About Positively Alyssa

I was diagnosed 18 years ago, when I was only 19 years old, with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis. I had gone to my eye doctor because I had lost vision in my left eye. Prior to my appointment, I had prepared myself to have the doctor confirm that I would be blind in my left eye and that was all. Never in a million years did I expect to hear the doctor tell me that after consulting with his colleagues, that I need to go for an MRI that day because they were thinking that with my symptoms that I had MS. Just a couple hours later I went to get the life altering MRI. I remember that phone call like it was yesterday. My eye doctor called me from his home at 9:30 at night to confirm what they suspected, I in fact had MS. He immediately referred me to a specialist he knew and I was able to get in to see him that same week. Luckily, after a round of steroids, my vision came back in my eye just leaving me with leg pain that would continue to be part of my life. Through the years I have tried numerous different medications that are meant to slow the progression of the disease down. I was never good at the injections and it wasn't because of the needle, it was because the medication burned like fire going in. Still after all these years I still go through my battles of denial, anger, frustration and sadness. However, I have always said that I would NEVER allow MS to control my life but I would control the disease. For the most part, I have been pretty successful with that. I mean we all have our bad days but it doesn't make the situation any better. With this blog I am hoping that with my experiences, endless amounts of research and a powerful fight i me that I can not only help others going through this but that I can learn from others as well. Living with the ups and downs of MS can be challenging but the power of the mind can beat anything that is thrown our way!

What a long week?

How do you enjoy spending the first day of the weekend? I prefer to use Saturday as a day to “TRY” to sleep in and get some much-needed rest after a painfully LONG week! I might try doing some cleaning today, but I might hold off until tomorrow. Even though between my sweet and loveable cats and my annoying habits of getting up at the same time daily, I will not sleep past my normal time. I do hope that I will be able to binge-watch one of my favorite shows, Law & Order Special Victims Unit, and considering I have seen every episode at least four times sleep on and off during the day. Many people do not understand why I love this show as much as I do because it is about sex crimes, but this shows is the only time I am able to see actual justice. Yes, I do know this show is not always based on actual events, there is justice for the victims!

After how long this past week felt, there is something that I cannot understand about people and their behaviors. Why is it so difficult for people to behave and treat others kindly and with respect? Also, why can people not think rationally, instead of 100% irrationally? It seems like everyone wants what they want and they want these things immediately! I understand that most people are impatient, but it is not too difficult to at least try to be reasonable. Unless I am missing something and there are people out there that can walk on water and perform miracles.

I cannot imagine I am the only person that believes in equality, right? Why should anyone be treated differently and with more respect than anyone else? I firmly believe we should all try building each other up and not tearing anyone down for any reason! If we could all try doing this once a day, once a week, or if it is too challenging for someone, once a month, I think this world would be much better and much happier! We have nothing to lose doing this, so why do more people not do so?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope your week went well and you have a wonderful and safe weekend! This is your weekend and you do not have to do anything that you do not want to or anything that does not bring you joy! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to y’all as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Guess what y’all, it is finally Friday!! I am sure I am not the only one that feels this way, but this week felt SO LONG! I know it was the same five days that each week is, but it felt much longer. Of course, it does not help that I was ready for Friday on Monday morning😊! The weather where I live was very messy yesterday. It rained all day, which made it appear darker than normal and a little chilly. Thankfully, I think the weekend is going to be a little nicer and hopefully, there will not be any rain! Even though the rain makes me hurt much worse, I would almost prefer it to rain on my days off because it gives me a reason to just stay nice and cozy on the couch with the cats!

After a week that felt super long, I think today will be the perfect day to try letting go of any negative feelings the week created. Our weekends are too short to bring any negativity in and much better left in the past. There are times in our lives when we have been disappointed by another too much and none of us deserve this. Walking away from those who have caused us so much pain from disappointments can be necessary for our own well-being. It is not easy, but often VERY much required because we all deserve happiness. It might be friends or family or just acquittances, it is okay to walk away from them! Please never feel guilty to walk away from someone in your life that caused you any kind of pain!

Now that the weekend is almost here, do you have anything planned for these next two days? Just because it is the weekend, it does not mean we have to have plans, it is completely okay to want to rest and recuperate from the week. I would like to work on what I am doing for the writing competition, catch up on some reading, and most of all catch up on sleep!! Of course, my cats do not understand this and will more than likely want me to get up at the same time so they can have their Fancy Feast treats. We will see though, I am just happy to not have to work and be forced to listen to people complain and make unreasonable demands!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and you found the quote helpful in letting go and walking away from the unnecessary upset. Hopefully, you will do something that makes you happy this weekend and whatever you do, you do so safely! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Law Enforcement violence

I am sure that my question will be slightly controversial, but we all have and should have questions about the world and our lives. What exactly is the sole purpose of law enforcement “supposed” to be? I think it is normal to be nervous and even scared when we are pulled over, but NO ONE should ever fear for their lives. It should NOT matter the color of someone’s skin for how they are treated by the police, but unfortunately, it seems to play a HUGE factor in the treatment of an individual. Has this ever made sense to you because it as NOT and NEVER will make sense to me. I have said this before, but it still stands, it is now 2023 and we all should have evolved much more and instead too many continue to devolve at grossly rapid levels.

Many times, it tends to be a Caucasian officer that brutalizes an innocent and unarmed African American. I think most of us can remember George Floyd. After Mr. Floyd was murdered by Caucasian officers, there were mass protests demanding justice. One would think after that situation unfolded and the officers involved received consequences for their actions, law enforcement would have learned something, but they still have NOT learned anything and are continuing their ruthless, horrendous, and cowardly behavior.

George Floyd was NOT the only innocent African American that was dehumanized and victimized by law enforcement. We are only 33 days into 2023 and law enforcement has gotten even eviler. On January 3rd, Keenan Anderson, the cousin of Patrisse Cullor, the co-founder of the Black Lives Matter movement died after being retrained and tasered 6 times by a member of the LAPD. Sadly, it was approximately 4 ½ hours after his encounter with the LAPD, Mr. Anderson died from suffering cardiac arrest.

Mr. Anderson had just been involved in a car collision when an officer ordered him to sit with his legs crossed on the sidewalk. He became paranoid and scared and said he needed water, which is not something anyone should be denied, especially after the trauma of an accident. Mr.Anderson was fearful when he was being questioned by law enforcement, so he panicked and tried to flee the situation. Of course, he was captured and detained by additional police. One of the officers shot Mr. Anderson with a taser for 30 seconds, uninterrupted. A few of Mr. Anderson’s last words, which bystanders clearly heard were, “They’re trying to George Floyd me”. This man had seen the news and was aware of how law enforcement treats Black Americans and was terrified. Who can blame him? We have all seen the news and the countless police brutality situations.

On January 7th in Memphis Tennessee, another young Black American man, Tyre Nichols was pulled over by police for what they “claimed” was driving recklessly. This man was a father of a 4-year-old child, according to his family was an avid skateboarder, and a nature photographer from Sacramento, CA. Since moving to Memphis, TN, shortly before the pandemic, he began working at a major company, FedEx.

Mr. Nichols was taken into custody on January 7th, involving two confrontations. During the initial encounter, Mr. Nichols attempted to flee the scene of a traffic stop as I am sure he was fearing for his life. Due to videos that were released of this encounter, it is clear the officers mistreated Mr. Nichols, which is a gross understatement. These officers dragged Mr. Nichols from his vehicle, shouting vulgar language throughout the entire altercation. Mr. Nichols only tried to run when one officer tried using his taser and then proceeded to chase him on foot. They were only about 100 yards from Mr. Nichols’s home, and he pleaded with the officers by saying, “I’m just trying to go home.” The officers started to kick, punch, and use their batons to beat him, while he was laying on the ground. He was able to utter one last word during the brutal attack, “Mom”. After being hospitalized from the brutal and savage beating leaving him unrecognizable, he sadly died later, on January 10th.

Lastly, and possibly one of the most disturbing and recent situations of police brutality in California. Anthony Lowe Jr was a 36-year-old, father of two, a double amputee, and a Black American. He was accused of stabbing someone, which I am not sure how it would possible, but we will never know Mr. Lowe’s truth. When the police approached Mr. Lowe, he was holding a knife and tried to get away from the police by jumping out of his wheelchair and hobbling away on his amputated legs. The officers “claimed” Mr. Lowe tried to throw the knife at them. Instead of trying to de-escalate the situation, they proceeded to fatally shoot him. He was pronounced dead at the scene by the paramedics that were called. According to the man’s family, he was suffering from a mental health crisis due to losing both of his legs after a previous attack from law enforcement one year ago in Dallas, TX.

What is it going to take for law enforcement to act appropriately and kill someone before they talk to the person? Many law enforcement people are in prison for murder, which includes the officers involved in George Floyd and Tyre Nichols’s murder. I have said that we need better gun control over Americans, and I think that needs to include the police because they need to learn how to de-escalate situations and get answers before killing someone. NO ONE should ever be murdered by police because they are “supposed” to be here to serve and protect. I understand all people need to become a police officer is a GED, but maybe there needs to be more involved because this senseless and terrible behavior NEEDS to change.

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. As I said, I know this topic is controversial and many will disagree with me, but this is something that has been bothering me. It took me several days to write this because I would get to upset to continue writing. I would like to be able to read your thoughts about this topic and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you have a good day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~Happy Friday Eve~

Happy Friday eve, y’all! How has your week been and how ready for the weekend are you? I can say that I have been ready for the weekend since Monday morning or maybe even Sunday evening! I am sure it has something to do with having to drive on an awful road to go to my appointment on Tuesday, but this seems to have been a really LONG week! I normally do Pick-Me-Up Thursday posts, but I am doing things a little differently today because another post I am working I have been working on has me a little upset. I am hoping to have it completed soon, but I will give you a little information as to what it is about. I am writing about the horrendous treatment from law enforcement of unarmed Black Americans. This has had me upset because I cannot understand why this is continuing to occur. 

As I already mentioned, I am doing things slightly differently today and sharing a quote that I think is beneficial, but for various reasons. There are times when we all want alone time and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe we need time to clear our heads and think about random situations we have experienced. There might also be times when we want alone time to protect ourselves from further disappointments. Unfortunately, humans can disappoint us, some more than others. To be honest, there are some people I try to avoid because all they have done is disappoint me, which causes too much emotional pain.

Now that the weekend will be here soon, do you have any plans? The only plans I have are to finish the post I mentioned earlier, work on what I am doing for the writing competition, and hopefully sleep in at least one of the days. If I have any energy I need to burn off, I will work on cleaning the house. The weather continues to change daily, so there is no telling if it is going to be cold or warm. If it rains, that will be a wonderful time to rest with the cats on the couch and binge watch something on Netflix!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will do my best to respond as quickly as possible. Please stay tuned for the post I am working on and hope to have it published by Sunday. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that you have a good day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

We have made it through the first part of the week and only have the other half to get through, and considering we successfully made it through the most difficult half I think the rest will be much easier! How has your week been up until today? Hopefully, it has not been too bad and you just have your sights set on the weekend because it will be here soon! Yesterday, I had my routine follow-up appointment with my doctor, and just as I expected the worst part of it was the drive to the office and the appointment was fine. These routine appointments always go the same way, so I am never worried.

Even though we have made it through half of the week, we do still have the other half to make it through and I think we could use a little inspiration! I hope you find the quote that I am sharing inspirational and it helps you get through until the weekend returns again! It can be easy to lose sight of what is important in life because we are always so busy and tend to forget about what is most important. We need to try to always chase our goals, passions, and what we want in life and not what others want us to do.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the quote inspiring and it helps you through the rest of the week. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope your week has been good up until now and gets better until the weekend has returned. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

I must say that surviving the most dreaded day of the week deserves praise and congratulations😊! Monday is never very exciting, but I do hope it was not too bad for y’all! Yesterday was not all bad for me, it was of course, a little busy but nothing that I cannot handle. I think it is just difficult to let go of the weekend when we can relax and not wake up to an alarm clock. Anything we were not able to get done yesterday, we have another chance today! Unfortunately, today I get to drive on the worst road in the world to go to my routine follow-up appointment. These appointments are useless because nothing ever changes!

Moving into the second day of the week is a good thing because it means we are one day closer to the weekend. Yes, I am already ready for the weekend😊! Regardless of how many days are left in the week, we need to try to remain calm and handle things as they come, instead of thinking about what might happen! I really enjoyed the quote that I am sharing with y’all today and hope you will as well, and that it offers you a sense of calmness and strength! I think it is easy to forget how incredibly strong we all are because life gets chaotic. No matter what occurs in our lives, never doubt yourself because YOU can handle anything! NEVER let anyone ever tell you that you cannot do something because you can do anything!

I know many of us must deal with various different doctor’s appointments, right? Today the appointment is just with my pain doctor and I like her because she is kind and easy to talk to. I think it is important to always be prepared for appointments, which means having notes for what you need to talk about, prescriptions that need to be filled, and any other concerns you might have. It is so easy to forget to mention things when in the exam room, so it is best to be ready and prepared because getting in touch with a doctor after the appointment seems nearly impossible!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I appreciate you taking the time to read what I share and hope you enjoyed. I hope you found the quote calming and it helps you survive another day. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Hello again, Monday! It is crazy how quickly the weekends fly by because it feels like it was just Friday not too long ago. I guess this is just something that happens every week, and we should consider ourselves lucky to have another opportunity with a new week. I hope this week holds many wonderful opportunities for all of you and you will not let anyone or anything get in your way of achieving greatness! Even though the weekend did seem short, I hope you were able to enjoy it and do something for yourself. My weekend was relaxing and quiet until Sunday when I woke up with a terrible migraine that would not go away. Unfortunately, this is something I endure too much and it never gets any easier.

As we begin a new week, I feel it is important to try to do so with a motivated and good mindset. If we do not try to start the week in the best frame of mind, we cannot expect the rest of the week to be as great as it should be. Each of us has faced countless battles and various struggles, but we are still here to live another day. Our journeys will always take strength and courage we never knew we had, but one day we will realize how incredibly strong and powerful we are. We can use these qualities to keep up a good fight and this will show others what they are capable of. Each storm we survived during this life, gives us the courage we need to face all the other challenges that life has in store for us!

I know most people are not ready for another Monday, but they never fail to return and it is another chance to do great things. I tried telling my cats this😊, but they did not think it was a good idea for their Mommy to have to be glued to her work laptop and not with them. I guess it is a good thing that they sleep around 20 hours a day and when they are not sleeping, they are enjoying playing with one another. I would give anything to live the life of our cats because they have everything and more they could ever want, plus everything is handed to them and they do not have to work😊! Our cats do not understand how lucky they are because not everyone treats their pets like family!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote provided you the motivation necessary to begin another week. If there is such a thing as being reincarnated, I hope I will be lucky enough to come back as a cat who has a life as mine do! Those precious little fur balls have it made😊, but I still love them more than I could ever explain! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

My Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you have had an enjoyable and relaxing week. Unfortunately, the weekend is nearing its end and it will be time to prepare for the new week soon. Why does it feel like it was Friday only 30 minutes ago, and we were excited about the week? The workweeks can be painfully long, and the weekends are always way too short, which seems unfair. I wish there was a way to flip-flop how the weeks were and we had at least four days off in a row and work the other three days but no more than 6 hours. Every company always “preaches” how they believe in providing work-life balance for their employees, but I am not sure how anyone is getting work-life balance when we are working more than when we are home with family.

How does it affect you when a friend goes through an extremely difficult situation, especially when the situation is something you also experienced? I know I did a post about my experience with being laid off when it happened. It has been a few years now, but the emotions surrounding this are still raw. Anytime I get worried about work being very slow, I start to panic because I fear I will go through another layoff. Of course, the company that laid me off was in the mortgage industry and the company I am at now is different and has ZERO to do with mortgages, but it was expected due to the economy. Anyways, I friend I made while working with mortgages sent me a text on Saturday letting me know she had been laid off.

When I am friends with someone, even if I have never met the person face to face, but you worked closely with them via emails and phone calls, I care about the person. It seems like I can feel their pain and it is even more intense when a friend goes through something I went through. Going through a layoff can have a strong and negative impact on your life. It feels like the rug was pulled from beneath you and you land on your rear end. When someone gets laid off, there is immediate stress felt deeply for how they will be able to care for themselves and their family. Something that has this strong of an impact on your life can stay with you for years. I think I might have a mild case of PTSD because of what I went through and knowing someone else went through this breaks my heart.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and you have had a great weekend! Sadly, tomorrow is Monday again and we are in for another 5 days of working 8-hour days. On Tuesday, I have my routine follow-up appointment with my pain doctor, and these appointments always go the same way. The only bad part of these appointments is having to drive on what I think is the worst road in the world, but maybe it will not be too bad. Yeah right, who am I kidding? There is so much road construction, which causes many delays I doubt anything will be any different from the last time I had one of these follow-up appointments. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Saturday Thoughts

Happy Saturday! I hope your weekend is going well so far and you are trying to do something that makes you happy and helps you to relax. Anyone who must work five days in a row can understand how exhausting it can be. Even though I work from home, being forced to sit in front of a computer for eight LONG hours is draining, but when you add in listening to people complain it makes it feel even LONGER! I am so thankful for the weekend and even though two days are never enough, I will plan to appreciate and enjoy each day to the fullest. Of course, this does mean that I will do as little as possible and anything I do will be because I want to😊!

I mentioned in a previous post that I am considering doing another writing competition. I think once I can stop debating with myself if my writing is good enough, I will mostly just try. However, I cannot decide if I should do another personal essay or if I should do a research-based article. I know that doing a personal essay sounds easier and with it being a personal essay it might show more heart, but I am not sure if that is the way I want to go. I think if I do a research-based article, I could still add a lot of personality and heart. I have several ideas for the research-based article and am planning to do an outline for each because I think that will help me make a final decision.

I have a question for anyone reading this because I do value your opinions and advice. Have you ever done a writing competition? If so, how did you choose the topic to write about? Many of you have been loyal followers for a while with my blog, so I think you understand my writing style and abilities, what would you suggest I do about this competition? The deadline for this is not until May, but I prefer to prepare for things early. I do not like to wait until the last minute because so many things can go wrong in life, and I think it is best to have plenty of time to make necessary corrections!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I know we are all busy in life, so I do appreciate you reading what I have shared and I am looking forward to reading your comments, and advice! I hope you will be able to enjoy your weekend and do something for yourself. I think many people are always doing things for others and it is important to do something for ourselves at least once a week, more would be better! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

WOW, we have finally made it to Friday! It has seemed like a long week and I am so thankful the weekend will start soon. How has your week been and are you looking forward to the weekend? I know that is a silly question because most of us look forward to the weekend on Monday morning or at least I know I do. Working from home is a great experience and I have a handful of co-workers who are amazing to work with. It is crazy how close you can become with someone you have never met before just through numerous conversations.

At the end of the week, I think it is time to let go of anything negative that might have occurred during the week Our weekends are too short to have those negative issues weighing on our minds. It will always be difficult to get through a week or even a day without being confronted by people with terrible attitudes. I know it is challenging to not meet their attitude with negativity, but it will show who is the bigger and better person. Sometimes, we need to look at who the person is and realize they must be going through something in their personal life and it has nothing to do with anything we have done. Personally, I would prefer to walk away from people with a negative attitude because I do not want to fall to their level.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed this post and I am looking forward to reading your comments. I will respond to your comments as quickly as I can! Over the weekend, I plan to finish going through our closets to find things we will be donating and I also want to read and write. Some things are difficult to do during the week because I am normally too tired to think clearly, so the weekends are my time to play catch up! I hope you have an amazing and relaxing weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa