Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Posted on April 30, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Happy Friday eve y’all! I hope your week is going well and you are feeling the best you can. We have almost made it through another week and I hope you are looking forward to the weekend! Do you have any plans for the weekend? I do know that some states have opened up and restrictions have been lightened. The state that I live in opened up on Monday morning and closed Monday afternoon. Pretty crazy, right?

The hope the quote I am sharing with you today will be a nice Pick-Me-Up and carry you through for one more day. I honestly have no idea how many pick me up’s there have been during the pandemic, but I do feel that now more than any other time pick me up’s are needed. We all need a little extra positivity and kindness at this time!

So, how has your week been? How are things going where you live in regards to COVID-19? My week has not been all that easy, but it is not because of the virus and is due to things that could and should have been avoided. On another note, the number of new cases of COVID-19 continues to increase daily by double digits and I can’t understand why. I mean, there are stay at home orders in place and social distancing still stands. I think the issues are people are being careless and think the virus won’t happen to them. Unfortunately, this virus is ruthless and does not discriminate. It has tormented people of all ages and I think that is so sad.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the quote I shared serves you well and I would love to know your thoughts on the quote. Hopefully your Friday eve will be a lovely day and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Importance of Love

Posted on April 29, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Over the past few years it has been obvious that while some people still understand and appreciate love, far too many others can’t seem to comprehend the meaning. I can’t imagine I am alone by thinking love isn’t something we should ever ignore or take for granted. Love impacts all of our lives in many different ways, but personally, I will never leave the house without telling my husband I love him.

Love is an intense feeling of deep affection. Love is also a powerful word that should not be taken lightly and should not be used unless it is meant. Love should not be abused or neglected. Love should be unconditional without limitations or stipulations. When you truly love another person, you should trust that person without any reservations.

Real true love includes respect, appreciation, thoughtfulness, admiration, and never causing your partner emotional distress, humiliation or any form of abuse. True love is rare, but can be found once in our lifetime and when it happens will provide a strong and lasting fondness between two dedication individuals. This means a couple could be married 50 years and are still passionate and care deeply for one another.

Love has several health benefits for all human beings that include:

Fewer Doctor’s visits-

The Health and Human Services Department discovered in one study that married people have less visits to a doctor’s office and on average shorter hospital stays.

There is another theory that believes those in a good and healthy relationship take better care of themselves.

Reduction in depression and substance abuse-

The Health and Human Service Department reported, getting and staying married reduces the amounts of depression for both men and women. This can be due to the fact social isolation causes higher rates of depression.

Lower Blood Pressure-

In a study performed in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine, it was discovered that people happily married had the best blood pressure results, with single people coming in second.

Less Anxiety-

Researchers at the State University of New York used functional MRI scans to view the brains of people in love. After comparing passionate new couples and long-term couple, both of the groups showed activation in the parts of the brain associated with intense love.

Natural Pain Control-

In a study with more than 127,000 married adults, they were less likely to have headaches and back pain.

Better Stress Management-

There is evidence that links social support and stress management.

Fewer Colds-

Loving relationships have indicated an immune system boosts, so individuals are less likely to become sick. Research performed at Carnegie Mellon University found that people the displayed positive emotions were less likely to become sick if exposed to cold and flu viruses.

Heal Faster-

Researchers at Ohio State University Medical Center gave married couples blister wounds. These wounds healed almost twice as fast with the couples that interacted lovingly compared to those that were hostile with one another.

Longer Life-

When using a study from the National Health Interview Survey, researchers discovered that people that were never married were 58% more likely to die than those that are married.

Happier Life-

A study in the Journal of Family Psychology showed happiness depended more on the quality of family relationships, rather than the levels of income.

I never knew how many different types of love there are and wanted to take a moment to share this information with you.

Eros related to passionate love and is also known as romantic love. It is worth keeping expectations lower and not get too carried away because it could become an unhealthy kind of love.
Philia is less romantic love and more the kind of love felt for sibling or good friends.
Storge is more like Philia, relating to the unconditional way parents love their children.
Agape love is something we seek, rather than something we may already feel. It refers to a state of peace that we are all-loving. This is a community state of love.
Pragma type of love might seem sad at first, but it is something most of us will experience at some point in life. This is a love formed from a need to make things work.
Philautia is a common type of love, known for self-love. It can help us grown. This form of love can give a false sense of self and become more narcissistic and self-destructive.
Ludus is a playful type of love with no commitments involved. This form of love can have parts similar to flirting, to casual and fun rather than anything long-term.

I hope you enjoyed this post about love. I think love is something that we all need in life and it can even make us stronger. What do you think? Do you feel love is something of necessity in life and it could be hard to live without? I do look forward to reading your views and I will respond as quickly as I can!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week is going well and you are feeling the best you can. I also hope y’all are staying safe and continuing to practice social distancing. Despite what anyone in Washington may say, we are not out of the woods with this virus yet. It is better to be safe than sorry. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Posted on April 27, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Happy Monday y’all! I hope you were able to enjoy your weekend, but more importantly I hope you stayed as safe as possible over the weekend! Thankfully, my husband went with me to the grocery store, which was very helpful given we bought a ton of food! We were trying to shop for two weeks and I think we might have managed this. We definitely spent enough, so it should last us at least two weeks. Of course, we both wore a mask and gloves to be as protected as we possibly could.

The funny thing was, Saturday was the first day in a while that I actually did my hair and makeup. The sad part of Saturday was an awful video we watched online from CNN. Of course, it was heartbreaking and made me cry the makeup I just applied off. A young mother Katie Coelho of two in CT, lost her husband Jonathan to COVID-19. Katie’s story is powerful and I am attaching the link to the family’s Go Fund Me page for you to visit https://www.gofundme.com/f/vbe3b-covid19-relief, and if you are able to help at all, I know she will appreciate it. I have never met Katie, but listening to her talk about her husband was very touching.

On a different note, I do have a quote to share for Motivational Monday. I do hope you will find this quote motivating and it will help start your week off the best way possible. I would love to read your thoughts on this quote and if it offered you any motivation.

I know I have said this multiple times already, but I do think it is extremely important. If the state you live in has opened and ended restrictions, it is better safer than sorry to continue with good hand hygiene and social distancing. Think about how lucky we are to have our health and loved ones, but also remember all the innocent lives that were taken because of COVID-19 and how much families would love to still have those they held closest to them around for many more years.

Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Staying sane during insane times

Posted on April 26, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Never in a million years did I ever think we would be going through a pandemic in 2020. I can’t seem to be able to wrap my mind around how many people, young and old have died because of something that was so incredibly unforeseen. How does something this deadly even come into existence? Was this manmade and created in a laboratory? And if so, was it released purposefully or accidentally? Was this meant to kill people all around the world? There are so many unanswered questions in the minds of many around the world and I believe it is during these tragic times we all need to work together through these terrifying days.

The last time there was a deadly global pandemic was the Spanish flu, also known as the 1918 H1N1 virus and was between 1918 and 1920. The Spanish flu was first identified in the United State in the spring of 1918 in military personnel. It was estimated that approximately 500 million people and accounts for one-third of the world’s population had been infected. The CDC estimated that 50 million people died from this virus worldwide with 675,000 occurring in the United States.

With the Spanish flu, the mortality rate was higher in people younger than 5 years old, between 20 and 40 years old, and those 65 years and older. High mortality among healthy people, between 20 and 40 years old was a distinctive feature of this pandemic. This virus was synthesized and evaluated; the properties it was made up with were very devastating and not well understood. Unfortunately, there was not a vaccine to protect people from the virus and no antibodies to treat secondary bacterial infections associated with influenza infection. There were limited ways to control this virus, such as isolation, quarantine, good personal hygiene, utilizing disinfectants, and limiting public gatherings.

It is mind-blowing, 102 years after the Spanish flu pandemic that killed 50 million people globally that we are facing another lethal pandemic. According to the Worldometer, as of today, there have been 2,906,751 confirmed cases worldwide and 206,669 deaths in 210 countries and territories due to COVID-19. We have only been aware of how detrimental this virus is before about 3 months, but truthfully it started in late 2019 in Wuhan, China.

The stresses and rational concerns we are all coping with can be overwhelming. The stresses can include, but isn’t limited to:

Uneasiness and distress of your health and the health of loved ones
Sleep disturbances or eating patterns
Complications concentrating
Declining of chronic and mental health conditions
Escalated use of alcohol, tobacco or other drugs

The good news is there are numerous ways we can control the amount of stress we are feeling. Of course, everyone responds, feels, and copes with stress in different ways, but I do hope the ways to cope with the stress I am going to share will be beneficial for you:

Constantly watching or reading about the pandemic can be very disturbing, so the mind should take breaks from all of it. The continuous devastatingly heartbreaking information we are hearing and reading can take a massive toll on us, but we do have the ability to control this.
Don’t forget to take care of your body. A few examples to care for your body are:

Stretch daily, do deep breathing exercises or meditate
Get plenty of sleep
Develop a regular exercise regimen
Avoid alcohol and drugs, they will only create more issues causing stress

Remember to take time to unwind. Attempt doing other activities you find enjoyable.
Find alternate ways to connect with others, while we are still maintaining social distancing. Discuss the concerns you have with people you are comfortable confiding in.

Many people around the world are feeling extreme levels of stress and uncertainty at this moment. As we try to maintain some sense of normalcy in our lives, we also need to understand how staying optimistic will help our mental health and immune system stay as strong as it can. Even if where you live ends restrictions staying home if you feel unwell and continuing social distancing should remain in effect until there are far fewer cases and fatalities.

Over the years, many studies have provided an interconnection between good overall health and optimism. Of course, some skeptics that would prefer to argue that it is more an individual’s good health that makes them positive instead of vice versa. Regardless if the studies are correct or not, it is not a far-fetched thought to say optimistic people are generally happier than pessimistic people.

Whether you are an optimistic person or a pessimistic person, I am going to share a few simple ideas that may help improves your positive outlooks!

Implement gratefulness. During times when life seems desolated, there are still many things we should be grateful for. Trying starting a gratefulness journal. Acknowledge both notable and small items you are thankful for. Include as much detail into this practice as you can. Important things could be your home, family, and friends, the ability to provide food for yourself and family, and any other things that are necessities. The smaller things might be simple short-lived pleasures such as a good book, a calming warm bath, or a hot cup of coffee or tea.
Create a positive routine that you begin your day with. Even once we make it through this crisis that has plagued our lives for months now, morning routines are vital! It is best to not immediately check the news when you wake up; the news isn’t going anywhere and will still be available to view once you have had time to center yourself. It is astonishing how much a simple morning smile can begin your day off on a positive note.
Slow down. Many of us are always in a huge rush to do things, which includes jumping to conclusions with information we heard on the news. There are some positive aspects of being isolated in our homes, it does allow us the ability to pace ourselves and not dwell on our anxieties caused by the pandemic. Focusing on things that are surrounding us in the present moment can be beneficial. Turn down the volume of our thoughts relating to stress and pay closer attention to our inner voices.
Relax your entire body. Pay very close attention to your muscles, if you begin feeling your shoulders and or jaw tensing, take slow deep breaths and relax. Be aware of your muscles from head to toe and your breathing during the day, which will also assist with your mindfulness.
Ensure that exercise is a part of your daily routine. If you are already an active person, you have probably already made adjustments to your workouts being at home instead of a gym. If however, you are not very active, try to incorporate some form of exercise into your life. Exercising can be beneficial both physically and mentally because it releases endorphins that target the feelings of positivity.
Initiate and encourage a digital community. We all should be continuing to practice social distancing, but that does not mean we are not able to stay in touch with family and friends. Modern technology has given ways for video calls; group chats, and even allows us access to virtual parties and concerts, which are all amazing options. I had my first ever virtual call on Wednesday with my doctor’s office, which I could to be a fabulous way to communicate with the Nurse Practitioner without subjecting myself to possibly being exposed to COVID-19. During these times of massive uncertainty, it is crucial to know some of our friends and family members are dealing with the same stresses we are and maybe we could offer one another some positivity.
Utilize diaphragmatic breathing, which will assist in strengthening an important muscle that helps us breathe, our diaphragm. You can also begin to include meditation into your life and doing multiple short mindfulness exercises throughout the day. A useful pattern to begin your day with is gratefulness meditation, and then incorporates a breathing exercise halfway through your day, and sleep meditation at bedtime. If you would like to read some great meditation examples, I encourage you to visit Bella’s website https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/, she gives some fabulous and extremely helpful advice. Diaphragmatic breathing also has other benefits including lowering stress hormones and your heart rate and helps you to relax.
Embrace humor and laughter in your life daily. We have all probably heard that laughter can be the best medicine, so it would make perfect sense why this is extremely important. The ability to find humor daily can improve your positiveness and benefit from a more optimistic nature. There have been several studies confirming the short-term and long-term benefits of laughter on the mind and body. The benefits include stimulating our organs, lessening stress levels, enhancing blood circulation, building up our immune system, and alleviating physical pains we may have.
Avoid or at least walk away from distressing discussions and situations. Due to the fears involved with the pandemic, everyone is very well aware of; massive amounts of stress are also a strong possibility. During these times it can be easy to be pulled into pessimistic interactions which can intensify how we were already feeling. We can also become obsessed with the news, which alone can create overwhelming levels of panic. It is important to be aware and knowledgeable about what is happening in the world, it is also crucial to have a healthy balance between the amount of news we are taking in and a daily routine in efforts to maintain our mental health.
Hold onto faith. This does not necessarily have anything to do with religion, but if you are religious you might be able to gain strength and optimism from your beliefs. When I stated hold onto faith, I am suggesting your faith in humanity, science, medical professionals, and the good in mankind. It’s about maintaining faith in our resilience, kindness, empathy, commitment, and the desire for a good healthy life for all.

We were all leading the life we yearned for before the pandemic and there is no reason we can’t get back to that point in time. It is going to require patience, persistence, and a great deal of resilience. I do think it is also best, regardless of what the governor of your state or president says, to avoid gatherings of too many people, practice good hand-washing, and definitely social distancing.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information provided was helpful to you and your family. I would love to read your thoughts on all of this and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Music & Emotions

Posted on April 24, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

How many times have you noticed how music can stimulate powerful emotions? I already know that I am without a doubt a highly emotional person, so I guess it makes sense there have been many times a song was written with so many genuine emotions it brought me to tears.

In the psychology world, it has been thought that pleasurable music can lead to the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine. There are various reasons people listen to music daily which includes regulating, enhancing, and lessening the unpleasant emotional states of stress and fatigue. Listening to music generates emotions, relaxation, and gratification for listeners. The following reasons are other ideas of what music can bring into our lives.

Musical Pleasure-

Enjoyment of music involves the same pleasure center of the brain as anything else we may find pleasurable. There has been evidence indicating an aesthetic stimulus like music , clearly targets the dopamine systems of the brain, which normally involves immensely reinforcing and addictive behaviors.

Studies have been done where those involved listened to their favorite songs after they were given naltrexone, which is a medication that treats addiction disorders. Researchers have discovered that when individuals participating in the study took naltrexone the songs that were once their favorite songs, no longer gave any pleasure. It was also noted that approximately 5% of the population does not experience chills when listening to music. The inability to obtain pleasure clearly from music is referred to as musical anhedonia.

Musical Anticipation-

When music is somewhat complex and unpredictable it can be even more appreciated.

Pure and clear emotions-

There is an intellectual element involved with the appreciation for music. The dopamine system is unable to work if isolated and needs interaction with other regions of the brain. There has been evidence indicating that people who frequently react emotionally to aesthetic musical stimuli have stronger white matter connectivity between their auditory cortex and areas connecting with emotional processing.

Memories-

One of the most pivotal ways musical events stimulate emotions is with memories. The late physician, Dr. Oliver Sacks stated, musical emotions and musical memory can continue to survive long past all other memories have vanished. The reason musical memory is so strong is that listening to music captivates several parts of the brain, activating connections and generates associations.

Action Inclinations-

Music can cause strong action inclinations to move with the music, such as dancing or foot-tapping. Our internal rhythmus, such as heart rate or respiration can become one with the music, speed up, and slowing down with the song.

Emotional Mimic-

Music can recall emotions at many different levels including individual, interpersonal, and intergroup levels. As listeners, our response to what the music is expressing emotionally, whether that emotion is happy or sad we will tend to replicate those same emotions

Consumer Behaviors-

The background music that plays in supermarkets or other stores has an astonishingly powerful influence on the consumer’s behaviors. A remarkable example of this was a study done with customers in the drinks section at a supermarket. When French music was playing, the sale of French wine was significantly higher than all other wines. Then when there was German music playing, the sale of German wine was higher than all other wines. Next time you are at a grocery store, check out the section where wine is sold and see what type of music you hear.

Regulates Moods-

During uncertain times, like we are all experiencing in recent days, people will utilize music to ease their troubling thoughts. Music is also used to achieve different goals, such as maintaining focused on specific and complex tasks. Sad music may help us cope with agonizingly painful situations, like a break-up or death of a loved one. There might be some lyrics that resonate with us because of our personal experiences.

Perception of Time-

Time can go by much faster when listening to music we enjoy. Have you ever noticed music playing in waiting rooms? It does make time go by faster and the waits do not seem as unbearable, you can almost forget how long you have been waiting. Supermarkets think music will make consumers stay in the store longer and buy more items. Music can divert our attention when we are waiting and even keep patience more in check.

How do you feel about music ? Is there a specific type of music you enjoy more than any other? I honestly love most types of music. I do not listen to country music because it almost always makes me cry and I don’t need any other forces to make me cry. I mean I can’t get through the news without ending up in tears and most shows I watch can also make me cry. Yes, I am sometimes way too overly emotional.

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today. I hope you enjoyed the information within this post and would love to read your thoughts and what music you enjoy most. I hope your weekend is as enjoyable as possible because y’all deserve happiness! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , compassion, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday!

Posted on April 24, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Happy Friday y’all! I hope you had a great week and you are looking forward to a wonderful and safe weekend! Please remember with whatever you do this week, we are not out of the woods with COVID-19, so please do what is required to keep yourself, your family, and everyone else safe!

I hope that the quote I am sharing with y’all today will help you to let go of anything negative that occurred during the week. Friday is a great day to let go of negative energy and start your weekend off with as much positive as you can get! I know during a time of so much uncertainty it isn’t easy to see the positives in life, but there is still so much we should be thankful for.

I hope your Friday is great and you are able to be stress-free and happy! I want to thank y’all for visiting my site today and I do look forward to reading your comments on this quote. I am just curious, how was your week? I know many places are still closed or work from home, what is your company doing? Hopefully, where you work is being understanding and handling this pandemic with compassion and respect!

I hope y’all never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , compassion, and many positive vibes! Please, whatever your plans are for the weekend stay safe and take the necessary precautions.

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday!

Posted on April 23, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Happy Friday eve y’all! I hope your week has gone well and you are continuing to stay safe! Unfortunately, we are still not free from COVID-19. It is important that we all continue to do what is necessary to stay safe. Hopefully, you will still be able to enjoy the upcoming weekend.

I have already told y’all that even during any shut downs that are still in place, I want to continue my normal blogging routine. It is my hope y’all will find the quote I am sharing today a great pick me up and carrying you through until the weekend! I would love to know what you think of this quote and promise to respond as quickly as I can!

I do have several blog ideas that I am working on and plan to have them completed by the end of the weekend. During this time we are all battling this pandemic, I have had a lot of free time to dedicate my time to what I am most passionate about and I have truly appreciated all of the support you have offered.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a great day and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What do you think?

Posted on April 22, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

We have all heard the president of the United States and many of the southern states want to open. The president seems to think that if he can open the economy, it would be the best decision for the country. There have even been many protests throughout the country of people wanting to get back to work and they think allowing everything to open as normal they would be able to care for their families. Is it really a good idea to open everything up as it was before COVID-19, even when the number of new cases and fatalities isn’t slowing down?

It is just my personal opinion if states are to open before we have the proper number of tests available to everyone and the numbers only continue to raise it gives a false sense of security. When we are given a false sense of security in a matter of months there will be a massive number of new cases and even more deaths.

One good thing I did read today was that all schools in South Carolina will not reopen until the fall. At least children will not be going to school where they can interact with other kids that may be infected with COVID-19. Children being around others that have the virus would only increase the risks of parents and grandparents becoming infected as well and for the grandparents, it is very risky.

If y’all have been following the news you have seen how many innocent people lost their lives because of the virus. At the beginning of this pandemic, we were told that the elderly were at higher risk of the virus taking their life, but that was not true. Unfortunately, there have also been many young healthy people that lost their lives as well. It is very clear and sad that this virus can end the life of anyone. I guess you can say the virus does not discriminate.

Even though some states are lifting some restrictions, I think it would be wise if everyone maintains social distancing. I also think it would be better if everyone continued to wear masks when going out of the safety of your home. I know uncomfortable wearing a mask can be, but isn’t it better to be uncomfortable and alive?

I know I kind of went off on a rant about COVID-19, but what do you think about everything we have been dealing with for many weeks now? Do you think opening the country up is a good idea? What do you think is more important the lives of human beings or the economy? I am sure you can guess that I think human life is way more important than the economy. I mean the economy won’t do well if people continue to die, right?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your thoughts on what I have written. We are all entitled to our opinions, so I promise to not be offended if you disagree with me and would love to understand your thought processes. I hope your week is going well so far and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday!

Posted on April 20, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Happy Monday y’all! I honestly lost track of how many Monday’s it has been since the stay at home orders were put in place, but I do know many states are trying to put an end to those orders. Personally, I do not think it is the right time because it gives a false sense of security. Truthfully, I do not think the orders should end until there are NO new cases of COVID-19. The numbers might be stabilizing in some states, but that isn’t happening in the state I live in. COVID-19 still scares the heck out of me because it has already taken way too many lives and I do not want anyone else to become another number. With the weaker immune system I have because of the medication I take for Multiple Sclerosis it would be easy to become infected. Until the number of cases drastically decreases I will plan to continue using a mask and gloves when out of the house, as I hope everyone else will do the same! If you do have to leave your house, please keep practicing social distance and wash your hands frequently!

The quote I want to share with y’all today, I hope will offer motivation to start your week off the best way possible. I do think the people we surround ourselves with says a lot about who we are. We should only surround ourselves with people that show respect, compassion, love, kindness, and encouragement. If we end up around others that do not respect who we are, they will only bring us down and we do not deserve that! I pride myself in treating everyone with respect and equality. I have never mistreated anyone and try to see the best in everyone, until they prove me wrong.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope the quote I shared with y’all offered you the motivation needed to begin another week! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Art Of Not Letting Things Bother You

Posted on April 19, 2020 by Positively Alyssa

Our lives are full of small problems, huge problems, and everything in between. These problems we face can require a significant amount of resilience to protect our emotional well-being. Allowing someone else the power to dictate our emotions should never be allowed. We must remain in control of our happiness and peace because no one else cares as much as we do.

We are only human and have feelings that should never be ignored or dismissed. It is logical and normal to have negative emotions when we feel we weren’t treated fairly or things didn’t go the way we thought they would.

With all of this being said, there has to be a way to overcome these problems, right? I have discovered a 7-step process to alleviate the negative emotions felt and establish ways to not allow things to cause us distress.

Recognize the circumstances:

An uncomplicated way to resolve a problem is to recall what exactly the problem is. It may help to break the issue problem down into a simple feasible statement, which will allow you to see clearly what you are enduring.

Understand what and why:

We must be able to comprehend what we are feeling to develop the best approach to handling what we are feeling. If we do not understand what we are feeling, we will not be capable of diffusing those emotions. Whatever we are dealing with can cause an intense combination of emotions. There might be times we are sad, angry, frustrated, and disappointed all at the same time. So having a plan to deal with our emotions will be beneficial to secure our mental well-being.

What are the facts of the situation?

It is very easy for our emotions to blur what is real and true. We might be so angry that we are unable to see our role in the situation or be able to scrutinize the circumstances. Focusing solely on the facts of any situation does not require any of our emotions because facts are or are not. The facts can keep us balance as we cope with the issues.

Ask yourself, “What am I culpable for in this situation?”

We have already determined the facts regarding the situation we are dealing with. Now we need to acknowledge any part of the situation we might be at fault for. This step is important for diffusing conflicts because many actions of others are directed by what is going through their minds. Periodically things are going to happen and we have no control over them.

Feel the way we do and then let it go:

Sometimes we will not be able to avoid the issues that trouble us. It is normal and healthy to have negative emotions when unforeseen and or unpleasant things occur in our life. The negative emotions we experience force us to take action to ameliorate our situation. When we are unhappy with something in our life, our brain persuades us to do something to alter our situation.

We can only allow ourselves so much time to think about the negative situation before it causes us to become cynical. Continuing to dwell on the negative situation will not change anything. We need to stay active drawing our attention to something besides the negative event that took place. It is possible we need to process how we are feeling several times before we manage to find tranquility in the situation.

It is time to take action:

Our negative feelings can have an invaluable purpose in advising us to do something about the circumstances put on us. We are not able to control what we are faced with in life, but we can control the way we react to situations. It may help if we try having a civil conversation with the other person involved. If you feel that isn’t an option you could ask someone trusted and neutral to mediate the conversation.

Do not be hard on yourself:

Unfortunately, plans do not always work out the way we hoped they would. There might be times we need to accept what has occurred just to save our peace and happiness in life.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good weekend and you are feeling the best you possibly can. I also hope the information provided in this post was beneficial for you. Life can get so complicated and it is easy to become frustrated. The frustrations we feel may cause us to lash out towards the person we are upset with. I would love to read what you thought of this information and promise to respond as quickly as I can!