and the people are SO very kind, which is a huge change for me. I mean don’t get me wrong, there were a few people at the old job that were great, but the bad definitely out-weighed the good there. My new boss is an older man who stays very busy with good things comenumerous meetings and tasks, but when he is in the office he is super kind and willing to answer any questions I might have. So far, my job has been very interesting! I have been learning about what my job entails and how to maintain a schedule for the VP of Finance. There is so much more to this job that I am very excited to learn. I am thrilled that I am going to be traveling with a co-worker for a week of training out of the state. This training will make me become a Certified Housing Counselor. I am looking forward to the chance to build relationships with the home buyers and feel that I will be able to offer a lot of compassion and understanding during a stressful time for them.

I work with so many incredibly nice and understanding people. Of course they only have one name to remember, where I have about 20. Thankfully, everyone is extremely understanding when I have to ask their name again, which has really only happened once or twice. empathy

The moving process was stressful and a lot of hard work, which caused me a great deal of fatigue and pain. I wasn’t the best with resting because I just wanted everything done and organized immediately, which is impossible. It has only been recently I decided that we have plenty of time to get things situated in the new home. There doesn’t need to be a rush on things because thankfully time is on our side with the new house. The only thing that is important  and time sensitive is we MUST get our old home ready to be sold and hopefully sold sooner than later! I look forward to the day we get a phone call saying we have an offer on the house! I am logical enough to understand it will take time before the townhouse actually sells.

As y’all already know, I am trying to find my way to continue blogging because I really do love it, while working a full-time job, which I haven’t done in a long time. This process is afinding-my-way-text-893x1024 trial and error situation, but I am determined to make this happen! I know many people probably will never not fully understand this, but I find writing and blogging a great way to reduce any stress I am feeling. I think most of y’all already know that I battle with stress issues, but I am working to improve this. I think being a walking/talking stress case for 37 years is long enough and now it is time to change my ways.

I do believe that my new job is improving my stress because it is a wonderful place to work. Please know, I am working on getting caught up with reading and commenting on your posts, while also working on my own blogging thoughts. I appreciate all the encouraging words y’all have shared with me over the past weeks and I am looking 6a014e601f2a5b970c014e887a4cfb970d-600wiforward to getting back to a semi-schedule with my site.

I hope y’all have had a great day and I really hope you are feeling well. I am honestly struggling with some pain issues at the moment, but it is possible it is due to the rainy weather☔. I know it is going to be rainy for a few days with the hurricane heading towards Florida and even though I am a few states away from Florida, we are still expecting a lot of rain🌧. My body doesn’t appreciate or tolerate rain very well, but I am going to keep a strong hold on positive thoughts because I think that is important. In a matter of days the rain will pass and hopefully the weather will be calm!

I want to thank you for visiting my site this evening and I do hope you have a lovely evening! I will do my very best to respond to any of your comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa ❤

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What are the joys of a long weekend?

happy-long-weekendGood morning y’all! I hope you have had a delightful week and you are looking forward not to the typical weekend, but a LONG weekend! Even though I personally do not have any extravagant plans for my three-day weekend, I am so happy to have one! Between dealing with my typical MS pain, daily to-do’s and horrible negativity at work, my week has been extremely long and aggravating! I am thrilled to have three days away from work!

What do you look forward to when you have a long weekend? I know this will sound crazy and very simple, but I look forward to not having a schedule to follow! I do not have to get up at a certain time, be on the drive to work by a specific time, perform the same tasks during work hours, be in bed by a certain time to get a decent amount of longweekendsleep and so on. When I do not have to be at work I am not woken by an annoying alarm clock and can sleep in, not that I sleep long anyways, but still I do not have to be up at 5:15 am! The alarm clock becomes my enemy during the week because it never misses a beat and goes off at the same damn time every day, which I know that is what it is supposed to do, but it is still annoying! On weekends I can wake up and even fall back asleep or take naps if I find myself too tired. If only we could take naps at work, the days would be SO much happier!

I mentioned earlier that I have a difficult week and part of it was due to dealing with SO much negativity at work. How do y’all deal with negativity in the work place? I did my very best to ignore it and just walk away, but honestly things were wearing on me to a 291c5c14c410d5c8f270226eba5e2182horrible point. I allowed for one person’s personality/bad attitude to cause me way too much stress. Logically I know that the way this person acts is his problem not mine, but he manages to wear his feelings on his sleeve and facial expression. His behaviors have brought me to tears way too many times before and I know he isn’t worth it, but the comments still bother me to an extreme. It gets difficult to walk away from someone with negative energy when that person is your direct supervisor, but I have been trying to keep my distance the best I can! If y’all have any other advice on how to handle this, I am open for suggestions. 

Thank y’all so much for stopping by my site this morning. I always appreciate you taking the time to read what I write about and love❤ reading your comments. I find all of your comments very enlightening and they open my mind to other ways of thinking. I hope you have a wonderful Friday and I hope your weekend is fabulous! Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤and comfort!

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The world keeps spinning!

The world keeps spinningThe world seems to keep spinning around me so fast, but I feel like I standing still. I think it might be important to just accept the things in life that we have no control over and just embrace life for what it is. There really is so much about life that we might want to change, but I think whatever we might be living with or dealing with is in front of us for a reason. The reasons might be unknown, but there are reasons that we will discover someday!

If you sit down and really think about the way your life has played out, is there any outcome you would want to be different? All the struggles we might have encountered have not made us weak by any means, but they have all built our strength to continue onstruggle is real fighting a good fight! Sure none of us want to have a chronic illness or financial struggles or anything that might appear to be a negative aspect of life, but if we did not go through all the trials in life who would we be? I would like to think that everything we go through in life creates who we are and how we treat others, but maybe we would still be the same person if we did not go through any hard times. No one can say and be 100% sure!

Personally, I have always been very empathetic towards others and sympathetic to other’s needs. Everyone’s thoughts and emotions matter to me❤! I guess I am and probably always will be a very sentimental and sometimes overly emotional person. The way I am now has not changed since I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, I am just me!

There are so many people we all encounter that never learned how to be empathetic, which if you think about it is pretty sad for them. I guess for some people, especially in the world we live in frederickdouglass1today, if you have never experienced a life altering illness that causes many different issues, they are unable to understand. It is okay for people to not fully understand, but they should never judge another because how they say they are feeling. Pain is VERY REAL! Migraines are VERY REAL! Instability when walking is VERY REAL! Mood changes are also VERY REAL! Everything we deal with in life is VERY REAL! None of us asked to have a chronic illness and I am sure we all wished we didn’t. But considering we have one, we face the world with a different perspective that involves a lot of acceptance and willingness to make changes at a moment’s notice. Our days are typically never the same, but most of never complain about it, we just manage it the best we can.

Basically I have taught myself and I am still learning how to accept the fact that I haveaccept what we can not control no control over many things in my life. I know I can control how I view situations and how I react to them, but that is all!  As a person that might have some control issues, this isn’t easy for me. I have always had a strong desire to make the lives of those I care about better. Learning that I have NO control over how someone else’s life works out for them is hard! I have learned that there isn’t anything I can do to make life easy for anyone because I do not think life was meant to always be easy! We all just need to live our life to the fullest and never dwell on what we think or wish would happen!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today! I always appreciate you taking the time to read my sometimes random thoughts and really LOVE reading your comments! I hope y’all are having a wonderful weekend and I hope you are feeling well. Please always know that I am sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Friday finally arrived!!!

happy friday quotesGood afternoon y’all! If you are anything like me, you are so incredibly happy the weekend is finally here! But I also do hope y’all had a delightful week! This week has been a bit LONG for me because due to a staffing shortage in my office and an increasingly busy work load, I have been working some additional hours! I know I said that I was not going to push myself too far, but the stubborn part of me took control and I might have pushed a little further than I should have! The only day that I did not work 6 1/2-7 hours  a day was Thursday and that was only because of a doctor’s appointment, which really took priority for me! Thankfully, my appointment went well even though he was just a little dumbfounded with one of my questions. I guess it is a good thing it was not a too much of a life changing question! 

I am extremely relieved for the weekend because I definitely need some relaxation and rest time! I think it is safe to say that I am so far beyond exhausted that being just simply fatigued sounds like paradise. I know our bodies let us know when we need to rest, but I often ignore what my over exerted body is pretty much screaming at me. When I know that relax and don't controlsomething needs to be done, I tend to think everything needs to be right away and never completely understand that somethings really can wait! I am trying to get better at this, but it isn’t easy because I have some control issues about tasks being completed immediately and the right way! The funny thing is when I say I have come control issues about tasks being done, I never want any help and just want to do everything on my own, so I guess just try controlling myself! I guess only controlling what I do is better than trying to control others because that is very impossible!

I have been noticing an increasing amount of anger, frustration, hostility, hatred for no friday_quoteapparent reason and sadness in so many people! What is really causing these negative emotions among so many? I tend to blame the actions of those in charge of the country because they seem to be creating SO much negative energy which is why I do my best to avoid hearing anything they are talking (lying) about. I know there are many people who will agree with this statement and probably many who will disagree with me, which is okay because we are all entitled to our own opinions. If we all thoughts alike on everything there would be absolutely no dynamics and that might actually be a little boring! It is perfectly acceptable to have you own thoughts and opinions, but I do believe it is also extremely important to have an open mind as a close minded person never grows!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today! I always appreciate and value your comments as they are always very insightful! I hope your Friday has been very pleasant and I certainly hope you have an amazing weekend! Please always remember that I am sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

Dismiss the judgments and embrace compassion!

Good afternoonGood afternoon y’all! I hope you are enjoying this beautiful Saturday! Of course it is insanely hot where I live today, but I have learned to accept it because that is the way it will be for the next several months.

 

So much is going on in the world and it has really affected me emotionally. Life can be viewed as short or even painfully long at times! But, however we view life, why waste any of our precious time passing judgments on others? I do believe too many people judge a book by its cover and fail to see the bigger beautiful picture that each individual is in their own unique way.

I do feel that it is extremely important to always treat others the same way we would likeBe kind to be treated! I do not have any room in my life for hateful and judgmental people. It seems like there are far too many out there that do not view things the same way I do and that is incredibly unfortunate. I am not saying that everyone should follow everything that I do because I am not perfect in any way, but I do feel that we should all try to spread as much love and compassion as we can! I know y’all already do an amazing job with this, but there love is absenseare still so many others that do not!

When I look at the way the country I live in is behaving, it is very troubling to me. It seems that some think it is perfectly acceptable to use innocent children as a bargaining tool, which in my opinion is anything but acceptable! Anyone that has children or use to be a child, which we all were at some point, should not think it is acceptable to use children like they are pawns on a chessboard. It is just incredibly disturbing to me. There are children being taken from their parents and put into cages like animals. These parents and children that are being tormented did not ask for this treatment and definitely DO NOT DESERVE IT!

I will never understand why some people will continue mistreat others just because of the color of their skin, sexual preference, religious beliefs or any other thing that may too many criticsdiffer from them. It is 2018 and we should all be evolving instead some are devolving at an incredible fast pace. We are all entitled to our own opinions, but everyone is also entitled to never have to fear being ostracized for being who they are. I know it is probably obviously, but I strongly believe everyone should be treated equally and with respect. 

Thank you for stopping by my site today and reading how passionate I truly am about equality for all❤. I am sorry to go off a rant about how horrible people are treated in the United States, but it is something that I feel is not right in any way! We all have our own opinions and it is perfectly fine if you disagree with anything that I have written. I do look forward to any comments you may have and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and I hope you are feeling well! As always I am sending y’all LOTS of❤ love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Running on EMPTY!

Well spent SundayGood afternoon y’all! I hope you are having a pleasant and relaxing Sunday! My poor mind has been going in so many different directions this weekend! I think I might have hit the wall today because I could not sleep AT ALL last night! I have so many random thoughts running through my mind and this is to the extend I can not just focus on just one.

I have been stressed to the MAX about various things my car being one of them. That poor car has been having issues for the past two weeks and even after placing a special order for the part needed, it is still not satisfied! My husband put the part needed in last night which did fix the problem. We were able to drive my car around our neighborhood a few times, but now a completely unrelated issue has appeared, the car will not switch gears! I mean what in the world could be wrong now? I am unsuccessfully trying to be optimistic that we will figure out what the issue is now and be able to fix it without spending too much money! The reason I am failing with this is because that car seems to have a never-ending bad attitude!dont-give-up-galaxy-hold-on-hope-Favim.com-1428490

My constant pain that will not let up is also causing me to be more than just stressed. Like I do not know what is beyond stressed, but that is how I feel! This pain has been going on for way too long and I really feel I have been patient enough, but I NEED a break! The constant headaches cause me to not be able to focus on what I need to be focused on. The incessant leg and back pain is so becoming SO  FRUSTRATING!! When nothing relieves that pain, what do you do??

Another thing that weighs heavy on my mind is the state of our country because of the government’s behavior.I normally do not bring politics into a conversation, but this is very disturbing to me.  I am not able to put myself in the mind-set of a politician, so I just do not understand why we all can not just get along. Watching the country I grew up in be destroyed at a very fast pace is stressmind-blowing and extremely sad! It is difficult seeing what the problems are and not being able to do anything to fix the issues! 

I am pretty logical person, well most of the time at least, so I know that being overwhelmingly stressed is very unhealthy! I know staying stressed will not make anything better and it is only going to cause me more pain, but I can not seem to turn my mind off! I doubt the lack of sleep is helping me at all right now, but the pain I am in will not even allow me to even take a nap! So I decided writing about it may help ease my stressed out mind! I know this post has been a little all over the place, but this is a mild form of how much is on my mind! 

I appreciate y’all visiting my site today and I strongly encourage you to leave a comment. I always love your comments and I will respond to you just as quickly as I can. I hope your day is going well and I hope the rest of your Sunday is wonderful. Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Who Am I?

Who am IHave you ever asked yourself this what should be a fairly easy question, “Who am I?” I sometimes am forced to ask myself this question a few times a day, especially when others challenge the person I know I am, by being disrespectful and even a little demeaning. I find that other people can cause a slight change in my views of myself and then I react unkind. For instances, there is a person I work with that seems to enjoy treating others as if they are beneath him, which creates a very hostile work environment, or at least it does for me! I do not need someone to blow smoke up my rear end, but I do demand and deserve to be respected. This negative treatment causes an excessive amount of anger and frustration in me, which then causes my attitude to be so NEGATIVE and this is not me! In your experiences and opinion, what is the best way to handle this extremely disturbing individual?

Underneath everyone is a person that is so much more than what can be viewed from their exterior appearance! Our exterior is just a visual image, but underneath that visual image is an entirely other person with emotions and passions. When I was first diagnosed with MS, I thought that people just viewed me as just my illness and not for underneath-copywho I was on the inside. Even now, almost 18 years later I feel that is all people see me as which could not be further from the truth, but I am learning that is their problem and not mine! Others view me from my outside as a vertically challenged (I am a little short) and petite person which makes people make annoying comments that I do not eat, which I do! The verbal attacks cause frustration to me and therefore make me very uncomfortable, but again I know this is those doing the talking problem not mine!

At 36 years old, I am still learning how to deal with other’s personalities and how to interact with them when it is the complete opposite of my own. When I ask myself, Who am I?, I typically answer it the same way every time! I pride myself on being ❤kind and understanding of everyone. I also have never been and never will be ❤judgmental towards anyone by judging on race, color, religion and or sexual preference. I always butterfly who am Iwant to help others get through hard times by offer support and encouragement to those! I will always be compassionate, loving❤, caring and giving to a fault despite how most around me are not. So, if I ask y’all the same question, “Who are you?” what would your answer be?

I really appreciate you visiting my site today and I really look forward to any comments you may have! I do promise you, I will respond as quickly as I can! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your weekend and I hope you are feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤