Pick-Me-Up Thursday

I know the title of this post is Pick-Me-Up Thursday, but I would rather view today as Friday Eve because it makes me feel the week is almost over. I understand that today is technically Thursday, but it makes it feel like the week is far from over and ominous. How has your week been? Is there anything you are looking forward to for the weekend? It might sound boring to most people, but the only thing I am looking forward to about the weekend is not having to get up early! Of course, I will probably still wake up early because in my mind I know I have to take care of the cats, but I hope to not be up as early as I am during the week!

Something that is very important and we must remember in this life is, we never know what another person is going through in their life, and sometimes, when people may come across as rude or distant, it is because of what they are enduring in life. Do not take things personally, but instead, try to be more understanding and compassionate. Maybe you were talking to someone at work or at the grocery store, and they acted unkind, remember, you do not know what happened to that person moments before your encounter. Most of the time, when someone behaves in a less than polite way, it has nothing to do with you, and they might just need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on.

Now that this week is almost over and the month is more than half over, I think we could all benefit from a little pick-me-up! The weeks are so long and can feel grueling, but we must try to find ways to get through them and help others do the same. I hope the quote that I am sharing today will provide you with the slightest pick-me-up and, it helps you get through the rest of this week. Believe it or not, even when you feel down and helpless, you are not alone because many others are feeling the same. We do have the power to help others get through the most challenging times, but we have to at least try!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that it resonates with you in a positive way. Many things I write about stem either from something I went through or something someone I know has gone through and it inspired me. I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Resentment, Frustrations, & Pains

Happy Saturday! I hope you had a good week, but I also hope you can enjoy your weekend! Do you have anything planned for the weekend? One thing I know I must do for my sanity this weekend is to recover from the week and try to forget all the negativity that the week impacted me with. I also know Mother’s Day is tomorrow, so I hope everyone can enjoy celebrating all the mothers out there who gave selflessly and loved unconditionally. Of course, I will not be able to see my mother tomorrow, but I will be sure to remind her how much I appreciate her.

Last week was a little overwhelming and extremely exhausting. Unfortunately, I think many of us get so wrapped up in our everyday lives that we forget some of the simplest things in life. When we get frustrated, it can be easy to forget just how much words hurt. I have said this in another post, but the wounds will heal when we are bruised, but the wounds that words inflict are more powerful and long-lasting. When we forget the way another person feels about a particular situation, and the tears causing another person to shed, they are much more intense and hurtful than almost anything else. Simple apologies can become meaningless, and they do not fix the pain felt. This pain can escalate into increased negative emotions and resentment.

Holding onto feelings of resentment is very unhealthy and can lead to an inability to stop thinking about a specific event or situation. The reoccurring thoughts may linger for days, weeks, months, or even years, and eventually may take over your life. For some people, resentment can begin with disappointment or remorse for something or someone that was lost. Those that battle with resentment may harbor anger and seek revenge, or they might feel that justice was not served for something terrible that occurred. Regardless of why someone feels resentment, it only leads to bitterness and additional anger. These are feelings that do not have a positive outcome and may lead to irrefutable harm.

I know I have fallen into these same patterns in life and get frustrated, and then will say things that I do not mean. Of course, I try to not do things like this, but we are only human, and we make mistakes. I never want to cause anyone any harm with harsh and unkind comments because it will only make matters worse. Words and carelessness cause too much pain and it can be almost impossible to overcome them. The only thing I know to do is avoid talking in the heat of the moment or when I am already past the point of frustration and anger. Sometimes, silence is the best course of action.

How do you handle anger? What is your first reaction when you get upset? Do you find it easier to yell in a fit of rage, or do you walk away from the situation, and ignore how you are feeling? I feel it is better and easier to ignore things and walk away from the situation. I know many will not understand, and some professionals would say this is wrong, but I find it to be the best way for me to survive this insane world. Yes, this does mean that I tend to bottle up my feelings and it does cause something like a volcano eruption at times, but it is not often. I do not like confrontation, but even with that said, I will stand up for myself, those who cannot defend themselves, and for what I believe.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope that even if you do not agree with me, I hope you enjoy what I have shared. I am so thankful for the weekend, but after the past few weeks, I think a little more time to recuperate. If you have struggled with feelings of resentment, how did you overcome this? I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as possible! I hope you have a wonderful, and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Spread positivity, more than negativity

The world we are living in, and sharing, is a beautiful place, or at least it should be. Take a moment and recall all the spectacular sites you have seen, smelled, tasted, and touched. Regardless of if the sky has many fluffy or dark clouds, or if it is a clear blue sky, it appears to go on endlessly. Surrounding the land, we can see, smell, taste, touch, and admire the ocean. These are just two magnificent things we should appreciate. Where do you see the most beauty in this world? Many people want to complain and be upset about humans destroying the planet, but then no one does anything to correct the damage.

How is it possible for us to have many incredibly astonishing things around us, but they are unable to be appreciated, and instead, humans try to demolish everything with unique qualities? The world was created for us to live in together, but we need to learn to accept others for who they are, and not who we think others should be. Unfortunately, it appears that people generally insult and try to break others down, mostly with selfish motives. I do not understand why humans think they are entitled to talk negatively to others, but this is only causing mental harm to others.

Social media is where much of this begins, but why does this happen? So many try to portray a perfect life on social media, but most of this is false. For some reason, people feel empowered when they can hide behind their keyboard and their monitor. Negative comments hurt others, and these wounds do not heal easily. It would be much healthier for everyone when posting on social media, would all remain honest. Everyone has struggles, and no one’s life is perfect. If everyone on social media could be honest, it might help another person that is battling with a similar struggle.

For anyone that posts things on social media, start today being 100% honest, we may have the power to make changes in this world. Nothing is going to happen overnight, but ending the negative comments and lies could make a huge difference in someone else’s life. The mean and negative comments are causing too many issues for too many people that do not deserve this treatment. I do understand, some of this was incited by political leaders, of which I will not mention any names. The name-calling and shame are awful and heartbreaking. Some of this has caused innocent people to decide that suicide is their only option, but this should never be a person’s only option.

Young people are very impressionable, but we can provide a better impression and be better role models for the youth. How many young people must die before the adults in this world behave better? Destroying another person’s self-esteem and views must end. We can make better choices and help inspire others. I do believe social media can be an amazing thing, but only when there is truth. It is hard to know that there is so much hate continuing to build around the world. Negativity can be contagious, but so can positivity😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared today resonates with you. Even though the weekend is almost over, we do have a chance to enjoy several more hours, and I hope you do exactly that. I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~My Thoughts for the week~

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you had a good week and are looking forward to a weekend involving only what brings you the most joy. Last week was an extremely long and difficult week for me, but some of that is because I had a miserable migraine for numerous days in a row. The evil and relentless migraine started midday on Wednesday and did not start easing up until late Saturday. I am not sure how I managed to work while battling with this migraine, but I refused to let it win, which I am not sure if that was determination or stubbornness on my part.

I might not have any control over when the migraines will occur or how severe they may be, or the duration, but I can control how I react to them. I ended up turning my work monitors on dark mode because anything bright made the head pain much worse. I only wish I had the ability for those days to turn the sun off because it was too bright, blinding, and shining through the windows while all I needed was darkness.

I am not sure why migraines happen to people. They can be so intense and hardly anything helps them. It seems like a major punishment for something terrible! It seems like one day, someone with nothing better to do and was unhappy about something in life decided to invent something that would ruin someone’s day and make them miserable. This appears to be the only reasonable explanation that could explain the reason for them. With as many of them as I must endure, I do not think I would wish any of them on anyone, well, I am sure I could think of a few people that are deserving of something so treacherous😊.

The other day, my husband mentioned a few stories to me that he heard on the news, and they are definitely the reasons why I must avoid the news. What he told me was some of the most appalling information I have heard in a long time. There are only a handful of things that will get my blood boiling to what is probably a very unhealthy level. I do understand there is not much we can do about many of the issues in the world, which makes me even more upset. If only I had a magic wand and could use it to make the world a better, happier, and safer place to live, I would in a heartbeat! Unfortunately, I do not have a magic wand and cannot make any changes to the way things are in this world, the only thing I am able to do is to respond to situations in a calmer manner, and not lose my temper with nonsense.

As we have all heard, the United States overturned Roe vs. Wade, which had been in place for more than five decades. Sadly, after the abortion ban that occurred in many states, there was a 10-year-old child raped. The state where she lives made it, so she was unable to get an abortion. This young girl’s family had to drive her to the next state over, where she was able to get an abortion. This rape was not the young girl’s fault, and she should never have been treated this way. This young girl was traumatized by her rapist and traumatized all over again dealing with ignorant politicians mandating policies they do not have the right to do! Why does anyone believe they have a right to control another human being and what they can and cannot do with their own body? Do these people not understand what it means to live in a free country or maybe it is me that does not understand?

Another story my husband heard on the news troubled me immensely was regarding a state representative in Missouri. While this representative was debating a bill concerning gender-affirming care for transgender children, he also wants to present a proposal that implies children as young as 12 years old should be allowed to get married. I am not sure if this representative has children or even understands what children should be doing when they are 12 years old, but I DO NOT believe that getting married is one of them. No 12-year-old child has the maturity level to get married and settle down. The divorce rate in the United States is evidence that even some adults are not mature enough to get and stay married. Regardless of anything a law states, what kind of parent would allow their child to get married at age 12?

I understand I get extremely vocal and upset about things pertaining to our rights and that in a truly free country, we would have the right to choose how we live our lives. We should be able to love who we love, be who we are without retribution, make choices about our bodies without any regulations prohibiting it, and we should be able to live in this world without fear of another mass shooting. Why is it impossible to turn on the news and not hear about another mass shooting? We hear about some mass shootings nearly daily, which is causing people to become desensitized to the situation. Instead of becoming desensitized to the problem we are seeing, we should be demanding changes from our government.

With numerous problems in what is said to be the richest and most powerful countries in the world, how are we to expect positive changes? In a country where politicians do nothing but lie and only care about money, how are we supposed to believe anything that they say? What are we supposed to do when we are not able to trust those that are in power and are able to make the changes that are needed? There are so many people that are continuing to bring innocent lives into a very damaged world, and I am not able to see the reason. Is there still hope for a country full of hate and failing dreams?

Thank you for visiting my site today. As you have just read, I have had a lot of my mind, all while dealing with what seemed like a never-ending migraine. Do any of these issues make sense to you and please if they do, would you be able to explain them to me? I do hope you have had a nice and relaxing weekend. I do look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Midweek Thoughts

Happy Wednesday, y’all! We have made it halfway through this week, which means we are so much closer to the weekend that we all look forward to. I want to stop trying to rush the weeks because life is already extremely short. If we rush the weeks, will that not make life even shorter? I do not know the correct answer to this question. However, something I have noticed is that so many people forget to appreciate the things and people they have in their life. We tend to forget to focus on the great things in life and instead only focus on the negative. Why do we do this? Of course, we all deal with complications in life, but there will ALWAYS be another person that is dealing with something much worse.

Maybe we are dealing with a difficult or frustrating job. The better way to view this is at least we have a job because there are still so many unemployed and struggling. Maybe we are battling with other challenges such as pain, which believe me, I know this awful is, but it could be so much worse. Look at all the people that have lost the ability to walk due to an accident or illness. Are they giving up and surrendering to their challenges, probably NOT! It makes me so sad how selfish and self-absorbed people have become in the world. None of us were promised an easy life, and none of us are owed an easy life.

So many people that I know and care about have struggled with various illnesses, including cancer. Unfortunately, some of these people have already lost their battles. Is this fair? Absolutely, NOT! Would any of these people dwell on this? Absolutely, NOT! I am bringing all of this up in this post because I want to help people see the benefits they have in life and never dwell on any of the terrible things. There is NO point in this because we still have a life we must live. Honestly, I get so frustrated with the thoughts that some people seem to have, which is they are entitled to more. I do not know what makes anyone believe they are entitled to anything.

Although I want to be informed about things in this world, I must try my best to avoid the news. There are so many awful things that happen every day. How many mass shootings have already happened in the United States? Too many! Too many innocent people and children have lost their lives due to gun violence. It is senseless and never should have occurred. Why should children have fears about going to school? Why should parents fear sending their children to school? Why should anyone fear being out at a grocery store or mall? None of these fears should be in our minds. Yes, I do understand too many think it is their right to have a gun, but it is no ones right to kill innocent people! We all have a right to live life without fear!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared has resonated with you and I would love the chance to read your comments. What do you think about the way things have been in the world? Do you believe there needs to be massive changes in order for life to be better and if so, what changes? I hope you are having a good week. My week did not start off great and Monday was a terrible day, but it is getting better. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Allergy Season Struggles

While the spring weather begins to get warmer making many of us want to go outdoors for fresh air, there are also flowers and trees blooming! Yes, it can be beautiful, but for the millions of people that battle with allergies, it can cause sneezing, congestion, running noses, and itchy and watery eyes. Seasonal allergies may also be referred to as hay fever and allergic rhinitis, whatever you want to call it, this can be miserable! In this post, I am going to share the advice I have found to be useful when dealing with allergies! Please, be advised that I am NOT a medical professional, and I am not providing medical advice, I am just simply sharing some things that I have found to be beneficial. 

Ways to reduce exposure to allergy triggers are:

1. Stay inside on dry and windy days.

2. The best time to go outdoors is after a good rain as this helps to clear pollen from the air. 

3. Avoid lawn mowing, pulling weeds, and other gardening activities that may stir up additional allergens. 

4. Remove clothing that you wore outside and shower to rinse away pollen from your hair and skin. 

5. Do not hang laundry outdoors to dry as pollen will stick to anything that is outside. 

6. If you must do chores outdoors, wear a face mask. Most of us were used to wearing face masks during COVID. 

7. Check the weather for pollen forecast and the current pollen counts. 

8. If high pollen counts are in the forecast, be proactive and start taking allergy medicine before you experience symptoms. 

9. Keep your windows closed at night or anytime when pollen counts are high.

10.Avoid outdoor activities in the early mornings when pollen counts tend to be at their highest. 

Ways to keep your indoor air clean:

There is not a miracle product that is going to remove or eliminate allergens from the air in your home, but a few of the following recommendations may help!

-Use air conditioning in your home and car.

-If you use windows units for air conditioning, use high-efficiency filters and maintain regularly scheduled maintenance. 

-Keep indoor air dry with a dehumidifier. 

-Clean your floors often using a vacuum cleaner that has a HEPA filter. It is suggested to vacuum floors twice a week, especially if you have pets.

Different Types of Nonprescription Allergy Medications:               

Oral antihistamines can help to relieve all those annoying symptoms such as sneezing, itchy, and watery eyes, or stuffy or running nose. Some examples include Zyrtec, Allegra, and Claritin.

Corticosteroid nasal sprays help to improve nasal symptoms. A few examples include Flonase Allergy Relief, Rhinocort Allergy, and Nasacort Allergy 24 hours. It is important to discuss the long-term use of any of these products with your healthcare provider.

Cromolyn Sodium Nasal Sprays may ease allergy symptoms by preventing the release of immune system agents causing the symptoms. This works most efficiently if treatment is started prior to exposure to allergies. This is a safe treatment but typically needs to be used 4-6 times daily.

Oral Decongestants can provide temporary relief from nasal discomforts, an example would be Sudafed. Many allergy medications may combine antihistamines with decongestants. A few examples include Zyrtec-D 12-hour, Allegra-D 12-hour for Allergy and Congestion, and Claritin-D.

As I already mentioned, I am not a medical professional, so I am not giving you medical advice. The information in this post is from research I have done, as I do suffer from not just seasonal allergies, but mine are year around allergies. I do understand how frustrating they can be, so I am hoping the information in this post will be helpful to you or someone you know that battles with allergies.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information in this post was helpful and it helps you to get some relief from any allergy issues you might experience. I would love the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let’s Be Honest

Happy Saturday, y’all! After a long and frustrating week, how do you want to spend your weekend? With today being the first day of the weekend, all I wanted to do was sleep in, but that did not happen. It was not just the way things typically go by waking up at the same time I normally do, and was much worst than that. For the past two days, the pain in my legs and feet has been at a miserable high. I have not been able to get comfortable and sleep well, which makes me feel abnormally tired and irritated. I know things could be far worse, but Multiple Sclerosis often feels like a punishment for something I did in life, and no matter how many times I apologize, it does not end! I guess it would help if I knew what the punishment was for.

I think our lives are nothing more than a series of events that help to shape us and build our strength. I am not sure who said that we are not given more than we can handle because I think they may have been incorrect or overly optimistic. Of course, for the most part, all the challenges we face in life do not kill us, and maybe they make us stronger, but when does it end? When have we endured enough struggles and hardships, and can have even one day that is easy? I know we were never promised an easy life, but I think we should be able to have a short break from pain and struggles!

Do you feel you always have to be strong? Do you feel you must stay optimistic because if you do not, that would mean you are weak? Do you always have an authentic smile on your face, or is that smile often fake? Why should we have to pretend we are okay when we are crying on the inside? I think that it should be okay to not be okay all of the time, this does not make someone weak, but stronger. Admitting we are in pain and need a little help makes us human. We all try to pretend everything is okay and that life is perfect, but if we were being honest with ourselves and everyone else, we would admit we are perfectly imperfect humans, and that should be okay!

Thank you for visiting my site today. While this is not the most positive post I have done, and I do apologize for that, I am being honest. When someone is in excruciating pain and they understand it may not end, why is it not acceptable to just admit it? Accepting something unpleasant in life is the first step, and you can only go up from that point on. I hope you enjoyed this post, and it may have resonated with how you are feeling. Please understand, even though it may seem like it, you are not alone. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Rainy Sunday

Hello Sunday and the last day of the weekend☹, y’all! I knew it was going to be a rainy day, but what I did not know was how much my legs were going to hurt today. Of course, we lost an hour of sleep due to what I believe is the last time we will have to time change, but my cats were unaware of this and started to wake me up SUPER early. The older cat started walking all over my legs at 6:30 AM and it hurt more than normal. I think today is going to have to be a lazy day and I will not be doing anything strenuous. How are you planning to spend your day? What do you think of time change?

This is not something any of us should be thinking about because we do have the rest of the day before the workweek begins. Of course, I am always thinking ahead of time and am already planning my day tomorrow because it will involve dealing with the Gilenya nonsense again! I am hoping that things will go better with the MS medication tomorrow because I cannot deal with any more stress involved with this situation. I do think I am going to start today to try to find out if there are any other good neurologists where I live.

Do you enjoy rainy days? Honestly, I would much prefer to have rainy days when I am not working because it is an excuse to not do anything! Rain always increases my pain level. On the pain scale, my normal pain level hovers around a 4, but when it is raining it pushes up to around a 9. While I write this post, my pain level seems to be well past a 10. Unfortunately, there is nothing that helps the pain, so I just have to deal with it and not let it get me down.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing day. Is there anything that you can do to relieve your pain when it gets out of control? I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

31 Reasons

Most likely many of you are aware that March is Multiple Sclerosis Awareness month. There are only 31 days to raise awareness of a disease that impacts and changes the lives of those living with the disease for the rest of their lives. Although I am sure there are more, I am going to share with you 31 reasons why I detest MS. Of course, I do not mean to sound negative, but this disease is anything but pleasant or easy to deal with. Please know these reasons are not in any specific order.

1. This disease is incurable and a lifelong condition.

2. Multiple Sclerosis is unpredictable and can strike at any time without any notice.

3. Neuropathy is something that can cause issues such as pain, numbness, tingling, weakness, and a pins and needles sensation.

4. Random and frequent headaches, which no one could ever get used to.

5. Numerous appointments with different doctors.

6. The expenses of medication are higher than they should be in the United States where free healthcare is not an option.

7. Vision changes can happen to anyone but seem more common with MS.

8. Multiple Sclerosis can be hard to control considering there are no answers to the causes.

9. Never-ending fears of losing mobility.

10. Constant daily changes.

11. Back Pain, which I have lived with for years in my lower to mid back.

12. Leg pain, mostly neuropathy. This can make walking challenging.

13. Heat intolerance, which living in the south can be miserable.

14. Weight gain due to the inability to exercise much because of the pain.

15. Sleeping troubles due to waking up with pain and not being able to fall back to sleep.

16. Frustrations! You can do everything the doctors recommend, but it does not appear to make a difference.

17. Memory issues.

18. Missing the feeling of being normal.

19. Adjusting to weather changes can be challenging. Too hot creates issues, but too cold can cause me to tense and cause even more pain.

20. Dealing with doctors that do not always listen or understand. Doctors may understand the disease as much as they can, but they have no idea what it is like to live with it. Studying and reading can only do so much.

21. Understanding what creates additional issues, such as food, lack of sleep, stress, etc.

22. Worrying about the possibility of progression. This has always been a huge concern for me.

23. No answers regarding the causes of the disease.

24. With the unpredictability, one needs to always have a backup plan. This may be easy, but it is not easy explaining to friends and family.

25. Trying to stay positive without any changes in medical progress.

26. Knowing the best medication for the disease can be different for each person.

27. MS Hug. This is a painful hug that no one would ever want!

28. Dizziness

29. Flareups and steroids can weaken teeth causing them to break easily.

30. Fatigue. It is difficult to always feel tired because you are unable to get enough sleep.

31. Trying to explain to others how one can appear normal but are always in pain.

I have always known that this disease can take away my mobility and it has terrified me since I was diagnosed. Of course, I am always aware that it could be worse because my form of the disease is minor in comparison. I used to believe this disease was a punishment for something I did wrong in life, but logically know that it is not. We all have negative moments in life and trying to push past those thoughts can be challenging, but also necessary. This disease does not discriminate and can happen to anyone.

It is always important to remember that no matter what we are dealing with in life, someone else is dealing with something worse. While I do detest MS, I do know that no of us will have to endure something that we cannot handle. Whether this is true or not, it does help me to keep moving forward. Plus, I did make my late grandfather a promise that I will never all this disease to get and keep me down.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a wonderful weekend and you are able to recuperate from last week because I know it was a long week. I hope you found what I have shared today interesting and I look forward to reading your comments. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday Eve, y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend! Remember, just because it is the weekend, does not mean you must have plans because you can simply do nothing at all😊, which is exactly what I plan to do! It has been a long week and I believe we should not have to be forced to have a schedule. We already were forced to maintain a strict schedule all week.

The week is close to the end and I think we could all use a little pick-me-up. I hope you will find the quote that I am sharing helpful. Unfortunately, we all face random struggles and challenges in this life. It is important to not dwell on these and turn them into something positive. This is the reason for this quote today because I thought it was a nice reminder of what we have survived. No matter what we face in life or how difficult something may seem, look at what we have already made it through because everything we have witnessed and overcome has made us so much stronger!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the quote that I shared and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. I hope you have a wonderful day and it is not a busy or long day for you. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa