Coping with COVID-19 Stress

Learning to cope with the stress of a pandemic

For the first time in 40 years, on June 11, 2009, the World Health Organization declared the start of a flu pandemic. The CDC estimated that between 151,700 and 575,400 people died worldwide from the 2009 H1N1 virus infection during the first year of circulation. This virus was detected first in the United States in April 2009 before quickly spreading throughout the rest of the world.

On March 11, 2020, the World Health Organization declared another pandemic with it being called Coronavirus or COVID-19. Even though COVID-19 was thought to be serious enough for the World Health Organization to declare a pandemic, there were still some leaders that did not heed the warnings and take proper actions.

The same leader or leaders that did not take COVID-19 seriously, spent months saying it was nothing more than a hoax and then claiming it was not even as serious as the normal flu. I find the ignorance and shame it takes to call this deadly virus the Chinese virus simply because it began in China absolutely ridiculous. I mean, no one ever referred to H1N1 as the American virus because it began in the United States, so what gives anyone the right to call COVID-19 the Chinese virus or any other demeaning name they think of?

There is one leader in particular that continues to blame everyone else for the virus but fails to blame the person he sees in the mirror every day for the 129,545 American’s that died because of this virus. Worldwide there have been more than 511,000 people who lost their lives due to COVID-19. We will never know now if only action was taken sooner not as many people would have had to die.

There is no denying the fact that being faced with a pandemic, which has already taken the lives of many, is stressful. Most of us have been overwhelmed with distress and anxiety due to this virus. Although actions such as social distancing are imperative for safety reasons, it can cause additional stress and anxiety from being isolated and lonely.

As we continue undergoing the pandemic of an infectious disease outbreak, there are several other issues that we may experience, including but not limited to the following:

– Fear for your health and the health of your loved ones

– Worry for your financial situation and or job security

– Changes in your sleep and or eating patterns

– Troubles sleeping and or concentrating

– Decline in chronic health problems

– Intensifying issues of mental health issues

– Increased use of tobacco and or alcohol and other substances

Everyone responds to stressful situations differently. Even though we dealt with the H1N1 pandemic back in 2009, I do not remember being as concerned and terrified as I have been with COVID-19. The crazy thing is during 2009, I worked for a hospital system with the Employee Health Department. I had constant interaction with people that tested positive for the flu, but never really worried. Of course, I wore a mask and washed my hands multiple times a day and thankfully never got the flu.

I do realize I am not the only one that remains worried about COVID-10, but I can also understand there is no amount of worrying that will make this situation any easier. Granted even if we lived next door to each other, chances are we wouldn’t be able to see one another and would only be able to offer support virtually. We can do this now and help each other to lessen the massive burdens of stress we are all enduring.

I am going to share a few ideas I discovered that will hopefully help reduce the stress we have all been trying our best to manage.

1. Limit Media Time-

Most people have already proven the ability to practice social distancing to prevent the spreading of COVID-19. With already understanding the importance of social distancing for the good of our health, we should be able to understand why distancing ourselves from the media would be in the best interest of our mental well-being. It seems like the media has 24/7 COVID coverage, which can be beneficial in small doses but can also be very negative causing additional anxiety for those who already had concerns. If you are anything like me (I am so sorry for you), you are already feeling extreme anxiousness. When we are becoming more anxious, we should consider taking a break from all news outlets and the view the news only twice a day at most!

2. Stop Engaging with worry-

Regardless if you are worried about yourself or a loved one contracting the virus or being out of work, the more you focus your attention on the worst-case scenarios, the more anxious and stressed you will feel. Of course, we are not able to stop thoughts from entering our minds, but we can choose to not dwell on those thoughts and instead decide to take action towards solving the problems at hand. I think we are all logical enough to understand the enormous differences between worrying and solving the problems we face. Our mind will often try to bait us into worrying, so we need to avoid taking that bait. Our feelings of anxiety will try baiting us with the many “what if” questions that we need to try avoiding answering because it only leads us down dark and endless roads. During times like these, we need to focus our attention elsewhere and on the more positive aspects. I do know during these stressful times, finding the silver lining might be challenging, but it is there.

3. Do not react to physical symptoms-

Just because you or someone around you coughs does not mean it is because of COVID-19. People have allergies, bronchitis, post-nasal drip, or a common cold and these issues are the much more likely explanation. We all know the seasons can cause numerous issues, so it is best to not assume COVID-19 every time you so much as hear a cough, but being aware of your surroundings and following safety protocols should always be followed. For your mental health and well-being, do not continuously scan your body searching for COVID-19 symptoms. The only things this behavior will do is cause unnecessary worry and intensify our already high anxiety levels.

4. Focus on productivity and newer ways of enjoyment-

Unfortunately, we do not have any control over the crisis the world is experiencing currently and the only thing we can control is our response. How many times in the past were you overloaded with work and maintaining your home, but discovered something new you wanted to try? With how much our everyday lives have changed and we are now living our “new normal”, we might finally through no fault of our own have time for new adventures. We can learn a new skill or fine-tune something we used to do back before life got crazy with work and family. Now is the time to put our attention on creating and accomplishing, instead of the virus and or our employment status.

5. Seize the moment in stress-reducing activities-

There are numerous different things we can try that could help reduce the vast amount of stress we might be experiencing during these trying times. As few ideas may include focusing on the things we are grateful for, exercising our bodies, guided meditation, and yoga are things that may help us relax our minds. Anything we may want to learn can easily be found on YouTube; there are many simple videos to follow along with on just about anything we can think of. Just think, once we are finally past this crisis we will not only have learned something new, but also appreciate all the simple things in life we may have taken for granted before such as dinner out at our favorite restaurant, a night out at the movies, and even something as simple as a haircut.

6. Follow CDC guidelines, but do not go overboard-

Wash your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds or sing happy birthday or twinkle, twinkle little star, whichever you prefer. This does not mean washing your hands until they are red and dry. In the event soap and water isn’t available, you can use hand sanitizer containing at least 60% alcohol. Always avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth with unwashed hands. Maintain at least 6 feet between yourself and others outside your home. Wear face covering when around others out in the public. Despite what some might say, it is not necessary to remove all your clothing before entering your home.

7. Maintain a sense of normalcy-

During these crazy times, it may be challenging to continue your day as you normally would with some modifications, so this could require adding a little creativity. Before the pandemic, you may have gone to the gym for your workout, but now you have to work out in your home. Instead of dinner out with friends, maybe you have dinner or drinks by a video platform. Continuing life with a structure to our day and any type of an appearance of normalcy will help reduce any additional anxieties.

8. Show kindness for yourself and others-

During a time of national crisis, it is normal to feel anxious and worried. Remember while you are having these feelings, people you know are probably having the same feelings. Reaching out to family, friends, and neighbors who have been isolated, the same as all the rest of us may need a little boost in their spirits. Sometimes a simple phone call will not only heighten our spirits but also improve the person on the other end of the phone mood as well. If you are currently unemployed because of the pandemic, your new job is to have faith that this storm in life will pass and something new will come along and everything will work out for the best!

I meant to have this post out yesterday, but obviously wasn’t able to. For some unknown reason I had a lack in motivation and also continued getting distracted with many other things. I guess maybe it was the mixture of emotions I am feeling for starting my new job Monday. I am not overly nervous or excited; it is pretty much a good balance between the two. I have been out of work for many months now and honestly I have not ever worked from home on a permanent basis. I know I will be able to handle the work from home status well because I have always been extremely organized and disciplined. I did work in the same industry my work from home job is for several years prior to my husband and I relocated and did very well with it. If I am not mistaken the work I am going to be doing is almost exactly the same, but I have heard from a reliable resource that my new company is far more organized than the company I worked for previously.

Thank you for stopping by my site today and I do hope this information was helpful for you! I did only list 8 possible stress relieving ideas, but I do know there are many more and you probably already have some. I do hope you will share your thoughts on this important topic because it will help anyone that reads this. I hope your week is going well, you are feeling the best you possibly can, and you are continuing to remain safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What makes you unique?

10 things that make us unique!

On multiple different occasions I have said the area I live in is overcrowded and everywhere I go has too much congestion. If I view things in a much broader picture, there are close to 69,000 people in the city I live in, but close to 8 million in the entire world. Of course, I think more than 50 people is a large crowd, so there other number are just ludacris.

Even though I prefer to not be around massive groups, especially right now with COVID-19 in the forefront of my mind, I do find the uniqueness of each interesting. Could you imagine what life would be like if we were all the same? I think things would be very boring and monotonous.

Each person is comprised of personality, experiences endured in life, knowledge we have gained, and emotions felt. Every individual has their viewpoints of the world and outlooks, mainly powered by their life experiences. All of our qualities that make each of us unique and fascinating can be sharpened and enhanced on, allowing for growth as we continue our lives adventures.

The following ten characteristic are what make us our own unique and captivating self. We should always hold our heads held high and be proud of our uniqueness and the amazing people we have become today.

1. Our Personality-

Each of our personalities is something that begins to be shape starting from the time we are born and has continued to the present day. All of our positive and negative experiences, each achievement and defeat, every occurrence of strength and weakness, all the knowledge and wisdom we have gained are what is guiding how we can progress through our life.

The level of knowledge, experiences, and comprehension one individual has are what makes them who they are and no other will be the same as that person. Just as no one will respond the same to life experiences, no one will make the same choices in life as another would.

2. Our Attitudes-

Our attitude determines how we view life and those we are surrounded by. Both positive and negative attitudes can be very contagious, which means the way we are feeling has the potential to influence how other feel. The truth is those with a positive attitude will tend to steer away from others that have a negative attitude. Our attitude is something that is created from our emotional outlooks. Unless we make proactive changes for something better and more favorable for a happier present and future, our attitude will not change for the better.

3. Our Experiences-

There is no doubt that our past and future experiences play a vital role with shaping the unique individuals we are. All of our experiences in life help dictate the way we interact with others. Many times people that have had negative experiences might become uneasy and even defensive when in situations that are similar to times before when they had been hurt. Of course, some negative experiences offer the wisdom needed to make better decisions in the future which could lead to a successful search for a brighter and positive future.

4. Our Habits-

Habits are our routine behaviors that are repeated regularly and often occur subconsciously. Our habits will notify and regulate the aspects each unique person will develop. Bad habits could be biting you nails, drinking too much alcohol, overeating, or smoking. Good habits may include eating a healthy diet, maintaining an exercise regimen, practicing gratitude, and managing money sensibly. When we start forming habits such as meditation, exercising, or trying new things they can help to improve our mental health and well-being.

5. Our Creativity-

There are many different forms of creativity, which makes it very interesting. Creativity can extend to a wide range of arts that can lead the creative part of the brain anywhere from drawing and painting to cooking to dancing and singing to playing an instrument. Every person has their own specific and unique talents and creative gifts that have been inspired by their vision of beauty.

6. Our Perspective-

There is no other person that has lived in our shoes every minute of every day at any time. No other person has had the same experiences we have during life and never will. No one else has the same knowledge as another person. Each individuals perspectives are simply uniquely only their own. It is always crucial to stay open to others thoughts, opinions, and suggestions. This doesn’t mean we must accept these as right or wrong, but continue to evolve on our unique perception of the world.

7. Our Tastes-

We can always discover common ground with others on quality or beauty, but our tastes are unique with our personality. Each person’s taste can impact the choices they make throughout their life. These choices may be in the foods they eat or the people they form relationships with. An excellent way for a person to broaden their horizons, learn new things, and continue evolving is to consider different tastes, in all forms around the world. By keeping an open mind and having the willingness to include the tastes of others, it can initiate some extraordinary new things in life.

8. Our Goals-

Each individual’s goals will typically regulate how their time, energy, and efforts are spent. Our short, medium, and long-term goals supply us with both direction and motivation to keep us on the right path. No matter what an individual’s goals they are working towards are, anyone can get more out of their life and grown further as a person!

9. Our Hobbies-

A common icebreaker when we meet someone for the first time is, “What do you like doing?” Granted, our hobbies do not define who we are as a person, but the things we enjoy doing and spend the most time on can enlighten others to the kind of person we are. This all says something about us as unique human beings, the values we hold, and how we find happiness and meaning in life.

10. Our Passions-

Passions are what stir the deepest emotions in an individual to act on something bigger than themselves, despite their mental and emotional state of mind. Being aware of our passions can assist us in finding an undeviating, clear path that is directed by our values and unique perceptions of the world. Each individual has something unique and valuable that they offer the world.

During or lifetime we are going to encounter others from all walks of life. Some of the people we meet will be the polar opposite of who we are and others we will be able to find similarities and common ground with. However, no matter what we discover our similarities to be, there will never be another as unique as all of us are!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found this information interesting and you enjoyed reading this. I hope you are having a great weekend and you are feeling well and of course, staying safe! I look forward to reading any thoughts you have on this post and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Spam Folder

Finding and Getting Rid of Spam!

Happy Saturday y’all! I hope your weekend is starting off well and whatever you do over the weekend, please stay safe! For as long as we have been dealing with the outcomes from this pandemic, it still doesn’t seem right to have so much worry for safety all of the time!

I think things regarding COVID-19 have gotten out of control and yet many people are not taking it as serious as they should be. Granted, I do live in the states and in the south, where many believe everything that the president says. I however do not believe anything that he says or types because there is a huge chance it isn’t the truth. To me it seems better to go with the direct opposite of anything and everything he says. The truth is, if he said it was snowing in Antarctica in the middle of winter, I would I have to see it for myself.

Years ago, when I first started my blog, there was so much I didn’t know. For instances, I did not know there was a spam folder or how to get to it. By the time I figured it out, I had many messages that went into my spam folder, some I wanted to see and others that I didn’t. WordPress seems to catch unwanted messages from what might not be a legit person. I have seen some messages that went into my spam folder that either did not make any sense or was not something I wanted to see because they may have appeared to be a little scandalous and or appalling. Just like the yin and yang effect, where there is a positive, there is the possibility for negative. The negative aspect of the spam folder is some messages that were not spam might be sent to the spam folder. It is a little frustrating, but also a quick fix. There have been times in the past someone asked me if I saw their message and this was a fellow blogger I adore, but her message was just sitting there in my spam folder so I didn’t see it until she asked.

Y’all are very intelligent and knowledgeable, so you probably already know where the spam folder is and how to erase the unwanted messages. There might be some of you that are like me and had no clue about this, so I wanted to share what I know with y’all. Please excuse the pictures if they are not perfect, but I did try!

First, to get to the spam folder you will need to click on “comments” tab, which is under the site drop down.

Once you click on “comments”, the spam messages will appear under the “spam” tab.

I know y’all are probably thinking this was obvious, but I like to give details. After you click on the “spam” tab, the messages will appear below it.

Once you are in your spam folder all you have to do to get rid of the unwanted messages is click on the “delete permanently” tab and then “yes”. Like I said, many of you probably knew all about this, but I wanted to help others that might have known there was a tab for spam. I mean I went about a year before I knew about this and didn’t want anyone else to miss any desired messages.

I think it is good to check the spam folder at least once a week, so you will not miss anything and not have unpleasant messages or those that do not make sense just sitting in a folder. I am sure there are ways to block some of these messages from coming through at all, but I honestly do not know how, so if you do, please let share because I know it would be useful information for everyone!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I always appreciate your support and love reading your comments. I hope you have a fantastic and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Breakthrough the Barriers of Social Distancing

92101563_1597447863745824_3525203181490511669_nIt was not that long ago when simply going to the grocery store did not involve the fear of a new and potentially deadly virus. For the past several months we have been faced with a world-wide pandemic, stay at home orders, businesses closing their doors (hopefully temporarily), job losses, widespread fear for our health, mask, and gloves for protection, social distancing, and many other issues that have caused panic. Truthfully, I can’t even remember the last day I wasn’t terrified to leave the house or when social distancing was not practiced by most people and then getting frustrated when some do not respect the social distancing.

I feel confident saying that while I do understand the reasons behind social distancing, it Screen-Shot-2020-04-01-at-2.23.33-PMhas been very challenging and isolating. Granted, I do have my husband and two cats home with me (24/7), but let’s face it being home all the time with no changes can make anyone get irritable. I do love my husband and cats dearly, but sometimes I need a break.

I have found some ideas for activities that could help heighten our moods and encourage Boost-your-moodmotivation.

  1. Express and stay in touch-

Acts of kindness should always be something we try doing. With all everyone around the world is dealing with today a simple email or handwritten note to someone you know could offer a positive boost to their day. Think about memorable previous bosses or co-workers and send them a note. I know some previous bosses we were glad to be rid of, but I know I have at least one that I still miss and really enjoyed working with her. This person’s name is Mary Close Hall and she really was amazing! Offer to go to the grocery store or pharmacy for an elderly neighbor that struggles with getting out of the house during normal times. While in a store, either for yourself or a neighbor, thank those on the frontline and essential workers for what they are doing for the community.

  1. Stay connected digitally-Resources+2

Today’s technology has had extensive changes over the years. Millions of people around the world already rely heavily on social media sites, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. The social media platforms offer positive ways to stay connected virtually, while we continue to practice social distancing. People from various locations can interact with one another face-to-face, well a better way to say it is screen-to-screen. The possibilities are endless to stay connected safely with family and friends.

  1. Discover your creativeness-

creativenessTasks that are repetitious such as knitting or crocheting can create a meditative state of mind and relaxation in the body and brain. These meditative and relaxed feelings have also been known to decrease worry and negative thoughts. You do not need to have or run out and buy needles, crochet hooks, and of yarn there are many other forms or art that can reduce anxiety and even be uplifting for our moods.

  1. Learn a new language-language-2

While we are stuck at home with very limited interaction with others, we can be getting prepared for future travels. There are numerous apps and YouTube videos to help teach us a foreign language. We can make the most of the times of isolation and be thankful for the time we had to learn something new!

  1. Become Cultured-

WHAT'S_YOUR_LIFE_EXPERIENCES_SCORE-_(2)Now is a great time to explore art institutions and cultural events virtually. Back when things were not so complicated, did you ever think of or find the time to visit a museum virtually? I know that it never crossed my mind to expand my worldly knowledge from my living room, but now we all can try this. Google is a fantastic tool that can act as our tour guide to these exciting new experiences.

  1. Passion Projects-passion-project_4x

Is there anything you have wanted to try, but never found the time to do so? Maybe you want to write a short story, or a book, or learn more about your ancestry. Now is a good time to pursue these projects you have thought about for so long. While we are stuck at home and feeling beginning to feel anxious, diving into a long-term project can offer us a sense of purpose.

  1. Attend a virtual class or event-

physicalMany local attractions and studios are becoming creative and offering options for enjoyable free and digital experiences. I am listing a few free options for you and your family to check out and hope you enjoy them!

https://www.facebook.com/philadelphiazoo/

https://www.amrevmuseum.org/education-museum/students-and-teachers/virtual-field-trip

https://artsandculture.google.com/partner?hl=en&tab=pop

https://www.instagram.com/artwellphilly/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/travel/a31784720/best-virtual-tours/

These are just a few examples of fun things we are able to do from the safety of our we are in this togetherhomes. Do you have any other suggestions of things we are able to do from home? I would love to read your thoughts and any advice you might have!

downloadThank you for visiting my site today. I hope your day is going well and you are feeling the best you can. Please continue to stay safe and take care of your health! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

2,000 + Followers

unnamedJuly 17, 2017. This was a very special day and a day that will never be forgotten because it is the day I took a leap of faith into the blogging community and created my first post ever! Year to date, I have shared 622 posts. When I look back over my almost three years of blogging and like many others that are entering the blogging community for the first time felt slightly overwhelmed. I knew very little about creating and maintaining websites, what to write about and what people wanted to read, connecting and building friendships with those I may never meet face-to-face, deciding on a site name, and so much more. The amazing part of this is, there isn’t a right or download (1)wrong way to create a blog and it is all about what you want out of it!

There are so many reasons people want to attempt blogging. Let’s face it putting yourself and your thoughts on any given topic can cause you to feel a little vulnerable because you have no way to know the reactions of another person reading and can only hope what you wrote will sit well. Trusting yourself and believing in your abilities isn’t easy, but this is the perfect way to learn how.

download (2)I went through an extremely deep sea of emotions when I was contemplating whether or not to start my blog. I guess it was a little terrifying because anything I write could be read and then criticized. All I could think of was everyone reading would think what I wrote was awful and if I wrote about Multiple Sclerosis I might be viewed as weak.

Any negative thoughts I had were quickly seen as incorrect. Everyone in this great community is non-judgmental and encouraging. I have never experienced a time when someone had anything negative or rude to say, which is another reason I love what I am doing.

My reasons for wanting to join the blogging community has always been the same and downloadnever wavered. I wanted to be able to raise awareness about Multiple Sclerosis, but also wanted to encourage people to never surrender to any obstacle they faced

I will be the first to say that life can be very challenging. It is easy to want to give up anything things became unbearable. It takes a strong-willed person to go through painful situations one after another, but always picking themselves back up, dust away the pain and then try again.

I am thankful for the fellow blogger who introduced me to WordPress, Catie Beth, who I worked with at a previous job. She has a brilliant blog about fashion, including makeup and hair products and fabulous shopping tips. Catie Beth is an incredibly kind person images (2)and I know you would enjoy her site https://xocatiebeth.com/, once you view it.

I have always loved writing and love the fact I can write about anything I choose on my blog. This has given me the opportunities to building my abilities and knowledge as a writer. I have also introduced me to some of the most compassionate and kind hearted people.

It brings me so much joy to be able to help others when they are going through difficult times in life. It doesn’t need to be an unpredictable illness to make someone’s life complicated because anyone can experience hardships. I has been one of my goals to spread as much positivity as I can and to as many as I can in what can be a very negative world. It is easy to get caught up in the currents of negativity, almost to the point you feel like you are drowning. By doing uplifting quotes three times a week, I hope to be able to provide a life preserve of hope!Spread-The-LOVE-this

When is started my blog almost three years ago, I always had the never-ending support of my husband, mother, and mother in-law. In the beginning my site was mostly about Multiple Sclerosis and what life is like with this illness. Now, I have been able to build my blog into more than solely Multiple Sclerosis. I must admit it is nice to write about things other than the illness I deal with every day of my life. We all deserve a break from our reality at times.

downloadI recently surpassed 2,000 followers around the world and I am very thankful for each and every one of you. It is mind blowing how many friends I have found and look forward to many years of sharing posts and reading yours.

I hope you are doing well today and your week has started off well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

How can we get our creative and imaginative juices flowing?

images (1)If I were to ask you what does creative mean, what would you say? Creative means relating to or involved the imagination or original ideas. Now, what does it mean to be creative? Being creative can mean solving a problem in a new way or taking risks ignoring the doubts and facing your fears or simply separating with routine and doing something different with the interest of doing something new. In all honesty, we are all very creative in our unique ways.

I am sure it is safe to say we have all starting writing something knowing exactly where it was intended to go, but ran into an obstacle and couldn’t finish. We may have tried going back to what we were writing and made several changes, but still were not able to finish. How many times have you struggled to find the right words or images to describe whatimages (2) you were trying to describe? Have you ever made so many changes that you lost the ability to tell if what you were writing was even good at all anymore? If I am being completely honest and transparent, I have more times than I can count.

When we are constantly running into a wall of writer’s block, we need a little mental and emotional distance to recapture our perspective. We may just need this break so we can look back at our work with a fresh set of eyes and an invigorated focus. I have found some helpful tips to shift my thoughts to enable me to move forward.

  1. Change of scenery

creative-thinking-definition-with-examples-2063744_FINAL-5c61af0ac9e77c0001d321c2Sometimes developing a fresh outlook, this could mean making a physical change that might be taking a short walk or even doing a load of laundry. Various famous authors recommend numerous different things, such as David Lehman, Ph.D., the author of One Hundred Autobiographies: A Memoir suggests taking a shower. Another famous author and professor of creative writing at the University of Minnesota, Charles Baxter, Ph.D., recommends taking a car ride which preferably boring scenery.

You could take a break from the computer screen and print your work out. By viewing your work on printed pages, you may view things differently, which may create more ideas in your mind.

  1. Take on a persona

Charles Baxter, Ph.D. calls this “being bloody-minded” because the editing process images (4)requires a certain amount of ruthlessness. This involves you seeing the mistakes made, forgive them and then make the work better. Baxter says he puts himself into the mind of someone else, someone who isn’t compassionate towards him or his work. This isn’t done angrily, but just with a little slight chill to challenge himself. Isn’t it amazing how someone that isn’t softhearted to our work and say just the right thing to get us back on track again?

I think doing this can really allow you to test yourself. I tend to do this a lot and I do not argue with myself or anything like that, but I do continue until there aren’t any ways I could talk myself into any other changes or corrections. My mind needs to be at ease images (1)when I am officially done with what I have written.

  1. Create your own limits

Every time we start a new, we start with a completely blank page. We all know what a free feeling the blank page can be. There is nothing but endless possibilities and we can proceed with how we want. Even though this is an amazing feeling of freedom, it can also make us feel overwhelmed and cause a lack of motivation because there aren’t any restrictions. It might be beneficial to give ourselves some constraints. If we set a personal rule for ourselves, such as a certain number of words and or hours we need to do each day, it could force us to think more critically about our own work and in turn, help us get back on and stay track.

  1. Enlist new eyes

We often need to obtain perspective on our work from someone on the outside. Anotherimages person will not be emotionally invested, so they will be able to share their thoughts without bias. Of course, we do not want the person we bring into our work unwilling to be straightforward because they do not want to hurt our feelings, but we need someone that can be brutally honest.. When we are provided feedback, we can rethink what was written, which might lead us to a new direction altogether. The feedback received can challenge our minds and choices and lead us to even better work in the future.

  1. Heighten your senses

The best way to revitalize our work might be to seek inspiration from someone or something. Maybe watching an uplifting YouTube video could inspire us. Or maybe listening to a certain song will lift our moods and trigger the creativity we were longing for.

  1. Go to bed

images (1)Studies show sleeping on our problems can help solve some problems, especially because sleep lets us detach from our original thoughts. This distance can helps us view our ideas a lot more impartially. By becoming less emotionally invested, we can be more speculative.

Everyone has different ways to get their creative mind burning bright. I think it is very interesting to learn how others get their creativeness to shine and how it works for them. Our distinctive ways are what sets us apart from another, which is important.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope this information was help for you and you imageswill be able to incorporate some of this information into your life. I would love to know what you thought of this information and I promise to respond as quickly as I can! I hope your weekend has started off wonderful and only gets better. Remember if you leave your house today make sure to follow the advice from the CDC and WHO. I hope you have a lovely day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always Alyssa❤

First post for 2020

1_L8OVc5Qggj8DPGeaf0qd2gIt is the first Saturday of 2020 and I hope your weekend is starting off great. I have managed to start 2020 off with a migraine that just will not ease up. My migraine started while I was at work on Thursday and it was horrible. It wasn’t easy but I did get through the day. I spent Thursday evening miserable on the couch with an ice pack on my head only hoping the pain in my head would ease up. When I woke up Friday morning, I could still feel the pain in my head but forced myself to go to work. Considering I am still new at my job I couldn’t call out sick already, but did end up leaving early. I really hate that I had to leave work early and I 052d3ef283ef864b990f7f19afbb3c5d4d3426-v5-wm-e1578152985171.jpghave only been at my job 3 weeks, but it was something I couldn’t avoid. People always want to ask, “What do you think is causing your migraine?” That is one of the most irritating questions, especially when I am in that kind of pain. The only thing I can think of that could have caused the migraine is it was raining. I do tend to get more headaches/migraines when it rains. Unfortunately it looks like it is going to rain a lot over the next week.

I have been thinking a lot about 4df61b89ef51c17ab4f5d3ee2bc55313what I want for 2020. One thing I am focused on is improving and building my writing skills. Y’all already know I want to get into freelance writing and even though it isn’t going to happen overnight, I will accomplish this goal. I am not rushing this goal because I want to be sure everything is done right. I need to go through the posts I have done over my years of blogging and pick a few of my best posts to add to my writing portfolio. Once I figure out which posts I think might be some of my best, I might ask y’all for your opinions because I do value what you think!

I recently received “365 Writing Prompts” from The Writer’s Digest. I want to try doing we-all-have-the-power-to-make-our-dreams-come-23776174all 365 prompts because I think it will help build my writing skills. I hope that by continuing to blog as much as I can and completing the writing prompts I will be better equipped for a freelance career.

We only have one chance at our life and should always work towards making our dreams come true. Of course there are times when life will get difficult and we might want to give up, but we have to continue to fight for what we want! There will be many times we feel we have failed and just do not want to try anymore. I have said this before but I think it is worth saying again; the only time we truly fail is when we give up. I made a promise to my dear sweet Poppy a long time ago which was I will never surrender to Multiple 16be83960a1c19625588b2fd81f8debbSclerosis and I will never give up on my dreams, I plan to keep that promise to him. We are the only one that can make our dreams come true, no one can do it for us.

This is my first post for 2020 and I plan to continue blogging. I am unfortunately starting 2020 off behind on reading your posts, but I will get caught up and hopefully not get behind again! Working full-time and then battling with migraines does make it hard, but I am determined to get better with it. I want to continue trying to spread positivity and share great content with y’all!make-your-dreams-come-true-quote-2-picture-quote-1

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are able to do what brings you the most joy! Even though I know it isn’t easy, especially when you live with a chronic illness, I hope you hold on tight to your dreams because I know you have the power to make your dreams become your reality! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Happy New Year!!!

Goodbye-2019-Happy-New-Year-2020-greetings-and-wishes-card-915x515Another year has passed us by again and we are ready to embark on a brand new year. I went into 2019 with high hopes for a better year, but unfortunately, it felt like a repeat of 2017 and 2018 with no noticeable changes. Although the logical part of my brain gets over-run by the illogical part, I would like to believe that no change is far better than dealing with any negative changes.

As I think back on how fast the previous years went by, I feel 2019 went by at lete-review.jpgsupersonic speed! I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we have to dig a little deeper to identify those reasons. All that we face in life happens exactly when it is supposed to and hold valuable lessons.

At the end of 2019, I would like to ask y’all a few questions! I think this will be a fun and interesting way to end the year and discover ways for better years to come! I do look forward to reading your answers and to be fair, I am going to answer the same questions I asked you to!

What were the three best things that occurred during 2019?

  1. I was able to build up the courage and strength to leave a job that brought me nothing logo-retina1but misery before having another.
  2. Even with changes in jobs/schedules, I have still managed to find the time to continue blogging as much as I can.
  3. After being in an accident (obviously not a good thing), I was able to purchase the car I had wanted! It wasn’t lucky to be in an accident that totaled my car, but I was fortunate enough to find exactly what I wanted.

  If it were possible, what are three things you would change about 2019?

  1. After my husband and I moved, I was supposed to have found a new neurologist so I would not have to drive 2 hours to my old one. It has been over a year and I still change.jpghaven’t made an appointment with a new one. I
  2. I know there is not much I can do about this, but I do wish I could change and end all the senseless hatred that has built up in my country, which is causing way too many mass shootings. It is downright insanity when you have to fear a possible gunman being at the grocery store or that latest issue at a church.
  3. If I could change all the dishonesty and corruption in politics, I would and it would possibly bring back democracy.

What are the three worse things that happened in 2019?

  1. During 2019 I had my first accident and it totaled my poor car. The accident was not Bad Time Represents Hard Times And Miserymy fault, but it scared the heck out of me. I am pretty sure as scared as I was; the young kid that hit my car was twice as scared when I got out of my car yelling as I have never yelled before, especially at a young kid (well he was 17 so I am sure has heard worse)!
  2. 2019 was the first time in a long time I had to go without insurance. Going without insurance and having a chronic illness living in the United States can be dangerous.
  3. Another thing that occurred in 2019 is, mass murders were happening so frequently it became normal to see on TV. Even though I saw it all happen through the news, I can’t for the life of me understand why murders were the only way to deal with differences. It is never going to be acceptable to me.

 What are the three accomplishments you had during 2019?

  1. After walking away from one job I hated, I was able to quickly find something else that will hopefully be easier on my health.images (1)
  2. I have taken the steps needed to achieve something I am passionate about, which is trying my hand in freelance writing. Honestly, I still have more to do with getting started, but I plan to have things going further within the month of January.
  3. I have built many friendships in the blogging community that I will cherish forever and look forward to many more in the years to come!

Based on what you learned over the past year, what are the three goals you have for 2020? I decided to ask about goals instead of New Year’s Resolutions. I think resolutions put too much stress and expectations on us!

  1. I have always been extremely hard on myself. I have always been my biggest critic of everything I do. One of my goals is to stop being so hard on myself and quit second-masthead_2020-sustainability-goals-carnival-mobile.jpgguessing myself.
  2. Another goal I have is to build on my writing skills and start a freelance career.
  3. One of my greatest struggles is that I stress about everything. A continued amount of stress causes my health to deteriorate and what good is that doing anyone? I want to focus on relaxing a lot more and stressing a lot less.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your answers to the five questions I have asked. I will admit, it took me a while to complete because I had to put a lot of thought into each question.

Happy-New-Year-2020-with-lightsHappy New Year to all of you! I wish for y’all to have an amazing 2020 and all your dreams come true. I am looking forward to another year of getting to know y’all and building fabulous friendships! As always, please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

3 Days Left of 2019

3-daysCan you believe there are only 3 days left of 2019? It seems like a lot has happened over the past year, heck there has been a lot of negative that has occurred over the past 3 years because of some people wanting to create as much hatred as they possibly could.

I do know there are some that would say I am cynical because I tend to blame most of what has gone wrong in the country I live in on one person in particular. Even though I do firmly believe that the president of the United States should not be in the position he is in, I do not think I am being fair blaming it all on him. The president did not get in the position he is in by himself, he had supporters that fitting-in.jpgbelieve ALL of his lies! Sadly it does not matter how many times what he says is proven to be a lie; his followers continue to blindly believe him. I do not think it is a far fetched idea to say that the president is the ruler of one of the worse and most evil cults in my lifetime!

I do try to not get too political with what I write about because it is a hot topic with many. Disagreements regarding different political beliefs cause so many problems between family and friends. Even though I may disagree with the thoughts of other, especially those that support Trump, I do still think we are all entitled to our own opinions. As strongly as I feel regarding the most if not all hot topics, I will never try to change someone’s mind because it is almost like trying to reason with someone under the influence. I mean seriously have you ever tried to talk to someone that is drunk and have that person be logical? It just isn’t plans-for-new-years-eve.pngpossible!

How are you planning to spend the last 3 days of this year? Do you have any fun plans to bring in 2020? I know that there are many people that want to go out “on the town” and celebrate with friends. I guess I am just getting old because I do not have a desire to go out and spend way too much money on alcohol and cover charges. I think it is far safer and reasonable to just bring in the New Year in the comfort of my own home!

Last year my husband and I brought in 2019 at home with our 2 adorable cats and my husband’s aunt and uncle. We had a great time and maybe spent about ¼ of images (1)the cost we would have if we went out. I have always been a little skeptical about large crowds, but recently it has gotten much worse. There have been so many mass shootings over the past few years which have created a complete lack of safety. It is terrible when you do not even feel safe going to the grocery store because there might be someone in there with a gun andmake it part of the dance bad intentions.

Thank y’all for visiting today! It is so crazy when you have so many ideas running through your head at any given time, but you just have to get all those thoughts out there! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of     love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Ways to hunt for a job!

1_2NArbYb4bKnnacnGKphY8gWhether you are searching for a new job because you are miserable with your current job or you want to explore new jobs opportunities that sound interesting, it still isn’t easy. It can get very overwhelming and downright stressful, so you want to take things slowly and not rush yourself. I suggest making a list of the jobs and companies you have interest in. I find it easier when I have a check list because it keeps everything organized and makes it easier to remember which positions you applied for. In this post I am going to share a few strategies for searching for a new job that might be helpful for you!

  1. Online job search:online-jobs-serach-portal-1

This will allow you to search on your own time and in the comfort of your home. Typing keywords or positions into your search engine provides you with positions that fall within the area you desire. The most common job search websites are: Indeed, ZipRecruiter, LinkendIn and Glassdoor. It is very important to have an updated resume to submit and a cover letter that is directed to the position you are applying for.

  1. Network & Referrals:

BusinessReferralNetworkNashvilleMissionWordleThere are times when a company chooses to not post some positions, but instead asks their current employees for referrals. I honestly do not know why companies try this, but my guess would be it is because they trust their current employees and current employees know the personality type that would blend well with the company. At the same time, this could be a little unfair to applicants because they may be new to the area or they do not many people. This is just my personal opinion, but it kind of proves that in corporate America it isn’t what you know, it’s who you know. Candidates that might be may get turned down, even though they are very knowledgeable just because they do not know the right people and that is aggrieving.

   3. Job Fairs:Job-Fair

Many companies partake in job fairs to find the best prospective employees. When a company has plans to attend a job fair, they will advertise the event locally to reach as many job seekers as they can. When going to a job fair make sure you have your most current resume with you and a cover letter customized to the position/positions you are applying for.

To stand out even more than other applicants, you could create your own business cards. How-to-Make-Your-Business-Card-Stand-OutThe important information you should include on your business cards are:

  • Full legal name
  • Phone number
  • Email address
  • LinkedIn site information

Other important information you should know when attending a job fair is:

  • Wear your “Power Outfit” that not only shows professionalism, but will add to your confidence.
  • Create a list of questions to ask the recruiter. Preparing your list of questions will show how deep your interests are for the position. When the recruiter or hiring manager sees that you took the time to write down you list of questions, it will increase your chances of being remembered over the other applicants. as-group-4@2x
  • Practice your personal pitch several times prior to the job fair. This is your time to show your excellent communication skills and personality. It is important to make eye contact with the individual you meet with.
  • ALWAYS send a thank you email to those you spoke with the same day. FOLLOW UP with the people you spoke with at the job fair three days after the event as well. This is an easy, direct, and personable email that can make a huge difference with getting an offer!

  4. Company’s Website:

download-5.jpgTake the time to make a list of companies you are interested in working for. Once you have completed your list of potential employers, visit the company’s website and search for open positions that only show on the company website. You can utilize the company’s website to identify contacts that might be beneficial to your needs. You might be able to find contacts that are in the same department as the position you want to apply for. Once you have useful names, email addresses, or phone numbers try to connect with these individuals.

 5. Social Media Channels:Should-I-be-on-social-media-as-a-healthcare-professional_singlecontent_homepage

LinkedIn has become the social media site for professionals. LinkedIn can be used to connect with people all around the world that work for companies you wish to work for or just in the same type of work you are interested in.

Most companies also use this site to post available job openings. Individuals with experience may receive recruitment because a recruiter saw their resume and thinks they might be a good fit for a position available.

helpful-tips-picture-id933100878IMPORTANT TIPS when using social media platforms to find a job:

  • Always use your real name
  • Use only professional images
  • Audit your accounts and remove any posts that may be viewed as inappropriate or unprofessional
  • Delete profiles on websites you are no longer using
  • Brand yourself and be consistent on all platforms
  • Include who you are, what you do, and what your career plans on for the future

Finding your dream job or at least a job you will enjoy can be very challenging and dream jobextremely frustrating. At the same time it is important to stay persistent and positive. I say this because it is easy to get discouraged when you are not getting the responses you want. You might need to get a little creative with the search and use a variety of ways. For instances, you could use an online search engines with networking and the company’s website for the perfect combination. You could actually combine all of the strategies I shared together and it might work for you.

 Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you found this post useful and it will help you if you are searching for a job. I have been on several interviews and it is exhausting, but it takes effort for change to happen. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and if you have any other ways to search for a new job. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤