Motivational Monday

Happy Monday y’all! This seems like an oxymoron because how many people enjoy Monday morning? They do come every week and I guess we should be used to Monday mornings, but that does not mean anyone looks forward to them or they are the best day of the week. It is never easy letting go of the weekends, especially because they are so short and it never feels like we had a weekend! No matter how much we dislike or tread Monday, we just need to try to accept them and hope for a great week!

I hope you had an enjoyable and restful weekend! To begin the new week, I always feel like we need a little motivation. I hope you will find the quote I am sharing motivating and it helps begin the week with a positive mindset! Of course, where I live we are anticipating more rain and storms, but I am hoping this will cause the heat to not be as bad.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a wonderful start to the week and each day gets even better! I understand how difficult it can be, but try to take each day one minute at a time and not allowing yourself to become too stressed. The only thing stress will accomplish is making you feel much worse. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

It is hard to believe that we have so few hours left of the weekend, but at least we are alive and were able to have a weekend. As y’all already know, I have been battling with a massive headache for far too many days. I can only speculate what the cause is because I have lived with them for many years. I have discussed the headaches with doctors before, which includes my MS specialist, and they were not successful in an adequate or effective treatment option. Even though I have been advised that it is not normal to have a constant headache for 7 days and that I “should” go back to a doctor, I do not see a point and feel like going back to a doctor about these headaches would be a waste of time and money.

I have never claimed to be a genius, but I am smart enough to know that having a constant terrible headache for as of now is 7 days, is not normal. I do know that Multiple Sclerosis has been one part of the headache issues before, but during the present time, I think stress might be a key factor. Yes, I know there are many things in life we have no control over, and therefore we should not stress over them. I also believe that everything in life happens for a reason and things have a way of working out for the best. Of course, knowing this and not allowing myself to be engulfed in worrying about things in life are challenging. 

There are things in our lives that do not discriminate, stress is one of them. It does not matter who you are, where you are from or anything else, stress can invade your life and try to take control. How do you handle stress in your life? I know the things in my life that cause me the most stress and some of them can be eliminated. Unfortunately, most of us must work and pay bills, so those are two that cannot be ignored or removed. During this weekend, I have been thinking about what causes me the most stress and what I can eliminate from my life. To make things easier for myself, I might start with removing one thing at a time and see if the headaches subside! I am willing to try just about anything at this point because I am in desperate need of a break from headaches!

I would like to believe that I am strong, and I refuse to let stress or these headaches dominate or control my life. I might be a little like my cats, we do not like being told what to do and in turn will do the opposite of what we are told😊! I am hoping by eliminating things gradually from my life that I know cause me stress will help to eradicate my headaches or at least reduce the frequency and severity of them!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you had a lovely, relaxing, and safe weekend😊! I know our weekends are never long enough, but I guess it could be worse and we are not able to have a weekend at all. Monday mornings are always a little daunting, but the new week might hold what we have been needing😊! I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Headache Day # 6

We are finally able to enjoy the weekend😊! My goodness was it a long week for me! Unfortunately, today is day # 6 of a headache that I do not think is ever going to go away. I am not sure why this headache has been here so long, but I do know I am ready for a break from it. Honestly, headaches are very common for me but, they do not normally stay around for this long. The issue making it slightly abnormal is, that it is creepy down into my neck and shoulder. I have no intentions of letting my MS specialist know about this because I feel she is on a need-to-know basis, and she does not need to know this!

Another issue that started yesterday is my big toe on both feet is completely numb. The numbness is trying to move up into the rest of my foot. I am sure it will stop and not get any worse. Of course, I am not a medical professional, but I do have a few years of knowledge of living with Multiple Sclerosis and I am assuming the issues I am dealing with have a lot to do with heat and stress. At least I have the weekend to rest and recuperate before another week begins😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a great, relaxing, and safe weekend. We all know how short the weekends are, so I hope you make the most of it. This is going to be a short post because of my non-stop headache, but hopefully, it will improve soon, and I can do another tomorrow. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday, y’all! Is it just me or has this been an extremely long week? I am sure I feel this way because my week started with a headache that refuses to go away, but even on the other days when the headache was tolerable the days at work felt LONG! I have given up trying to understand why people behave the way they do because I do not think I will ever understand how people can be so demanding and rude. I think I have been looking forward to today, since Sunday night!

I have always thought that Friday is the perfect day to let go of all the negative and frustrating things that occurred during the week because we deserve an opportunity to enjoy a couple of days. We are forced to work five brutal days each week and we are only given two days to rest and live life, so why carry the negative thoughts into our time? I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing helpful to let go and live your weekend happily and without stress!

I might be wrong, but I do believe the people that cause us the most stress and pain are battling with themselves internally and their negative emotions seep out to others. This type of behavior does not make their days or lives better and only ruins another person’s day. I know I get upset and moody, but I also know how my temper can ignite to an explosive level, so I try to stay quiet. Anyone that knows me understands why I am quiet, something is very wrong and I need space. I prefer to be silent, so I do not hurt anyone’s feelings and then have to apologize a million times!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today. I hope the quote provides you with the strength to leave last week in the past where it belongs and you can have a stress-free, and enjoyable weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! We have almost made it through this week and the weekend will be here shortly! This week has been a little challenging because of the nasty migraine I had for more than two days. I hated having to call out of work on Tuesday, but the head pain was unbearable and I was miserable. I am not sure why these keep happening. I mean it could be heat, stress, fatigue, or who knows what else? I keep hearing that the daith ear piercing helps migraines, but my husband keeps telling me it will not. Does anyone reading this have this piercing and if so, does it help migraines?

At this point in the week, we have made it through three full days and only have a couple left. Even though the week is nearly over, we could all use some positivity to pick us up, right? I have seen so many times when people are unhappy and miserable, they want to criticize others. Why do people think that misery loves company? That is so awful because why do people think that making others feel bad will make them feel happier? Seems a little sick and twisted to me. That is why I decided the quote I am sharing today would be a good pick-me-up. I think it is better to live our lives in a way that makes us happy and not care what others think. We do not owe anyone an explanation, as long as we are not causing harm to anyone else!

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I know how boring I must sound, but after a long and exhausting week, I enjoy having no plans! Why make any firm plans when your work week is already planned out for you? We are forced to work five days a week, that is 40 hours each week dedicated to working for someone else. There is always someone else telling you what you MUST do and I prefer not being told what to do on the only two days I have away from work. I think it is inhumane to work more days than we get off to enjoy this short life! Would it not be amazing to work three days and have four off? Or even work four and have three off?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have had a great week and your weekend is filled with everything that brings you the most joy in life. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I apologize for any comments I have not responded to yet, but I will play catch up this weekend. The first two day this week, I was battling a mean migraine, so I fell behind. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

Happy mid-week. I barely survived the first two days of this week because I had another one of my awful MS migraines. I ended up leaving work two hours early on Monday and called out yesterday. I do not like calling out of work, especially since I work from home, but there was no way I would have been able to handle looking at a computer screen all day. I was miserable all day and was only able to sit on the couch with my cats and watch repeats of Law & Order Special Victims Unit, which is one of my favorite shows and have seen every episode at least three times, so it did not matter if I fell asleep and missed anything.

Considering I do experience migraines so often, I wish my doctor could find something that eliminated them. Unfortunately, there has been no such luck yet. The only thing I found the helps a little is a mixture of Advil, Excedrin, and Sudafed, but I cannot take two of the three more than once a day because of the caffeine they contain. I do know that staying hydrated is important, which is why I drink water all day and rarely drink soda, but never drink any soda with caffeine.

Now that we are at the halfway point in our week and have two more days until we reach the weekend again, I think we could all benefit from some inspiration. Anytime I start to get down and discouraged because of what I am going through in life, I always remember something a wise old man told me years ago, “Now matter how bad things may seem in life, remember that someone else is going through something much worse.” That was what my late grandfather told me when I found out I had Multiple Sclerosis and I thought my life was over.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have had a better week than I have so far. Even though the beginning of my week was terrible because of the evil migraine, I am hoping the rest of the week will be much better! I know I have mentioned this before, but I think one of the things I hate most about living with Multiple Sclerosis is the migraines. I look forward to reading your comments and hope the quote I shared helps you through the rest of this week. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~How to deal with manipulative people~

What does manipulation mean to you? The Webster’s Dictionary shows manipulation to mean a few different things, but for this post, it means, “to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means, especially to one’s advantage”. To your knowledge, has anyone in your life ever tried to manipulate you? If so, how did this make you feel and how did you handle it?

Unfortunately, manipulative people can be found anywhere. These people can be family, friends, co-workers, or even new people in your life. They are not always easy to detect because they can easily lie and deceive you. Although they are skillful in their deceptive and treacherous behaviors, they are careless and selfish with only their benefits in mind. 

Manipulative people know how to find your weaknesses, use them against you, and convince you to do what will benefit their interests. Some may attempt using positive tactics, such as disingenuous compliments and artificial closeness, but they typically use negative means like silent treatment, criticism, and emotional abuse. 

The feelings felt when being manipulated are unpleasant, to say the least. This can easily leave a person feeling sad, disappointed, hurt, and even betrayed. If you have even been on the receiving end of manipulation, please let this be a lesson and never treat another person in this way.

**Please note, I am not a psychologist, mental health professional, or medical professional in any way, but the following tips are what I discovered through research and I hope they will help you end manipulative people before they can hurt and deceive you**

Remember, NO means NO:

Learn how to say “NO” in a firm, calm, and diplomatic way. There is no need to add anything else to the conversation. When we offer any reason, it can just provide ammo for the person to use to get through your defenses and force you to say “yes”. Initially, the manipulative person may become irritated and persistently try to convince you of something other than what you have already stated. Do not allow their determination or pushy behavior to change your mind. Continue to say “NO” and they will eventually give up. 

Do not apologize automatically:

Manipulative people are skillful at turning the tables to make everything be your fault, even when in your heart you know it was not. These types of people are always the victim. Of course, we are all human and it may seem easier to apologize to keep the peace and end the conversation, but this will just provide them with more control. Stand your ground and know manipulative people will never take responsibility for their actions.

Do not react:

Although it is not easy, the more you defend yourself or explain your reasons, the farther you fall into their web of control. Manipulative people know the way you think and will take advantage of it. They will create drama and chaos and the more emotional you become, the calmer they will feel. They want to make you seem like the crazy one and they are sane. No matter how many accusations and criticisms they throw at you, try to walk away and simply say, “I am sorry you feel that way”.

Establish clear boundaries:

Manipulative people are drawn to and prey on people pleasers because their boundaries are often weaker. Boundaries are important in all relationships as lines are clearly drawn. If there is a manipulative person in your life that continues to cross even one of your boundaries, know when it is time to walk away and not engage further. Define ahead of time what the consequences are when the person continues to disrespect you and your boundaries.

Take time to make decisions:

Often a manipulative person will be forceful and demand an answer right away. Try to never cave into their pressure because it only gives them more control. Take as much time as you need to provide them with an answer.

Keep your distance: 

The best and most challenging thing to do is to cut these manipulative people out of your life because they will try to make you feel guilty. Sometimes ignoring the person is easier because they are unaware of what is going on.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information in this post will help you deal with a manipulative person in your life or at least prepare you to handle on if you ever are forced to. Life is not easy, and we always need to do what is best for us because it is our life! If you have dealt with this type of person before, I am interested to read about it and how you handled it or knew it was happening. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday! Unfortunately, our weekend is almost over and it does not feel like we even had one. Crazy how incredibly fast the weekends go by, isn’t it? How has your weekend been? My weekend has been uneventful, which I do enjoy. My outside kitty has come to visit me every night, except for when it is raining. She has become more comfortable with me and even tried to get on my lap when I was visiting with her last night. It might sound mean, but I did not let her because I am unsure if she has fleas and I do not want my three precious inside cats to get fleas because that would not be fair to them.

Of course, like always two of my three cats did wake me up yesterday at 6:30 AM, but they did not bother me this morning! Even though they did not wake me, I was still awake early. I have been able to sit with each of them and watch TV during these two short days of our weekend. They all enjoy spending time on my lap and snuggling, which I must admit I also enjoy, well until Willow thinks it would be fun to nip at me. My husband tries telling me they are love bites, but they do hurt sometimes.

I know we do not have a choice, but are you ready for the week to begin tomorrow? Honestly, I could use a few more days to rest and recuperate, but I know that is not an option. I suppose the only thing we can do is accept our fate and take the last few hours to get ready for the new week. Hopefully, the week will not be near as bad as I am expecting and it will be filled with opportunities and hope! I do know that the three cats are not happy the week is beginning tomorrow because they much prefer to have me around all the time, even when they are sleeping!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed your weekend and stayed as safe as possible. I am working on a post that I hope to complete soon. I will give you a clue as to what it is about, manipulation. I look forward to your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

How to deal with high gas prices

In recent times we have all seen massive spikes in gas prices. While gas prices have created stress and frustrations when at the pump, it has left everyone wondering why, which is a reasonable question to ask. The situation with high gas prices did not happen overnight but has been building for decades. The United States depends heavily on other countries, such as Russia, Canada, Mexico, and Saudi Arabia for gas, but sources are becoming scarce due to increased demands in other countries.

During the summer months, the increased demand has always caused higher gas prices. The only thing that is different this year is gas prices were already too high and we may feel we need to adjust summer vacations slightly. Of course, I understand the desperate need for a vacation, especially for those who have children because the kids are on summer break from school. 

To help everyone beat the higher than we are used to gas prices, I am going to share a few tips that may help. I am sure there are many other ways, but these are tips I found through a little research. If you have any other suggestions, I would love to hear about them. 

1. Slow Down:

This is hard for me because I cannot help going a little faster than the speed limit. I always joke and say, the speed limit is just a suggestion or that I have a genetic disorder where my right foot is heavier than my left foot. Although I have never had a speeding ticket, I do not think the cops would find this funny or consider it to be a logical reason for going too fast.

Experts suggest that each 5mph you drive over 60mph is the same as paying an additional $0.15 per gallon for gas. Aggressive drivers who speed, have rapid acceleration and braking are wasting gas, which means they are also wasting money. 

2. Keep your vehicle’s maintenance updated:

This means we need to do regular tune-ups. It is also important to have a clean air filter, which is typically done when you get your oil changed. Randomly, check your tire pressure and be sure your tires are properly inflated. The proper tire pressure will be located on your tires. Also be sure you are using the proper grade of oil, which you should be able to locate in your vehicle driver’s manual.

3. Use your engine sensibly:

Avoid allowing your vehicle to idle excessively. This means you should not let your car’s engine run without moving for an extended period. When driving on the interstate, utilize your cruise control as much as possible. We normally maintain a constant speed on the interstate with limited stop-and-go traffic, so cruise control will not only help save on gas but can also help feet fatigue from constantly pressing down on the pedal. 

4. Drive Smarter:

Plan to do all errands at the same time, instead of making multiple trips out. This just requires a little better planning and time management. It might be more challenging because of COVID, but you can also try to carpool when possible. Anytime it is an option, try to telecommute. Zoom has been used much more frequently because of COVID. 

5. Lessen usage of the air conditioner:

According to GasBuddy, about 20% more fuel is used because of A/C usage. During the summer months, it is nearly impossible to not run the A/C, but we can try turning the A/C off when we are 5 minutes from our destination, parking in the shade or garage can be helpful. It is also important to keep the windows and moon, or sunroof closed when traveling at high speeds. 

Of course, I do not have to leave my house often because I work from home and get groceries delivered, but I do have to go to doctor’s appointments and pick up prescriptions for myself and my cat. Can you remember a time when gas prices were affordable? I can remember gas prices being under $1.00 a gallon when I first got my license. It has surely been crazy several decades, hasn’t it? Unfortunately, the chances of gas prices ever getting as low as they were when I first started driving are slim to none.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared useful and please if you have any other suggestions I would love to hear your thoughts. We are finally able to enjoy the much-deserved weekend and I hope you are enjoying yours. Of course, two of my cats thought it was a brilliant idea to wake me up at 06:30 AM, which I definitely did not appreciate. It is a good thing they are adorable, and I love them as much as I do or I might be ready to kick them out of the house. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

I have always known that weather conditions, extreme temperatures, and stress can create issues with how Multiple Sclerosis behaves. If I am being honest, Multiple Sclerosis tends to misbehave frequently and have crazy toddler-like temper tantrums. I am not sure which issue causes more issues but do know that combination causes massive and miserable pain. I do not enjoy complaining about the pain and know that tears do not fix a thing, but yesterday my pain was at a high that makes me wonder how I managed to make it through my workday.

Of course, it has been rainy a lot lately with some wild storms. The power did go out while I was working yesterday, but only for about fifteen minutes. There was a part of me that hoped it did not come back on so fast because of how awful I was feeling. My poor cats hate when it storms because they seem to think the thunder is going to kill them and they all hide under the bed. I swear I often think where I am living is trying to be like Seattle where it rains most days☹.

What can you do when you are in so much pain and nothing helps? Right, there is nothing that you can do. I have heard so many times that stress is the silent killer, and I could not agree more with this. Stress can cause additional pain, headaches, loss of appetite, sleep disturbances, and invade your mind. Unfortunately, I have always worried about those I care about and worry about what they may be going through in life. The world is such a mess right now. We already went through years of COVID fears and now we need to worry about Monkeypox. I mean, when is it ever going to end? Right, no one knows, so all we can do is follow the experts’ advice.

We have finally made it to the end of this week and my goodness has it been a long week! The weekend is going to begin soon, and we need to let go of all the never emotions the week has caused. The weekends are so short, so we do not need to carry the negativity from the long week into the weekend! Friday is the perfect day to just let go and I hope the quote I am sharing with you today will help you do so. I hope your week went well and you did not have to endure any unnecessary stress and hardships.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the quote I shared helps you to learn to let go of negativity and enjoy your weekend. I know I have asked y’all before to stay safe and do what is necessary with vaccines, but it is looking like Monkeypox can be extremely dangerous. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I promise to respond as quickly as I can. I will be playing catch up this weekend with comments as I do not have anything else planned. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa