Motivational Monday

Happy Monday y’all! I hope you had a nice and safe weekend, and you are ready for this new week to start. Unfortunately, whether we are ready or not this week is starting and we have to make the most of it. Truthfully, I am thankful the weekend is over because it was not an easy weekend. Our poor little boy, Sundance, was not feeling well again and I ended up taking him to the emergency vet. The doctor at the emergency vet said his breathing and other vitals were all good, but he does seem to have an irritated stomach. We were sent home with medication and I hope he will start feeling better soon, but I am going to be calling his normal doctor this morning.

Now that we are beginning this week, we need to try doing so with a positive and motivated mindset. My hope is the quote I am sharing with y’all today will provide this to you and help your week begin the best way you possibly can! I would love the chance to read your comments about this quote and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can! I like this quote for many reasons, but one reason is we should all understand the only thing we can change is the ways we react and deal with situations, and we cannot change how others do the same. Once we change things inside us, everything around us will change in a positive way!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this quote and it offered you the motivation needed to begin this new week. I hope you have a great day and your week only improves with each day that goes on. I also wanted to say that I will be working on a post this week for a Blogger Recognition Award given by Caz at https://mentalhealth360.uk/. I do promise to do this during this week, Caz, and thank you again for this, you are a pretty amazing person and I am thankful to call you a friend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Stress Awareness Month

Since 1992, April has been used to increase awareness regarding the causes and remedies to handle stress. Often stress makes you feel like you are drowning in quicksand and every time you try to break free from the stress, it swallows you up again. Until we can address our stress complications and establish better ways to handle the stress, it will continue to be a vicious and never-ending cycle.

Stress does not discriminate and creates so many further problems. With everything going on around the world, the level of stress is increasing at a rapid speed. Over the past five years, American’s who ensure moderate stress reported an increase of 44%. Since the pandemic began more than a year ago, stress has increased by 55%. These numbers are staggering, and we need to work together to find a way to reduce stress, especially for things we have no control over.

What Is Stress?

Stress for some people is not as simple as a slight predicament but it is a daily debilitating battle that is extremely consuming. Stress is something that affects everyone in different ways. It depends heavily on the situational factors involved. Stress is a broad topic, but it can be further explained in the following five categories.

1, Acute Time-Limited Stressors refers to situations such as public speaking or mental arithmetic.

2. Brief Naturalistic Stressors may be real, short-term challenges such as an exam or interviews.

3. Stressful Events Sequences are stresses that take place and continue to give way to stress in the future. This might revolve around a specific event, such as the loss of a relationship or a natural disaster.

4. Chronic Stressors result from ongoing and everyday situations affecting or having the chance to influence an individual’s body, mind, family, or community.

5. Distant Stressors refer to traumatic experiences that occurred in the past but still have the potential to continue effecting the immune system function due to the long-lasting cognitive and emotional repercussions. A few examples include child abuse, combat trauma, witnessing a brutal crime, or an accident.

Stress is a struggle to deal with and can also be extremely dangerous. There are numerous effects stress creates and each should not be ignored but handled promptly. The following are a few of the effects of stress:

Cognitive/memory problems include poor judgment, inability to concentrate, brain fog, indecisiveness, start numerous tasks and not achieve much, and self-doubt.

Emotional troubles include moodiness, irritability, panic, fatalistic, cynicism, anxiety, frustration, and the feeling of being overwhelmed. Chronic stress wears you down emotionally, which is what leads to an increased risk of depression.

Physical issues include fast heartbeat, aches and pains, reoccurring colds, skin conditions, indigestion, and high blood pressure. Also, may have intensified headaches and tension. Long-term stress weakens your immune system defenses, leaving you vulnerable to illness, infections, viruses, etc. And escalated risks of a heart attack due to increased heart rate and high blood pressure which is damaging the arteries. The muscles that assist with breathing can tense when stressed, which may lead to shortness of breath,

Behavioral issues include isolating yourself, sleeping too much or too little, feeling unmotivated, and a loss of sense of humor. Stress can make it challenging to fall asleep and stay asleep leading to insomnia.

Stress awareness is only in April, but so many people, including myself, live with stress issues all year. Instead of only paying attention and raising awareness to stress in April, maybe we should try to focus on a few ways to observe stress year-round. The following three ideas might help us all!

1. Utilize meditation practices. To manage stress effectively, we sometimes must silence our minds. I find this exceedingly difficult because my mind is always going in a million different directions. Meditation is a very well-known and common way to achieve this goal. One of our fellow bloggers, Bella at https://thoughtsnlifeblog.com/ has shared some fabulous information regarding easy ways to meditate. If you have not already visited her site, you should check her out and you will find great information. She is also very understanding and helpful and responds quickly to messages!

2. Develop an exercise regimen. I will be the first to admit that I do not do much exercise. Honestly, the only exercise I get is walking up and down the stairs multiple times a day. As you already know, I work from home and the home office is set up in the finished part of the basement. This might not be considered exercise, but right now it is all I do. This in no way shape or form means you need to join a gym, but this only needs to be a short or long walk outside enjoying the fresh air or other simple exercises that do not put too much harsh impact on your legs or back.

3. Schedule an appointment with your doctor. Try to not wait until your stress gets too out of control and dominants your life before getting the needed help. Your doctor should have the most knowledge and advice to help you discover a stress-free lifestyle. One simple phone call to schedule an appointment is the first step!

4 Most Know Stress Facts

1. The National Institute of Mental Health has suggested that at times stress can be beneficial. Stress can motivate people to be more prepared. It is a catch 22 because of the pros and cons there are with stress.

2. Stress can literally make you sick. Those that susceptible to chronic stress are also prone to a variety of ailments, such as headaches, insomnia, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

3. The American Psychological Association discovered the five most common sources of stress are money, work, family, economic outlook, and relationships.

4. WalletHub shared a report regarding stress. These findings indicated the three most stressed-out states in America are Louisiana, New Mexico, and West Virginia. The three states in America with the least amount of stress are Minnesota, North Dakota, and Utah.

Unfortunately, we all face different types of stress during our life, and we do not always have control over certain types of stress. However, we can learn how to conquer the circumstances we cannot change. While dealing with times like this, the Federal Occupational Health suggests changing your technique to the situations. You can try this simply by the following:

1. Acknowledge when you do not have control and let it go

2. Avoid becoming anxious regarding things you are unable to change

3. Focus on something that keeps you calm and maintain control of how you react

Managing stress can be challenging considering sometimes it seems like an endless battle. I can and will fully admit that I do not always deal with stress in the best and most effective way, but over the years I have become somewhat better and partially because I know the massive issues stress and Multiple Sclerosis cause. I found some useful ideas the CDC offered to assist with dealing with stress.

1. Take care of yourself by eating healthy, exercising regularly, get adequate sleep, and give yourself a break when you feel stressed.

2. Discuss your problems with someone you can trust, such as a parent, friend, or someone else you feel comfortable confiding in.

3. Avoid drugs and alcohol

4. Recognize when you need help and when you need to talk to a psychologist, social worker, or counselor.

Thank you for reading this post I hope the information in this post was helpful for you and will help you find ways to a stress-free life! We have all heard that stress is a silent killer, so it is crucial for anyone that has massive amount of stress to find ways to get it under better control. If you have any other advice for those battling stress, please let us know! I promise to respond to all comments as fast as I possibly can.

I think it is important to have an outlet in life, which is one reason I love to write. I hope you have a great day and please continue to stay safe because COVID is still a problem. Of course, many people have received the vaccine, but know there are other variants to COVID that keep popping up! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Curiosity Is Exciting

~Ways Curiosity Can Enhance Our Well-Being~

How many times have you heard the saying “Curiosity killed the Cat?” Of course, the levels of uncertainty can be high, but we should hold onto the thoughts of scrutinizing. This is something that could hold many benefits and gratifications. Our curiosity may include an opportunity to reveal great new information, but also taking a journey into the obscure territory. The unknown can create a momentarily feeling of apprehension and discomfort, but the risks may be outweighed by the benefits. Giving in to your curiosity could help you gain a chance to expand your horizons and the fulfillment that comes along with personal growth. Challenging yourself to search for new experiences and different outlooks provides deeper insights about yourself and the world.

What exactly does “curiosity” mean? Curiosity means having a strong desire to know or learn something new. Entering the area of curious exploration shows the desire to learn and you are choosing to accept the challenge, instead of accepting the current situation as the end all be all.

What makes a highly curious person different from someone who is not very curious? Those who are extremely curious tend to:

1. Search and track down new and unknown experiences.

2. Question the views of others, oneself, ad the world with an unavoidable unbendable knowledge and/or awareness.

3. Behave more receptive to circumstances offering growth, competence, and stimulation.

A curious min can offer numerous benefits and promotes a sense of well-being. Curiosity positively relates to gaining satisfaction in life and the true meaning of life. Activities that require carrying out curious behavior can increase the amount of satisfaction you gain from life. Curiosity can ignite creativity, which may invigorate deeper exploration and combined other ideas with the creative-thinking process.

We have all been told that negativity and positivity can be contagious, but curiosity can also be contagious. Many will end up being curious regarding the answers to questions asked, especially when there is evidence that others are interested as well.

Curiosity can be profoundly important in developing social connections, empathy, and understanding. The vastly contrast views, experiences, and values of others offer unfamiliar areas to investigate, which may lead to immense benefits.

Nourishing an understanding and recognizing other cultures, customs, values, and ideas is a type of “social curiosity”. Empathetic curiosity is being curious about the thoughts and feelings of others, as well as the reasoning behind these thoughts and feelings. This curiosity regarding others’ experiences and being intrigued by others without any judgments.

Of course, empathetic curiosity requires us to ignore any need for being familiar and admit our opinions, and beliefs are not the only ones that matter. When we have an opportunity to become enlightened by the experiences of someone else and can respect the difference in views and ways of doing things are not any less important than anyone else’s. Everyone’s views are meaningful and deserve to be respected.

The feelings of enjoyment and pleasure are typically related to doing things that are known and comfortable. However, curiosity forces us to search for things that are new and/or unknown. This does not need to be a huge change but can be something as simple as trying new food, book, or even taking the time to talk with a colleague you have not spoken to before. This new food, book, or the new colleague you spoke with may provoke even more curiosity and delight in your life.

I am going to share a few ways to help trigger your curiosity.

1. Walk away from the TV and read instead. This is something that sets extraordinarily successful people apart from others. 85% of those that are successful read 2 or more self-improvement books per month.

2. Utilize social media platforms and podcasts for greater benefits. Fill what you are listening to with inspirational and life-giving materials. Things that provide you with life and reminds you that your possibilities are endless.

3. Engage with people that have different viewpoints than your own. Be open-minded with the views others have and remain honest, and respectful with your own thoughts/views. Collaborative thinking is an astonishing way to gain deeper insight and learn new ideas.

4. Take some time to make a list of activities that offer opportunities for you to learn and grow. Search for these and then reflect on the benefits each offer and what you will gain from these new experiences.

5. Examine your perspective in specific situations, and then ask yourself why you think or react in a certain way to some situations.

6. Always ask questions and pay close attention to the answers. Avoid passing judgment and try being curious about others’ experiences and their unique viewpoints.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and it offered you some exciting new experiences. I would love to read your thoughts on this and if you have any other advice for ways to break into curiosity. Our curious thoughts can help us to encounter exhilarating adventures!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a great week and you are continuing to stay safe. Unfortunately, even though many have received the COVID vaccine, many others are still waiting, and the virus continues to spread! I do believe we are continuously dealing with difficult times, but we need to find ways to remain optimistic. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday

~It Is Finally Friday Eve~

How has your week been so far? My week has been an emotional roller-coaster. I told you earlier in the week that our older cat, Chloe, had been diagnosed with early-stage kidney failure a few years ago and seemed to not be doing so well in the past few days. Initially, her doctor’s appointment was scheduled for today, but on Tuesday night I noticed what looked to be blood in the litter box, so I called the vet frantic and requested her an earlier appointment. My husband and I took her to the vet yesterday morning to have her checked out. They drew blood, sent the blood for testing, and gave her fluids, and sent her home with us. I am supposed to hear from the doctor today before noon and if I do not, believe me, I will call them! The one thing the doctor said is that Chloe is getting older and with her kidney failure, she might also have a thyroid issue, which is treatable. Waiting for answers is torture, but hopefully, we will not get awful news.

Considering, this week has been difficult for me at least, I think we could use a little pick me up to get us through one final day before the weekend begins! I am hopeful that the quote I am sharing with y’all today, will provide you with the energy and optimism to get you through to the weekend. We all go through challenging and even tragic times in our lives, but I have confidence that we can make it through just about anything. I do believe that the combination of love and peace provides us with strength.

None of you are going to be surprised, but I do not have any plans for the weekend. Do any of you have anything planned? Whatever you decide to do this weekend, please make sure you stay as safe as you possibly can! I am looking forward to a quiet and peaceful weekend giving me the time to give Chloe LOTS of love. I will also plan on trying to help my mother through the difficult news she received on Wednesday. Once we got home from Chloe’s appointment, my mother called to tell me her mother’s doctor gave her a month to live. I feel for my mother, but her mother (yes, my grandmother) and I are not and have never been close.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the quote I shared and I look forward to reading your comments. I do promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!!

Always, Alyssa

A Little Off-Script

I might be a few days late for my normal “Let It Go” Friday quote, but I think I am going to go a little off-script today. There are things we can and should let go of, especially when it is from the craziness of the week, but there are also somethings that are not that easy to just simply “let go” of. The few issues I have tried, but failed to find a way to let go of are the hundreds and thousands of death from COVID-19, discrimination, violence, and hatred, the lies heard from those we “should” be able to trust, and the healthcare or lack thereof in the United States.

I am having a hard time not letting ALL the deaths due to COVID-19 bother me. I guess I can’t understand why we are all still in the same or even the worst situation since we were at the beginning of the year. This isn’t a political thing, this is a life and death situation and having the good common sense to do what is necessary. Wearing a mask isn’t fun and even feels a little suffocating, but it can be life-saving. Or even just social distancing should not be that difficult, but some seem to think it is. It is way past time to follow the advice from the experts. So, please when you leave the safety of your house, wear a mask and social distance!

I will also never understand why there is SO much hatred in this world which is spreading faster than a wildfire. Discrimination is nothing new, as it has been going on for decades now. The color of another person’s skin, who they love, where they are from or anything else should not matter! Forgive me for saying this, but I do think the amount of hatred escalated much more over the past four years. I mean, we have heard the president of the United States call COVID-19 the Chinese virus. We have also heard this same person talk negatively about people from other countries and of other nationalities, which is very wrong, but that is only my opinion.

There has been a widespread amount of violence over the past few years as well and honestly, it goes back even further than this. Again, this only my opinion and it is okay if you disagree with me, but violence does not do anything productive and only creates more problems. I wish that there would come a day where we can all get along and join together for the good of humanity. I guess maybe I am just naïve, but there is no reason why everyone can’t unite and help one another during troubling times.

The United States is one of the richest countries in the world, but yet the healthcare is a complete disgrace. The United States is the only developed country that does not offer the citizens free healthcare and instead allows the insurance companies to charge an insane amount of money, and that money still does not cover the policy holder’s entire amount. For those of us that have several medications we need to take daily, the pharmaceutical companies charge a ridiculous amount for each prescription. If it was not for the Gilenya Go Program, my medication for one month would cost more than my car and I don’t mean just one car payment, I mean the full amount of the car, which I would never be able to afford it. The Gilenya for only one month costs over $8,000, which is ridiculous! Unfortunately, without the Gilenya, I am afraid my condition would deteriorate rapidly.

After reading all of this, can any of you suggest a way to let go of these things?  I have tried, but I am not able to. I am also one of those people, as y’all probably already know, who wears my heart on my sleeve. My heart breaks for what so many people have gone through and I wish there was something I could do to help, but I am only one person.

Thank you for reading this post, which is a little more of a rant of my feelings and nowhere near the positive way I am normally. Change is something that is necessary and I have no idea how to implement the changes that are required.I do hope you had a nice and relaxing weekend! I am looking forward to reading your comments and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Thankfully, my husband and I do not have two- legged children that we have to worry about going to school; our four- legged children never leave the house and are always safe! I am a chronic worrier and I do not think I could handle having any more people to worry about. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday!

Stay True To Yourself & Stay Positive!

Happy Monday y’all! I am sorry I am a little behind today. I have been fighting a nasty and evil migraine since yesterday. It is a little better this morning, but I am still struggling some with a mild headache and other not so mild pain. Next Monday will be my first day at my new work from home job! I am a mixture of excited and nervous, but I am sure everything will be fine!

How was your weekend? Did you do anything fun? I hope whatever you did you stayed safe and enjoyed every moment! On Saturday, I spent the entire day either cleaning or organizing. I have two boxes of stuff I am going to be donating to those in need! It is my belief that when there are things like clothing and household items that are going unused, it would be much more useful to donate to another person that is in need.

I know I am a few hours behind with sharing my normal Motivational Monday quote, but I hope this quote provides you with the motivation needed to start the week with a positive mindset! Of course, I would love to read your thoughts on it and will respond as quickly as I can.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I do always appreciate your continued support and enjoy reading your comments and the posts you share on your blog! Remember, the virus has not gone anywhere yet and is actually becoming more dangerous because too many people are acting carelessly, so it is crucial to follow all safety protocols! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Avoiding Drama

Ways to Avoid Drama

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I personally do not enjoy drama at all! The only drama that is welcomed in my life is from General Hospital, the only soap opera I watch and have watched for many years. I think any other drama is exhausting and completely unnecessary. Many people seem to live and breathe for drama and find life boring when there isn’t any drama in their daily life. I see drama as a useless and immature way to cope with life. Drama only increases the difficult and challenging times and in the end simply isn’t worth it.

With all the other unavoidable hard times we will encounter in life, we all must have a positive and clear mental state of mind. To have a life as stress-free and peaceful as possible, eliminating drama from our lives may be very beneficial, it just involves learning and implementing a few essential skills, which I will share with y’all!

1. Evaluate your circle regularly-

It is obvious, that the people we communicate with and are around most have the greatest impact and influence on our lives and views. It is undeniable the surrounding ourselves with people that enjoy drama and bring a massive amount of it into our lives is unhealthy for our mental state of mind.

It might not be easy to remove people from our lives, especially if they are family, but we can limit our contact with them until they make necessary changes in their life.

When evaluating those we spend the most time with it is important to take our time. There are questions we must ask ourselves, such as are these people positive? Do they cause us to feel good or drained? Do these people bring good or bad in our lives? If we continue answering these questions honestly, we will know what will be best for our happiness in life.

2. Practice the Gray Rock Method-

The gray rock method is a practice used to remove the fascination and entertainment form a narcissist’s life. This is a method used to make someone lose interest in us. You aren’t feeding their desire for drama or attention and they no longer have interest in you.

This method can also work with people who have a lot of drama in their lives, who unintentionally spread it by constantly insisting on the need for emotional support, but never do anything to correct their situation.

The sad truth is, these people typically offer and give next to nothing, but demand our full attention and support. They will make everyone else’s life and problems seem uninteresting and boring and draw all attention back to what they are dealing with, which is probably self-inflicted.

One simple way to handle these individuals is to give evasive answers, never give your opinions, avoid subjects with deep emotions involves, and no matter what they say or do, show no visible emotional reactions. It is also best to not share any personal information that they could use as an angle to work you into drama.

3. Only give advice when asked-

The advice topic can be a touchy situation. No one wants to be told what to do and advice is often unwelcomed unless it was asked for.

If you are the type of person that wants to help others get their lives together, unfortunately, this can be a double-edged sword because even though you only want to help, you can end up trapped in their cycle of drama.

One option for those that simply want to help others is to never advise unless that person asks for it. There are times when we might not fully understand if advice is being requested or they are just wanting to vent, so do not be afraid to ask this person. To avoid being sucked into their drama, make a rule for yourself to only give advice once and only once!

4. Utilize tactful honesty-

People who enjoy drama hate hearing the truth because it clearly diminishes their dramatic situation. It is best to do this tactfully because many people do not listen to things when they are said brutally.

To give tactful honesty, you must remain calm, cool, and collected no matter how much the other person tries to get you to argue. An argument, because you were honest, can be avoided by just not engaging with them. You can also give another tactful response by saying, “You asked for my advice and this was only my opinion.”

“I hate drama”-

People who enjoy drama will show it almost immediately. If someone says to you “I hate drama” or “I do not get along with this person”. Pay close attention before getting too close to them. Both of these phrases show this person has had constant issues with other people before. Many times this person is unaware of their problems with their interactions.

It is common these people continue making bad decisions and surround themselves with toxic people, but you will have the choice to not get too involved.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information provided was beneficial for you and you will be able to distance yourself from any unwanted drama. I would love to read your thoughts on this delicate topic and how you handle it when anyone attempts to bring drama into your life. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday eve y’all! I hope you are having a great week and you are staying safe. We have almost made it through another week and are heading towards another weekend. Unfortunately, not only has the virus calmed down, but the world is going through many other challenges. It may get difficult to find the positive in a nation full of so many awful issues going on. Honestly, everything we see going on breaks my heart, but all we can do is treat others with kindness, respect, compassion, and empathy.

As we are going to be starting the weekend soon, we must all continue to follow safety protocols. This means to always wear a mask when you go out of your home, wear gloves or at least do not touch your face until you have washed your hands. practice both social distancing and common sense, and wash your hands numerous times a day. It does not matter that the president of the United States refuses to wear a mask, do what is best for you and your family and wear one!

With all that said, we do need a little “pick-me-up” to help us get through one last day! Even though I do strongly believe we need extra motivating during these hard times, I am going to continue sticky to my normal routine by doing Motivational Monday, Pick-Me-Up-Thursday, and Let It Go Friday. If you tell me that you would like additional positive quotes, I will make sure to do so! Until then, I do hope the quote I am sharing today will serve you with the pick me up needed and do look forward to reading your thoughts on it!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today. I hope you have a lovely day and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday!

Happy Monday y’all! I hope you had a lovely and safe weekend and you are ready to start a new week! I honestly did not to much over the weekend besides clean and organize my house. I did do a little writing and reading, but nothing outside the house. I still do not think things are safe with the virus because I am only seeing numbers increase drastically where I live. I do the best I can to stay home and if I need to leave the house I wear my mask and disinfect everything that comes into our house!

As we begin this new week, I think we could use a little motivation to start the week off with a positive mind! I hope the quote I am sharing will provide you with the motivation needed to start the week and I hope your week only gets better as the days pass by! I would really love to read your thoughts on this quote as well and promise to respond as quickly as I can!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have an excellent start to the week and you are feeling the best you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday!

Happy Friday eve y’all! I hope you had a good week and you are feeling the best you possibly can! Now that we have made it through another week are you ready for a fantastic weekend? No matter what you have planned for the weekend, please remember to stay safe.

I do believe we all continue to need a little pick-me-up because things are still a little unsettling with respect to COVID-19. . I hope the quote that I found to share with y’all will serve as a nice Pick Me Up! Of course, one reason I loved this quote was because of the butterfly, but the words are also very meaningful! I look forward to reading your comments and promise to respond as quickly as I can!

I hope you have a fabulous day and it is as stress-free as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa