Outlets are important!

environmental-writer-300x156Do you have an outlet from the pains that life hands us? I do believe having an outlet can be the most therapeutic thing for anyone, almost like a short escape from reality. It doesn’t matter if you write on a blog and share you deepest feelings with others or if you take time alone to write in a journal about your feelings, it is just important to get those emotions out. Releasing positive and or negative emotions can create so much true comfort!

Obviously y’all know I write on my blog as much as I can, but recently I have started download (5)writing in a journal as well. There might be times when I may not be ready or comfortable sharing how I am feeling with anyone yet and writing these feelings down in private offers me serenity. I find that writing down what is going through my mind at any given time allows me to reread what I am dealing with and gain some perspective. I think that by writing in a journal, I can just be honest with myself and not have to worry about what anyone else thinks or someone trying to tell me how I should feel or how I should cope with my struggles. There are many times that I just wanting to come up with solutions on my own, but then there of course times I do want advice.

I really do enjoy writing on my blog as well because this gives me a chance to not only outletshare with y’all, but also gain some amazing feedback from y’all!! I have told y’all many times before that I am very critical of my own writing, but reading your thoughts helps me in so many ways. I have always dreamed of being a writer and having freedom to write about whatever I want! My ultimate dream is to gain the confidence to write the book I have mulled over for many years. I do believe that if I continue writing on my blog, which I do intend to, I will gain a tremendous amount of knowledge from each of you and about my own skills.  I am very curious about what you consider an outlet. Is writing on your blog, writing in asunrise_music300[1] journal, or do you even consider writing to be an outlet at all?

I also consider music to be an outlet. It amazes me how much passion and meaning can be in just one simple song. I am sure what I take from any given song can be much different that it would anyone else and it might be a lot different than what the writer intended. I appreciate the creativity song writers hold and value what they are sharing with the world.

I am looking forward to reading what you consider an outlet to be and how it has helped you! I am so pleased to say that I do not have to work this weekend, which is allowing me to download (5)do things I really needed to do, like clean the house and rest. I know how crazy that just sounded, cleaning the house and resting seem like they are opposites, but for me being able to get the house nice and clean is a great feeling. Of course all the extra work did create a lot of pain for me, but now I am able to spend the remainder of the weekend resting and preparing myself for another LONG week at work and unfortunately I have to work next weekend!

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and feeling well! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Fight the battle & Win the war!

images (2)Living life with a chronic illness that brings on pain is not easy, but letting that pain win the battle should not ever be an option. Of course it is easier said than done, but isn’t it worth trying? There might be days that it hurts to even get out of bed, but just lying in the bed solves absolutely nothing because the pain will is still there later on.

There are things that can be done to fight against the pain we may feel. Now this is just howlove your life more than you hate your pain I think and what I have tried training my mind to think and believe. It is amazing what we can trick our minds into believing! The things that work for me might not work for anyone else, after all we are all different. Sometimes simply taking a nice hot bubble bath can make a HUGE difference! I think it is something about the calming feeling of the warmth that eases my aching body. Of course, my doctor has told me numerous times that hot water isn’t 579ef8182e48d1ac880303bd79cb9696good for me because it is not supposed to mesh well with Multiple Sclerosis, but it helps me. It is just like while at work my heating pad becomes my best friend!

For me, as crazy as this will sound, if I try to keep moving I feel that my pain actually lessens. It does not make a whole lot of sense to me because I would think when it pain resting would be way more beneficial. I often think when I stop doing something like cleaning, doing laundry or any other household chore, my pain settles in and I feel so much worse! 

I also find it helpful to keep my mind preoccupied, so I do not have time to even think about images (5)pain I am feeling. This could be reading a good book, writing either on my own blog or commenting on another’s, watching some mindless TV show (my favorite is General Hospital, which I know sounds insane) or even watching a good movie (my favorites are anything from the Fast & The Furious). Little things can create a distraction for the mind and possibly alleviate our pains, even if it is for a short time.

Anyone that lives with any type of chronic illness understands that it can and does create various challenges. I think it is extremely important to discover ways to deal with these challenges and never stop searching for new ways to manage difficult times. I know I have mentioned Web-Ad-3this before, but I strongly feel the only way to fail is to give up.

The promise I made to myself years ago when I was first diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis was to never allow the illness defeat me. With a much more mature mindset now, I still value what my younger mind thought during one of the hardest times in my life. Nineteen years later, I will still keep this promise to myself.

Do y’all have any special ways you deal with your pain issues? All of us that struggle with this can understand one another and offer very valuable advice to each other. It does make me sad that anyone has to deal with constant pain, but at the same time it makes us so much dont-give-up-galaxy-hold-on-hope-Favim.com-1428490stronger! WE can fight this battle together and WE can win the war together!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am sorry I missed my normal Motivational Monday quote, I was dealing with a massive migraine and wasn’t able to do it. I hope this will make up for that! Not only do I hope what I have shared beneficial for you, but also reassured you that you are not alone in the fight and we can win the war together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Coping with Chronic Pain

Sunday-QuoteCoping with chronic pain while still trying to maintain a normal life seems almost impossible at times and even a little frustrating! The beginning of this week was hard for me because I was on my feet way more than I could tolerate. I was truly thankful for the two days off I had, but work on Saturday was absolutely insane!

Currently I work at an apartment community in what should be a low stress position because I am just a leasing consultant. I arrived to work at 10:00 am and at 10:02 I had my first people arrive saying they were supposed to be moving in that day. There was no information anywhere on the other Restartleasing consultant’s desk and the manager keeps his office locked, which makes absolutely NO sense!!I ended up calling my co-worker on his day off, after all this was his lease and should have been handled on Friday. I was not at all surprised that he did not know which apartment the couple was moving into or what they owed. We tried contacting the property manager, who of course did not answer his phone or return the phone call. I ended up having to explain to the couple we would have to postpone their move in date until Monday because I was not able to get any of the information we needed. Thankfully, they did still have their other apartment, so they chaouswould not be forced to get a hotel room for the weekend.

The second person arrived at about 10:30 and this was my lease, so I knew what needed to be done. The gentleman just needed to view the three apartments I had available for his move in date. Consider his move in date was not right away, I was not allowed to hold a normal apartment for him. The three I was able to hold were slightly modified to accommodate a handicap individual, which he is not. Even though I disagreed with this situation, I did this at the direction of my manager! Thankfully he was satisfied with the first one because he wanted to be closer to the front of the community. This was the easiest situation I had to deal with all day!download (4)

Once I got back to the office, after showing the three apartments, there was another person waiting because she was also supposed to be moving in. With no surprise at all there was very limited information on my co-workers desk regarding the move-in, but at least I was able to find what the apartment number was and what the new resident owed. Unfortunately, the important things that were missing were the lease to be signed and keys to the apartment. My guess is the lease was in my manager’s LOCKED office and no one informed maintenance of the correct move-in day. I was able to work around the issues by giving the young lady the ONLY key we had and asking her to come into the office on Monday to sign her lease and get the real keys.

I do not handle things well when simple things do not go well. I remember asking my co-8767492ff9e8b5334f5408fde751e388-thankful-for-grateful-for-300x237worker early in the week to make sure ALL his move-ins were completed, which would have meant walking through the apartment to ensure there were NO issues, the lease was signed and apartment keys were waiting in the file. I gave him several days’ notice to handle things properly and in my opinion how he handled them were unacceptable. I blame him and the manager for how terrible things went yesterday, but I do plan to make some suggestions on Monday morning so this kind of thing NEVER happens again! I do not think this sets a horrible feel for someone moving in to a new apartment when nothing was handled in an appropriate manner!

The entire day was a total disaster and most of the issues could have and should have been images (1)avoided. Another HUGE issue I was dealing with was, phone call after phone call with residents complaining their air conditioner was not working. The maintenance person informed me that the new management company was not allowing them to buy Freon from the vendor they had been using for years, but did not have another vendor lined up. The residents are paying to live these apartment and therefore important things like a working air conditioner when the temperatures are in the high 90’s is a priority and should Work-Quotes-Jim-Collins-in-his-book-Good-To-Great-shares-that-we-need-to-get-the-right-peoplalso be a requirement!

By the end of my day on Saturday, I was not only over-heated, fatigued and in an insane amount of pain, but I was also extremely irritated. It is not fair to force someone to pay for an apartment and then not fix things that break! If I am not mistaken, it is in the lease agreement what each party is responsible for.

It is now Sunday and my last day of the my short weekend before going back to work five days in a row. Unfortunately, even though I am trying to rest, my pain is still rather high. It seems like things have just continued to add up for me and I almost feel like I am trying to walk uphill in quicksand! At this point all I can do is hope this upcoming week will go much better and things will start to ease up.download (4)

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I am sorry this was a bit of rant, but my goodness if only people could act right, I would not have to go on rants! I always appreciate you and your amazing comments! I hope you have had a lovely weekend and you are able to enjoy the last day of it. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Our Choices…..

download (6)The choices we make today, may impact us tomorrow, next week or even next year. We will never really know when or how the impact will occur, but it will. All of the choices we make will have either negative consequences or provide us with a reward of some kind.

 Maybe I am wrong, but I do believe when we face various situations there are two roads we can choose to travel down. I am not saying the two roads are crystal clear nor do they2 roads have sign indicating which road is the correct way to go. However, I think we all know the difference between right and wrong, but we are all human-beings that make mistakes and may not choose the wrong road the first time around.

After taking the wrong road numerous times throughout our life, this teaches us many valuable lessons we will cherish. If you are anything like me, you beat yourself up for days because you made an incorrect decision. It takes me much longer to forgive myself than it does for me to forgive someone else. Sometimes we might make the wrong choice images (2)several times, but the lessons learned from this will stick with us.

Have you ever tensed up and or panicked when asked a question about something you may have done wrong? This can pretty much be considered a “fight or flight” reaction and the end results more often than not, are not a good one. I do not believe anyone reacts well when they are badgered with the same damn thing for days or even weeks! I don’t know about you, but this type of situation makes me shut down completely. This often brings up SO many negative emotions and memories for me which I have tried so hard to forget themimages (5).

Life works in mysterious ways and there are so many struggles that come along during our lifetime and normally without any warning. No matter what trials and tribulations I may face, I still believe that everything happens for a reason. I know I will never understand why I am forced to deal with certain things, like living with MS, but what I can say is, as long as I am breathing I will never surrender or give up. I have always believed firmly that the only way we can fail is to give up and this is something I will always refuse to do!

ff309e10cdfddaaae004ed16f196e947.jpgI remember, when I was first diagnosed with MS at the young age of 19, I wondered what I did so wrong to deserve this as my punishment. Although as I have gotten older, I do not view living with MS as a punishment, but I see it as a way to prove my strength and determination to survive! I also view living with MS as a way to help others realize that life does go on, but some adjustments may need to be made. I strive to show others living with a chronic illness and even those not battling an illness, that there is still hope and how remaining positive will be a benefit!images (3)

Thank y’all so much for visiting my site today! I hope your weekend has been lovely and you were able to do things that made you happy. After the crazy week I had, I treated myself to a manicure and pedicure. I can say without a doubt that the pedicure helped the pain I was feeling in my feet and lower part of my legs. I think a pedicure a month should be required and even prescribed from my doctor! Even if it is short lived, it is amazing how much the foot massage helps my pain. I hope you are enjoying the final days of the weekend and you are prepared for the week ahead. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Chronically Hopeful Award!

ChronicallyHopefulAwardI was completely blown away that the lovely Heather and Dizzy at https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com thought to nominate me for such a beautiful award. I find both ❤ Heather and Dizzy to be so encouraging and battle MS with nothing but grace! Considering I have been adjusting to working full-time again, blogging has been a little difficult for me. I had actually told myself that I would not be able to do award posts until I had fully adjusted, but this one is very special and holds a place in my ❤heart because I think all of us living with a chronic illness need to hold on tight to hope! I mean, without hope, what do we really have? Thank you from the bottom of my ❤ heart Heather and Dizzy ❤ for this incredible nomination! I do encourage anyone that has not already visited Heather and Dizzy’s site to check it out https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com, I know you will love it as much as I do! And thank you Pamela ❤ for creating this amazing award for those that are able to have hope for the future!

The wonderful Chronically Hopeful Award has been created by Pamela, “to recognize the incredible people who blog about chronic illness, mental health and disability.”

THE RULES:

  1. Thank your nominator
  2. Recognize Pamela from There Is Always Hope as the creator of this award and link her URL – https://pamelajessen.com
  3. Use the Chronically Hopeful Award logo somewhere in your post
  4. Copy these rules onto your post
  5. Answer your nominator’s questions
  6. Write 5-10 of your own questions (they don’t need to be illness related)
  7. Nominate 5-10 other chronic illness, mental illness, or disability bloggers
  8. Comment on each of your nominees’ latest posts to tell them they have been nominated

Heather & Dizzy’s Questions and my answers:

 1, What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned from your illness?

 I think the biggest lesson I have learned since diagnosed with MS at age 19 is, life can be painfully difficult, but giving up should never be an option. We are meant to live the life we are living and must always fight with everything we have.

2. If you were a dinosaur, what dinosaur would you be and why? download (4)

This was actually a very difficult question to answer, but I think I would have to say a Pterodactyl because they can fly! I think it would be amazing to have the ability to fly away when you need time alone!

3. What is your most embarrassing moment? 

I know I have had many embarrassing moments, but I have done my best to forget them. One embarrassing moment I haven’t been able to forget is tripping while walking on rocks at the beach. It was a simple accident, but so many people watched it happen.

4. What is your favourite flower?download (3)

My absolute favorite flower is the Stargazer lily. I got married in early October when these flowers were not really in season, but I just had to have them. Thankfully, the florist was able to get them for me! It was probably the only thing that I just had to have for my wedding!

5. What makes you happy? 

There are several things that make me happy. First, my two adorable and very loving ❤ cats bring me so much joy. They can be little terrors at times, but they misbehave in the cutest ways possible! Being able to write also brings me so much joy.

 

❤❤My amazing nominees are: Now, my nominees are in no specific order and I also do not want to add any additional stress or pressure to your life, so please do not feel obligated to participate, I will understand if you choose not to. On the other hand, I do look forward to reading your answers to the questions I have come up with!

https://simplychronicallyill.com/

https://autoimmunewarrior.org/

https://mymsrollercoasterride.wordpress.com

https://fuckms.ca

https://bsingthroughms.home.blog/

https://invisiblyme.com/

https://brokenlifesite.wordpress.com

https://beckiesmentalmess.blog/

https://msichchronicles.blog/

❤My Questions For My Nominees Are:

1, What inspires you?

2. What brings you the most joy in life?

3. What do you struggle the most with?

4. If you could be an animal, what would you be and why?

5. What has been your greatest achievement in the past year?

Thank y’all for visiting my site today! I hope y’all are having a fabulous weekend and you are feeling well. Please, if you have not already visited Heather and Dizzy’s site, check them out if you have the time, I know you will never regret it! Never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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It wasn’t meant to be easy

life has a funny wayLife has a funny way of throwing random things in our direction when they are least expected and often VERY unwanted. It definitely isn’t easy, but these are the times we must pick ourselves up, dust off the difficulties and strive to carry on!

For the most part, I think that the troubles we get faced with happen to remind us just how strong we truly are. We all go along through the motions of any given day and never stop to give ourselves the much deserved credit for the accomplishments we have made. Our daily routines have become so embedded into our minds that we just naturally react to every situation in the best way possible. Sometimes things will work out right the first time around and other times we have to try again! The best way to handle these situations is, NEVER GIVE UP! As long as we choose to not give up and remain determined to succeed, we will never fail.download (3)

What happens when something occurs that was so unexpected; it throws major a wrench in our day to day activities? Of course the process we need to go through may be challenging to figure out, but our minds will lead us in the right direction, if we just listen to our own intuition.

Sometimes life becomes more like a movie that is just set to automatic repeat, or at least it is for me. Monday-Friday every day is the same, which is perfectly fine and preferred. What some might call boring and predictable, I call calm and drama-free! With all the insanity that goes on in this world, who really needs additional drama? I actually love coming images (14)home to be greeted by my ❤ husband and two adorable cats❤! We eat dinner while watching our favorite shows and then just spend good quality time together. I will read, write or crochet in the evenings, so it is very calm, happy, and peaceful!

When I stop to think about how precious life is and how quickly things can change, I am thankful for what I do have in my life. Sure maybe life may have been easier if I didn’t have MS, but I do and I choose to continue living! I try to NOT think about what could have happened or what should have happened because really, what is the point? 63449-Life-Has-Many-Ways-Of-Testing-A-Person-s-WillAnything that did happen did so for reasons I may never know and that is okay. Hell, if it was not MS it may have been something far worse.  

My heart breaks for the people out there that do not have the faintest idea of what actually makes them happy. It almost seems as though these people got lost somewhere along the way and never managed to find themselves. I cannot say they did not try, but I might say they gave up the search. I have known people that went through some pretty severe depression, but even in their darkest hours knew a couple images (15)things that did bring them joy. Of course, those joys did often get shadowed over by their negative thoughts and bad situations, but they were still able to recognize a few positive things in their life. Unfortunately, I have also learned that I do not have the power to turn someone’s mind around when it is clouded with depression. In times like these, there is only one person that can create happiness and that is themselves. For instances, my mother has been struggling lately and neither herDPere-vWAAAeBey husband nor myself can make her truly happy, she needs to do that on her own. I hate to put that so bluntly, but it is the truth and I do think that any legit therapist would agree with me on this for anyone.

The sad reality is life can be harsh and painful, but it is how we handle it that counts. Challenges happen to everyone, no matter how you are or where you live. Unlike so many other things in this world, hard times do not discriminate and will try destroying anyone images (16)and anything that stands in the way. The good news is, if you never surrender and continue fighting back, those hard times will move onto its next victim.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I do encourage you to take a moment to leave a comment because I love knowing what you think of what I share. I hope you are having a pleasant day and you are feeling the best you can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Things I never wanted to know!

images (12)Sadly, struggles with healthcare in the United States are not only terrifying but also incredibly real. I am not trying to be negative but healthcare in the United States is a massive joke that is NOT at all funny! Recently I found out just how much insurance was going to cost me through my company and it is outrageous. This has caused my husband and I to start looking into buying our own insurance. This also raised my curiosity into what is really going on with health care within the country I am living in.

In 2018, the costs of health care in the United States skyrocketed drastically!  In an familynursing2018-1468analysis from the US Federal government, it was found that Americans would spend $3.65 trillion for health care. With this appalling amount for health care, it represents each person would spend $11,212. Breaking it down even further, 59% of the spending is going to hospitals, doctor’s appointments and clinical services. Even prescription costs have increased 3.3% over the years.  In my personal opinion, this is ridiculous and only shows sheer greed. According to data from the Organization for Economic Co-Operation and Development, spending on health care in the United States is by far the higher that any other developed country.

The GDP (Gross Domestic Products) in the United States is larger than countries like health costBrazil, the UK, Mexico, Spain, and Canada. Reports from the Journal Health Affairs have estimated an average annual growth rate of 5.5% just from 2018 to 2027. Now if things continue as they have been, health care will be 19.4% of the country’s entire GDP! Unfortunately, according to the Federal Reserve Bank of Atlanta, wage growth remains below 4% and yet insurance prices will only increase! This is wrong on so many levels and yet there is no one trying to fix this issue! Actually, there are a few people fighting hard to correct the madness and they are Bernie Sanders and Elizabeth Warren in the senate and a several other progressives in the house. 

Even Private Health Insurance is only going up in price! Spending per person rose 4.5% between 2017 and 2018, even though the individual was already in the exact same insurance policy.

To say this is ludicrous is a HUGE understatement! Health insurance should not be a CR-Money-Inlinehero-short-term-health-care-expense-0918privilege, but it should be a right! It is despicable the way this is being handled among pharmaceutical companies and our own government. There are so many people graphoid080818including myself that need insurance or we will never be able to afford the medications that the doctor prescribes for valid reasons. Many of the medications we get at the pharmacy are required so our illness does not progress at a rapid rate.

I think it is obvious I think it is a disgrace that all the pharmaceutical and insurance companies care about it how much money they can make and not about the well-being of others. What ever happened to humanity or did it ever really exist? Once upon a time, the United States was at the top for education and health care and now it is only at 27th in the entire world. It is pathetic that doctors do not care as much as they did years ago for their patients, but download (3)now it is all about their paycheck! They get patient after patient, rush them without listening to anything their patient is saying, which is terrible!  I am pretty sure that doctors completely forgot what the Hippocratic Oath says and might need a refresher!

I apologize that this post may have seemed negative, but I am very frustrated with how awful health care is in the country I live in. I am not sure if I was just extremely naive before best-health-insurance-in-usa-1and things have always been the way they are now or if something just went very wrong in the thinking of Americans! I guess I may never know.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I hope your weekend has been great and you are enjoying every moment of it. Even though this was kind of a rant of my feelings, I would love to read your thoughts on this topic. I promise to respond as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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