Does pain cause you to be angry?

Good morningGood morning y’all and happy Wednesday! Thank goodness we are half way until the weekend is back! Are you having a good short week? When my office is closed on Monday, don’t get me wrong I love the day off, but I end up confusing the rest of the days of the week and being a day behind! Heck Tuesday morning I thought it was Monday, but I was thrilled to find out when I got to work it was Tuesday! I guess that is one of lives many pleasures! During a normal week, my mind is always a day ahead of time, so usually disappointed! 

Anger, pain and depression are three negative experiences that are bonded so closely together it can almost be impossible to know when one of these feelings ends and another begins. Pain can impact our emotions so deeply, producing a wide range of emotions from sadness, to anger to possibly rage! The feelings of anger are so often anger and painmisinterpreted as hostility because others may not understand what we are dealing with at any given time.

Anger can actually be a motivating force to put things into action, instead of just being all talk and complaints. For instances, when we are dealing with an insurance company and all the many hurdles to get through, just to get a needed procedure. Or even when trying to get our doctor to listen to our requests and not just pushing our needs to the side so they can move onto their next patient.

There are numerous physiological effects we can have from anger. Anger can be felt in our chest, head and the entire body! This could mean that the anger we feel increases the pain already felt, which makes so much sense to me. I started writing this because I have been dealing with SO much pain lately in my EmilysQuotes.Com-anger-pain-negative-sad-Eckhart-Tollelegs, back, arms and head and that pain is causing me so much frustration which quickly changes to ANGER! Logically, I know that being angry with my pain is not going to solve anything, but it just keeps happening without fail! I am typically a very calm and ❤caring person, but lately I feel like I am losing my temper so much faster and a lot easier! Today I had a co-worker, who let me just say has already made some really negative comments about me in the past, stop me to ask if I was okay because I seemed to not be walking as she thought would be “normal”. Considering my legs have been in a lot of pain lately, I do walk a little slower and refrain from using my right leg when I can, but pointing that out was not necessary. Could she have been being caring? Probably not! But I was hateful with my response when I said “I am fine!”! She had to push the issue a little further causing me to say once again, “I am FINE”, with a lot more force before walking away. Was I wrong in my reaction? Or was it the pain and frustration talking? Who can really say? But I do not feel like I was wrong and I do think it was the pain and frustration talking!

Do you personally find when you are in pain you have less patience for dealing with pain and angerothers? If so, how do you control your emotions and remain pleasant to others? I know I sometimes am shorter with my poor husband❤ and he  does not deserves that at all, but he also knows that is not me and I do not mean to be short with him. However, I still will feel bad about my less than ❤sweet attitude! I guess the vows are hold true, but maybe we should have added, with attitude and not as well!

Thank y’all for taking the time to visit my site today! I always appreciate you taking the time to read my posts and I really love to read your comments, which I will always respond to as quickly as I can! I hope you have a great day pain-free day! Please never forget that I am sending y’all LOTS of ❤love and comfort always!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

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Happy Long Weekend!

Good morning FriendsHappy Friday Y’all! I hope you had a great week and are looking forward to the much deserved long weekend! Don’t you think if we had these long weekends more often, maybe even once a month that would be absolutely wonderful? I think it is the anticipation of the long weekend that makes the week just drag by or maybe it was also because of all the extremely frustrating pain I was dealing with. Who knows, but I am leaving that in the past and just looking forward to a relaxing and enjoyable long weekend not dwelling on work or my pain issues! Thinking  nothing but positive thoughts that next week will be much better after 3 entire days of rest💤!!

Do y’all have any exciting plans for the long weekend🌼? I am literally over the moon🌜 excited that I will not hear the piercing sound of my alarm clock at that absolutely awful hour of 💤5:30 am!! I still think that is a pretty inhumane time for anything to make such rude and obnoxious sound, but if my alarm went off to music🎶 I would probably ignore it, unless it was a terrible song and that would just make me terribly mad! So, I guess it is really a no win situation for that poor pitiful alarm!

If there is anything that I do over this long and glorious weekend it will not only rest💤 my poor achy body, but spend time with family💞! It is so important to cherish our families as dont-give-up-galaxy-hold-on-hope-Favim.com-1428490sadly, they will not be around forever! Enjoying special and memorable moments can be so good for the heart and soul! I have a very small family, which makes it a little easier to be able to see everyone and not have to drive long distances. Unfortunately, my mother does work the weekends, but maybe we can get together for lunch on Monday, considering I will not be at work🌟!!!

I hope you have a wonderful and not busy Friday! I always appreciate you taking a moment to visit my site and I love❤ reading your comments! The absolute best thing about this Friday is that I am not already dreading Monday!! As always, I am sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Mother’s Day Tribute!

happy_mothers_day_butterflyMother’s Day is a day when we celebrate our mothers, but I think we should celebrate these incredible women every day! One day a year does not really seem like enough because these women are the ones that should have been who helped us become who we are today❤. Whether we learned from our mothers how we should behave or should not behave by following her example, it was an important lesson in our lives. No one is perfect, so maybe our mothers made mistakes, but we learned from those mistakes by witnessing the outcomes and will hopefully not make the same mistakes. In most situations, a mother’s love is true and pure so we should learn from that bond!

I am lucky enough to have a mother and mother in-law that love unconditionally💕! Both of these women are incredibly inspiring and encouraging, which I will be forever thankful for! On this day, I would like to wish both Dorianne Rushing❤ (my mother) and Carol Lovelace ❤(my mother in-law) a very Happy Mother’s Day. I would also like to thank both of these amazing women for your love and support through everything and anything! Through all the years, I do not know where I would be without the never ending love from my dear mother, as she really did play mother and father for a very long time!

I would also like to take this opportunity to wish all the mother’s reading this post a mothers-day-inspiring-quotes-thoughts-sayings76Happy Mother’s Day💕! I know y’all have all taught your children important values and always gave them the support they needed to succeed in life! I would also like to wish my sister in-law ❤a very Happy Mother’s Day! My sister in-law shows her beautiful and sweet little girl so much love and has taught her so much over her years with us! She is a special woman with a heart of gold! 

I hope y’all have had an amazing day! As always, I am sending y’all LOTS of ❤LOVE and comfort!

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Always, Alyssa

Happy Easter!

Happy EasterGood Evening Y’all! I hope you had a wonderful Easter Weekend! My hopes for all of you is that you had a peaceful and joyful weekend and were able to spend time with family! A weekend full of love and happiness is well deserved for all of you!

April is Parkinson’s Awareness Month, so I will be doing a few posts with information about Parkinson throughout the month. There is a very special person in my life that battles with this illness, so I will be doing this to honor him and his fight! Just like Multiple Sclerosis, there is no cure for Parkinson yet! My step father is a pretty strong and incredible man and I have faith in him to never give up his battle!

Thank you for visiting my site today and I do love to read your comments. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can! As always, I am sending y’all lots of love and comfort!! Never let go of your optimistic views and stand strong your battles with illness, someday you will win!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Forgiveness!?

forgiveness 2Do y’all ever find it extremely difficult to forgive sometimes? Is it even harder to find the power to forgive someone, when you find that is all you do in the relationship? This relationship can be a friend, family member or significant other, but the facts remain the same forgiveness can be extremely complicated and even grueling over time!  

Forgiveness is an intentional and voluntary process in which a person undergoes a change of feelings and attitude regarding an event that occurred in life and works towards letting go of negative emotions. This process is not easy, but it does help us to not destroy our lives with anger, hurt, bitterness and numerous other toxic emotions. I do find it hard to forgive someone who has made the same error of judgement multiple times, but at some point it is not necessarily their fault, it is mine for allowing it to forgiveness-1024x683continue.

There are several reasons why forgiving someone is important! Not to sound selfish, but forgiveness is not always just for another person, it is for our own well-being! Having the ability to forgive allows for us to move on without any anger in our hearts. Clenching onto anger only hinders us from well-deserved happiness. Grasping onto anger that resulted from being mistreated and or taken advantage of does not affect the one who did the wrong, it affects the victim in the situation in a very negative light. I might not be right, but I think letting go of our anger and hurt will cause the one that did us wrong more confusion and result in a healing heart for the one wronged. Why allow for anger and hurt to negatively impact our lives for an extended period of time? In the grand scheme of things it probably is not that important and should not be hanging over our heads, we are worth more than that!

We have all been in a situation where we have to make a decision to forgive someone, how do you handle that? Do you have specific steps to make it a little easier to wrap your forget the mistakemind around what went wrong and why? Maybe write down the person’s name that you feel like you need to forgive, along with the reasons behind it will be helpful. This may allow you to be a little clearer about the situation. Clasping the extent of the violation that was done onto you is also pretty important. Addressing the emotions involved is crucial in letting go over the problem. 

I have always heard that forgiving and forgetting is what we are supposed to do, but why should we forget? I have the ability to forgive another, even if they do the same thing over and over again, but I do not have the capability to forget what happened! The wrongs that were done are burned into my mind and heart forever! Being wronged by someone you put your trust into is so painful and hard to move past, so what do you do in that situation? For the most part, those that have treated me in a terribleforgiveness 1 and unfair way have been removed from my life. I think it is possible to forgive someone for what they have done wrong, but not allow that person into your life is logical. I feel that it is just protecting yourself from further hurt and incredible pain, but maybe I am not dealing with things in the best way I can.  Sometimes I do believe it is best to love as much as you can when possible, but let go when that “love” causes you more pain that joy!

I hope y’all are having a lovely weekend! I really appreciate you visiting my site today and really look forward to any comments you have! All of us are strong and compassionate people who have a deep understanding of others emotions! I know sometimes I go off a little rants about topics I am very passionate about and your support and understanding is very appreciated! I hope y’all are feeling well and getting the rest you all deserve!

I hope y’all have a safe St. Patrick’s Day! As always, I am sending y’all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Healthy Anger v.s Unhealthy Anger!

healthy-and-unhealthy-angerDid y’all know there is a difference between healthy anger and unhealthy anger? I honestly had no idea there was a difference. I do not like confrontation at all and I will try to avoid it at all costs. I guess you can say that I just bottle up my emotions even though I know that is not a good way to live.  I try so hard to ignore what I am really feeling, thinking that if I ignore it those emotions will just go away, but they do not! Avoiding confrontation has never been a successful method!

Anger alerts us that we need to protect ourselves. It is an alert that we are not being treated correctly and something in our life is not working out the best way it can and should! Anger is an awareness tool that shines light on an injustice and provides insight to make necessary changes. We should never dismiss the anger that we are feeling, but we should investigate our feelings and make imperative changes and then let it go. Adults-and-Anger-What-Causes-AngerLetting go is never easy, but if we are able to acknowledge and address the pain we are feeling, the next step is to just release those negative feelings and move on with our lives! If we continue to stifle our emotions we may miss an opportunity to make some real positive changes in life and that would be a disgrace to ourselves and we would probably regret not taking the chance we were given for a beneficial change!

Unhealthy anger does not do us any good either. This type of anger can cause emotional and physical issues, but can also have a terrible impact on those around us as well. Anger can suffocate a person that is only trying to avoid the initial confrontation, but the issues are still present until they are dealt with. Unhealthy anger is continuously fed, masks_of_anger_revisited and held onto, but the issue or issues are never addressed. This allows for anger to just pile up and you will feel like you are going to explode. I think the best way to explain it is, have you ever taken an unopened bottle of soda and shaken it vigorously? What happens when you open that bottle? Whatever type of soda you just shook up will explode all over the place.

My soda analogy is what can happen when someone allows for the anger to just stay inside their heart and mind, not address the problem and let it go! Whatever you are angry with will not just magically disappear and improve without talking about it. bottle-explosionCommunication is so incredibly important as it will allow us to learn from the mistakes made in life and make proper changes. Change can be scary, but it can be a good thing as well.

Anger can happen with anyone, not just a loved one or co-worker, it can occur when we drive to work and someone cuts us off. That one small incident with the bad drive sets presence to our mood for the day! With the situation with the bad driver, you are not really able to confront them and get the negative emotion out in the open, so what do you do? I guess you just have to expect for others on the road to not be as cautious and careful as you are and chalk it up to another day on the road! In situations like that I know the initial reaction might be to use some unpleasant sign language, but that does not fix the issue and will not teach anyone how to drive. I can honestly say that it is not easy to let things like this go, but at the same time is not worth our mental time and allowing it to ruin our day!

How many times has your significant other made you so angry that you wanted to angescream? Has anyone in your family ever done something so outrageous that it caused resentment and frustration to the point you were not able to speak to them for a little while?  It is perfectly normal to get angry, especially with family because you know more about them behind the scenes. I think family anger is a lot more painful than most anger because it is so much closer to your heart. I think anger with our family tends to be more intense because we normally have higher expectations for them than just the normal run of the mill person we communicate with. We hold our family to higher standards so we expect so much out of them. Sometimes I wonder if it is just better to keep our expectations low so we are never disappointed, but when something great happens we can savor that moment! 

Life can be extremely difficult and we are all going to face some kind of disagreement angry kittythroughout out lives. It is okay to be angry, but it is also very important to address what you are angry about. If you allow angry to fester and never address the problem, it will only hinder your own happiness. 

I hope y’all had a great Monday! As always I do appreciate you visiting my site today and your comments are very welcomed! I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can and look forward to the conversation! I hope y’all have a very relaxing and pleasant evening! Sending you lots of love and comfort!

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Always, Alyssa

Food For Thought!

foodforthoughtThis is just a little food for thought for everyone and I look forward to your responses! I know we all have our own conditions we are dealing with and they all cause various issues. We have learned to live with the pain, dizziness, numbness and numerous medications we are required to take, amongst many other difficulties. There are definitely days that are a lot more difficult to get through than others because we are frustrated with these troubles from our illness. I can only speak for myself, but when my multiple issues act up, I tend to take my frustrations out on my family members or really whoever is closest to me. Do y’all tend to lash out at those that are closest to you because you are aggravated with the medical issues?

One example I can speak to is, when my pain levels are through the roof I get a lot more irritated with the slightest of things. I will allow my pain to control my perception of what others are trying to do, even if they are just trying to help me or offer support. It can be so difficult to not allow for pain to control our emotions because sometimes you feel as though it will never go away!

I always wondered why we feel that it is okay to take our frustrations out on loved ones. I Frustrationguess maybe it is because most of our loved ones understand our struggles and therefore are more forgiving than others that do now know the circumstances would be. Or maybe I have it all wrong and not everyone takes their frustrations out on those closest to them and I am just mean when I am in pain. I do tend to have more of an attitude with my husband and my mother, but I never mean to be ugly to either of them. I also loss my temper a little more with my poor sweet and loving cats for reasons that are not at all logical. I may want them to just lie down and rest, but they have different ideas of what they want to do and I have learned controlling cat is almost impossible! In a logical frame of mind, I know that my husband, mother and cats are just acting out of love and they all want to make me feel better, so I truly feel bad for losing my temper with all of them from time to time!

So with all that said, please let me ask y’all a few quick questions! Do you find yourself taking your frustrations out on your loved ones? Does your significant other typically irritate you more when you are struggling with pain and or other issues? Do you tend to find parents more nagging or overbearing when you are suffering with your health issues? Or do you find it harder to be patient with your children and or pets when your health issues fare up? Oh and Heaven forbid you have to leave the house, do you find others a little Peacemore aggravating that you normally would?

I do try my best to remain quiet when I am dealing with pain, numbness and or headaches because I do not want to say something I know I will regret later. Again, maybe it is just me, but when I am suffering I would prefer to be left alone so that I can begin healing in my own ways. On normal days I do not like talking on the phone, so during these times I definitely have no interest in talking on the phone. I do not want to have to put on a  happy face or be polite and positive, I just want to be left in my own little negative bubble that will pop in time! My negative little bubble does not typically last an extended period of time, but it is my process of getting well! 

I want to thank y’all for visiting my site today and I really do look forward to reading your comments! I will respond to all comments as quickly as I possibly can! I hope y’all are enjoying this beautiful Saturday and doing what you want to do! The weather does not seem to corporate for long so we have to enjoy it when the sun is actually shinning down on us! Sending you love and comfort always!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa