Toxicity in The United States

The United States has been suffering from mass levels of toxicity for decades. Unfortunately, there have been and continue to be numerous issues that are engulfing most of us living in the United States. These toxic behaviors and thoughts are seeping into the rest of the world daily. The catastrophic events and issues Americans have faced end up being shown on the news for the entire world to view, which is shameful and a complete disgrace. It is tragic as an American to know about the devastations we are enduring, mostly due to those with bad intentions that are full of anger and hatred. Sadly, many have become desensitized, and the pain others are experiencing does not cause them any distress☹.

One issue that appears much worst in the United States than in any other country is gun violence. In other countries, when there was one case of gun violence, the country took the proper measures and banned guns for everyone. In the United States, you are unable to watch the news or read articles on any news outlets without seeing about shootings with or without casualties. There have been numerous school shootings in the United States and this needs to stop. Children and teens should never have easy access to a gun of any kind. If a parent or another adult in the household chooses to have a gun, they should take necessary safety measures.

Many Americans seem to believe because it is the 2nd Amendment is the right to bear arms that everyone deserves to own a gun, but there need to be more laws that are followed. We do not have to be in war times with each other or anyone else. There also needs to be more education involved regarding the purchase of a gun and gun ownership. An individual who has mental health issues and is a threat to themselves or others or has a criminal record should not be able to own a weapon, which I know is already a law, but it needs to be enforced much better. I do know of at least one person that has a criminal record of violence and the person was able to not only purchase a gun but was also given a concealed weapon permit.

Another major issue that seems to be much worst in the United States is the opioid crisis. I have wondered why this seems to be the case and what I have discovered was not too surprising. The people that are to blame for this crisis are the greedy pharmaceutical companies pushing the dangerous and addictive medications, the doctors who are overprescribing these drugs, and the drug dealers who are selling fentanyl. Of course, many people are suffering from chronic pain due to illnesses or are gravely ill due to cancer. Unfortunately, some are addicts and careless. The overdose death rate in the United States is twice as much as in any other country in the world. Preventable opioid deaths are occurring among individuals between the age of 25 to 54. The overdose deaths of those older than 55 are increasing rapidly. The drug dealers that are pushing the extremely deadly drug fentanyl are out of control which has been the cause of 80% of the overdose deaths in 2022.

A very controversial issue in the United States is abortion. This was a legal action for women for almost 50 years. I am not saying that I am pro or against abortion, but I am pro-freedom. This includes for a woman to have the freedom to decide what she does with her own body. You can probably say that I am pro-choice! If a woman gets pregnant after unprotected and consensual sex and can admit she does not have the means to provide for a child or she is raped and decides she cannot carry her rapist’s child, it is her body and her choice to terminate the pregnancy. If the United States wants to continue saying we are a free country, then a woman should be free to her body. Doctors and the government should not be in control of a woman’s body in a free country!

Mental health has been a critical issue in the United States for many decades. There is a very negative stigma that surrounds mental health causing people to feel shame and afraid to try getting help. Even when a person decides they want help, there are limited resources for them to do so. Once they can locate a facility that offers the help they desperately need, the wait list is so long, and the expenses are too high causing them to give up. We need more places to be readily available and affordable to help those who are suffering silently from mental health issues. We need to find ways to remove the negative stigma and be more open to anyone with mental instabilities. This could be a solution that may prevent mass shootings and suicide.

The United States is the only developed country that does not offer free healthcare, but instead, the cost is on a steady and consistent rise. The increase in the cost of healthcare in 2022 was 6% and is expected to increase another 5%. This is ludicrous and unacceptable! The United States is the wealthiest country in the world by a long shot. With this fact, why can healthcare not be a free right for everyone? So many people cannot afford healthcare in America and therefore are left to suffer from ailments and diseases. Even those with expensive healthcare still nearly can go bankrupt due to all the other costs. In a country with outlandish wealth, no human being should ever have to suffer from illness or disease without affordable healthcare.

In my entire 41 years in the world, I have only lived in the United States. I have lived in the northern and southern states, so I do not know if equality is an issue in other countries but do know it is a major issue in the United States. People are judged and treated differently based on where they are from, the color of their skin, religious beliefs, political following, and who they love. None of this makes sense to me and never will. We are all human beings and while I do have my strong views on certain things, I do not judge or think negatively about how others view things or how they live their lives. I only judge and feel a certain way about others based on how they treat other people. I wish everyone from sea to shining sea could learn ways to express love and acceptance more because hate is only going to destroy the planet, we are sharing.

As broken as the country and system appear, there must still be hope for it to be better. The good and honest men that fought for this country many years ago should not have risked their lives in vain. Mine and my husband’s late Grandfathers were a couple of these amazing, strong, and kindhearted men who fought for this country. Their risks along with countless others should be remembered and we should be doing better for people like them and stop the evil hatred the world is conflicted with. Hatred and misery will never do anything positive for anyone, but they will damage the people we love.

Thank you for visiting my site today. Even though what I have shared was emotional and safe, I do hope you found it interesting. I am aware not everyone is going to agree with every word of this post, but this is how I feel about things in the country I live in, and it breaks my heart. I wish the world could be filled with love and compassion, but I do not have any control over how others behave and can only control myself. We do not have to agree with our family or friends, but we need to be respectful of their feelings. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Human Rights

Abortion has been a controversial issue for decades and long before anyone had heard about Roe. Since June 24, 2022, when Roe vs Wade was overturned, abortion has become an even more heated topic. The views and beliefs of people around the world are plentiful and remain extremely controversial. I understand some of these views fall in line with religious beliefs, which is their right and no one can alter their beliefs. Row vs Wade was a ruling made almost 50 years ago in January of 1973, during a time before things were more progressive. In the past, nearly 50 years have we progressed at all? Are we trying to evolve or are we only consistently devolving?

I am very aware that there will be numerous people that are going to disagree with my thoughts, but I am going to share them anyway. This issue has caused me a lot of frustration and anger, and this post has taken me over a week to finish. First, let me start by saying that I do not agree with using abortion as a form of birth control. There are risks a woman may experience from having an abortion, which may include pain and cramping, plus some intense mental health struggles, and social and financial burdens. There is already a negative stigma surrounding abortion, so I do not believe any woman is going to choose to have an abortion if it is not truly necessary.

People do need to be responsible and practice safe sex, but unforeseen things can happen. When a woman decides for whatever reason that she wants to have an abortion, there are safe ways to have this procedure completed. According to the World Health Organization, about 45% of all abortions are unsafe of which 97% occur in developing countries. Unfortunately, unsafe abortions are a leading avoidable cause of maternal deaths. If women lose the ability to get a safe abortion where the dangers decrease, the problem will be more unsafe abortions and an increased number of women dying unnecessarily.

Another HUGE problem I have with banning abortions is it is taking away a woman’s right to decide what she can do with HER body. The United States “claims” to be a “free” country”, right? Please explain how taking away a woman’s right to her body is freedom because this does not sound like what I consider freedom.

If a woman is raped, how can anyone force her to keep her rapist’s baby? That baby will be a constant reminder of the worst day in her life, which is NOT fair. If a woman gets pregnant and can be mature enough to admit that she does not have the means to provide a safe and happy life for that child, WHY should she be forced to? She was trying to put that child’s needs first and not bring it into a world where it would not have what it needs to flourish.

Please take a look at the states that have already banned abortion. Do you see a common denominator to these states? The first two states to put an abortion ban were Indiana and West Virginia. I am not surprised about Indiana, but I have been to West Virginia and have seen what people are like there, so I am shocked they were the 2nd state to ban abortion. I do not mean to bring politics into this as that is another hot topic and causes more arguments, but most of the states that have banned abortion are Republican leading with the voting poles. This is not an opinion, but a fact!

Regardless of an individual’s political or religious ideology, what gives anyone the right to tell a woman what she can or cannot do with HER body? In a “free” country, how can a government dictate law for a human body? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months? I have heard the argument that she can give the baby up for adoption, but nine months is a long time to carry a baby and endure childbirth all because a man did not listen to the simple two letters word “NO”.

Again, I understand that many people reading this post will have opposite views that I do and that is your right. I am not trying to take anyone’s rights away from them, like so many states are doing to women. Like I have already said, I do not think abortion should be used as a form of birth control, but that is not my right to decide for another woman, it is hers and hers ONLY! I believe in a woman’s right to decide if she can take care of another human life and if she knows she can’t, I do not think she should be forced to. More than anything else, I do not think any woman should be told she must carry her rapist’s baby because this was no fault of hers.

I am sorry if this post has offended anyone but am not sorry for the way I see things. I am not sorry that I think a woman is the only person that can decide what happens to her body. I am not sorry that I do not agree a woman should never have to carry a baby from rape or incest. I am not sorry that I do not agree with what is going on in the United States. I am not sorry that I view freedom differently than some do. I am not sorry that I feel a woman has the right to decide!

Thank you for visiting my site today. Although I do know many will disagree with everything I stated, I do hope it provides you with an understanding as to why I view things the way I do. When I find something extremely disturbing and when something upset me, I feel the need to write about it because it helps me to accept things and let the anger go. I hope you are having a nice and safe weekend. I do encourage you to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes. 

Always, Alyssa

Can you tell me why?

People throughout the United States enjoy celebrating the 4th of July. There are parades, fireworks, cookouts, and more that people “should” be able to enjoy. Why was this such an issue over the long weekend everyone was looking forward to? Why can people not enjoy life without fears of mass shootings? Why do some people not leave their homes because they worry about what could happen in society? Why is it so difficult for people to practice kindness and compassion for others, instead of the sick need to shoot innocent people? Why is there so much hatred filling the world? Why can all the people in one country not get along?

The questions I have asked are what evade my mind constantly. There are NO answers that will make sense to me because I feel the need to treat everyone equally. Yes, this might be something that makes me different from many other Americans and that is why I prefer to NEVER be like everyone else. When we desire to get along just to get along and not stand up for our beliefs, it does not ever fix anything! I would like to suggest you listen to this song and please tell me how it makes you feel!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpYeekQkAdc

When I was growing up, I was taught that the United States is a “free” and “welcoming” country, but this is far from the truth! No one is completely free, especially women as they no longer have control over what happens to their bodies. If everyone is not uniform, behaving, looking, believing, and speaking alike, they are too different and must be stopped. Why else would so many innocent people trying to enjoy the long weekend, going out to dinner, a movie, the grocery store, or anywhere else not in their homes be shot and killed?

For years now, my husband and I have stayed home safely. We never wanted to get COVID, especially due to my weak immune system, and we have been successful. We do not want to go out to dinner to celebrate or have a date night and not make it home because of the insanity in the country, again, we have been successful. I understand how short life is, but we do not want it to be made shorter because of something we have no control over. I know it seems like we are trying to live in a bubble, and this might be true, but there needs to be a massive change in the United States.

Have you ever wondered what other countries think when they see what is going on in this country? I do not have to wonder because I am told by people, I work with that live in Canada. They see the news here in the United States and shake their heads in utter disbelief as to how it could be true. The mass shootings, lies within our government, taking away a woman’s rights to her body, hatred filling our streets, and much more that should never happen! NO country is perfect, but most other countries do not have the damage as the United States does.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know there are going to be many people that disagree with everything I have said and that is okay because you have a right to your opinion. I would love to read your comments and I will respect whatever you have to stay. I hope your long weekend has been safe and relaxing! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Stand up for rights

On June 24th, the US Supreme Court decided amongst themselves and others with the same ideology to overturn a landmark decision made in 1973, Roe vs Wade. As it should have, this incredibly unethical and terribly flawed decision has caused an uprise in the country. We were supposed to be evolving in our lives, not devolving, and creating additional turmoil in a country already overflowing with hatred! The ruling regarding Roe vs Wade was brought into light almost 50 years ago when the thought processes of the people had not advanced to a kinder and more understanding way, which was the way things were in the past.

Please allow me to explain more about the way I feel about what has taken place. I am not pro-abortion, but I am pro-choice and believe women have the right to decide what happens with their bodies. Not all pregnancies were meant to go full-term, and it is not necessarily murder. Sometimes deciding what is best for the unborn child and a mother may seem unconventional and cause disagreements, but it should remain a choice. If a mother knows she does not have the means to provide a good and happy life for a child, why should the unborn child have to endure a difficult life? It is already challenging enough for people to survive this unpredictable and demanding life without dealing with hardships that could be prevented.

If the United States was truly a “free” country, there would not be a question or argument about a woman having the right to decide what happens with her body. Clearly, this is not the case because of the Supreme Court. It does not matter anymore if the pregnancy was from rape, incest, or merely an accident, abortion is now the choice of each individual state. I am an empathetic person and do not feel any woman or child needs to suffer the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. A child’s life does need to be valued, but can they be loved unconditionally if they are the product of rape or incest? Are those that are making an abortion difficult going to care for a child of incest and possible birth defects this may cause?

Unfortunately, there are people out there that do not have the means to afford birth control or to see a doctor to obtain birth control. What about the men involved? Why do they not have to suffer any consequences and why do some men think all they had to do was one small thing to become a father, but they do nothing else with a child’s life? Sex does not make them a father but being there and helping does! It enrages me that some men have unprotected sex one time, which causes the woman to be pregnant, but they do NOTHING to support the mother or child. If a woman’s right to abortion is compromised, why should men get off free?

On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court made same sex marriage legal in all 50 states. There was NO reason why this should have been an issue in the first place. Love is love and should NOT matter if it is the same sex or opposite sex, as it does not cause anyone any harm. Seven years later, some within the Supreme Court want to change this again and make same sex marriage and relationships illegal. I do not understand if these individuals fear what they do not understand or maybe they prefer the same sex and are afraid of what people will think. Again, if the United States is a “FREE” country, what gives anyone the right to say who one should love or not?

What does love mean? Is there anything in the definition of love that says you can only love someone of the opposite sex? I have never seen this in any definition and think that love is love. Who cares if someone loves another that is the same sex or opposite sex? The problem with people that want to put restrictions on love is, that they do not understand what it means to love and probably lack love in their hearts. Of course, so many want to quote the bible, which I think is a weak and ignorant person’s way out of understanding. Again, if this is a free country, why does it matter who someone marries? Just as long as love is involved, no one is getting harmed!

Considering this is “supposed” to be a “free” country, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but should those opinions weigh in on the choices people make for their lives or what they are able to do with their bodies? Of course, when something is harmful to the lives of other people, there should be laws in place to prevent and protect it. I realize some people believe abortion is murder. With that said, what is worst for an unborn child to be born into a life where they will not be safe, offered food, and a room over their head, OR to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months and go through delivery, and either keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

These topics are controversial, and I am sure what I have said will cause people to be angry, but if my views cause you to be angry, please explain to me why. I want to understand why anyone thinks anyone’s life should be controlled, especially when they are not harming anyone. I understand abortion can be viewed as harming an unborn child, but their life might be worst if they are born. And what harm does someone cause by loving someone of the same sex?

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. I do understand that not everyone is going to agree with anything I have said, and I do know you have the right to your opinions. I am just a firm believer in equal rights and do not think anyone’s right should be ignored. Life is so short, and we only get one chance, so why can we all not be considerate of others? Why should anyone be forced to change who they are or why should a woman not get to decide what happens to her body? Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

Overturning Roe vs Wade

Row vs. Wade is an extremely controversial topic that everyone has an opinion about. This was a landmark decision of the United States Supreme Court which ruled that the Constitution of the United States protects a pregnant woman’s liberty to choose to have an abortion without excessive government restrictions. Some might view this topic differently due to their beliefs, but this has absolutely nothing to do with anyone’s feelings regarding abortion and everything to do with freedom. A person’s moral and religious beliefs are well within their right, but their views should not impact a woman’s decision with her own body.

There have been many people voicing their thoughts about how vaccines and or masks mandates take away their freedom but is a government deciding what a woman can and cannot do with her body is not also taking away people’s freedom as well? The United States is “supposed” to stand for the freedom of each citizen. A woman deciding to get an abortion does not harm anyone but might be what is best for the unborn child and her own life. People arguing that vaccines and mask mandates take away their freedom is completely different because people not getting a vaccine or wearing a mask can and have killed millions of people.

Norma McCorvey, aka Jane Roe, was a single mother of two living in Texas. In 1963, when she was just 16, she met and married the man who was the father of her child. She was young and unable to care for her child, so after she divorced her husband she surrender custody of the child to her mother.  In 1967, Miss McCorvey became pregnant for the 2nd time and immediately gave the child up for adoption. Two years later, she was pregnant for the 3rd time and wanted to have an abortion which in Texas was only offered if the mother’s life would be endangered if carried the child to full-term.

Regardless of, the mistakes made she fought for her right to decide what she did with her body. With the assistance of lawyers, she made a difference for other women to be able to choose an abortion if that is what they felt was best for themselves and the unborn child.

According to Politico, in January 1973, the Supreme Court issued a 7-2 decision ruling that the due process clause of the Fourth Amendment of the United States Constitution provided a “right to privacy” which also protects a pregnant woman’s right to have an abortion. It was also ruled that this right is not absolute and must be balanced against the government’s interest in protecting women’s health and prenatal lift. The court resolved this balancing test by tying state regulation of abortion to the three trimesters of pregnancy. This was set up as the following in the first trimester, governments could not prevent abortions. During the 2nd trimester, governments could require reasonable health regulations, Finally, during the 3rd trimester, abortions could be prevented entirely as long as the law contained exceptions for cases when they were necessary to save the life and health of the mother.

In 2022, the US Supreme Court overturning a law protecting abortion rights, a law that was put in place in 1973 is appalling. It has been almost 50 years and during a time period when people should be evolving, we seem to be doing the opposite. The government telling a woman what she can do concerning her body is wrong. What if a woman is raped, should she be forced to carry that child full-term? If a child is raped, why should that child be told, that she cannot have an abortion and she must keep her rapist’s child?

Why are the same people that are against abortion, the same people that are against anything that could provide children with the means for a good and fulfilling life? Things such as free healthcare, free education, and affordable housing are banished from existence. The issues that cause harm such as the guns that kill people daily are perfectly acceptable. The people in the United States who are hell-bent on keeping their freedom to carry guns, vote, and live their lives like they see fit are also the same people that want to take a woman’s right to have an abortion and gay rights away. Why is that?

We are supposed to be living in a free country that is not dictated by government, religion, or anything else, but it appears that many are trying to change that. As long as we are not hurting anyone else, there should not be any problems. Those that carry guns into a supermarket and open fire, killing anyone they see is not the way we should be living. A woman knowing, she cannot care for the child and provide that child with a safe and loving life is well within her right to not be forced to keep the child. Children are the future and should not be brought into a home that is unsafe because they cannot be cared for or if they are brought into the world by rape or incest.

I am aware that there are going to be many people that disagree with what I have shared in this post, but I do ask you to be respectful of what I feel. I am a firm believer in the freedom of all and do not think that anyone should be forced to do anything they are not comfortable with and want to happen. The United States is supposed to be a free country and not a dictatorship, so long as what we are doing does not cause anyone else harm. A woman deciding to have an abortion is not causing harm to anyone, not even the unborn child.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I was withholding writing about this because I know how delicate this topic is and how many people feel differently, but I could not keep my feelings in and wanted to share this. I typically apologize for offending people, but this issue should be decided by only one person and that is the mother because she is the one whose body it affects. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa