Let It Go Friday!

happiness fridayHappy Friday y’all! I hope you had a wonderful week and your weekend is spectacular because you deserve nothing but the best! Of course, being a stress case is something I am really good at, but I have been enjoying the extra time I have had on my hands to write more. Between writing daily, with music in my ears, I have had the time to think clearly. I have considered what it is I want out of life and what makes me happy, but also what I do not want any part of. 

Sometimes taking a step back from everything in life to clear your mind, offers clarity to where we want life to be. Always having a full-time job, really stalled my dreams. I never had the time to take that large step into what I want out of life. Over the past few weeks I kept telling myself no 600x600bfmatter what BS reason I was given or even what I think the reason is for losing my job was, it was bigger than both of those things. The reason may have been the kick in the butt I needed to stop talking about it and just dive into trying to build my freelance career. I must admit it seems a little (OK A LOT) overwhelming because I can’t just focus on one piece at a time. I keep looking at everything I need to do all at once and then get stuck on one thing. Right now I am stuck on finishing my overview and struggle with what to write so potential clients will see my skills. If y’all have any suggestions or advice, please let me know!

The quote I decided to share with y’all for “Let It Go Friday”, pretty much goes along images (1)with the first part of this post. I do think it takes courage to continue on, especially when you feel like the rug was pulled out from under you. Sometimes we will succeed in life and  sometimes we will fail, but no matter how many times we fall, we always find a way to get back up, dust ourselves off, and continue on! Sometimes being stubborn pays off and will help get us where we desire in life!

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I always appreciate your text-art-believe-in-your-dreams-follow-your-heart-melanie-violakindness, support, friendship, and encouragement! No pressure, but I am looking forward to reading your comments and know they will be amazing! I hope you have a wonderful day and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!


❤Always, Alyssa❤


National Cancer Prevention Month

Disclaimer***Before you start reading, I have a disclaimer. I am not a physician nor am I a medical professional. This information is mostly from hours of research. Also, this is slightly longer than most, if not all of my previous posts. I did not mean to write a small book for y’all to read, but I do think the information is important!

We just celebrated New Year’s, not too long ago. This tends to be a time many of us want to make changes to get healthier. Honestly though, how many times have you tried thisdepositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy and never stayed with for long-term? This is a great thought, but really can’t just be for one day, week, or even for a month, and should to be something we stay committed to. February is National Cancer Prevention month which gives us another opportunity to get focused on making sure we put our health first and we do everything within our powers to maintain good health.

I am glad that there is a month dedicated to cancer prevention because it is needed. In 2019, a staggering estimated 1.76 million new cases of cancer and 607,000 deaths due to 0345ebfac6e071e5a9cd46f91f1ef5b2cancer in the United States. In my lifetime, cancer has already taken too many people I care about. As a matter of fact, cancer is what took someone very special to me, my dear, sweet, and loving grandfather lost his battle to cancer almost seven years ago. My aunt fought her war against cancer, until before the sun came up on February 18 when the struggle became too much to bear and she couldn’t fight any longer. Even though this is a sad day, my aunt went peacefully in the comfort of her own home surrounded by family.

 It is terrifying how many different forms of cancer there are and how many of the risk factors are the same. I am not going to go through and list all types of cancer because it would probably feel like you are reading a short story and I don’t want to torment you like that. However, I am going to detail 11 different forms of this horrible disease.

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  1. Breast Cancer is a form of cancer that is easily treated, especially when it is detected early enough. This cancer does not discriminate and can affect men or women equally. This disease develops in breast tissue when the cells begin to grow out of control. Cancerous cells can form a malignant tumor that is felt as a lump and should be seen on a mammogram. Once cancer begins to progress, it is possible for an invasion of surrounding tissues and nearby lymph nodes to occur, which is a phenomenon known as metastasis.

Besides simply being a female, there are many other risk factors you might want to learn about.

  • Genetic mutations (BRCA1 or BRCA 2)
  • Family history
  • Early menstrual period
  • Late or no full-term pregnancies
  • Menopause after age 55
  • Overweight or obese post menopause
  • Dense breasts
  • Race or ethnicity
  • Combination or hormone therapy
  • Oral contraceptives
  • Previous radiation therapy
  • Consuming alcohol


  • A lump or hard, painless mass with irregular edges
  • Some masses may be tender, soft, or painful
  • Swelling and/or skin irritation
  • Nipple pain, turning inward, redness, or scaliness
  • Thickening of nipples or discharge other than breast milk
  1. Lung Cancer is the 2nd most common form of cancer and the leading cause of cancer-related deaths. There are three main types of lung cancer, which include:
  • Non-Small-Cell Lung Cancer (NSCLC) which consists of 80-85% of lung cancer
  • Small-Cell-Lung Cancer (SCLC)
  • Lung Carcinoma Tumor

This type of cancer causes more of a risk to men than it does women.

Risk Factors

  • Tobacco smoke is the leading risk for developing lung cancer. 2nd hand smoke can also cause lung cancer
  • Family history
  • Exposure to radon gas, asbestos, arsenic, and diesel exhaust3605083_0

¼ of all people that are living with lung cancer do not display symptoms and do not show until cancer has progressed. However, when symptoms do appear, they may include:


  • A new cough that will not go away or changes in a chronic cough or coughing up blood
  • Reoccurring infection, such as bronchitis or pneumonia
  • Shortness of breath, hoarseness, and or wheezing
  • Chest pain, fatigue, and or weakness
  • Loss of appetite or unexplained weight loss
  1. Prostate Cancer is slow growing-cancer, but also the 2nd leading cause of death among men. The prostate is a small walnut-sized gland that produces seminal fluid.

Risk Factors

  • Family history
  • Diet high in red meat
  • Chemical exposure
  • Sexually transmitted infection
  • Having had a vasectomy

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  • Frequent urge to urinate or difficulty urinating
  • Blood in urine or semen
  • Difficulty getting an erection
  • Pain in lower back and hips
  1. Colon and rectal cancer develop when cell growth becomes out of control in the colon and rectum. This form of cancer affects men and women equally, but black men and women are 25% more likely to develop colon cancer.

 Risk Factors

  • Family history5d41946f3e13e.image
  • Diet high in fat and red meat
  • Long-term inflammatory bowel disease
  • Obesity and lack of activity
  • Tobacco use and alcohol consumption


  • Changes in bowel habit ( diarrhea or constipation)
  • Blood in stool
  • Persistent abnormal pain or cramps
  • Unexplainable weight loss
  • Iron deficiency~ Anemia

 5. Melanoma (Skin Cancer) is a form of cancer that begins in the cells making up the pigment which gives skin color. Skin cancer seems like too broad of a category, so let me help break this down into the 4 different forms. (*The first two forms are more common than the last two forms*)

  • Superficial Spreading Melanoma grows horizontally and slowly across the top layer of skin before moving into deeper layers. This form accounts for 70% of skin cancer.
  • Nodular Melanoma is dangerous and grows fast. The appearance can look like a flat,750x,075,f-pad,750x1000,f8f8f8.u3mole, bug bit or a round black (but can have other colors) bump. Nodular Melanoma accounts for about 15% of cases.
  • Lentigo Melanoma is an early form when the malignant cells are confined to a tissue of origin.
  • Acral Lentiginous Melanoma (ALM) appears on the palms of hands, soles of feet, and under the nails. This is not very common but does affect African Americans the most.


  • Sores that do not heal
  • Pigment, redness or swelling that spreads outside the border of a spot to surrounding skin
  • Itchiness, tenderness, or pain
  • Changes in texture or scales, oozing or bleeding from an existing mole

At the first sign melanoma, there is typically a new spot on the skin or a change one that already existed. Follow the ABCDE Method to determine if an abnormal skin growth may be Melanoma.

Asymmetry- the mole has an irregular shape.cancer-screening

Border- Edge isn’t smooth and is irregular or notched.

Color- Mole has uneven shading or dark spots.

Diameter- Mole or spot is larger than that of a pencil eraser.

Evolving or elevation- The spot changes in size, shape, or texture.

  1. Bladder Cancer happens when the cells become abnormal and then begin to grow out of control. Over some time a tumor will form. Just like everything else, there are certain risk factors associated with bladder cancer.

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  • Family history
  • Smoking
  • Exposure to certain chemicals
  • Being white and or being a male
  • Chronic bladder infections

I am going to share some of the symptoms you would want to pay attention to and once noticed discuss with your physician.


  • Changes in the color of your urine
  • Burning or pain when urinating
  • Unable to urinate or only produce a very small amount
  • Feeling the urge to pee, when your bladder isn’t full

When bladder cancer starts to spread, there are some additional to notice and report back to your physician.cancer-ribbons-banner

Additional symptoms

  • Lower back pain
  • Losing weight when not trying
  • Not as hungry as normal
  • Swollen feet
  • Extreme fatigues and or weakness
  1. Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma starts in the lymphatic system, which is our body’s disease-fighting network. Tumors form in the lymphocytes, a type of white blood cells.unnamed

Risk Factors

  • Being over age 60 increases the risks
  • Exposure to certain chemicals which include benzene, herbicides, and pesticides
  • Previous chemotherapy or radiation treatments
  • Immune system deficiency and HIV Infection


  • Painless, swollen lymph nodes in the neck, armpits or groin
  • Abdominal pain and or swelling and chest pain
  • Coughing and difficulty breathing
  • Persistent fatigue
  1. Kidney Cancer also referred to as Renal Cell Carcinoma. This occurs when healthy e0bd9877f04a0f946d31b64a0c7d2f18cells in one or both kidneys start growing quickly, which ends up forming a lump (tumor).

Risk Factors

  • Smoking will DOUBLE the risks
  • Men are 2-3 times more likely to develop kidney cancer than women
  • Poor nutrition and overweight
  • High blood pressure


  • Blood in urine
  • Lower back pain on one side
  • Mass on the side or lower back
  • A fever that does not go away
  1. Endometrial Cancer begins in the uterus, so this is for women only.

images (1)Risk Factors

  • Changes in the balance of female hormones
  • More menstruation years and or never pregnant
  • Older age and obesity
  • Inherited colon cancer syndrome

I know none of us enjoy going for yearly exams, but that appointment just might save our life by discovering cancer early.



  • Abnormal vaginal bleeding or discharge
  • Difficulty or painful urination
  • Pain in the lower abdomen
  • Painful intercourse
  1. Pancreatic Cancer starts in organs that lie behind the lower part  the stomach and typically spreads to other organs rapidly.4407244_0

Risk Factors

  • Gender, this is more common in men, than women
  • Family history
  • Smoking age and obesity
  • Diabetes
  • Rare inherited condition


  • Jaundice, which is yellowing of the eyes and skin
  • Belly or back pain
  • Nausea, vomiting and weight loss
  • Enlargement of gallbladder or liver

Now that we have learned a lot about cancer, I have just a little more information that I think we will helpful. Considering it is National Cancer Prevention Month, I now have helpful tips to prevent cancer.

  1. The use of tobacco products can drastically increase your risk of cancer. With that said, I think it is time to find a way to QUIT!!!!
  2. Eating a healthy diet is vital for good health. I healthy diet may include plenty of fruits, vegetables, and other plant-based foods. According to a report from the
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  4. International Agency for Research on Cancer, a large intake amount of processed meats can increase the risk of some cancers.

**An important fact is women who eat a Mediterranean diet have a reduced risk for breast cancer. A Mediterranean diet consists of mostly plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and nuts. Those that follow this diet choose healthy fats, like olive oil instead of butter and fish as opposed to red meat.**

  1. You can reduce your risks of breast, prostate, lung, colon and kidney cancer by maintaining a healthy weight and staying active.

For adults that are aiming for substantial health benefits, they should try for at least 150 minutes weekly of either moderate aerobic or 75 minutes weekly of vigorous aerobic activity. The general rule of thumb is to try including at least 30 minutes of physical activity to your daily routine.'

  1. Be sure to keep yourself protected from the sun. One of the most common and preventable forms of cancer is skin cancer. I am going to share 5 simple tips to prevent yourself from the sun.
  • Sun rays are the strongest between the hours of 10:00 am and 4:00 pm. It is best to avoid the midday sun!
  • If you need to be outside, stay in the shade the best you can, plus sunglasses and hats will help.
  • Choose dark or bright, tightly woven, loose-fitting clothing because they reflect more ultraviolet radiation than pastels.
  • Even on cloudy days use at least SPF 30 sunscreen. Apply generously and reapply every 2 hours, more if you are swimming.
  • Tanning beds cause just as much damage as the natural sun, so try to AVOID
  1. Discuss vaccinations with your doctor for cancer prevention and protection against some viral infections. Some might be good for you, but there are some may be toxic for you.
  2. It’s important to avoid risky behaviors that can lead to infection and increase your lost-battle-with-cancer-quotes-In-loving-memory-of-every-cancer-patientrisks for cancer.

-Practice safe sex

-Do not share needles!

  1. Perform regular self-exams and get regular screenings for various forms of cancer. There are screening available for skin cancer, colon, cervix, and breast cancer (you can do this one yourself)!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today and taking the time to read this rather long post. This took me a lot of time to research and put together. It has been a rather sad day with my aunt passing away. The only good thing is, she left this world peacefully and is not in pain anymore. This post is dedicated to my husband’s amazing Grandfather, my Poppy and my aunt.share-the-love-eps-vector_csp59691544

I hope you had a good day and you have a lovely evening. I am not pressuring you but I would love to read your thoughts on this post. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!


❤Always, Alyssa❤













Discovering your purpose in life!

2022503-Buddha-Quote-Your-purpose-in-life-is-to-find-your-purpose-and-giveRecently, I have been asking myself what the meaning of life is. To get a little clarity, I decided it might be helpful to look into this a little more. According to Webster’s Dictionary, the meaning of life is to fulfill your purpose in life and accomplish your goals. This definition, of course, created another question for me. First, what is our purpose in life and how do we know what that purpose is? The meaning behind the purpose of life consists of the main motivating factors we feel. Our purpose for living can influence the decision we make, direct our mannerisms, help our goals, provides a sense of direction, and offer us meaning in life. In this post, I am going to share with y’all the information I have discovered and hope it will be beneficial to you!meaning of life

The purpose of life will be different and unique for everyone. Figuring out what our purpose in life might be challenging and it can shift throughout life as we change and grow. Our purpose isn’t something we can just make up because it is already embedded into our being. This purpose is about accepting and acknowledging our gifts, but also utilizing those gifts by sharing them with the world.

Even though our purpose in life may evolve from new possibilities, which might be exciting. This can prompt physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual transitions; we need to not allow chaos to consume our minds. During times of transition, it is common to have questions surrounding our purpose. The changes that come with a transition can make parts of life challenging and even create additional stress factors, but we must stay focused on our purposelives. The following are some questions you might have when you reflect on your purpose:

  1. Who am I?
  2. Where do I belong?
  3. When do I feel fulfilled?

For some people, their purpose in life is obvious and clear from a young age. These individuals are born with a natural talent and or their drive for their passion burns bright and strong. However, others do not find it as easy to determine what they are truly passionate about. For these people, it may take them diving deep into their hearts, souls, and thoughts to discover what they have a passion for. This isn’t something that can not be rushed and it is okay for it to take time. Please just make yourself a promise that you will never give up this search because you will get there!find-your-life-s-purpose

Unfortunately, there are people who thought they had a handle on what their purpose was and then lost about everything, leaving them to start over again. When being forced to re-evaluate what your purpose in life is can be a scary thing to face, but might be a perfect time to get things on the right path.

The search for our purpose in life is not easy and can even take years to discover. You may have already determined what your purpose is, which I do find admirable. I am of course curious what you found your purpose to be and how you made this decision.

It is understandable if you are still searching for your purpose, this is something that can’t be rushed and diving deep into exploration could be beneficial for our own success. The journey in the search for our purpose in life might seem complicated, but it can be a wonderful adventure as well. Whether you are starting fresh or starting over again to find your purpose, I plan to take the journey with 22you, using the tips I am sharing today!

  1. Review the things you love ❤ to do and that comes easy to you. Even these talents take work, but it isn’t forced or even dreaded. Now, think about your favorite band. Your favorite band still practices even though they know all their music, so why wouldn’t we have to do the same?
  2. What are the qualities you enjoy being able to express? Once you know what these qualities are, think about the ways you enjoy expressing these qualities. I know y’all have many wonderful qualities!!
  3. This might be challenging, so please take your time. Develop a life purpose statement and a description of what the world would look like if it were running perfectly according to you. Now, combine these into one sentence and this will giveunnamed (2) you your purpose.
  4. Follow what your heart is telling you. In a sense, we all have an inner GPS that provides us direction. First, figure out where you are currently. Second, determine where you are going. All you have to do next is follow the instructions your heart ❤ gives you to reach your next destination.

You must be aware of where you want to go and stay focused on the vision you established through something like meditation. The steps required to arrive at the destination you are met to be at, will guide your way, create new ideas, and offer additional opportunities.

  1. Be clear about what you want out of life and stay focused on this. Believe it or not, DeHWpIXXcAAq_YUwe are all born with internal guidance that will tell us when we are on or not on the right path. Take as much time as you need because this isn’t something that should be rushed.

Consider where you are currently in life and where it is you want to be, do they align with each other? Now be completely honest with yourself and answer the following questions:

  • What is your current financial status?
  • Are you anywhere near where you want to be?
  • How are your relationships going?
  • How is your health, physically and mentally?

Now, change your thought process and answer the next questions as if your life was going perfectly.Purpose1

  • What does this life look like?
  • What kind of job would you have?
  • Where would you be living?
  • How is your health?

By answering questions like these multiple times, you can send powerful triggers to your subconscious mind that can assist you with getting where you want to be in life.

  1. I am going to share a link for a passion test with you that was developed by Chris and Janet Attwood https://thepassiontest.com/. You can try this, but no pressure at all. I thought it was pretty interesting, which is why I had to share the link!

383c3e05538ecf49068efcbb47c8750923e54233r1-720-720_rawAnother interesting exercise you can try is to fill in the blanks to the following statement 10-15 times, “When my life is ideal, I am…. The only thing is you need to choose a verb when doing this and of course change it up some with each response. There is no right or wrong response; this is just meant to be a full way to determine your passions. After you complete this 10-15 times, identify what your top 5 statements are and create markers for each statement between 1 and 5. This will enable you to look at your life and decide if you are living your passion or not.

Once you know what your passions are and how life will look when living those passions, you will be able to develop a plan to turn your dreams into your reality!unnamed (2)

  1. Look back on your life when you experienced the most profound joys in your life. This method can also be utilized to determine your purpose in life. Take no more than 30 minutes to make this list and see what the common pattern is between the joys you had. The feeling of joy is part of that internal guidance system I mentioned earlier and will let you know if you are on the right path in life.
  2. Try this next exercise with establishing your purpose. Answer the following question 3-5 times and then review your answers to see what was common within them. “When have I felt most fulfilled?” Please remember that there is no rush answering this question and take your time.
  3. Figure out how to align your life’s purpose and passions. Once we understand what highres_488377919our purpose in life is everything we do moving forward should be organized around that purpose. Our purpose does need to be flexible with our personal goals, but it is critical to our professional goals. If you dread Monday and just keep going to live for weekends, do not ignore the signs that your career isn’t right for you. Follow the signs your heart is trying to lead you towards and pursue the work you are longing for.unnamed (2)
  4. You probably have additional clarity regarding your purpose by now. Little by little lean on your purpose and pay very close attention to the feedback you hear from others. The feedback you receive and how you are feeling about life will drastically improve!

As you continue on the path of the purpose you discover, try to keep asking yourself the following questions. These questions will help you know that you are staying on the best unnamed (3)path for your life and keep going in the right direction.

  1. Are you where you want to be?
  2. Have you accomplished all you thought you would by now?
  3. Are you enjoying the lifestyle, travel, weekends, and leisure pursuits you always dreamed of?
  4. Do you want a more fulfilling career?
  5. Could your relationships be deeper, more rewarding, and more meaningful?

Once you have discovered your purpose, remember to continue to recognize, accept, and respect those purposes!artworkimage-medium-21902316-7336573

I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful in your life. We all know how difficult and outright painful life can be, so it is best to simply it as much as we can. I am really looking forward to your comments on this post and I do promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!


❤Always, Alyssa❤