Unintentional Break

It has been a few days since I have done a post and the reasons do not make a lot of sense. I took Friday off from work because it was my birthday. The last thing I wanted to do on my birthday was deal with frustrating and demanding people. I normally never work on my birthday because I think it should be a day to do what I want to do. Of course, I did not get to do most things I wanted to, but I did not wake up at 6:30 AM, which was nice!

Considering it was a day off during the week, I did take our older cat to the doctor on Friday only so he could continue to get his asthma medication prescribed. Even though his doctor is only about a mile and a half from our house, he HATES car rides and gets incredibly scared. It was good timing for him to go to the doctor because he seemed to not feel well. When I say this cat has many expressions and it is undeniable to not be able to read them, I mean it! It is heartbreaking when he does not feel well because I feel helpless☹. His appointment went well, and the doctor said that the issues he was experiencing were more than likely allergies which are intensified by his asthma. He has spent the last few days very lethargic, but he is finally starting to be more himself now😊!

Saturday was my 11th wedding anniversary. It is insane that we have been married for 11 years because it seems like yesterday when we were married. My husband and I had a beautiful and small wedding, which was the way we wanted it to be. I do still remember every second of the day we were married. Unfortunately, I did not have anyone to give me away, but we came up with our way to handle that and it was perfect😊. I did not want to walk down the entire aisle alone, so we met halfway, which I still think is a perfect way to start a marriage. I think a marriage should always give and take!

I am so thankful that we were married while my husband’s grandmother was still with us because she was an incredibly beautiful and loving lady, and I am honored and blessed to have known and loved her and be loved by her. My husband’s grandfather had passed away several years before our wedding, but his spirit was still felt there. A picture that was taken had a bubble that appeared to have a smiley face in it, which I still believe was his late grandfather. I did get emotional a few times that day. The first time was before I walked out the door to start walking down the aisle. I asked my maid of honor to look and see if my father was there. Unfortunately, he was not, and it broke my heart into pieces, but I had to keep it together because the wedding was about to start. I was also sad because my late grandfather was unable to be there, but I did feel his love.

Our wedding was amazing, and I am thankful for those that were able to attend. I was very happy and stress-free the day we were married, which is huge for me because I am normally a massive stress case! It has honestly taken me many years to get over the hurt I felt that day. I do understand why my late grandfather was unable to be there. As I have mentioned in previous posts, my late grandfather was a pro-golfer and there was an event for him the day I was married. Plus, he was living in Massachusetts, and I was in North Carolina. I do still struggle with the sadness, disappointment, hurt, and pain that my father did not come to see me get married. It has been 11 years and I am finally realizing, it was more his loss than mine and I am sorry for him that he missed the happiest day of my life.

I am off from work again tomorrow and we do have some fun plans made to celebrate both my birthday and our anniversary. We are going to do something I have been wanting to do for a while now but wanted to be sure I was not alone. I am finally going to be getting the daith piercing and I am extremely excited. Yes, I know it will hurt, but I deal with pain all the time anyways, so I do not think it could be any worse😊! I might also get the helix piercing as well because I think it looks cute!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and doing the things that make YOU happy! Weekends and life are SO short, so we need to try living life to the fullest! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Halfway there!

The great thing about Wednesday is it means we are halfway through the week and only have the other half to make it through before the weekend returns! Of course, I understand the first half of the week may have been challenging, but the last part of the week will be much easier, or at least that is what I keep telling myself😊. The power of the mind is a powerful thing, so if we believe hard enough, maybe we can believe it into reality😊!

I know I mentioned earlier that I took Friday off from work for my birthday! I found out yesterday that we are going to be working 10-hour days for the rest of the week. I think it was pure luck I decided to not work on my birthday because working for 10 long hours on my birthday would have been awful!!!! My workday on Monday was pretty terrible because I had a customer yell at me, not just once, but twice. I am not sure how I managed to keep my composure, but I did😊. I will never understand why people think it is best to yell and insult another person when they are not getting their way because that is the worst way to deal with it!

It is knowing we are halfway through the week that is a good feeling but at the same time a little distressing. I think we could all use a little inspiration, just to get through the rest of the week. When working 8 or more hours a day and feeling exhausted, it can be difficult to stay focused because the week is nearly over. I really love the quote I am sharing with you today and hope that it inspires you to survive the remainder of this week. I think it can help to focus MORE on the opportunities we are offered and MUCH less time focusing on the problems that arise each day. 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and hope you found the quote inspiring. Today will be a good day and we might just need to continue repeating it every few minutes, whatever it takes😊! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

Monday has come and gone, so hopefully, Tuesday will be much easier. For some reason, Mondays are always chaotic and dreaded. Yesterday was a mixture of good and bad, but nonetheless, I am glad it is over. The one thing that yesterday taught me is we always need to stand up for ourselves and never allow anyone to mistreat us, which means we can politely defend ourselves when someone speaks negative and ugly words to us.

Although we did survive Monday, we do still have a few more days to get through until the weekend returns again. I think not just on Tuesday, but every day of the week we need to discover calmness and peacefulness to avoid unnecessary stress. I am hoping the quote that I am sharing with y’all today brings peace and calmness. I do believe that the calmer we can keep our minds, the better we will feel. In order to stay strong and maintain our mental stability, we need to stay as stress free as possible.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found peace in the quote that I shared with you today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Human Rights

Abortion has been a controversial issue for decades and long before anyone had heard about Roe. Since June 24, 2022, when Roe vs Wade was overturned, abortion has become an even more heated topic. The views and beliefs of people around the world are plentiful and remain extremely controversial. I understand some of these views fall in line with religious beliefs, which is their right and no one can alter their beliefs. Row vs Wade was a ruling made almost 50 years ago in January of 1973, during a time before things were more progressive. In the past, nearly 50 years have we progressed at all? Are we trying to evolve or are we only consistently devolving?

I am very aware that there will be numerous people that are going to disagree with my thoughts, but I am going to share them anyway. This issue has caused me a lot of frustration and anger, and this post has taken me over a week to finish. First, let me start by saying that I do not agree with using abortion as a form of birth control. There are risks a woman may experience from having an abortion, which may include pain and cramping, plus some intense mental health struggles, and social and financial burdens. There is already a negative stigma surrounding abortion, so I do not believe any woman is going to choose to have an abortion if it is not truly necessary.

People do need to be responsible and practice safe sex, but unforeseen things can happen. When a woman decides for whatever reason that she wants to have an abortion, there are safe ways to have this procedure completed. According to the World Health Organization, about 45% of all abortions are unsafe of which 97% occur in developing countries. Unfortunately, unsafe abortions are a leading avoidable cause of maternal deaths. If women lose the ability to get a safe abortion where the dangers decrease, the problem will be more unsafe abortions and an increased number of women dying unnecessarily.

Another HUGE problem I have with banning abortions is it is taking away a woman’s right to decide what she can do with HER body. The United States “claims” to be a “free” country”, right? Please explain how taking away a woman’s right to her body is freedom because this does not sound like what I consider freedom.

If a woman is raped, how can anyone force her to keep her rapist’s baby? That baby will be a constant reminder of the worst day in her life, which is NOT fair. If a woman gets pregnant and can be mature enough to admit that she does not have the means to provide a safe and happy life for that child, WHY should she be forced to? She was trying to put that child’s needs first and not bring it into a world where it would not have what it needs to flourish.

Please take a look at the states that have already banned abortion. Do you see a common denominator to these states? The first two states to put an abortion ban were Indiana and West Virginia. I am not surprised about Indiana, but I have been to West Virginia and have seen what people are like there, so I am shocked they were the 2nd state to ban abortion. I do not mean to bring politics into this as that is another hot topic and causes more arguments, but most of the states that have banned abortion are Republican leading with the voting poles. This is not an opinion, but a fact!

Regardless of an individual’s political or religious ideology, what gives anyone the right to tell a woman what she can or cannot do with HER body? In a “free” country, how can a government dictate law for a human body? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months? I have heard the argument that she can give the baby up for adoption, but nine months is a long time to carry a baby and endure childbirth all because a man did not listen to the simple two letters word “NO”.

Again, I understand that many people reading this post will have opposite views that I do and that is your right. I am not trying to take anyone’s rights away from them, like so many states are doing to women. Like I have already said, I do not think abortion should be used as a form of birth control, but that is not my right to decide for another woman, it is hers and hers ONLY! I believe in a woman’s right to decide if she can take care of another human life and if she knows she can’t, I do not think she should be forced to. More than anything else, I do not think any woman should be told she must carry her rapist’s baby because this was no fault of hers.

I am sorry if this post has offended anyone but am not sorry for the way I see things. I am not sorry that I think a woman is the only person that can decide what happens to her body. I am not sorry that I do not agree a woman should never have to carry a baby from rape or incest. I am not sorry that I do not agree with what is going on in the United States. I am not sorry that I view freedom differently than some do. I am not sorry that I feel a woman has the right to decide!

Thank you for visiting my site today. Although I do know many will disagree with everything I stated, I do hope it provides you with an understanding as to why I view things the way I do. When I find something extremely disturbing and when something upset me, I feel the need to write about it because it helps me to accept things and let the anger go. I hope you are having a nice and safe weekend. I do encourage you to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes. 

Always, Alyssa

Thoughts out of the blue

Out of the blue and for no reason at all, I started thinking about a life-altering event I went through. This is not something I dwell on because I have very little control over it and it would be a waste of time to overthink it. It has been more than 20 years since I heard my doctor tell me that I had Multiple Sclerosis. I was still so young, very ignorant of what this meant for my life, and fears of how many challenges I would be forced to endure. Of course, I did hear the words the doctor spoke to me on the day he broke the news to me, but it took me a while to accept what he said to me. I tried my best to fight him and tell him he was wrong, but that was fighting a battle I had no chance of winning. After several months, I chose to accept it, but also to never surrender because I do believe in the power of the mind and that positive thoughts produce positive outcomes.

All those years ago, I was terrified that I would not be able to live a normal life. Nowadays, I wonder what is normal because for me it is constant pain and frustration with a disease without a cure. I feared that I would lose the ability to walk and take care of myself, which would have been extremely hard for me because I am a very independent person and never want to rely on anyone for anything. It has been approximately 20 ½ years, 7,488 days, 179,703 hours, and 10,782,180 minutes (give or take) and I am still here. I am walking and taking care of myself and my husband, and my three cats. There have been many obstacles through the years, but I have always remained determined to not allow this illness to defeat me.

Over all the years, I have learned more than I ever wanted to about Multiple Sclerosis and as crazy as this sounds, it has taught me a lot. I have learned how to discover a strength that I never imagined having. I have learned how being determined can help me to survive the most challenging situations. I now understand how powerful resilience is and the many ways it can help us to persevere, even when we feel like hope is lost. I have learned just how a positive mind can make a HUGE difference in our daily life.

At the beginning of this post, I mentioned that I do not dwell on things I have little control over. I do understand that even though I have little control over Multiple Sclerosis, I can control how much I allow it to bring me down and to feel helpless. I do have control over my mind, and I can tell myself that I am stronger than this unpredictable illness. Most importantly, I can remind myself that I did nothing to cause this illness to continue to plague my life. I will continue to keep the promise I made to my late grandfather shortly after I was diagnosed to continue to fight the battle until I win the war against Multiple Sclerosis.

Unfortunately, we all have something we must live with, and we all have a choice in how we approach things. I am thankful the doctor caught the Multiple Sclerosis early because if he did not, I can only imagine how much worst things would be for me today. I will always have a special place in my heart for my first Neurologist and his Nurse Practitioner because they were an amazing team that never lost hope in me. I am thankful that I have learned to not feel any shame because of what I live with.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that in some way, it resonates with you and helps you to understand your strength. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and remaining as safe as possible. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Day Of Fall

Happy Friday eve! Today is the first day of my favorite season, Fall or Autumn whichever you prefer to call it! This is typically the season when the temperatures are the most reasonable, they are not too hot and not too cold, they are just perfect. Funny that I am saying that because it seems that Mother Nature did not get the memo or she is having a bad day because the temperatures where I live are going to be 94 degrees. Those are stupid summer temperatures, not cool fall temperatures. I am not sure who made Mother Nature made, but I think they need to apologize because this is not the way to begin my favorite season.

What does the autumn season look like to you? What should the As temperatures be? In my opinion, this time of a year should be far less than the mid 90’s because that is what summer is. The leaves should begin to fall and blanket the ground with their beauty. Today, we should be able to say “goodbye” to summer and the insane heat until June! Please do not get me wrong, I do enjoy summertime, but only while I am at the beach with the glorious ocean breeze. The good news is after today, the temperatures will slowly be decreasing to cooler and tolerable kind of weather.

I am not sure how we managed to make it through most of the week, but we did and now we only have one day until the weekend returns. As difficult as it might feel and seem, we did make it through the most difficult part of the week, so I believe the end will be filled with everything happy! I hope y’all find the quote I am sharing and that it provides you the pick-me-up needed to push through one more day! Something that I think is important in this crazy life is that we need to try our best to just slow down and take things one at a time. This is one of the only things that help me to stress a little less.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful day and you enjoyed what I shared with you today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. No matter what happens today or what stressors appear, try to do your best to relax and take things in stride. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

Happy mid-week! Thankfully, it is Wednesday, which means the week is already halfway over and we just have to get through the last part of it before the weekend returns. The first half of the week was okay, but I am hoping the last part is much better. How has your week been? I am not sure about you, but I cannot believe September is almost over. Seriously, where did the month go and how did it go by so quickly?

Even though we have survived the first half of the week, we do still need to find a way to get through the final part of the week. Of course, the weeks do feel long, but the good news is this week is nearly over. I think we could use a little inspiration to help us through the next couple of days. I hope you feel the inspiration in the quote that I am sharing with you today. I think we can easily forget how much power we have within us. It is even easier to forget how to love and forgive ourselves, but this is extremely important to learn to do. Once we learn to love and forgive ourselves, we need to continue to do this for the rest of our lives.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and look forward to reading your comments. I promise to respond to all of your amazing comments as quickly as I can. I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday and the rest of your week is even better than the first part of the week. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

I think that a congratulations is in order because we made it through the least favorite day of the week yesterday😊. Monday is typically a day we all dread because it means the workweek began. The weekend seems so far away, but in all honesty, the days do go by rather fast. Of course, we do have to get through five grueling days just to make it to a weekend with two of the shortest days ever, but it will all be worth it. It does appear that as I get older, the days, weeks, and years go much faster!

How was your Monday? Mine was not bad at all and in fact was better than my weekend. I had almost forgotten about a one-on-one meeting with my supervisor in the morning and for some reason, I always get nervous about meetings like these. I must say, I have one of the most amazing supervisors and the best one I have had in a long time😊! This was our first one-on-one meeting and it was wonderful. I seriously wish there were more people like her because she truly cares! Not only is she easy to talk to, she listens, which is not as common as it should be!

There is one day completed this week and four left, but I think the days will pass with ease. Considering we survived Monday😊, I do not think the rest of these days will be too bad. I am hoping the quote I am sharing with y’all today will provide you with a sense of peace and calmness. Life can be stressful and we often need a reminder of how to live a calm and peaceful life. One thing that always brings me peace is the sound of the ocean. The sounds of the waves rolling in and back out are glorious and extremely peaceful.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the quote and it brings you the same peace it has given to me. The good thing about Tuesday is, we survived Monday and we are well on our way to the weekend again😊! I would love to know what you thought about what I shared today and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

It is amazing how fast Monday returns because it feels like it was Friday just an hour ago. All I can say right now is, where in the world did the weekend go? Although it was obviously too short, how was your weekend? I think there must have been something floating around in the air because the last few days have been a little challenging. Life cannot always be sunshine and rainbows as we all experience rainy dark days. The good thing is we find ways to work through the bad days so that we can enjoy the good times when they return because they always will just stay calm and remain patient😊!

It does not matter if we are ready or not, but the new week is here and we must try to approach it with as much motivation as we can find within us. I know it is not easy, especially because the weekend was short and a little stressful, but I also know we have the strength to do so! I hope you will find the quote I am sharing with you today motivating, encouraging, and inspiring because that is what we need at the beginning of the week. Although the world might be filled with unpleasantries and ugliness, there are also many beautiful and amazing things as well. Sometimes it does take distancing yourself from the negativity before you can view the beauty!

How was your weekend? I hope you were able to relax and anything you did brought you happiness😊. I am still so happy that the temperatures seem to be getting better and not so insanely hot, but I also know that Mother Nature can change at any moment. Many people do enjoy summer because of those amazing beach vacations, which I do love, but I do not enjoy the ridiculous 90-100 degrees. The first day of Autumn is this week, which is my favorite season. The temperatures get a lot more pleasant, not too hot and not too cold, they are just right😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you and you found the quote meaningful. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope your week begins well and only gets better with each day that passes until the weekend returns. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sleep Deprivation

Sleep is crucial for our overall health and well-being. We do not realize how active our brain is while we sleep as it carries out numerous vital functions. Sleep is imperative to every process in the body. The benefits of sleep include, but are not limited to keeping yourself healthy, possibly helping prevent cancer, reducing stress and inflammation, you will feel more alert, enhancing memory, may help you to lose weight and many more things that are beneficial.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), an estimated one in three adults does not get enough sleep. The suggested hours of sleep vastly range depending on an individual’s age, but they do advise adults to get at least seven hours of sleep each night.

Understandably, intermittent disturbances may be an inconvenience, and this does happen to all of us. However, even with that said, it is critical to understand an ongoing lack of quality sleep can create issues with performance at work or school, and the ability to function in daily life and cause the quality of life to deteriorate drastically.

When people fail to get enough sleep, they may face dangerous consequences. Sleep deprivation is what occurs when people are consistently lacking sleep or have a reduction in quality sleep. The following are the different types of sleep deprivation:

Acute Sleep Deprivation- Refers to not sleeping or a reduction in the normal total sleep time, typically lasting one or two days.

Chronic Sleep Deprivation- Also referred to as insufficient sleep syndrome. This is when the person is getting insufficient sleep or experiences sleeplessness over an extended period.

Chronic Sleep Deficiency or Insufficient Sleep- Describes poor sleep that occurs due to sleep fragmentation or other disruptions for an extended period.

Several effects are detrimental to long-term sleep deprivation, which I will explain in the rest of this post. The following are not in any specific order or severity.

Hypertension is an increased blood pressure, which is said to be linked to when you get less than 5-6 hours of sleep per night. As I stated at the beginning of this post, sleep helps to carry out vital functions, including regulating the body’s hormones causing stress. The lack of rest intensifies the effects of stress on the body. An increase in blood pressure, higher than normal heart rate, and inflammation puts unnecessary strains on the heart.

Heart attack and stroke because sleep deprivation increases the risk of fatal cardiovascular issues. Doctors and researchers suggest that because lack of sleep can disrupt parts of the brain controlling the circulatory system or cause inflammation can allow for the development of blood clots.

Sleeping as much as five hours is not enough and research suggests that sleep deprivation may disrupt the body’s ability to process glucose cells. These cells are utilized for fuel and certain amounts of insulin produced by the body. Sleep deprivation is considered a consequential risk factor for developing type 2 diabetes.

When people do not get a good night’s sleep, they tend to feel irritable. Long-term sleep deprivation is linked to clinical depression and loss of motivation. People who battle with depression typically have irregular sleep schedules. Our sleep cycles and regulation of moods are regulated by a hormone called “melatonin”.

Both anxiety and panic attacks are common reactions when battling with chronic sleep deficiency. People may display lower tolerance for mild stressors that would normally not cause any irrational reactions.

Even after one night of restless sleep, we can experience mental fog, fatigue, short tempers, and lack of focus. When our brain is unable to get adequate rest for an extended period, mental abilities can be drastically impaired. Logically, we know we need proper sleep to keep a sharp mind, concentrate, and learn. Lack of sleep may impact our problem-solving skills and the ability to regulate our emotions and make rational decisions. Sleep deprivation can also create problems with balance, reflexes, and motor skills, which can easily result in injury or car accidents when they “try” to drive.

A more serious, extreme, and long-term lack of sleep can cause numerous psychiatric disturbances. There have been some people that suffered from prolonged periods of sleep deprivation that reported symptoms that included disorientation, paranoia, and hallucinations. These symptoms can be upsetting, confusing, and terrifying for the person and those around them.

I am not a medical professional, but this is something I have been a witness to and was forced to research on because it can be scary and a little frustrating. If you or someone you know has experienced this, there is help from educated medical professionals. Going too long without sleep is extremely dangerous and very important. I can say from personal experience that watching someone battling with sleep deprivation can appear to be frightening.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you had an amazing weekend that was filled with nothing but happiness. I hope you found the information in this post useful for you or someone you know. Allow me to reiterate that I am NOT a medical professional so nothing in this post is medical advice. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa