~Happy Friday Eve~

Happy Friday eve, y’all! How has your week been and how ready for the weekend are you? I can say that I have been ready for the weekend since Monday morning or maybe even Sunday evening! I am sure it has something to do with having to drive on an awful road to go to my appointment on Tuesday, but this seems to have been a really LONG week! I normally do Pick-Me-Up Thursday posts, but I am doing things a little differently today because another post I am working I have been working on has me a little upset. I am hoping to have it completed soon, but I will give you a little information as to what it is about. I am writing about the horrendous treatment from law enforcement of unarmed Black Americans. This has had me upset because I cannot understand why this is continuing to occur. 

As I already mentioned, I am doing things slightly differently today and sharing a quote that I think is beneficial, but for various reasons. There are times when we all want alone time and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe we need time to clear our heads and think about random situations we have experienced. There might also be times when we want alone time to protect ourselves from further disappointments. Unfortunately, humans can disappoint us, some more than others. To be honest, there are some people I try to avoid because all they have done is disappoint me, which causes too much emotional pain.

Now that the weekend will be here soon, do you have any plans? The only plans I have are to finish the post I mentioned earlier, work on what I am doing for the writing competition, and hopefully sleep in at least one of the days. If I have any energy I need to burn off, I will work on cleaning the house. The weather continues to change daily, so there is no telling if it is going to be cold or warm. If it rains, that will be a wonderful time to rest with the cats on the couch and binge watch something on Netflix!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will do my best to respond as quickly as possible. Please stay tuned for the post I am working on and hope to have it published by Sunday. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that you have a good day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

My Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you have had an enjoyable and relaxing week. Unfortunately, the weekend is nearing its end and it will be time to prepare for the new week soon. Why does it feel like it was Friday only 30 minutes ago, and we were excited about the week? The workweeks can be painfully long, and the weekends are always way too short, which seems unfair. I wish there was a way to flip-flop how the weeks were and we had at least four days off in a row and work the other three days but no more than 6 hours. Every company always “preaches” how they believe in providing work-life balance for their employees, but I am not sure how anyone is getting work-life balance when we are working more than when we are home with family.

How does it affect you when a friend goes through an extremely difficult situation, especially when the situation is something you also experienced? I know I did a post about my experience with being laid off when it happened. It has been a few years now, but the emotions surrounding this are still raw. Anytime I get worried about work being very slow, I start to panic because I fear I will go through another layoff. Of course, the company that laid me off was in the mortgage industry and the company I am at now is different and has ZERO to do with mortgages, but it was expected due to the economy. Anyways, I friend I made while working with mortgages sent me a text on Saturday letting me know she had been laid off.

When I am friends with someone, even if I have never met the person face to face, but you worked closely with them via emails and phone calls, I care about the person. It seems like I can feel their pain and it is even more intense when a friend goes through something I went through. Going through a layoff can have a strong and negative impact on your life. It feels like the rug was pulled from beneath you and you land on your rear end. When someone gets laid off, there is immediate stress felt deeply for how they will be able to care for themselves and their family. Something that has this strong of an impact on your life can stay with you for years. I think I might have a mild case of PTSD because of what I went through and knowing someone else went through this breaks my heart.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and you have had a great weekend! Sadly, tomorrow is Monday again and we are in for another 5 days of working 8-hour days. On Tuesday, I have my routine follow-up appointment with my pain doctor, and these appointments always go the same way. The only bad part of these appointments is having to drive on what I think is the worst road in the world, but maybe it will not be too bad. Yeah right, who am I kidding? There is so much road construction, which causes many delays I doubt anything will be any different from the last time I had one of these follow-up appointments. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Saturday Thoughts

Happy Saturday! I hope your weekend is going well so far and you are trying to do something that makes you happy and helps you to relax. Anyone who must work five days in a row can understand how exhausting it can be. Even though I work from home, being forced to sit in front of a computer for eight LONG hours is draining, but when you add in listening to people complain it makes it feel even LONGER! I am so thankful for the weekend and even though two days are never enough, I will plan to appreciate and enjoy each day to the fullest. Of course, this does mean that I will do as little as possible and anything I do will be because I want to😊!

I mentioned in a previous post that I am considering doing another writing competition. I think once I can stop debating with myself if my writing is good enough, I will mostly just try. However, I cannot decide if I should do another personal essay or if I should do a research-based article. I know that doing a personal essay sounds easier and with it being a personal essay it might show more heart, but I am not sure if that is the way I want to go. I think if I do a research-based article, I could still add a lot of personality and heart. I have several ideas for the research-based article and am planning to do an outline for each because I think that will help me make a final decision.

I have a question for anyone reading this because I do value your opinions and advice. Have you ever done a writing competition? If so, how did you choose the topic to write about? Many of you have been loyal followers for a while with my blog, so I think you understand my writing style and abilities, what would you suggest I do about this competition? The deadline for this is not until May, but I prefer to prepare for things early. I do not like to wait until the last minute because so many things can go wrong in life, and I think it is best to have plenty of time to make necessary corrections!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I know we are all busy in life, so I do appreciate you reading what I have shared and I am looking forward to reading your comments, and advice! I hope you will be able to enjoy your weekend and do something for yourself. I think many people are always doing things for others and it is important to do something for ourselves at least once a week, more would be better! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

I always prefer to think of today as Friday eve because it sounds much better than Thursday! How has your week been? For some reason, even though it has not been a super busy week, it has felt incredibly long. Life can be so exhausting because it seems like someone always needs something or someone feels the need to complain. I am not sure what people think complaining is going to accomplish, except drive others crazy. Maybe that is their goal or maybe they just like to hear their voice. No matter what I go through in life, I do try to never complain because it does nothing positive!

We have managed to make it through most of this week and only have one final day to survive because the weekend returns! I think we could all use a little pick-me-up to get through one more day, which hopefully, will not be too terrible! Unfortunately, we too often must deal with people who are unkind and rude, which none of us deserve. I hope the quote that I am sharing will help you handle these poorly behaved people and that you know that you are MUCH better than that! I do still believe when people are rude to others, they are just unhappy with themselves and want to make others feel just as badly as they do.

Now that we are so close to the weekend, do you have any plans? The only thing I know I am going to do is, go through my closet and decide what I am going to donate. I think this is important to do every so often because there are so many people that are in need and if we have things we are not using, there is no reason to keep them. I used to be better about doing this every few months because there was a place where we used to live that helped women and children who were in an abusive environment. Regardless of if I can find another place like that where we are living now, there are still so many homeless the need warm clothes in the cooler weather.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote was a nice pick-me-up for you. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Always remember, YOU are important and YOU deserve nothing but the best in life. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

The good news is we somehow managed to survive Monday, which tends to be the most challenging day of the week! Yesterday, was much busier than it has been for a few weeks now. More work meant there were many more customers who thought their orders and problems were the MOST important. Thankfully, I am good at providing good customer service and giving them my undivided attention. It does help that I have friends in the other departments that can help resolve issues quickly and seamlessly! I only wish that everyone I deal with did things the same way because my dentist still has not spoken to me about the issues I have been dealing with since my tooth extraction. The nonstop static sound playing in my ears and head is incredibly annoying!

Moving along to the second day of this week. Tuesday should be a lot calmer and not as busy, but we will see. I do not mind busy days because it makes the day go by SO much faster! Today, I do have a few meetings, one of which is my normal one-on-one with my supervisor, which I never mind because I adore her! Considering we made it through Monday, each day should get better until we make it through the week. I always think it is important to try to seek out calmness during the week and I hope the quote I am sharing provides that to you! It is not easy to find peace in this world because it is so chaotic and full of hateful situations that we see on the news. I do try my best to avoid the news because it is so depressing and there is not a lot that I can do.

How did your week start? I know it is not easy, but letting things get you stressed is not worth it. It is important to try to understand the things you do have control over and not waste your time on what you have no control over. The only thing stress does is make matters worst and can cause unnecessary health issues, and if you live in the United States costs more money because our healthcare system is very unfair. Of course, I say this, and I do allow stress to consume me, which causes MANY issues with Multiple Sclerosis. 

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have enjoyed what I shared and that you found the quote a nice reminder of peace. Staying at peace and maintaining that peace is what will help us all through our time in this world. I hope you are having a good week and your Tuesday is filled with everything that makes you happy and content! I do look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you have been able to enjoy your weekend😊! It is so amazing how short the weekends are, but how quickly the months pass by. It feels like January just began and yet we are more than halfway through the month. Were you able to do anything you wanted to over the weekend? Honestly, I have tried spending the weekend doing nothing. Unfortunately, I have been experiencing the VERY unwelcome. MS Hug again. I am not sure why this MS Hug was not made aware of social distancing because it has gotten WAY too close for me. I have always been uncomfortable when people get too close to me because I appreciate my personal space. I know that it will pass, but it is not passing soon enough. A heating pad helps some and no number of tears make will it go away any faster☹.

Even though things did not go the way I would have hoped the first time I tried, I am considering doing another writing competition. The difference in the one I am thinking about doing is I have a choice to either do a personal essay or I can do an article based on something I have researched. I have always enjoyed researching and think this would be an exciting adventure. The bad part about trying this is that I have always questioned my abilities and never thought that I was good enough. Of course, I also think that if I do not at least try I will always wonder what could have been. Do any of you have any advice or suggestions?

For most people, Sunday is a day to rest and prepare for the week ahead of us. Normally, I try getting laundry done today and anything else I was not able to do during the week. Today, where I live is rainy with a slight chill in the air, but I will still finish the one load of laundry I did not get done yet and relax with the cats on the couch. I am also going to think about writing ideas for the competition that I may or may not participate in. Who am I kidding? I do fully plan to do the competition because if I do not, I will always wonder what might have happened.

What do you think about change? Do you think that in 2023, the world should be more accepting of others and the way they choose to live THEIR lives? Do you think we should have evolved much more than many have? I am not trying to push my views onto anyone else, but I do not think anything should trouble our lives unless it negatively affects our daily lives. It does not affect my life if two people get married out of love, even if they are of the same sex. Another thing that does not affect my daily life is transgender. The United States is SUPPOSED to be a free country and unless we have been lied to for decades, we can all live our lives the way we want, which means we are allowed to love who we love, be whoever we want to be, follow the religion we want and read the bible associated with that religion, and anything else as long as it does not harm another person!

Do you think that our governments tell us the truth? Would it be so hard to believe that we are not being told the truth about things in this world? Why are many of us not being treated fairly and able to have healthcare that is the best for us, which would be free or at least a lot more affordable? Why do so many have to suffer from an illness we are told there is no cure for? Would it be so hard to believe that there are cures for many of the diseases in the world, but only for an extremely HIGH amount? I do believe anything is possible!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that you are having a good weekend. I know some of what I have written can be a little controversial and some of you may disagree with me, which is completely within your rights. I would love the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Kindness is the way of life

We have successfully made it through the first day of the week and I hope it was a good day for y’all. I am thankful for my job and the people I work with, especially during this slow time of year. It can be easy to get discouraged in this life, but it is wonderful to have family, friends, and co-workers to make it a little easier to tolerate. Even though work has been rather slow, I try to help my co-workers because I value them and want to help them keep things on track, and so they do not feel overwhelmed. It can be exhausting when things pile up due to meetings or training, and some people have children they need to tend to. I feel like taking a little off their full plates when I can help them not get too overwhelmed and frustrated.

We never know what another person is going through in their life. Many people will put on a fake smile to hide their pain because they do not want anyone to know they are going through something complicated and mentally draining. They hide their emotional pain by acting as though their life is happy and they are not suffering silently. Others that are going through something in their personal life that is problematic and troublesome might behave negatively with an abrupt tone because they are angry and or frustrated with something personal. Even though it is not easy, we need to not take their behavior personally.

Instead of reacting negatively to someone who says something harsh or behaves rudely, we should learn to take a step back and think about what that person may be going through. If this is someone that we know and understand their personality, we should be able to figure out if something is different. It should be easy to know if their behavior is normal or out of the ordinary. There is someone that I know that can be really kind and understanding most of the time, but every once in a while her demeanor changes drastically, and not for the better. I tend to ignore the negative behavior of this person because I do know she is battling with something on a personal level. Instead of reacting in the same way she is, I do the opposite and treat her kindly.

If we react with emotions every time someone acts negatively, we would constantly be dealing with hurt feelings. Then if we speak out of hurt feelings with a negative tone and say something that makes the other person feel even worse than they did before, we will never be able to erase those hurtful words. Too many people resort to suicide when they cannot handle life anymore and we would never want our mean words to be the last words another person hears. I am not saying it will change anything, but sometimes all a person needs to hear when they are struggling are kind, supportive, compassionate, and loving words.

I think if we could all just try being nicer and more understanding of others the world might be a happier and better place to live. Maybe if we all try spreading kindness, love, compassion, and understanding, it would catch on and spread as far as and beyond negativity. I believe we can all admit that negativity can spread like wildfire, so why can kindness and love not as well? None of this should take too much energy and should be rather easy😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and my words resonated with you. Many people reading this might be battling with a medical issue, which I do understand is not easy, so it should be so easy for us to be kind to others regardless of how they behave. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

2023 Goals and Habits

Hello, the first Monday of 2023! Now that 2022 is behind us and we are starting this new year with a fresh start, we can set new goals without feeling too much pressure because we have the entire year to accomplish them😊! As I said in my post yesterday, I do not make New Year’s Resolutions because I feel they are pointless and most people, including myself, never stay with them. It is always important to make goals that are attainable or create new habits that may help us to achieve our goals. We should only set a few goals that we want to achieve because they are meaningful to us. Setting too many goals or new habits can be overwhelming and we may end up getting burnt out and then give up, which no one wants to do.

For the new year, one of my goals is to learn ways to not be so hard on myself. I have always been my own worst critic and I know this is not healthy. We should want to stay motivated and encouraged in life, which is impossible to do when we are constantly criticizing everything we do. There is already far too much negativity and, in this world, and we do not need to add to that by insulting ourselves. Instead of always telling myself that I am not good enough or that I am doing something wrong, I am going to try only repeating uplifting and encouraging words to myself daily!

Another goal or habit I want to do this year is to try doing a blog at least five times each week. I want to open my horizons and write about different topics that are meaningful to me. I have always had a deep love and passion for writing, so I think it is extremely important to try new things and learn different ways to write. I would love to try doing a writing contest again and not back out before I finish the essay because I think my essay will not be good enough. We never know what we are capable of unless we try, right?

Something else I want and need to do is find ways to limit stress in life. Even though I know that stress is the silent killer, I tend to allow myself to stress about things that I have no control over. It seems silly to be able to understand and admit that I stress about things I have no control over because it is clear there is nothing that I can do to change the outcomes, so what is the purpose? There are many things in life we have no control over and should not waste time thinking about because there are also many things we can control, which are mostly our reactions to situations and the way we treat others. We will never have any control over how others behave, so it is senseless to try.

There are certain types of books that I enjoy reading and need to start making more time during the day to read. I have a few books that are on my to-read list but have neglected the books because I am too tired or cannot find the time to read them. Even if it is only 20 or 30 minutes each day, I should be able to make time to read a little. Reading helps to relax after a long day and can help people sleep better!

One thing I will always keep doing is being kind and respectful to others. It is 2023 now and things should be much different than they are. I do not know why people stopped evolving but decided to devolve to an extremely terrible level. I will do everything that I can to help others see things in a fair and better way, but I know some that are stuck in their ignorant ways, and nothing will change them.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I look forward to reading your comments and learning about your goals for the new year. I hope your week begins well and gets even better with each day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Post of 2023

Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tuesday after a holiday

The Tuesday after a long weekend and a holiday always seems like a Monday on a massive amount of steroids. Of course, work for me has not been all that busy, so I am sure today will not be too bad. The only hard part is going back to the same old work week. It never fails, even on weekends I still wake up at the same time, but at least when it is the weekend I do not have to sit in front of a computer for eight very long hours! I hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend and you enjoyed yourself safely!

Lately, when I can do posts, I have been writing about things that are on my mind and troubling me. The quote I am sharing with you today is in a sense following the same kinds of things that I have written about. It does not matter which country we live in, we are all living in the same world. With that said, we should want a peaceful life without conflicts and violence. There is nothing positive that comes from hate, violence, and conflicts. It is important, to be honest, but it is also extremely important to realize how much our words and actions can harm another person. I have always believed that if I do not have anything nice to say, it is better to stay silent. We cannot take our hurtful words back or the harm we caused another person.

The weather has been slightly crazy and very unpredictable. The past few days have been super cold around the country, which over the holiday weekend caused many some additional challenges. Unfortunately, there were many that had to manage without power in the incredibly chilly temperatures. With as cold as it was, all I wanted was there to be snow. That is something I ALWAYS miss at Christmas because as a child I always had a white Christmas. How have you been dealing with the weather challenges?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful day😊! Try to remember that anything we cannot do tomorrow is another day to try again😊! Instead of thinking about how busy you are today and how much you were not at work, think about your amazing weekend, celebrating the holiday. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa