Huge thank you!

Thank-You-So-MuchI am completely astonished by the amazing amount of support all of you have offered me since I start my blog in July 2017. I started this blog with only one follower initially, my husband. I made the decision to start this journey because of my passion for writing and my strong desire to help others that may be going through hard times. I felt that after living with a chronic illness for almost 18 years I could offer some hope, courage and strength for others. I am very proud to say that I am achieving my goal more and more each day due to the gratitude I have received from many of you. At this moment with each post I make over 600 individuals are reading what I write and so many make gracious comments to me that I am helping them through difficult times. I have heard so many times that my positive thoughts and encouraging words have inspired others, which really makes me incredibly happy. All I have ever wanted to do is help and motivate others that may have fallen on hard times or may possibly be struggling with illness.i-am-here-for-you

I want y’all to know how much I have enjoyed getting to know you and also learning so much from each of you! All of us deal with something that is not easy and we all have special and unique ways to cope our situations. I truly hope that y’all know that I am always here to help in any way I can. Our struggles are real, but they are always strengthening our abilities to handle the next day! Continue to stay positive and know that it is okay to lean on others. It is also okay to have a bad day and not feel very optimistic, we all have those days. However, it is important to not dwell on a bad day and remember that tomorrow is a new day with new opportunities for happiness!

I hope y’all have a great evening! Thank you so much for stopping by my site today. I look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments and I do promise to respond to you as quickly as I can! I love the fabulous communications we have had! I am sending all of you lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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Snowflake Illness

snowflake illnessChronic Illnesses are like snowflakes because like all snowflakes are so different from the other and each person’s situation with illness is different from another. You will never see two snowflakes that look exactly the same, just as you will never find two people with any illness that experience the same exact issues. There might be some similarities, but there are also some strong differences.

Personally, over the almost 18 years I have been living with MS, I have not met anyone that is dealing with the exact same issues that I do each and every day. Again, there are always some similarities, but they are never identical. I have met in person and through this blog others that are battling the MS fight who have equivalent issues to what I live with, but sometimes what they are struggling with is vastly unique to my own experiences. Even though their trials are something I may have not dealt with, I can totally relate to the hassles that are caused by illnesses!

I believe having the ability to meet others that understand what your daily struggles are in life is so helpful. This gives you the opportunity to learn from someone else, so that if you ever experience something similar you have someone to chat with that truly understands! I strongly feel that there are SO many that do not understand what anyone with an invisible illness goes through on a daily basis. Considering these illnesses are so incredibly unpredictable those living with the illness does not even know what to expect day by day, or even hour by hour. Can this be frustrating? Absolutely! But all of us, no matter what battle we are fighting are winning because of how strong we each are!

snowflakesThink about what illness you are fighting and think about those you have met with the same ailment. Now, think about if anyone has ever had the exact same struggles that you do. Can you think of anyone that is a mirror image to you? I know that I can’t! Most of the issues I deal with every day without fail is pain and some numbness problems. After chatting with numerous people, a lot of them also have the same type of issues but their pain and numbness might be in different areas of their body. We all deal with the strains of our illness so differently and with SO much strength and courage! Y’all know I believe that staying positive is one of the most important ways to beat the trials that come my way! I might have my off days where I feel completely defeated, but that state of mind does not last long because it does not help me overcome the issues at hand!

I guess we are each our own unique and beautiful snowflake just floating through our lives. We do not have to worry about melting from our troubles, we just need to continue to stay flying high above the struggles and we will win!

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I hope you enjoyed my thoughts for Saturday and I really look forward to reading your responses! I do promise to respond to you as quickly as I can! I can not explain how much the communications I have had with so many of you mean to me! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and doing what makes you happy! As always, I am sending you all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Amazing Realizations!

baddayI think it has taken me a while to realize that it is okay to have a bad day. It is okay to not be positive all day every day. Sometimes life might just not seem fair and putting on a happy face just does not work at that moment. It is okay to admit you do not have all the answers to everyone’s issues in life. Admitting and talking about what is on your mind is so important! Smiling through the pain can help some days, but other days it is even more important and helpful to just say “I can’t do it today.”

One day might be absolutely amazing and the next day you just wish you could go back to bed and start over again. The truth is all good days will always be followed by a bad yinday. It might not be the following day or even the same week, but it is the yin and yang to life. Rain comes with sunshine, warmth comes with cold, happiness comes with sadness, strength comes with weakness and good comes with bad, and there really is not a way around it. The only thing we can do is keep pushing forward to the next day!

No two days are the exact same for me. One day I might feel relatively normal and the next day hurt so much it is a struggle to move. I guess that is just the life I was meant to live. I do believe strongly that our lives are a gift and we are just supposed to live it the best way we can without too many regrets. On those days where my pain is at its highest, I do know in my heart a good day is just around the corner. I used to think the bad painful days were some kind of punishment and for what I never knew, but now I think those bad days are just building me as a person and giving me more strength for the next day in life.

Y’all know that I felt as though I was being negative yesterday, but so many of you graciously told me I was actually a pretty positive person. Through the comments I received you showed me how true my first statement was, that it is okay to have a bad day! Letting go of the troubles live like you were die tomorrowfrom yesterday will make way for a better tomorrow! I guess it is important to learn something from our struggles so that we know how to handle them better in the future because difficult times will always reappear. 

I hope y’all had a fantastic day and you are feeling well! Each of you have a strength that benefits someone else in your life and you may not even realize it. Thank you for stopping by to read my thoughts for the day, which let me say are much more positive! Please feel free to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I am able to! I hope y’all have a wonderful and relaxing evening. Sending y’all much love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

The Entertainment Blogger Award!

 

entertainerHappy Friday Y’all! I hope you had a fantastic week and looking forward to an amazing weekend!

I would like to thank Paleeza, Just A Quiet Girl, Living In A Noisy World for nominating me for this truly astonishing award! Paleeza’s blog is so fun and sensational, I love reading her posts! She is a very kind and caring individual with so much passion!

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RULES FOR AWARD:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you and add a link to their blog.
  2. Add the rules so others can follow.
  3. Answer the questions that have been asked.
  4. Nominate a handful of entertaining bloggers.
  5. Display the photo also in your blog.

My Questions and Answers

Why did you start a blog in the first place?

I started my blog for a few reasons. I love to write and I love to help others. My goal was to be able to inspire others that are struggling with illnesses. I wanted to show everyone that as long as you have passion and positivity, you can accomplish anything you want!

 What is your favorite book?

I love a series from James Patterson called The Women’s Murder Club. It sounds worse than it is! It really is an addictive series! The women work together to find justice and I love that!

What do you dislike the most?

What I dislike most is mean and judgmental people. I am a very fair and non-judgmental person because I believe strongly that everyone should be treated with love and respect!

What is your favorite food at the mall?

I like the soft pretzels with cheese.

What is your favorite pastime?

My favorite pastime without a doubt is writing!

 

My Fabulous Nominees:

Inkallhere
Waytomuchtoosay
Dinosaursdonkeysandms
Kimc91
Crankypants2
acreativenewmie

 

Thank you so much for thinking of me with this award Paleeza! I have enjoyed blogging and meeting so many people more than I can even begin to put into words. I am really looking forward to hearing my nominees answers fun questions! It is so much fun getting to know y’all! I hope y’all have a great weekend!! Sending lots of love and comfort to each and everyone reading this post!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

 

 

You behind the illness- told in 4’s

About me

Thank you Kim, Keepitmindful, I am so sorry I am a bit behind with answering the questions! I really loved learning more about you! It is still crazy how alike we are! I feel that we have a great community through this blog and I really enjoy getting to know so many people! It is great being able to connect with others that truly understand what we deal with on a daily basis! I am so thankful that you asked me to be apart of this! I hope you are doing well and feeling great!!

Four places I’ve lived:

  1. Springfield, VT
  2. Dover, NH
  3. Charlotte, NC
  4. Greenville, SC (Well soon this will happen)

I  am a little boring because I have only lived in the United States

Four places I’ve worked:

  1. Tribute Properties (Apartment Manager)
  2. Carolinas HealthCare System (CNA)
  3. Carolinas HealthCare System (Human Resources)
  4. Movement Mortgage

Four favourite hobbies:

  1. Listening to music
  2. Reading my favorite books
  3. Reading blogs
  4. Writing

Four things I like to watch:

  1. Hawaii 5.0
  2. General Hospital
  3. Designated Survivor
  4. Law & Order Special Victims Unit

Four things I like to read:

  1. Blogs
  2. James Patterson’s book
  3. Nicholas Sparks book
  4. Educational/Self-help books (Getting control of stress!)

Four places I have been:

  1. Jamaica (My honeymoon)
  2. South Beach Miami
  3. Key West Florida
  4. Snowshoe, WV

Four things I love to eat:

  1. Pizza
  2. Lasagna
  3. Donuts (not too often)
  4. Italian food

Four favourite things to drink:

  1. Sprite
  2. Hi-C Fruit Punch
  3. Mimosas (extremely rarely)
  4. Wine (on holiday)

Four places I want to visit:

  1. England
  2. Hawaii
  3. St Lucia
  4. Austrialia

Four bloggers I’d like to tag:

  1. msgracefulnot
  2. Hillaryrobyn
  3. Colettechristianson
  4. Crankypants

We were only able to tag 4 people but if anyone reading this would like to take part, please do. I really look forward to learning more about y’all!! 

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Open Minded Thoughts!

open mind 1Of course living with a chronic illness comes with its own set of challenges, so why not just embrace them with open arms? If I went through this life being closed-minded, I believe I would miss out on so many wonderful new experiences. If we approach everything with an open mind, it will allow a freedom to accept additional knowledge we otherwise would not have been exposed to. 

Just look at how many different medications there are for various illnesses. Of course the doctor will have their opinion on what is best but if you do not keep an open mind to medications, you might very well miss out on the one that is best for your body chemistry. It is amazing how much you can learn when you have a conversation with a friend, co-worker or family member about something they find incredibly interesting. This conversation can introduce you to something that is extremely fascinating that you had never heard of or if you did, never gave it a second thought. I skied when I was a little girl but only for a few years. I think about 10 years ago my husband discovered snowboarding and fell in love with it. If he had not stumbled upon this and introduced me to it, I would have never thought to strap a board to my feet and go down a mountain! Even though I am not able to stay out on the mountain as long as he is able, I am glad I have acquired this still because it is a lot of fun!

I do find it amazing how much I have learned from chatting with my fellow bloggers! I am the type that will talk with the waitress at a restaurant or cashier at the grocery store about their day, which they seem to enjoy as much as I do! Y’all know the lines at grocery stores or other retails stores can get long, so I normally find way to entice conversation with the person behind me. It makes the wait seem shorter and you can sometimes find out great information on how they save money at the store through coupons or apps on their phone!

Being closed-minded allows for negative judgments, which y’all already know I Closed mind closed heartam one of the least judgmental and positive people! I find great pleasure in positivity because to me it really makes long days just a better and easier to handle. I always try to find the positive in the most difficult situations! I do believe that having an open mind creates a positive and uplifting environment!

I hope y’all are having a nice weekend! The weather seems to be changing once again. Yesterday it was over 70 degrees and now for the next several days it will be in the 30’s or 40’s which is quite a change. But I guess if you can’t beat it just accept it and continue moving forward! I appreciate you visiting my site and would love to hear your thoughts! I hope the rest of your weekend goes fabulously and you enjoy every moment of it! Remember to always stay strong and positive!! Sending you love and comfort always!

Love 2

 

Always, Alyssa

Positivity can be motivating!

challenges-make-life-interesting.pngThroughout our lives we are faced with many challenges. At times we may feel defeated by these challenges when in fact they are making us stronger. It is often very difficult to see the bright side of a bad situation because everything seems so dark and hopeless. But I do believe in some way these trials that leave us questioning life are building our strength for the next step in life.

In my opinion it takes a lot more energy to stay negative than it does to be positive. I am also a firm believer that positive thoughts can change our lives for the best! Whatever our struggles are in life we were dealt this hand for a reason. One reason without a doubt is we are strong enough to handle it! Maybe we were meant to help others that might be having a difficult time accepting the same ordeal. We might be offer sound advice or offer a lending handle to someone in need.

Many people each day are being given life altering news that they are trying to learn to cope with. More than likely the news is causing some fear and anxiety in their lives. Most of us have experienced this before and we probably have people in our lives currently dealing with something similar. It is astonishing how much a phone call or doctor’s visit can change your life completely. It is in times of bad news where having a positive attitude can be very beneficial.garden

Life will never change if you spend all of your time focusing on the negative aspects life can have. Negativity can be emotionally and physically draining. Please tell me if you feel different, but I find that when I am down and negative I feel so much worse. I can remember back when my flare up started in October, I was so down about it and felt so cynical about everything I hardly wanted to get off the couch. During my pessimistic time, my condition did not improve at all but persistently got worse causing me so much additional pain. Now that I am thinking with a more optimistic mind, I am starting to feel better each day. I still face a terrible amount of pain daily but it could be much worse than it is now.   

It is so important to always remember the good things in your life. Try taking a few End day positiveminutes everyday to appreciate your life and what you love! Sometimes all it takes is enjoying the simple pleasures our lives offer to bring us happiness!

Thank you for stopping by to read and comment on my thoughts for today! I hope y’all had a great day and are staying warm. Continue holding onto your positive thoughts and fantastic outlooks on life. It really is amazing just how much these happy and positive views can impact your life for the better! Much love y’all!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Freezing Cold Temperatures

BabyItsColdOutside750It seems that the frigid temperatures are not just isolated to the north anymore but have expanded into the south. The temperatures in the south have not gone about 32 in several days and we are facing more chilly days this week. Some areas are even expecting 1-3 inches of snow. Snow is beautiful to see but not so friendly in the south. With just the anticipation of snow businesses and schools are talking about closing tomorrow. I grew up in the north so to me 1-3 inches of snow is very mild.

What I can say about these freezing temperatures is it makes my pain skyrocket! I guess it is because I get so tense with the cold air I cannot help but stiffen my muscles. I have found the best thing to do to combat these issues is dress very warm, make sure to heat my car before leaving the house and always have  heating pad available at home and pain-and-cold-weather-1-kate-the-almost-great-previewwork! I know it is winter and it is supposed to be cold, but living with a chronic illness that already comes with a lot of pain, the cold weather never makes it any better! 

This might sound crazy considering I am not a big fan of the cold, but if it is going to be this darn cold we need a little bit of snow! They are expecting snow to the north of where I live but not actually in my area. So we just have to deal with freezing temperatures without the sight of beautiful snow covering the ground which does not seem right! I will admit one reason why I would love for it to snow is my office would definitely close for at least a day! If it snows I would not have to leave the house and could just stay nice and warm snuggled up on the couch with my adorable cats!

Now that it is finally a new year, how is your year going so far? I was very excited for 2018 because I think it is going to be full of wonderful opportunities. I am hoping for so many positive changes both for me personally but also around the world! I know I have already said this, but I am hoping 2018 is going to bring love and respect back into hearteveryone’s life. I feel strongly that respect has been lost and I am not sure why. It seems that people are very quick to pass judgement onto others without getting to know them first or at least trying to understand them! I am the type of person that treats everyone the same and always try to be kind and compassionate. The truth is, we never know what another person is going through in life unless we ask and offer our assistance. Kind words and actions can go a long way in making someone’s day better!

I hope y’all had a great day today! I really appreciate all the comments y’all have made on my posts and I love getting to know you better! I feel like I have learned so much from so many of you and it really has been beneficial to me! I said in my New Year’s post that I am going to start writing about more things that I am passionate about which will give you an idea of who I really am as a person. I hope you have enjoyed my previous posts and I hope you will continue to enjoy my future posts! Have a fantastic night and try to stay warm! Always hold onto positive thoughts because they will help through the hardest of times in life! Much love and comfort to all of you!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Making New Year’s Resolutions?

Happy New Year 2018 HD WhatsApp Status Images & Text StatusHow many of you believe it is important to set a New Year’s Resolution? If you do commit to a New Year’s Resolution, does it ever work the way you planned? I think many people make these monumental changes on the first of the year because it is good starting point but it may add unnecessary stress to your goals. I honestly cannot remember the last time I actually made a New Year’s resolution because I do not feel that making a positive change can only be done once a year.

There are numerous things I would love to be able to change or improve with my life, but do not really want to start a new year with any possible failures. For those of you that have been following my blog over the past 6 months or so, you already know from my posts that stress, healing from a flare up and struggling with daily pain are my key points that need improvement. I know that stress contributes to my pain, so logically I know eliminating or at least reducing stress from my life could drastically improve my quality of life. Acknowledging the problem and rectifying the issue takes time, dedication and patience but it can be done and I will find a successful path in handling stress better.

I feel that love is a vital part of our lives! Not only is it critical to have loved ones surrounding us, but it is just as important to have love for yourself as well. The more we are able to value ourselves the better we can take care of own needs, both mentally and physically. Many of us take pride in caring for our spouse, parents, children or other Best-Love-Wallpaper-for-Desktopfamily members with strong needs, but sometimes fail to take that same satisfaction with our own needs. On that same note, some take a lot more pleasure in caring for their own needs rather than anyone else’s which really does not mean they are being selfish, they may just be fulfilling needs that no one else has the time for. Between both sides, there must be some kind of equal balance point of caring for your own needs and other’s needs that I would love to be able to find. I am the type that will neglect my own needs in order to take care of someone else.

In the upcoming year I want to continue my blog because the past 6 months of blogging has been an amazing experience! Of course I want to continue writing about MS with the hope that some of my experiences will be beneficial to others battling similar issues, but I also want to write about other topics that I am passionate about. As I have already said in a previous post there is so much more to me than just MS and I want to be able to show that more in 2018!

2017 has been one hell of a year and I am truly delighted it is coming to an end! I am hoping that 2018 will come with come with promising comfort, happiness, love, respect and positive changes. I hope y’all have a very safe and Happy New Year! Here’s to welcoming 2018 with optimism and enthusiasm!! Continue to stay strong and always hold onto positivity as it can get you through hard times!! Much love to y’all!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Be True To Yourself!

true to yourselfKnowing who you are and remaining true to yourself is essential in life. Never allowing anyone to influence your thoughts, desires or passions can become difficult in a world full of judgments. But we can be who we are and want to continue to be despite what others may think. We do not have to be perfect or even close to it but be genuine to ourselves and what we believe.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but sometimes it is hard to admit what those are. Faults are not always a negative but can be deemed a remarkable quality. One of my many weaknesses is my stubbornness. Even though being stubborn can be viewed as a negative trait it has also given me resilience for coping with difficult events in life. In a unique way my stubborn attitude forces me to remain positive when struggling with the pain MS can cause. My incessant stubbornness can also create problems as well. Fully understanding that sometimes there are things I need to ask for help with but refuse to do so creates additional pain or injury.

Compassion can be a blessing and a curse! When I see someone who is struggling, I want to help them. I tend to put others needs ahead of my own, especially if that person is a loved one. I will think of others pains and how I can possibly help them before I focus onCompassion 2 my own health. I go out of my way to take care of others and ensure their comfort before I think of what I need. The reason I say it is a blessing and a cure is because I know that I do not have the abilities to make everything better for all.

I hold strong to my beliefs and will fight tooth and nail to prove my point. I will defend those that are not strong enough to defend themselves or just not present at the time when they need to have someone in their corner. I feel that EVERYONE deserves to be treated equally no matter how they choose to live, as long as they are not causing harm to others. People are entitled to love who they want to love and live the way that brings them happiness. We are all able to make our own choices in how we want to live and anyone on the outside should not say that is wrong. Who has the right to say we are not living the right way? What is right for me may not be right for someone else and that is okay!

Have you ever sat down and really thought about what your strengths and weaknesses are? Sometimes those things we view as our negative traits can actually turn into a strength over time. We should be constantly growing and evolving as individuals with what we have learned. However in 2017, it almost seems like some people are devolving into what we should all know better from. We need to be learning from past experiences, whether it be our own or someone else’s to become even better than we are!

As I have already stated, I hold very strong to my beliefs and do not allow anything waver those beliefs. I feel strongly that the color of someone’s skin does not determine who they are or what they are going to do in life. I believe that the homosexuals in this stand for somethingworld should be FREE to love who they love with acceptance. I do not feel that anyone should have to hide who they are just so they can be embraced by society. Our society often sets standards as to what they think is normal, but that is not the norm for everyone and should not be forced onto people. Not everyone wants to have children but once you get married it is the first question that is asked, “When are you going to have kids?” If you say that you do not want children, it almost seems like you are considered an outcast because that is what you are supposed to do. My husband and I are perfectly happy in our life with our cats and not having children. It does not mean that those who do not want children do not like children, it just means they do not want to bring another living being into this world of chaos and it should be respected. 

My entire point of this post is that it is so important to know yourself and know what youbelieve in yourself truly believe in. To never allow anyone’s judgement or negativity to impact how you live. You are the only one that knows what in life works for you and what doesn’t work and there is not anyone that can determine how you should live. Everyone has an opinion but that does not make them right. The power of mind is an amazing and wonderful thing, so never stop believing in yourself! Never forget that you are an incredible and strong person!!

Thank you for reading and commenting on my thoughts for today or maybe I should say rant of the day! I truly appreciate all of your comments because it does give me things to learn from and become a better and wiser person! I hope y’all had a good day and have a wonderful evening!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa