Positive thoughts for Monday!

Monday 1Good evening Y’all! I hope you had a great start to the week! Monday is never the most exciting day of the week, but they keep coming no matter if we are ready or not! I try to view Monday as a fresh start to a new week that holds many new opportunities. Any goals that may not have been accomplished last week, we can try again this week! I believe in never giving up on something we truly want! It is important to set goals, but also not stress much about them as that is not healthy. What ever is not accomplished today, try again tomorrow!

I strongly believe in staying positive as much as possible. A negative frame of mind will never help us achieve anything we strive towards. If we approach everything in life with an optimistic mind, we can conquer anything and everything we dream of. When you think about what your goals are for this week, what are they? These goals do not need to be anything huge, they can be as little as wanting to get a manicure and pedicure, which is what my minor goal for the week is! You might be the type of person that is always taking care of everyone else, but tend to neglect the simple pleasures in life you enjoy. Have you ever wondered why do 1-new-monday-new-week-new-goalswe do that? It is extremely important to take care of ourselves or we will never be well enough to do all the other things we do in life. 

We always hear how short life is, but sometimes it feels very long! It is so important to do the things that bring us joy and a lot of happiness. Have you ever really thought about what brings you the most happiness in life? I think we should all set a simple goal for ourselves this week and that is to do something that makes us truly happy! There is SO much negativity every time you turn on the news, so lets pretend for a moment it is not happening. Let’s not worry about all the bad that is going on and all the bad that could happen and just think happy thoughts! This is what I call my little bubble! 

Thank y’all for visiting my site today and I am looking forward to reading your comments. I always respond to all comments just as quickly as I can! I love the communications we all have! I hope y’all have a great and relaxing evening! I am always sending y’all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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Live and Love Life!

2-quote-about-no-matter-how-impossible-unattainable-or-unim-image-background-imageIt may seem that happiness is an unattainable goal in life and that it is only meant for the selected lucky few. Happiness is a state of mind that is not necessarily chosen or ignored, but is sought-after and fought for. When faced with an unbearable and powerless situation it is so much easier to just give up and suppress our desires to excel. It sometimes takes more energy to succeed and far less energy to fail ourselves. Life can be so darn complicated and it may become hard to see the bright side of any given situation, but there is one!

I have always held onto something my grandfather said to me a long time ago, “There is always someone going through something worse than you are in life.” I still do find this to be valuable and very wise information and would never really question anything he had said to me because of how much respect I had for him. But at the same time, how can you really judge what situation is worse in life for anyone? Everyone deals with their troubles in different ways and have their own views on the level of hardships. Is there any comparison in what I live with daily and what someone else with another chronic illness battles? Is my pain any less of a struggle than someone with other pain issues? I think itlife-is-short-time-is-fast-no-replay-no-rewind-25882738 is all in the perspective of the one living with that struggle. I mean think about a person that was just diagnosed with incurable cancer. They have to deal with chemotherapy and so many other decisions, but they do their best to handle that situation the best they possibly can. Or even someone who has already been dealing with Multiple Sclerosis goes to the doctor for an update and is told their illness has progressed from Relapsing-Remitting MS to Secondary-Progressive MS, they have to adjust their mindset in life. Of course these situations are never easy and anyone would go through a vast amount of different emotions, but they do it! Life does not end or allow you to pause it when you are faced with an illness of any kind, you just are required to continue living the best way you can.

We are all supposed to find ways to cope with the life we were given and there is not a rewind or reset button available. Mistakes are inevitable, but we all must learn from our mistakes and carry on with a new outlook on life! We acknowledge what mistakes have perfectly imperfectbeen made, grieve what has been done and lost, set a game plan for moving forward, learn from what has taken place and move on with strength and determination for our future. I believe all of our mistakes made empower us to become even better than we were before. They build our character to be more enlightened and be able to see the bigger picture. We are all just perfectly imperfect humans with the knowledge of what was learned throughout our lives! If we just give up because we failed once in life, we are missing out on all the great things life will offer us!

Our lives are sometimes like a dance. Sometimes we might have our toes stepped on, but dance in the rainsometimes it will be a beautiful piece of work. There may be new and difficult moves to conquer and perform, but over time we will learn to be graceful and almost flawless. It takes determination to learn all the different dances involved in life, but it will end up being something we are incredibly proud of! 

I hope y’all are having a nice and relaxing weekend! I know the weather where I am has been chilly and there is a constant threat of rain which is never very enjoyable, however I am doing what I can to just enjoy the days away from work! I even treated myself to getting my hair trimmed today. It had been a long time since taking care of my hair and it was a wonderful feeling! I am able to relate to my hairdresser’s thought process, which is always great! I like being around people who are down to earth and just very real with their thoughts. It is not so fun being around people that have a fake demeanor because you are always playing a guessing game about what is actually sincere or deceitful! I hope y’all are feeling well and getting the rest you deserve! I appreciate you stopping by my site today and really look forward to any comments you may have, I promise to respond as quickly as I can! As always I am sending y’all lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

Healthy Anger v.s Unhealthy Anger!

healthy-and-unhealthy-angerDid y’all know there is a difference between healthy anger and unhealthy anger? I honestly had no idea there was a difference. I do not like confrontation at all and I will try to avoid it at all costs. I guess you can say that I just bottle up my emotions even though I know that is not a good way to live.  I try so hard to ignore what I am really feeling, thinking that if I ignore it those emotions will just go away, but they do not! Avoiding confrontation has never been a successful method!

Anger alerts us that we need to protect ourselves. It is an alert that we are not being treated correctly and something in our life is not working out the best way it can and should! Anger is an awareness tool that shines light on an injustice and provides insight to make necessary changes. We should never dismiss the anger that we are feeling, but we should investigate our feelings and make imperative changes and then let it go. Adults-and-Anger-What-Causes-AngerLetting go is never easy, but if we are able to acknowledge and address the pain we are feeling, the next step is to just release those negative feelings and move on with our lives! If we continue to stifle our emotions we may miss an opportunity to make some real positive changes in life and that would be a disgrace to ourselves and we would probably regret not taking the chance we were given for a beneficial change!

Unhealthy anger does not do us any good either. This type of anger can cause emotional and physical issues, but can also have a terrible impact on those around us as well. Anger can suffocate a person that is only trying to avoid the initial confrontation, but the issues are still present until they are dealt with. Unhealthy anger is continuously fed, masks_of_anger_revisited and held onto, but the issue or issues are never addressed. This allows for anger to just pile up and you will feel like you are going to explode. I think the best way to explain it is, have you ever taken an unopened bottle of soda and shaken it vigorously? What happens when you open that bottle? Whatever type of soda you just shook up will explode all over the place.

My soda analogy is what can happen when someone allows for the anger to just stay inside their heart and mind, not address the problem and let it go! Whatever you are angry with will not just magically disappear and improve without talking about it. bottle-explosionCommunication is so incredibly important as it will allow us to learn from the mistakes made in life and make proper changes. Change can be scary, but it can be a good thing as well.

Anger can happen with anyone, not just a loved one or co-worker, it can occur when we drive to work and someone cuts us off. That one small incident with the bad drive sets presence to our mood for the day! With the situation with the bad driver, you are not really able to confront them and get the negative emotion out in the open, so what do you do? I guess you just have to expect for others on the road to not be as cautious and careful as you are and chalk it up to another day on the road! In situations like that I know the initial reaction might be to use some unpleasant sign language, but that does not fix the issue and will not teach anyone how to drive. I can honestly say that it is not easy to let things like this go, but at the same time is not worth our mental time and allowing it to ruin our day!

How many times has your significant other made you so angry that you wanted to angescream? Has anyone in your family ever done something so outrageous that it caused resentment and frustration to the point you were not able to speak to them for a little while?  It is perfectly normal to get angry, especially with family because you know more about them behind the scenes. I think family anger is a lot more painful than most anger because it is so much closer to your heart. I think anger with our family tends to be more intense because we normally have higher expectations for them than just the normal run of the mill person we communicate with. We hold our family to higher standards so we expect so much out of them. Sometimes I wonder if it is just better to keep our expectations low so we are never disappointed, but when something great happens we can savor that moment! 

Life can be extremely difficult and we are all going to face some kind of disagreement angry kittythroughout out lives. It is okay to be angry, but it is also very important to address what you are angry about. If you allow angry to fester and never address the problem, it will only hinder your own happiness. 

I hope y’all had a great Monday! As always I do appreciate you visiting my site today and your comments are very welcomed! I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can and look forward to the conversation! I hope y’all have a very relaxing and pleasant evening! Sending you lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Destiny, real or an illusion?

fateDestiny is also known as fate. Destiny is predetermined course of events or even a predetermined future. Do you believe anything can adjust what our fate is or it is just going to happen no matter what we do? I have always said that I believe everything happens for a reason and that our story was written before we were born and we are just playing the part. I do believe we have choices though and maybe some of our choices do alter what our future holds.

I think that the hand we were dealt in life, no matter how difficult it is, we are strong enough to handle it. When I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, all I could think was what in the world did I do so wrong to be plagued with this illness, but now I do not view it as a punishment. I am trying to view it more as an opportunity to do more to help others and see life in a different light. You can almost appreciate life more when you have something that is not curable yet and can actually affect your quality of life.

I feel that I met my husband purely out of fate. We were destined travel this journey of large (1)life together because we were truly meant to be. We understand each other more than most which is a great thing. He understands that the pain I live with causes me a terrible amount of fatigue making it so I do not have energy to do somethings. I also understand the pain that he has been inflicted with and that it causes him to need rest. Was it fate that two people who have chronic pain issues would meet, fall in love and get married? I tend to believe it was because some people would not be able to handle the restrictions pain causes in a daily life.

Let me ask you, do you believe in destiny or do you think it is just a perception of events? Do you think we have the ability to change the course of our lives by changing our actions or thoughts?

I want to thank y’all for stopping by my site today and I always appreciate your comments, which I do always respond to as quickly as I can! I hope y’all had a great Monday and I am wish y’all an amazing week! Always remember to do your best to stay positive and whatever does not get done today, there is always tomorrow so there is no need for extra stress. As always, I am sending you lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Invisible Illness?

chronic illness factI am so frequently hearing about invisible illnesses now. What does that really mean? Fibromyalgia, Multiple Sclerosis, Rheumatoid Arthritis, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Depression, Diabetes and Digestive Disorders are just a few illnesses that have been labeled as invisible illnesses. I have Multiple Sclerosis and yes, for the most part it is invisible because no one can see the pain or any other issues that I am dealing with. I do think the most frustrating things I hear are: “You do not look sick”, “Have you tried vitamins?” and the classic “There must be a cure for it.” I want to believe these comments and questions are not from ill intent, but from those that just do not understand. you don't look sick

Honestly, I think the reason why the label of “Invisible Illness” brings many questions to my mind is because most illnesses are invisible. Why does someone need to have skin rashes, walk with assistance of a cane or walker, require a wheelchair or be attached to an IV to be sick? There are many people out there that may be battling cancer, well that is not really seen. Or what about those that deal with Chronic Sinus problems which is also not seen. They may have a running nose or watery eyes, but no one pays attention to that.

We can even take this a step further! What about people who are HIV positive or even have AIDS? These illnesses are not normally seen unless there has been extensive progression, which may cause rashes, sores and or lesions. You could be walking through the mall and pass several people who suffer from HIV or AIDS and you would not know it because at that moment, it is invisible.

invisible illnessWhat about people who suffer from Migraines or Chronic neck and shoulder pain? Now for the most part this person may look and act completely normal, like they do not suffer from extricating pain several other days of the week, but the fact is they do suffer in pain! During the times when this person does not have a Migraine or shoulder and neck pain, this would in my opinion be an invisible illness, but please tell me if I am wrong.

I do not mean for anything I said to not show credence for our issues, but I would like to be able to acknowledge all the other illnesses that are not visible to the naked eye. I guess I just do not believe those that are dealing with Migraines or other pains should not be included into an invisible label. Statistics state that 2-3 million adults in the United States suffer from Chronic Migraines and 90% of them are forced to miss work because of this issue. As far as I know, Migraines are not in the invisible illness bubble but really should be. Migraines can be completely debilitating and just miserable!

I believe that there is a huge difference between sympathy and empathy. We never really know what another person is going through in their lives, so the best thing to do is always be kind to everyone! We may meet someone who has just been diagnosed with a chronic illness and they are completelyKind word devastated, so something we say to them can either make their day a little better or even worse! Kind words can go along way in another person’s life. I always ask myself when I am talking to a new person, do I want to be a positive in their lives and make them smile or do I just not care enough to make a difference? I always choose to try to make a positive difference in everyone life because everyone’s feelings matter to me!

I appreciate you taking the time to visit my site on this rainy Sunday! I hope y’all had an amazing weekend and I hope you are ready for the new week to start tomorrow. I really do treasure the comments you make and I do always try to respond as quickly as I possibly can. I hope you are able to spend the rest of your weekend comfortable and relaxed. I did not want to forget to mention, the picture at the top, “I Don’t Look Sick? You Don’t Look Stupid. Looks Can Be Deceiving!”, is on a t-shirt that I actually have! I think it is a pretty great shirt, but some would probably disagree! Sometimes you have to add a little bit of humor to a bad situation! As always I am sending you lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Pain & Headaches Galore!

weekend1I hope y’all have had a great week and you are looking forward to a beautiful weekend! I have been a little absent for the past few days because I have been dealing with terrible headaches and pain. All these headaches and pain have caused me a lot of nausea and an inability to keep food down. This is the third day of these issues, but I am finally able to keep food down, well so far!

I think the most obnoxious question when I am suffering from a headache or pain is, “What do you think is causing this?” If I knew what was causing my headaches, I promise I would do anything to make them go away. The only thing I can say that helps my headaches is an ice pack and a dark quiet room. It sounds so crazy that I will use a heating pad for my back pain and an ice pack for my headaches, but it works for the most part. I know when people ask the question, “What do you think is causing this?”, they are trying to help and they mean well, but I am unfortunately never going to know what causes my headaches or pain, it is just the way things happen.

I do know that stress and weather can add to the headaches and pain. I do suffer from sinus-pressure-314x225sinus issues, but I take sinus medicine for that, it just does not seem to work as well as I would like it to. As for weather, it has been all over the place lately! It is February for God sakes and in the 80’s which is causing trees and flowers to bloom adding to the sinus troubles. It seems like we completely skipped over winter this year and just went straight from fall to spring. There was a few weeks that could be considered winter, but it came and went so fast it was hardly noticed. I mean, my body does not adjust well to temperature changes so I did notice it some. During the few weeks that were considered winter temperatures were low in the 30’s, but as soon as I adjusted to those temperatures it spiked back to the 60’s. There were days with low temperatures and then the next day would be much higher. How in the world can anyone be expected to adjust to the weather when it is constantly changing?

This is a bad time for me to be going through all these headaches and additional pain because my poor husband is dealing with some terrible tooth pain. I can not expect for him to take care of me right now when he is suffering so horribly, but he has been doing a pretty good job! Despite the pain he is going through, he is constantly making sure I have everything I need to be comfortable. We work pretty well together because we both understand pain and headaches way too much!

every-day-may-not-be-good-but-theres-something-good-in-every-day-8I can only hope that my pain and headaches will start to ease up soon so I can actually function right! I have not been able to work for the past three days because of all this, which is causing me even more stress as they are all unpaid days! After resting for the past few days and having the weekend, maybe things will improve and be much better next week. This is just an issue some of us run into and it is so important to just keep trying and hoping for better days ahead!

I hope y’all have a great weekend and enjoy every moment of it! Y’all know I love to see your comments and I do always respond to them as quickly as I can! Remember to always try to stay positive in life because no matter what is going on, there will be good days ahead! Also, I did a guest blog for a fantastic person this week. If you have not already been able to visit Grace’s blog, please check it out because she is pretty fantastic and you will also be able to see the post I did for the newly diagnosed. Her site is,  https://msgracefulnot.com/. Sending you lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Huge thank you!

Thank-You-So-MuchI am completely astonished by the amazing amount of support all of you have offered me since I start my blog in July 2017. I started this blog with only one follower initially, my husband. I made the decision to start this journey because of my passion for writing and my strong desire to help others that may be going through hard times. I felt that after living with a chronic illness for almost 18 years I could offer some hope, courage and strength for others. I am very proud to say that I am achieving my goal more and more each day due to the gratitude I have received from many of you. At this moment with each post I make over 600 individuals are reading what I write and so many make gracious comments to me that I am helping them through difficult times. I have heard so many times that my positive thoughts and encouraging words have inspired others, which really makes me incredibly happy. All I have ever wanted to do is help and motivate others that may have fallen on hard times or may possibly be struggling with illness.i-am-here-for-you

I want y’all to know how much I have enjoyed getting to know you and also learning so much from each of you! All of us deal with something that is not easy and we all have special and unique ways to cope our situations. I truly hope that y’all know that I am always here to help in any way I can. Our struggles are real, but they are always strengthening our abilities to handle the next day! Continue to stay positive and know that it is okay to lean on others. It is also okay to have a bad day and not feel very optimistic, we all have those days. However, it is important to not dwell on a bad day and remember that tomorrow is a new day with new opportunities for happiness!

I hope y’all have a great evening! Thank you so much for stopping by my site today. I look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments and I do promise to respond to you as quickly as I can! I love the fabulous communications we have had! I am sending all of you lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Snowflake Illness

snowflake illnessChronic Illnesses are like snowflakes because like all snowflakes are so different from the other and each person’s situation with illness is different from another. You will never see two snowflakes that look exactly the same, just as you will never find two people with any illness that experience the same exact issues. There might be some similarities, but there are also some strong differences.

Personally, over the almost 18 years I have been living with MS, I have not met anyone that is dealing with the exact same issues that I do each and every day. Again, there are always some similarities, but they are never identical. I have met in person and through this blog others that are battling the MS fight who have equivalent issues to what I live with, but sometimes what they are struggling with is vastly unique to my own experiences. Even though their trials are something I may have not dealt with, I can totally relate to the hassles that are caused by illnesses!

I believe having the ability to meet others that understand what your daily struggles are in life is so helpful. This gives you the opportunity to learn from someone else, so that if you ever experience something similar you have someone to chat with that truly understands! I strongly feel that there are SO many that do not understand what anyone with an invisible illness goes through on a daily basis. Considering these illnesses are so incredibly unpredictable those living with the illness does not even know what to expect day by day, or even hour by hour. Can this be frustrating? Absolutely! But all of us, no matter what battle we are fighting are winning because of how strong we each are!

snowflakesThink about what illness you are fighting and think about those you have met with the same ailment. Now, think about if anyone has ever had the exact same struggles that you do. Can you think of anyone that is a mirror image to you? I know that I can’t! Most of the issues I deal with every day without fail is pain and some numbness problems. After chatting with numerous people, a lot of them also have the same type of issues but their pain and numbness might be in different areas of their body. We all deal with the strains of our illness so differently and with SO much strength and courage! Y’all know I believe that staying positive is one of the most important ways to beat the trials that come my way! I might have my off days where I feel completely defeated, but that state of mind does not last long because it does not help me overcome the issues at hand!

I guess we are each our own unique and beautiful snowflake just floating through our lives. We do not have to worry about melting from our troubles, we just need to continue to stay flying high above the struggles and we will win!

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I hope you enjoyed my thoughts for Saturday and I really look forward to reading your responses! I do promise to respond to you as quickly as I can! I can not explain how much the communications I have had with so many of you mean to me! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and doing what makes you happy! As always, I am sending you all lots of love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Amazing Realizations!

baddayI think it has taken me a while to realize that it is okay to have a bad day. It is okay to not be positive all day every day. Sometimes life might just not seem fair and putting on a happy face just does not work at that moment. It is okay to admit you do not have all the answers to everyone’s issues in life. Admitting and talking about what is on your mind is so important! Smiling through the pain can help some days, but other days it is even more important and helpful to just say “I can’t do it today.”

One day might be absolutely amazing and the next day you just wish you could go back to bed and start over again. The truth is all good days will always be followed by a bad yinday. It might not be the following day or even the same week, but it is the yin and yang to life. Rain comes with sunshine, warmth comes with cold, happiness comes with sadness, strength comes with weakness and good comes with bad, and there really is not a way around it. The only thing we can do is keep pushing forward to the next day!

No two days are the exact same for me. One day I might feel relatively normal and the next day hurt so much it is a struggle to move. I guess that is just the life I was meant to live. I do believe strongly that our lives are a gift and we are just supposed to live it the best way we can without too many regrets. On those days where my pain is at its highest, I do know in my heart a good day is just around the corner. I used to think the bad painful days were some kind of punishment and for what I never knew, but now I think those bad days are just building me as a person and giving me more strength for the next day in life.

Y’all know that I felt as though I was being negative yesterday, but so many of you graciously told me I was actually a pretty positive person. Through the comments I received you showed me how true my first statement was, that it is okay to have a bad day! Letting go of the troubles live like you were die tomorrowfrom yesterday will make way for a better tomorrow! I guess it is important to learn something from our struggles so that we know how to handle them better in the future because difficult times will always reappear. 

I hope y’all had a fantastic day and you are feeling well! Each of you have a strength that benefits someone else in your life and you may not even realize it. Thank you for stopping by to read my thoughts for the day, which let me say are much more positive! Please feel free to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I am able to! I hope y’all have a wonderful and relaxing evening. Sending y’all much love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

The Entertainment Blogger Award!

 

entertainerHappy Friday Y’all! I hope you had a fantastic week and looking forward to an amazing weekend!

I would like to thank Paleeza, Just A Quiet Girl, Living In A Noisy World for nominating me for this truly astonishing award! Paleeza’s blog is so fun and sensational, I love reading her posts! She is a very kind and caring individual with so much passion!

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RULES FOR AWARD:

  1. Thank the person who nominated you and add a link to their blog.
  2. Add the rules so others can follow.
  3. Answer the questions that have been asked.
  4. Nominate a handful of entertaining bloggers.
  5. Display the photo also in your blog.

My Questions and Answers

Why did you start a blog in the first place?

I started my blog for a few reasons. I love to write and I love to help others. My goal was to be able to inspire others that are struggling with illnesses. I wanted to show everyone that as long as you have passion and positivity, you can accomplish anything you want!

 What is your favorite book?

I love a series from James Patterson called The Women’s Murder Club. It sounds worse than it is! It really is an addictive series! The women work together to find justice and I love that!

What do you dislike the most?

What I dislike most is mean and judgmental people. I am a very fair and non-judgmental person because I believe strongly that everyone should be treated with love and respect!

What is your favorite food at the mall?

I like the soft pretzels with cheese.

What is your favorite pastime?

My favorite pastime without a doubt is writing!

 

My Fabulous Nominees:

Inkallhere
Waytomuchtoosay
Dinosaursdonkeysandms
Kimc91
Crankypants2
acreativenewmie

 

Thank you so much for thinking of me with this award Paleeza! I have enjoyed blogging and meeting so many people more than I can even begin to put into words. I am really looking forward to hearing my nominees answers fun questions! It is so much fun getting to know y’all! I hope y’all have a great weekend!! Sending lots of love and comfort to each and everyone reading this post!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa