Happiness is a choice!

Life is short and we are not given an infinite amount of time to live our lives. I have always believed that our stories were written before we were born, and we are just here to play a part. No one knows when their life will be over, so I think it is best to live each day to the fullest because tomorrow is not promised to anyone. One thing I would like to try and continue to do is to live each day as if it were my last because the sad truth is, it could be. We are offered various choices during this life that may alter our life. There is no point wasting any of our precious time on anything or anyone that dulls our light or decreases the happiness that we all deserve.

Happiness is not an illusion, but it is a choice. Of course, life can be challenging, difficult, complicated, unfair, and overwhelming. The unpleasant times do not have to consume or dictate our lives. Overcoming and never surrendering when life gets complicated takes strength, courage, dedication, and resilience we were unaware we had because we were blinded by the negativity and struggles, we feel we are drowning in. Sometimes when so many difficulties are thrown our way, it may not be easy to keep our heads above the strong currents that are pulling us down.

Each of us is simply a perfectly imperfect human being that is doing the best we can to survive in this insane and unpredictable world.  Every choice we make in life has a consequence that we must live with and learn from. Considering happiness is a choice we can all make, it is crucial to know what brings the most happiness and what is exhausting and drains all the happiness we can feel from our hearts, minds, and souls.

Constant negativity and hate can be extremely contagious. We have all heard that misery loves company, but we can choose to not engage and remove this type of emotion from our lives. Why does it only have to be that misery loves company and why can it not be happiness and love loves company? If we are going to allow something to spread so wildly, why can this not be something positive that makes our lives and the world a better place?

Unfortunately, we all can see what is going on in the world because it is plastered all over the news daily. We have witnessed the levels of hate grossly increase, which is extremely sad. The world we live in should be easily shared as this planet was around for billions of years before humans existed. Our planet has gone through many challenges but has been able to restore and repair itself without humans and could easily do it again if we do not make positive changes. There have been many natural disasters, which I think maybe Mother Nature, trying to warn us to behave better and respect the planet more. Even after numerous warnings, humans are continuing to be selfish and disrespectful to one another and our planet.

I started this post about happiness but got into some side topics. Do you know what brings you the most happiness in life and what tries to devour your joys? This should be a simple question, but it can become a little complicated. I am not sure what part is more difficult, knowing exactly what brings happiness or what tries to destroy it because some people are more concerned with pleasing others and neglect their feelings and needs.

I am very interested to learn if you know what brings you happiness or if you are a people pleaser that is more concerned with others’ happiness or if you are somewhere in between but may lean more towards one direction. Do you know of anything or anyone that tries to destroy your happiness? Honestly, I am somewhere in between but I do lean more toward being more concerned with others being happy😊. I do know what makes me happy and am completely aware of what tries to destroy it. Considering how aware I am of things and people that try to demolish my happiness, I do my best to remove and avoid them because it is easier than confrontation. For me though, it can be the simplest things in my life that provide me with the most happiness.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I look forward to reading your comments and learning what brings you happiness😊! I missed blogging for a few days because of the mini vacation for my husband’s birthday. I am hoping to be able to get back on track with my posts. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Once once again Monday has returned a little too soon, but let’s tackle this week with pure determination! I know the weekend was too short, but hopefully, this is going to be an amazing week that is filled with great opportunities! Do you have anything going on this week that you are excited about? No matter what insanity this week might throw your way, just remember that you can handle anything with grace and massive amounts of strength! I do know most everyone dreads the start of the week, but we all survive the madness and live to tell about it😊!

Of course, I do understand that it is not easy to be motivated after coming back from a weekend, but we all somehow always manage to find something that motivates us! I hope you will be able to feel some motivation from the quote that I am sharing with you today. Unfortunately, many of us experience daily pain and it lets us know we are still alive to fight another day! We all make mistakes in life, but as long as we learn from them they build our strength and make us wiser. No matter what happens in life, we are all just perfectly imperfect human beings that are trying the best we possibly can!

As I have said before, we are not always going to agree on everything, but I think we can all agree that life can be extremely demanding. This is the reason that I found the quote I shared motivating. As y’all know, I live in constant pain and it can create challenges, but that pain lets me know I am still alive and still able to make changes and help others when I can! I think we are all put here on earth for a reason and one reason is to be kind, loyal, compassionate, and understanding because those traits allow us to give back to the world.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and you found it motivating. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you have a wonderful start to the week and it gets better with each day that passes. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Welcome back to the beginning of a new week! The weekends are always way too short, but each week brings us new and amazing opportunities. How was your weekend? My weekend was uneventful and peaceful, which was nice. I did even get to sleep in a little on Saturday and the rest of the weekend I just took things slow. Sunday is always my day to get things done and I prefer to relax and rest on Saturday. I also spent a lot of time with our three cats, and there was rarely a time I did not have at least one of them on my lap.

As we have to say our goodbyes to the weekend and start a new week, which might feel long, we all need to find a way to stay motivated. I decided to share this quote with y’all today because I think we can all agree that life is complicated. With that being said, we need to find ways to learn how to be happy despite the challenges we face because there will always be something we must endure. Why not accept and welcome the challenges, instead of trying to ignore them? Sometimes facing issues head-on will make the complications easier in the long run!

Do you have anything going on this week that you are looking forward to or dreading? I have a follow-up appointment on Wednesday with my Neurologist. I know they have their policies, but I think this appointment is senseless and I do not understand why it cannot be done via Zoom. Honestly, this is probably my fault because I reached out to them after my appointment with the pain management doctor due to something I have been experiencing for weeks now. I do not think they need to see me in person to understand what is going on because I explained exactly how I will when I am face-to-face with them. Needless to say, I am not looking forward to this appointment and I am going to flat-out refuse having another MRI!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the quote that I shared motivating and each day gets better until the weekend returns. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. No matter what challenges each day throws your way, never forget that you are strong enough to master anything. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Emotional Strength

Strengths we have that can benefit our lives moving forward have nothing to do with our physical strength. It does not matter how much you can lift or carry because the important type of strength is emotional strength. Strong, stable, and healthy emotional strength works as our compass for discovering personal and career success. Just like any other skill, to be able to enjoy all the benefits of emotional strength we must concentrate on the development of this powerful and incredibly beneficial skill.

Those who were emotionally strong can distinguish the difference between what they can and cannot control, and do not waste precious time on what is beyond their control. Emotionally strong people do not give up if they fail, but stand back up, brush themselves off, and try again. Emotionally strong people do not feel resentment when someone else succeeds but will rejoice in others’ success and view it as encouragement.

Emotions are powerful and we all have them. The emotions that we experience at various times can lead us down positive and negative paths. Emotional strength and stability are the main components of our success and happiness in life. Demonstrating the capability to conquer arduous obstacles by viewing them as an opportunity for growth, instead of a nuisance shows emotional strength. Those who have emotional strength have numerous distinct and unique traits that include the following undeniable traits.

Determination:

When you are faced with a problem, you refuse to give up until you find a solution or an answer.

Display Confidence:

Emotionally strong and stable people radiate self-confidence anywhere they go and light up every room. They do not need attention from others. After all, they do not need to know what they are worth because they already know.

Optimistic:

No matter what challenges you face in life, you remain cheerful and see there is hope for your future. You always hold onto faith and see promising and encouraging events moving forward in life.

Self-Awareness:

We will face many things in life that we cannot control, but the people we allow in our life we can control. Those that are emotionally strong have a deep understanding of this and surround themselves with others that are a positive influence and reflect who they are. It is not easy, but it is necessary to remove those from our lives that are holding us back from living a positive life.

Focus On Strengths:

People who are emotionally strong focus on what they are doing right and do not get caught up with what they are lacking. They understand what their strengths are. This does not mean they do not try to improve, but it does mean they can comprehend focusing completely on what they lack will only create self-doubt.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you enjoyed what I have shared in this post. I know there are many more traits of emotionally strong people, but I did not want to have you read a super long post. I do look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, this is the last day of our weekend, but we do have today remaining to enjoy before we begin another week. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Life is a Journey

Life is a journey that is filled with wonderful experiences that we will always treasure and enjoy the memories. Life is not meant to be picture-perfect because we live in the real world. The hard part of facing reality is we are forced to encounter various challenges and struggles. The negative situations we endure and may wish never occurred or desire to alter the outcomes can create a learning experience we should not ignore. These situations do not have to be a permanent roadblock and can provide us with a strength we never knew was possible.

One of the many crucial things to understand is hatred and resentment only hinder us from living a happy and fulfilling life. Of course, there will always be others that cause us pain, sadness, disappointments, frustration, and even anger, but allowing those feelings to control us does not affect the other person as much as it does us. These feelings are poisonous and painfully infectious and are extremely unhealthy and dangerous way.

Many of the things that cause us the most anger and frustration are things we have no control over. If you think about the things that have caused you the most pain or aggravation, are you truly able to change anything besides the way you react? Even if one of the issues that cause you the most anger revolves around politics, we are told if we vote we can correct the issues we are witnessing. Logically, how true is this? Politicians are going to do as they please and have a way to convince voters they have their best interests at heart, but they have their own interests above anything else.

Volatile situations we encounter in our daily lives can create a sense of powerlessness and helplessness. We need to be able to determine the things that we do have control over and focus on those things and move past what we cannot control because they will suffocate us in the long run. Wasting time trying to change something we never had any control over is wasting precious time as life is short.

Once we understand what we can control, we might be able to make a difference in our lives and those around us. Things take time, patience, and pure determination. It is important to not give up if we fail on the first try but stand back up, dust ourselves off, try again, and learn from past experiences. The only true failure is giving up on what we can accomplish. We are powerful and can accomplish anything we set our minds to!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post, and it made you understand what you are capable of! I hope you are having a nice relaxing weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Never Give Up

At this point, I am not sure how we survived Monday. The day itself was not too bad, just another Monday and fighting against getting used to the time change. It really should not be too hard because we did gain an hour of sleep, but the change to sunlight is a little challenging. Of course, regardless of when the alarm clock is set to go off, I am always awake before it has the chance to make that awful and piercing sound. Needless to say, I was awake for more than an hour before my alarm was going to go off. Super annoying, but it will get better.

The strangest thing happened to me last night and I still do not understand it. It was close to 9:00 PM and suddenly, I had this intense pain in my lower back and abdomen. This pain was so awful I was on the floor unable to move and catch my breath. It felt similar to the MS Hug, but MUCH worst. I have dealt with the MS Hug many times before and it was never as bad as things got last night. My husband was so concerned he wanted to take me to the emergency room, but I refused because I was hoping it would get better. I felt so terrible, I hardly could eat dinner.

I guess the only good thing about living with Multiple Sclerosis is it pushes me to limits I never knew I had. I know this evil disease is not going away anytime soon, so the only choices I have is to fight hard or give up. The choice is clear because I refuse to surrender to this disease. It may win the battle at times, but I am going to win the nuclear war we are battling. I strongly believe that the only way I can fail with Multiple Sclerosis is to let it win and do whatever it wants. For as long as I am still able to breath, I will continue pushing my limits and prove that I am too strong to lose.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed this post and it provided you with the determination and peace to keep pushing forward. Trust me, it is NOT easy to push your limits, but it may surprise you as to what you can accomplish in this life. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

We made it through Monday, so I believe the rest of the week will be a breeze! How was your first day of the week? Mine was not too bad, but it did feel long. I think it was only long because I am working longer days because I have to leave work early on Wednesday because of my doctor’s appointment. The good thing about working longer days is I get to start my day earlier, which I do prefer. My preference does not make sense to many people, but I would rather start earlier and get out of work earlier!

I think it is extremely important to remain positive during the week, but also try to stay calm and not let the simple things consume our minds. It is important to have patience in life, which I do not have, but I do try. Even though patience is important, it is also crucial to go after the things we want in life because life is short and we do not want to let amazing opportunities pass us by. Whether it is something at work or something we have dreamed about doing, we should try to go after it with passion, strength, and determination.

I have decided to do something that I think is exciting. I already told y’all about the daith piercing that I wanted and got recently. There is another piercing that I would like to do soon, like hopefully this week. The helix is another piercing that is in the ear and I think it is very adorable. Unfortunately, one of the places I was considering going to will not pierce this area with the hoop as I want, so I will probably go back to the overpriced place that did my daith. Hopefully, they will be able to use the same color jewelry that I have in the daith! I figure, why not, we only live once and piercings can be removed easily!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared and you found meaning in the quote. I hope you have a great day and remember to pace yourself so that you do not get overly and unnecessarily stressed. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The adjustments

Over the past couple of weeks, there have been numerous changes to the weather. While I am thrilled the temperatures have cooled, the changes have caused havoc on my body. The hot weather I had to deal with all summer long was miserable and I could not wait for fall to arrive😊! Now that the fall weather is here, it is taking me a longer time than I would have anticipated adjusting. I know I can adjust to cooler temperatures because I love hoodies and snuggling up in a warm blanket😊! The issue is the constant fluctuation. If only it could just remain constant, I would be able to adjust and not be in unbearable pain!

Last week felt like an incredibly long week that I did not believe was ever going to end. Monday always seems like the busiest and most aggravating day of the entire week, but they all ran together and were just as frustrating. Working from home has many amazing attributes, but it also makes me feel like I am always at work because my work laptop seems to sit there and mock me. Yes, I do understand a laptop cannot really mock someone, but it does constantly remind me about work and what has gone all during the week.

The good thing about my job is, I truly do appreciate my team and my supervisor. One of my teammates always knows how to make me laugh and my supervisor appears to think highly of me, and I trust that she will have my back if I ever need support. I do believe this is uncommon in the United States because it has been a LONG time since I had a supervisor that is supportive and caring. Living with Multiple Sclerosis and dealing with the challenges is not easy, so having a supportive team at work is helpful and makes the week not as bad as it could be.

I am thankful the weekend has finally arrived, and I do not have anything that is a must do. I was even able to sleep in this morning, which is VERY uncommon. Two of my cats did start trying to wake me up earlier, but I was able to ward them off because I was not ready to move yet and was WAY too cold! This morning the issues I have been having with my feet and ankles were much worse, which I assume was due to be EXTREMELY cold. It is amazing what a heating pad can do to help with my issues with MS.

After a long week, what do you feel is the best way to recuperate? Are you doing anything fun this weekend or are you planning to just rest up in preparation for next week? I have a book that I need to read because I feel like it is going to help me with a challenging issue I will be dealing with soon. I think it is best to over-prepare when you know something seems like it is going to be impossible to handle. Even in the most challenging situations in life, there should always be hope, right? Right now, I need all the hope and preparation I can have because things are going to be hard in the coming weeks.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed and found meaning in what I have shared today. If anyone has any advice for ways to deal with an impossible situation, I would love to know! I hope you have a great and safe weekend doing what YOU want and not what others think you should do. I am really looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Monday has returned again and is a little too fast! Is it awful that it seems like it was just Friday yesterday? The weekends fly by and it often seems like we did not really have a full weekend. I guess, ready or not, it is time to begin another new week. I do hope your weekend was spent doing only what brings you the most joy and you were able to rest up yesterday to prepare for the week! My weekend was rather boring, but yet, I still did not get enough rest. I am looking forward to seeing what opportunities this week will provide though!

I believe the only way to start a new week is to try to be as optimistic and hopeful as possible. Of course, we all wish there was just one more day of the weekend, but it would be the same even if we had a three-day weekend! They are just never long enough. I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today motivates you and provides you with the hope we all need. I do believe it is important to hold onto our dreams because if we do not give up they can become reality!

I hope your week begins well and only gets better with each day that passes. In our lives, we need to stay determined and we can achieve anything we want. I believe we are all capable of great things because we are all incredibly strong. If we keep our heads held high and believe in our abilities, we are halfway there! If you think about what you have already done in life, you will see how strong you are!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and I am looking forward to reading your comments. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. I hope you have an amazing day and remember to not get too stressed about anything you have no control over. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Thoughts out of the blue

Out of the blue and for no reason at all, I started thinking about a life-altering event I went through. This is not something I dwell on because I have very little control over it and it would be a waste of time to overthink it. It has been more than 20 years since I heard my doctor tell me that I had Multiple Sclerosis. I was still so young, very ignorant of what this meant for my life, and fears of how many challenges I would be forced to endure. Of course, I did hear the words the doctor spoke to me on the day he broke the news to me, but it took me a while to accept what he said to me. I tried my best to fight him and tell him he was wrong, but that was fighting a battle I had no chance of winning. After several months, I chose to accept it, but also to never surrender because I do believe in the power of the mind and that positive thoughts produce positive outcomes.

All those years ago, I was terrified that I would not be able to live a normal life. Nowadays, I wonder what is normal because for me it is constant pain and frustration with a disease without a cure. I feared that I would lose the ability to walk and take care of myself, which would have been extremely hard for me because I am a very independent person and never want to rely on anyone for anything. It has been approximately 20 ½ years, 7,488 days, 179,703 hours, and 10,782,180 minutes (give or take) and I am still here. I am walking and taking care of myself and my husband, and my three cats. There have been many obstacles through the years, but I have always remained determined to not allow this illness to defeat me.

Over all the years, I have learned more than I ever wanted to about Multiple Sclerosis and as crazy as this sounds, it has taught me a lot. I have learned how to discover a strength that I never imagined having. I have learned how being determined can help me to survive the most challenging situations. I now understand how powerful resilience is and the many ways it can help us to persevere, even when we feel like hope is lost. I have learned just how a positive mind can make a HUGE difference in our daily life.

At the beginning of this post, I mentioned that I do not dwell on things I have little control over. I do understand that even though I have little control over Multiple Sclerosis, I can control how much I allow it to bring me down and to feel helpless. I do have control over my mind, and I can tell myself that I am stronger than this unpredictable illness. Most importantly, I can remind myself that I did nothing to cause this illness to continue to plague my life. I will continue to keep the promise I made to my late grandfather shortly after I was diagnosed to continue to fight the battle until I win the war against Multiple Sclerosis.

Unfortunately, we all have something we must live with, and we all have a choice in how we approach things. I am thankful the doctor caught the Multiple Sclerosis early because if he did not, I can only imagine how much worst things would be for me today. I will always have a special place in my heart for my first Neurologist and his Nurse Practitioner because they were an amazing team that never lost hope in me. I am thankful that I have learned to not feel any shame because of what I live with.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that in some way, it resonates with you and helps you to understand your strength. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and remaining as safe as possible. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa