Category Archives: Positive Minds

Resentment, Frustrations, & Pains

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Happy Saturday! I hope you had a good week, but I also hope you can enjoy your weekend! Do you have anything planned for the weekend? One thing I know I must do for my sanity this weekend is to recover from the week and try to forget all the negativity that the week impacted me with. I also know Mother’s Day is tomorrow, so I hope everyone can enjoy celebrating all the mothers out there who gave selflessly and loved unconditionally. Of course, I will not be able to see my mother tomorrow, but I will be sure to remind her how much I appreciate her.

Last week was a little overwhelming and extremely exhausting. Unfortunately, I think many of us get so wrapped up in our everyday lives that we forget some of the simplest things in life. When we get frustrated, it can be easy to forget just how much words hurt. I have said this in another post, but the wounds will heal when we are bruised, but the wounds that words inflict are more powerful and long-lasting. When we forget the way another person feels about a particular situation, and the tears causing another person to shed, they are much more intense and hurtful than almost anything else. Simple apologies can become meaningless, and they do not fix the pain felt. This pain can escalate into increased negative emotions and resentment.

Holding onto feelings of resentment is very unhealthy and can lead to an inability to stop thinking about a specific event or situation. The reoccurring thoughts may linger for days, weeks, months, or even years, and eventually may take over your life. For some people, resentment can begin with disappointment or remorse for something or someone that was lost. Those that battle with resentment may harbor anger and seek revenge, or they might feel that justice was not served for something terrible that occurred. Regardless of why someone feels resentment, it only leads to bitterness and additional anger. These are feelings that do not have a positive outcome and may lead to irrefutable harm.

I know I have fallen into these same patterns in life and get frustrated, and then will say things that I do not mean. Of course, I try to not do things like this, but we are only human, and we make mistakes. I never want to cause anyone any harm with harsh and unkind comments because it will only make matters worse. Words and carelessness cause too much pain and it can be almost impossible to overcome them. The only thing I know to do is avoid talking in the heat of the moment or when I am already past the point of frustration and anger. Sometimes, silence is the best course of action.

How do you handle anger? What is your first reaction when you get upset? Do you find it easier to yell in a fit of rage, or do you walk away from the situation, and ignore how you are feeling? I feel it is better and easier to ignore things and walk away from the situation. I know many will not understand, and some professionals would say this is wrong, but I find it to be the best way for me to survive this insane world. Yes, this does mean that I tend to bottle up my feelings and it does cause something like a volcano eruption at times, but it is not often. I do not like confrontation, but even with that said, I will stand up for myself, those who cannot defend themselves, and for what I believe.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope that even if you do not agree with me, I hope you enjoy what I have shared. I am so thankful for the weekend, but after the past few weeks, I think a little more time to recuperate. If you have struggled with feelings of resentment, how did you overcome this? I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as possible! I hope you have a wonderful, and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Spread positivity, more than negativity

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The world we are living in, and sharing, is a beautiful place, or at least it should be. Take a moment and recall all the spectacular sites you have seen, smelled, tasted, and touched. Regardless of if the sky has many fluffy or dark clouds, or if it is a clear blue sky, it appears to go on endlessly. Surrounding the land, we can see, smell, taste, touch, and admire the ocean. These are just two magnificent things we should appreciate. Where do you see the most beauty in this world? Many people want to complain and be upset about humans destroying the planet, but then no one does anything to correct the damage.

How is it possible for us to have many incredibly astonishing things around us, but they are unable to be appreciated, and instead, humans try to demolish everything with unique qualities? The world was created for us to live in together, but we need to learn to accept others for who they are, and not who we think others should be. Unfortunately, it appears that people generally insult and try to break others down, mostly with selfish motives. I do not understand why humans think they are entitled to talk negatively to others, but this is only causing mental harm to others.

Social media is where much of this begins, but why does this happen? So many try to portray a perfect life on social media, but most of this is false. For some reason, people feel empowered when they can hide behind their keyboard and their monitor. Negative comments hurt others, and these wounds do not heal easily. It would be much healthier for everyone when posting on social media, would all remain honest. Everyone has struggles, and no one’s life is perfect. If everyone on social media could be honest, it might help another person that is battling with a similar struggle.

For anyone that posts things on social media, start today being 100% honest, we may have the power to make changes in this world. Nothing is going to happen overnight, but ending the negative comments and lies could make a huge difference in someone else’s life. The mean and negative comments are causing too many issues for too many people that do not deserve this treatment. I do understand, some of this was incited by political leaders, of which I will not mention any names. The name-calling and shame are awful and heartbreaking. Some of this has caused innocent people to decide that suicide is their only option, but this should never be a person’s only option.

Young people are very impressionable, but we can provide a better impression and be better role models for the youth. How many young people must die before the adults in this world behave better? Destroying another person’s self-esteem and views must end. We can make better choices and help inspire others. I do believe social media can be an amazing thing, but only when there is truth. It is hard to know that there is so much hate continuing to build around the world. Negativity can be contagious, but so can positivity😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared today resonates with you. Even though the weekend is almost over, we do have a chance to enjoy several more hours, and I hope you do exactly that. I am looking forward to reading your comments, and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

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This often happens too quickly, but happy Monday to y’all! Not only is it amazing how quickly the weekend flies by, but it is already April! The weather seems to be changing, but in the south where I live, the temperatures remain higher than I would like. Is there anything you are looking forward to or dreading this week? There is a new process beginning with my job, and it starts today, but I do believe it is going to make things better. Of course, it might take time to get used to, but I think my team will be fine! I would say that I am looking forward to seeing the outcome regarding the former President’s indictment, but logically, I do not see this going the way that it should. I guess we shall see!

I do not believe anyone looks forward to Monday, but at the start of the week, we should try to find a way to be motivated and optimistic! When we feel optimistic, we tend to feel better about ourselves, right? In this world we live in, it is easy to get discouraged. Unfortunately, so many people talk down to others and try to make them feel as if they are not worthy. This type of behavior is distasteful, to say the least, and should never occur. I strongly discourage this type of unpleasant treatment of others. I believe when people put forth an effort to make others feel bad, they are battling their own demons. This is no excuse for treating others badly, but many times it seems to be true. I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today reminds you that YOU are a good person and deserve to be treated kindly!

I prefer to avoid watching the news because there seems to only be negative. It breaks my heart to see how much hatred and evil there is in this world, and a lot of this is happening daily in the United States. This is a country that claims to be the home of the free and the land of the brave, but the news shows something completely different. Women are NOT free to make choices for their bodies, it is shamed when people of the same sex are in love, parents must fear when they send their children to school because of the numerous school shootings, and healthcare is terrible and extremely expensive. Why is it so hard to be kind and treat others with respect? Why does there have to be so much violence? I choose to be positive in life and stay away from negativity!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed your weekend and you have found what I have shared motivating! Take each day this week slowly and remember to take care of your needs because YOU matter! There are two other posts that I am working on and hope to have posted this week, one is about Stress Awareness Month, and the other is about seasonal allergies! I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

YOU are strong enough!

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The life we are living can often feel as though we are constantly dealing with an uphill battle. Or maybe a journey we are not meant to be traveling down. The moment one struggle subsides, another one appears nearly immediately. There may be many times during a week you wonder when life will get any easier, only to realize it probably is not going to. Understanding this fact does not mean you are accepting defeat, but instead, you are learning to realize your strengths and understand that you are courageous enough to handle anything.

When we know that someone else is experiencing a challenging or bumpy road and may feel like they are drowning in the turmoil of life, we can understand this feeling because we have been there before, and maybe recently. In a moment we must decide to offer advice or be a shoulder for that person to lean on because that is part of being empathetic and what humanity is supposed to mean.

As I have mentioned many times, I thought the waves of my life had come crashing down on me more furiously than I was prepared for. This tidal wave event was on the day more than twenty years ago when the doctor told me that I had Multiple Sclerosis. I was only nineteen years old and was terrified because I did not know what the rest of my life had in store for me and considering my young age, I did not want to know. I had recently uprooted my life to a new state miles away from everything I had ever known and did not know too many people. I was a nineteen-year-old girl, newly diagnosed with an incurable disease, in a new state, and in a failing relationship, I believed at that time that things were only going to get worst and would never improve.

Do you ever question all your decisions in life and wonder why things went so terribly wrong? Was it because of a bad decision that you made or just an unusual faith? Of course, I have always been the type to second guess myself and often to see that I was not as wrong as I thought I was. I do believe that in life, most of us live and learn. All the lessons learned in life, make us a better version of who we were yesterday.

I used to believe and sometimes still do believe that Multiple Sclerosis is my punishment for something I have done wrong in life. I cannot tell you what I thought I am being punished for because I cannot imagine what I did so wrong to deserve such punishment, but on days when my pain level is at its highest, it does not seem like anyone should have to endure that level of pain if they do not deserve it. What I have come to realize is, we are not being punished for anything we did wrong when we are diagnosed with an incurable disease, it is just the way life is supposed to be. I do not know why this would occur to anyone, but I do know we should do anything and everything we can to hold our heads up high and be proud of the accomplishments we have made so far in life.

I am sharing all of this with you because I want you to know and fully accept that no person deserves what they must face in life, and they are facing such hardships because they are STRONG enough to do so. Maybe they will be able to shed light on things to others when another is feeling down and like they cannot carry on. It is important to be proud of yourself because it is an accomplishment to still be here on this earth, even though you feel like life is too challenging.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a wonderful weekend and you are doing the things that bring you joy! This post is meant to encourage you and to help you realize that all of the challenges we endure in life are only making us stronger. We all feel weak at times and that is okay, but it is critical to try picking yourself up and pushing yourself forward. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

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I know this post is called Pick-Me-Up Thursday, but heck with that I would much prefer to acknowledge today as Friday Eve! As many of you know, the past few weeks have been awful because I have been dealing with way too many frustrations. It would have been much easier if healthcare was not so dysfunctional and expensive in the United States, but it is what it is. I am just glad it is over, at least for the next year anyways. How has your week been? Are you looking forward to the weekend as much as I am? It is not like I have anything planned, but I will not be getting up early for work!

Even though we do still have one day left in the week, our week is almost over! Not that I want to think of today as Thursday, which of course, it is, but I do think we could use a little pick-me-up! Often we have to work hard, but we should want to work hard for a reason. This reason does not need to be for praise or recognition, but because we are doing something we are passionate about. None of us are promised tomorrow, so we need to be sure if today is our last day, we leave something positive behind. We might not always be able to make changes that will impact a lot of people, but they might have an amazing impact on one person, and this should be enough!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote was a nice pick me up for you! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Yes, it was a long week, but what was one good thing that happened to you this week? Do not think about the negative things, but try to focus only on the good! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

My Thoughts

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There are so many things that take place in this world that I cannot understand. Trying to make sense of lunacy is pointless because there are no logical explanations or reasoning. The ridiculous levels of hatred and evil are baffling to me and leave me in fear of where the United States is heading. I have mentioned a few times that our government has failed all of us, which makes it seem that our country is broken. Is there a fix that can change things? Is there a way to make it so the United States can repair the damages that have occurred over the past numerous years? I am not sure anymore if the damage has been over years or decades. 

I am not blaming any specific political party because they both seem extremely weak. Why are there so many that believe they have the right to carry a gun and kill others? Why have there been so many school shootings and other senseless killings due to guns? Why has NO one done anything to fix these issues? Over the years, when there was a mass shooting in another country, the government in that country made changes and ended gun violence. Is it because in the United States, people misinterpret what the 2nd Amendment means? In part, I do think that is the case. There need to be changes made, so that people cannot make the 2nd Amendment read as they want it to read.

Happiness is free and available to everyone. Happiness is a choice that many do not make, which does not make sense. It is not difficult to do because even though everyone deals with challenges and hardships, life could always be much worse. Look at those out there that have lost loved ones, and struggle to find some type of normalcy in their life. Numerous people have been in an accident and possibility lost a limb, which must be difficult, but they do not accept defeat and keep going. Others may have a debilitating disease with no cure that cripples them, but they do what is necessary to keep living.

Why do so many decide that misery is easier, and they then try to bring everyone else down to their level? Why when something difficult happens due to an individual’s bad decisions, do they try to blame others and not accept responsibility? Is it difficult to accept when we make bad decisions and then must live with the consequences, absolutely, but it is not the end of the world, and we can learn from these decisions. Life is a journey, and we learn lessons through the journey, but it is what we do with these lessons that matter the most.

Why are people so scared when another person is different? Do you think if we were all the same, the world would be better or boring? I think it would be very boring. Why does anyone care who another person loves, even if that person is the same gender? Why is it so upsetting when a person is born one gender but decides they are the opposite gender? Do people really think anyone would make this kind of choice if it did not come from somewhere inside them? Everyone knows they will be judged and even discriminated against, so no one would make this choice if they did not believe it. I think it is the same when a person loves someone that is the same gender. I think people are born this way and why should we judge them for it? Love is love and we are all human beings with beating hearts and emotions!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed your weekend and you have been able to recover from last week. I am aware that not everyone is going to agree with the things I have said in this post, but I would still like to read your comments. Our weekends are so short, but it is not over yet and we have a little bit longer to enjoy. As always, please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Rainy Sunday

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Happy Sunday to y’all! Unfortunately, today is the last day of the weekend and the workweek will return again tomorrow. Even though the weekend is almost over, it is NOT over yet and there are still several hours left! Today, my plan is to finish cleaning the house and do the final load of laundry! Sounds like fun, right? It is crazy to think that I have spent most of the weekend either cleaning the house or organizing and getting things ready to donate! The things I enjoy doing might sound insane to some, but I really LOVE organizing because it makes me feel like I have accomplished something.

Were you able to do anything you enjoyed during the ever-so-short weekend? Although the weekends are incredibly short, if we have good time management we will be able to do most, if not all the things we wanted to do. The only thing I was not able to do this weekend that I wanted to do, was to sleep in. I cannot even blame this on my sweet cats, I just cannot turn off the internal clock in my mind and I get up at the same time every day!

As we prepare for a new week and finish anything we want to do over the weekend, I think there is something important we need to all remember. If you are anything like me, it is easy to give and think about others. This might be a good thing, but it can allow people to take advantage. I hope the quote that I am sharing will be a good reminder to be kind to others but also be kind to yourself as well. I do understand that some people are not able to do multiple things at the same time for whatever reason, but being kind to others and ourselves do not have to be too challenging!! I think it is worth at least trying!!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that you were able to have a wonderful, and safe weekend! We all know the weekend will be coming to an end soon, but please do not dwell on this and just enjoy what is left! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

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Happy Sunday to y’all! I do love Sunday, but it is a little sad because it means tomorrow is Monday and the start of another workweek. I do wish the weekends were longer, but even when we have a long weekend it is still hard to be forced to start another workweek! The only thing we can do is, enjoy the weekend to the fullest and think with a positive mindset. I do believe there is the power of our minds and think it is much more powerful than we realize. Do you think we can almost believe things into existence? Do you believe that our prayers are the power of our minds or something from another dimension?

How has your weekend been? My weekend has been rather quiet and relaxing, which was something I needed after last week. I have used this weekend to decide between two different topics I want to write about for the writing competition. I have not made a final decision, but have written a few paragraphs for each topic. I think the reason this decision is so complicated is that one topic might cause problems and I am not sure I can or want to deal with that kind of additional stress.

Life is an amazing thing, but it can be challenging. However, even with that said many things are what we make of them. We can choose to stress or be unhappy OR we can choose to be happy and not worry about things we do not have control over. I think it is important to keep things in perspective and remember NO matter what we endure in this life, someone else is always going through something far worse. We do not have to accept a life that does not make us happy and we do have the power to make the necessary changes that will improve life!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the final day of your weekend is spent doing ONLY what makes you happiest! So far, today is much better than yesterday was for me because when I woke up yesterday, I had troubles with my legs and feet. Thankfully, things were better today. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What a long week?

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How do you enjoy spending the first day of the weekend? I prefer to use Saturday as a day to “TRY” to sleep in and get some much-needed rest after a painfully LONG week! I might try doing some cleaning today, but I might hold off until tomorrow. Even though between my sweet and loveable cats and my annoying habits of getting up at the same time daily, I will not sleep past my normal time. I do hope that I will be able to binge-watch one of my favorite shows, Law & Order Special Victims Unit, and considering I have seen every episode at least four times sleep on and off during the day. Many people do not understand why I love this show as much as I do because it is about sex crimes, but this shows is the only time I am able to see actual justice. Yes, I do know this show is not always based on actual events, there is justice for the victims!

After how long this past week felt, there is something that I cannot understand about people and their behaviors. Why is it so difficult for people to behave and treat others kindly and with respect? Also, why can people not think rationally, instead of 100% irrationally? It seems like everyone wants what they want and they want these things immediately! I understand that most people are impatient, but it is not too difficult to at least try to be reasonable. Unless I am missing something and there are people out there that can walk on water and perform miracles.

I cannot imagine I am the only person that believes in equality, right? Why should anyone be treated differently and with more respect than anyone else? I firmly believe we should all try building each other up and not tearing anyone down for any reason! If we could all try doing this once a day, once a week, or if it is too challenging for someone, once a month, I think this world would be much better and much happier! We have nothing to lose doing this, so why do more people not do so?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope your week went well and you have a wonderful and safe weekend! This is your weekend and you do not have to do anything that you do not want to or anything that does not bring you joy! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to y’all as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

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Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you have been able to enjoy your weekend😊! It is so amazing how short the weekends are, but how quickly the months pass by. It feels like January just began and yet we are more than halfway through the month. Were you able to do anything you wanted to over the weekend? Honestly, I have tried spending the weekend doing nothing. Unfortunately, I have been experiencing the VERY unwelcome. MS Hug again. I am not sure why this MS Hug was not made aware of social distancing because it has gotten WAY too close for me. I have always been uncomfortable when people get too close to me because I appreciate my personal space. I know that it will pass, but it is not passing soon enough. A heating pad helps some and no number of tears make will it go away any faster☹.

Even though things did not go the way I would have hoped the first time I tried, I am considering doing another writing competition. The difference in the one I am thinking about doing is I have a choice to either do a personal essay or I can do an article based on something I have researched. I have always enjoyed researching and think this would be an exciting adventure. The bad part about trying this is that I have always questioned my abilities and never thought that I was good enough. Of course, I also think that if I do not at least try I will always wonder what could have been. Do any of you have any advice or suggestions?

For most people, Sunday is a day to rest and prepare for the week ahead of us. Normally, I try getting laundry done today and anything else I was not able to do during the week. Today, where I live is rainy with a slight chill in the air, but I will still finish the one load of laundry I did not get done yet and relax with the cats on the couch. I am also going to think about writing ideas for the competition that I may or may not participate in. Who am I kidding? I do fully plan to do the competition because if I do not, I will always wonder what might have happened.

What do you think about change? Do you think that in 2023, the world should be more accepting of others and the way they choose to live THEIR lives? Do you think we should have evolved much more than many have? I am not trying to push my views onto anyone else, but I do not think anything should trouble our lives unless it negatively affects our daily lives. It does not affect my life if two people get married out of love, even if they are of the same sex. Another thing that does not affect my daily life is transgender. The United States is SUPPOSED to be a free country and unless we have been lied to for decades, we can all live our lives the way we want, which means we are allowed to love who we love, be whoever we want to be, follow the religion we want and read the bible associated with that religion, and anything else as long as it does not harm another person!

Do you think that our governments tell us the truth? Would it be so hard to believe that we are not being told the truth about things in this world? Why are many of us not being treated fairly and able to have healthcare that is the best for us, which would be free or at least a lot more affordable? Why do so many have to suffer from an illness we are told there is no cure for? Would it be so hard to believe that there are cures for many of the diseases in the world, but only for an extremely HIGH amount? I do believe anything is possible!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that you are having a good weekend. I know some of what I have written can be a little controversial and some of you may disagree with me, which is completely within your rights. I would love the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa