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Tuesday Thoughts

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Happy Tuesday, y’all! I hope you have been doing well and your week started the best way possible. What have you been doing for the past few days? I woke up on Sunday with a nasty migraine, and nothing helped it, which was frustrating. I am not sure what triggered the migraine, but then again, I never know 100% what triggers them, or I would avoid them as much as possible. Even though I was battling with a migraine, I still applied for a few jobs, took my A&P quiz, and scored a 100! Logically, I should have avoided the computer, but when I do not keep my mind busy, I start down a dark path with my thoughts. Sometimes, I think I am my worst enemy because I overthink everything, spiral down a rabbit hole, and cannot find my way out.

It has been over a month since we lost our cat, Sundance♥, and it still does not feel real. Even though it is not often, anytime I leave the house and come back home, I expect to have him meet me at the door, as he always did. When I am downstairs, either doing my classwork or spending time with my husband while he is working (he does not have to work very hard-working nights😉), I expect to have him meet me at the door with a curious look on his face indicating he wants to know where I was. Although I know he is no longer here with us, it always hits me hard and makes me emotional♥. I keep wondering when the tears will stop, but I do not expect this to happen because I still get emotional when I think about Chloe, and she passed away four years ago.

Love♥ can be wonderful but causes too much pain. I love♥ our cats but cannot say I would get another if we did not already have two girls because I cannot go through the loss again as it is too painful. They bring us so much love, happiness, and laughter, but the pain when they are gone is terrible. I wish there were visiting hours in Heaven because it would be great to see loved ones lost and our loving cats, but this is not a possibility. There are many days I could use some great advice from my grandfather♥, who passed away in 2013 because he could always make the worst days better with a few words. I do not know if we see our loved ones again, but I do hold onto the hope it will happen because it will make all the struggles and pain in life easier to tolerate.

Unfortunately, the older I get, the more I realize the levels of selfishness are high, and I cannot understand this. What causes a person to be overly selfish and self-absorbed? Was it something they learned during childhood, or were they born that way? The only thing that helps me is knowing people come into our lives for a reason, and they do not have to remain a constant in our lives. We can choose who we keep in our lives, and when a person only brings negativity into our lives, we do not need to continue to communicate with the person. We have the power and control to decide who we allow in our lives, and anyone we keep should bring positivity or benefits. However, we should also try to bring positivity and benefits to other’s lives as well because we can make a difference! I have also learned that some friends come and go, but real friends are constant, no matter how many years pass.

What helps you through hard times in life? Do you journal your thoughts, or is there someone you can talk to about anything without fear of judgment? Do bottle your feelings up inside until you burst with emotions? Of course, there are positive ways to handle difficult times, and everyone is different, so whatever works for you is great! I think my way of handling challenging times by bottling my emotions up is not the best, but I prefer not to cause anyone else stress or worry. I talk to my cats about everything, but one of our cats does not handle my tears well. Sundance was the best listener and did not get overly upset if I cried. He was the BEST boy in the world!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I promise to try keeping up better with my posts and responding to comments, which I have failed miserably at lately. I hope you found some meaning in what I have shared today and that it resonates with how you feel or have felt. Even though we have only made it through one day of the week so far, I hope you are doing well and having a good week. As always, I look forward to your comments and will respond as quickly as possible! Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love♥, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Time To Move On

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When unplanned and unexpected things happen, it may throw our plans off balance. It may take more time to understand how we want to proceed and what changes we want to implement, and nothing is wrong with this. When making decisions involving our lives, this should not be something we rush or take lightly. There is no set-in-stone timeline for the big decisions, and any ideas that come to mind should be considered. It may include acknowledging the positive and negative aspects, the rewards and demands, and the likeliness of successes and failures. Any life-changing decision requires entering a new journey with an open and optimistic mind or you are setting yourself up for disappointments.

Although it was painful when I lost my job on November 13th, and I dealt with several disappointing job scams, this might have been a blessing in disguise. It took me over a month, but I decided to throw caution to the winds and embark on a slightly different pathway. I have enrolled in a medical coding program and purchased the books required. The class is a six-week program, which will begin on January 17th. The reason I said this is a slightly different path is because many years ago, I was going to start the nursing program, but I had a terrible MS flare-up, and it scared me to the point of changing my major. Even though it was many years ago, I took medical terminology and worked in the medical field for ten years, so I feel the basic information will return to me quickly. The funny thing is, I almost enrolled in this class sooner because the program was being offered in the middle of December, but my mind was still spiraling out of control with what I was going through.

While at this moment, I am excited and nervous about this new adventure in my life, I am thankful for the opportunity and support from my family. Since the day I lost my job, my husband has been my rock and held me up through tears and sadness. He has constantly been supportive, understanding, encouraging, and pushing me to take my time with my job search. The decision to go for the medical coding program was a group effort because, without the support from my husband, I might not be moving forward with the program. I told him I would continue looking for another job, but he told me I just needed to focus attention on the class and wait until I passed the test to get a job.

I have always known life is short, but the past several weeks solidified something important in my mind. A life without taking risks, we would never know what we could have accomplished. Anytime we settle for something in our life, we are not getting as much from life as we deserve and could have. If we are not getting as much from this short life, are we truly living our best life? Changes and taking risks may push us forward into something exciting and fulfilling. The bottom line is I thought my life would never be the same, and losing my job was leading me down a terrible and dark avenue, but I could not have been more wrong. Now, I find this was, in a sense, the best thing that could have happened to me because it pushed me to do something new that I had thought about many times before.

Looking back at the job I lost, I feel my placement there was not supposed to be a permanent place. The job provided what I needed temporarily and taught me more about trusting my instincts. Although the job did not provide me with what I was destined for, it did give me a handful of friends I will always treasure. You can learn a lot about a person’s character by seeing how they interact with you one-on-one via email, messaging, and phone calls and how they act in a group setting. Those who have your back when you are not around and, in the meetings, and those who would trash talk and stab you in the back to get ahead and make themselves look better.

I wasted too much precious time feeling sad, hurt, angry, and disappointed when I lost my job, and now I feel relieved and thankful. Honestly, I was not happy with the job. We should always strive for improvements and advancements in every aspect of life, and I felt none of this was possible. I cared deeply for my previous supervisor, and even though I disagreed with how things ended, I still think she is a lovely lady. Of course, it did take me over a month to feel this way, but I know the kind of person she is on a personal level. Not only did I care about her, but I also had a great deal of trust in her.

Throughout our lives, we may encounter challenging hurdles to overcome, and each of them will provide different experiences that lead to further strength and resilience. Anytime one door closes, even when the door is slammed and locked, another door will open and could lead you toward better days. Unplanned and drastic changes can cause you to fall into a rut, but this is when we must force ourselves to climb out and never give up hope. It is crucial in life to NEVER give up and surrender to hard times. Once we overcome those hard times, they will give us confidence and a powerful strength that will surpass any other challenges in life.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I know it has been a few days since I made a post, but with Christmas and not feeling well, I have not had the energy. For some reason, I started feeling bad on Christmas night. It started with a headache and neck ache, but then I had a sore throat as well. I am hoping it is just a cold and will be gone soon, but who knows? I think I can rule out COVID because I am rarely around people besides my husband, and he leaves the house less than I do. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love♥, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tuesday Thoughts

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Happy Tuesday! How is your week going so far? Christmas is getting close, but is everyone ready for this holiday? All I can say is that I am not ready, and yet I am ready for it to be over. I mentioned last week that I was having car trouble, and my car was towed to the car fixer place yesterday. I had known for over a month there was something not right about the car, but I was not entirely ready for the cost to fix it. When things got worse with it, I did expect the worst, so the news I got was better than what I expected. It is still a little high of a bill. I have already felt extremely stressed; this news made things a little more stressful. The good news is that the issue is repairable.

How do you handle stress? Is there anything that helps to relieve stress for you? Not too much can help me manage my stress, and music helps me release raw emotions. I am not a musician, but I am a music lover♥. I can feel the emotion felt as the writer wrote the song, and I relate to the emotion through my experiences. I am not saying my life is a written song, but sometimes it feels like it could have been. Life can be a struggle, but there are numerous ways to survive our struggles. There are so many songs that I will play on repeat because it helps me realize nothing can hold us back if we have enough strength and determination. When we feel like life is drowning us, we sometimes need a life preserver and be found in a song!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and it resonated with you. Unfortunately, it does not matter what time of year it is because hard times can still happen. I am thankful for the support system♥ I have because, without that, I am not sure where I would be right now. We all need a support system because life is difficult and painful. With all the stress I have been under recently, it has created issues with Multiple Sclerosis, but it could have been much worse. At this time, I am looking forward to the brighter and better days, and I know they will return. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love♥, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Surviving Disappointment

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Tuesday should be good news, which means we survived Monday. I am unsure how I survived it because it was a miserable day! I know I mentioned this over the weekend about my mother having been admitted to the hospital with pneumonia, and I was foolishly hoping this week was going to be better. Not to sound negative, but it has not started well. Allow me to explain! First, I had probably the worst call and surprise ever yesterday morning☹. Yes, sometimes I did not like my job and would complain. I even enjoyed a few of the people I worked with and did the best I could. About 45 minutes into my workday yesterday, the call that came through was from my supervisor and the HR representative, letting me know they were letting me go. I will not get into their reasons, which I strongly disagree with, but I am not fighting this. There will be times in life when the only thing we can do is accept the loss and hope something better is waiting around the corner.

Another part of yesterday that was less than great was my mother should have been released from the hospital and was not. I think this issue was due to the negligence of the hospital staff. How are people so good at being ignorant? How can things go so incredibly wrong when people are in hospital? Please let me know if I am wrong, but should the staff not do what is best for the patient and ensure all required medications have been dispensed and called to an open pharmacy? This would be even more important when starting IVs is very difficult. When people become ill with something such as pneumonia, sleeping in their bed and being in the comfort of their home will help speed up recovery time. Who can get rest and recover while in a hospital with annoying noises constantly going off?

Between the bad news I received first thing in the morning yesterday and the continued stress and worry about my mother my week has not been good! Not only do I feel helpless because there is nothing I can do for my mother, but I am also feeling useless, incompetent, sad, disappointed, and hurt due to the job. I never mention names because I respect other’s privacy, but several people did not help my lack of self-confidence. One of the most painful issues we can experience is when someone you care about, and respect does not believe in you. I am unsure how to get over the pain caused this week, but I know it will take time, and I will bounce back better♥.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you have a wonderful day, and each day gets better. I apologize this was a slightly negative post, but it is because I am upset and hurt, so I need to write, or I will get too stressed. I guess now is as good of a time as any to home in on building my writing skills and updating my resume so that it stands out. Even though I feel defeated, I will not allow a job to define who I am or what I can do because I want to believe I am better than that. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. It should not take long to respond to all comments, considering I am unemployed☹. This break from work will not last long as I do not do well without a schedule and purpose. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love♥, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

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As for the four seasons or two seasons in the south where I live comes and goes naturally, but many other aspects of our lives rarely change. Why are some so fearful of changes and unwilling to evolve with the new times? Similarly, in the seasons where the brutal ones last too long and the enjoyable ones do not last long enough, the more ruthless times often persist much longer than pleasant times. If we allow it, the difficult times we may experience will consume us and become suffocating and nearly impossible to escape. What do you do when behind every door, barriers are trying to hold you back? When you decide, you will fight back and break through any barrier regardless of how strong they appear. Nothing can hold you back when you make this decision because of your fierce determination and resilience.

There once was a time when I wanted to be a news reporter, which did not happen. I never understood how this works out for some people and not for so many others. I would assume the reasons are that everything in life works out the way it is supposed to. Strangely, I am very thankful a career path as a reporter did not work out for me. The news seems like a vicious cycle of sadness, destruction, and too much loss. There have been many times when a new segment has brought me to tears, and there is rarely a time a reporter has even one tear in their eyes. I have wondered if news reporters undergo special training to leave emotions out of their reporting or if they were born unemotional.

Of course, many things are wrong with what we are seeing on the news daily. Most recently, there have been tragic events happening in the Middle East. It was not by choice but because my husband was watching a few different reports from the Middle East, which had me in tears. It is purely amazing what humans can overcome and survive. The terror and tragedies people are forced to endure daily should instill peace and hope in others, but instead, many people still find reasons to complain and feel sorry for themselves. Most people do not know what it means to struggle or live in fear. It breaks my heart to know how many lives have been lost in Israel and the surrounding regions and for what? Were these lives lost due to greed or selfishness?

Another issue the news constantly reports on is the scandalous and immature behavior of a former president who was indicted four times. Continuing to give someone under many investigations only normalizes negative behaviors. Regardless of my opinions or views on this person, the charges he is being accused of are mind-blowing because if any normal person faced a few of the charges would not just be in prison, they might be buried under the prison. High power and even respected people should set a good example and be role models for everyone else.

Why does it seem impossible for everyone, no matter where they live, to accept others and live in harmony? Why must people live in a constant state of war and hatred? We are living in an enormous world and should accept one another and live in this world in a state of peace. It should not matter who you are or where you are living, we should be able to get along and love each other. No single person should have more rights to a peaceful life than any other person. No one should be singled out and shunned because of their religious beliefs, who they love, or where they live. I believe this world is big enough for everyone to live in peace and comfort.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared, and I would love to read your comments. Any comments that are left will be respected and appreciated, and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope you have had a wonderful weekend, and you were able to do something enjoyable. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

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Good news, we survived another Monday! What would you say the most difficult day of the week is? Most would say Monday because the week has started, and we must figure out how to get through another long week. Yesterday might have been challenging, but we do not need to allow any challenges to get in our way. Many of us have already experienced many challenges, and we have found ways to overcome them. We might still have hard days, but we will never let anything stop us because we are unstoppable! Is there anything you are dreading this week? Try to think about why you are dreading something and consider ways you can handle this more easily. Planning and being prepared is one of the best ways to manage life!

One thing that is inevitable in life is difficult times. We cannot be prepared for all of them, but we can understand things will happen and not everything will be understood. No matter what you experience in this life, remember to breathe and know you can handle anything because of the strength you have in you. We often forget how strong we are because some issues in life make us feel weak. It is not easy to overcome and forget, but with everything we have gone through, we have built a power that nothing can take away from us. When our life starts getting easy, and nothing causes stress, we should wonder why because life is hard. I hope the quote I am sharing today provides you with peace and strength!

I am slowly adapting to the weather, and even though the temperatures are getting cooler, it takes time for me. Even though I have lived with Multiple Sclerosis for most of my life, I do not think I will ever understand why it takes me so long to adapt. It is great I am a patient person because it helps me survive life. I am so thankful we are now in my favorite season, and I plan to enjoy it as much as possible. No matter what season it is, one thing I will always recommend is to stay hydrated. Anytime we become dehydrated, it can cause many additional problems and is easy to avoid!

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post, and it offered you peace of mind. We have made it through one day of the week and only have four left, but at least we are closer to the weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. I hope you are having a good week so far, and it only gets better as the days pass! Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

End Of The Weekend Thoughts

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It does not matter how happy you are in life, if we do the same thing day after day, without any changes can become mundane and tiresome. The simplest things can make a huge difference and make us feel different about life and of the nonsense on the news. For the first time in three VERY long years, I am finally at my happy place, the beach. As I am writing this post, I am sitting on our balcony with the ocean breeze in my hair and the ocean waves right in front of me. This is the most relaxing and beautiful place that I have been to in years.

Where is a place where you feel the most at ease? When nothing that would typically trouble your mind, does not bother you at all. You can just feel at peace with everything in life, no matter how absurd things can become in our daily lives. Of course, my place has always been, and will always be, the beach. There is something about the sound of the ocean waves crashing down, the seagulls flying around in search of food, the laughter of children and adults alike, and the breeze that makes me so happy. The only thing missing here is our sweet and lovable cats, but I know they are being well cared for while we are away.

I do not know about you, but I have been beyond sick and tired of many of our politicians behaving worse than toddlers without manners. Name calling and immature insults are not doing anything good for anyone, and most definitely, not the country they represent. When was the last time you can remember that you were able to watch the news without hearing something about Donald Trump or the damn Bidens? Lord knows, I sure cannot. Obviously, for anyone that has read some of my other posts, I am surely NOT a supporter of Donald Trump, but when the news is constantly providing him a platform, we will never stop hearing about him. I have realized one thing about politics, it does not matter if they are Republican or Democrat, they are all corrupt in one way or another.

Are there not more important things going on in this world? Look at what Hawaii is going through right now, which is just one situation that needs attention. Why not think about the people that are going without food? These people are starving and may not know when they will have their next meal. Or what about the countless homeless people in the world? Why are we not focusing on things that matter instead of the nonsense with people who have forgotten how to be an adult? Why can people not focus their attention on things that matter, and figure out ways to help those in need? Instead of allowing our politicians to behave in less than responsible and respectful ways, why not call them out on what they SHOULD be doing?

Happiness is a choice and one we all MUST make. We should think about what brings us joy and not worry that someone else thinks what we choose for our life is inappropriate or unimportant. Why should anyone have the right to decide what is right for another person’s life when the way they are living their life might not be the best way? I am not saying we should be selfish and only think of ourselves, but we should be able to live in a way that makes us happy if they are not causing harm to others. All I am trying to say here is, who cares how another person lives THEIR life? Why are so many people consumed with degrading transgender people? I do not care if someone is gay, transgender, or anything else, if they are happy and not hurting another person!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am aware some of what I shared is controversial, and some people might disagree with me, but you have a right to your opinion, and so I do. We do not have to agree, but we should be respectful of each other’s opinion. Regardless of all the nonsense in the news, we do still live in a free country, do we not? I hope you are doing well, and you enjoyed your weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Homelessness In the United States

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Unfortunately, homelessness has been an enormous issue in the United States for many years. This issue is only progressively getting worse, and nothing is being done about it. It is ludicrous for this to be happening, considering the United States is the wealthiest developed country in the world. Why do the wealthy continuously get wealthier, and the middle and lower classes continue to try staying afloat? Well-known names such as Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Jeff Bezos have more money than they could spend in ten lifetimes and could afford to help those less fortunate and still be able to live their upscale and luxurious lifestyle.

Currently, 582,462 homeless individuals are trying to survive in the United States. The number of homeless Americans has increased by 2,000 since the last census conducted in 2020. Homelessness has remained a consistent and prevalent issue that affects every state in the United States. The states with the highest number of homeless individuals are California at 161,548, New York at 91,271, Florida at 27,487, and Texas with 27,229 homeless. The two states with the lowest number of homeless are North Dakota with 610, and Wyoming with 648 homeless.

As human beings, we are all imperfect, and we make many mistakes during our journey through life. Unfortunately, many people tend to pass judgment on others and situations they do not understand. Unless we are around someone whom we communicate with regularly and have a close relationship with, we do not know what random struggles they may be enduring. When someone is going through a challenging and painful time, the last thing they need is to be mistreated or chastised. Poor treatment may cause more harm than good, and no one wants to be responsible for another person’s distress.

Homelessness is a devastating circumstance, and those inflicted by this tragic hardship are heartbreaking. We may not understand why or whom someone became homeless or why they cannot make changes to overcome their struggles and get off the streets, but we can be sympathetic. We must understand anyone can fall victim to the homelessness trap as this negative situation does not discriminate and can invade anyone’s life.

Some people will see a homeless person and immediately assume the person is nothing more than an alcoholic or a drug addict and dismiss them. Everyone needs to look past immediate and ignorant assumptions and be kind, compassionate, empathetic, and understanding because even though addiction is a common cause of homelessness, there are other reasons. In the rest of this post, I am going to explain some reasons for homelessness, and even though we cannot fix the issues, there are some simple ways we can help those in need.

1. Although this is not the only reason people are homeless, it is the #1 reason, which is addiction. It has been reported 68% of United States cities say addiction is the single largest cause of their homeless population. Sadly, addiction can overpower logic for housing to be their priority in life.

2. Mental health illnesses are another massive issue creating problems in our society. The disgusting lack of treatment services for people suffering from mental health illness and or struggling with addiction are far too few and offer only hopelessness and despair.

3. We are more than halfway through 2023, and I find it to be appalling to know inequality continues to be an issue flooding the country. Sadly, racial minorities experience homelessness at a much higher rate than the white population. Another related issue is, according to the National Alliance to End Homelessness and the Department of Housing and Urban Development, Black Americans are three times more like than other races to lose their home.

4. This next fact will tug at your heartstrings, or at least it did mine. Domestic violence can lead to women and children becoming homeless, which is at NO fault of their own. Nationwide 50% of homeless women and children are due to an emergency need to flee from an abusive environment. Many times, women will feel it is an urgent matter to escape and leave without a solid plan. The women understand it is risky to leave but can admit staying can be even more risky and possibly the difference between life and death. Considering she may have left with tremendous urgency and no plan, she and her children may not have a place to stay, so they will end up trying to survive living in a car, shelter, or worst-case scenario, on the streets.

5. Family disagreements, which in a sense can be closely related to domestic violence. These disagreements occur often in the LGBTQ+ community. Sadly, coming out and being honest about oneself can be perilous. Some families will throw an individual out of their home or create a hazardous, and hostile environment. According to the True Colors Fund, 1.6 million youth from the LGBTQ+ community end up homeless annually.

6. A systematic breakdown can transpire due to an individual or family’s circumstances, which should never be dismissed. Homelessness can occur when our society neglects to recognize and support those at the highest risk of becoming without a home. The most common areas of failure are correctional services, healthcare services, and child welfare. Our society commonly neglects to address racial inequalities, increase wages, and provide affordable housing, which are contributing factors to the homelessness rate.

How can anyone expect changes in the homeless community when there is NOT adequate help? Why would we expect another person’s circumstances to improve or be the same as ours when we are all different? The United States is the wealthiest country in the world, but we are leaving these human beings alone. The unfortunate situation the homeless are in leaves them to be a victim of being condemned and without hope for their future.

We might not be able to fix everything for those who are homeless, but there are always simple things we can do to offer some assistance. The following are just a few ways we can all help the homeless community.

Donate Basic Items:

Many shelters and organizations will appreciate money, groceries, and clothing, but we can reach out to them first, and ask what they need the most. If you are planning to donate clothing, consider the time of year. During the summer and warmer months, customize what you donate to warm weather clothing. The same would apply to the winter and colder months, and you would want to donate clothing to help people stay warm. While I know we all want to help as much as we can, we should refrain from donating items that may not be as useful. You can also consider donating toiletries and personal items such as underwear, bras, and socks.

Help prepare and serve a meal:

At most shelters and organizations, you can volunteer to cook a meal for homeless guests, but you may want to speak with the organizer at the facility you want to help. Offering your time to help prepare and serve meals will mean a lot to anyone staying at the shelter. This provides the guest at the shelter with your compassion and shows that you care, which may offer them the home the need during their challenging time. A little kindness, love, and compassion can go a long way, especially when people are struggling.

Contribute your skills:

We all have talents and skills we can share with those struggling in life. Service providers, including plumbing, carpentry, accounting, childcare, tutoring, and mentoring skills are beneficial. The sky is the limit of how we can help others.

Offer a sincere smile:

Maintaining eye contact and speaking with kind words when speaking with the guests. Offering a smile shows respect for the guest’s humanity during a time when the person is struggling with the feeling of hopelessness and has lost hope for their future. This moment of your life will only take a short time but will have a HUGE, positive, and lasting impact on another person’s life.

Engage in conversations:

You can talk to the guests, as you are assisting in serving their meals about hobbies. Speak with the person living at the shelter with respect and friendliness. You can talk to them the same as you would anyone else, and this may encourage the guest and help them feel life is worth living, and there is hope for them.

I know this post was longer than normal, but I thought this information was important, and more people need to be aware of the struggles some endure. I appreciate you taking the time to visit my site and to read what I have shared. I hope this provided you with some insight into what some people are facing in the United States. Our lives may be challenging with what we may face, but homeless people are struggling and might be in danger. There are not nearly enough homeless shelters to manage to care for all the homeless, and many will go without food and shelter.

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

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I know the title of this post is Pick-Me-Up Thursday, but I would rather view today as Friday Eve because it makes me feel the week is almost over. I understand that today is technically Thursday, but it makes it feel like the week is far from over and ominous. How has your week been? Is there anything you are looking forward to for the weekend? It might sound boring to most people, but the only thing I am looking forward to about the weekend is not having to get up early! Of course, I will probably still wake up early because in my mind I know I have to take care of the cats, but I hope to not be up as early as I am during the week!

Something that is very important and we must remember in this life is, we never know what another person is going through in their life, and sometimes, when people may come across as rude or distant, it is because of what they are enduring in life. Do not take things personally, but instead, try to be more understanding and compassionate. Maybe you were talking to someone at work or at the grocery store, and they acted unkind, remember, you do not know what happened to that person moments before your encounter. Most of the time, when someone behaves in a less than polite way, it has nothing to do with you, and they might just need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.

Now that this week is almost over and the month is more than half over, I think we could all benefit from a little pick-me-up! The weeks are so long and can feel grueling, but we must try to find ways to get through them and help others do the same. I hope the quote that I am sharing today will provide you with the slightest pick-me-up and, it helps you get through the rest of this week. Believe it or not, even when you feel down and helpless, you are not alone because many others are feeling the same. We do have the power to help others get through the most challenging times, but we have to at least try!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that it resonates with you in a positive way. Many things I write about stem either from something I went through or something someone I know has gone through and it inspired me. I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Resentment, Frustrations, & Pains

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Happy Saturday! I hope you had a good week, but I also hope you can enjoy your weekend! Do you have anything planned for the weekend? One thing I know I must do for my sanity this weekend is to recover from the week and try to forget all the negativity that the week impacted me with. I also know Mother’s Day is tomorrow, so I hope everyone can enjoy celebrating all the mothers out there who gave selflessly and loved unconditionally. Of course, I will not be able to see my mother tomorrow, but I will be sure to remind her how much I appreciate her.

Last week was a little overwhelming and extremely exhausting. Unfortunately, I think many of us get so wrapped up in our everyday lives that we forget some of the simplest things in life. When we get frustrated, it can be easy to forget just how much words hurt. I have said this in another post, but the wounds will heal when we are bruised, but the wounds that words inflict are more powerful and long-lasting. When we forget the way another person feels about a particular situation, and the tears causing another person to shed, they are much more intense and hurtful than almost anything else. Simple apologies can become meaningless, and they do not fix the pain felt. This pain can escalate into increased negative emotions and resentment.

Holding onto feelings of resentment is very unhealthy and can lead to an inability to stop thinking about a specific event or situation. The reoccurring thoughts may linger for days, weeks, months, or even years, and eventually may take over your life. For some people, resentment can begin with disappointment or remorse for something or someone that was lost. Those that battle with resentment may harbor anger and seek revenge, or they might feel that justice was not served for something terrible that occurred. Regardless of why someone feels resentment, it only leads to bitterness and additional anger. These are feelings that do not have a positive outcome and may lead to irrefutable harm.

I know I have fallen into these same patterns in life and get frustrated, and then will say things that I do not mean. Of course, I try to not do things like this, but we are only human, and we make mistakes. I never want to cause anyone any harm with harsh and unkind comments because it will only make matters worse. Words and carelessness cause too much pain and it can be almost impossible to overcome them. The only thing I know to do is avoid talking in the heat of the moment or when I am already past the point of frustration and anger. Sometimes, silence is the best course of action.

How do you handle anger? What is your first reaction when you get upset? Do you find it easier to yell in a fit of rage, or do you walk away from the situation, and ignore how you are feeling? I feel it is better and easier to ignore things and walk away from the situation. I know many will not understand, and some professionals would say this is wrong, but I find it to be the best way for me to survive this insane world. Yes, this does mean that I tend to bottle up my feelings and it does cause something like a volcano eruption at times, but it is not often. I do not like confrontation, but even with that said, I will stand up for myself, those who cannot defend themselves, and for what I believe.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope that even if you do not agree with me, I hope you enjoy what I have shared. I am so thankful for the weekend, but after the past few weeks, I think a little more time to recuperate. If you have struggled with feelings of resentment, how did you overcome this? I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as possible! I hope you have a wonderful, and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa