The Traffic Light Of Life

Happy Friday eve. How has your week been? Honestly, mine has felt nearly unbearable and extremely exhausting. I am not sure if this has been due to work or personal life issues or an awful combination of the two. In all my years working, I have never felt so helpless and inadequate. It is not like the job is saving lives, discovering cures for diseases, or curing world hunger, so I cannot understand why everyone tries to make it seem that way. No job no matter what you do should make you feel like crawling under the desk and crying daily☹.

Have you ever asked yourself what life is or what it can be compared to? Life is like a traffic light. Life consists of stop, go, and yield, like the red, green, and yellow light. We all want a green light to keep going and get frustrated with a yellow or red light. The truth is, no matter what happens in life, things will always be changing and moving forward, even if it is slowly.

The way the past few weeks have been, I have felt like I have been at a constant red light. I know things happen for a reason and everything in life has a way of working out, but I need the light to turn green to make way for better days. There are always growing pains when starting a new job, but it has been a little over one month and it is time for the growing pains to end. I have always treated people fairly and never talked down to people when they had questions, so it does not make sense when people do.

On Friday eve, especially if you have had a week as I have had, we need something to pick our spirits up. Staying positive and spreading that positivity to others is critical. I got a message today from someone I worked with at my previous job saying she missed me and how positive I was. She said that I could always bring a smile to her face, even on a bad day. We all need people like that in our lives, whether it be a co-worker, friend, significant other, or anyone that is in our lives. I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today with help lift your spirits.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are doing well and standing up for yourself whenever you need to. Thankfully, we only have one more day of this long week and the weekend will return. You do not have to have anything epic planned, but just something that makes you smile😊! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Bad day and shattered dreams

Today is our halfway point through the week, which is a good thing. Yesterday my day started early again, at 7:25 AM and I worked until 6:00 PM. My view of the day was negative from the start, and it might have been because I was sleep deprived. We were offered overtime at work, which I am always quick to say “yes” to. Honestly, I was a little discouraged at work because many times when I ask a question, I feel ignored because I do not get any answers. I have been dealing with a few challenging customers at work, which I can normally handle, but one was over the top difficult. I guess what made these customers extra challenging is because I had NO help!

After I finally decided to let go of my work frustrations, I saw an email regarding the ONE thing I have been looking forward to, meeting James Patterson. Sadly☹, the book signing and meeting with James Patterson is sold out. This was one of my dreams, to meet my favorite author and hopefully get a picture with him☹. This was the tip of the ice burg for me today, and I could not help but burst into tears. It is not like James Patterson goes on tour frequently, so this was a once in a lifetime event for me.

Of course, I am glad we are closer to Friday, but now not only do I feel discouraged but have nothing to look forward to. We often look forward to weekends or vacations, but I have not been anywhere fun and or exciting in years. The past few times we left town, the trip was miserable and a waste of time. The reasons for this are also upsetting and an enormous letdown. Life is aggravating enough living in pain 24 hours a day, so what has transpired in the past day was the icing on the cake of disappointments.

Thank you for visiting my site today and I am sorry it was not very positive. Life is hardly ever perfect, but we must have ways to release negative emotions. I know many people will not understand why missing out on meeting an author was so devastating to me, but we all have things that are meaningful to us that no one understands. I guess this is something that makes us unique. I do look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Process of Forgiveness

Unfortunately, most of us have been profoundly hurt and disappointed by someone we trusted and cared about. Forgiveness can be extremely challenging because the emotions involved can be intense. Understanding that forgiveness is not for the other person, but for our peace and happiness does not make it easier. How can you forgive someone that caused you so much pain, whether they apologize or not? I have always thought the words “I am sorry”, are just empty words and even more so when the same situation happens repeatedly.

Before I continue, it is important to understand forgiveness does not mean we are excusing the other person’s behavior, or we are forgetting what occurred. We can forgive, but the mind is not able to forget the pain we felt. Forgiveness can release us from the control of the person that harmed us and offer peace to move on.

When someone we trust causes us pain, we often want retaliation and revenge. We desire to hurt that other person as deeply as we were hurt. This does not do any good for anyone involved and allows for a negative and endless cycle to continue that pain.c

The benefits of forgiveness are infinite. Letting go and releasing the anger and pain can improve our health and enable peace into our hearts and mind. Forgiveness can lead to healthier relationships, improved mental health, less anxiety and stress, fewer depression issues, a stronger immune system, and an improvement in our heart health and self-esteem.

The bigger question is, how do we forgive. This is a process that cannot be rushed. It takes time because the pain feels so raw. You first need to be able to talk through your feelings. Before we can forgive someone, we need to embrace the feelings and put them into words, so we understand them clearly and the person that caused the pain understands what the damage was done.

Finding the bright side of the painful situation will not be easy, especially at first. Once you have had space from the issue, you may be able to see what was gained from this experience. You may never find the benefit to the cruel and emotional situation, but chances are you will feel like a better person for the compassion and understanding you embraced.

The bigger hurts can take a lot to forgive. Instead of seeing every detail and every hurtful moment, try to start small and forgive the small issues first. It is natural to struggle with forgiveness, but we can become better and learn more by practicing forgiveness daily.

We must also decide if we want to forgive or not. This decision should be thought about clearly and not taken lightly. Will forgiveness strengthen the relationship, or will it destroy the relationship are just a few things to think about before you decide.

One thing I always do when I have been hurt is, I never go to bed angry. Anytime I tried to sleep when I was upset and hurt, I cannot sleep. I think we should never go to bed angry or leave the house angry because bad things happen when we least expect them.

Overall, I am decent with forgiveness. I will be honest with you, there are a few people in life that I struggle to forgive because of how awful and painful the experience was. There is one person I will never forgive because the situation went on for a long time and did immense damage to my life, but that person is no longer alive. I guess when someone is not alive, there is not a need to forgive is there? Other people in my life have done some detrimental things and I know holding onto the hurt is only doing further harm, but some things are impossible to let go of. I am working on this and know there will come a day I can forgive these people but will never forget the hurt.

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post about forgiveness. When you have been hurt in the past, how did you get through the pain and forgive, or did you not decide to forgive? I am looking forward to reading your thoughts on this post and will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

How to overcome Omicron stresses

No matter what state or country you are living in, we have all been living through the fears of COVID. This has been causing stress and worry for two excruciatingly long years. The isolation, social distancing (which I like), Zoom meetings, concerns about the safety of the vaccines and which one to take, and the wellness of ourselves and our loved ones have been exhausting.

We have already endured several COVID variants before the latest one, Omicron. Obviously, Omicron has come along with various new issues of stress and even more uncertainty. Omicron has created additional levels of fatigue, hopelessness, depression, frustration, and annoyance.

Everyone around the world has watched the previous COVID surges on the news. Sadly, the Omicron variant has ingrained thoughts thought we will never regain a normal life again. The feelings of hope one moment, only to feel hopeless another can cause stress hormones to consume our bodies. This mostly leads to mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion.

Making it past the current surge and any others we may face in the future means protecting your physical and emotional health. The following steps I am going to share with you are a few ways to weather the storm.

Keep everything in perspective

Even though every day feels like Groundhog Day and things we were looking forward to are canceled or postponed due to an increase in infection rates, progress continues to be made daily. Omicron is extremely contagious, but those that are fully vaccinated have caused fewer hospitalizations and deaths than the previous variants. Also, those that are vaccinated and get COVID get much more mild symptoms.

Never stop looking forward

It can be frustrating and disappointing when something we are looking forward to is canceled or postponed, but the one thing the pandemic has taught us all is to be flexible. The truth is, we have all learned that moments of joy make eliminating Omicron crucial, and we are willing to do what it takes. Understanding an attitude of flexibility is critical and helps when we continue scheduling times to celebrate. Being flexible and at peace with acceptance are a necessity until we are past the COVID surges.

Think in smaller steps

It is easy to get caught up in our negative thoughts, such as things are never going to change, everything is so difficult, or I am so overwhelmed. It might be better to focus on the smaller concerns we are having. Once we are feeling more confident with our coping abilities, we can work on the bigger concerns we are experiencing. Maybe instead of trying to plan a get-together with the number of people we once did, try inviting one of two people to an outdoor activity. Most of us are used to Zoom meetings, so maybe connect with your friends in a group Zoom or Facebook call. This allows you to stay connected without the fears of COVID.

Remember self-care

A nice warm bubble bath can help to escape feelings of being anxious and overwhelmed. Taking time for yourself to rest and relax is crucial during these stressful times. You can take 30-45 minutes a day to get lost in one of your favorite books. This would be much-needed time away from hearing anything about the virus. Too much talk and thinking about the virus can create an overwhelming amount of stress and cause other health issues. 

I know things with COVID have been weighing on many minds and it is good to not focus too much on it and let it consume our lives. However, I did feel the information in this post was important and something we all needed to read. I hope everyone is being careful and follow the advice we all heard from the experts. This is NOT a political thing, it is a matter of life and death. I think we have already lost way too many people and it needs to stop. Unfortunately, we all know at least one person that has been sick with COVID and many have lost someone they care about. We need to stand together to put an END to COVID!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you had a nice, relaxing, and safe weekend and you are ready to tackle the week ahead of us. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and that it was helpful. I do look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Knowing who is & isn’t a true friend

To all my amazing longtime followers and those of you visiting for the first time, thank you for reading this slightly different from my other posts. The post you are about to read was built from too much frustration and disappointments I have encountered within the last year or so. Of course, I do not enjoy being negative and writing about negativity, but I do think honesty is better than pretending everything is perfect and nothing bothers me.

I highly doubt I am the first person, the only one to see this, and certainly not the last. It seems anytime something negative enough to completely flip our life upside down and inside out occurs, those we may consider a “friend” show compassion and behaves as though they care about us, and what we are enduring. However, this is always short-lived and then they return to focusing on their #1, themselves. Please let me know what you think about this and if you think I am way off base.

It does not make sense to me, how many of my “friends” called and texted me for days and sometimes multiple times a day when I went through a hard situation. After a few days, it went from one extreme of calling and texting daily and then to the exact opposite, not one word for weeks. I find this type of behavior a little hurtful because friends are “supposed” to be there for one another.

I think it is the way my mind is wired. When someone I care about is going through something challenging, I cannot fake my concerns because they are real. I will call the person to check on them until their suffering improves. No, I do not and will not blow up their phone with calls or texts but will call a few times. I understand that people often need space and time to process difficult situations, but the person needs to know you are there if they need someone to vent to.

I do not think it has ever been easy to know which of our friends are true friends and which are just fake friends. The past two years have been painfully difficult for a few reasons. When I was laid off from my job in December, a few of my “friends” called to make sure I was handling it okay and was not letting stress take control of me and possibly making the Multiple Sclerosis to worsen. I cannot remember the last time I have spoken to any of these people, which is a little upsetting. I honestly have no idea to know who is a real friend who is always present to those who are fake and never present.

COVID has created too many challenges and isolation. Most of us have been trapped at home for two years and that is causing mental instabilities. Many are angry because they are doing what needs to do to end the spread of COVID and others continue refusing the vaccine. Their refusal is allowing COVID to mutate and produce more variants that may be more deadly.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you have had a nice and safe weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Dealing with being let down

Unfortunately, we have all experienced being let down at least once in our lifetime. Maybe you made plans with a friend for a fun outing together, which you were looking forward to. Then as you were getting yourself ready, your friend calls to back out of your plans because of an unexpected issue. Of course, you were understanding because it was out of their control, but that does not mean you were not disappointed.

As with the scenario when a friend backs out of plans last minute, sometimes things happen, and people get sick. What happens when you worked endlessly on a project at work and you were proud of your accomplishment, but then a co-worker steps in and takes credit for your hard work. In a situation like this, you might feel anger, frustration, and or betrayed.

On an entirely different level, when we learn that someone close to us, such as a significant other, parent, child, or other family member betrays our trust, it hurts on a much deeper level. Even simply learning something new about someone we trusted and care about can be difficult for us to believe, especially when it is something surprising and not in a good way. Situations with people we are closest with can make us feel like our world has been turned upside down and inside out.

Before we have had a chance to make sense of any outside threats, our physiological responses acknowledge the negative situations. The physiological responses are our body’s automatic reactions to stimuli. The release of hormones, the rush of blood through our body and into our limbs, an increased heart rate, and accelerated breathing are all subconscious and out of our control. The only thing we do have control over is our breathing through using long and shallow exhales, which sends our body a message of safety and enables access to higher needed cognitive parts of our brain.

We are all only human and painful emotions are not easy to deal with. As humans, we are hard-wired to want to run as far away from pain as we can. It is in our instincts to try distracting ourselves from the pain in ways that bring pleasure, even if the pleasure is only short-lived. Unfortunately, this can lead us into devastating and disastrous behaviors to numb the pain we are experiencing. There are better and healthier alternatives to try, such as self-compassion practices that allow ways to embrace and understand the pain. This will provide you with a space to be silent and establish lost trust in a temporary safe place until you can understand things clearly.

It is important to carefully listen while your thoughts surface. It can be easy to attach yourself to your thoughts and let them run with their version of the events that took place. This is not going to be a useful thing to do because our minds will naturally find ways to confirm the way we are thinking and strengthen, instead of allowing healing. We must find a way to detach from the story being played out in our minds and be open to further truth and forgiveness.

No one can tell you how you should feel when someone you love lets you down. By practicing the tips shared in this post, you will be able to distance yourself from an emotional reaction and allow the wisdom within yourself to guide you to the best response. Of course, this does not mean you need to forgive or let go of what has occurred, at least not until you are ready to do so. Trust and listen to your heart and mind, as this will typically lead you down the right path.

Although I hope the information in this post was beneficial to you, I also hope you have not been let down too often. I understand how painful it is to be let down by someone you love, but in some way, it will make you a better and stronger person. I would love the chance to read what you thought of this post, and I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can.

Thank you for visiting my site today and taking the time to read what I have written. I hope you are having a good week and you are continuing to stay safe. The good news about today is, we are almost to the weekend again. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Lab Report Update

Happy Wednesday y’all! We are halfway through the week and much closer to the weekend! As I have already mentioned to y’all, I had my normal bloodwork and antibodies for COVD done on Monday. The normal bloodwork was as I expected because nothing typically changes with that. With the medication I am on for the MS, my white blood cell count is supposed to be low, which it was. The only thing I am not completely sure of is the absolute lymphocyte count. According to the lab report, this count was extremely low, but I am not sure if it is just low because it is supposed to be or if it is unusually low. I am hoping my neurologist will be able to provide me a little further clarification regarding this part of the results report.

The other part of the bloodwork was for the COVID antibodies test, which was the one I was most concerned about, considering I do have a weak immune system. Of course, the information I was able to read showed negative which means I do not have antibodies for COVD. After reading a little information on the CDC’s website, I am even more confused because it does not make sense. If I understand correctly, there are not any definitive tests that show if a person has developed antibodies for COVID and would be considered safe or not. My guess is it is because the virus is still new and even the experts do not have enough information to have developed testing. There are tests to determine if someone has COVID but testing for antibodies seems challenging. I am sure y’all can understand why I am so disappointed with the antibodies test, but I will just continue wearing a mask, social distancing, and disinfecting everything!

Like everyone else, I am tired of being confined to my house and not being able to travel because of the fear I have from COVID. I think I am more frustrated because I am doing everything I can to stay safe and got the vaccine only to still have no answers if I am safe or not. Life is too short to live in fear and not be able to do what brings joy. I am not the gambling type of person and will not, for lack of better words play Russian Rolette with my life. More than almost anything else I want to be able to go to my happy place, the beach for my birthday and 10th wedding anniversary.

Some people might disagree with me, but I feel strongly that if the virus were handled better when it first invaded the world, things would NEVER have gotten as bad as they did. YES, I do blame the person that was the president when the pandemic began, but it is also the fault of everyone who believed the lies we were told by that president! We were told the virus was nothing to worry about and it was no more serious than the normal flu and it would go away. Well, it was serious and killed millions of innocent people worldwide and it still has NOT gone away! Whoever thinks that wearing a mask is taking away their freedom is grossly incorrect. Wearing a mask saves lives and stops the spread, which would save our freedom!

It is great there was a vaccine developed so quickly, but with many people refusing to wear masks and or get the vaccine, the virus will only continue to mutate. The more it mutates, the less safe we all are. The increase in new COVID cases was 40% higher which is ridiculous. After one and a half years battling this deadly virus, things should be getting better instead of worst. You might not agree with this next statement, which you are entitled to your opinion but anyone that refuses to wear a mask or get vaccinated is nothing more than selfish. I have said this before, but it is worth saying again people lie, but science does not.

Thank you for visiting my site today. This probably was not the most optimistic post, but it is the truth about how I feel about things. When dealing with a deadly virus, it takes everyone around the world to work together to defeat the battle against the virus. The vaccine is free, so there are no issues with being able to afford it or not! Please do everything you can to stay safe and continue helping others understand the importance of being vaccinated. I hope you never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! It has been a crazy and long week, but we have almost made it to the weekend! I was supposed to have my virtual appointment today with my neurologist, but she rescheduled it because I did not get my MRI. The reason I did not get the MRI done is because of COVID-19 and I was not ready to take any unnecessary chances. I am not going to lie to y’all I was and still am a little frustrated with her about this because she “should” understand that with my weak immune system, I am HIGH risk. Even though my doctor pretty much failed me, my husband came through for me. He went to get his second COVID vaccine shot on Wednesday and told the right person about my situation. This lady is an angel and sent me an invite for the vaccine, which I will be getting my first shot on Saturday! It is amazing how kind some people can be, this person does not know either one of us and has done something very remarkable. Even though there is a lot of hate in the world, people like this one person has restored my faith in humanity!

We only have one day left of this week and I don’t know about y’all, but I could use a little pick me up. Of course, part of the reason I say this is because I am disappointed with the neurologist, but I am also ready to be able to sleep in. I hope the quote that I am sharing with y’all today will be the pick me up you might need! No matter what we have seen go on in the world, please know even though they are rare, there are still some good, caring, and compassionate people that exist! Also, please remember that hope is something that is powerful and makes a huge difference in our lives!

How have y’all been feeling lately? And, how has your week been? My plans for the weekend are to get the first COVID vaccine on Saturday morning and have groceries delivered at some point, but other than that just relaxing and recuperating from this past week. We have all seen the news and the terrible things that have taken place, but we are all better than to get caught up in the massive levels of hate. Now more than ever, it is crucial to spread as much love, understanding, compassion, and kindness to as many as we can. Whatever your plans are for the weekend, please just remember to stay safe!

Thank you for visiting my site today! We all deserve a break from the craziness and to be able to enjoy our lives. I hope y’all already know this, but if you did not know how much I appreciate your continued support and kindness. I love reading your comments and even though I might not respond quickly, I can promise I will as soon as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, compassion, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Chaos & Tragedy in the United States

We Need To Stop The Hate & Violence Now

Happy Sunday y’all! Before you start reading this, I just want to provide you wait a small DISCLAIMER/WARNING. I do the best I can to not write about politics, but this is about more than simple politics. I think y’all know by now I try to be open-minded, fair, kind, compassionate, and understanding, which is why this was so important for me to share. I know you might feel differently about tis, but I would really love to read and understand what your thoughts are.

The continued insanity that is going on within the United States is disgusting and shameful. The way people are following the idiotic ideas they are hearing from the president is not only awful but inhumane. Who would have thought our nation’s capital could be invaded so easily?  These people were domestic terrorists that were fueled by the hatred from the president of The United States.

This tragic display of repugnance was not how decent and logical people behave. The way Donald Trump has encouraged his cult followers to act is repulsive. Besides, 5 people being left dead after the riot that took place at the Nation’s Capital on Wednesday, more than 50 people were arrested so far, and for what? On January 20th, Joe Biden is still going to be sworn in as the 26th president and Donald Trump will be gone.

The violence and brutality that we all witnessed on Wednesday was very upsetting and never should have happened. Of course, I did not know anyone involved personally, but none the less it was awful to see. A leader of a county should NOT be instilling hatred and violence but should be promoting peace and equality. After all, this is The United States of America and was known as the land of the “free”. Throughout history, former presidents have not stimulated violence and rage but tried keeping the peace among the citizens. I cannot help but wonder why so many are okay with Trump’s behavior to the point they would storm a federal building and create mass amounts of destruction.

Over this past year, there have been countless situations that should have been handled in a better way. The government knew about COVID-19 and did not share the information with the American people. Donald Trump decided to place the blame for this virus on China, instead of taking responsibility for the safety of the people he represented. I understand COVID-19 started in China, but President Xi of China shared his concerns with the world and yet Donald Trump was more concerned with being re-elected than caring for the lives of the people.

I do not like to write about political things because it tends to be a VERY HOT topic with people, but this past Wednesday was very upsetting to me. Never in a million years would I thought what took place this past week would have ever happened in a building that is so protected. With Joe Biden’s inauguration on January 20th, I am worried we are going to see much more chaos and violence, but I hope there will be much better planning to protect the innocent. I will never understand why Donald Trump has so much hate within him, but sadly since his favorite toy, Twitter have been taken away from him, I think there is a chance his toddler like behavior will get worse in the next week or so. I think we all know that this man child tweets about everything and his cult followers enjoy all of his heinous words.

This post is a lot different from what I normally write about, but these issues weigh heavily on my mind and heart. I do the best I can to avoid the news because I cannot seem to make it through a segment without crying. I have always dreamed of world peace and a very small part of me still has hope that we can someday experience this, but the logical part of me realizes our chances for world peace are slim. The world is too full of hate and while much of this hate is intensified by the current president, some people are just miserable and enjoy spreading this hate.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I do know that some of you are not going to agree with one word of this post and while I might not understand the logic behind this, I will respect your opinions. The great thing about what the United States is supposed to stand for is, we are free to think and believe what we want to. Please know regardless of if you agree or disagree, I will always be sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tuesday Requires More Energy

Only Tuesday & It Has Already Been A Painful Week Emotionally!

How is it only Tuesday? It feels like it should at least be Thursday! Many things have occurred already for me that have been both physically and mentally painful. Stress always causes additional pain, but this is ridiculous. Of course, weather can also increase my physical pain and Mother Nature can’t decide if she wants to rain or be sunny, so it has been both within minutes of each other.

I have always been the type of person that thinks of everyone and anyone else long before myself. I will not lie to you and say I am trying to fix that about me because I am not. I am trying to eliminate stress as much as I can, but that is extremely challenging for me. Sometimes it seems like stress comes in several different storms and on many different levels of severity. I am not naive enough to think I can fix other people’s issues, but I cannot help trying to alleviate some of other people’s pain and heartache. Truthfully, it does not work and I know that will never change.

With all that said there is a beautiful quote I thought would be good to share with y’all. This might help y’all if you are having a difficult or frustrating week. Or it might just make you think about someone else that might need a little support and love from someone that cares! Sometimes while it is necessary to spread the love to others, it is also important to show yourself a little love as well! I would love to read your thoughts on this quote, please!

Thank you for taking the time to stop by my site today and read what I have wrote. I hope the quote I have shared with y’all will have some meaning to you and prove you with positive feelings. I hope your week is going well so far and truly hope you are continuing to stay safe. I hope you will never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa