We have all heard so many times how important forgiveness is, but no one has ever said it was easy. It actually gets painfully hard to hear those same old meaningless words, “I’m sorry” or even worst, “It will never happen again” because they lost their significance years ago. These words had meaning before they were over used, but unfortunately now they are just empty words put together to form a sentence.
It often seems like the same people apologize for the same things time and time again,
almost like a revolving door. Nothing changed after the first, second, third or I lost count of how many times I have heard those words. I guess it is possible these people had temporary amnesia and did not remember what they were doing was causing irreplaceable pain and distress to those they love. There must be some kind of reasonable explanation, like major miscommunication or confusion because why would anyone cause the same heartache, to the same people, over and over again without making any changes in their behaviors?
When there have been too many years of tears falling for the same reasons, it is no longer only one person’s fault. Of course the person causing those tears is responsible and should have know, better, but the one with a tear stained face is responsible as well for allowing things to continue on the same dark path. No matter what the situation may be, we all have choices to make that can alter what the end results will be.
I do understand there are times when someone wants help to correct their negative ways and in that situation at least they have already acknowledged the problem. At the same time, there are those that do not see anything wrong their behaviors and do nothing at all to make things better. In my personal 
opinion acceptance is a huge step for anyone to take, but implementing the much needed changes is another colossal step that takes time and patience.
I will say that being able to forgive and forget isn’t easy, but will actually benefit the one that is forgiving. Letting go of anger and resentment will only create peace of mind. Having the knowledge that you are not able to help someone that doesn’t want help is vital! Also accepting the fact that you are not able to fix another’s troubles and problems is necessary because we unfortunately do not have magical powers. In all honesty, there is only one person that can correct their own lives and if they do not ask for help, there is nothing 
that can be done.
I wrote this not because of anything I was currently feeling, but what I have felt many times in the past. Life is difficult and when you are holding onto any negative feelings because of something you went through, it will only hold you back from living your own life. I have always been one that wants to fix everything for everyone else and accomplished nothing in the process. I often think that caring too much and investing too much into things with no end, only creates way too much stress.
Thank you so much for visiting my site today. This post may have been a little dark, but I did try adding light to it. Y’all know by now that everything I write comes from the heart with nothing but honesty. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you had a good day and you have a peaceful evening. Please always remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort and many positive vibes!
Always, Alyssa
Fightmsdaily 
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I hope that whatever has been on your heart, that it will be sorted out in your soul! Sending you love.
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Thank you Wendi! I had a rude awakening on Sunday and it really stirred up a lot of emotions. I didn’t want to put it all in my post because the person I am writing about reads my posts and I didn’t want to hear a sad sob story. I am really not trying to be hateful, it is just pure frustration! I really appreciate your kindness Wendi!
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I don’t know what you are going through but i do completely understand pure frustration with another person’s behavior……….there is only so long it can to handled. I pray that you will protect your heart.
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Thank you Wendi! Life is a challenge, but I guess we all figure out how to handle it! I know that things will get better in time and all will be just fine. I do my best to protect my heart,but I don’t always do well with it. I hope you are doing well!
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🙂 wishing you a day filled with peace and smiles. 🙂
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Thank you sweetie! I hope you are doing well my dear friend!
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bless you……….i hope today is kind. 🙂
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Thank you so much Wendi! I hope you had a lovely day!
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It was not bad and I made it to the end…….. 🙂
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Nice post!! I liked this part a lot: “Of course the person causing those tears is responsible and should have know, better, but the one with a tear stained face is responsible as well for allowing things to continue on the same dark path.” This is very true, I find. Reconciling and forgiving, I think, are two separate matters. We CAN forgive and also then keep our distance. It’s very hard to do that, though (incredibly hard!!) so I like how you worked through your feelings about forgiveness and whether or not to continue being around someone who isn’t changing, it helped me gain clarity, just to be able to read through your processing of what forgiveness means. Well done!!
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Thank you so much! This wasn’t an easy post to write because some feelings are still raw. Forgiving someone just to have them do the same thing again is hard, but when it is family, what do you do? I am so glad I was able to provide you with some clarity! Forgiveness is also not something that can be rushed, we all have our ways and taking time to think helps. I really appreciate you reading this post and leaving such an amazing comment!! I hope you have a pleasant evening!
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I’m glad that people can forgive because it does give them freedom not to keep hating the ones that cause the pain. You know loved ones don’t single out their families and friends and say, I think I’m going to hurt the ones I love today. I don’t believe people hurt others intentionally especially the ones they love. When a person is hurting, even dying inside, they just want the pain to stop. The decision that person makes to escape may be the same time and time again. Unfortunately nothing changes and people become angry and frustrated. Does anyone think about how that person suffering inside is really feeling? I believe they don’t want to hurt anyone except themselves. I believe they are sorry no matter how many times they say it. I also believe they are running circles in their mind. Struggling to find happiness and relief from the pain. Hope goes out to everyone dealing with a difficult situation and prayers that no one gives up on someone in need.
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I do understand that some people fight with themselves to find happiness and that is sad. Now most of these people fighting against themselves have family that loves them, even if that person doesn’t see that. I do believe most people think about how others are feeling and how that person is struggling and they want to help. They even offer advice, but you can’t make anyone listen if they don’t want to. I often think it is like that old saying, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.” It is of extreme importance if someone is struggling this bad, they take the appropriate steps to get the help they need, no matter what it is.
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I have learned that what it comes to relationship with someone who has mental illness and is constantly going too far, boundaries need to set to protect both people
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I definitely know you are correct! Boundaries are great to have with everyone, it just sometimes get difficult!
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Great article! It takes time to learn when to say enough is enough and remove a person that isn’t changing their ways. I am a firm believer in actions speak louder than words.
Forgiveness is important like you outlined, for our inner peace.
Thank you for sharing.
Alyssa
THESACREDSPACEAP.COM
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Thank you Alyssa! I couldn’t agree more, actions definitely speak a lot louder than words! We all deserve inner peace and if forgiving others helps with that, than that’s what we should do!
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My experience has been that sometimes, and I emphasize sometimes, the person in question simply cares about us too much, worries about us too much and want to help so badly but either can’t or doesn’t know how, and their frustration bubbles over.
The others can all go to hell
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Thank you so much for this comment! I do agree with you 100%! I think I might be getting to the point I just want to tell people to go to hell, but then let go of my frustrations, or shall I say I just bottle up my feelings until the day I burst!
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Thank you for your post! Forgiveness is definitely for the forgiver not the forgivee. Sometimes we have to accept that we won’t get the apology that we need to move on so we must be our own reason to move on. Keeping God as #1 in our lives will definitely assist in the times where it seems like an impossible feat to accomplish
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You are more than welcome! Thank you for your great comment, I really do love reading other what others think!!!
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