Gun Violence & Mental Health

Unfortunately, there are so many tragedies happening in the United States, that many people have become desensitized. Sadly, in the five months of 2022, there have already been 213 mass shootings. As a result of the incredibly high number of mass shootings, 17,000 people, and 650 of this number were innocent children had their lives cut short. For an incident to be considered a mass shooting, four or more people are shot, injured, or killed, but these are typically a larger number of people.

On Tuesday, May 24th, a mass shooting took place at an elementary school in Texas. Nineteen innocent children and two adult teachers were killed. Tuesday was marked the deadliest school shooting in Texas history. According to reports from CNN, the gunman performed this heinous act alone. Before the 18-year-old high school dropout went to the elementary school, he shot his grandmother, allegedly texted a 15-year-old girl in Germany about his plans for the elementary school, and then took his grandmother’s truck to head to the school to carry out his deranged plans.

Gun violence is not something new in the United States but has been a problem for decades. In 1987, after a British gunman killed 16 people, the country banned semiautomatic weapons, which was the weapon that was used. After a school shooting in 1996, the country proceeded in the same manner and banned most handguns. At this time and after several bans, the country has one of the lowest gun-related deaths in the developed world.

Australia acted with gun-related violence and deaths after a massacre in 1996. The country prompted a mandatory gun buyback. It has been estimated as many as one million firearms were melted down making them useless and not deadly. The occurrence of mass shootings has decreased from once every 18 months to once every 26 years.

Our Canadian neighbors have also taken action against gun violence. Following a mass shooting 33 years ago in 1989, Canada tightened their gun laws. Other countries such as Germany in 2002, New Zealand in 2019, and Norway last year also tightened their gun laws.

With the levels of gun violence and innocent lives lost in the United States, something needs to change. Too many are caught up in their 2nd amendment right to see the bigger and more critical issues. Everyone wants their right to bear arms upheld, but what about the innocent people who lost their life’s right to a safe life?

I do realize that mental health in the United States is neglected, but something can be done about gun laws. We can hardly watch the news without hearing about shooting somewhere. There are innocent lives lost and families affected daily. Mental health and gun laws need to be narrowed and changed immediately. In the United States, we must worry about children going to school, going to the grocery store, movie theater, or anywhere outside the safety of our homes! Are we going to wait to fight for change until it hits close to home and someone we love is killed by a mentally unstable gunman?

It has taken me several days to be able to put this post out because it is extremely emotional. I could not read through the different news reports about this because it kept bring tears to my eye. I cannot imagine what the families that lost children and loved ones are going through. There is no logical reason for the recent issues that took place in Texas, and most are left to ask, was this man mentally ill? If this 18-year-old had gotten the help needed, would the 21 people killed still be alive? The 18-year-old gun man’s family was in shock he would shoot the grandmother he loved in the face or kill 19 innocent children and 2 teachers. The information I found was based on CNN who spoke to the mother of the disturbed 18-year-old.

Regardless of anyone’s views on what should happen with gun control, we can all probably agree that the mental health of everyone needs to be addressed. Many people feel ashamed of any mental instabilities they may have and will cause them to avoid getting the help needed out of fear of rejection and negative judgments. No one in this world is perfect and sometimes we may need help. Please if you know anyone that is struggling, help them find a professional that can help them get adequate help. I understand how difficult it can be to admit needing help, but the following website offers different types of help https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know how hard it is to read what I shared, but it is important to know what is going on in the country. Yes, it is depressing and tragic, but there is help. Even if we know someone that is struggling, we can try listening to the person, but when it is more urgent than anything you can do and it is too crucial to wait, you can call 911. Feel free to leave comments and I will respond as soon as I am able to. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

It is hard to believe, that we are back to the start of the week again. It always seems like the weekends fly by so fast, but the weeks drag by like a snail in quicksand. We just have to make it through five days and then the weekend will return, I just hope the week is not full of stress and utter nonsense again, but let’s face it if it is there is not much we can do to change it. We always need to try our best to handle the challenges of the week with dignity and grace, and never allow anyone to steal our happiness.

After we let the relaxation of the weekend go and strive to manage through the week with motivation and strength, we could all use a little extra guidance on a Monday morning. I hope you find the quote I shared today motivating and it provides you with the strength we all need to begin the week. Considering the weeks have been increasingly stressful for me, I decided that I am not going to agree to do any overtime because my mental well-being is more important than a few extra dollars! We cannot avoid the workweek, but we can adjust how we handle our work and ways to prevent additional stress!

I hope you enjoyed the weekend and you are ready for the new week. Please remember that you are important and to never allow anyone to ruin your day and cause you stress because it just is not worth it. When people are unhappy in their lives, they seem to want to bring others down and make them miserable. We have all heard that misery loves company, but we deserve to be melancholy. Instead of letting anyone bring you down, try to keep a smile on your face, know your worth, and bring the other person up to your level!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and you gained a little extra motivation. I hope your day is full of amazing and well-deserved opportunities, and little to no stress. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as soon as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

TGIF

Life is not always perfect, and it is impossible to be happy all the time, but we do have the power to make changes when necessary. Complaining about things in life we are unhappy with is NEVER going to change things for the better. Sometimes we need to implement the changes we NEED in our life. The problems we encounter are NOT going to fix themselves and will only get worst. We spend most of our time at work, so if we are miserable in our job, it might be time to start looking for something different where we are not miserable for eight hours a day, five days a week.

Work is not always fun, but it can be fulfilling and semi-enjoyable. I have always enjoyed working with people and find “some” of them interesting. However, more and more I am finding the way people behave and treat others disturbing and offensive. I treat people the way I would want to be treated and try my best to understand their outlook on things and what they might be going through. The way things have been in recent times, I have a new view on this. Unfortunately, so many people are selfish and do not care how their tone, verbiage, and treatment affect others.

Changing jobs is extremely frustrating and challenging. It takes persistence and perseverance. Numerous job search sites are available. The most popular and user-friendly are https://www.linkedin.comhttps://www.indeed.com/https://www.monster.com/, and https://www.glassdoor.com/. I am sure there are many more out there, but I am not familiar with any others. A quick and simple google search can bring up others if you are looking for another job. 

We are only offered one life and there is no way to rewind, pause, repeat, or fast-forward. If there is anything you are not completely happy or content with, it is time for a change. This can be in a job, relationship, where you live, what you do for enjoyment or anything else involved in your life. Of course, change is never easy, but it can be accomplished with strength and determination. 

Relationships whether they are romantic, friendship, colleagues, or family can be complicated. All relationships require strong and open communication. Without being able to be open and honest, a relationship will fail quickly. It is also important to never hide anything from your life partner. When people hide things from the person, they are building a life with, there will only be unnecessary complications. We should not feel like we need to hide anything because we are already being open and honest, so there should not be anything to hide, right?

I am not complaining about my job, but I am unhappy with the way things have been. The training missed many things we needed to know and now everyone is so overwhelmingly busy, that no one has time to help those that are newer. I have always been a perfectionist with my work and hate making mistakes. Therefore, I take a massive number of notes because I want something to reference when I am unsure. There have been several people that I work with currently that are amazing and helpful, but then there are others that talk or email in a demeaning and discouraging way. I think some people forgot what it was like to be new and learn an entirely new industry.

I think part of the reason I have felt so irritable lately is that it is WAY too hot! The heat causes many of my MS symptoms to be aggravated and intensified. It is only May, and the temperature has already been in the high 90s. I do not even want to know how hot it is going to get when it is summer. Living in the south and still waiting to get central air has been troublesome and infuriating. I do enjoy summer, but only when I am at the beach because the ocean breeze counteracts the insane heat. I mean who in their right mind wants to be out when the temperatures are so high? No sane person! 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post, and the information was beneficial. It is finally Friday, and we now have the weekend to look forward to. We can let of the negative feelings the week caused us. There is no point carrying those negative feelings into our weekend when we know anything we were dealing with this week will probably still be waiting for us on Monday. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

I think looking at today as Thursday, makes it feel like the week is not almost over. This is why I prefer saying it is Friday Eve! My week has been exhausting and it is not over yet. Thankfully, I was able to talk with one of my co-workers yesterday that was in training with me and she said she was feeling just as discouraged as I have been feeling. I hate that someone else feels this way, but it does make me feel better to know I am not the only one. I was starting to think it was just me and maybe I was not understanding something.

We do still have at least one more day left of this week and we could all probably use a pick-me-up to make us feel happier. We try so hard in life and sometimes we might feel like it is not enough, but as long as we are trying it is plenty. We will never be perfect because perfect does not exist, but we can still be happy! I believe perfection is just an illusion and can never be reached. All striving for perfection is going to do is drain our energy and self-esteem. The only thing we are able to do is be our perfectly imperfect self😊!

Of course, my week has been long and a little frustrating but I am thankful to have a job working from home. Although I do deal with aggravating and demanding people a lot, I do get to talk with some really great people. Yesterday, I was lucky enough to talk with two great people. The last lady told me I have made her experience much better and it made her want to do further business with my company! The funny part is, I was just honest and myself with her. I am always upfront with customers because I believe that is the way business “should” be!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote helps you through the last part of this week. I know it is not easy, but try to not allow anyone to bring you down. Most people that have a negative attitude are angry with their own life and want to bring others down. You know what they say, misery loves company, but that is not the company you want part of. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Survival of Monday

We managed to survive Monday, which is great news! Once we make it through a day we all dread, the rest of the week “should” be much easier, or at least we hope it will. Yesterday was nothing short of insanity. I clocked into work at 7:24 AM for two reasons. One was because I had a doctor’s appointment and was going to make up missed time because of the appointment and the other reason was because of the overtime offered. Normally, my day does not start until 9:00 AM, but I do prefer beginning my day earlier because I feel better in the morning. I am not saying I am not tired in the morning, but my pain increases as the day progresses.

Something about yesterday that could have been better is, if I had known about the overtime, I would not have wanted my doctor’s appointment this week. I would have tried to reschedule, so all I had to deal with was the overtime. My doctor’s office is about an hour and a half away from my house and I have to drive on an interstate that has WAY TOO much road construction. The road construction has been going on for what seems like a decade and I do not think it will ever end. Driving is bad enough, but so many people like to either drive fast while texting or so slow a snail could pass them.

On the second day of the week and still having several more days before Friday, we could all use a little encouragement to help us through the week. Life can feel extremely demanding and stressful making it hard to deal with the numerous situations we face. Trying to remain calm, cool, and collect is challenging, but we need to always keep trying and never give up. I will be honest with y’all, I stress about everything and it does not help. All the massive amounts of stress do is create additional issues!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week is going well and you are staying safe, and as stress-free as possible. I still think this is going to be a long week because I will be working ten hour days, which I have not done in a long time. I have gotten older since I worked ten hour days and my ability to avoid fatigue has become obsolete. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Monday morning always returns without hesitation or delay and we are meant to tackle this week with diligence and determination😊! Of course, we would all prefer it be Saturday or even Sunday, but this is going to be a great week with many amazing opportunities. I already know it is going to be a chaotic week, but I know I can handle anything that is thrown my way, and all of you can as well. We sometimes need a constant reminder of this because it is easy to get discouraged and frustrated, so I am making a sign to hang over my desk to be a continual reminder.

I know none of us are ready for another new week, but I also have faith in all of you that we can manage. We might also require a little motivation to get into the best mindset. I hope y’all will find the quote I am sharing with you motivating and it kick starts your week in the best of ways. The reason I decided on this quote is that life often feels like an endless cycle of darkness and sadness, but if we can concentrate on the positive things in life, it can make a tremendous difference! I understand fully that there is way too much negativity in our lives and in this world, but there are also many amazingly beautiful things as well!

I hope your weekend was full of everything that brings you the most joy and you remained as safe as possible. We can all agree that the weekends are way too short, but that will probably never change. I think we should have four-day workweeks and three-day weekends because it would allow for us to have more quality time with family and friends. Work-life balance is important and something we should have without question, but I think some employers would disagree with me. I understand having a shorter workweek may never happen, so I am just thankful to have a job working from home where I am safe!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have shared and the quote provided you a little motivation for Monday. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. I hope you have an amazing day and that each day that follows until Friday gets better and better. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Defeat Tuesday

The weeks can feel extremely long and strenuous. We typically prepare ourselves for Monday on Sunday evening because we understand they can be very demanding. Honestly, not every Monday is as bad as we think it is going to be and some are worst than we were expecting. Whether it be Monday or any other day of the week, sometimes there is no amount of preparation that can help us be ready for the days ahead of us. No matter what happens, we should never give up and should always try to see the positive in all situations. I believe a positive mindset will keep us healthier and happier rather than being negative.

Yesterday felt like a train wreck and I believe it had a lot to do with getting too little sleep. I knew it was going to be a rough day because if I had to guess, I might have slept for four hours. By the time we ate dinner, finally got my work monitors set up correctly, and cleaned up, it was close to 2:00 AM and I normally get up a little before 7:00 AM. Knowing I would be exhausted, I tried giving myself a few extra minutes of sleep and pushed the alarm back to 7:30. I still felt foggy, irritable, achy, and distracted all day, which made for a long day.

Besides being overly tired and achy all day yesterday, I was dealing with other frustrations. No matter how many times in our life we deal with challenging and frustrating times, it never gets any easier. While life was never meant to be perfect and easy, we must NEVER let go of trying to think positively and NEVER give up. We were all dealt a hand of cards when we were born, and we are forced to keep playing the game of life and not fold. It is so easy to feel like we cannot handle life anymore and give in to those awful negative thoughts. The only thing a negative mind will do is make everything worst.

I am not going to tell y’all that remaining positive during challenging times is easy because that would be a lie. The only thing negativity will do is make you feel empty. The life we were given is a gift and viewing everything as negative makes us take our life for granted, which tends to be selfish. There are so many people every day that lose their life and through NO fault of their own and they would all love another day to enjoy their life.

Thankfully, we have survived Monday and hopefully, every other day of this week will get easier. I understand more than I care to admit how unfair life can be, but through all the unfair things we have endured, we are stronger than we realize. We all have a strength inside that is powerful. When you start thinking you cannot deal with anymore, remember what you have already accomplished in life and hold your head high!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared was beneficial for you and you are feeling better about life the way it currently is. Understanding what we have control over and what we have no control over, is a valuable lesson to learn because it will make things easier. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

It cannot possibly be Monday already, can it? It seems like it was Friday afternoon twenty minutes ago. I know the weekends are short, but it feels like the weekend went missing or was skipped. How was your weekend? I have been dealing with nasty sinus and increased pain issues for days. I guess the sinus and pain issues made it seem like I did not have a weekend, but I guess it could be worst.

Recently, I discovered some great news, my favorite author and writing role model is going on tour. Since I discovered James Patterson’s series, The Women’s Murder Club, I have been hooked and obsessed. I mentioned in a previous post that meeting James Patterson would be a dream come true for me and I am excited to say, I am planning to meet him on June 9th! Even better than the chance to meet my writing idol, he is going to be in my favorite place, the beach!

Whether we are ready or not, the new week has started. Saying “goodbye” to a weekend and beginning another week is never easy. We need to find ways to stay motivated and tackle the week with determination and strength. I hope you will find the quote I am sharing with you today motivating and it offers you the strength to get through another week. No matter how you feel about the week beginning, I believe each week holds many amazing opportunities for all of us. The only thing we must do is keep trying, stay positive, and NEVER give up!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are feeling well and you have a fantastic week. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. For whatever reason, if your day does not go the way you expected it to, tomorrow is a new day so do not get discouraged! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Forgiveness

Forgiveness can be one of the most challenging things to accomplish in life, especially when the person we are trying to forgive does not change and continues to disappoint us. We are never required to forgive someone and should only do so when and if we are ready to do so. Forgiveness is not something we do for the other person’s benefit and is for our benefit. This is meant to release ourselves from the feelings of resentment, regret, and reserve the limited energy we have inside.

If we forgive another person and they continue to let us down, should we continue to forgive that person or remove them from our life? I do not think there is a right or wrong answer for this question because it is a personal decision. We do need to think about self-preservation when making this decision. It becomes obvious when someone does not change, they are not thinking about anyone besides themselves, and we need to consider our needs.

In this short life we do not have a rewind button to go back in time and there is not a pause button, so we must understand we only have one chance. We should try to forgive but should not set ourselves up for further pain from being disappointed. Most times removing those from our lives that have caused monstrous amount of pain and heartache is the best chance for us to have a happier life.

Everyone deserves a chance to make changes. Even with that said, there are only so many chances we can offer before we are tormenting ourselves. Unfortunately, there have been people in my life that I have forgiven and even today they would continue to disappoint me if I did not remove them from my life. I do not have any regrets from eliminating people from my life. Why should I allow myself to be hurt repeatedly?

Boundaries and limitations are crucial to find. Personal boundaries are limits and rules we determine for relationships. Boundaries are a necessity to maintain self-care. Without boundaries we can feel exhausted, taken advantaged of and taken for granted. Not having boundaries can lead to resentment, anger, and feeling burnt out. Understanding our limitations means what we are willing to endure and to what extent.

Do you think there is such a thing as being too forgiving? How many times have your forgiven someone only to be hurt again by the same person? I am not sure what I think about being too forgiving. If the same person has hurt us multiple times, is that on them or are we responsible for the pain? There is saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me.

There is still some of the weekend left and we need to enjoy it as much as possible. Hopefully, your weekend has been full of things that made you happy. Unfortunately, I have not felt well this weekend. It has mostly been sinus issues mixed with pain, but that is just normal for me. I know the Gilenya I take for the Multiple Sclerosis is responsible for the sinus issues, but I would rather deal with that than have the MS worsen.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared beneficial and helps you understand forgiveness, boundaries, and limitations. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Mid-Week Inspiration

I think we should celebrate today because we are halfway through the week! The even better news is, we are much closer to the weekend! I hope your week has been good and you are not allowing yourself to become overly stressed because it does not fix anything. We are all going through something in our lives and we deal with those issues in our way. There is not anyone that can say what the best way is, so we must keep doing the best we can because, in the end, that is all we can do!

Has this week been challenging? Of course, it has been. If you are anything like me, I tend to second guess myself and overthink things to the point I convinced myself I did something wrong. Overthinking things in life is not necessary because as long as we are following our instincts, we will not be wrong. We already survived two days this week, but we have two more to go before the weekend returns and I think we need to find ways to keep moving forward. I hope you will find the quote I am sharing inspirational and it helps you through the next few days! Do yourself a favor and try to not overthink things too much and follow your heart and instincts, they will not deceive you!

I cannot speak for everyone, but this week has felt extremely long. I think everything that can go wrong has gone wrong and because I let myself feel too much stress, I have had increased pain. I can typically deal with pain well, but it has been exceptionally awful this week. I know part of it is because I get uptight learning the new job and end up being harder on myself than I should be. I guess we live and learn, and hopefully change our ways for the better!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and you have a wonderful day! Do what you can to keep yourself focused on the weekend and not become overwhelmed by the days. Stay strong and calm when faced with turmoil because better days are near! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa