The world keeps spinning!

The world keeps spinningThe world seems to keep spinning around me so fast, but I feel like I standing still. I think it might be important to just accept the things in life that we have no control over and just embrace life for what it is. There really is so much about life that we might want to change, but I think whatever we might be living with or dealing with is in front of us for a reason. The reasons might be unknown, but there are reasons that we will discover someday!

If you sit down and really think about the way your life has played out, is there any outcome you would want to be different? All the struggles we might have encountered have not made us weak by any means, but they have all built our strength to continue onstruggle is real fighting a good fight! Sure none of us want to have a chronic illness or financial struggles or anything that might appear to be a negative aspect of life, but if we did not go through all the trials in life who would we be? I would like to think that everything we go through in life creates who we are and how we treat others, but maybe we would still be the same person if we did not go through any hard times. No one can say and be 100% sure!

Personally, I have always been very empathetic towards others and sympathetic to other’s needs. Everyone’s thoughts and emotions matter to me❤! I guess I am and probably always will be a very sentimental and sometimes overly emotional person. The way I am now has not changed since I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, I am just me!

There are so many people we all encounter that never learned how to be empathetic, which if you think about it is pretty sad for them. I guess for some people, especially in the world we live in frederickdouglass1today, if you have never experienced a life altering illness that causes many different issues, they are unable to understand. It is okay for people to not fully understand, but they should never judge another because how they say they are feeling. Pain is VERY REAL! Migraines are VERY REAL! Instability when walking is VERY REAL! Mood changes are also VERY REAL! Everything we deal with in life is VERY REAL! None of us asked to have a chronic illness and I am sure we all wished we didn’t. But considering we have one, we face the world with a different perspective that involves a lot of acceptance and willingness to make changes at a moment’s notice. Our days are typically never the same, but most of never complain about it, we just manage it the best we can.

Basically I have taught myself and I am still learning how to accept the fact that I haveaccept what we can not control no control over many things in my life. I know I can control how I view situations and how I react to them, but that is all!  As a person that might have some control issues, this isn’t easy for me. I have always had a strong desire to make the lives of those I care about better. Learning that I have NO control over how someone else’s life works out for them is hard! I have learned that there isn’t anything I can do to make life easy for anyone because I do not think life was meant to always be easy! We all just need to live our life to the fullest and never dwell on what we think or wish would happen!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today! I always appreciate you taking the time to read my sometimes random thoughts and really LOVE reading your comments! I hope y’all are having a wonderful weekend and I hope you are feeling well. Please always know that I am sending y’all LOTS of love❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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Dismiss the judgments and embrace compassion!

Good afternoonGood afternoon y’all! I hope you are enjoying this beautiful Saturday! Of course it is insanely hot where I live today, but I have learned to accept it because that is the way it will be for the next several months.

 

So much is going on in the world and it has really affected me emotionally. Life can be viewed as short or even painfully long at times! But, however we view life, why waste any of our precious time passing judgments on others? I do believe too many people judge a book by its cover and fail to see the bigger beautiful picture that each individual is in their own unique way.

I do feel that it is extremely important to always treat others the same way we would likeBe kind to be treated! I do not have any room in my life for hateful and judgmental people. It seems like there are far too many out there that do not view things the same way I do and that is incredibly unfortunate. I am not saying that everyone should follow everything that I do because I am not perfect in any way, but I do feel that we should all try to spread as much love and compassion as we can! I know y’all already do an amazing job with this, but there love is absenseare still so many others that do not!

When I look at the way the country I live in is behaving, it is very troubling to me. It seems that some think it is perfectly acceptable to use innocent children as a bargaining tool, which in my opinion is anything but acceptable! Anyone that has children or use to be a child, which we all were at some point, should not think it is acceptable to use children like they are pawns on a chessboard. It is just incredibly disturbing to me. There are children being taken from their parents and put into cages like animals. These parents and children that are being tormented did not ask for this treatment and definitely DO NOT DESERVE IT!

I will never understand why some people will continue mistreat others just because of the color of their skin, sexual preference, religious beliefs or any other thing that may too many criticsdiffer from them. It is 2018 and we should all be evolving instead some are devolving at an incredible fast pace. We are all entitled to our own opinions, but everyone is also entitled to never have to fear being ostracized for being who they are. I know it is probably obviously, but I strongly believe everyone should be treated equally and with respect. 

Thank you for stopping by my site today and reading how passionate I truly am about equality for all❤. I am sorry to go off a rant about how horrible people are treated in the United States, but it is something that I feel is not right in any way! We all have our own opinions and it is perfectly fine if you disagree with anything that I have written. I do look forward to any comments you may have and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and I hope you are feeling well! As always I am sending y’all LOTS of❤ love and comfort!

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Happy Memorial Day 2018!

memorial-day-2018Do you know why Memorial Day really is meant to be celebrated? Or is this just a day businesses are closed giving us a long weekend? Or is Memorial Day when fashion rules say that you can wear white again? There is so much more behind this solemn occasion that should remember❤. There are so many veterans that have died while servicing in the country’s armed forces. These brave men and women gave their lives for our freedom and should be honored❤.

Many people get Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day confused, so please allow me to clarify thinkstockphotos-472330722these two holidays. As I already have stated, Memorial Day is meant to remember the men and women that died while serving their country. Veteran’s Day celebrates the service of all United States Military Veterans, which is also very important.

For Memorial Day, which is observed on the last Monday of May, flags across the country are lowered to a half-staff position only until noon and then they will be raised to a full-staff position for the remainder of the day. This is a way to show respect for the veteran’s bravery and selflessness and of course honor their memory!

I hope you have had a lovely and safe holiday weekend! At least this Monday was not a Happy-Memorial-Day-2018-Quotes-WIshes-Imagesday to dread by going back to work, but a Monday we can acknowledge those that gave their lives for our life and freedom. 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the little information I have provided was not only interesting but great to read! I hope you have a wonderful Tuesday and you are feeling great after the long weekend! Of course I always appreciate your amazing comments and will respond to all of them just as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of❤ love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Who Am I?

Who am IHave you ever asked yourself this what should be a fairly easy question, “Who am I?” I sometimes am forced to ask myself this question a few times a day, especially when others challenge the person I know I am, by being disrespectful and even a little demeaning. I find that other people can cause a slight change in my views of myself and then I react unkind. For instances, there is a person I work with that seems to enjoy treating others as if they are beneath him, which creates a very hostile work environment, or at least it does for me! I do not need someone to blow smoke up my rear end, but I do demand and deserve to be respected. This negative treatment causes an excessive amount of anger and frustration in me, which then causes my attitude to be so NEGATIVE and this is not me! In your experiences and opinion, what is the best way to handle this extremely disturbing individual?

Underneath everyone is a person that is so much more than what can be viewed from their exterior appearance! Our exterior is just a visual image, but underneath that visual image is an entirely other person with emotions and passions. When I was first diagnosed with MS, I thought that people just viewed me as just my illness and not for underneath-copywho I was on the inside. Even now, almost 18 years later I feel that is all people see me as which could not be further from the truth, but I am learning that is their problem and not mine! Others view me from my outside as a vertically challenged (I am a little short) and petite person which makes people make annoying comments that I do not eat, which I do! The verbal attacks cause frustration to me and therefore make me very uncomfortable, but again I know this is those doing the talking problem not mine!

At 36 years old, I am still learning how to deal with other’s personalities and how to interact with them when it is the complete opposite of my own. When I ask myself, Who am I?, I typically answer it the same way every time! I pride myself on being ❤kind and understanding of everyone. I also have never been and never will be ❤judgmental towards anyone by judging on race, color, religion and or sexual preference. I always butterfly who am Iwant to help others get through hard times by offer support and encouragement to those! I will always be compassionate, loving❤, caring and giving to a fault despite how most around me are not. So, if I ask y’all the same question, “Who are you?” what would your answer be?

I really appreciate you visiting my site today and I really look forward to any comments you may have! I do promise you, I will respond as quickly as I can! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your weekend and I hope you are feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending you LOTS of ❤love and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Freezing Cold Temperatures

BabyItsColdOutside750It seems that the frigid temperatures are not just isolated to the north anymore but have expanded into the south. The temperatures in the south have not gone about 32 in several days and we are facing more chilly days this week. Some areas are even expecting 1-3 inches of snow. Snow is beautiful to see but not so friendly in the south. With just the anticipation of snow businesses and schools are talking about closing tomorrow. I grew up in the north so to me 1-3 inches of snow is very mild.

What I can say about these freezing temperatures is it makes my pain skyrocket! I guess it is because I get so tense with the cold air I cannot help but stiffen my muscles. I have found the best thing to do to combat these issues is dress very warm, make sure to heat my car before leaving the house and always have  heating pad available at home and pain-and-cold-weather-1-kate-the-almost-great-previewwork! I know it is winter and it is supposed to be cold, but living with a chronic illness that already comes with a lot of pain, the cold weather never makes it any better! 

This might sound crazy considering I am not a big fan of the cold, but if it is going to be this darn cold we need a little bit of snow! They are expecting snow to the north of where I live but not actually in my area. So we just have to deal with freezing temperatures without the sight of beautiful snow covering the ground which does not seem right! I will admit one reason why I would love for it to snow is my office would definitely close for at least a day! If it snows I would not have to leave the house and could just stay nice and warm snuggled up on the couch with my adorable cats!

Now that it is finally a new year, how is your year going so far? I was very excited for 2018 because I think it is going to be full of wonderful opportunities. I am hoping for so many positive changes both for me personally but also around the world! I know I have already said this, but I am hoping 2018 is going to bring love and respect back into hearteveryone’s life. I feel strongly that respect has been lost and I am not sure why. It seems that people are very quick to pass judgement onto others without getting to know them first or at least trying to understand them! I am the type of person that treats everyone the same and always try to be kind and compassionate. The truth is, we never know what another person is going through in life unless we ask and offer our assistance. Kind words and actions can go a long way in making someone’s day better!

I hope y’all had a great day today! I really appreciate all the comments y’all have made on my posts and I love getting to know you better! I feel like I have learned so much from so many of you and it really has been beneficial to me! I said in my New Year’s post that I am going to start writing about more things that I am passionate about which will give you an idea of who I really am as a person. I hope you have enjoyed my previous posts and I hope you will continue to enjoy my future posts! Have a fantastic night and try to stay warm! Always hold onto positive thoughts because they will help through the hardest of times in life! Much love and comfort to all of you!

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Hopeful for 2018

Love heartYou might be battling with pain. You might be struggling during difficult times life has thrown your way. You might be dealing with heartaches. You may be enduring life altering changes. You might be trying to figure out where life is taking you. This might be a really tragic time in life and you do not know where to turn to. But, no matter what your struggles are you do have the strength needed to get to a brighter tomorrow. It might be hard to find positivity in life right now but the more you look, you will find something that is positive and that will push away all the negative thoughts. It may not be immediate but one positive memory can brighten your path. It could be that kind hand that reached out to show friendship or love. There is always going to be dark times throughout our lives but we need to focus on what we have found happiness in.

We are so close to the end of a year that may have had traces of struggles for some. Some have been diagnosed with chronic illnesses with no cure. Some have lost or given up a job either due to company cutbacks or downsizing, progression of an illness, family reasons, wanting a change in a career or leaving the work force. You may have had significant losses during 2017 which caused much sadness. Some may have experienced many traumatic events causing depression that is so hard to get past. If you already had a chronic illness you may have encountered a relapse that caused some difficulties. You may have decided to try a new medication with the hopes it would work for your illness, which may not have been the success you had hoped for leaving you back to making quotes-about-life-and-struggle-image-39decisions again.

This past year may have brought on some delightful changes to your life! Maybe you married the person of your dreams! You may have had the exciting opportunity to move to a new city or state to build new memories! Some may have welcomed a child to this world. Maybe you graduated from college and are starting your new career. There are so many glorious events that could have been possible making your year absolutely amazing and unforgettable.

Perhaps during this past year you beat an addiction of some sort. So many people battle addiction to drugs, alcohol and nicotine. It is always common to set a resolution at the beginning of the year to quit whatever you may be addicted to, some succeed but many have minor setbacks. Even if you did have a setback to your goal, never give up on yourself because you do have the strength to win this fight! Whether you did have a never give upslight hindrance in meeting your goal but then successfully won your battle, congratulations to you and be very proud of yourself! Many do have to try again to win the battle and that is okay, just never give up on yourself because you really can do this!

While you look back over 2017, what were the great things that occurred in your life? Did you have numerous misfortunes that required new outlooks on life or forced you to reevaluate your life? Are there any events you wished you could erase? What were the most wonderful things that occurred during the year? Did you have any massive changes during the course of the year that were either encouraging or discouraging? Are there any changes you want to make going into a new year?

Personally, I am looking forward to the New Year! With only 3 days left of 2017, these are my thoughts for the start of ending 2017. The last few months of 2017 have come with a lot of struggles but successes as well. I had a massive flare up that started in October and is gradually healing. I had made the decision to switch my MS medication to Tecfidera after being on Gilenya successfully for 6 years, because I thought the headaches I continued to have were due to the Gilenya. There is no telling if my flare up was due to the change in medicine or due to stress, but through positivity and rest I am on the mends to recovery. Of course I found out that the Tecfidera was not strong enough for my MS and ended up going back to Gilenya, but I am glad for that decision because I would have always wondered if another medication was better for me. I know that the damage my body experienced from the flare up will get better over time and with a lot of patience on my part.Why-Im-Already-Looking-Forward-to-a-Happy-New-Year-1024x512.png

I am hopeful that 2018 holds many positive changes. I am logical enough to realize there will not be some magical cure for all illnesses over night, but there is a chance we are getting just a little closer each day. I hope that the ways of society will start to improve and all that has been lost will be found. Love and respect will be once again practiced.

I started my blog almost 6 months ago and this has truly been one of the best experiences I have had during 2017. I am looking forward to continuing my blog and getting to know more of you! Everyone I have had communications with has been wonderful. It is great getting to know people all over the world and learning about their lives. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on my thoughts today. I would love to hear your thoughts on this past year and your hopes for the upcoming year! I hope you had a great day and I hope your evening is relaxing! It might sound like it but this is not my last post of the year! I wish you much love, comfort and peace! 

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Always, Alyssa

 

Be True To Yourself!

true to yourselfKnowing who you are and remaining true to yourself is essential in life. Never allowing anyone to influence your thoughts, desires or passions can become difficult in a world full of judgments. But we can be who we are and want to continue to be despite what others may think. We do not have to be perfect or even close to it but be genuine to ourselves and what we believe.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but sometimes it is hard to admit what those are. Faults are not always a negative but can be deemed a remarkable quality. One of my many weaknesses is my stubbornness. Even though being stubborn can be viewed as a negative trait it has also given me resilience for coping with difficult events in life. In a unique way my stubborn attitude forces me to remain positive when struggling with the pain MS can cause. My incessant stubbornness can also create problems as well. Fully understanding that sometimes there are things I need to ask for help with but refuse to do so creates additional pain or injury.

Compassion can be a blessing and a curse! When I see someone who is struggling, I want to help them. I tend to put others needs ahead of my own, especially if that person is a loved one. I will think of others pains and how I can possibly help them before I focus onCompassion 2 my own health. I go out of my way to take care of others and ensure their comfort before I think of what I need. The reason I say it is a blessing and a cure is because I know that I do not have the abilities to make everything better for all.

I hold strong to my beliefs and will fight tooth and nail to prove my point. I will defend those that are not strong enough to defend themselves or just not present at the time when they need to have someone in their corner. I feel that EVERYONE deserves to be treated equally no matter how they choose to live, as long as they are not causing harm to others. People are entitled to love who they want to love and live the way that brings them happiness. We are all able to make our own choices in how we want to live and anyone on the outside should not say that is wrong. Who has the right to say we are not living the right way? What is right for me may not be right for someone else and that is okay!

Have you ever sat down and really thought about what your strengths and weaknesses are? Sometimes those things we view as our negative traits can actually turn into a strength over time. We should be constantly growing and evolving as individuals with what we have learned. However in 2017, it almost seems like some people are devolving into what we should all know better from. We need to be learning from past experiences, whether it be our own or someone else’s to become even better than we are!

As I have already stated, I hold very strong to my beliefs and do not allow anything waver those beliefs. I feel strongly that the color of someone’s skin does not determine who they are or what they are going to do in life. I believe that the homosexuals in this stand for somethingworld should be FREE to love who they love with acceptance. I do not feel that anyone should have to hide who they are just so they can be embraced by society. Our society often sets standards as to what they think is normal, but that is not the norm for everyone and should not be forced onto people. Not everyone wants to have children but once you get married it is the first question that is asked, “When are you going to have kids?” If you say that you do not want children, it almost seems like you are considered an outcast because that is what you are supposed to do. My husband and I are perfectly happy in our life with our cats and not having children. It does not mean that those who do not want children do not like children, it just means they do not want to bring another living being into this world of chaos and it should be respected. 

My entire point of this post is that it is so important to know yourself and know what youbelieve in yourself truly believe in. To never allow anyone’s judgement or negativity to impact how you live. You are the only one that knows what in life works for you and what doesn’t work and there is not anyone that can determine how you should live. Everyone has an opinion but that does not make them right. The power of mind is an amazing and wonderful thing, so never stop believing in yourself! Never forget that you are an incredible and strong person!!

Thank you for reading and commenting on my thoughts for today or maybe I should say rant of the day! I truly appreciate all of your comments because it does give me things to learn from and become a better and wiser person! I hope y’all had a good day and have a wonderful evening!

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Always, Alyssa