The Bright Side of Negative Feelings

We have all heard that there is power in positive thinking, which I have always believed to be true. Even though we need to try finding the positive aspects of most situations we encounter in life, sometimes is still can be nearly impossible to not recognize and acknowledge our negative feelings. Do you think it is possible to maintain a positive mindset most of the time, but that it also isn’t healthy to ignore our negative feelings?

In this post I am going to share with you some critical reasons why we should not ignore our negative feelings when they appear, but instead embrace them.

1. Negative feelings can be viewed as a powerful warning method-

What does our fear do for us? Fear warns us of imminent danger and urges us to take action. Our negative feelings basically do the same and are acting as an alarm that signals possible harm in some form. This hard could be physical, emotional, or mental depending on what is going on in life.

We all pay attention when we feel fear, so why shouldn’t we embrace negative feelings? We should ask ourselves the question, why we are experiencing these negative emotions? Is there something we should be avoiding? Does this mean we should be taking another path in life?

2. Negative feelings are trying to tell us that something is NOT right-

I have just explained how our negative feelings notify us of possible danger, but they also can be warning that something in our life isn’t right. Maybe it is something in our relationship, our career, or something with our health, or even something we continue to put off has issues that we need to address. Often we should not view our negative feelings as merely a nuisance, but more as a good friend that has our best interests in mind.

3. Negative emotions can encourage us to take beneficial actions-

Unfortunately, we have all received bad news that caused us sadness. When this happens, what is the first thing we do? It is human nature to feel down and even feel sorry for ourselves. Instead of ignoring these negative feelings, it might be better to embrace them. Acknowledge the feelings we are experiencing and allow them to help us find a logical solution.

We should not deny or apologize for our negative emotions. Nor should we allow these negative emotions to paralyze us or overwhelm us. We are allowed to feel what we feel, whenever we feel what we feel and never dismiss those emotions. We are feeling how we feel for a reason and maybe we should explore them.

4. Negative feelings allow us to welcome and appreciate the good life has to offer-

How would you feel if everything in life went the same and was predictable? If every moment of our life was always happy and content, there would not be any negative feelings that would make the positive feelings more appreciated when they occur. All of us need to understand that no matter how much pain and distress we may deal with, life will also provide us with happiness and comfort.

5. Negative feelings provide us confirmation of what is important-

A well-founded signal you have come into your core values is when you have negative feelings. Maybe you violated one of your values or you failed to follow through with a promise and you are feeling guilty for this. Negative feelings are commonly a crucial assertion that we are honoring our beliefs, values, and views.

6. Negative feelings invite us to contemplate-

Allowing ourselves to have negative feelings allows us the opportunity to think deeply about things we did not give adequate time to previously. It is possible, we need to consider our health practices or spending habits or maybe something we have continued putting off for a long period, but are all things that need to be dealt with. Embracing and acknowledging our negative feelings may not be easy, but they are needed for our mental, physical, and emotional health.

7. Negative feelings can help protect us when we feel overburden-

Many of us tend to overdo things and push ourselves beyond the limits we are aware of. When we do over extend ourselves, we will hopefully begin feeling negative feelings such as frustration and irritability. These feelings are our body’s way to telling us to start facing ourselves and start limiting the amount of additional commitments we take on. We must listen to our inner voice and pay attention to the warnings our negative feelings are trying to notify us of.

8. Negative feelings offer healing-

We do not need to have thick skin or be referred to as overly sensitive; we just need to take time to heal when someone else causes us pain. If another person does or says something hurtful, it is very common to have negative feelings regarding the situation. Denying our feelings, no matter how negative they maybe will not speed up our healing process. This means it might be beneficial to use those negative feelings to promote our healing and take the time needed to do so without rushing ourselves.

9. Negative feelings will not allow a denial of reality-

It is important we know and understand that denying our feelings will not be a successful way to get over our negative feelings. Pretending something doesn’t bother us will never make that lie be the truth and could end up causing more issues and pain for the future. When something or someone causes us pain, it is perfectly fine to grieve the loss and disappointment. The only true way to get over disappointment and or hurt is the face the problem, mend the wounds, and move on with the life you deserve.

I hope the information in this post was beneficial for you, especially if you are going through a difficult time. It is never easy to face what has caused us pain, but we will be better off in the long run if we do so. I am sure there are several other ways that would be helpful and would love to read any comments you may have. The entire world is dealing with hard times right now and we all need to help and support one another. Until times get a little easier being kind, compassionate, and empathetic to what others are dealing is extremely important. I also wanted to say, please do not take this post as a negative, but to just say it is okay to have negative feelings because we are only human!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I hope you had a lovely week and you will enjoy a safe and happy weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

When Disappointment Strikes

167341-John-C-Maxwell-Quote-Disappointment-is-the-gap-that-exists-betweenIf I were to ask you to describe what disappointment means, what would you say? The definition of disappointment means sadness or displeasure caused by the non-fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations. Does this sound at all familiar to you?

Unfortunately, I think most of us have experienced disappointment at least once during life until this point and many have felt this way an innumerable amount of times. Regrettably being disappointed by the government is simply the new norm because it seems impossible for any of them to be honest and care for the lives of others. It does because incredibly agonizing to be constantly disappointed by someone we love and trust.Don’t-let-today’s-disappointment-cast-a-shadow-on-tomorrow’s-dream.-640x1024

The sheer amounts of pain involved with most disappointments are unimaginable. It is excruciatingly obvious that times are difficult and severely stressful, which can attempt to derail your happy and comfortable life. The massive struggles we are all facing right now does not and never should allow for others to behave in a selfish and deplorable manner.

When we get disappointed by someone close to us, there is no denying how terribly painful it can be. However, allowing for the disappointment to control any part of our lives will not change what has occurred. I am going to share some tips that I have found for handling disappointments. Of course, the steps I am sharing may not offer the same benefits for everyone and that is okay!

foo-many-disappointments-are-usually-a-sign-of-too-many-25203659Below are 10 steps you may find helpful after a disappointment:

1.  Accept your feelings-

It is normal for disappointments to cause many unwanted emotions. Disappointments can be tragic and raise many questions about our lives and relationships. We might think it is easier to ignore the raw emotions we have. But, is this really easier? I do not think it is because those emotions can and will surface again someday and probably when you least expect them to. It might be difficult, but accepting the way this hurtful incident made us feel is a crucial step. By allowing for all our negative and painful emotions to hurt for a little while, we get it out of the way and are on the right road to happier and better times.

2. Remind yourself you are not the disappointment-

You might have experienced an awful disappointment and felt like your world was 15turned upside down, but this will not last forever. What you have gone through does not label you as a disappointment in any way. If you will allow yourself to keep moving forward and continue taking the necessary actions, you will move on and improve as an individual.

3. Learn from this experience-

It can be very easy to allow ourselves to drown in the pain we are feeling. Time will be much better spent if we can look for a valuable lesson from the situation we were in.

Some questions may be helpful to ask ourselves such as:

  1. What is one thing learned from this experience?
  2. Is there anything that can be done to avoid the same disappointment in the future?
  3. What can be done differently next to something like this happens?

ryanreynolds1After putting a lot of time and thought into your life, you may have concluded less or no time should be spent with the person that disappointed you.

4. Focus your attention on what you still have-

To move on this is important to acknowledge what you still have in life. This could be people, passions, and other things we tend to take for granted.

Drawing our attention towards gratitude will help us to keep things in perspective and not remaining overwhelmed with disappointments, which can ruin our day, week, or even year.

5. Discuss things with someone that you trust-

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It is healthier to be able to vent to someone you trust and value their advice and opinion. Venting frustration and hurt emotions helps release inner pressure, figure things out and accept what has happened. Also, the conversation you had with a trusted confidant shares a new perspective on the situation.

6. Review, evaluate, and adjust expectations-

328356-Don-t-Blame-People-For-Disappointing-You...blame-Yourself-For-Expecting-Too-Much-From-ThemOf you always expect perfection from yourself and others, you will always be disappointed. When you find yourself disappointed, ask yourself will this still matter in 5 days, weeks, months, or even years. It is important to learn not to make a mountain out of a molehill.

7. Give yourself a break-

After experiencing disappointment, you need time to rest your mind, recharge, and even have a little fun again.

8. Get out of your own head-

Do you tend to find yourself contemplating negative situations for an extended period of time? Try directing your attention elsewhere, for example:

*Help someone that needs a little extra help

*Exercise, which will not only be healthy, but it will help to reduce the stress you are feeling.

9.  Look for the small steps to move on with life-e482c501fc925aed787a74946ec33185

You have been able to accept what has occurred and even learned something from this experience, now you are ready to be motivated to move on with your life. You can set your action plan into motion now.   

10.  Enhance your self-esteem-

An interesting way to help enhance your self-esteem is to take a few moments to write down three things you appreciate about yourself.This will help you to avoid getting caught up in self- criticism and negative emotions felt while healing from disappointment.

d1f005c294c21ce54a1b709b3de6d9aaThank you for visiting my site today. I hope if you are currently dealing with disappointment or if you handle it in the future I hope this information will be helpful for you. Disappointment is not easy to deal with and can send us into a downward spiral. I would love to know your opinion on the information I have shared and how you have handled this in the past. 

I hope you had a good day and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤