The importance of motivation

We all have different goals, ambitions, dreams, and talents, which helps to keep the world and life more interesting. The one minor problem we can encounter is, we do not always understand what motivation means and or why it is crucial to be and stay motivated. Through the rest of this post, I am going to explain what exactly motivation means, reasons it is important in our life, and ways to not only get motivated but also to stay motivated.

Motivation is the determination we feel to accomplish goals and or needs. This is something we experienced that is strongly influenced by several internal factors that include

*Understanding how much you want your goal and how much the goals mean to you.

*Consider what your expectations are regarding your goal.

One of many reasons motivation is important to maintain in our life is because it offers us goals to work towards. When we are working towards a goal that means something to us, it provides us with a purpose in life. The goals we may have could help us to be a better version of ourselves and or help to improve another person’s life. As we continue to set and achieve goals, we are building up our self-confidence and making us feel better about ourselves.

By becoming and staying motivated, we will be able to determine which of our habits are negative and discover ways to eliminate them. This also us to create positive habits that enable further success. Motivation also makes dealing with challenges easier. This may help to view any challenges as an opportunity rather than a negative obstacle.

Many people are struggling with getting motivated due to depression and anxiety. The challenges we all encountered with COVID produced increased levels or frustration and higher levels of stress. The following tips, regardless of stress and frustrations may help you to get motivated.

*Determine one specific and achievable goal.

*Break your goal into simple and easy tasks, and schedule regular reminders.

*Consider ways you can include your goal into your life, how you will accomplish your goal, and put a specific timeframe on your goal.

Once you have established your goal and what your timeframe to accomplish your goal, it is important to stay on the right path. To remain on the right path for successfully achieving your goal, you can try the following tips:

*Make your goal a part of your daily routine. You could keep a diary, add reminders to your daily calendar.

*Only use positive dialogue. Instead of when you get frustrated or discouraged saying “I can’t”, try telling yourself you are going to continue trying and not giving up.

*Mindfulness can be a powerful tool to keep you calm and relaxed, even when you are surrounded by chaos.

It is easy for life to become overly chaotic and overwhelming. We have our work life to balance with our home life and the two can often conflict with each other. Honestly, life is not easy and can be incredibly exhausting, but hopefully the following tips will help to keep you motivated:

*Routinely review your goals and the progress you have made. When we can see our progression, it is an amazing motivator and will boost your self-esteem.

*Never give up and continue to set new goals for yourself. Consider what you want to accomplish in the next days, weeks, and months. To avoid feeling overwhelmed, focus on one goal at a time.

*It takes at least three months to establish new habits. Maintaining your drive towards your goals needs a routine to it will become automatic over time and be like second nature.

*Surrounding yourself with positive people can increase your abilities to reach your goals. Positive family and friends help to keep you feeling optimistic and offers increased positive self-talk!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the information and tips useful to accomplish a few of your goals. Do you have any goals set for this week? How about goals for the month of December, considering we are almost in December already? I would love to the chance to read what some of your goals are and how you are planning to conquer them! I hope you have a wonderful and safe day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Pain of Loss

All losses are tragic and painful. When we endure a loss, no matter how deep the pain is, people often try saying that time heals all wounds. Do you agree or disagree with this statement? I believe that everyone is unique and processes loss in their way. No one can tell another how they should heal from a loss or how long it should take them to let go of the pain and move on.

My dear sweet and loving grandfather passed away almost nine years ago. It was not until the afternoon of September 9, 2013, I understood how one single phone call could hold the power to shatter my heart and change my life forever. It still feels like it was yesterday when I received that life-altering call that my grandfather’s battle with cancer ended and he was at peace.

Every year on my grandfather’s birthday, all I want to do is call him to wish him a happy birthday and it is heartbreaking that I cannot do that. Holidays will never feel the same without hearing the cheerfulness in his voice. I will always miss being able to call my grandfather randomly just to hear the latest family updates and any exciting news he had about his week.

Each year on the day my grandfather lost his battle with cancer and another angel was born, I relive losing him again. To this day, I cannot get through hearing the song he would sing while on a car ride without breaking down into tears. Seven Spanish Angels, by Ray Charles and Willie Nelson, will forever be special to me.

Almost ten months ago on February 7, 2021, my husband and I experienced an agonizing loss. Chloe was our special, sweet, loving, and beautiful cat that we had for nearly sixteen years. She was more than just a cat to us, but a LARGE part of our family. Chloe had an extraordinary soul and was full of love and personality. Throughout her life with us, she showed us unconditional love, happiness, and laughter. We have almost sixteen years of memories to hold on to and remember her fondly.

Chloe had healing powers and knew what and where I was hurting. She would lay on the area causing me pain until the pain would dissipate. Not one day goes by when I do not think about and miss Chloe. I still remember the only day she listened and followed my directions; it was when I told her she did not have to fight anymore, and she could let go. It was not but ten minutes later when she took her final breath.

I am sure everyone has heard that it is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. Maybe that is a true statement, but what do you think? This saying sounds so clique with truth mixed in. The two losses I just explained broke my heart into a million pieces and my heart still is not whole again.

A huge part of me believes that my grandfather knew his battle with cancer was coming to an end, which is why he did not want me to go visit him. Even in his final days, he had my best interest in mind. I think he did not want me to see him struggling and have that be the way I remembered him. Regardless of anything else, I regret not being able to see him one last time. I was not able to tell him how much I loved and appreciated him and say my final goodbyes.

Even though I will always miss Chloe, I am thankful we were able to let her pass in her time and comfortably at home and on my lap. She spent her entire life surrounded by nothing but love. If there were anything I could have done to prolong her life without pain or struggles, I would have gladly done so.

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading of what I am reminiscing about. Memories can be great, but also have sadness within them. I do cherish the memories I have of my late grandfather and Chloe but would give anything for one more day with both. I hope you have had a nice and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Better days ahead

We have all been trying to survive life and our new norms. Countless emotions have surfaced during the last eighteen months that we have never felt before. It became easy to feel hostile because of isolation and confinement to our homes. Even to this day, we do not know if the normal life we were used to before the pandemic will ever return. It is almost impossible to remember what life was like before the pandemic or at least I can hardly remember what it used to be.

Granted, even though the pandemic made it unsafe to go out to dinner or the mall or anywhere not inside the four walls of our homes, was it ever safe? I mean think about all the violence the exists in the world. It was starting to feel like anywhere we went we went might encounter a mass shooting. Do I think guns should be outlawed? No, not outlawed but regulated much more, yes. I think a lot of the gun violence was due to mental illness and the truth is, mental health in the United States is terrible.

I know there is going to be a day when COVID is a painful and distant memory, but no idea when that will be. Even after COVID is in the past, the violence might still linger, and we should always be aware of our surroundings. Life should be a balance of good and evil because it helps us to be a lot more grateful for our life.

On a more positive note, we need to remember life is a gift and something we should cherish! Once the pandemic is over and it becomes safer to leave our homes, have you thought about what it will feel like? What are some of the things you missed during these challenging times? What are some of the simple pleasures in life you are excited to have return?

I do not mind being home most of the time, but it does get incredibly isolating especially because I work from home. I either feel like I am always at work or just never go anywhere to add happiness and excitement to life. It is crazy to think of going to a doctor’s appointment as a fun outing! I love my husband, our cats, and our house, but I do enjoy seeing the world! I think travelling is exciting because it provides insight to other cultures. Even though there are many terrible people in the world, there are many fascinating people as well.

I know I have mentioned this before, but while I am on the subject life getting back to normal, I cannot wait to visit the ocean again. The beach has always been one of the happiest places for me to be. I find the ocean to be relaxing and calming. The way the water crashes down on the beach is soothing. Considering I am someone that is a walking and talking stress case, the ocean is the only place I never feel any stress

I have had groceries delivered since the start of the pandemic, which has been amazing. I never did enjoy grocery shopping because it feels so unbearable at times. Although most of the time I do not miss grocery shopping, there have been times I did miss it because I felt helpless. I think one of the main reasons I never enjoyed grocery shopping is because crowds are overwhelming.

Another thing is I am beyond tired of wearing masks anytime I do get to leave the house. I know they are necessary to stop the spread of the virus, but they are extremely uncomfortable and suffocating.

I look forward to the day when the pandemic is behind us because life is too short to live in fear. I do wish this was all in the past now, but until it is I will continue to do what is necessary to keep myself and family safe. I hope the way things have been for the past eighteen months has taught people to be understanding and kind to others because even though we might not know it, everyone is going through something in life. People tend to behave in negative ways when they are struggling, but if they are shown a little compassion, they may lighten up and be kinder. It often takes a simple smile to make someone’s bad day brighter.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you had a lovely and safe holiday! I do look forward to reading your comments, which I promise to respond to as quickly as I can. One important thing learned over the past few months is, we are all going through the same challenges and need to work together to make it to better days! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Thankful today and always

There are 365 days in every year, but only one day that is dedicated for everyone to show how and what they thankful they are. Why does there have to be a day to be thankful? Why can we not try to express how thankful we are the other 364 days during the year? We all have many things we should be thankful for but have come to expect things to stay the way they are and that our loved ones are always going to be there. The sad truth is things never stay the same and people do not live forever.

Some people that have not had to experience loss and have not had to go without people they cherish, or other things needed for survival for too long that it is to imagine being without. The only constants in life are that things are always changing, tragedy is relentless, and hits hard, and tomorrow is not a guarantee. No one knows when their time on this earth will end, which is why I have always believed we should live each day as if it were our last.

Unfortunately, there are too many families that lost someone they cared about and will never get a chance to tell them how much they meant to them. These families missed their opportunity to say their goodbyes to someone they cared deeply for due to a deadly virus or senseless and unnecessary violence, or reckless driving that ended in a tragic accident. I have already mentioned my views on the virus numerous times, so I think everyone knows how I feel and even if you disagree, there are ways to help end COVID. The violence that occurs is nothing new but is something that needs to stop because everyone is a human being with a beating heart.

During the last eighteen months, people around the world have experienced tremendous amounts of hardships and loss that no one could have anticipated. I think that all of this should serve us with a lesson to never take anything or anyone for granted. I know that life gets chaotic and exhausting, but we can all try a little harder and care a little deeper, so no one ever must question how we feel about them. Instead of showing our thanks only once a year, we should practice giving thanks daily.

Take some time to think about these questions for a few minutes, what are you the most thankful for in your life? Is there a person in your life that you cannot fathom being without? Is there anyone in your life that you have not spoken to in a while, but do care for? Besides a person, what else are you thankful for? Most important, remember that life is short and there is not a rewind or pause button.

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. I hope this post will help you to find ways to be and show how thankful you are daily. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! I hope you and your family have a lovely and safe holiday!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

The weekend went so fast and we are once again on Monday. Is it not amazing how fast the two-day weekend flies by? I do hope you had a nice and safe weekend. Unfortunately, ready or not the new week is happening. I guess the positive way to view things is that we are being given a chance to make the best of the week and anything we were not able to accomplish last week we can try again! It is never easy to accept the weekend being over, but this does happen every week and we handle it the best we can.

As we start a week with a holiday towards the end of the week, we all need to try to stay optimistic and motivated. Letting go of the weekend and getting back to our normal schedule, finding motivation is never easy. I do hope the quote I am sharing will help keep you focused on the good and motivated to accomplish anything we set our minds to. We can all admit that life is not easy and many things are thrown our way at random times. We all find ways to get through anything we encounter because we are strong and determined! Strength is much deeper than how much you can lift and more about what we can withstand during our life!

This is the week of Thanksgiving, which hopefully we can all celebrate in a safe and happy way. It seems things are a lot safer this year than they were last year with COVID spreading wildly. Many people have been vaccinated and or had COVID already, so hopefully the spread will not continue. Y’all know how concerned I have been about the virus and that I have had three vaccines, so I am fully vaccinated. Of course, I thought after the first two vaccines I was fully vaccinated but the antibodies test said different.

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope you found deeper meaning to the quote that I shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments, which I promise to respond to as quickly as I can. Most people are probably happy for a shorter work week, but I have always said the shorter weeks feel twice as long. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Whether we are ready or not, it is Monday again. I do not think anyone is ever 100% ready for Monday morning because the weekends are too short. Although, my weekend was not much of a weekend at all because of our cat, Sundance having issues with his asthma. At least I can hope, this week will not be anywhere near as stressful as the weekend was because that would be awful. I had intended to work on a few posts this weekend, but unfortunately, I was not able to do so. On a more positive note, tomorrow is another day so, I will try again to complete at least one of those posts.

How was your weekend? I do not know about you, but the time change always confuses my poor mind. It causes me to either feel behind or too soon and hardly do I feel like it is the correct time. The time change that happened over the weekend normally gives us an extra hour of sleep, but I do not feel rested at all. That might have something to do with worrying about our cat and not getting near enough sleep.

Considering Monday is unavoidable, we must try to find a way to start the week in a positive mindset and be motivated! Many of us experience pain daily and have come to terms with this. I am hoping the quote I am sharing with y’all will provide you with a little motivation that will start your week in the best way it can be and that your week will only improve as each day passes until the weekend returns again! I think we can all agree that pain is not fun to live with, but maybe it does make us stronger to handle everything else that life has in store for us!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the quote I shared motivating and it helps you find comfort in the week ahead of us. I do look forward to reading your comments on how your weekend went, the quote, and how feel about time change. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

My Weekend

The weekends are meant for rejuvenating and recovering from the previous week. Unfortunately, this past weekend was filled with stress and worry. It was not the typical stress and worry people, including myself struggle with and yet was very similar to something I had shared not too long ago.

Our sweet, loving, and amazing older cat has gone through many health issues over the last several months. As soon as we think we are in the clear and he is okay, he shows signs he is not feeling well. Sundance is full of personality and expressions, so it is easy for us to know how he is feeling at any given time. It is heartbreaking when he becomes ill because it leaves us feeling helpless, especially me. After all, I have been the caretaker of our cats.

Sundance was diagnosed with asthma shortly after we adopted him about nine years ago. Since his diagnosis, he has experienced a few asthma attacks, but after the first major episode, I demanded he has an emergency inhaler. We have done everything possible to keep our sweet boy comfortable and happy.

It started on Saturday afternoon, Sundance started coughing and displaying signs of respiratory distress. It was obvious the issues he was having were related to his asthma, so I did give him his inhaler on Saturday afternoon and hoped he would improve. When we woke up on Sunday morning, he was behaving like himself, taking his medicine, and eating his breakfast.

At around noon, he started having abdominal and open mouth breathing. My husband had worked Saturday night, so he was awake when I called him asking him to come into the living room because I needed help with Sundance. Thankfully, my husband can remain calm when I am panicked about our cat’s health. Sundance is feisty which makes giving him the inhaler challenging, so can take both of us to do it correctly. Once we gave him the inhaler, his breathing improved.

I am so glad that my husband can keep me calm when I am terrified that something awful is going to happen to any of our cats. I have always been that type that can go from calm to freak out in less than a second, so it is wonderful having someone that can keep me grounded and balanced. When the temperatures start to get cooler, it causes issues with Sundance’s asthma which is why we have always had humidifiers, but they had not been brought up from the basement yet. They are now cleaned and set up in two rooms in our house and hopefully, that will keep Sundance from having any further asthma scares.

I guess it is safe to say, since we lost Chloe in early February I worry even more. I do not think either of us could handle another loss like this again, especially so soon. We both love our pets very deeply and think of them like they are our children. We are a family of five and cannot imagine life without one of the five. I think the reason why I worry as much as I do is that I love that much. We have all heard that saying, it is better to have loved and lost rather than never loved at all, but seriously, a loss is so painful, and it never gets any easier.

Thank you for visiting my site. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and you had a better weekend than I did. Whatever your weekend involved, I hope you remained safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

It is finally Friday

We finally made it through this week y’all! Happy Friday and I hope you are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. It has without a doubt been a long week, but it was not too terrible. It could always be worst. Right? This afternoon is my routine follow-up appointment with the pain management doctor, and they are always the same. Nothing changes with the appointment or my pain level, so I am just doing what the doctor orders.

Over the past week, there was a drastic change in the weather. I think y’all already know how much the insane heat bothers me, but the cold tends to have a negative effect as well, especially when it includes rain. I think it might be more to do with when the changes go from extreme heat to cold that my body does not react well to. Of course, the heat does cause my symptoms to be worse than normal. Then the cold forces me to tense up which in turn causes pain to escalate because of the tension throughout my body. I think it would be perfect if the temperatures could be in the low 70’s year-round, but I know that will never happen. A girl can dream though!

Do any of you have plans for the weekend? I know you will not be surprised that I do not really have anything planned. My husband works all weekend and I do not. I will hopefully sleep in past 6:30, but that is if the cats allow it. The little girl that sleeps with me thinks it is her job to wake me up early and has reinforcement from our older cat. They just want treats and to hopefully get comfortable on my lap.

I am not violent in any way shape or form, but there are a few good UFC fights this weekend that we will watch on Sunday morning. In two of the fights, I have my pick of who I want to win, but we will see what happens. I am a huge fan of one of the female fighters, Rose Namajunas. After listening to her story, I learned that we have a few things in common, and through her story she gives me hope to move past events from the past.

There are a few things I want to write about and have had in my mind this week, but I will not make any promises. I am going to try though. It is always challenging to do the posts I want to do during the week because of how exhausted I am after work. So, the weekends are the time I try, and I am not always successful and often fail with this.

I hope you had a good week, and you will be able to let go of anything that happened during the week that caused you to feel negative emotions. The weekends are too short to allow for those negative emotions to impact your weekend. Life and weekends are short, so we need to be able to do what brings us the most joy. I found a pretty quote that I wanted to share and hope it helps you to leave the week in the past and enjoy your weekend! I would love to know what you think of the quote I am sharing!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. Whatever you have planned for the weekend, please do so in the safest way possible. I want to believe there will come a day when the virus is in the past and we can live our lives in a normal way again without fear of getting the virus because I know how hard this is. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The Five Wishes Game

I have good news for y’all, we are halfway through this week and so close to the weekend. How has this week been for you? I hope it has been a good week and you are feeling well. It often feels like the weeks get long or just drag by and then the weekends fly by in the blink of an eye. If only the weekends were five days, and the weekdays were two. As children, most of us wanted to be adults, but we did not understand what that meant.

Has anyone ever thought about what it would be like to have a genie in a bottle that could fulfill five wishes? I think that would be an amazing thing and it could do some wonderful things for the world. Of course, now I am going to ask you what your five wishes would be and why? I think this can be a fun thing to do and allow everyone to get to know one another because wishes can say a lot about a person.

I think it is only fair that I play along and share what mine would be with you. My first wish would be to end the pain people in the world feel. The reason this would be one of my wishes is that I know how awful pain is and what it does to someone’s mental health. No one in this world should have to suffer from something so detrimental to one’s being. Pain can make someone feel alone, down on themselves, sad, angry, and a load of other negative emotions.

My second wish would be for there to be world peace. Life is already challenging enough without all the hatred that fills the emptiness in a person’s heart. Everyone should be treated fairly, equally, and with respect. Unfortunately, that does not seem to be the way things are because there is still way too much discrimination in every place around the world. I never saw things being this bad before, but that is probably because I was naïve and or too blind to see things the way they were.

My third wish would be that no one would ever go hungry. The United States where I live has so much wealth, but it is not evenly distributed. Some people have more money than they could ever spend in five lifetimes, so if they could share a little with those that are less fortunate no person would ever go without being fed. I know some might argue that those with ridiculous amounts of money worked hard for it and maybe some were not able to. But what does it matter?

My fourth wish would be that cures would be found for all the illnesses that plague the lives of so many. Heart disease is the #1 killer and Cancer is the #2 killer of people around the world. Other illnesses such as Dementia, Huntington’s disease, Muscular Dystrophy, Multiple Sclerosis, Parkinson’s Disease, and the list goes on brings so many awful things to a person’s life, and they did nothing to deserve this kind of cruelty.

The last wish I would have would be that no child would ever experience child abuse of any kind. This abuse includes physical, sexual, emotional, and neglect. The effects of child abuse can be a lifelong battle this child will experience into adulthood. Children are innocent and should be protected because they are not able to do much to get out of the abusive environment.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today, and I look forward to reading what your five wishes would be. I thought this might be fun to do or at least interesting. If only our wishes could come true, the world would be much easier to handle. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

One Day Down & Four To Go

We have made it through one day of this week and only have four left before the weekend arrives again. Yesterday was a busy day at work, which made the day go by quickly. To be honest, even though I do prefer my days to be busy it did cause my pain to increase drastically. I guess it is probably because of the way my desk is and how my hands and arms are for 8 eight hours seldom taking a break. I should know better by now and get up to step away from the desk for at least 5 minutes every 30 minutes. My reason for not getting up walking away from my workspace is because I do not want to lose my focus, especially since as the day progresses, I become more fatigued.

I do have a doctor’s appointment on Friday with my pain management doctor. This is just my routine follow-up I must do every three months, so it is not a big deal. I like the Nurse Practitioner because she is nice and easy to talk to. Considering I live about an hour and a half from the office, she allows me to do my appointments every three months, instead of every two months. I really hate driving on the Interstate because the road is away, and the traffic can be terrible as well. It amazes me how some people got their driver’s license because they never should have!

The weather has been getting cooler with only a few off days when it is warmer than it should be in November. Of course, this week rain is expected at least one day, which always makes things worse for me. The rain causes pain to be much worse and other issues to escalate. Has anyone else noticed changes in the way you feel when it is rainy and or cold?

I hope you had a good day yesterday and you are feeling well What is the weather like where you are living, and do you like it? I know this is not the normal way of my posts, but I am trying to keep up with daily posts and I think writing about things I am going through might be helpful. I also want to get to know y’all better and think this might be a good way to do so. What do you think?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I am looking forward to hearing from you. I promise to respond to your comments as quickly as I can. I know things with COVID are getting better, but I think we still have a long way to go. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa