Wednesday’s Random Thoughts

My Random Thoughts

Happy Wednesday y’all. I hope you are having a great week, you are feeling well, and of course, you are staying safe. I keep telling myself to stop obsessing about new COVID-19 cases in the city I live in, but yet I continue monitoring the massive increases daily. It doesn’t make any sense why I keep doing this because all it does is upset me and keep me stressed. I do not leave the house most days unless it is necessary and when I do, I always wear my mask inside places like the grocery store. It blows my mind how many people do not wear a mask and hardly ever respect social distancing. I am not sure which irritates me more, the carelessness of not wearing a mask, or the complete lack of awareness for social distancing. I was thrilled to hear the city I live in passed a law requiring people to wear a mask anytime they leave the house and will be fined if they do not. I think this should have happened months ago!

Do y’all ever have days when there is so much on your mind and numerous things you want to do, but then feel overwhelmed and do not do any of the things you wanted to? Or when your mind is consumed with things you want to write about, but then you just end up staring at a blank page for hours or constantly erasing what you just typed or wrote? I tend to have days like this a lot and do not know what to do about it. Do y’all have any advice? I may being feeling this way because I have not worked in several months and therefore I am not on any logical kind of schedule, which drives me crazy.

Life can sometimes feel more like a very long and nerve-wracking rollercoaster ride with many added sharp curves and free falls. The moment we think things are getting easier and it is safe to take a deep breath, we face another painful challenge. Sadly, I honestly feel like too much has taken place over the past four months or so and there doesn’t seem to be relief or improvement anytime soon.

I don’t think it would surprise anyone, but what we have witnessed recently has been heartbreaking and terrifying. The other situations that have made the news are things we have known to be hellacious issues for a long time, these mainly being inequality, racism, and pure hatred. Y’all know that I tend to blame negative things that happen on the president and even though things he says might fuel hate and racism, the issues wouldn’t be fueled if the people didn’t already feel a certain way to start with.

No one on the face of this earth has ever gone through a pandemic like the one we are seeing now with COVID-19. I do not even think anyone has thought of something this awful. COVID-19 has put fear in people around the world. Unlike some people in the world, COVID-19 does not discriminate and has affected people from all walks of life.

Even though I am viewing the world in different ways right now, not everything is horrible and stressful. Of course, the issues with the virus do cause me stress and sadness. I hate knowing some people that get this virus will lose their life and their family will have that pain to deal with. And even though I am a small-town girl that grew up in a state with no diversity and moved to a big city with LOTS of diversity when I was 19, racism will NEVER make sense to me. I have always believed that everyone was equal and deserved our respect. With people, the only thing that matters to me is how they treat others and the color of their skin, who they love, who they worship, or anything else that is different from my views does not matter.

Thank y’all for visiting my site today and reading some of the thoughts that have been racing through my mind for a while now. No pressure at all, but I would love to read your thoughts on this post! I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as possible! I hope you are having a good day so far and it continues to be pleasant. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What does our world need most??

12 Things Our World Needs Now!

Even though we may be oceans or miles apart, we are all still living under the same bright and beautiful sky. Unfortunately, the world we live in has been anything but peaceful for far too long. Countless numbers of people have been and continue to encounter uncertainty, increased stress, and escalated pain, an absence of hope, and inequality. Currently, our world is suffering and to have successful change we need to be united. No matter where you live, our goals are the same.

The things the world is in dire need of can be accomplished if everyone works together in unity. The great things that may happen will take time, patience, and resilience.

The following are what is urgently required for the good of this world:

1. Action-

There are numerous challenges we are facing and these challenges are not going to resolve on their own. People are constantly complaining about everything that isn’t right, but none of that is doing anything beneficial.

We need REAL action on poverty, climate changes, the mental health crisis, COVID-19, racial inequality, reckless and carelessness with the government, and much more. Without people, communities, politicians, and all nations taking action by joining together, the change that is required won’t ever take place.

2. Unity-

The challenges that have spread throughout the entire world will not be able to correct themselves unless we all JOIN TOGETHER! We do not need to live in the same state or even the same country, but we can help one another in achieving a common goal, PEACE & EQUALITY! Each and every one of us is alike concerning having a heart full of love, kindness, and acceptance. We are also uniquely different with adding our support for the greater good of the world.

3. Tolerance-

There is more division between people both within the same country and others. If we are going to successfully join together we will need to learn how to be tolerant to those we disagree with. There must be less of the terminology of us and them and more we and us. Tolerance means we need to put unnecessary loyalties aside and only have loyalty for human lives.

4. Acceptance-

Of course, we do not have to agree with everyone else all of the time. The opinion of others should be accepted with just as much validity as our own. Beneath the difference of opinions and disagreements, there is another human being that deserves respect and kindness.

5. Understanding-

As human beings, we are all a convoluted mixture of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It is common for those same humans to do things that gets on our nerves and even upsets us, but we need to try understanding the reason they may have done what they did. Unfortunately, many people go through struggles daily, but normally we are unaware of this. Especially with all that is happening in the world today it is important to try offering our understanding to others because chances are we are also experiencing our own challenging times.

6. Compassion-

There are going to be time we may see someone that is enduring a struggle. Although we might not be aware of the cause for their struggles, it is important to show our sincere, genuine, and wholehearted concerns for them. We have all heard this many times before, but a little compassion indeed goes a long way! It is amazing how helpful it can be when we offer someone who is going through struggles a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen and some comforting warm and supportive words.

7. Forgiveness-

Anyone can do things that they will regret later and whatever was done could hurt another. Honestly, forgiveness is not the easiest thing to do, especially in this day and age. When we forgive it doesn’t mean what was done is forgotten or that we are excusing someone else’s actions because that just isn’t true. When we decide to forgive someone, we are moving on and we are not harboring negative feelings towards that person.

Forgiveness is something necessary between the different cultures, nations, and generations. There is already too much anger, disagreements, and resentment that has been widespread, but this is the time the world and everyone in it needs forgiveness that spreads far and to all!

8. Kindness-

Countless people are suffering and daily more are faced with various misfortunes. Kindness is something that will surpass all faiths, ages, backgrounds, languages, and even reach beyond vast distances. It does not matter how big or small, all acts of kindness can make the world a better place in limitless ways. Bottom line is, the entire world is in an extreme need for a lot more kindness!

9. Trust-

Whether this is true or false, many people believe that everyone is out for themselves with little to no thoughts for anyone else. They also view others as being not trustworthy. Trust is the foundation in all human relationships and without it things can and will rapidly fall apart. We should be able to feel confident and comfortable putting our trust in those that are in our lives, but if we are not able to do this we might need to reevaluate who we are allowing into our lives. Trust takes time to earn and it can be lost quickly. Sadly, once trust has been lost it can take a very long time to earn back and even then can be challenging.

10. Hope-

Unfortunately, during recent times hope has gotten lost for many people. Although most people desire for things to be better, they have also lost the ability to have true hope that anything will get better than they are currently. Hope is what can invigorate the action necessary to resolve the many problems we are dealing with today. We need people to demonstrate the meaning and benefits of the power of hope through their actions. Once more people believe again and have the hope that tomorrow will bring better times; it will spread throughout our world!

11. Wisdom-

It does seem that most people have a smartphone, tablet, or they have both and have the answers needed at our fingertips anywhere we go. The thing is the knowledge we think we are gaining doesn’t necessarily translate to wisdom. What some are not aware of is there is a significant difference between wisdom and knowledge, which is mainly the quality.

12. Contentment-

While it is great many people want to continue to endeavor with achieving more, it also can turn toxic if it isn’t regulated. This does not mean regulated by stronger powers, it means to regulated the constant wanting more. Instead of always wanting more, there needs to be a time when we can look at all we do have in the present and be thankful for it. Many still don’t understand that more doesn’t mean better and need to realize what it means to simply be at peace with the life we have and all we have in our lives.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what was written in this post was beneficial for you and also provides thoughts of pride because you are a kind and loving person. We are all going through many hard times, which can cause stress and frustration. These are things I can completely understand and sincerely wish there was something I could do to give assurance to everyone. When life gets challenging people will either jump into help or run away from the sadness. I wish there was a warm and sunny place we could all hide from what is going on, but regrettably there isn’t. The best way we can cope is to be supportive and understanding, but also feel like you have someone who understands and will offer support!

I know it is only Tuesday, but I hope your week going well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. I know I just wrote a lot, but I do want to know what you think. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

National Migraine & Headache Awareness Month, Part 1

June is National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month. For June, the goal is to raise awareness, further educate those unaware about migraines and headaches, and show support to those that deal with these issues. Due to the vast about of information and to try to maintain length, there will be other posts with even more information about migraines and headaches.

Migraines are the third most common disease globally estimating 14.77% of the world’s population suffers from migraines. Approximately 38 million United States citizens deal with this pain. Of the American’s that battle with migraines, about 85% are women. The vast majority of migraine sufferers experience an episode once or twice a month, more than 4 million others endures chronic daily migraines. It is an exceedingly debilitating condition causing not just a simple headache but can come along with nausea, vomiting, visual disturbances, utmost sensitivity to sound and, light and tingling or numbness in the face. Nearly 25% of migraine attacks may include an aura, which is a visual disturbance that lasts less than an hour.

Unfortunately, children can be affected by migraines. Of the children that experience migraines they typically have their first episode before age 12. Even though at younger ages boys suffer more from migraines than girls, once in the adolescent year’s girls end up dealing with migraines more than boys of the same age.

Migraines are a crucial public health concern, but they continue to be misunderstood, under-diagnosed, and under-treated. More than half of migraine suffers are never diagnosed properly. Many that suffer do not pursue medical attention for their pain because like individuals battling other chronic illnesses, there are extremely high costs for medical services, minuscule support, and restricted access to proper quality of care.

While we are in National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month it is important to recognize the International Classification of Headache Disorders, published by the International Headache Society, which used to classify more than 150 types of primary and secondary disorders.

I will begin with primary headache disorders which are divided into four groups:

1. Migraines- I briefly touched on this at the beginning of this post, but allow me to give a slightly deeper description. A migraine headache is distinguished by throbbing and pulsating pain caused by an activation of nerve fibers residing within the walls of the brain blood vessels that travel within the meninges. Just to quickly explain, meninges are the three membranes lining the skull and vertebral canal and encloses the brain and spinal cord.

Migraine headaches are repetitive episodes of throbbing pain ranging from moderate to severe in intensity. These typically affect one side of the head at a time. If an episode goes untreated it can potentially last anywhere from 4-72 hours.

Various factors can trigger the migraine cycle to begin and could differ from person to person, but may include sudden weather or environment changes, too much or not enough sleep, strong fragrances, emotion, stress, overexerting yourself, loud noises, motion sickness, low blood sugar, skipping meals, tobacco, depression, anxiety, head trauma, hangover, certain medications, hormonal changes, and bright or flashing lights. The cause in 50% of migraine sufferers were foods and ingredients. A few examples of the foods and ingredients that can trigger a migraine are aspartame, caffeine, or withdrawal from caffeine, alcohol, chocolate, aged cheeses, monosodium glutamate, numerous fruits and nuts, fermented or pickled goods, yeast, and cured or processed meats.

The four phases of a migraine, which all can be apparent during an episode, are:

1. Premonitory symptoms occurring up to 24 hours before developing a migraine. These symptoms can include food cravings, incomprehensible changes in moods, unmanageable yawning, fluid retention, and escalated urination.

2. Auras occur in some people causing them to immediately before and during the migraine see flashing or bright lights. Other people may experience muscle weakness or a feeling of being touched or grabbed.

3. Headaches can start and gradually build in severity, ultimately becoming a migraine. However, it is possible to suffer a migraine without a headache.

4. Postdrome can occur after a migraine, which is when someone feels exhausted or confused. This phase can potentially last up to 24 hours before the individual feels healthy again.

Besides the two main types of migraines, I will provide details on; there are eight others forms people may experience. I will share only the names of the additional types in this post but will do another post with the details in the next few days. The eight other types of migraines include Abdominal migraine, Basilar-type migraine, Hemiplegic migraine, menstrual-related migraine, Migraine without headache, Ophthalmologic migraine, Retinal migraine, and Status Migrainosus migraine. The following are the details regarding the two main migraine types.

1. Migraine with aura, also known as a classic migraine. Symptoms can show about 10-60 minutes before the headache begins and last no more than an hour. The symptoms may include visual disturbances, difficulty speaking, numbness, or muscle weakness on one side of the body, a sensation of tingling in the bands or face, nausea, loss of appetite, heightened sensitivity to light, sound, and smell.

2. Migraine without aura also knows as a common migraine. The symptoms with this type include headache pain that happens without warning and typically felt on one side of the head, nausea, confusion, fatigue, blurred vision, altered moods, and an intense sensitivity to light, sound, or noise.

The most common type of headache is a tension headache, which was previously known as a muscle-contraction headache. This type of headache suggests the role of stress and mental or emotional pain triggers pain and contracting muscles in the neck, face, scalp, and jaw, missed meals, depression, anxiety, not enough sleep, or sleep apnea.

The pain that accompanies tension headache can range anywhere from mild to moderate and anything in between. Typically this feels like constant pressure is being forced onto the front of the face or to the head or neck. It can also feel like something is being tightened around the head and is felt on both sides of the head. Those that suffer from tension headaches may become very sensitive to light and sound, but do not go through the pre-headache aura that comes along with migraines. Tension headaches will begin to fade once the period of stress or other related causes ends.

Tension headache tends to begin during adolescence and reach the utmost activity in the 30’s. These headaches do affect women somewhat more than men.

Tension headache has two different forms:

1.Episodic tension headaches happen between 10 and 15 days each month and can last anywhere between 30 minutes to several days. Even though the pain is not disabling, the intensity of pain tends to increase with the regularity of the episodes.

2.Chronic tension headaches often happens more than 15 days monthly over 3 months. The pain involved with this form of headache is consistent over days or even months, it is felt on both sides of the head and can become extreme and disabling.

Both depression and anxiety can be the source of tension headaches. These can occur in the early morning or evenings when conflicts at home or work are expected. The various other causes include posture that strains the head or neck muscles, degenerative arthritis in the neck, and temporomandibular joint dysfunction.

Cluster headaches are the most extreme form of primary headaches. This form of headache involves unforeseen, exceedingly painful headaches occurring in clusters. They typically occur at the same time of day and night for several weeks at a time. Cluster headaches affect one side of the head, frequently behind or around one eye, and may lead up to migraine-like aura and nausea. The pain involved peaks 5-10 minutes following the onset and persists at the same intensity up to 3 hours. Some will endure restlessness and agitation, changes in heart rate and blood pressure, and increased sensitivity to light, sound, or smell.

Cluster headaches can start at any age but typically begin between 20 and 50 years old. This form of headache commonly affects that smoke more than those that do not smoke and is seen more frequently in men than women. Cluster headache episodes do not last as long as migraines. Ordinarily, people will have 1-3 cluster headaches a day, with 2 cluster periods yearly, possibly separated by months free from any symptoms. Cluster periods are commonly inaccurately thought to be allergies because they do occur seasonally, normally in the spring or fall. It has been suggested that inconsistencies in the body’s sleep-wake cycle could be a cause of cluster headaches.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am sorry this post was so incredibly long, but there is a lot of important information that needs to be shared. In my next few posts I will explain the miscellaneous primary headache forms, secondary headache disorders, treatments and diagnostics. I do hope the information in this post was helpful and offered some sort of comfort. Personally, I deal with migraines and tension headaches far too much and understand many others do as well. I want to encourage your comments because I know they will be amazing and even help others, including myself! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Bright Side of Negative Feelings

We have all heard that there is power in positive thinking, which I have always believed to be true. Even though we need to try finding the positive aspects of most situations we encounter in life, sometimes is still can be nearly impossible to not recognize and acknowledge our negative feelings. Do you think it is possible to maintain a positive mindset most of the time, but that it also isn’t healthy to ignore our negative feelings?

In this post I am going to share with you some critical reasons why we should not ignore our negative feelings when they appear, but instead embrace them.

1. Negative feelings can be viewed as a powerful warning method-

What does our fear do for us? Fear warns us of imminent danger and urges us to take action. Our negative feelings basically do the same and are acting as an alarm that signals possible harm in some form. This hard could be physical, emotional, or mental depending on what is going on in life.

We all pay attention when we feel fear, so why shouldn’t we embrace negative feelings? We should ask ourselves the question, why we are experiencing these negative emotions? Is there something we should be avoiding? Does this mean we should be taking another path in life?

2. Negative feelings are trying to tell us that something is NOT right-

I have just explained how our negative feelings notify us of possible danger, but they also can be warning that something in our life isn’t right. Maybe it is something in our relationship, our career, or something with our health, or even something we continue to put off has issues that we need to address. Often we should not view our negative feelings as merely a nuisance, but more as a good friend that has our best interests in mind.

3. Negative emotions can encourage us to take beneficial actions-

Unfortunately, we have all received bad news that caused us sadness. When this happens, what is the first thing we do? It is human nature to feel down and even feel sorry for ourselves. Instead of ignoring these negative feelings, it might be better to embrace them. Acknowledge the feelings we are experiencing and allow them to help us find a logical solution.

We should not deny or apologize for our negative emotions. Nor should we allow these negative emotions to paralyze us or overwhelm us. We are allowed to feel what we feel, whenever we feel what we feel and never dismiss those emotions. We are feeling how we feel for a reason and maybe we should explore them.

4. Negative feelings allow us to welcome and appreciate the good life has to offer-

How would you feel if everything in life went the same and was predictable? If every moment of our life was always happy and content, there would not be any negative feelings that would make the positive feelings more appreciated when they occur. All of us need to understand that no matter how much pain and distress we may deal with, life will also provide us with happiness and comfort.

5. Negative feelings provide us confirmation of what is important-

A well-founded signal you have come into your core values is when you have negative feelings. Maybe you violated one of your values or you failed to follow through with a promise and you are feeling guilty for this. Negative feelings are commonly a crucial assertion that we are honoring our beliefs, values, and views.

6. Negative feelings invite us to contemplate-

Allowing ourselves to have negative feelings allows us the opportunity to think deeply about things we did not give adequate time to previously. It is possible, we need to consider our health practices or spending habits or maybe something we have continued putting off for a long period, but are all things that need to be dealt with. Embracing and acknowledging our negative feelings may not be easy, but they are needed for our mental, physical, and emotional health.

7. Negative feelings can help protect us when we feel overburden-

Many of us tend to overdo things and push ourselves beyond the limits we are aware of. When we do over extend ourselves, we will hopefully begin feeling negative feelings such as frustration and irritability. These feelings are our body’s way to telling us to start facing ourselves and start limiting the amount of additional commitments we take on. We must listen to our inner voice and pay attention to the warnings our negative feelings are trying to notify us of.

8. Negative feelings offer healing-

We do not need to have thick skin or be referred to as overly sensitive; we just need to take time to heal when someone else causes us pain. If another person does or says something hurtful, it is very common to have negative feelings regarding the situation. Denying our feelings, no matter how negative they maybe will not speed up our healing process. This means it might be beneficial to use those negative feelings to promote our healing and take the time needed to do so without rushing ourselves.

9. Negative feelings will not allow a denial of reality-

It is important we know and understand that denying our feelings will not be a successful way to get over our negative feelings. Pretending something doesn’t bother us will never make that lie be the truth and could end up causing more issues and pain for the future. When something or someone causes us pain, it is perfectly fine to grieve the loss and disappointment. The only true way to get over disappointment and or hurt is the face the problem, mend the wounds, and move on with the life you deserve.

I hope the information in this post was beneficial for you, especially if you are going through a difficult time. It is never easy to face what has caused us pain, but we will be better off in the long run if we do so. I am sure there are several other ways that would be helpful and would love to read any comments you may have. The entire world is dealing with hard times right now and we all need to help and support one another. Until times get a little easier being kind, compassionate, and empathetic to what others are dealing is extremely important. I also wanted to say, please do not take this post as a negative, but to just say it is okay to have negative feelings because we are only human!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I hope you had a lovely week and you will enjoy a safe and happy weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday!

new-monday-new-week-motivational-gym-quotesHappy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely weekend and you are ready for a new week. Chances are where you live is still under a stay at home order and you might still be working from home. Now, if you are not under any specific orders, please still stay as safe as you possibly can. Never forget that your life and your health matter! Once again, I did not really leave my house this past weekend. The only time I went out was to pick up a prescription, never-apologize-for-leaving-a-situation-to-make-yourself-happier-41713607which was unfortunately at the grocery store that did not have a drive-up. I did wear a mask and gloves, which there was only 4 others doing the same, but at least I was safe and did not bring anything unsafe home to my family.

I know I have been blogging more over the past few weeks, but did not do anything over the weekend. For some reason, I was feeling very fatigued and experienced a lot of pain and did not have the energy. It was hard enough going out to pick up my prescription and I only want to put a post out when it is worth reading. I have already done posts about two awareness’s, but there are still two more I will be completing before the end of the month, one is Stress Awareness and the other is Alcohol Awareness, both are 8274afad9090d94261f9b919d5abb143--inner-strength-laoimportant topics to discuss!

I do want to share a quote with y’all that I found to be great and motivating, but I do hope you will find it to be a good motivator! I do hope you have a good start to the new week and you are feeling well. 

There is no telling how images (2)much longer this pandemic will be continue to be a challenge for us, but please always do your best to stay safe! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤8

April is Child Abuse Awareness Month

childabuse-prevention-monthApril is child abuse awareness month and it is extremely important to spread this message to as many people as possible. Child abuse is when a parent or caregiver either by action or lack of action causes injury to a child. This is an awful and widespread situation causing inexcusable physical and emotional pain to innocent children. Sadly, each year there are more than three million cases of either physical, emotional, sexual, or neglect in the United States. The following information will describe each type of abuse and the signs to each.

Physical abuse is when a parent or caregiver inflicts non-accidental physical injuries to aunnamed (2) child. Approximately, 28.3% of adults have disclosed being physically abused as a child. Physical abuse can involve striking, kicking, burning, choking, throwing, shoving, and any other activity that can injure a child. Unfortunately, the outcomes of physical abuse can be any of the following:

  • Internal injuries that can result in brain damage
  • Broken bones, sprains, and dislocated joints
  • Emotional and psychological harm

images (8)The majority of people abusing a child do not realize some of their actions and mannerisms show there has been abuse in the home. The following are signs of abuse the parent or caregiver can display:

  • Unable to explain a child’s injury or attempt explaining the injury, but it doesn’t make any sense
  • Exhibits aggression towards a child or becomes extremely anxious about a child’s behavior
  • Tries saying the child isn’t trustworthy and lies
  • Hinders or prevents the medical care of a child

There are many signs of physical abuse a child may without knowing is showing. It is important to be aware and pay close attention to the following possible signs:

  • Visible and severe injuries
  • Injuries are at different stages of healing
  • Child is not able to explain injuries in a way that is clear and makes sense
  • Frequency of timing and history of injuriesimages (6)
  • Bruises have distinctive shapes

When a child is being abused it is very common for the child to have some behavioral changes. Most often the child does not understand what and why this is happening to them and can become angry causing them to behave in uncommon ways, which can include any of the following issues:

  • Aggression towards peers, pets, or other animals
  • Displays the fear of parents or other adults
  • Wears long sleeve shirts, no matter the season
  • Develops feelings of fear, depression, and anxiety
  • Experiences nightmares and or insomnia
  • Self-destructive behaviors or attitudes
  • Acting immaturely, emotional and extreme behaviors

images (7)A child is being sexually abused when an adult has sexual intentions or the child or involves the child in sexual acts.  Sexual abuse can also be when an older or stronger child uses a younger or less strong child for excitement or sexual gratification. About 20.7% of adults have reported they were sexually abused when they were a child.

Before we go too deep into sexual abuse, I want to forewarn you this part was extremely difficult to write, so it may also be troubling to read. I am fairly sure, especially with the present company, I am not the only one that finds sexual abuse both degrading and appalling. If only this topic wasn’t grotesque enough, it gets much worse because of all the different types of sexual abuse, which includes the following:

  1. Non-contact abuse– happens when a child is abused without being touched, This downloadcan occur both in-person and online, which includes
  • Exposing or flashing
  • Showing child pornographic videos
  • Improper sexual talking
  • Pressure child to make, view or share child abuse images or videos
  • Force the child to masturbate
  • Threaten and coercions child to take part in sexual activities via phone or online
  1. Contact Abuse is when the abuser makes physical contact with the child victim and can include:

POSSIBLE+PHYSICAL+SIGNS+OF+SEXUAL+ABUSE– Sexual touching to any part of the child’s body, with or without clothing

– Uses part of a child’s body or another object to rape or penetrate a child

– Child pressured and forced to take part in sexual acts

– Forcing a child to undress and or touch someone else

Parents and caregivers typically have no idea how their behavior can display signs of sexual abuse. By being aware and paying attention, signs you might be able to view are the following:images (2)

  • Parent or caregiver neglects to look after a child
  • Unstable adult presence
  • Parent is jealous and possessive
  • Sexual relationships are problematic, unhealthy and dysfunctional
  • Parent depends heavily on a child for emotional support

When a child is or has been sexually abused there are many signs that should be noted. Again, the signs I am listing are unspeakably odious, but they do include the following:

  • Struggles sitting, walking and with bowel problems
  • Torn, stained, bloody undergarments
  • Bleeding, bruising, painful, swollen, itchiness of the genital area
  • Reoccurring urinary tract infections or yeast infections

sexual-abuse-749x1024Sexual abuse is an awful situation for anyone to go through, but children are innocent and do not understand what is happening. The child was likely told by the abuser not to tell anyone because no one would believe them and even threaten them to not say anything.  A child might be scared and angry making behavioral changes to be relatively common. Below are some behavioral changes that may be noticed:

  • Child does not want to changes clothes, especially during gym class
  • Withdrawn, depressed and anxiousness
  • Aggressive, poor relationships with peers
  • Negative self-image
  • Lacks confidence and self-care
  • Performance in school declines
  • Substance abuse, recklessness, suicide attempts
  • Sleep disturbances, such as nightmares, fear bedtime and bedwetting
  • Acting out sexually at a young ageimages (5)

Child abuse can leave behind more than bruises from physical abuse and or the inexcusable effects of sexual abuse. Emotional abuse can cause many other scars not visible to the naked eye. Emotional abuse is commonly called psychological abuse because it involves persistent emotional mistreatment of a child causing irreparable damage over time. Approximately 10.6% of adults reported they were emotionally abused as a child.

Emotional abuse is not always easy to detect because it is normally part of other forms of abuse. The issues that are involved with emotional abuse may include:

*Rejecting or ignoring- examples include showing lack of interest in a child, no initiating child-abuse-physical-emotional-sexual-9-638or returning the affection

*Shaming or humiliating- Example include name-calling, mocking, belittling

*Terrorizing- Examples include blaming, accusing, threatening, manipulating, screaming or yelling at the child

*Corrupting- Examples include encouraging bad behavior, pressuring a child into a criminal act

Whether the emotional abuse is being imposed on a child by a parent or caregiver, there are helpful signs to be aware of. I am not including all the signs because there is already a lot for you to read. Below are the signs a parent or caregiver may show:images (10)

  • Plays favorites between siblings
  • Atrocious anger management or emotional self-regulation
  • Terrible relationships with other adults
  • History of violence or abuse
  • Untreated mental illness, alcoholism or substance abuse

When a child is being emotionally abused they could display physical and behavioral images (9)signs. The physical signs may include the following:

  • Developmental delays
  • Speech disorder
  • Health issues such as ulcers and skin disorder
  • Weight problems

Examples of a child’s behavior change are as followed:

  • Learning disabilities and developmental delays
  • Excessively complaint or defensive
  • Intense emotions, aggression, anxieties
  • Destructive or anti-social behaviors
  • Inappropriate behavior (either too childlike or too adult-like)

Child neglect is a form of abuse where the parent or caregiver does not offer the care, supervision, affection, or care necessary for a child’s health, safety, and well-being. This can include physical, emotional, medical, and educational neglect. Child neglect signs are as follows:

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  • Continuing to leave a child in another’s care for hours, days, weeks at a time
  • Not providing food and drink, or clothing appropriate to the weather
  • Failing to supervise child for valid safety concerns
  • Allowing a child to be around an inappropriate caregiver
  • Exposing a child to an unsafe or unsanitary environment

Although some states that will not prosecute parents because of religious reasons, the parent can still receive a court order to protect a child’s life. Parents and caregivers are 2ee34a5f1acb222e256a76f8f088f420required to get a child-appropriate medical treatment for injuries and illness. Basic preventative care to ensure children remains safe and healthy is necessary.

Examples of medical negligence include, but not limited to the following:

  • Not taking a child to the hospital or medical professional for serious illness or injury
  • Withholding child from getting treatment
  • Failing to provide preventative medical and dental care for a child
  • Refusing to follow medical recommendations for child

Unfortunately, only one instance of neglect can cause lifelong distress to a child. Neglect tends to require a pattern of behavior over some time. Some signs suggesting a parent or caregiver needs assistance with nurturing and how to protect a child while they are in your care, which includes:unnamed (3)

  • Shows indifference or lack of concern for a child
  • Depression, drug and alcohol abuse or a mental health issue
  • Perceives child negativity
  • Expects a child to take care of themselves

 A child being neglected may show any of the following signs:

  • Clothing does not fit, clothes are dirt and not weather appropriate
  • Often hungry seeks out where the food is, shows signs of malnutrition
  • Low body weight
  • Often overtired and falling asleep during the school day
  • Hygiene problems
  • Untreated medical and dental issues and or incomplete immunizations
  • Frequent changes to schools and or physician

General_Facebook_f1Any form of abuse leaves traumatic memories that can’t be erased. The scars left behind may be a visible daily reminder and the deep-rooted emotional effects throughout life can and do damage a child’s sense of self-esteem. Current and future relationships can be impacted and the ability to function at home and school can be challenging. Effects from child abuse may include the following:

  1. An inability to trust and relationships can be a struggle. The ones a child should be able to trust, a parent or caregiver, so if it is one of these people abusing the child, it is understandable why the child will find trusting almost impossible.
  2. Deep feelings of worthlessness. When a child hears repeatedly negative words used to describe who they are, it becomes extremely difficult to overcome. As abused children grow up, they may neglect their education and settle for jobs with low pay because it is all they feel they are worth. Sexually abused children feel shame images (4)surrounding the abuse and battle with feelings of being damaged, which may allow people in their lives that have bad habits and intentions.
  3. Struggle with balancing emotions. Abused children do not feel safe expressing their emotions. This can result in burying emotions deep down so the emotions can be ignored. Adults that were abused struggle with anxiety, depression, and anger they can’t explain. Often adults that were abused will lean on alcohol and drugs to numb the painful memories.

If a child feels comfortable enough with you to explain what they have experienced, pay very close attention to the child and be compassionate. Of course, it will never be easy to hear about a child being abused, so there are some crucial things to remember and 7686078_0follow:

  1. Avoid reactions of denial and remain calm. If a child senses shock or disgust at what they are telling you, the child will become fearful to continue their story and shut down completely.
  2. Do not interrogate. It is very important to allow the child to explain what they experienced in their own words. If you ask the child leading questions they may get confused and flustered making it difficult to finish their story. The child has shown already they trust you, so trust them to continue.
  3. Reassure the child they did nothing wrong. Explain to the child it took a lot of courage to be willing to share their story with you. It may help the child if you thank them for trusting you and that you are there to help them.
  4. Safety needs to come first. If you feel you or the child is in danger, especially if you child-abuse-survivorsintervene further, leave any more intervention to the professionals.

First, I want to thank you for visiting my site today. Second, I know this information can be very disturbing, I mean it took me several days to complete allowing myself breaks from this painful topic. I think it is important to be aware of what can happen to children and also have ways to offer children comfort. I would love to read any fposter,small,wall_texture,product,750x1000.u2comments you have about the information I have provided.

I hope you are having a good week so far and staying safe! I know someday the new cases of coronavirus will level out and the fatalities will end. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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2,000 + Followers

unnamedJuly 17, 2017. This was a very special day and a day that will never be forgotten because it is the day I took a leap of faith into the blogging community and created my first post ever! Year to date, I have shared 622 posts. When I look back over my almost three years of blogging and like many others that are entering the blogging community for the first time felt slightly overwhelmed. I knew very little about creating and maintaining websites, what to write about and what people wanted to read, connecting and building friendships with those I may never meet face-to-face, deciding on a site name, and so much more. The amazing part of this is, there isn’t a right or download (1)wrong way to create a blog and it is all about what you want out of it!

There are so many reasons people want to attempt blogging. Let’s face it putting yourself and your thoughts on any given topic can cause you to feel a little vulnerable because you have no way to know the reactions of another person reading and can only hope what you wrote will sit well. Trusting yourself and believing in your abilities isn’t easy, but this is the perfect way to learn how.

download (2)I went through an extremely deep sea of emotions when I was contemplating whether or not to start my blog. I guess it was a little terrifying because anything I write could be read and then criticized. All I could think of was everyone reading would think what I wrote was awful and if I wrote about Multiple Sclerosis I might be viewed as weak.

Any negative thoughts I had were quickly seen as incorrect. Everyone in this great community is non-judgmental and encouraging. I have never experienced a time when someone had anything negative or rude to say, which is another reason I love what I am doing.

My reasons for wanting to join the blogging community has always been the same and downloadnever wavered. I wanted to be able to raise awareness about Multiple Sclerosis, but also wanted to encourage people to never surrender to any obstacle they faced

I will be the first to say that life can be very challenging. It is easy to want to give up anything things became unbearable. It takes a strong-willed person to go through painful situations one after another, but always picking themselves back up, dust away the pain and then try again.

I am thankful for the fellow blogger who introduced me to WordPress, Catie Beth, who I worked with at a previous job. She has a brilliant blog about fashion, including makeup and hair products and fabulous shopping tips. Catie Beth is an incredibly kind person images (2)and I know you would enjoy her site https://xocatiebeth.com/, once you view it.

I have always loved writing and love the fact I can write about anything I choose on my blog. This has given me the opportunities to building my abilities and knowledge as a writer. I have also introduced me to some of the most compassionate and kind hearted people.

It brings me so much joy to be able to help others when they are going through difficult times in life. It doesn’t need to be an unpredictable illness to make someone’s life complicated because anyone can experience hardships. I has been one of my goals to spread as much positivity as I can and to as many as I can in what can be a very negative world. It is easy to get caught up in the currents of negativity, almost to the point you feel like you are drowning. By doing uplifting quotes three times a week, I hope to be able to provide a life preserve of hope!Spread-The-LOVE-this

When is started my blog almost three years ago, I always had the never-ending support of my husband, mother, and mother in-law. In the beginning my site was mostly about Multiple Sclerosis and what life is like with this illness. Now, I have been able to build my blog into more than solely Multiple Sclerosis. I must admit it is nice to write about things other than the illness I deal with every day of my life. We all deserve a break from our reality at times.

downloadI recently surpassed 2,000 followers around the world and I am very thankful for each and every one of you. It is mind blowing how many friends I have found and look forward to many years of sharing posts and reading yours.

I hope you are doing well today and your week has started off well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Coronavirus Pandemic

timelineMany people have been on guard regarding the coronavirus for several weeks now and with good reason. The coronavirus outbreak started in December 2019 in Wuhan, Hubei Providence, China. As of now, 127,000 have been infected and 4,300 have died worldwide. It has been said the people at higher risk are those that are elderly or have an underlying condition.

A study of more than 55,000 people in China showed the highest mortality rate was in individuals over the age of 80. Among all countries, Italy has had the largest numbers in this outbreak, with 12,000 infects and 800 deaths.cases

The known symptoms for coronavirus include fever, cough, sore throat, runny nose, sneezing, and shortness of breath and difficulty breathing and even in severe cases death. Like most, if not all sicknesses, this spreads through the air from coughing and sneezing, also from close contact, as in touching and shaking hands with someone who has been infected.

CHS-432 Coronavirus Prevention Graphic (Half Page) V2:Layout 1.qEven those there isn’t a vaccine or treatment from the coronavirus, there are ways we can protect ourselves. The preventative measures that can be taken include wash hands frequently, avoid touching eyes, nose, and mouth with unwashed hands, clean and disinfect surfaces and objects, stay hydrated, aim to get 8 hours of sleep each night, maintain a well-balanced diet, avoid contact with those that are sick, and stay home if you are sick.

Most people that have been infected will recover on their own and considering there aren’t any treatments now, this is their only option. There are actions that can be taken to relieve symptoms including over the counter fever and pain reducers, room _111078922_cough_etiquette2_6403x-nchumidifier or hot shower, stay hydrated, and get plenty of sleep.

On Wednesday, March 11th, the White House announced non-US citizens will not be allowed to travel from Europe for 30 days. Trump says the travel restrictions are meant to prevent new cases from entering the states and will continue to be adjusted as needed.

Of course, Trump has taken to his favorite form of communication, Twitter. He has gone from tweeting that the restrictions would only apply to foreign nationals who traveled to one of 26 European countries in the past 14 days. In another tweet, Trump stated that Americans would be exempt from the restrictions and would be directed to limited airports to be tested. Again, in another tweet, Trump stated traveler and trade and cargo. He then quickly corrected himself on Twitter by saying the restrictions would only apply to people from travel, not goods coming into the country.

difference-between-epidemic-and-pandemic-2615168-01-c829c2e4591f47f9a3e5cd39687be4a7On Wednesday, March 11th, the World Health Organization declared the coronavirus outbreak is spreading globally at a rapid rate and it is now considered a pandemic. To clarify the difference between an epidemic and pandemic, an epidemic is a rapid spread of an infectious disease to a large number of people for a short period of time. A pandemic is a disease epidemic that has spread to a large region, such as multiple continents or worldwide.

On Wednesday, the first person on Capitol Hill, a Washington Senator Maria Cantwell tested positive for coronavirus. Trump went on for days after the first case, saying the GettyImages-170441490virus was not bad, is under control and numbers would decrease in the states. He tried to spread his lie that this virus was nothing more than a Democratic hoax. Even as people continued to die and reports of positive cases increased, he continued to tell his version of the truth, which was a lie.

On Wednesday evening Trump announced his plan to be aggressive to combat the virus by taking the following precautions.

  • Ban on some travel from Europe for 30 days, but this doesn’t include the UK. He does prefer to protect locations where he has golf courses.
  • Commitment to waive co-pays and extend insurance for coronavirus treatment.
  • Small Business Administration to extend low-interest loans to affected companies.
  • Treasury Departments defer tax payments without interest or penalties for impacted businesses and individuals.
  • Call on Congress to provide payroll tax relief.

originIt isn’t easy to not worry about such an awful pandemic, but we all need to keep in mind how important it is for good hygiene, especially if we are out in large crowds. I think my thoughts for the president are obvious. I do feel confident that most of what comes out of his mouth is a lie and all the lies can be proven. You can see the past times he has spoken about coronavirus, he wanted to convince others this was not something to worry about and it is sad that some probably believed him because they believe every one of his lies. Now a person that is in Capitol Hill has it and maybe she images (2)infected others. I am sorry if I offended anyone reading this that thinks Trump is a good and honest president, I mean no harm to any of you. Honestly though facts are facts and most are pretty obvious!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope this information was helpful for you and you are taking good care of yourself! I am looking forward to reading your thoughts on this information. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

What is an exacerbation?

downloadWhat is an exacerbation?

An exacerbation of Multiple Sclerosis can also be referred to as an attack, a relapse or an episode. All the terms all mean the same thing which is the occurrence of new symptoms or worsening of an old symptom. These range from mild to severe enough to interfere with a person’s ability to function in daily life. The exacerbation will follow the following criteria:

  • Previous symptoms become more severe or new symptoms have started to show.
  • Symptoms last longer than 24 hours, commonly lasting days or weeks.
  • A total of 30 days has passed since the start of the previous relapse.
  • Healthcare provider has ruled out all other possible causes for an exacerbation, including infection, heat, and stress.

It is critical to know when this is happening because early treatment can help reduce the4061413_0 impact on the person’s body. It must be known that no two exacerbations are alike and can change slightly.

The reason an exacerbation occurs is due to the immune system attack on the myelin sheath, which then causes slow or interrupted neuronal signals in the brain and spinal cord. An exacerbation can consist of balance problems, coordination, eyesight, bladder function, memory or concentration problems, mobility, fatigue, weakness, numbness or needle-link sensation.

Mild symptoms such as fatigue, numbness, and needle-link sensation could potentially improve on their own and not require treatment. More intense issues could be considered a severe exacerbation which could include vision loss, extreme weakness, and poor balance. During a severe exacerbation, a person’s daily activities could be a8da7fee83bb302fc12586a3f9ceba87affected and a short course of high-dose corticosteroids may be recommended by the specialist.

The high-dose of steroids helps reduce the severity and duration of the exacerbation. Even though steroids work well with the exacerbation, they can also have some rather unpleasant side effects including increased appetite, weight gain, fluid retention, high blood pressure, irritability, confusion or delirium, increased risk for infection, and easy bruising.

Symptoms for each person with Multiple Sclerosis are different. Being aware of common triggers for an exacerbation is vital for each person to know and even though symptoms can occur without any notice it is important to try avoiding certain things the best one possibly can.

4 Common Triggers for an Exacerbation:

  • Stress- Part of living with an illness like MS is emotional stress which can lead to other common MS symptoms such as depression. Stress does have the potential to lead to additional MS symptoms such as fatigue and confusion. It is a crucial part of MS treatment to have a good and solid support network of people that can help out both physically and emotionally.5b5818d351fd852135d701917fb6483c
  • Fatigue- Sleep is essential for those with Multiple Sclerosis. Small issues like lack of sleep can trigger MS symptoms. It is very important to have good healthy eating habits, sleep well, and getting exercise daily which will help combat MS fatigue.
  • Infection- Infections cause about one-third of all exacerbation. Urinary tract infections are very common because some people with MS have reduced bladder function. Any infection can weaken the immune system; even the simple ones like a cold or the flu and cause an exacerbation. It is extremely important to avoid being around sick people, but when it is unavoidable be sure to wash hands frequently.
  • Heat- Infections leading to fever can be something to worry about considering increased body temperature is a very common trigger. MS symptoms, especially tingling gets worse in the summer because of the heat. It is predominant to get into the air conditioning or take a cool shower to reduce heat symptoms from occurring.

multiple-sclerosis-awareness-month-tshirt-ms-orange-ribbon-noirty-designsThank y’all for visiting my site and reading about what an exacerbation is. Speaking from personal experience an exacerbation can be awful and also frustrating. Even though I do know that steroids help the episode duration be shorter, they cause my mood to change so much that I have a hard time with them. They cause my temper to come out much faster than it normally would and also cause me to feel edgy and unable to sleep.27b889827d7b041c766fd1b5e7ba47fa

For any of you that have experienced an exacerbation and were put on steroids, how did the steroids make you feel and did they help the episode not last too long? Also, if you have anything you would like to add to this, please let me know. I always want to spread the awareness as much as I can because I think it is important. Even in 2020 I do still think there are a lot of misconceptions about MS and people are very quick to judge, which can cause feelings to be hurt. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

MS & Temperatures are difficult!

imagesIt is a nasty, rainy 🌧 and chilly day out today and I have no plans at all to leave the house! This kind of weather makes me feel pretty awful and honestly hurts too much to walk around. It is rather frustrating, but I guess we all deal with life’s obstacles the best we can. I do wish I could sent this rain to Australia where I know they are dealing with some struggles at the moment. 

Heat and high humidity can make Multiple Sclerosis symptoms worsen, even though it is only temporary, it feels like an eternity. Doctors believe that this is due to heat causing nerves, whose myelin cover was already destroyed by MS, toacupuncture-for-multiple-sclerosis-755x429 conduct electrical signals far less efficiently. Doctors have told me for years that hot baths and hot showers are terrible for me, but there are times this is the only thing that relieves some of my pain. Even though a hot bath is only a short-term relief, it is at least a half hour of comfort!

Crazy thing is, I have been told more times than I could count that cold temperature are actually good for me, but is this the truth? I do not think so! Extreme cold temperatures and season how-cold-affects-symptoms-of-multiple-sclerosis-2440834-6eb83234820b49a991e4f07ab6f872a1changes can also worsen MS symptoms. If I understand all of this correctly, hot temperatures can causes MS issues and so can the cold, so I am not sure where that really leaves us.

What to do to ease MS Symptoms:

  1. Avoid ALL extreme temperatures
  2. Avoid exercising on hot and humid days
  3. Utilize the beauty of the air conditioners and cooling vests. Home a/c’s may actually be tax deductible for some people with MS. I think it is definitely worth a chat with doctors! The link I shared regarding cooling vests is just one option, the MS Society has more and you might be able to get it for free!

Even though climate can worsen MS symptoms, climate changes do not create any additional nerve damage.

5 Tips for staying warm during the winter months:

  1. Try to get moving! Of course there are times when living with MS it isn’t as easy to move around the way you would like. However, on day it is easier to get up and moving, attempt to get some moderate physical activity in. This will actually help cold-feet-and-multiple-sclerosis-2440826_v2-1a595343ecfd4dbdaee165a88eab7c40you burn energy and moving around can keep you warm.
  2. Dress in layer. It is rather easy to remove clothing if you get too hot, so dressing in layers might help. When you know ahead of time it is going to be extremely cold, it will be wise to wear a hat, thick socksand or lined boots. Wearing a hat and thick socks will keep the heat from escaping through the head and feet.
  3. Keep your hands and feet warm. Doctors think that MS can cause the blood vessels in the hands and feet to overreact to cold temperatures. Those with MS may also be at risk for Raynaud’s phenomenon, which is a condition where your fingers and toes lose heat.Raynaud’s Phenomenon can not only cause the color of hands and feet to be white to blue, but also cause numbness, pain and or the feeling of pins and needles. In effort to protect the hands and feet, you could use hand warmers and a heating pad. The warming vest I shared is just an option and I am sure there are many others out there!
  4. Warm your insides. A few easy ways to heat your insides is eating a hot meal, hot soups and hot drinks, such as coffee, teas and hot chocolate.
  5. Get some sunshine! Go outside and soak up the sun 🌅! Even on a chilly day the sun will still work to heat you up. By getting outside in the sun 🌅, you are also gaining some much needed natural Vitamin D.thumb_to-danc-terties-msnubutterflies-multiple-sclerosis-blog-page-47269722

Thank y’all for visiting my site today. I hope where you living is bright and sunny 🌅 with NO chance of rain 🌧! If you have the time I do look forward to reading your comments. I promise I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you are feeling well and your weekend has started off great! Please know I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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