About Positively Alyssa

I was diagnosed 18 years ago, when I was only 19 years old, with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis. I had gone to my eye doctor because I had lost vision in my left eye. Prior to my appointment, I had prepared myself to have the doctor confirm that I would be blind in my left eye and that was all. Never in a million years did I expect to hear the doctor tell me that after consulting with his colleagues, that I need to go for an MRI that day because they were thinking that with my symptoms that I had MS. Just a couple hours later I went to get the life altering MRI. I remember that phone call like it was yesterday. My eye doctor called me from his home at 9:30 at night to confirm what they suspected, I in fact had MS. He immediately referred me to a specialist he knew and I was able to get in to see him that same week. Luckily, after a round of steroids, my vision came back in my eye just leaving me with leg pain that would continue to be part of my life. Through the years I have tried numerous different medications that are meant to slow the progression of the disease down. I was never good at the injections and it wasn't because of the needle, it was because the medication burned like fire going in. Still after all these years I still go through my battles of denial, anger, frustration and sadness. However, I have always said that I would NEVER allow MS to control my life but I would control the disease. For the most part, I have been pretty successful with that. I mean we all have our bad days but it doesn't make the situation any better. With this blog I am hoping that with my experiences, endless amounts of research and a powerful fight i me that I can not only help others going through this but that I can learn from others as well. Living with the ups and downs of MS can be challenging but the power of the mind can beat anything that is thrown our way!

National Cancer Prevention Month

Disclaimer***Before you start reading, I have a disclaimer. I am not a physician nor am I a medical professional. This information is mostly from hours of research. Also, this is slightly longer than most, if not all of my previous posts. I did not mean to write a small book for y’all to read, but I do think the information is important!

We just celebrated New Year’s, not too long ago. This tends to be a time many of us want to make changes to get healthier. Honestly though, how many times have you tried thisdepositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy and never stayed with for long-term? This is a great thought, but really can’t just be for one day, week, or even for a month, and should to be something we stay committed to. February is National Cancer Prevention month which gives us another opportunity to get focused on making sure we put our health first and we do everything within our powers to maintain good health.

I am glad that there is a month dedicated to cancer prevention because it is needed. In 2019, a staggering estimated 1.76 million new cases of cancer and 607,000 deaths due to 0345ebfac6e071e5a9cd46f91f1ef5b2cancer in the United States. In my lifetime, cancer has already taken too many people I care about. As a matter of fact, cancer is what took someone very special to me, my dear, sweet, and loving grandfather lost his battle to cancer almost seven years ago. My aunt fought her war against cancer, until before the sun came up on February 18 when the struggle became too much to bear and she couldn’t fight any longer. Even though this is a sad day, my aunt went peacefully in the comfort of her own home surrounded by family.

 It is terrifying how many different forms of cancer there are and how many of the risk factors are the same. I am not going to go through and list all types of cancer because it would probably feel like you are reading a short story and I don’t want to torment you like that. However, I am going to detail 11 different forms of this horrible disease.

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  1. Breast Cancer is a form of cancer that is easily treated, especially when it is detected early enough. This cancer does not discriminate and can affect men or women equally. This disease develops in breast tissue when the cells begin to grow out of control. Cancerous cells can form a malignant tumor that is felt as a lump and should be seen on a mammogram. Once cancer begins to progress, it is possible for an invasion of surrounding tissues and nearby lymph nodes to occur, which is a phenomenon known as metastasis.

Besides simply being a female, there are many other risk factors you might want to learn about.

  • Genetic mutations (BRCA1 or BRCA 2)
  • Family history
  • Early menstrual period
  • Late or no full-term pregnancies
  • Menopause after age 55
  • Overweight or obese post menopause
  • Dense breasts
  • Race or ethnicity
  • Combination or hormone therapy
  • Oral contraceptives
  • Previous radiation therapy
  • Consuming alcohol

stock-photo-national-cancer-prevention-month-february-text-in-heart-cycle-of-multi-color-lavender-purple-370540424Symptoms

  • A lump or hard, painless mass with irregular edges
  • Some masses may be tender, soft, or painful
  • Swelling and/or skin irritation
  • Nipple pain, turning inward, redness, or scaliness
  • Thickening of nipples or discharge other than breast milk
  1. Lung Cancer is the 2nd most common form of cancer and the leading cause of cancer-related deaths. There are three main types of lung cancer, which include:
  • Non-Small-Cell Lung Cancer (NSCLC) which consists of 80-85% of lung cancer
  • Small-Cell-Lung Cancer (SCLC)
  • Lung Carcinoma Tumor

This type of cancer causes more of a risk to men than it does women.

Risk Factors

  • Tobacco smoke is the leading risk for developing lung cancer. 2nd hand smoke can also cause lung cancer
  • Family history
  • Exposure to radon gas, asbestos, arsenic, and diesel exhaust3605083_0

¼ of all people that are living with lung cancer do not display symptoms and do not show until cancer has progressed. However, when symptoms do appear, they may include:

Symptoms

  • A new cough that will not go away or changes in a chronic cough or coughing up blood
  • Reoccurring infection, such as bronchitis or pneumonia
  • Shortness of breath, hoarseness, and or wheezing
  • Chest pain, fatigue, and or weakness
  • Loss of appetite or unexplained weight loss
  1. Prostate Cancer is slow growing-cancer, but also the 2nd leading cause of death among men. The prostate is a small walnut-sized gland that produces seminal fluid.

Risk Factors

  • Family history
  • Diet high in red meat
  • Chemical exposure
  • Sexually transmitted infection
  • Having had a vasectomy

KC_8319__67367.1447864369Of course, several symptoms should not be ignored. Typically there are no symptoms during early stages tumors are small.

Symptoms

  • Frequent urge to urinate or difficulty urinating
  • Blood in urine or semen
  • Difficulty getting an erection
  • Pain in lower back and hips
  1. Colon and rectal cancer develop when cell growth becomes out of control in the colon and rectum. This form of cancer affects men and women equally, but black men and women are 25% more likely to develop colon cancer.

 Risk Factors

  • Family history5d41946f3e13e.image
  • Diet high in fat and red meat
  • Long-term inflammatory bowel disease
  • Obesity and lack of activity
  • Tobacco use and alcohol consumption

Symptoms

  • Changes in bowel habit ( diarrhea or constipation)
  • Blood in stool
  • Persistent abnormal pain or cramps
  • Unexplainable weight loss
  • Iron deficiency~ Anemia

 5. Melanoma (Skin Cancer) is a form of cancer that begins in the cells making up the pigment which gives skin color. Skin cancer seems like too broad of a category, so let me help break this down into the 4 different forms. (*The first two forms are more common than the last two forms*)

  • Superficial Spreading Melanoma grows horizontally and slowly across the top layer of skin before moving into deeper layers. This form accounts for 70% of skin cancer.
  • Nodular Melanoma is dangerous and grows fast. The appearance can look like a flat,750x,075,f-pad,750x1000,f8f8f8.u3mole, bug bit or a round black (but can have other colors) bump. Nodular Melanoma accounts for about 15% of cases.
  • Lentigo Melanoma is an early form when the malignant cells are confined to a tissue of origin.
  • Acral Lentiginous Melanoma (ALM) appears on the palms of hands, soles of feet, and under the nails. This is not very common but does affect African Americans the most.

Symptoms

  • Sores that do not heal
  • Pigment, redness or swelling that spreads outside the border of a spot to surrounding skin
  • Itchiness, tenderness, or pain
  • Changes in texture or scales, oozing or bleeding from an existing mole

At the first sign melanoma, there is typically a new spot on the skin or a change one that already existed. Follow the ABCDE Method to determine if an abnormal skin growth may be Melanoma.

Asymmetry- the mole has an irregular shape.cancer-screening

Border- Edge isn’t smooth and is irregular or notched.

Color- Mole has uneven shading or dark spots.

Diameter- Mole or spot is larger than that of a pencil eraser.

Evolving or elevation- The spot changes in size, shape, or texture.

  1. Bladder Cancer happens when the cells become abnormal and then begin to grow out of control. Over some time a tumor will form. Just like everything else, there are certain risk factors associated with bladder cancer.

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  • Family history
  • Smoking
  • Exposure to certain chemicals
  • Being white and or being a male
  • Chronic bladder infections

I am going to share some of the symptoms you would want to pay attention to and once noticed discuss with your physician.

Symptoms

  • Changes in the color of your urine
  • Burning or pain when urinating
  • Unable to urinate or only produce a very small amount
  • Feeling the urge to pee, when your bladder isn’t full

When bladder cancer starts to spread, there are some additional to notice and report back to your physician.cancer-ribbons-banner

Additional symptoms

  • Lower back pain
  • Losing weight when not trying
  • Not as hungry as normal
  • Swollen feet
  • Extreme fatigues and or weakness
  1. Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma starts in the lymphatic system, which is our body’s disease-fighting network. Tumors form in the lymphocytes, a type of white blood cells.unnamed

Risk Factors

  • Being over age 60 increases the risks
  • Exposure to certain chemicals which include benzene, herbicides, and pesticides
  • Previous chemotherapy or radiation treatments
  • Immune system deficiency and HIV Infection

Symptoms

  • Painless, swollen lymph nodes in the neck, armpits or groin
  • Abdominal pain and or swelling and chest pain
  • Coughing and difficulty breathing
  • Persistent fatigue
  1. Kidney Cancer also referred to as Renal Cell Carcinoma. This occurs when healthy e0bd9877f04a0f946d31b64a0c7d2f18cells in one or both kidneys start growing quickly, which ends up forming a lump (tumor).

Risk Factors

  • Smoking will DOUBLE the risks
  • Men are 2-3 times more likely to develop kidney cancer than women
  • Poor nutrition and overweight
  • High blood pressure

Symptoms

  • Blood in urine
  • Lower back pain on one side
  • Mass on the side or lower back
  • A fever that does not go away
  1. Endometrial Cancer begins in the uterus, so this is for women only.

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  • Changes in the balance of female hormones
  • More menstruation years and or never pregnant
  • Older age and obesity
  • Inherited colon cancer syndrome

I know none of us enjoy going for yearly exams, but that appointment just might save our life by discovering cancer early.

 

Symptoms

  • Abnormal vaginal bleeding or discharge
  • Difficulty or painful urination
  • Pain in the lower abdomen
  • Painful intercourse
  1. Pancreatic Cancer starts in organs that lie behind the lower part  the stomach and typically spreads to other organs rapidly.4407244_0

Risk Factors

  • Gender, this is more common in men, than women
  • Family history
  • Smoking age and obesity
  • Diabetes
  • Rare inherited condition

Symptoms

  • Jaundice, which is yellowing of the eyes and skin
  • Belly or back pain
  • Nausea, vomiting and weight loss
  • Enlargement of gallbladder or liver

Now that we have learned a lot about cancer, I have just a little more information that I think we will helpful. Considering it is National Cancer Prevention Month, I now have helpful tips to prevent cancer.

  1. The use of tobacco products can drastically increase your risk of cancer. With that said, I think it is time to find a way to QUIT!!!!
  2. Eating a healthy diet is vital for good health. I healthy diet may include plenty of fruits, vegetables, and other plant-based foods. According to a report from the
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  4. International Agency for Research on Cancer, a large intake amount of processed meats can increase the risk of some cancers.

**An important fact is women who eat a Mediterranean diet have a reduced risk for breast cancer. A Mediterranean diet consists of mostly plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and nuts. Those that follow this diet choose healthy fats, like olive oil instead of butter and fish as opposed to red meat.**

  1. You can reduce your risks of breast, prostate, lung, colon and kidney cancer by maintaining a healthy weight and staying active.

For adults that are aiming for substantial health benefits, they should try for at least 150 minutes weekly of either moderate aerobic or 75 minutes weekly of vigorous aerobic activity. The general rule of thumb is to try including at least 30 minutes of physical activity to your daily routine.'

  1. Be sure to keep yourself protected from the sun. One of the most common and preventable forms of cancer is skin cancer. I am going to share 5 simple tips to prevent yourself from the sun.
  • Sun rays are the strongest between the hours of 10:00 am and 4:00 pm. It is best to avoid the midday sun!
  • If you need to be outside, stay in the shade the best you can, plus sunglasses and hats will help.
  • Choose dark or bright, tightly woven, loose-fitting clothing because they reflect more ultraviolet radiation than pastels.
  • Even on cloudy days use at least SPF 30 sunscreen. Apply generously and reapply every 2 hours, more if you are swimming.
  • Tanning beds cause just as much damage as the natural sun, so try to AVOID
  1. Discuss vaccinations with your doctor for cancer prevention and protection against some viral infections. Some might be good for you, but there are some may be toxic for you.
  2. It’s important to avoid risky behaviors that can lead to infection and increase your lost-battle-with-cancer-quotes-In-loving-memory-of-every-cancer-patientrisks for cancer.

-Practice safe sex

-Do not share needles!

  1. Perform regular self-exams and get regular screenings for various forms of cancer. There are screening available for skin cancer, colon, cervix, and breast cancer (you can do this one yourself)!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today and taking the time to read this rather long post. This took me a lot of time to research and put together. It has been a rather sad day with my aunt passing away. The only good thing is, she left this world peacefully and is not in pain anymore. This post is dedicated to my husband’s amazing Grandfather, my Poppy and my aunt.share-the-love-eps-vector_csp59691544

I hope you had a good day and you have a lovely evening. I am not pressuring you but I would love to read your thoughts on this post. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Motivational Monday!

new-monday-new-week-motivational-gym-quotesHappy Monday to y’all! I hope you enjoyed your weekend and you were able to do the things that bring you joy. At times, life can feel excruciating long, especially when you are dealing with extreme pain and changes in life. Then again, life can also be very short and unfortunately we never know what’s around the next corner. I guess the only thing we can do is, live life to the fullest and never stop reaching for our dreams!

Monday tends to be a difficult day because of alarm clocks brian-tracy-inspirational-quoteand the days being set-up for us. There is a schedule and things that must be done, but it could be worse. Right now, I do not have this and I actually miss that set in stone schedule. Monday, is the start of a new week when we can work towards correcting the wrongs from last week to create a better outcome! I find the quote I am sharing with y’all today, not only motivating, but empowering because there is nothing we can’t do if we just try! We try to never put limits to what we can accomplish in life, because we are fearless and full of determination! Are there goals you did not get to last week, but want 51LF0zzAaDL._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_to achieve this week? What is one goal you are setting for yourself this week?

I hope your week starts off great and only gets better! May all your goals and dreams begin to become your reality! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Always, Alyssa

Painful losses

140096-Eckhart-Tolle-Quote-Loss-is-very-painful-because-any-kind-of-lossIt does not matter if this is something that is expected or if it happens unexpectedly, a loss is painful and tragic. Losing someone you care for is hard and it takes time for those wounds to heal, but the piece of your heart that is missing is irreplaceable. It hurts losing a loved one, friend, pet, or even a co-worker.

Today, February 16th is my grandfather, better known as Poppy’s birthday. Losing him almost 7 years ago caused me hqdefault (2)more pain than I have ever known was possible. I know I have written about him before, but my Poppy was my hero. There has never been and never will be another like him. He was special and love just radiated from this man. I believe if there were more people like him in this world, it would be a much better place.

I still remember when my husband’s grandfather passed away. It has been almost 11 years and the memories of him still shine bright in the eyes of the family. This was another man that was special and had a heart of gold; I do not believe he ever met a 98bd649d6231caf150d6324a4e2f8353stranger and everyone loved him. It has been almost 6 years since my husband’s grandmother passed away. His grandmother was a kind, loving, and beautiful woman that I still feel honored to have known. Until my husband’s grandparents, I had never known two people that were so devoted to each other and their family, which I am so glad I have been part of. This strongly devoted and loving couple was reunited again in Heaven, which is powerful! I do hope our grandparents met and the trio is watching over us.

I know I shared with y’all that my aunt on my mother’s side of the family has been battling cancer. She was told a few weeks ago that she had six months left to live, but it seems like that six-month time frame is changing way too fast. After working a 13-hour shift as a nurse, my mother received a call from my uncle to give her an update on my grief-4aunt’s condition. On Saturday, February 15th, my uncle shared that my aunt was not eating and was non-responsive. Hospice did come to my aunt and uncle’s house to assist with supporting my aunt with keeping her comfortable. My mother flew north for what will probably be the last time she sees her sister. It is terribly sad how what started off as my aunt having six months left to live, to what might be six days. My heart goes out to my uncle, cousin and my cousin’s children.

I am glad that my mother has been able to see her sister before her life comes to an end. goodbyes-are-not-forever-wooden-block-decal-sticker-graphic-91528-1-pI think having the last time you see a family member or anyone for that matter in the coffin, is probably the saddest and most traumatic image anyone can have. I was not able to see my Poppy before he passed away and that image of him looking peaceful in a coffin, haunts me still today.

I started my day wishing my dear Poppy Happy Birthday in heaven and then learned about my aunt’s battle, so it has been an emotional day. I promised myself that I will celebrate my Poppy’s life every year for his birthday and I also honor his life every day love-is-a-learned-behavior-a-person-cant-show-what-23519374by trying my best to continue making him proud of the person I am. Between my husband’s sweet grandparents and my Poppy, the losses have been painful, but having these amazing people in my life has added so much love and hope for me. I know that I will never be the person my Poppy was or the wife that my husband’s grandmother was or have the strength my husband’s grandfather had, but I will give all I can to being even half of what these amazing people were.

I hope y’all had a nice weekend and you are feeling well. Please, if you have a free fb373774f99eed9530f5aba2ca325708moment, say a prayer for my aunt who is saying her goodbyes, my uncle who is losing the woman he has been married to for 25 years, my cousin that is coming to terms with losing her mother, and my mother who is trying to be strong with saying goodbye to her older sister. I appreciate all your kind thoughts and hope your weekend was pleasant. Never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Let It Go Friday!

Happy Friday y’all! I hope your week has gone well and you are feeling great. I have been battling with a headache/migraine6 for several days now, which is why I have been a little absent and why this post is short. I just wanted to take a quick moment to share a great quote with y’all. I hope this quote will help you let go of the things that are holding you back and start again to make things better for yourself.

For these past two weeks, I have been trying to figure life out and how to keep going after I felt things had kind of fallen apart. It is a work in progress, but I am not about to give up. I do believe that life-difficulteverything happens for a reason and maybe I am supposed to be following my dreams now. 

I hope you have a fantastic Friday and your weekend is full of happiness! Please know that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Discovering your purpose in life!

2022503-Buddha-Quote-Your-purpose-in-life-is-to-find-your-purpose-and-giveRecently, I have been asking myself what the meaning of life is. To get a little clarity, I decided it might be helpful to look into this a little more. According to Webster’s Dictionary, the meaning of life is to fulfill your purpose in life and accomplish your goals. This definition, of course, created another question for me. First, what is our purpose in life and how do we know what that purpose is? The meaning behind the purpose of life consists of the main motivating factors we feel. Our purpose for living can influence the decision we make, direct our mannerisms, help our goals, provides a sense of direction, and offer us meaning in life. In this post, I am going to share with y’all the information I have discovered and hope it will be beneficial to you!meaning of life

The purpose of life will be different and unique for everyone. Figuring out what our purpose in life might be challenging and it can shift throughout life as we change and grow. Our purpose isn’t something we can just make up because it is already embedded into our being. This purpose is about accepting and acknowledging our gifts, but also utilizing those gifts by sharing them with the world.

Even though our purpose in life may evolve from new possibilities, which might be exciting. This can prompt physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual transitions; we need to not allow chaos to consume our minds. During times of transition, it is common to have questions surrounding our purpose. The changes that come with a transition can make parts of life challenging and even create additional stress factors, but we must stay focused on our purposelives. The following are some questions you might have when you reflect on your purpose:

  1. Who am I?
  2. Where do I belong?
  3. When do I feel fulfilled?

For some people, their purpose in life is obvious and clear from a young age. These individuals are born with a natural talent and or their drive for their passion burns bright and strong. However, others do not find it as easy to determine what they are truly passionate about. For these people, it may take them diving deep into their hearts, souls, and thoughts to discover what they have a passion for. This isn’t something that can not be rushed and it is okay for it to take time. Please just make yourself a promise that you will never give up this search because you will get there!find-your-life-s-purpose

Unfortunately, there are people who thought they had a handle on what their purpose was and then lost about everything, leaving them to start over again. When being forced to re-evaluate what your purpose in life is can be a scary thing to face, but might be a perfect time to get things on the right path.

The search for our purpose in life is not easy and can even take years to discover. You may have already determined what your purpose is, which I do find admirable. I am of course curious what you found your purpose to be and how you made this decision.

It is understandable if you are still searching for your purpose, this is something that can’t be rushed and diving deep into exploration could be beneficial for our own success. The journey in the search for our purpose in life might seem complicated, but it can be a wonderful adventure as well. Whether you are starting fresh or starting over again to find your purpose, I plan to take the journey with 22you, using the tips I am sharing today!

  1. Review the things you love ❤ to do and that comes easy to you. Even these talents take work, but it isn’t forced or even dreaded. Now, think about your favorite band. Your favorite band still practices even though they know all their music, so why wouldn’t we have to do the same?
  2. What are the qualities you enjoy being able to express? Once you know what these qualities are, think about the ways you enjoy expressing these qualities. I know y’all have many wonderful qualities!!
  3. This might be challenging, so please take your time. Develop a life purpose statement and a description of what the world would look like if it were running perfectly according to you. Now, combine these into one sentence and this will giveunnamed (2) you your purpose.
  4. Follow what your heart is telling you. In a sense, we all have an inner GPS that provides us direction. First, figure out where you are currently. Second, determine where you are going. All you have to do next is follow the instructions your heart ❤ gives you to reach your next destination.

You must be aware of where you want to go and stay focused on the vision you established through something like meditation. The steps required to arrive at the destination you are met to be at, will guide your way, create new ideas, and offer additional opportunities.

  1. Be clear about what you want out of life and stay focused on this. Believe it or not, DeHWpIXXcAAq_YUwe are all born with internal guidance that will tell us when we are on or not on the right path. Take as much time as you need because this isn’t something that should be rushed.

Consider where you are currently in life and where it is you want to be, do they align with each other? Now be completely honest with yourself and answer the following questions:

  • What is your current financial status?
  • Are you anywhere near where you want to be?
  • How are your relationships going?
  • How is your health, physically and mentally?

Now, change your thought process and answer the next questions as if your life was going perfectly.Purpose1

  • What does this life look like?
  • What kind of job would you have?
  • Where would you be living?
  • How is your health?

By answering questions like these multiple times, you can send powerful triggers to your subconscious mind that can assist you with getting where you want to be in life.

  1. I am going to share a link for a passion test with you that was developed by Chris and Janet Attwood https://thepassiontest.com/. You can try this, but no pressure at all. I thought it was pretty interesting, which is why I had to share the link!

383c3e05538ecf49068efcbb47c8750923e54233r1-720-720_rawAnother interesting exercise you can try is to fill in the blanks to the following statement 10-15 times, “When my life is ideal, I am…. The only thing is you need to choose a verb when doing this and of course change it up some with each response. There is no right or wrong response; this is just meant to be a full way to determine your passions. After you complete this 10-15 times, identify what your top 5 statements are and create markers for each statement between 1 and 5. This will enable you to look at your life and decide if you are living your passion or not.

Once you know what your passions are and how life will look when living those passions, you will be able to develop a plan to turn your dreams into your reality!unnamed (2)

  1. Look back on your life when you experienced the most profound joys in your life. This method can also be utilized to determine your purpose in life. Take no more than 30 minutes to make this list and see what the common pattern is between the joys you had. The feeling of joy is part of that internal guidance system I mentioned earlier and will let you know if you are on the right path in life.
  2. Try this next exercise with establishing your purpose. Answer the following question 3-5 times and then review your answers to see what was common within them. “When have I felt most fulfilled?” Please remember that there is no rush answering this question and take your time.
  3. Figure out how to align your life’s purpose and passions. Once we understand what highres_488377919our purpose in life is everything we do moving forward should be organized around that purpose. Our purpose does need to be flexible with our personal goals, but it is critical to our professional goals. If you dread Monday and just keep going to live for weekends, do not ignore the signs that your career isn’t right for you. Follow the signs your heart is trying to lead you towards and pursue the work you are longing for.unnamed (2)
  4. You probably have additional clarity regarding your purpose by now. Little by little lean on your purpose and pay very close attention to the feedback you hear from others. The feedback you receive and how you are feeling about life will drastically improve!

As you continue on the path of the purpose you discover, try to keep asking yourself the following questions. These questions will help you know that you are staying on the best unnamed (3)path for your life and keep going in the right direction.

  1. Are you where you want to be?
  2. Have you accomplished all you thought you would by now?
  3. Are you enjoying the lifestyle, travel, weekends, and leisure pursuits you always dreamed of?
  4. Do you want a more fulfilling career?
  5. Could your relationships be deeper, more rewarding, and more meaningful?

Once you have discovered your purpose, remember to continue to recognize, accept, and respect those purposes!artworkimage-medium-21902316-7336573

I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful in your life. We all know how difficult and outright painful life can be, so it is best to simply it as much as we can. I am really looking forward to your comments on this post and I do promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Motivational Monday

5afdae460fa899918ce4403eaf11d0ffHappy Monday y’all! I hope y’all had a wonderful weekend and y’all are ready for another new week. I have kind of told y’all that I have been going through a difficult time and I really struggling a little to see the positive in things that have gone on. Even as I say this I know there are so many others that are dealing with a lot worse than I am, but I would appreciate something positive to brighten my life even just a little. The things that have helped me process the negative things I have unnamed (1)gone through have been writing and music. I think having my earbuds in my ears for hours might have made my husband think I was ignoring him, he also understands the power in music!

Let’s use today as a fresh start to new beginnings. Anything that has happened in the lastimages (2) few weeks is in the past and there isn’t much we can do to change them. All we should do is live, learn, and move on! I discovered the quote I am sharing with y’all a few weeks ago, but was waiting for the best time to share it and I hope it will start your week off great! Sometimes it isn’t easy to stay positive, but it best to just keep our minds in an optimistic mindset because it is better for the soul. I have found that sometimes the best things in our life happen at the most unexpected times.

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Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I hope your week starts off great and only gets better. What do you think about viewing Monday as a brand new start to a better week? I know Monday’s are often dreaded because it means the weekend has ended and there is another week waking up to an alarm clock, but it could be worse. I mean how would you if that typical week was changed and you did not have somewhere you were supposed to be? Please know that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

What would you do if….

tomorrow_is_never_promised_quotesThis post was inspired by my aunt on my mother’s side of the family. She has been dealing with several years of fighting against cancer. Sadly, last week my aunt’s doctor told her she has just six months left to live. Of course, my mother has been very distraught about this news. My mother and her sister may not live close to one another, but my mother still doesn’t want to lose her older sister and they are family. I tried being positive for my mother’s sake by saying that doctors can be wrong and her sister may continue to live many more years. Unfortunately, my mother is a nurse so she knows hospice doesn’t get involved without real reasons.

I have tried helping my mother find a plane ticket for a reasonable price because if herb9cfba_ee0a88aa6b01489596778390130a979a_mv2_d_2048_2048_s_2 sister does only have six months left to live, this may be the last chance they have to see each other. I know what it is like losing someone you love and the last time you see them, they are in a coffin. It is traumatizing and I do not want that feeling for my mother. Even though I do hate to admit this, I have not seen or talked to my aunt in many years, but I am wishing nothing but the best for her and as much comfort as possible for her.

I can’t imagine how my aunt is feeling during such an awful time. I don’t even know how long, but my aunt and uncle have been married a long time and been through a lot together. She also has a daughter that is a few years younger than me and she has grandchildren she adores. It is terrible how little I actually know about my family, but were are reasons that use to matter that fb373774f99eed9530f5aba2ca325708does not seem all that important now. Unfortunately, we can’t go back and change the past.

This has had my mind spinning in circles because I can’t imagine what it would be like being told you have six months to live. There is no way that would be easy to handle and still try to keep a positive mindset.

There are not too many people that would deserve to hear news like my aunt did. I might not be close to my family, but I do know my aunt spent her life working hard trying to provide the best she could for her daughter and now she is facing the end of her life. I know life isn’t fair, but my aunt doesn’t deserve the fate waiting for her. I wish there was something I could do to change her fate beside keep her in my prayers and ask others to do the same.

Have you ever thought about how you would handle news like this? What would you do if you learned you only have a few months to live? Is there anything on your bucket list you would do in the last months of life?fd7e9c90de9076138c14fbde81192621 I have thought about this before because you never know when your time is up. If I was told that I only have a few months left to live, I would want to be sure I traveled to all the places I want to see. I enjoy traveling and of course, I love to see new beaches; after all, the beach is my happy place! I do believe it is best to spend our time here living our life as full as we possibly can. I think we should live each day like it is our last. I know some might think this is a negative way to live life and that is okay, we are all entitled to our own thoughts and beliefs. I honestly do not want ever to ever take life for granted and never want those I love to wonder how I feel about them because they deserve to know without any doubts.

originalThank y’all so much for visiting my site today! The important things I hope you take from this post are, love and appreciate your life and those in it. Never take life for granted because it can all be over in the blink of an eye without any warning. I am looking forward to reading what you think about this post and I will response as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤