First post for 2020

1_L8OVc5Qggj8DPGeaf0qd2gIt is the first Saturday of 2020 and I hope your weekend is starting off great. I have managed to start 2020 off with a migraine that just will not ease up. My migraine started while I was at work on Thursday and it was horrible. It wasn’t easy but I did get through the day. I spent Thursday evening miserable on the couch with an ice pack on my head only hoping the pain in my head would ease up. When I woke up Friday morning, I could still feel the pain in my head but forced myself to go to work. Considering I am still new at my job I couldn’t call out sick already, but did end up leaving early. I really hate that I had to leave work early and I 052d3ef283ef864b990f7f19afbb3c5d4d3426-v5-wm-e1578152985171.jpghave only been at my job 3 weeks, but it was something I couldn’t avoid. People always want to ask, “What do you think is causing your migraine?” That is one of the most irritating questions, especially when I am in that kind of pain. The only thing I can think of that could have caused the migraine is it was raining. I do tend to get more headaches/migraines when it rains. Unfortunately it looks like it is going to rain a lot over the next week.

I have been thinking a lot about 4df61b89ef51c17ab4f5d3ee2bc55313what I want for 2020. One thing I am focused on is improving and building my writing skills. Y’all already know I want to get into freelance writing and even though it isn’t going to happen overnight, I will accomplish this goal. I am not rushing this goal because I want to be sure everything is done right. I need to go through the posts I have done over my years of blogging and pick a few of my best posts to add to my writing portfolio. Once I figure out which posts I think might be some of my best, I might ask y’all for your opinions because I do value what you think!

I recently received “365 Writing Prompts” from The Writer’s Digest. I want to try doing we-all-have-the-power-to-make-our-dreams-come-23776174all 365 prompts because I think it will help build my writing skills. I hope that by continuing to blog as much as I can and completing the writing prompts I will be better equipped for a freelance career.

We only have one chance at our life and should always work towards making our dreams come true. Of course there are times when life will get difficult and we might want to give up, but we have to continue to fight for what we want! There will be many times we feel we have failed and just do not want to try anymore. I have said this before but I think it is worth saying again; the only time we truly fail is when we give up. I made a promise to my dear sweet Poppy a long time ago which was I will never surrender to Multiple 16be83960a1c19625588b2fd81f8debbSclerosis and I will never give up on my dreams, I plan to keep that promise to him. We are the only one that can make our dreams come true, no one can do it for us.

This is my first post for 2020 and I plan to continue blogging. I am unfortunately starting 2020 off behind on reading your posts, but I will get caught up and hopefully not get behind again! Working full-time and then battling with migraines does make it hard, but I am determined to get better with it. I want to continue trying to spread positivity and share great content with y’all!make-your-dreams-come-true-quote-2-picture-quote-1

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are able to do what brings you the most joy! Even though I know it isn’t easy, especially when you live with a chronic illness, I hope you hold on tight to your dreams because I know you have the power to make your dreams become your reality! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Happy New Year!!!

Goodbye-2019-Happy-New-Year-2020-greetings-and-wishes-card-915x515Another year has passed us by again and we are ready to embark on a brand new year. I went into 2019 with high hopes for a better year, but unfortunately, it felt like a repeat of 2017 and 2018 with no noticeable changes. Although the logical part of my brain gets over-run by the illogical part, I would like to believe that no change is far better than dealing with any negative changes.

As I think back on how fast the previous years went by, I feel 2019 went by at lete-review.jpgsupersonic speed! I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we have to dig a little deeper to identify those reasons. All that we face in life happens exactly when it is supposed to and hold valuable lessons.

At the end of 2019, I would like to ask y’all a few questions! I think this will be a fun and interesting way to end the year and discover ways for better years to come! I do look forward to reading your answers and to be fair, I am going to answer the same questions I asked you to!

What were the three best things that occurred during 2019?

  1. I was able to build up the courage and strength to leave a job that brought me nothing logo-retina1but misery before having another.
  2. Even with changes in jobs/schedules, I have still managed to find the time to continue blogging as much as I can.
  3. After being in an accident (obviously not a good thing), I was able to purchase the car I had wanted! It wasn’t lucky to be in an accident that totaled my car, but I was fortunate enough to find exactly what I wanted.

  If it were possible, what are three things you would change about 2019?

  1. After my husband and I moved, I was supposed to have found a new neurologist so I would not have to drive 2 hours to my old one. It has been over a year and I still change.jpghaven’t made an appointment with a new one. I
  2. I know there is not much I can do about this, but I do wish I could change and end all the senseless hatred that has built up in my country, which is causing way too many mass shootings. It is downright insanity when you have to fear a possible gunman being at the grocery store or that latest issue at a church.
  3. If I could change all the dishonesty and corruption in politics, I would and it would possibly bring back democracy.

What are the three worse things that happened in 2019?

  1. During 2019 I had my first accident and it totaled my poor car. The accident was not Bad Time Represents Hard Times And Miserymy fault, but it scared the heck out of me. I am pretty sure as scared as I was; the young kid that hit my car was twice as scared when I got out of my car yelling as I have never yelled before, especially at a young kid (well he was 17 so I am sure has heard worse)!
  2. 2019 was the first time in a long time I had to go without insurance. Going without insurance and having a chronic illness living in the United States can be dangerous.
  3. Another thing that occurred in 2019 is, mass murders were happening so frequently it became normal to see on TV. Even though I saw it all happen through the news, I can’t for the life of me understand why murders were the only way to deal with differences. It is never going to be acceptable to me.

 What are the three accomplishments you had during 2019?

  1. After walking away from one job I hated, I was able to quickly find something else that will hopefully be easier on my health.images (1)
  2. I have taken the steps needed to achieve something I am passionate about, which is trying my hand in freelance writing. Honestly, I still have more to do with getting started, but I plan to have things going further within the month of January.
  3. I have built many friendships in the blogging community that I will cherish forever and look forward to many more in the years to come!

Based on what you learned over the past year, what are the three goals you have for 2020? I decided to ask about goals instead of New Year’s Resolutions. I think resolutions put too much stress and expectations on us!

  1. I have always been extremely hard on myself. I have always been my biggest critic of everything I do. One of my goals is to stop being so hard on myself and quit second-masthead_2020-sustainability-goals-carnival-mobile.jpgguessing myself.
  2. Another goal I have is to build on my writing skills and start a freelance career.
  3. One of my greatest struggles is that I stress about everything. A continued amount of stress causes my health to deteriorate and what good is that doing anyone? I want to focus on relaxing a lot more and stressing a lot less.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your answers to the five questions I have asked. I will admit, it took me a while to complete because I had to put a lot of thought into each question.

Happy-New-Year-2020-with-lightsHappy New Year to all of you! I wish for y’all to have an amazing 2020 and all your dreams come true. I am looking forward to another year of getting to know y’all and building fabulous friendships! As always, please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

3 Days Left of 2019

3-daysCan you believe there are only 3 days left of 2019? It seems like a lot has happened over the past year, heck there has been a lot of negative that has occurred over the past 3 years because of some people wanting to create as much hatred as they possibly could.

I do know there are some that would say I am cynical because I tend to blame most of what has gone wrong in the country I live in on one person in particular. Even though I do firmly believe that the president of the United States should not be in the position he is in, I do not think I am being fair blaming it all on him. The president did not get in the position he is in by himself, he had supporters that fitting-in.jpgbelieve ALL of his lies! Sadly it does not matter how many times what he says is proven to be a lie; his followers continue to blindly believe him. I do not think it is a far fetched idea to say that the president is the ruler of one of the worse and most evil cults in my lifetime!

I do try to not get too political with what I write about because it is a hot topic with many. Disagreements regarding different political beliefs cause so many problems between family and friends. Even though I may disagree with the thoughts of other, especially those that support Trump, I do still think we are all entitled to our own opinions. As strongly as I feel regarding the most if not all hot topics, I will never try to change someone’s mind because it is almost like trying to reason with someone under the influence. I mean seriously have you ever tried to talk to someone that is drunk and have that person be logical? It just isn’t plans-for-new-years-eve.pngpossible!

How are you planning to spend the last 3 days of this year? Do you have any fun plans to bring in 2020? I know that there are many people that want to go out “on the town” and celebrate with friends. I guess I am just getting old because I do not have a desire to go out and spend way too much money on alcohol and cover charges. I think it is far safer and reasonable to just bring in the New Year in the comfort of my own home!

Last year my husband and I brought in 2019 at home with our 2 adorable cats and my husband’s aunt and uncle. We had a great time and maybe spent about ¼ of images (1)the cost we would have if we went out. I have always been a little skeptical about large crowds, but recently it has gotten much worse. There have been so many mass shootings over the past few years which have created a complete lack of safety. It is terrible when you do not even feel safe going to the grocery store because there might be someone in there with a gun andmake it part of the dance bad intentions.

Thank y’all for visiting today! It is so crazy when you have so many ideas running through your head at any given time, but you just have to get all those thoughts out there! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of     love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Ways to hunt for a job!

1_2NArbYb4bKnnacnGKphY8gWhether you are searching for a new job because you are miserable with your current job or you want to explore new jobs opportunities that sound interesting, it still isn’t easy. It can get very overwhelming and downright stressful, so you want to take things slowly and not rush yourself. I suggest making a list of the jobs and companies you have interest in. I find it easier when I have a check list because it keeps everything organized and makes it easier to remember which positions you applied for. In this post I am going to share a few strategies for searching for a new job that might be helpful for you!

  1. Online job search:online-jobs-serach-portal-1

This will allow you to search on your own time and in the comfort of your home. Typing keywords or positions into your search engine provides you with positions that fall within the area you desire. The most common job search websites are: Indeed, ZipRecruiter, LinkendIn and Glassdoor. It is very important to have an updated resume to submit and a cover letter that is directed to the position you are applying for.

  1. Network & Referrals:

BusinessReferralNetworkNashvilleMissionWordleThere are times when a company chooses to not post some positions, but instead asks their current employees for referrals. I honestly do not know why companies try this, but my guess would be it is because they trust their current employees and current employees know the personality type that would blend well with the company. At the same time, this could be a little unfair to applicants because they may be new to the area or they do not many people. This is just my personal opinion, but it kind of proves that in corporate America it isn’t what you know, it’s who you know. Candidates that might be may get turned down, even though they are very knowledgeable just because they do not know the right people and that is aggrieving.

   3. Job Fairs:Job-Fair

Many companies partake in job fairs to find the best prospective employees. When a company has plans to attend a job fair, they will advertise the event locally to reach as many job seekers as they can. When going to a job fair make sure you have your most current resume with you and a cover letter customized to the position/positions you are applying for.

To stand out even more than other applicants, you could create your own business cards. How-to-Make-Your-Business-Card-Stand-OutThe important information you should include on your business cards are:

  • Full legal name
  • Phone number
  • Email address
  • LinkedIn site information

Other important information you should know when attending a job fair is:

  • Wear your “Power Outfit” that not only shows professionalism, but will add to your confidence.
  • Create a list of questions to ask the recruiter. Preparing your list of questions will show how deep your interests are for the position. When the recruiter or hiring manager sees that you took the time to write down you list of questions, it will increase your chances of being remembered over the other applicants. as-group-4@2x
  • Practice your personal pitch several times prior to the job fair. This is your time to show your excellent communication skills and personality. It is important to make eye contact with the individual you meet with.
  • ALWAYS send a thank you email to those you spoke with the same day. FOLLOW UP with the people you spoke with at the job fair three days after the event as well. This is an easy, direct, and personable email that can make a huge difference with getting an offer!

  4. Company’s Website:

download-5.jpgTake the time to make a list of companies you are interested in working for. Once you have completed your list of potential employers, visit the company’s website and search for open positions that only show on the company website. You can utilize the company’s website to identify contacts that might be beneficial to your needs. You might be able to find contacts that are in the same department as the position you want to apply for. Once you have useful names, email addresses, or phone numbers try to connect with these individuals.

 5. Social Media Channels:Should-I-be-on-social-media-as-a-healthcare-professional_singlecontent_homepage

LinkedIn has become the social media site for professionals. LinkedIn can be used to connect with people all around the world that work for companies you wish to work for or just in the same type of work you are interested in.

Most companies also use this site to post available job openings. Individuals with experience may receive recruitment because a recruiter saw their resume and thinks they might be a good fit for a position available.

helpful-tips-picture-id933100878IMPORTANT TIPS when using social media platforms to find a job:

  • Always use your real name
  • Use only professional images
  • Audit your accounts and remove any posts that may be viewed as inappropriate or unprofessional
  • Delete profiles on websites you are no longer using
  • Brand yourself and be consistent on all platforms
  • Include who you are, what you do, and what your career plans on for the future

Finding your dream job or at least a job you will enjoy can be very challenging and dream jobextremely frustrating. At the same time it is important to stay persistent and positive. I say this because it is easy to get discouraged when you are not getting the responses you want. You might need to get a little creative with the search and use a variety of ways. For instances, you could use an online search engines with networking and the company’s website for the perfect combination. You could actually combine all of the strategies I shared together and it might work for you.

 Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you found this post useful and it will help you if you are searching for a job. I have been on several interviews and it is exhausting, but it takes effort for change to happen. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and if you have any other ways to search for a new job. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Motivational Monday!

make monday sparkleGood morning y’all! I hope you had an amazing weekend, filled with nothing but LOTS of happiness because that is what YOU ❤  deserve!! If you are anything like me, you are probably wondering what the hell happened last week. Call me crazy, but I feel like the days are going by more like seconds instead of hours. With time going by with supersonic speed, here we are again at the beginning of another new week. All we can do now is make the most of it and do all we can to enjoy life.

I think the quote I am sharing with y’all today says so much about each and everyone of us. No one has ever asked to live with an illness that fights against us with every breath we take, but we do and we all fight hard!warrior

I must tell y’all one thing about this quote and really want to hear your fabulous feedback! I think we are all both survivors and warriors because we do not give up! Life with an illness can feel like a constant battle and it is exhausting, however we are  ❤ strong, amazing, stubborn, determined, wise enough to know when to fight back andjust-because-you-are-struggling-does-not-mean-you-are-failing-e1571615189556.jpg also when to take a step back and change our course of action ❤ !

Thank you so much for visiting today! I always appreciate the support y’all offer and really love ❤ the incredible conversations we can have with one another. I hope your week starts off great and continues to get ever better! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Outlets are important!

environmental-writer-300x156Do you have an outlet from the pains that life hands us? I do believe having an outlet can be the most therapeutic thing for anyone, almost like a short escape from reality. It doesn’t matter if you write on a blog and share you deepest feelings with others or if you take time alone to write in a journal about your feelings, it is just important to get those emotions out. Releasing positive and or negative emotions can create so much true comfort!

Obviously y’all know I write on my blog as much as I can, but recently I have started download (5)writing in a journal as well. There might be times when I may not be ready or comfortable sharing how I am feeling with anyone yet and writing these feelings down in private offers me serenity. I find that writing down what is going through my mind at any given time allows me to reread what I am dealing with and gain some perspective. I think that by writing in a journal, I can just be honest with myself and not have to worry about what anyone else thinks or someone trying to tell me how I should feel or how I should cope with my struggles. There are many times that I just wanting to come up with solutions on my own, but then there of course times I do want advice.

I really do enjoy writing on my blog as well because this gives me a chance to not only outletshare with y’all, but also gain some amazing feedback from y’all!! I have told y’all many times before that I am very critical of my own writing, but reading your thoughts helps me in so many ways. I have always dreamed of being a writer and having freedom to write about whatever I want! My ultimate dream is to gain the confidence to write the book I have mulled over for many years. I do believe that if I continue writing on my blog, which I do intend to, I will gain a tremendous amount of knowledge from each of you and about my own skills.  I am very curious about what you consider an outlet. Is writing on your blog, writing in asunrise_music300[1] journal, or do you even consider writing to be an outlet at all?

I also consider music to be an outlet. It amazes me how much passion and meaning can be in just one simple song. I am sure what I take from any given song can be much different that it would anyone else and it might be a lot different than what the writer intended. I appreciate the creativity song writers hold and value what they are sharing with the world.

I am looking forward to reading what you consider an outlet to be and how it has helped you! I am so pleased to say that I do not have to work this weekend, which is allowing me to download (5)do things I really needed to do, like clean the house and rest. I know how crazy that just sounded, cleaning the house and resting seem like they are opposites, but for me being able to get the house nice and clean is a great feeling. Of course all the extra work did create a lot of pain for me, but now I am able to spend the remainder of the weekend resting and preparing myself for another LONG week at work and unfortunately I have to work next weekend!

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and feeling well! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Fight the battle & Win the war!

images (2)Living life with a chronic illness that brings on pain is not easy, but letting that pain win the battle should not ever be an option. Of course it is easier said than done, but isn’t it worth trying? There might be days that it hurts to even get out of bed, but just lying in the bed solves absolutely nothing because the pain will is still there later on.

There are things that can be done to fight against the pain we may feel. Now this is just howlove your life more than you hate your pain I think and what I have tried training my mind to think and believe. It is amazing what we can trick our minds into believing! The things that work for me might not work for anyone else, after all we are all different. Sometimes simply taking a nice hot bubble bath can make a HUGE difference! I think it is something about the calming feeling of the warmth that eases my aching body. Of course, my doctor has told me numerous times that hot water isn’t 579ef8182e48d1ac880303bd79cb9696good for me because it is not supposed to mesh well with Multiple Sclerosis, but it helps me. It is just like while at work my heating pad becomes my best friend!

For me, as crazy as this will sound, if I try to keep moving I feel that my pain actually lessens. It does not make a whole lot of sense to me because I would think when it pain resting would be way more beneficial. I often think when I stop doing something like cleaning, doing laundry or any other household chore, my pain settles in and I feel so much worse! 

I also find it helpful to keep my mind preoccupied, so I do not have time to even think about images (5)pain I am feeling. This could be reading a good book, writing either on my own blog or commenting on another’s, watching some mindless TV show (my favorite is General Hospital, which I know sounds insane) or even watching a good movie (my favorites are anything from the Fast & The Furious). Little things can create a distraction for the mind and possibly alleviate our pains, even if it is for a short time.

Anyone that lives with any type of chronic illness understands that it can and does create various challenges. I think it is extremely important to discover ways to deal with these challenges and never stop searching for new ways to manage difficult times. I know I have mentioned Web-Ad-3this before, but I strongly feel the only way to fail is to give up.

The promise I made to myself years ago when I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis was to never allow the illness defeat me. With a much more mature mindset now, I still value what my younger mind thought during one of the hardest times in my life. Nineteen years later, I will still keep this promise to myself.

Do y’all have any special ways you deal with your pain issues? All of us that struggle with this can understand one another and offer very valuable advice to each other. It does make me sad that anyone has to deal with constant pain, but at the same time it makes us so much dont-give-up-galaxy-hold-on-hope-Favim.com-1428490stronger! WE can fight this battle together and WE can win the war together!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am sorry I missed my normal Motivational Monday quote, I was dealing with a massive migraine and wasn’t able to do it. I hope this will make up for that! Not only do I hope what I have shared beneficial for you, but also reassured you that you are not alone in the fight and we can win the war together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤