Ways to care for your mental health during a pandemic

coronavriusOn March 11, 2020, both the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and the World Health Organization (WHO) declared a global pandemic due to the coronavirus. The coronavirus has affected 192 countries and territories worldwide and 1 International conveyance, the Diamond Princess Cruise ship. It has steadily been causing vast amounts of turmoil in most households around the world.

Only to add the apprehension things have occurred, no one ever thought they would see in their lifetime. Starting with sporting event cancellations, school closings, mass ppe-graphicshortages of personal protective equipment in hospitals, delaying elective surgeries, borders closing to International travelers, malls with either adjusted hours or closing altogether, restaurants only offering take-out, grocery store’s shelves are pretty much empty, employers being forced to allow employees to work from home if the work permits or laying employees off because they can’t afford them,  and I am sure there is more that I didn’t remember.

Even though it will not be easy, we all need to find ways to calm our overactive anxiety and feelings of distress. First, how many times do you check for updates regarding the coronavirus? Second question, how many news outlets, whether it is TV or online news CoronavirusAMUpdatesources? It may help your anxiety and stress levels if you try limiting the number of times you check for updates, such as no more than 2 times a day and NEVER right before bed. It is also very important to choose a credible news outlet for your source. It could provide you additional security to have at least two trustworthy sites because it will allow you to fact check the information.

No matter where we live, we are all in this together and will be until things start to improve. Not to sound negative, but things will probably get even worse before they begin to get better. It is critical to listen to and rely on trustworthy news outlets and WEBREADY_Free-Press-Editorial_Oped_Hannah-Riseman-900x600actual public health experts. It doesn’t matter who the politician is, they did not dedicate their lives to healthcare.

What does your body go through when stress and anxiety reach extremely high levels? What exactly is causing you the most worry? What do you fear the most right now? Is there anything you can do to make what you are worried about easier or end altogether? Allow your mind the time and honesty to answer these questions. Maybe this will distract you some and provide you clarity of your feelings.

The unfortunate truth is we have no control of this virus, but we do have control of what copingwe do and how we cope with major situations. I am going to share some ideas that may provide distractions to relieve your anxious mind.

  • Connect with family and friends via video chat, phone calls, emails, and social media.
  • Yoga- If you have not practiced yoga before and want to start, now might be a good time because learning and trying new things could be enjoyable and a healthy distraction.
  • Meditation- If you have never meditated before, that’s okay because there are numerous apps available that are easy to follow, such as https://www.headspace.com/ and https://www.calm.com/. You could also visit Bella’s website https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/. Bella has many posts about meditation that are absolutely amazing and helpful.
  • Controlled breathing, which is called square breathing. Imagine your breathcoping traveling along a square. Inhale up the first side of the square, count to 3, and exhale. Do this on all sides of the square!
  • Read a good book
  • Watch a comedy
  • Eat familiar foods that you enjoy
  • Free yourself from stress by coloring
  • Form a calming atmosphere with sweet aromas
  • Get out your knitting, crocheting, sewing or any other creative craft you enjoy
  • Take a warm bubble bath to drown your stress away
  • Contemplate with your journal. If you do not have a journal, it might help you to EPIDT6GUCNBRLE5PF4CDD73D4Ystart one now
  • Pour yourself a warm cup of tea
  • Refresh yourself and skin with a facial mask
  • Get a deck of cards, puzzle or board game out to play

We do not really know how long we will continue being in monumental amounts of turbulence. We realize there is so much we do not have control over, such as how long we will be dealing with this pandemic, how many people will suffer because of it, or how our communities will be affected. None of this is easy to accept or even understand, but there are several ways we can reduce our personal risks of obtaining the virus.

  • Wash your hands frequently for at least 20 seconds with soap and water or handCoronavirus-Twitter-card-pic.xc9f75d90 sanitizer that has at least 60% alcohol
  • Avoid touching your face, eyes, nose, and mouth in particular
  • Even if you do not feel sick, stay home as much as you can
  • Avoid crowds and gathering with more than 10 people
  • Avoid all non-essential shopping and travel
  • Keep 6 feet of distance between yourself and others when out
  • To help support your immune system, get plenty of sleep
  • Follow ALL recommendation from health establishments

self careWhile we remain in distressing time we need to not forget to care for our body and spirit. The following ideas are ways we can tend to our self-care while we deal with disturbances caused by the coronavirus

  • Be kind to yourself:

If you’re experiencing depression and or anxiety, go easy on yourself and know you are not alone

  • Maintain a routine as much as you can:

Even though you might be confined to your house, continue your normal sleep, meals, and work schedule

  • Make time for the activities you enjoy:

Read that book you’ve been meaning to start, play games you find enjoyable, cook julyselfcaresomething, and create something or anything else to occupy your mind from the stress you have been feeling

  • If possible get out in nature:

Sunshine and fresh can be beneficial for our mental and physical health. Whatever you do, obey the restrictions that have been put in place, keep your distance from people you may encounter, and avoid crowds

  • Find ways to exercise:

Of course, all gyms and exercise classes will be closed, but you can find alternative ways to exercise. Staying active will help relieve stress, anxiety, and even manage our moods. Get creative with what you are images (2)able to do without equipment, such as using your own bodyweight to exercise

  • Avoid self-medicating:

Be cautious about using alcohol or other substances to control your anxiety and depression

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope the information provided will be beneficial for you and your family. Times are anything but easy right now, but hopefully things will start improving very soon. I hope you have a great afternoon and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Let it go Friday!

1665142_1000x0Happy Friday y’all! I hope you had an amazing week and you have a fabulous weekend! Do y’all have any plans for the weekend? Of course, I do not have any plans and I really doubt I will leave the house all that often. I guess I am at the point I don’t think it is all that safe to go out in public. There are a few reasons I think it is safer to just stay at home, one reason is obvious, I do not want the coronavirus. The other is, where I live people can’t drive! It is terrifying to be on the roads when there are awful drivers everywhere! I can’t believe how many people are on their phones not paying attention at all. The crazy thing is once people stop at a red light and the light turns green, they seem to think the light is going to do tricks because they don’t go!

We have all thankfully made it through another week. I still haven’t found a job, but I am not giving up. It is crazy that the bills don’t stop when you don’t have the money to pay 235453-If-You-Can-Not-Do-Anything-About-It-Let-It-Gothem! The quote I am with y’all today resonated with me with how my life has been going lately. I hope this quote will touch a part of you and it will help you the way it has helped me. I think there are many times people face extremely difficult times. It almost feels like after one bad thing happens, there is a snowball effect and a million other things follow. It gets painful to handle, but giving up would be worst than the troubles! I am very headstrong and refuse to allow anything to defeat me. 

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I will never pressure y’all, but I would love to read your thoughts on the quote I shared today. Y’all always have incredible insight and your thoughts add so much dont-be-afraidto the quotes I share. 

I hope you have a wonderful day and you are feeling the best you possibly can! Your never-ending support means more than words can describe to me. The friends I have made in the blogging community are amazing and so encouraging! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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How to not feel trapped by life

pursuit of happinessWe are all in the pursuit of happiness for our life. We must try to discover what we truly want from the life we are living. We can easily begin to feel trapped by our aspirations, triumphs, failures, and responsibilities. We can inflict these on ourselves or they may be imposed on us by outside forces.

Our ultimate goal needs to be to not feelwindow-335607_960_720 trapped in life because there are so many pathways for a joyful, prosperous life that there isn’t a good reason to not aspire for something healthier.

It is crucial to create your own journey and not view something as better but focus on making things healthier. This can enable us to free our mind from feeling trapped in our life. Below are ways we might be able to get to that free point.

  1. Live below your means

There is so much marketing that encourages consumers to buy new products. They promote these new products as better and those they will make people happy, which isn’t true.

live belowThis creates the thoughts we need to make more money so we can buy bigger houses, newer cars, up to date brand name clothes, or the most current electronics, even though the one bought last year still works.

Living below our means gives us the freedom to not be a slave to a job that makes us miserable. The advertisements that are created to grab our interests need to be ignored because most of those products are not needed. Balancing our needs with wants is important to acknowledge.

  1. Accept responsibility for your choices and actions

We are the only one that can save ourselves from the decisions we have made. There arerespp too many people that spend their time complaining about how awful they think their life is, instead of putting the effort into making the changes we need. There are times bad things happen to a person that can’t be avoided.  When this does happen, we need to accept what occurred and move on the best we can.

The truth is, many only want to blame everyone and everything else for their hard times in life, but they fail to look in the mirror for the blame. It is important to look in the mirror because often times there is no one else that can fix our problems.

  1. Strive for a healthier lifestyle

Living an unhealthy lifestyle will negatively influence our quality of thoughts, emotions, bband life.

Easy choices like cutting back on unhealthy foods, trying to get a little more regular exercise, and the proper amount of sleep each night can drastically improve our mentality and perspectives. A healthier lifestyle can depend on the foundation of sleep. The deeper stages of sleep are when our brain produces the images (1)chemicals to maintain our mood and balance throughout the day. Both our moods and emotions will suffer if we don’t get enough sleep.

Food and drinks provide our minds with the nourishment we need and offer us our energy throughout the day. The simple changes we can make to drink less sugary and caffeinated beverages and more water can provide mental and physical health benefits.

  1. Embrace change when it is the only option

Growth and change are things that can’t be avoided if we are living a positive and meaningful life. We will make changes to our views; work on our mental and emotional health, which may show us we have outgrown some situations and or people.12-30-2018_Image_EmbraceChangeposter

Outgrowing certain situations may be challenging. Outgrowing some of our friends and even our family will be much more difficult. During this time we need to analyze the situations and people to determine which are meaningful to our life. If you view some people are toxic because of their actions, they will only continue dragging us down.

Some people actually prefer to stay stagnant in their life because it is comfortable and they do care to make changes for a healthier life. We need to try embracing changes and enjoy the amazing opportunities that will free us from feeling trapped.

  1. Learn to say “NO”

unknown-author-color-text-cream-paper-learn-say-no-explaining-8u3xAdapting to the ability to say “no” can be difficult, but it is an important skill to learn. There will never be a time when something isn’t going on or someone else doesn’t need something or even when another responsibility doesn’t come up. If we don’t learn to say “no” we will always be caught up with something and may even be taken advantage of by someone who doesn’t expect to hear us say no.

The ability to say no could keep us from feeling trapped by too many responsibilities.

  1. Do more things that make us happy

This might not be something we think about because of many different reasons that make sense to us.7df2c73195ef62c8298ee47459879666 As long as what makes us happy isn’t harming anyone else, there is nothing wrong with it. We all know that people enjoy judging others for how they live, but they really do not matter at the end of the day.

We all have the right to discover happiness and do what makes us happy. Dedicating time to what brings us happiness is necessary for self-care.

The normal day-to-day life can have a great deal of negativity and repetition. There are times when the repetition can lead us to believe we are bored with our life, which can make us feel trapped. This is the main reason for doing things that bring us joy is so important.

  1. Add spontaneity and creativity to your life

Human beings are not designed for an inflexible immutable schedule of things we mustcreativity do. Often the feelings of being trapped are more thought of being trapped due to the monotony of life.

Working a normal job, bills to pay, and other responsibilities can get too routine. We all need excitement, creativity, and spontaneity in our life. Whatever we do doesn’t need to be expensive, it can simply be a walk in the park or a short scenic drive. We can even do something creative that can be displayed around the house or given to a friend or family member.

  1. Seek help from a professional

crossroad signThere are many reasons a person may feel trapped and not all will be easy to figure out. The reasons could lead to depression or other mental health issues.

It might not be easy admitting the need to talk to a professional, but it might be worth it. Talking to a professional could help get past the feelings of being trapped.

 

Our life doesn’t need to feel like it is a chore because it has so much more to offer. If we can learn to replace our negative emotions with healthier thoughts and habits, we can allow ourselves a more fulfilling life.depositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope what I have shared will be beneficial to helping you do what you need, so you can have the happiest life possible. I do look forward to reading what you thought about this information and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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How to conquer feelings of bitterness

bitternesssWhat is your first thought when you hear the word bitter? Have you ever felt bitter towards another person? The word bitter actually has two means that cover two different things. The first meaning is a sharp taste, with no sweetness. The other one is what I am discussing today, which is anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly, which can turn into resentment. Resentment is another emotion that is awful to feel because it is a combination of disappointment, disgust, anger, and fear.

We do not want to carry feelings of bitterness for an extended person of time because it is very distressing. We need to be able to acknowledge what we are dealing with as valid before we are able to move on.

I am going to share some helpful tips to move on from these feelings of bitterness onto a more positive future.

  1. Take a step backtake a step back

We all know how easy it can be to get caught up in our emotions. It is pretty natural to forget to give ourselves time and space to breathe. If we try removing ourselves from the situation that is causing bitter feelings, we can gain a new perspective. Detaching from these experiences for a period of time is important to do before continuing with this process.

  1. Write it down

write it downSometimes it can be challenging to process emotions in our minds. Expressing yourself by writing down the way you are feeling can serve as a way of taking control of a situation while also admitting there is something that is upsetting you. Writing whether in a journal or just on a blank piece of paper can make an enormous difference when struggling with feelings of bitterness.

  1. Talk it outtalk it out

For some people, putting a voice on their feelings works wonders, but it is still beneficial to add journaling along with this. Talking about our feelings helps us to confront the way we are feeling. This also enables us to rid our minds of guilt, which is commonly felt by the one that is bitter.

Containing feelings of stress and resentment will only continue to grow. Guilt is an enormous part of resentment because we are feeling guilty about a past decision and regret how we might have treated someone else.

  1. Don’t talk too much

dont talk too muchWhile it is important to talk things out, we need to be mindful of how we speak. As much as talking things out is important, it can also cause us to relive those emotions as if it were the first time feeling them.

Our feelings of bitterness tend to build up over time and then take a while to dwindle from our thoughts. Every time we go over the reason for dont talkour bitterness, the great the chances we will get all worked up again. It is okay to rant or complain as much as we need to, but it would be best to set boundaries. For instance, we could set certain days or times during the week to have our rant sessions.

It is natural to want explanations and solutions for why we are upset. Even with that said, going over the issue over and over again probably won’t change anything. It is crucial to find a balance between expressing our emotions and living our life.

  1. Meditate

Even if it is for just 15 minutes a day, meditation is an effective self-improvement activity. meditationIt will allow time completely to yourself each day to find out how you actually feel.

The feelings of bitterness tend to be surrounding us, which can become overwhelming and consume our every thought. We can become obsessed with the bitterness we feel and forget to check daily how we truly feel. If we can utilize meditation as a tool to investigate our inner mind, the way we actually are feeling, not always how we think we are feeling. This can help shift away from those bitter feelings and move towards positive thoughts.

  1. Get your blood pumping

Any type of exercise, whether it be running or practicing yoga, releases the endorphins that make us feel good. Doing something active to help change our mindset, gives us the opportunity to not only offer the self-respect we deserve but also embraces physical blood pumpingchange.

When we are feeling bitter towards another person, it might be because of insecurities we are feeling about ourselves. We could be insecure because of our personality or even our appearance. Sometimes taking control by taking care of ourselves might change how we feel about who we are and what we look like. The better we feel about ourselves, the more positive we will feel and less resentful.

  1. Confront it

confrontIt is rather normal to find ourselves suddenly feeling resentful. We may feel frustrated, upset, or even angry, but we need to move on from these feelings. Once we have recognized our feelings by writing and or talking, it is time to take the next step in the process.

Are you able to identify who is at fault? If you honestly believe someone else is at fault, is this person partially or fully at fault? How will you confront this person? The confrontation should not be hostile, disingenuous, or filled with rage. It will be much more effective and healthy to simply explain how you feel and preferably get closure. Also, avoid finger-pointing for the blame; it will not solve the issues.

The goal is to find a way that suits both people to move forward. This could mean modifying your own actions or requesting the other person to be more aware of your feelings.

  1. Be accountableaccountable

We need to be mindful of how we react to situations because the way we react might trigger feelings of bitterness. Others might spark feelings of regret or even make us feel bad, but we need to look inside ourselves as well.

Ask yourself, why do I immediately feel bitter? Why do I struggle with some feelings more than others? These questions aren’t easy to answer, but they are necessary. It is natural to ignore our involvement with certain feelings as a way to protect ourselves.

Learning our triggers can help us learn healthy ways to avoid these triggers and how to adjust our behaviors appropriately.

  1. Set goals and make plans

Newsletter-Banner-2-11We need to start taking an active role in our life, as opposed to being passive about life. We should add things to our calendar that make us feel good and happy. These can be short-term or long-term goals. Maybe we want to join a gym or start a new hobby, it can make us feel good and show that we are taking care of ourselves.

We will quickly become used to enjoying things and looking forward to these things we enjoy. It will be seen that you are worth what makes you happy and in control whether we do those things or not.

  1. Determine your future8671-quote

Our attachment to the past is what causes feelings of resentment and bitterness. Our unwillingness to let go of the past holds onto the discomfort we do not want to have. Feeling bitter can be linked to the lack of the closure we desired. We need to make the decision to have a future without the emotions or bitterness and resentment.

artworkimage-medium-21902316-7336573Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope this information was helpful for you and provided you with the knowledge to help you get through difficult times. I know we all experience challenging times, so it is beneficial to have tips on at least some of those times. I hope your week has started off great and continues to get better. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Anxiety Disorders are REAL!

REAL-18-percent-anxiety-1-e1470236666901Anxiety is a very real issue that affects 40 million people in the United States. Anxiety disorders are the most common and prevalent mental disorders in the United States. Of course, some people experience anxiety for reasons that are not at all life-threatening, but others do feel like they are in danger. When a person faces something that is potentially harmful or other worry triggers, the feeling of anxiety is not just normal but needed for survival. When there is an incoming danger, alarms are set off in our body, which may include an elevated heartbeat, sweating, and increased sensitivity to surroundings.

Anxiety is a body’s natural response to stress and a feeling of fear or uneasiness aboutAnxiety-Blob-anxiety-disorder-is-real-Nanea-Hoffman-Sweatpants-Coffee-940x450 what is to come next. Anxiety disorders are characterized by a variety of symptoms. The most common symptoms are excessive and intrusive worrying that disrupts daily functions. Other signs include agitation, restlessness, fatigue, difficulty concentrating, irritability, tense muscles, and trouble sleeping.

There are six types of anxiety disorders I am going to explain. The first is Generalized dsm-5-criteria-for-generalized-anxiety-disorder-1393147_v2-902be69757414cc7a517ef3ca9838b59Anxiety Disorder (GAD). With this type of anxiety disorder, a person will feel anxious on most days and worry about numerous things. They will also overly worry about money, health, work, and other random issues. This affects 6.8 million adults in the United States, which is about 3.1% of the population. Of those that have been diagnosed with GAD, only 43.2% received treatment. Women are twice as likely to develop this disorder as men are.

When doctors diagnose a person with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, the person must have experienced excessive worry and anxiety about several different events or activities for more days than not and for at least six months. The person will also express they have a difficult time controlling their worry.social-anxiety-disorder-symptoms-and-diagnosis-4157219-5c5db04146e0fb000127c7e9

Social Anxiety (SAD) is a very common anxiety disorder that affects 15 million adults in the United States, which is about 6.8% of the population. This is when everyday social interactions cause a person an irrational fear, self-consciousness, and embarrassment. A person may have trouble in common situations, for instance, talking to a stranger, making eye contact, using public restrooms, and eating in front of people.

images (2)Specific Phobias affect 19 million adults, being 8.7% of the population in the United States. Women tend to be twice as likely to develop this disorder as men. The average onset for this condition is around 7 years old. This type of anxiety disorder amounts to an unreasonable or irrational fear related to exposure to a specific object or situation.  A person will avoid contact with a specific object due to their fear of such an object.

Panic Disorder is a type of disorder that causes panicPanic-Disorder-Symptoms attacks. A panic attack is a sudden feeling of terror, even when there is no danger around them. This affects 6 million adults in the United States, which is about 2.7% of the population. This does tend to be inflicted on women twice as much as men.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a disorder that causes excessive thoughts that lead to repetitive behaviors. There are 2.2 million, being 1.0% of the population of adults in the United States that are OCD. A person that lives with this disorder gets caught up in a cycle OCD-cycleof unwanted obsessions, instructive thoughts, images, or urges that trigger intensely distressing feelings. For example, when a person that is OCD is leaving their house, they need to turn the lights on and off a certain number of times or check the door is locked a specific number of times before they feel comfortable leaving the house.

Post-Traumatic- Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a disorder in which a person has a hard time recovering after experiencing or witnessing imagea terrifying event. This disorder plagues 7.7 million adults, being 3.5% of the population in the United States. This does occur in women more than men, but it does happen to both. Rape triggers PTSD in 65% of men and 49.5% of women. It is believed a person that experienced childhood sexual abuse, will develop PTSD in their lifetime.

manage-your-anxiety-2584184-01-07daf91ba6de41d19f827cf65ceef07aTreatment consists of a combination of psychotherapy, behavior therapy, and medications. Some people can avoid therapy sessions to treat their anxiety disorder by doing things at home; after all, going into a clinician’s office can be stressful alone and causes unnecessary stress to a person already dealing with stress and anxiety. If a person decides they prefer to try self-treatment at home, they will need to understand this type of treatment helps those cope with mild and more focused shorter-term anxiety disorders.

There are five self-treatment options that are available. One is stress management Stress Management mind mapwhich will include learning how to manage stress to limit those potential triggers. You can organize upcoming events and deadlines in order and compile lists with daunting tasks in order to make them easier to manage. It is always important to commit to taking time off from work and or school.

Another self-treatment plan is to practice relaxation techniques. Straight-forward activities have the potential to calm our mental and physical anxiety signals. Other options, are to meditate (which I am awful at), deep breathing exercises, long hot baths, resting in a dark room, and yoga.

breathing-for-relaxation-4-7-8.jpg?w=1000Another self-treatment option is practice replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Start off by making a shortlist of five negative thoughts that are running through your mind. Next, write another list, next to your first list, with positive thoughts to replace those negative thoughts with. When we have a mental image of successfully facing our negative thoughts or conquering a specific fear, this can provide benefits if the anxiety symptoms are related.

You can also utilize a support network by talking with a friend or family member whosupport is supportive. There are probably local support groups near where you live, but there are also plenty of online support groups. If you want to find local support groups, I am more than happy to help you find as many as I can, just let me know!

This is the last self-treatment plan I can share with y’all. Establish an exercise regimen; physical exertion can improve the self-doubts you might have and release chemicals in the brain that trigger positive feelings.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I believe there are many people that shy away from talking about any kind of mental illnesses because others shame them. I feel we should text-art-believe-in-your-dreams-follow-your-heart-melanie-violaall feel free and comfortable to talk to others about what we are dealing with and we should never be judged. We are all human-beings with a strong beating heart and we have feelings. I will be completely honest with y’all, I have not been formally diagnosed with anything, but I feel stress and anxiety most of the time and I can not turn it off. I do not know how to not worry because I have done it for 38 years and like that old saying, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.”  I would love to read your thoughts on this information because I know y’all are amazing with brilliant thoughts. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Gratitude, Appreciation, & Love

76710407-always-be-thankful-hand-lettering-calligraphy-Unfortunately, it seems like far too many people are living in a perpetual state of always wanting more and it’s never good enough. Material things have become more important than just simply being thankful for what we do have. The never-ending desire for more only decreases happiness and never changes how satisfied with life someone is.

Most people think someone who is rich is happier because they have more money and xB255605all the things an outsider wants. The truth is, no amount of money can buy happiness. Just because someone has a large bank account doesn’t mean they are happy and satisfied with their life, we never know what goes on behind closed doors and fake smiles. These people end up spending less time doing enjoyable activities, less time with family and friends, and stay stressed because they still want MORE!

The way society is in 2020, I wonder does anyone know what gratitude and appreciation mean? The definition of gratitude is, “the quality of being thankful, readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” Gratitude has the ability to help people feel positive emotions, Seeing-The-World-With-Eyes-of-Gratitude-1enjoy life more, improve health, and have the ability to build strong and meaningful relationships.

People are satisfied with family and friend relationships more when they are grateful. The ability to be grateful actually can create more happiness, less stress, and less depression. This can also make people feel they have more control over their lives, have the ability to cope with difficult times, and have higher self-esteem.192360d23eb5e2295bc4fef40081ad65

For many of us, Monday through Friday is almost the same, with little to no change. It almost becomes the norm and we perform out of habit, assuming it will always be that way. But things can and do change without any warning.

unnamed (2)What do you do when in less than five minutes everything in life changes? It is a feeling of being lost in the darkest room when your entire world was turned upside down and shook vigorously. You are left to miss the normal mundane life that most probably would think is boring. It makes it much worse when there isn’t a logical reason for this change.

This post has been a little about gratitude and then random thoughts from something I recently went through. After this past Friday, I have not felt my normal self or even think my normal self is worth anything. It is upsetting, disturbing, and offensive when you feel that an illness you didn’t ask for creates even more problems with jobs. Honestly, it has felt like tumblr_lxnjfoOObg1qmdjeto1_500_largethis many times before, like everyone looks at you with pity. The people you work with think because you miss a day or two of work that it is going to be a common thing, but that isn’t true. I think if some of these hateful and judgmental people had to walk in my shoes for one hour, they would not be able to.

I have said this numerous times, but I am going to say it again, everything in life happens for a reason! Sometimes, the things we view initially as a punishment might actually be a reward. There are so many times we may unnamed (1)not fit in with the so-called normal people, but that is okay! Fitting in with people in a society as we have is not a good thing! Also, sometimes when one door closes another one will open, opening this door might lead to wonderful and amazing things!

First, I want to thank Bella at https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/for the amazing  blogging party she had this weekend! This was a wonderful opportunity to meet some pretty outstanding fellow bloggers! Second, thank y’all for stopping by my site today. Your never-ending kindness and support mean so much toimages (1) me! And finally, I hope y’all had a lovely weekend and you are feeling well. I do look forward to reading your comments for this post, no pressure though! Please never forget that no matter what I might be going through, I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Pick Me Up Thursday!

images (2)We made it through to another Friday Eve! I hope your week has treated you well and you are feeling the best you possibly can! It is amazing how slow the weeks go by and then how fast the weekend flies by. I guess all we can do is appreciate each and every minute of the weekend and not take it for granted. We have no control over life events and the fact tomorrow is not a guarantee should make us thankful when it comes!

The quote I decided to share with y’all as a Pick Me Up is very positive and reminded me of the strength that I do have within. Y’all have that same strength within each of you because we all experience so many challenges each day, but somehow we survive them. c0f8aeefd371b7eb452c8afaaeab0facUnfortunately, it is easy to forget how much determination and strength it takes to get through days that are full of difficult times and possible hardships because it comes to us like second nature. The other day I was talking to a nurse about the pain I deal with each day and how when people that do not know me or what I deal with judge me when they see my handicap parking tag. In the past this would upset me greatly,  but now I just feel bad for those that decide to judge without knowing the full situation because they are really creating a negative environment and missing out on building their knowledge. For my sanity and not allowing people like that to destroy myself-esteem I choose to ignore them and their nasty looks. images (2)

I hope you enjoyed the quote I shared with y’all and I do hope it means as much to you as it does to me! Thank you for taking the time to read my post today and I look forward to reading your amazing comments. I believe your comments add so much to my posts and I value your thoughts and opinions!

Even though Australia has gotten rain to help with the nasty fires, they are still struggling and need our kind thoughts and loving ❤ prayers one hurtsfor their safety. Even though there may not be a lot we can do for those struggling, we can still send them love , prayers for better days, and our well wishes❤.

Here’s to the fact the weekend is almost here! I look forward to days the rude alarm clock doesn’t wake me up and forces me out into the very cold weather we are dealing with! Last week we had days when the temperatures were high for winter, like close to 70 degrees and now we are lucky if it gets above 50. I wish for y’all to have an enjoyable weekend doing the things that bring you the most joy because that is what y’all deserve. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤