Heavenly Birthday Wish

How do you wish someone a Happy Birthday when they have left this world? When someone you loved, admired, cherished, and miss is endless miles away in Heaven, you cannot call or visit them. The hardest and most challenging part is when you never had the chance to say “goodbye”. This can leave you wondering if a family member that you idolized ever knew how much you loved them and is heartbreaking. Is it possible that my late grandfather can still hear me when I talk to him? I can still hear his voice, but he is not answering my questions.

Today is my late grandfather’s birthday. Even though he passed away in 2013, I still try to honor the day he graced the world and everyone who knew him with his presence. I know he would not want anyone who knew him to be sad because that was the type of man he was. He was the most thoughtful and caring person in the world. I am thankful that he was my grandfather because I would like to think I am better because of him. I honestly believe that anyone who was privileged enough to know him was better because of him!

He fought a difficult fight with cancer and no matter how much strength he had, cancer won the battle. I am glad he was able to live a life doing the things he enjoyed. He was a pro golfer, and he loved his family. No one is perfect, but in my eyes, he was as close as someone can get to perfection. He was a devoted father and grandfather. I do not think anyone that knew him could say anything negative about him because he gave his all to those he cared about.

My late grandfather was an inspiration and the love he had shined in his eyes. He had never met a stranger and never judged anyone for anything. He thought of everyone as an equal and treated people with respect. I cannot help but think about what he would think about the terrible things that have occurred in this world in the past several years. He fought for this country, and I must believe he would not support or appreciate the corruption and hatred that is filling this country. There is a very small part of me that is glad he is not here to see the shameful ways the country has deteriorated.

Over the years, there was so much that I learned from my late grandfather. These lessons are the ones that I hold so close to my heart because they were so meaningful. I have never been the type to judge anyone on anything but the way they treat others and I think that is the way he was. The friends and family he left behind will always have a piece of their hearts that resides in Heaven. This is the piece of me that has been missing since September 9, 2013, but I do treasure the memories. I do believe there will be a day when I will see him again, but I am not sure when.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know this post might have been a little sad, but I do want to wish my late grandfather a very happy birthday in Heaven. I hope he is playing at the best golf courses available to him. I would enjoy reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa


Dear Cancer

Dear Cancer, 

You have taken so many people that I cared deeply for. You seem to attack many kind and loving people without reasons that make any sense. I am not sure where you came from, who created you, or why there have not been ways discovered to eradicate you from existence because you are pure evil and need to be eliminated from this world for the good of mankind. You do not deserve to still be around and causing as much damage, pain, and heartache as you have been able to so far.

I am aware of things that are known to cause cancer. Some labels on cigarettes warn about the health risks. It is known that smoking can cause lung cancer, but why have many people who have never smoked died from lung cancer? The Surgeon General makes things causing cancer clear, but is it to protect innocent people or to cover himself and prevent major lawsuits? I think the Surgeon General cares more about protecting himself and his bank account than he does about human lives.

Women go through all the appropriate doctor’s appointments and suggested tests, such as mammograms and pap smears. Even doing everything they are supposed to do to avoid various forms of cancers and through no fault of their own, you still invade their bodies causing them irrefutable damage. The most common form of cancer for women is breast cancer. As of now, breast cancer contributes to 290,560 new cases each year. One in eight women, which is approximately 13% will develop invasive breast cancer during their lifetime.

Ovarian cancer is the fifth most common form of cancer death affecting women in the United States. Approximately 19,880 will receive this diagnosis and 12,810 will not survive the diagnosis. The risk of a woman getting ovarian cancer during their lifetime is 1 in 78 and the chance of dying is about 1 in 108. 

Lung cancer is the leading cause of death worldwide. In 2022, approximately 236,740 people will receive this diagnosis in the United States, which is about 1 in 16 people. Unfortunately, 130,180 Americans lose their lives annually. In the United States, approximately 20,000-40,000 or 10-20% of lung cancers happen to those who either never smoked a day in their life or smoked less than 100 cigarettes in their lifetime.

Prostate cancer is the second most common malignancy in men worldwide. Approximately, one in eight men will receive this diagnosis in their lifetime. About six in ten cases are diagnosed in men 65 or older but is considered rare in men under 40. Although prostate cancer is considered serious, statistics suggest there are more than 3.1 million men who were diagnosed and are still alive today. Even though many do survive this cancer, 1 in 41 men will die from this type of cancer. 

Cancer, you took my grandfather away from me, the rest of his family and friends, and the world. Why did you do this? His purpose here on earth was still needed. You took a piece of my heart from me, and I will never forgive you for this. My grandfather was an amazing man that gave so much to the world with his kindness, love, and gentle smile. I do not believe you have a heart or soul, but someone needs to find a way to eliminate you as it would make the world a much better place. No one deserves your fate or the massive destruction you cause!

I wrote this post today because Friday will be the ninth anniversary of my grandfather passing away. Cancer causes so much pain in our world, and it is no one’s fault. No one asks to get cancer and they should never have to face this evilness. I do not understand why considering the United States is the wealthiest country in the world with brilliant scientist’s cures have not been discovered. The rage of cancer should not inflict anyone’s life and we should be free from it!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I cannot imagine anyone will enjoy this post because cancer has probably invaded your life in one way or another. I do not hate much in this world, but I do hate cancer with a passion! I would like the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you are having a good day and doing something that brings you comfort, and peace. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa