Ways to care for your mental health during a pandemic

coronavriusOn March 11, 2020, both the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and the World Health Organization (WHO) declared a global pandemic due to the coronavirus. The coronavirus has affected 192 countries and territories worldwide and 1 International conveyance, the Diamond Princess Cruise ship. It has steadily been causing vast amounts of turmoil in most households around the world.

Only to add the apprehension things have occurred, no one ever thought they would see in their lifetime. Starting with sporting event cancellations, school closings, mass ppe-graphicshortages of personal protective equipment in hospitals, delaying elective surgeries, borders closing to International travelers, malls with either adjusted hours or closing altogether, restaurants only offering take-out, grocery store’s shelves are pretty much empty, employers being forced to allow employees to work from home if the work permits or laying employees off because they can’t afford them,  and I am sure there is more that I didn’t remember.

Even though it will not be easy, we all need to find ways to calm our overactive anxiety and feelings of distress. First, how many times do you check for updates regarding the coronavirus? Second question, how many news outlets, whether it is TV or online news CoronavirusAMUpdatesources? It may help your anxiety and stress levels if you try limiting the number of times you check for updates, such as no more than 2 times a day and NEVER right before bed. It is also very important to choose a credible news outlet for your source. It could provide you additional security to have at least two trustworthy sites because it will allow you to fact check the information.

No matter where we live, we are all in this together and will be until things start to improve. Not to sound negative, but things will probably get even worse before they begin to get better. It is critical to listen to and rely on trustworthy news outlets and WEBREADY_Free-Press-Editorial_Oped_Hannah-Riseman-900x600actual public health experts. It doesn’t matter who the politician is, they did not dedicate their lives to healthcare.

What does your body go through when stress and anxiety reach extremely high levels? What exactly is causing you the most worry? What do you fear the most right now? Is there anything you can do to make what you are worried about easier or end altogether? Allow your mind the time and honesty to answer these questions. Maybe this will distract you some and provide you clarity of your feelings.

The unfortunate truth is we have no control of this virus, but we do have control of what copingwe do and how we cope with major situations. I am going to share some ideas that may provide distractions to relieve your anxious mind.

  • Connect with family and friends via video chat, phone calls, emails, and social media.
  • Yoga- If you have not practiced yoga before and want to start, now might be a good time because learning and trying new things could be enjoyable and a healthy distraction.
  • Meditation- If you have never meditated before, that’s okay because there are numerous apps available that are easy to follow, such as https://www.headspace.com/ and https://www.calm.com/. You could also visit Bella’s website https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/. Bella has many posts about meditation that are absolutely amazing and helpful.
  • Controlled breathing, which is called square breathing. Imagine your breathcoping traveling along a square. Inhale up the first side of the square, count to 3, and exhale. Do this on all sides of the square!
  • Read a good book
  • Watch a comedy
  • Eat familiar foods that you enjoy
  • Free yourself from stress by coloring
  • Form a calming atmosphere with sweet aromas
  • Get out your knitting, crocheting, sewing or any other creative craft you enjoy
  • Take a warm bubble bath to drown your stress away
  • Contemplate with your journal. If you do not have a journal, it might help you to EPIDT6GUCNBRLE5PF4CDD73D4Ystart one now
  • Pour yourself a warm cup of tea
  • Refresh yourself and skin with a facial mask
  • Get a deck of cards, puzzle or board game out to play

We do not really know how long we will continue being in monumental amounts of turbulence. We realize there is so much we do not have control over, such as how long we will be dealing with this pandemic, how many people will suffer because of it, or how our communities will be affected. None of this is easy to accept or even understand, but there are several ways we can reduce our personal risks of obtaining the virus.

  • Wash your hands frequently for at least 20 seconds with soap and water or handCoronavirus-Twitter-card-pic.xc9f75d90 sanitizer that has at least 60% alcohol
  • Avoid touching your face, eyes, nose, and mouth in particular
  • Even if you do not feel sick, stay home as much as you can
  • Avoid crowds and gathering with more than 10 people
  • Avoid all non-essential shopping and travel
  • Keep 6 feet of distance between yourself and others when out
  • To help support your immune system, get plenty of sleep
  • Follow ALL recommendation from health establishments

self careWhile we remain in distressing time we need to not forget to care for our body and spirit. The following ideas are ways we can tend to our self-care while we deal with disturbances caused by the coronavirus

  • Be kind to yourself:

If you’re experiencing depression and or anxiety, go easy on yourself and know you are not alone

  • Maintain a routine as much as you can:

Even though you might be confined to your house, continue your normal sleep, meals, and work schedule

  • Make time for the activities you enjoy:

Read that book you’ve been meaning to start, play games you find enjoyable, cook julyselfcaresomething, and create something or anything else to occupy your mind from the stress you have been feeling

  • If possible get out in nature:

Sunshine and fresh can be beneficial for our mental and physical health. Whatever you do, obey the restrictions that have been put in place, keep your distance from people you may encounter, and avoid crowds

  • Find ways to exercise:

Of course, all gyms and exercise classes will be closed, but you can find alternative ways to exercise. Staying active will help relieve stress, anxiety, and even manage our moods. Get creative with what you are images (2)able to do without equipment, such as using your own bodyweight to exercise

  • Avoid self-medicating:

Be cautious about using alcohol or other substances to control your anxiety and depression

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope the information provided will be beneficial for you and your family. Times are anything but easy right now, but hopefully things will start improving very soon. I hope you have a great afternoon and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Motivational Monday

positive mondayHappy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely weekend and you are ready to start a new week! Sadly, I know everyone is aware and affected by the coronavirus pandemic. The only thing I wish is the everyone could show the respect others are deserved. It is awful that the grown adults in the government can’t seem to do this. If only when these people spoke, the truth would leave their lips instead of lies. It is hard to know anymore when, if anything we hear is honest. I don’t enjoy being pessimistic, but how can we be anything else when we can’t even tell who is telling us the truth? How are we supposed to trust a government that should have done something sooner, instead of blaming everyone else and calling this pandemic a hoax?

I know we were all told to stay at home this weekend and not go out unless it was absolutely necessary. Did y’all do anything or were you doing what we were all advised0b242-butterflybutterfly to do and hang out at home? My mother and husband did not want me to leave the house over the weekend because of my weak immune system, but we all still need groceries, right? I did not stay in a store long and was sure to wash down the shopping cart with the available products and I wrapped the handle with paper towels. As soon as I left the store, I disinfected my hands and washed them well when I got home! Other than one trip to the store, I did stay my rear end in the house working on my blog, proposals for freelance ( which one stated they are putting their project on hold a week or so because of the pandemic), and educated myself on different forms of writing. It was all very interesting and I promise to Maya-Angelou-13-1share it with y’all soon!

As we are all going to start our new week off with a positive mindset, well I guess as positive as we can when the world is under attack with coronovirus, I have a short and simple quote that I think everyone should live by! I mean, could you even imagine a world where one person gets something, they give to another? And when one person learns something, they teach someone else? It would create so many opportunities and extend so much love to thousands, millions, and even billions of people! It kind of sounds like a fairy-tale that I do hold onto to hope could happen someday!raf750x1000075t322e3f-696a94a5d4-u2

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit today! I hope you have a fantastic Monday and you week only gets better each day! Don”t forget to take care of yourself because you are very important to all of us in the blogging community, I definitely do not want anything bad to happen to any of you! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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How to not feel trapped by life

pursuit of happinessWe are all in the pursuit of happiness for our life. We must try to discover what we truly want from the life we are living. We can easily begin to feel trapped by our aspirations, triumphs, failures, and responsibilities. We can inflict these on ourselves or they may be imposed on us by outside forces.

Our ultimate goal needs to be to not feelwindow-335607_960_720 trapped in life because there are so many pathways for a joyful, prosperous life that there isn’t a good reason to not aspire for something healthier.

It is crucial to create your own journey and not view something as better but focus on making things healthier. This can enable us to free our mind from feeling trapped in our life. Below are ways we might be able to get to that free point.

  1. Live below your means

There is so much marketing that encourages consumers to buy new products. They promote these new products as better and those they will make people happy, which isn’t true.

live belowThis creates the thoughts we need to make more money so we can buy bigger houses, newer cars, up to date brand name clothes, or the most current electronics, even though the one bought last year still works.

Living below our means gives us the freedom to not be a slave to a job that makes us miserable. The advertisements that are created to grab our interests need to be ignored because most of those products are not needed. Balancing our needs with wants is important to acknowledge.

  1. Accept responsibility for your choices and actions

We are the only one that can save ourselves from the decisions we have made. There arerespp too many people that spend their time complaining about how awful they think their life is, instead of putting the effort into making the changes we need. There are times bad things happen to a person that can’t be avoided.  When this does happen, we need to accept what occurred and move on the best we can.

The truth is, many only want to blame everyone and everything else for their hard times in life, but they fail to look in the mirror for the blame. It is important to look in the mirror because often times there is no one else that can fix our problems.

  1. Strive for a healthier lifestyle

Living an unhealthy lifestyle will negatively influence our quality of thoughts, emotions, bband life.

Easy choices like cutting back on unhealthy foods, trying to get a little more regular exercise, and the proper amount of sleep each night can drastically improve our mentality and perspectives. A healthier lifestyle can depend on the foundation of sleep. The deeper stages of sleep are when our brain produces the images (1)chemicals to maintain our mood and balance throughout the day. Both our moods and emotions will suffer if we don’t get enough sleep.

Food and drinks provide our minds with the nourishment we need and offer us our energy throughout the day. The simple changes we can make to drink less sugary and caffeinated beverages and more water can provide mental and physical health benefits.

  1. Embrace change when it is the only option

Growth and change are things that can’t be avoided if we are living a positive and meaningful life. We will make changes to our views; work on our mental and emotional health, which may show us we have outgrown some situations and or people.12-30-2018_Image_EmbraceChangeposter

Outgrowing certain situations may be challenging. Outgrowing some of our friends and even our family will be much more difficult. During this time we need to analyze the situations and people to determine which are meaningful to our life. If you view some people are toxic because of their actions, they will only continue dragging us down.

Some people actually prefer to stay stagnant in their life because it is comfortable and they do care to make changes for a healthier life. We need to try embracing changes and enjoy the amazing opportunities that will free us from feeling trapped.

  1. Learn to say “NO”

unknown-author-color-text-cream-paper-learn-say-no-explaining-8u3xAdapting to the ability to say “no” can be difficult, but it is an important skill to learn. There will never be a time when something isn’t going on or someone else doesn’t need something or even when another responsibility doesn’t come up. If we don’t learn to say “no” we will always be caught up with something and may even be taken advantage of by someone who doesn’t expect to hear us say no.

The ability to say no could keep us from feeling trapped by too many responsibilities.

  1. Do more things that make us happy

This might not be something we think about because of many different reasons that make sense to us.7df2c73195ef62c8298ee47459879666 As long as what makes us happy isn’t harming anyone else, there is nothing wrong with it. We all know that people enjoy judging others for how they live, but they really do not matter at the end of the day.

We all have the right to discover happiness and do what makes us happy. Dedicating time to what brings us happiness is necessary for self-care.

The normal day-to-day life can have a great deal of negativity and repetition. There are times when the repetition can lead us to believe we are bored with our life, which can make us feel trapped. This is the main reason for doing things that bring us joy is so important.

  1. Add spontaneity and creativity to your life

Human beings are not designed for an inflexible immutable schedule of things we mustcreativity do. Often the feelings of being trapped are more thought of being trapped due to the monotony of life.

Working a normal job, bills to pay, and other responsibilities can get too routine. We all need excitement, creativity, and spontaneity in our life. Whatever we do doesn’t need to be expensive, it can simply be a walk in the park or a short scenic drive. We can even do something creative that can be displayed around the house or given to a friend or family member.

  1. Seek help from a professional

crossroad signThere are many reasons a person may feel trapped and not all will be easy to figure out. The reasons could lead to depression or other mental health issues.

It might not be easy admitting the need to talk to a professional, but it might be worth it. Talking to a professional could help get past the feelings of being trapped.

 

Our life doesn’t need to feel like it is a chore because it has so much more to offer. If we can learn to replace our negative emotions with healthier thoughts and habits, we can allow ourselves a more fulfilling life.depositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope what I have shared will be beneficial to helping you do what you need, so you can have the happiest life possible. I do look forward to reading what you thought about this information and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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National Cancer Prevention Month

Disclaimer***Before you start reading, I have a disclaimer. I am not a physician nor am I a medical professional. This information is mostly from hours of research. Also, this is slightly longer than most, if not all of my previous posts. I did not mean to write a small book for y’all to read, but I do think the information is important!

We just celebrated New Year’s, not too long ago. This tends to be a time many of us want to make changes to get healthier. Honestly though, how many times have you tried thisdepositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy and never stayed with for long-term? This is a great thought, but really can’t just be for one day, week, or even for a month, and should to be something we stay committed to. February is National Cancer Prevention month which gives us another opportunity to get focused on making sure we put our health first and we do everything within our powers to maintain good health.

I am glad that there is a month dedicated to cancer prevention because it is needed. In 2019, a staggering estimated 1.76 million new cases of cancer and 607,000 deaths due to 0345ebfac6e071e5a9cd46f91f1ef5b2cancer in the United States. In my lifetime, cancer has already taken too many people I care about. As a matter of fact, cancer is what took someone very special to me, my dear, sweet, and loving grandfather lost his battle to cancer almost seven years ago. My aunt fought her war against cancer, until before the sun came up on February 18 when the struggle became too much to bear and she couldn’t fight any longer. Even though this is a sad day, my aunt went peacefully in the comfort of her own home surrounded by family.

 It is terrifying how many different forms of cancer there are and how many of the risk factors are the same. I am not going to go through and list all types of cancer because it would probably feel like you are reading a short story and I don’t want to torment you like that. However, I am going to detail 11 different forms of this horrible disease.

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  1. Breast Cancer is a form of cancer that is easily treated, especially when it is detected early enough. This cancer does not discriminate and can affect men or women equally. This disease develops in breast tissue when the cells begin to grow out of control. Cancerous cells can form a malignant tumor that is felt as a lump and should be seen on a mammogram. Once cancer begins to progress, it is possible for an invasion of surrounding tissues and nearby lymph nodes to occur, which is a phenomenon known as metastasis.

Besides simply being a female, there are many other risk factors you might want to learn about.

  • Genetic mutations (BRCA1 or BRCA 2)
  • Family history
  • Early menstrual period
  • Late or no full-term pregnancies
  • Menopause after age 55
  • Overweight or obese post menopause
  • Dense breasts
  • Race or ethnicity
  • Combination or hormone therapy
  • Oral contraceptives
  • Previous radiation therapy
  • Consuming alcohol

stock-photo-national-cancer-prevention-month-february-text-in-heart-cycle-of-multi-color-lavender-purple-370540424Symptoms

  • A lump or hard, painless mass with irregular edges
  • Some masses may be tender, soft, or painful
  • Swelling and/or skin irritation
  • Nipple pain, turning inward, redness, or scaliness
  • Thickening of nipples or discharge other than breast milk
  1. Lung Cancer is the 2nd most common form of cancer and the leading cause of cancer-related deaths. There are three main types of lung cancer, which include:
  • Non-Small-Cell Lung Cancer (NSCLC) which consists of 80-85% of lung cancer
  • Small-Cell-Lung Cancer (SCLC)
  • Lung Carcinoma Tumor

This type of cancer causes more of a risk to men than it does women.

Risk Factors

  • Tobacco smoke is the leading risk for developing lung cancer. 2nd hand smoke can also cause lung cancer
  • Family history
  • Exposure to radon gas, asbestos, arsenic, and diesel exhaust3605083_0

¼ of all people that are living with lung cancer do not display symptoms and do not show until cancer has progressed. However, when symptoms do appear, they may include:

Symptoms

  • A new cough that will not go away or changes in a chronic cough or coughing up blood
  • Reoccurring infection, such as bronchitis or pneumonia
  • Shortness of breath, hoarseness, and or wheezing
  • Chest pain, fatigue, and or weakness
  • Loss of appetite or unexplained weight loss
  1. Prostate Cancer is slow growing-cancer, but also the 2nd leading cause of death among men. The prostate is a small walnut-sized gland that produces seminal fluid.

Risk Factors

  • Family history
  • Diet high in red meat
  • Chemical exposure
  • Sexually transmitted infection
  • Having had a vasectomy

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Symptoms

  • Frequent urge to urinate or difficulty urinating
  • Blood in urine or semen
  • Difficulty getting an erection
  • Pain in lower back and hips
  1. Colon and rectal cancer develop when cell growth becomes out of control in the colon and rectum. This form of cancer affects men and women equally, but black men and women are 25% more likely to develop colon cancer.

 Risk Factors

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  • Diet high in fat and red meat
  • Long-term inflammatory bowel disease
  • Obesity and lack of activity
  • Tobacco use and alcohol consumption

Symptoms

  • Changes in bowel habit ( diarrhea or constipation)
  • Blood in stool
  • Persistent abnormal pain or cramps
  • Unexplainable weight loss
  • Iron deficiency~ Anemia

 5. Melanoma (Skin Cancer) is a form of cancer that begins in the cells making up the pigment which gives skin color. Skin cancer seems like too broad of a category, so let me help break this down into the 4 different forms. (*The first two forms are more common than the last two forms*)

  • Superficial Spreading Melanoma grows horizontally and slowly across the top layer of skin before moving into deeper layers. This form accounts for 70% of skin cancer.
  • Nodular Melanoma is dangerous and grows fast. The appearance can look like a flat,750x,075,f-pad,750x1000,f8f8f8.u3mole, bug bit or a round black (but can have other colors) bump. Nodular Melanoma accounts for about 15% of cases.
  • Lentigo Melanoma is an early form when the malignant cells are confined to a tissue of origin.
  • Acral Lentiginous Melanoma (ALM) appears on the palms of hands, soles of feet, and under the nails. This is not very common but does affect African Americans the most.

Symptoms

  • Sores that do not heal
  • Pigment, redness or swelling that spreads outside the border of a spot to surrounding skin
  • Itchiness, tenderness, or pain
  • Changes in texture or scales, oozing or bleeding from an existing mole

At the first sign melanoma, there is typically a new spot on the skin or a change one that already existed. Follow the ABCDE Method to determine if an abnormal skin growth may be Melanoma.

Asymmetry- the mole has an irregular shape.cancer-screening

Border- Edge isn’t smooth and is irregular or notched.

Color- Mole has uneven shading or dark spots.

Diameter- Mole or spot is larger than that of a pencil eraser.

Evolving or elevation- The spot changes in size, shape, or texture.

  1. Bladder Cancer happens when the cells become abnormal and then begin to grow out of control. Over some time a tumor will form. Just like everything else, there are certain risk factors associated with bladder cancer.

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  • Family history
  • Smoking
  • Exposure to certain chemicals
  • Being white and or being a male
  • Chronic bladder infections

I am going to share some of the symptoms you would want to pay attention to and once noticed discuss with your physician.

Symptoms

  • Changes in the color of your urine
  • Burning or pain when urinating
  • Unable to urinate or only produce a very small amount
  • Feeling the urge to pee, when your bladder isn’t full

When bladder cancer starts to spread, there are some additional to notice and report back to your physician.cancer-ribbons-banner

Additional symptoms

  • Lower back pain
  • Losing weight when not trying
  • Not as hungry as normal
  • Swollen feet
  • Extreme fatigues and or weakness
  1. Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma starts in the lymphatic system, which is our body’s disease-fighting network. Tumors form in the lymphocytes, a type of white blood cells.unnamed

Risk Factors

  • Being over age 60 increases the risks
  • Exposure to certain chemicals which include benzene, herbicides, and pesticides
  • Previous chemotherapy or radiation treatments
  • Immune system deficiency and HIV Infection

Symptoms

  • Painless, swollen lymph nodes in the neck, armpits or groin
  • Abdominal pain and or swelling and chest pain
  • Coughing and difficulty breathing
  • Persistent fatigue
  1. Kidney Cancer also referred to as Renal Cell Carcinoma. This occurs when healthy e0bd9877f04a0f946d31b64a0c7d2f18cells in one or both kidneys start growing quickly, which ends up forming a lump (tumor).

Risk Factors

  • Smoking will DOUBLE the risks
  • Men are 2-3 times more likely to develop kidney cancer than women
  • Poor nutrition and overweight
  • High blood pressure

Symptoms

  • Blood in urine
  • Lower back pain on one side
  • Mass on the side or lower back
  • A fever that does not go away
  1. Endometrial Cancer begins in the uterus, so this is for women only.

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  • Changes in the balance of female hormones
  • More menstruation years and or never pregnant
  • Older age and obesity
  • Inherited colon cancer syndrome

I know none of us enjoy going for yearly exams, but that appointment just might save our life by discovering cancer early.

 

Symptoms

  • Abnormal vaginal bleeding or discharge
  • Difficulty or painful urination
  • Pain in the lower abdomen
  • Painful intercourse
  1. Pancreatic Cancer starts in organs that lie behind the lower part  the stomach and typically spreads to other organs rapidly.4407244_0

Risk Factors

  • Gender, this is more common in men, than women
  • Family history
  • Smoking age and obesity
  • Diabetes
  • Rare inherited condition

Symptoms

  • Jaundice, which is yellowing of the eyes and skin
  • Belly or back pain
  • Nausea, vomiting and weight loss
  • Enlargement of gallbladder or liver

Now that we have learned a lot about cancer, I have just a little more information that I think we will helpful. Considering it is National Cancer Prevention Month, I now have helpful tips to prevent cancer.

  1. The use of tobacco products can drastically increase your risk of cancer. With that said, I think it is time to find a way to QUIT!!!!
  2. Eating a healthy diet is vital for good health. I healthy diet may include plenty of fruits, vegetables, and other plant-based foods. According to a report from the
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  4. International Agency for Research on Cancer, a large intake amount of processed meats can increase the risk of some cancers.

**An important fact is women who eat a Mediterranean diet have a reduced risk for breast cancer. A Mediterranean diet consists of mostly plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and nuts. Those that follow this diet choose healthy fats, like olive oil instead of butter and fish as opposed to red meat.**

  1. You can reduce your risks of breast, prostate, lung, colon and kidney cancer by maintaining a healthy weight and staying active.

For adults that are aiming for substantial health benefits, they should try for at least 150 minutes weekly of either moderate aerobic or 75 minutes weekly of vigorous aerobic activity. The general rule of thumb is to try including at least 30 minutes of physical activity to your daily routine.'

  1. Be sure to keep yourself protected from the sun. One of the most common and preventable forms of cancer is skin cancer. I am going to share 5 simple tips to prevent yourself from the sun.
  • Sun rays are the strongest between the hours of 10:00 am and 4:00 pm. It is best to avoid the midday sun!
  • If you need to be outside, stay in the shade the best you can, plus sunglasses and hats will help.
  • Choose dark or bright, tightly woven, loose-fitting clothing because they reflect more ultraviolet radiation than pastels.
  • Even on cloudy days use at least SPF 30 sunscreen. Apply generously and reapply every 2 hours, more if you are swimming.
  • Tanning beds cause just as much damage as the natural sun, so try to AVOID
  1. Discuss vaccinations with your doctor for cancer prevention and protection against some viral infections. Some might be good for you, but there are some may be toxic for you.
  2. It’s important to avoid risky behaviors that can lead to infection and increase your lost-battle-with-cancer-quotes-In-loving-memory-of-every-cancer-patientrisks for cancer.

-Practice safe sex

-Do not share needles!

  1. Perform regular self-exams and get regular screenings for various forms of cancer. There are screening available for skin cancer, colon, cervix, and breast cancer (you can do this one yourself)!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today and taking the time to read this rather long post. This took me a lot of time to research and put together. It has been a rather sad day with my aunt passing away. The only good thing is, she left this world peacefully and is not in pain anymore. This post is dedicated to my husband’s amazing Grandfather, my Poppy and my aunt.share-the-love-eps-vector_csp59691544

I hope you had a good day and you have a lovely evening. I am not pressuring you but I would love to read your thoughts on this post. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Painful losses

140096-Eckhart-Tolle-Quote-Loss-is-very-painful-because-any-kind-of-lossIt does not matter if this is something that is expected or if it happens unexpectedly, a loss is painful and tragic. Losing someone you care for is hard and it takes time for those wounds to heal, but the piece of your heart that is missing is irreplaceable. It hurts losing a loved one, friend, pet, or even a co-worker.

Today, February 16th is my grandfather, better known as Poppy’s birthday. Losing him almost 7 years ago caused me hqdefault (2)more pain than I have ever known was possible. I know I have written about him before, but my Poppy was my hero. There has never been and never will be another like him. He was special and love just radiated from this man. I believe if there were more people like him in this world, it would be a much better place.

I still remember when my husband’s grandfather passed away. It has been almost 11 years and the memories of him still shine bright in the eyes of the family. This was another man that was special and had a heart of gold; I do not believe he ever met a 98bd649d6231caf150d6324a4e2f8353stranger and everyone loved him. It has been almost 6 years since my husband’s grandmother passed away. His grandmother was a kind, loving, and beautiful woman that I still feel honored to have known. Until my husband’s grandparents, I had never known two people that were so devoted to each other and their family, which I am so glad I have been part of. This strongly devoted and loving couple was reunited again in Heaven, which is powerful! I do hope our grandparents met and the trio is watching over us.

I know I shared with y’all that my aunt on my mother’s side of the family has been battling cancer. She was told a few weeks ago that she had six months left to live, but it seems like that six-month time frame is changing way too fast. After working a 13-hour shift as a nurse, my mother received a call from my uncle to give her an update on my grief-4aunt’s condition. On Saturday, February 15th, my uncle shared that my aunt was not eating and was non-responsive. Hospice did come to my aunt and uncle’s house to assist with supporting my aunt with keeping her comfortable. My mother flew north for what will probably be the last time she sees her sister. It is terribly sad how what started off as my aunt having six months left to live, to what might be six days. My heart goes out to my uncle, cousin and my cousin’s children.

I am glad that my mother has been able to see her sister before her life comes to an end. goodbyes-are-not-forever-wooden-block-decal-sticker-graphic-91528-1-pI think having the last time you see a family member or anyone for that matter in the coffin, is probably the saddest and most traumatic image anyone can have. I was not able to see my Poppy before he passed away and that image of him looking peaceful in a coffin, haunts me still today.

I started my day wishing my dear Poppy Happy Birthday in heaven and then learned about my aunt’s battle, so it has been an emotional day. I promised myself that I will celebrate my Poppy’s life every year for his birthday and I also honor his life every day love-is-a-learned-behavior-a-person-cant-show-what-23519374by trying my best to continue making him proud of the person I am. Between my husband’s sweet grandparents and my Poppy, the losses have been painful, but having these amazing people in my life has added so much love and hope for me. I know that I will never be the person my Poppy was or the wife that my husband’s grandmother was or have the strength my husband’s grandfather had, but I will give all I can to being even half of what these amazing people were.

I hope y’all had a nice weekend and you are feeling well. Please, if you have a free fb373774f99eed9530f5aba2ca325708moment, say a prayer for my aunt who is saying her goodbyes, my uncle who is losing the woman he has been married to for 25 years, my cousin that is coming to terms with losing her mother, and my mother who is trying to be strong with saying goodbye to her older sister. I appreciate all your kind thoughts and hope your weekend was pleasant. Never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

What would you do if….

tomorrow_is_never_promised_quotesThis post was inspired by my aunt on my mother’s side of the family. She has been dealing with several years of fighting against cancer. Sadly, last week my aunt’s doctor told her she has just six months left to live. Of course, my mother has been very distraught about this news. My mother and her sister may not live close to one another, but my mother still doesn’t want to lose her older sister and they are family. I tried being positive for my mother’s sake by saying that doctors can be wrong and her sister may continue to live many more years. Unfortunately, my mother is a nurse so she knows hospice doesn’t get involved without real reasons.

I have tried helping my mother find a plane ticket for a reasonable price because if herb9cfba_ee0a88aa6b01489596778390130a979a_mv2_d_2048_2048_s_2 sister does only have six months left to live, this may be the last chance they have to see each other. I know what it is like losing someone you love and the last time you see them, they are in a coffin. It is traumatizing and I do not want that feeling for my mother. Even though I do hate to admit this, I have not seen or talked to my aunt in many years, but I am wishing nothing but the best for her and as much comfort as possible for her.

I can’t imagine how my aunt is feeling during such an awful time. I don’t even know how long, but my aunt and uncle have been married a long time and been through a lot together. She also has a daughter that is a few years younger than me and she has grandchildren she adores. It is terrible how little I actually know about my family, but were are reasons that use to matter that fb373774f99eed9530f5aba2ca325708does not seem all that important now. Unfortunately, we can’t go back and change the past.

This has had my mind spinning in circles because I can’t imagine what it would be like being told you have six months to live. There is no way that would be easy to handle and still try to keep a positive mindset.

There are not too many people that would deserve to hear news like my aunt did. I might not be close to my family, but I do know my aunt spent her life working hard trying to provide the best she could for her daughter and now she is facing the end of her life. I know life isn’t fair, but my aunt doesn’t deserve the fate waiting for her. I wish there was something I could do to change her fate beside keep her in my prayers and ask others to do the same.

Have you ever thought about how you would handle news like this? What would you do if you learned you only have a few months to live? Is there anything on your bucket list you would do in the last months of life?fd7e9c90de9076138c14fbde81192621 I have thought about this before because you never know when your time is up. If I was told that I only have a few months left to live, I would want to be sure I traveled to all the places I want to see. I enjoy traveling and of course, I love to see new beaches; after all, the beach is my happy place! I do believe it is best to spend our time here living our life as full as we possibly can. I think we should live each day like it is our last. I know some might think this is a negative way to live life and that is okay, we are all entitled to our own thoughts and beliefs. I honestly do not want ever to ever take life for granted and never want those I love to wonder how I feel about them because they deserve to know without any doubts.

originalThank y’all so much for visiting my site today! The important things I hope you take from this post are, love and appreciate your life and those in it. Never take life for granted because it can all be over in the blink of an eye without any warning. I am looking forward to reading what you think about this post and I will response as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Happy Thanksgiving Friends!

62751I want to wish y’all a very Happy Thanksgiving! Whether you are spending the day with a large family or smaller family,  cooking a huge meal or just eating or a large meal, or spending the day Images-for-Thanksgiving-2019alone, I hope your day is full of joy and remembering all you are truly thankful for! I know I don’t need to say this to y’all, but when sending love out for the holiday, never forget to send the same  love ❤ and thankfulness to those in Heaven ❤!

I always share a Pick Me Up quote to help y’all get through one last day in the week before the weekend arrives. Even though our work week is shorter due to the holiday I do have a quote to share and hope you enjoy it!796c164c6bd7e51a6297c1a97444ab0c

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I look forward to reading your thoughts about this post, but I also do not want you to miss out on spending time with1447355901-wdy-quotes-10 family, so please do not rush to comment! Of course I am curious, what are y’all thankful for? I will tell you I am thankful for all of my fantastic WordPress friends, family, friends and of course my loving cats! I do know that people in Canada already celebrated Thanksgiving, which I hope y’all enjoyed it. For all of you celebrating Thanksgiving today, I hope your day is filled with lots of love ❤ and joy! I hope y’all never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Good holiday gift idea!