Let It Go Friday

331614-Hope-This-Finds-You-Happy-And-Well.-Have-A-Blessed-Friday.-Stay-SafeHappy Friday y’all! I hope you had a good week and really hope you are feeling well and staying safe! Sadly, we are not through the struggles of COVID-19 yet and honestly do not know when things will improve. Even if you are not showing signs of the virus, you can still be carrying it and therefore spreading it to so many others. More states have finally implemented the STAY AT HOME ORDERS and it really should not take losing someone you love ❤ to follow this order. I am of course not saying you should always listen to people in DC because normally I would NEVER do such a thing, but this was something doctors and scientists suggested days or even weeks ago and should be taken e0949b39ef7537d9c55697befc6f080cseriously. Now is not a time to judge anyone, even people in charge that tend to get it all wrong every time, it is about doing what is right for our loved ❤ ones. Way too many people have lost family and friends, loses no one should ever have to face. I will continue to stand by something that I have mentioned numerous times and that is we all need to support one another and join together, maybe not literally, but you know what I am meaning!

butterflyI am hoping the quote I have chosen to be a way of letting go of pain, anger, disappointments, and any other negative emotions you can think of to remind you that we are all going through dark times, but someday our lives will be full of happiness, light, positivity, and good times again. It seems like the beauty in the world is getting difficult to see, but it is still there. We need to do all we can to keep our friends, family, and even those we don’t know inspired. 

I hope you have a great Friday and you are able to enjoy your weekend, safely in the comfort of your home! I am not great at being trapped at home, but I have watched too many interviews of someone who lost someone close to them, whether it be a spouse, child, parent or friend, but their lives 86207a099424494e83441c4a05dad7dd--peace-love-happiness-spreadswere changed forever. No one should ever have to deal with this kind of pain and I wish more than anything they never had to deal with anything so tragic. My thoughts are with all the people that lost someone they love ❤  and really hope there will not be anymore that goes through this pain. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Pick-Me-Up Thursday

unnamed (3)Happy Friday eve y’all! I hope you are doing well and staying safe! Times have not changed much since last week and we are all still struggling with the outcome of coronavirus. The increase in numbers from this nasty virus are continuing to rise and the fatalities are as well. It is a sad time for the world and whether something could have been done sooner or not I wish there was something that could be done now. 

I wanted to share a quote with y’all and I hope it will offer you the pick me up needed to get to through the day and to the weekend! When the entire world is struggling with the same thing, we should vsy__on_pinterest__relaall be able to unite, but unfortunately that isn’t happening. I am not going to place blame on anyone, but those that should be held accountable know who they are. Granted those people that should feel the shame do not read my blog or even know I exist, but I do know they exist. I do believe that if we can somehow do what we can to help others, things around the world will change for the better. It is rather frustrating changes won’t be made sooner rather than later, but I guess all good things come to those that wait. It is a crucial time to be understanding and compassionate  to those in greater need and to those that have lost loved ones. My heart beautiful_butterflies_pink_orange_motivational_postcard-r95e27e5473e64295977e92908166a912_vgbaq_8byvr_540does break for anyone that lost someone they loved because of coronavirus.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you have a great day, you continue staying safe, and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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High sensitivity makes you stronger, not weaker

main-qimg-abb7dd235b660e3e1e5867419d060fb0Throughout your life, how many times have you heard that you are “overly” sensitive and emotional and care too much for others? First of all, this doesn’t make sense to me because I believe in a world that is full of negativity and hatred; we all need more compassion shown. Maybe the “overly” sensitive and caring people are here to combat the ugliness in the world today.

Unfortunately, many times our level of sensitivity and ability to care is viewed as a weakness. I do believe that anyone who can say Emotionally-Sensitive-Quotesanother person cares too much and views that person as overly sensitive does not understand just how the traits they very as a weakness are in fact a sign of vast strength.

It is because you care why you are not able to do what so many others do and turn a blind eye to someone who is suffering. Instead of turning around to walk away, the desire to do all you can to help runs deep within your soul. You will do whatever you can to contribute to alleviating the anguish another has experienced.

highly-sensitiveDue to how effortlessly you care, you have an endless ability to understand the unpredictability of the world we are living in today. You have the inner strength to look beyond your own needs but look toward to needs of another person. You do not have any issues sacrificing if it will help someone else find their way to better and happier days.

The way society is in 2020 is causing many to show little to no respect for another person and only look out for who they view as most important, themselves. You on the other hand always try seeing the good in everyone. You refuse to judge anyone for their flaws and can recognize we are all flawed. By having the ability to understand everyone has their own set of flaws, you can care for everyone despite their flaws and treat them with the respect they deserve.

One issue that gets your blood boiling is when someone in a powerful position abuses too-sensitive-1024x765their power. You will stand up to those behaving in a disrespectful manner and stand up for those that are being mistreated. You feel strongly that people deserve to be treated fairly and with the utmost respect.

While so many people are significantly passive, you are strong enough to fight for what is right. You always have the ability to be proactive solving problems, instead of reactive and fully understand the difference.

Your morals and convictions are powerful enough to not allow for your beliefs to be influenced. You are stubborn almost to a fault but instead, you are completely determined to do the right thing. You hold onto your integrity and remain passionate about your beliefs.unnamed

You do not have any issues showing your emotions in front of people. Like so many fears showing their emotions because they think they will be viewed as weak, you pretty much wear your heart on your sleeve. It takes a stronger person to be comfortable crying rather than a person who tries hiding their feelings.

Personally, I think it is sad that sensitive people are often viewed as weak. Honestly, it is the sensitivity that provides us with an ability to be strong, effective, and prosperous Too-sensitivewhen facing hardships. The traits that make us highly sensitive are the qualities that develop our inner strength. It is so important to not try being less sensitive but to acknowledge these as our strengths.

Somethings that highly sensitive people need to understand is:

  1. Awareness- Most highly sensitive people are very aware of their surroundings and feelings, which help them understand when stressed, overwhelmed, and what is required to be calmer.
  2. Creativity- Our creative adventures provide us with the ability to the way our energies to flow in positive ways.
  3. Empathy is being able to put yourself in someone else’s shows easily. This gives a sense of recognition while understanding human nature.64d884de435829b732b5bcae2d6bd0cb
  4. Appreciation- Highly sensitive people are able to notice details and deeply appreciate the beauty the world has daily. Appreciating life builds our inner strength because we do have so much to be thankful for and also brings a sense of inner calmness, happiness, and joy.
  5. Passion- Even though highly sensitive people tend to be gentle and compassionate, they are also extremely passionate. They often have very strong beliefs regarding their values and strongly believe in certain topics, which helps them to be resilient. Highly sensitive people will continue moving forward regardless of the challenges they may encounter, risk and dangers they could face and even their own internal fears.66dd38238519bc06a28f0b15bf8ba9af

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your day, but also staying very safe. I can’t believe it is already April, but I guess time just flies by. I wanted to let y’all know that there four different awareness’s I am going to be writing about, one is Parkinson’s which will be dedicated to my stepfather, two is alcohol awareness as this affects so many, three is stress awareness which directly impacts my life and lastly is child abuse awareness.

I hope the information provided in this post was beneficial for your life. I do look oiupforward to reading your comments on it and promise to respond as quickly as possible. I do feel like y’all are a lot like me and you are highly sensitive people, which is not something to ever feel ashamed of. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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2,000 + Followers

unnamedJuly 17, 2017. This was a very special day and a day that will never be forgotten because it is the day I took a leap of faith into the blogging community and created my first post ever! Year to date, I have shared 622 posts. When I look back over my almost three years of blogging and like many others that are entering the blogging community for the first time felt slightly overwhelmed. I knew very little about creating and maintaining websites, what to write about and what people wanted to read, connecting and building friendships with those I may never meet face-to-face, deciding on a site name, and so much more. The amazing part of this is, there isn’t a right or download (1)wrong way to create a blog and it is all about what you want out of it!

There are so many reasons people want to attempt blogging. Let’s face it putting yourself and your thoughts on any given topic can cause you to feel a little vulnerable because you have no way to know the reactions of another person reading and can only hope what you wrote will sit well. Trusting yourself and believing in your abilities isn’t easy, but this is the perfect way to learn how.

download (2)I went through an extremely deep sea of emotions when I was contemplating whether or not to start my blog. I guess it was a little terrifying because anything I write could be read and then criticized. All I could think of was everyone reading would think what I wrote was awful and if I wrote about Multiple Sclerosis I might be viewed as weak.

Any negative thoughts I had were quickly seen as incorrect. Everyone in this great community is non-judgmental and encouraging. I have never experienced a time when someone had anything negative or rude to say, which is another reason I love what I am doing.

My reasons for wanting to join the blogging community has always been the same and downloadnever wavered. I wanted to be able to raise awareness about Multiple Sclerosis, but also wanted to encourage people to never surrender to any obstacle they faced

I will be the first to say that life can be very challenging. It is easy to want to give up anything things became unbearable. It takes a strong-willed person to go through painful situations one after another, but always picking themselves back up, dust away the pain and then try again.

I am thankful for the fellow blogger who introduced me to WordPress, Catie Beth, who I worked with at a previous job. She has a brilliant blog about fashion, including makeup and hair products and fabulous shopping tips. Catie Beth is an incredibly kind person images (2)and I know you would enjoy her site https://xocatiebeth.com/, once you view it.

I have always loved writing and love the fact I can write about anything I choose on my blog. This has given me the opportunities to building my abilities and knowledge as a writer. I have also introduced me to some of the most compassionate and kind hearted people.

It brings me so much joy to be able to help others when they are going through difficult times in life. It doesn’t need to be an unpredictable illness to make someone’s life complicated because anyone can experience hardships. I has been one of my goals to spread as much positivity as I can and to as many as I can in what can be a very negative world. It is easy to get caught up in the currents of negativity, almost to the point you feel like you are drowning. By doing uplifting quotes three times a week, I hope to be able to provide a life preserve of hope!Spread-The-LOVE-this

When is started my blog almost three years ago, I always had the never-ending support of my husband, mother, and mother in-law. In the beginning my site was mostly about Multiple Sclerosis and what life is like with this illness. Now, I have been able to build my blog into more than solely Multiple Sclerosis. I must admit it is nice to write about things other than the illness I deal with every day of my life. We all deserve a break from our reality at times.

downloadI recently surpassed 2,000 followers around the world and I am very thankful for each and every one of you. It is mind blowing how many friends I have found and look forward to many years of sharing posts and reading yours.

I hope you are doing well today and your week has started off well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Eliminate bad habits and gain good habits

replace-bad-habits-with-good-habits-400px-4We all have good and bad habits that are perpetual and emerge from our unconscious minds. It is almost as though we have some kind of control over them. However, logically do we have any control over our habits?

How would you explain what is meant regarding bad habits? Bad habits are a negative behavior in regards to our behavioral patterns. Most commonly procrastinating, spending too 7040000947_dmuch money, nail-biting, spending excessive amounts of time watching TV or on the computer are bad habits.

Have you ever wondered what caused our bad habits? According to the author, James Clear, who wrote “Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results. Atomic Habits”, stress and boredom could be the key contributors to our bad habits. It is also possible that our boredom and stress are only on the surface and the causes of our bad habits are from much deeper issues. What we may have experienced might be bad-habits-2challenging and painful to think about, but if we are truly committed to making changes; we need to face the issues head-on. To overcome our bad habits, we will need to acknowledge them first.

No matter what good or bad habits we currently have, there is a reason they are in our lives. We might never know why these habits are in our lives, but they do have a purpose and even a benefit. Most of the time, our bad habits are how we handle stress.

It isn’t easy to comprehend how our bad habits can be beneficial in our lives. However,26ad67a072eb39fd803a5ecf73a8fbf1 we need to try understanding how instead of straightforwardly eliminating them, we should attempt replacing them with good habits that provide us with comparable benefits.

Do you know any good ways to break bad habits? Personally, I have several habits that aren’t just bad, they are awful habits. Through some research, I have discovered some ways to break the bad habit cycle we deal with.

Before I dive too deep into ways to break the bad habits, I am going to explain how our habits are driven by a 3-part loop sequence, that was initiated from Mayo Oshin,

  1. Trigger is the stimulus that starts the habit
  2. Routine is doing the habit and behavior itself
  3. Reward of the benefit is associated with the behavior

ooda-loop-simpleNow we can finally dive deep into Mayo Oshin’s coherent strategies that will help us utilize psychology when recognizing our triggers for our bad habits, quit procrastinating and begin easily getting things done.

Oshin’s three strategies to break bad habits include:

  1. Use the words “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t”, which can assist with making better choices. In two different research studies, participants that use the words “I don’t” were able to meet their goals and had positive impacts on their well-being more than those that used “I can’t”.
  2. Practice becoming aware of the triggers. The more aware we are of our triggers that lead us to lean on our bad habits, the higher the chances we have on interfering with the existence of the loop leading us towards bad habits.

msc-mindfulnessAn addiction expert, Judson Brewer, performed a study with smokers trying to quit smoking. Brewer believes that practicing mindfulness frequently can help end the bad habits. In his study, Brewer found 36% of individuals that practiced mindfulness were successful with quitting, as opposed to the 15% that did not use mindfulness and were not successful with quitting smoking.

An intriguing practice exercise you can try is the following steps! The next time you are tempted with your bad habit, take a step back, answer the following questions and log your answer if you want something 5-minute-craving-busters-2824747_FINAL-5bd0bfe046e0fb0051c82ed7to reflect on

  • Where were you when the cravings occurred?
  • What time of day does this happen?
  • What was your emotional state of mind?
  • Who were you with?
  • What happened before your cravings?

You can keep your answers in a journal, so you can refer back to them at a later time and maybe notice a trend. This is a way to practice mindfulness and also assist you in taking more control of your actions. By tracking the issues you will be that much more aware of your 1933.1549052609behavior and offer ideas to stop!

  1. Use an “if-then” plan to replace the bad habits with good habits. It isn’t enough to only have a goal to break bad habits. To perpetually continue with a good habit, we need an intentional plan.

To create an “if-then” plan we need to do the following steps.

  1. Recognize a situation that commonly triggers our bad habits
  2. Identify a distinct reaction to the trigger. Typically, this would be a good habit to 5a1ef657150000a73c85a7aareplace and prevent falling right into the temptation
  3. Combine steps 1 &2 into an “if-then” format. Utilizing an “if-then” plan creates an easier reaction for our cravings and replaces them with a good habit because of the made ready automatic response. Over time, we will be able to see how effective it can be to assist in breaking away from bad habits.

I hope you found this information beneficial in your life. There is no pressure at all, buScreen-Shot-2019-01-08-at-9.10.06-AM-300x168t what habits of yours do you think are bad habits? I will share mine with y’all. One is definitely I always think I am fat and that I need to lose weight, but my husband always tells me I am crazy and don’t need to lose weight. I will say telling someone that thinks they are fat crazy might not be the best way to approach the topic, but men often don’t think before they speak. Another habit of mine that could be viewed as bad is that I apologize for everything, even when I didn’t really do anything wrong. I don’t know why, I just immediately say “I’m sorry.” One more habit, that can be viewed as good and bad 101961is, I am way too overly emotional about everything!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a great day and you are ending the week feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Ways to care for your mental health during a pandemic

coronavriusOn March 11, 2020, both the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and the World Health Organization (WHO) declared a global pandemic due to the coronavirus. The coronavirus has affected 192 countries and territories worldwide and 1 International conveyance, the Diamond Princess Cruise ship. It has steadily been causing vast amounts of turmoil in most households around the world.

Only to add the apprehension things have occurred, no one ever thought they would see in their lifetime. Starting with sporting event cancellations, school closings, mass ppe-graphicshortages of personal protective equipment in hospitals, delaying elective surgeries, borders closing to International travelers, malls with either adjusted hours or closing altogether, restaurants only offering take-out, grocery store’s shelves are pretty much empty, employers being forced to allow employees to work from home if the work permits or laying employees off because they can’t afford them,  and I am sure there is more that I didn’t remember.

Even though it will not be easy, we all need to find ways to calm our overactive anxiety and feelings of distress. First, how many times do you check for updates regarding the coronavirus? Second question, how many news outlets, whether it is TV or online news CoronavirusAMUpdatesources? It may help your anxiety and stress levels if you try limiting the number of times you check for updates, such as no more than 2 times a day and NEVER right before bed. It is also very important to choose a credible news outlet for your source. It could provide you additional security to have at least two trustworthy sites because it will allow you to fact check the information.

No matter where we live, we are all in this together and will be until things start to improve. Not to sound negative, but things will probably get even worse before they begin to get better. It is critical to listen to and rely on trustworthy news outlets and WEBREADY_Free-Press-Editorial_Oped_Hannah-Riseman-900x600actual public health experts. It doesn’t matter who the politician is, they did not dedicate their lives to healthcare.

What does your body go through when stress and anxiety reach extremely high levels? What exactly is causing you the most worry? What do you fear the most right now? Is there anything you can do to make what you are worried about easier or end altogether? Allow your mind the time and honesty to answer these questions. Maybe this will distract you some and provide you clarity of your feelings.

The unfortunate truth is we have no control of this virus, but we do have control of what copingwe do and how we cope with major situations. I am going to share some ideas that may provide distractions to relieve your anxious mind.

  • Connect with family and friends via video chat, phone calls, emails, and social media.
  • Yoga- If you have not practiced yoga before and want to start, now might be a good time because learning and trying new things could be enjoyable and a healthy distraction.
  • Meditation- If you have never meditated before, that’s okay because there are numerous apps available that are easy to follow, such as https://www.headspace.com/ and https://www.calm.com/. You could also visit Bella’s website https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/. Bella has many posts about meditation that are absolutely amazing and helpful.
  • Controlled breathing, which is called square breathing. Imagine your breathcoping traveling along a square. Inhale up the first side of the square, count to 3, and exhale. Do this on all sides of the square!
  • Read a good book
  • Watch a comedy
  • Eat familiar foods that you enjoy
  • Free yourself from stress by coloring
  • Form a calming atmosphere with sweet aromas
  • Get out your knitting, crocheting, sewing or any other creative craft you enjoy
  • Take a warm bubble bath to drown your stress away
  • Contemplate with your journal. If you do not have a journal, it might help you to EPIDT6GUCNBRLE5PF4CDD73D4Ystart one now
  • Pour yourself a warm cup of tea
  • Refresh yourself and skin with a facial mask
  • Get a deck of cards, puzzle or board game out to play

We do not really know how long we will continue being in monumental amounts of turbulence. We realize there is so much we do not have control over, such as how long we will be dealing with this pandemic, how many people will suffer because of it, or how our communities will be affected. None of this is easy to accept or even understand, but there are several ways we can reduce our personal risks of obtaining the virus.

  • Wash your hands frequently for at least 20 seconds with soap and water or handCoronavirus-Twitter-card-pic.xc9f75d90 sanitizer that has at least 60% alcohol
  • Avoid touching your face, eyes, nose, and mouth in particular
  • Even if you do not feel sick, stay home as much as you can
  • Avoid crowds and gathering with more than 10 people
  • Avoid all non-essential shopping and travel
  • Keep 6 feet of distance between yourself and others when out
  • To help support your immune system, get plenty of sleep
  • Follow ALL recommendation from health establishments

self careWhile we remain in distressing time we need to not forget to care for our body and spirit. The following ideas are ways we can tend to our self-care while we deal with disturbances caused by the coronavirus

  • Be kind to yourself:

If you’re experiencing depression and or anxiety, go easy on yourself and know you are not alone

  • Maintain a routine as much as you can:

Even though you might be confined to your house, continue your normal sleep, meals, and work schedule

  • Make time for the activities you enjoy:

Read that book you’ve been meaning to start, play games you find enjoyable, cook julyselfcaresomething, and create something or anything else to occupy your mind from the stress you have been feeling

  • If possible get out in nature:

Sunshine and fresh can be beneficial for our mental and physical health. Whatever you do, obey the restrictions that have been put in place, keep your distance from people you may encounter, and avoid crowds

  • Find ways to exercise:

Of course, all gyms and exercise classes will be closed, but you can find alternative ways to exercise. Staying active will help relieve stress, anxiety, and even manage our moods. Get creative with what you are images (2)able to do without equipment, such as using your own bodyweight to exercise

  • Avoid self-medicating:

Be cautious about using alcohol or other substances to control your anxiety and depression

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope the information provided will be beneficial for you and your family. Times are anything but easy right now, but hopefully things will start improving very soon. I hope you have a great afternoon and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Motivational Monday

positive mondayHappy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely weekend and you are ready to start a new week! Sadly, I know everyone is aware and affected by the coronavirus pandemic. The only thing I wish is the everyone could show the respect others are deserved. It is awful that the grown adults in the government can’t seem to do this. If only when these people spoke, the truth would leave their lips instead of lies. It is hard to know anymore when, if anything we hear is honest. I don’t enjoy being pessimistic, but how can we be anything else when we can’t even tell who is telling us the truth? How are we supposed to trust a government that should have done something sooner, instead of blaming everyone else and calling this pandemic a hoax?

I know we were all told to stay at home this weekend and not go out unless it was absolutely necessary. Did y’all do anything or were you doing what we were all advised0b242-butterflybutterfly to do and hang out at home? My mother and husband did not want me to leave the house over the weekend because of my weak immune system, but we all still need groceries, right? I did not stay in a store long and was sure to wash down the shopping cart with the available products and I wrapped the handle with paper towels. As soon as I left the store, I disinfected my hands and washed them well when I got home! Other than one trip to the store, I did stay my rear end in the house working on my blog, proposals for freelance ( which one stated they are putting their project on hold a week or so because of the pandemic), and educated myself on different forms of writing. It was all very interesting and I promise to Maya-Angelou-13-1share it with y’all soon!

As we are all going to start our new week off with a positive mindset, well I guess as positive as we can when the world is under attack with coronovirus, I have a short and simple quote that I think everyone should live by! I mean, could you even imagine a world where one person gets something, they give to another? And when one person learns something, they teach someone else? It would create so many opportunities and extend so much love to thousands, millions, and even billions of people! It kind of sounds like a fairy-tale that I do hold onto to hope could happen someday!raf750x1000075t322e3f-696a94a5d4-u2

Thank you so much for taking the time to visit today! I hope you have a fantastic Monday and you week only gets better each day! Don”t forget to take care of yourself because you are very important to all of us in the blogging community, I definitely do not want anything bad to happen to any of you! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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