Feelings that have built up

Beware in advance, I want y’all to know this post is the most personal I have written and extremely emotional. It is also rather long, but not as long as at least one another post.

Everyone’s life unfolds in unique and often challenging ways. No matter how things appear on the outside, no one has the “picture perfect” life. Our lives are full of happy times and hard times, which might not be equal. When someone experiences something that is painfully difficult and they somehow overcome those times, others may not know how in the world they overcame such tragic times and they never ask. How many times have we been asked in life if there was anything we would change? I can recall countless times, but my answer will never change. Anything that occurred in life that was hard, I feel that I am strong because of the hardest times in life and therefore would not change anything at all.

How would you respond if I were to ask you, what would you change in your life if you could? Sure, there are probably hard times you might wish you did not encounter. If those hard times never happened, would you still be the person you are today? Maybe you would, but maybe you wouldn’t. I say this because things I went through in life, I don’t know if I would be who I am if those things didn’t happen.

2020 has been a difficult year so far and we do not know when or if things will improve. I want to believe that what the United States has witnessed will open everyone’s eyes to the state of our nation. We have NOT had ANY leadership over the past three and a half years. We have watched what feels like the fall of a country that was supposed to be “strong”, “fair”, and “equal”. The entire world was exposed to COVID-19 and most other countries acted in a way that protected the citizens when the United States acted late which caused hundreds of thousands of people to unnecessary lose their lives. There is no way to know if the government had acted sooner, those lives lost could have been saved, and sadly that is what these individual’s families must live with.

Unfortunately, there are still way too many people that believe the lies the president says and tweets. These are the same people that follow their “leaders” example and fail to wear masks when out in public and seem to not understand what is meant by social distancing. I guess it makes sense because we all saw the president and the crowd on the 4th of July close together possibly spreading the virus to one another and yet somehow magically neither the president nor vice president seems to get the virus. Y’all already know that I am terrified of the virus and I do have a weakened immune system because of the medication I take for Multiple Sclerosis.

I will say that finally, several states have made masks when out in public mandatory. Those that fail to comply with wearing masks will be fined. I hardly leave the house these days but did go to the pharmacy on Friday. They had in huge sign in bold letters saying that all customers entering the store must wear a mask or they will be asked to leave immediately.

It has also been made painfully clear that the United States has enormous problems with racial injustice and police killing unarmed black people. I am not naïve enough or blind to the fact that not all American’s are treated equally and it makes me feel shame for the country.

All my life I have always treated everyone the same and never judged anyone based on anything besides the way they treated others. I appreciate the beauty in the differences others show and find those distinctions fascinating. I think if we were all exactly the same, this world would be rather boring and we would miss out on some incredible opportunities.

We are already more than halfway through 2020. The news has put a lot of focus onto either COVID-19, politics, police brutality or the latest with the Epstein insanity. For starters, the United States knew about COVID-19 on January 20, 2020, but did not act on it until March. That left about a month and a half for the virus to spread throughout the country. How many months did the president say this highly contagious and deadly virus was a hoax or not that serious? The answer is just simply way too many and it should have been taken seriously starting back in January.

I am sure my feelings are pretty clear throughout this entire post. I am ashamed of how the country I was born and raised in has behaved for the past three and a half years and honestly probably many more. It will not come as a shock to anyone, but I am not and never have been a fan of Donald Trump. I think the way he blames everyone else for what has gone wrong in the world, how he disrespects everyone that disagrees with him and the media for doing their job, the revolting names he calls others, the way he refers to other countries “shit holes”, the way he has absolutely has no respect for the country he represents or the people living there, and so much more than just repulsive. This man cares so much about his pole numbers that rapidly dwindling and of course, he is blaming the democrats, when truthfully it is his own fault.

I think y’all know I always try my best to be optimistic and believe that positive thoughts will lead to a positive outcome. I also know how incredibly negative this post might seem, but these feelings have built up for a while now. I want to apologize if anything I have written was offensive to you and hope you know that was never my intent. I am a very sensitive person so hearing about the countless people that are dying daily because of COVID-19 breaks my heart and tend to have me in tears. Of course, I do not know any of the people that lost their lives to this virus, but they meant something to someone else.

I also have never been a political person and found most if not all politicians to be dishonest. Trump and Pence have proven my views of dishonest politicians. It is hard for me to understand how anyone could know about how many people have died because of a virus and how it would not affect them. It will never make sense to me how anyone that represents a country and not care about the people. How they sleep soundly at night is a mystery to me.

Since the news first broke about Jeffrey Epstein in 2005 it has made me sick. I then read a book by one of my favorite authors, James Patterson wrote about Epstein which made my feelings even more intense. After Epstein was arrested I thought that justice had been made for his victims.

Of course, he ended up committing suicide while in prison which could be viewed as a good thing, but it was an easy and selfish way out for him and his victims did not get to testify and feel the closure they may have needed. The latest with the Epstein situation was his long-term confidant and associate a female was arrested. This woman helped find Epstein young girls to become another victim and she also participated. Any woman that is capable of doing this kind of harm to a young and innocent girl is vile and appalling and should feel shame for the ways they ruined the child’s youth.

I do realize this might have not been the most positive thing I have written, but this is how I feel. Again, I am sorry if I have offended anyone reading this and hope I did not discourage you from reading future things I write.

This post was very personal and full of raw emotions. I do appreciate you taking the time to read and I encourage you to leave a comment, which I will respond to as quickly as I can.

Y’all know I am starting my new full-time, work from home job tomorrow and I plan to continue blogging as much as I can. No matter how busy I get I will continue doing Motivational Monday, Pick Me Up Thursday and Let It Go Friday! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

9 Types of Intelligence

The Nine Types of Intelligence, which are you?

In 1983, a psychologist by the name Howard Gardner published the book Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences, where he explained his theory that intelligence is not limited to only one factor. Gardner suggests that people are very capable of having different forms of intelligence.

Through the years we have all known people that were exceptionally good in specific subjects, but do poorly in others. Chances are we have experienced this many times during our lifetime. This is a prime example of why schools are not able to determine how intelligent a student is accurate.

The truth is, we are all intelligent in various ways and we may not even be aware of all of them. Gardner’s 9 types of allow us to determine what our strengths and weaknesses are. This will also allow us to focus on specific areas we would like to improve ourselves in.

The 9 Types of Intelligence are as followed:

Interpersonal Intelligence-

Those with this type of intelligence can walk into a room and work the room casually and effortlessly. This happens because these people can relate well with any and everyone. This type of person is often well-liked and can influence others with very little effort. These individuals can read others easily and pick up on the slightest social cues and sense the way others are feeling. Social cues may be body language, facial expressions, and changes in the person’s voice. They have the power to be very diplomatic and tactful but are also commonly the peacemaker in any group they are around.

Considering they have a habitual amount of charm and a natural way to negotiate to mean they could excel in a leadership role being a teacher, lawyer, politician, or social media influencer.

Intrapersonal Intelligence-

People that display intrapersonal intelligence have a unique ability to comprehend their own emotions, which causes them to be empathetic towards others. These people are extremely accustomed to both their thoughts and behavioral patterns. When they see someone else with behaviors similar to their own, they can empathize, see deeper than others, and understand where the actions stemmed from because they have experienced similar issues. Those with intrapersonal intelligence are caring and nurturing, and are frequently the ones that do working allowing them to help others. These people tend to be introverts and shy, but also very aware and creative. People that have intrapersonal intelligence are often writers, artists, and musicians because they connect with features of themselves many are not aware of.

Spatial Intelligence-

Individuals that have spatial intelligence find it easy to visualize things in three dimensions. They are typically extremely creative, have a keen imagination, and can contemplate all aspects of a particular concept by simply pondering about it. Spatial intelligence primarily uses the function of the right side of the brain when solving puzzles, understanding maps, and taking part in any kind of construction or engineering projects. They also love to draw and possibly as the years moved on in life, they developed a fondness for reading mystery books and tried solving the mystery before they reached the end of the book.

Naturalist Intelligence-

Those with naturalist intelligence have consideration to and appreciation for nature. They focus on the way people relate to their natural surroundings. Their admiration for nature provides them with a unique capability to grow plants, vegetables, and fruits. They also have special rapport and fondness for animals and can do well with training and understanding them. People with this type of intelligence can easily differentiate patterns in nature. They tend to have awareness and are fascinated by weather phenomena. These individuals excel with uncovering the wonders nature offers us all. Those with naturalist intelligence love to walk, hike, climb, camp, and feel the sand on their bare toes, and anything else they can do out in nature.

Musical Intelligence-

People with musical intelligence can recognize pitch, rhythm, quality, and tone. This type of intelligence provides unique abilities to recognize, create, reproduce, and reflect on the music that was demonstrated by composers, conductors, musicians, and vocalists. There are common connections between musical intelligence and emotions. There are also common ways of thinking between mathematical and musical intelligence. I find it interesting and amazing that some prodigies can play any song by ear and then others that may be synesthesia and appreciate the way different notes make them see/feel color and taste certain flavors.

Logical/Mathematical Intelligence-

This type of intelligence is something that no matter how hard I tried, I never developed. Logical/Mathematical Intelligence is a style that concerns the ability to reason, solve problems, and learn to use numbers, abstract visual information, and analyze the cause and effect of relationships. People with this type of intelligence can do complex math problems in their heads, where many others with the same math problem would not be able to finish even hours later. While people with this type of intelligence expertise in highly advanced reasoning, they normally are not very emotional and prefer for things to be logical and rational.

Existential Intelligence-

Individuals with existential intelligence can utilize collective values and intuition to understand others and the world are around them. They prefer to pursue deeper questions regarding human existence, such as the meaning of life, why we did and where we go when we die, and how did we get here and why are we here. These people could not care less about the latest celebrity gossip, fashion, or sports because they find those topics superficial. People with this type of intelligence are often viewed as intense, but they truly can be sensitive, consideration with an infinite amount of compassion and empathy.

Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence-

It is commonly assumed that people with bodily/kinesthetic intelligence have remarkable athletic abilities, but this is not always the case. This type of intelligence has more to do with hand-eye coordination and being able to utilize various other physical skills than it does strength and endurance. To have a high score with this type of intelligence one needs to have very fine motor control and a good sense of timing. This person’s mind-body connection is highly receptive, which provides them with quick reaction time and the ability to multitask successfully. Those with bodily/kinesthetic intelligence might be dancers, martial arts professionals, fine artists, neurosurgeons, or classical musicians.

Linguistic Intelligence-

The people in this world that have linguistic intelligence can use words very well in both speaking and writing. They tend to have a sizeable vocabulary, they enjoy reading in various literature categories, and they value others that can express themselves meaningfully. These individuals may also have a strong inclination with other languages, typically speaking two or three in addition to their native tongue. Those scoring high in linguistic enjoy and excel in all word games, such as scrabble, word puzzles, and crossword puzzles.

After reading about the different types of intelligence, which of these do you feel you have? I do find it remarkable that there are so many different types of intelligence and yet so many that have a difficult time using just one type of intelligence. I guess it is possible there are some people that have intelligence in several types, but also do not have the common sense that is needed.

I look at the state of our world and wonder why there are so many that not only don’t take the virus seriously, but also gamble with their lives by not wearing a mask. The proof is out there with how much COVID-19 numbers are increasing throughout every state in the United States. Deciding to believe a president over experts in infectious disease indicates a severe lack of intelligence. I am definitely not a genius, but I do take this virus very serious and follow all the safety protocols that have been given.

Thank you for stopping by my site today and reading about the different types of intelligence. I am looking forward to reading your thoughts and what type of intelligence you connected most with. I hope your holiday weekend is starting off well; you are feeling the best you possibly can, and staying safe! I hope you never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve!

How has your week been? With Friday just around the corner and it being a long weekend, do you have any plans? I think many places have cancelled the fireworks for the Forth of July this year because of the virus, which is a really for the best. I am sure there are still some places that aren’t taking the virus as serious as they should and there will be many people out wanting to do something fun, but I am perfectly happy staying home with my husband and two loving cats. I plan to prepare myself for my new job that I start Monday!

Now that we have almost made it through the week and need just a little encouragement and a pick me up to get through another day! I hope you will find the quote I am sharing will offer you the Pick Me Up needed! Personally, I found the quote inspiring and uplifting, but would love to know what you think!

I hope the last part of your week goes well and you are feeling well. Please whatever you have planned for the weekend, stay as safe as you possibly can. I know all wearing a mask everywhere you go and not being able to do the normal things you would do over a long weekend isn’t great, but it is the state we are all in at the moment. I hope someday soon the virus will be under control, but until that day we have to practice all the safety protocols necessary!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Coping with COVID-19 Stress

Learning to cope with the stress of a pandemic

For the first time in 40 years, on June 11, 2009, the World Health Organization declared the start of a flu pandemic. The CDC estimated that between 151,700 and 575,400 people died worldwide from the 2009 H1N1 virus infection during the first year of circulation. This virus was detected first in the United States in April 2009 before quickly spreading throughout the rest of the world.

On March 11, 2020, the World Health Organization declared another pandemic with it being called Coronavirus or COVID-19. Even though COVID-19 was thought to be serious enough for the World Health Organization to declare a pandemic, there were still some leaders that did not heed the warnings and take proper actions.

The same leader or leaders that did not take COVID-19 seriously, spent months saying it was nothing more than a hoax and then claiming it was not even as serious as the normal flu. I find the ignorance and shame it takes to call this deadly virus the Chinese virus simply because it began in China absolutely ridiculous. I mean, no one ever referred to H1N1 as the American virus because it began in the United States, so what gives anyone the right to call COVID-19 the Chinese virus or any other demeaning name they think of?

There is one leader in particular that continues to blame everyone else for the virus but fails to blame the person he sees in the mirror every day for the 129,545 American’s that died because of this virus. Worldwide there have been more than 511,000 people who lost their lives due to COVID-19. We will never know now if only action was taken sooner not as many people would have had to die.

There is no denying the fact that being faced with a pandemic, which has already taken the lives of many, is stressful. Most of us have been overwhelmed with distress and anxiety due to this virus. Although actions such as social distancing are imperative for safety reasons, it can cause additional stress and anxiety from being isolated and lonely.

As we continue undergoing the pandemic of an infectious disease outbreak, there are several other issues that we may experience, including but not limited to the following:

– Fear for your health and the health of your loved ones

– Worry for your financial situation and or job security

– Changes in your sleep and or eating patterns

– Troubles sleeping and or concentrating

– Decline in chronic health problems

– Intensifying issues of mental health issues

– Increased use of tobacco and or alcohol and other substances

Everyone responds to stressful situations differently. Even though we dealt with the H1N1 pandemic back in 2009, I do not remember being as concerned and terrified as I have been with COVID-19. The crazy thing is during 2009, I worked for a hospital system with the Employee Health Department. I had constant interaction with people that tested positive for the flu, but never really worried. Of course, I wore a mask and washed my hands multiple times a day and thankfully never got the flu.

I do realize I am not the only one that remains worried about COVID-10, but I can also understand there is no amount of worrying that will make this situation any easier. Granted even if we lived next door to each other, chances are we wouldn’t be able to see one another and would only be able to offer support virtually. We can do this now and help each other to lessen the massive burdens of stress we are all enduring.

I am going to share a few ideas I discovered that will hopefully help reduce the stress we have all been trying our best to manage.

1. Limit Media Time-

Most people have already proven the ability to practice social distancing to prevent the spreading of COVID-19. With already understanding the importance of social distancing for the good of our health, we should be able to understand why distancing ourselves from the media would be in the best interest of our mental well-being. It seems like the media has 24/7 COVID coverage, which can be beneficial in small doses but can also be very negative causing additional anxiety for those who already had concerns. If you are anything like me (I am so sorry for you), you are already feeling extreme anxiousness. When we are becoming more anxious, we should consider taking a break from all news outlets and the view the news only twice a day at most!

2. Stop Engaging with worry-

Regardless if you are worried about yourself or a loved one contracting the virus or being out of work, the more you focus your attention on the worst-case scenarios, the more anxious and stressed you will feel. Of course, we are not able to stop thoughts from entering our minds, but we can choose to not dwell on those thoughts and instead decide to take action towards solving the problems at hand. I think we are all logical enough to understand the enormous differences between worrying and solving the problems we face. Our mind will often try to bait us into worrying, so we need to avoid taking that bait. Our feelings of anxiety will try baiting us with the many “what if” questions that we need to try avoiding answering because it only leads us down dark and endless roads. During times like these, we need to focus our attention elsewhere and on the more positive aspects. I do know during these stressful times, finding the silver lining might be challenging, but it is there.

3. Do not react to physical symptoms-

Just because you or someone around you coughs does not mean it is because of COVID-19. People have allergies, bronchitis, post-nasal drip, or a common cold and these issues are the much more likely explanation. We all know the seasons can cause numerous issues, so it is best to not assume COVID-19 every time you so much as hear a cough, but being aware of your surroundings and following safety protocols should always be followed. For your mental health and well-being, do not continuously scan your body searching for COVID-19 symptoms. The only things this behavior will do is cause unnecessary worry and intensify our already high anxiety levels.

4. Focus on productivity and newer ways of enjoyment-

Unfortunately, we do not have any control over the crisis the world is experiencing currently and the only thing we can control is our response. How many times in the past were you overloaded with work and maintaining your home, but discovered something new you wanted to try? With how much our everyday lives have changed and we are now living our “new normal”, we might finally through no fault of our own have time for new adventures. We can learn a new skill or fine-tune something we used to do back before life got crazy with work and family. Now is the time to put our attention on creating and accomplishing, instead of the virus and or our employment status.

5. Seize the moment in stress-reducing activities-

There are numerous different things we can try that could help reduce the vast amount of stress we might be experiencing during these trying times. As few ideas may include focusing on the things we are grateful for, exercising our bodies, guided meditation, and yoga are things that may help us relax our minds. Anything we may want to learn can easily be found on YouTube; there are many simple videos to follow along with on just about anything we can think of. Just think, once we are finally past this crisis we will not only have learned something new, but also appreciate all the simple things in life we may have taken for granted before such as dinner out at our favorite restaurant, a night out at the movies, and even something as simple as a haircut.

6. Follow CDC guidelines, but do not go overboard-

Wash your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds or sing happy birthday or twinkle, twinkle little star, whichever you prefer. This does not mean washing your hands until they are red and dry. In the event soap and water isn’t available, you can use hand sanitizer containing at least 60% alcohol. Always avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth with unwashed hands. Maintain at least 6 feet between yourself and others outside your home. Wear face covering when around others out in the public. Despite what some might say, it is not necessary to remove all your clothing before entering your home.

7. Maintain a sense of normalcy-

During these crazy times, it may be challenging to continue your day as you normally would with some modifications, so this could require adding a little creativity. Before the pandemic, you may have gone to the gym for your workout, but now you have to work out in your home. Instead of dinner out with friends, maybe you have dinner or drinks by a video platform. Continuing life with a structure to our day and any type of an appearance of normalcy will help reduce any additional anxieties.

8. Show kindness for yourself and others-

During a time of national crisis, it is normal to feel anxious and worried. Remember while you are having these feelings, people you know are probably having the same feelings. Reaching out to family, friends, and neighbors who have been isolated, the same as all the rest of us may need a little boost in their spirits. Sometimes a simple phone call will not only heighten our spirits but also improve the person on the other end of the phone mood as well. If you are currently unemployed because of the pandemic, your new job is to have faith that this storm in life will pass and something new will come along and everything will work out for the best!

I meant to have this post out yesterday, but obviously wasn’t able to. For some unknown reason I had a lack in motivation and also continued getting distracted with many other things. I guess maybe it was the mixture of emotions I am feeling for starting my new job Monday. I am not overly nervous or excited; it is pretty much a good balance between the two. I have been out of work for many months now and honestly I have not ever worked from home on a permanent basis. I know I will be able to handle the work from home status well because I have always been extremely organized and disciplined. I did work in the same industry my work from home job is for several years prior to my husband and I relocated and did very well with it. If I am not mistaken the work I am going to be doing is almost exactly the same, but I have heard from a reliable resource that my new company is far more organized than the company I worked for previously.

Thank you for stopping by my site today and I do hope this information was helpful for you! I did only list 8 possible stress relieving ideas, but I do know there are many more and you probably already have some. I do hope you will share your thoughts on this important topic because it will help anyone that reads this. I hope your week is going well, you are feeling the best you possibly can, and you are continuing to remain safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What makes you unique?

10 things that make us unique!

On multiple different occasions I have said the area I live in is overcrowded and everywhere I go has too much congestion. If I view things in a much broader picture, there are close to 69,000 people in the city I live in, but close to 8 million in the entire world. Of course, I think more than 50 people is a large crowd, so there other number are just ludacris.

Even though I prefer to not be around massive groups, especially right now with COVID-19 in the forefront of my mind, I do find the uniqueness of each interesting. Could you imagine what life would be like if we were all the same? I think things would be very boring and monotonous.

Each person is comprised of personality, experiences endured in life, knowledge we have gained, and emotions felt. Every individual has their viewpoints of the world and outlooks, mainly powered by their life experiences. All of our qualities that make each of us unique and fascinating can be sharpened and enhanced on, allowing for growth as we continue our lives adventures.

The following ten characteristic are what make us our own unique and captivating self. We should always hold our heads held high and be proud of our uniqueness and the amazing people we have become today.

1. Our Personality-

Each of our personalities is something that begins to be shape starting from the time we are born and has continued to the present day. All of our positive and negative experiences, each achievement and defeat, every occurrence of strength and weakness, all the knowledge and wisdom we have gained are what is guiding how we can progress through our life.

The level of knowledge, experiences, and comprehension one individual has are what makes them who they are and no other will be the same as that person. Just as no one will respond the same to life experiences, no one will make the same choices in life as another would.

2. Our Attitudes-

Our attitude determines how we view life and those we are surrounded by. Both positive and negative attitudes can be very contagious, which means the way we are feeling has the potential to influence how other feel. The truth is those with a positive attitude will tend to steer away from others that have a negative attitude. Our attitude is something that is created from our emotional outlooks. Unless we make proactive changes for something better and more favorable for a happier present and future, our attitude will not change for the better.

3. Our Experiences-

There is no doubt that our past and future experiences play a vital role with shaping the unique individuals we are. All of our experiences in life help dictate the way we interact with others. Many times people that have had negative experiences might become uneasy and even defensive when in situations that are similar to times before when they had been hurt. Of course, some negative experiences offer the wisdom needed to make better decisions in the future which could lead to a successful search for a brighter and positive future.

4. Our Habits-

Habits are our routine behaviors that are repeated regularly and often occur subconsciously. Our habits will notify and regulate the aspects each unique person will develop. Bad habits could be biting you nails, drinking too much alcohol, overeating, or smoking. Good habits may include eating a healthy diet, maintaining an exercise regimen, practicing gratitude, and managing money sensibly. When we start forming habits such as meditation, exercising, or trying new things they can help to improve our mental health and well-being.

5. Our Creativity-

There are many different forms of creativity, which makes it very interesting. Creativity can extend to a wide range of arts that can lead the creative part of the brain anywhere from drawing and painting to cooking to dancing and singing to playing an instrument. Every person has their own specific and unique talents and creative gifts that have been inspired by their vision of beauty.

6. Our Perspective-

There is no other person that has lived in our shoes every minute of every day at any time. No other person has had the same experiences we have during life and never will. No one else has the same knowledge as another person. Each individuals perspectives are simply uniquely only their own. It is always crucial to stay open to others thoughts, opinions, and suggestions. This doesn’t mean we must accept these as right or wrong, but continue to evolve on our unique perception of the world.

7. Our Tastes-

We can always discover common ground with others on quality or beauty, but our tastes are unique with our personality. Each person’s taste can impact the choices they make throughout their life. These choices may be in the foods they eat or the people they form relationships with. An excellent way for a person to broaden their horizons, learn new things, and continue evolving is to consider different tastes, in all forms around the world. By keeping an open mind and having the willingness to include the tastes of others, it can initiate some extraordinary new things in life.

8. Our Goals-

Each individual’s goals will typically regulate how their time, energy, and efforts are spent. Our short, medium, and long-term goals supply us with both direction and motivation to keep us on the right path. No matter what an individual’s goals they are working towards are, anyone can get more out of their life and grown further as a person!

9. Our Hobbies-

A common icebreaker when we meet someone for the first time is, “What do you like doing?” Granted, our hobbies do not define who we are as a person, but the things we enjoy doing and spend the most time on can enlighten others to the kind of person we are. This all says something about us as unique human beings, the values we hold, and how we find happiness and meaning in life.

10. Our Passions-

Passions are what stir the deepest emotions in an individual to act on something bigger than themselves, despite their mental and emotional state of mind. Being aware of our passions can assist us in finding an undeviating, clear path that is directed by our values and unique perceptions of the world. Each individual has something unique and valuable that they offer the world.

During or lifetime we are going to encounter others from all walks of life. Some of the people we meet will be the polar opposite of who we are and others we will be able to find similarities and common ground with. However, no matter what we discover our similarities to be, there will never be another as unique as all of us are!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found this information interesting and you enjoyed reading this. I hope you are having a great weekend and you are feeling well and of course, staying safe! I look forward to reading any thoughts you have on this post and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

What does our world need most??

12 Things Our World Needs Now!

Even though we may be oceans or miles apart, we are all still living under the same bright and beautiful sky. Unfortunately, the world we live in has been anything but peaceful for far too long. Countless numbers of people have been and continue to encounter uncertainty, increased stress, and escalated pain, an absence of hope, and inequality. Currently, our world is suffering and to have successful change we need to be united. No matter where you live, our goals are the same.

The things the world is in dire need of can be accomplished if everyone works together in unity. The great things that may happen will take time, patience, and resilience.

The following are what is urgently required for the good of this world:

1. Action-

There are numerous challenges we are facing and these challenges are not going to resolve on their own. People are constantly complaining about everything that isn’t right, but none of that is doing anything beneficial.

We need REAL action on poverty, climate changes, the mental health crisis, COVID-19, racial inequality, reckless and carelessness with the government, and much more. Without people, communities, politicians, and all nations taking action by joining together, the change that is required won’t ever take place.

2. Unity-

The challenges that have spread throughout the entire world will not be able to correct themselves unless we all JOIN TOGETHER! We do not need to live in the same state or even the same country, but we can help one another in achieving a common goal, PEACE & EQUALITY! Each and every one of us is alike concerning having a heart full of love, kindness, and acceptance. We are also uniquely different with adding our support for the greater good of the world.

3. Tolerance-

There is more division between people both within the same country and others. If we are going to successfully join together we will need to learn how to be tolerant to those we disagree with. There must be less of the terminology of us and them and more we and us. Tolerance means we need to put unnecessary loyalties aside and only have loyalty for human lives.

4. Acceptance-

Of course, we do not have to agree with everyone else all of the time. The opinion of others should be accepted with just as much validity as our own. Beneath the difference of opinions and disagreements, there is another human being that deserves respect and kindness.

5. Understanding-

As human beings, we are all a convoluted mixture of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It is common for those same humans to do things that gets on our nerves and even upsets us, but we need to try understanding the reason they may have done what they did. Unfortunately, many people go through struggles daily, but normally we are unaware of this. Especially with all that is happening in the world today it is important to try offering our understanding to others because chances are we are also experiencing our own challenging times.

6. Compassion-

There are going to be time we may see someone that is enduring a struggle. Although we might not be aware of the cause for their struggles, it is important to show our sincere, genuine, and wholehearted concerns for them. We have all heard this many times before, but a little compassion indeed goes a long way! It is amazing how helpful it can be when we offer someone who is going through struggles a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen and some comforting warm and supportive words.

7. Forgiveness-

Anyone can do things that they will regret later and whatever was done could hurt another. Honestly, forgiveness is not the easiest thing to do, especially in this day and age. When we forgive it doesn’t mean what was done is forgotten or that we are excusing someone else’s actions because that just isn’t true. When we decide to forgive someone, we are moving on and we are not harboring negative feelings towards that person.

Forgiveness is something necessary between the different cultures, nations, and generations. There is already too much anger, disagreements, and resentment that has been widespread, but this is the time the world and everyone in it needs forgiveness that spreads far and to all!

8. Kindness-

Countless people are suffering and daily more are faced with various misfortunes. Kindness is something that will surpass all faiths, ages, backgrounds, languages, and even reach beyond vast distances. It does not matter how big or small, all acts of kindness can make the world a better place in limitless ways. Bottom line is, the entire world is in an extreme need for a lot more kindness!

9. Trust-

Whether this is true or false, many people believe that everyone is out for themselves with little to no thoughts for anyone else. They also view others as being not trustworthy. Trust is the foundation in all human relationships and without it things can and will rapidly fall apart. We should be able to feel confident and comfortable putting our trust in those that are in our lives, but if we are not able to do this we might need to reevaluate who we are allowing into our lives. Trust takes time to earn and it can be lost quickly. Sadly, once trust has been lost it can take a very long time to earn back and even then can be challenging.

10. Hope-

Unfortunately, during recent times hope has gotten lost for many people. Although most people desire for things to be better, they have also lost the ability to have true hope that anything will get better than they are currently. Hope is what can invigorate the action necessary to resolve the many problems we are dealing with today. We need people to demonstrate the meaning and benefits of the power of hope through their actions. Once more people believe again and have the hope that tomorrow will bring better times; it will spread throughout our world!

11. Wisdom-

It does seem that most people have a smartphone, tablet, or they have both and have the answers needed at our fingertips anywhere we go. The thing is the knowledge we think we are gaining doesn’t necessarily translate to wisdom. What some are not aware of is there is a significant difference between wisdom and knowledge, which is mainly the quality.

12. Contentment-

While it is great many people want to continue to endeavor with achieving more, it also can turn toxic if it isn’t regulated. This does not mean regulated by stronger powers, it means to regulated the constant wanting more. Instead of always wanting more, there needs to be a time when we can look at all we do have in the present and be thankful for it. Many still don’t understand that more doesn’t mean better and need to realize what it means to simply be at peace with the life we have and all we have in our lives.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what was written in this post was beneficial for you and also provides thoughts of pride because you are a kind and loving person. We are all going through many hard times, which can cause stress and frustration. These are things I can completely understand and sincerely wish there was something I could do to give assurance to everyone. When life gets challenging people will either jump into help or run away from the sadness. I wish there was a warm and sunny place we could all hide from what is going on, but regrettably there isn’t. The best way we can cope is to be supportive and understanding, but also feel like you have someone who understands and will offer support!

I know it is only Tuesday, but I hope your week going well and you are feeling the best you possibly can. I know I just wrote a lot, but I do want to know what you think. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday Eve!

I hope y’all are having a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend ahead of us! Y’all probably already know that I have absolutely no plans and really like it that way. Considering things with COVID-19 are not safe yet, I think it is just best to stay home and as far away from others as possible. I am not sure about where you live, but where I live the numbers are on a steady increase daily. In the event I need to go to the grocery store, I will wear my mask and practice social distancing. It sounds crazy, but it surprises me how many people do not practice or respect social distancing. I am thinking about wearing a sign saying “STAY BACK 6 FEET OR I WILL SPRAY YOU WITH MY PEPPER SPRAY!” I wonder how many people would be offended by this and think I am threatening them. I do not really want to find out!

Y’all know I think we need positive quotes to help get us through the weeks, which is one reason I always provide a PICK-ME-UP THURSDAY quote! I hope you will find the quote I am sharing today uplifting and help get you through one more day to the week! Of course, I found this meaningful and very true. I would love to read your thoughts on it though and promise to respond to all comments within 24 hours!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today. I hope y’all have a great day and you are continuing to stay as safe as you possibly can. I know how uncomfortable wearing a mask is when at the grocery store, but a little discomfort for a short amount of time is worth not getting ill with COVID-19 especially when this virus can be fatal. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Time for HUGE changes!

Just say “NO” to racism

I am writing this with tears of sadness in my eyes and anger for the inappropriate ways some individuals have and continue being mistreated around the world. More than anything I wish I could say that racism was unheard of and wasn’t something anyone had to encounter, but unfortunately I can’t. I highly doubt anyone will ever be able to explain to me how or why in a country CLAIMING to be FREE everyone isn’t treated equally. Why does the color of an individual’s skin determine the way they are treated and viewed in our society? No one ever will be able to do this because it is completely and totally ABSURD and WRONG!

The entire world has been amid to two pandemics, but only one is discussed openly. No one can deny the COVID-19 pandemic that has been going on for several months, but what about the racism pandemic that has plagued the lives of many for centuries?

I am starting with the most recent examples, but there are so many others I will also discuss throughout this post. Police brutality has existed long before the two recent situations of police killing innocent unarmed black people. Do you truly know what police brutality means? It means using excessive and or unnecessary force by personnel affiliated with law enforcement duties when dealing with suspects and civilians.

It wasn’t but 18 days before the four police officers in Minneapolis, MN killed an unarmed innocent black man, enraging people around the country, did another police officer in Atlanta, GA kill another unarmed innocent black man. After the riots that went on for weeks, I would have thought the police force would not continue following these unacceptable behaviors and treatment of black individuals. Maybe I was just fooling myself because I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I guess it is just me being naïve and wanting to see the good in people, but also thinking police officers want to serve and protect civilians. The unfortunate and clear truth about most police officers is, they are just uneducated, arrogant, and angry bullies with a shiny gun and badge that don’t think laws apply to them and they can get away with murder. This is something that should have already ended, but needs to come to an end immediately!

There are countless numbers of innocent black individuals who were killed by a police officer over the years. Considering there are so many, I am only going to discuss eight of these innocent people that lost their lives too soon and for no valid reason.

Going back six years on July 9, 2014, an unarmed black man whose name was Charles K. Goodridge in Houston, TX was shot and killed by an off-duty officer. This off-duty officer was working as a security guard at the apartment complex Goodridge had previously lived at. Goodridge had been evicted from this complex, which the police officer/security guard was aware of. So when he saw Goodridge in a common area he went back to his apartment to retrieve his gun and handcuffs. The police officer/security guard proceeded to hunt for Goodridge ready to arrest him for trespassing, but Goodridge resisted and tried to run away but was unfortunately shot in the process. Goodridge was left untreated or even offered first aid as he lay there on the ground bleeding from the two bullet wounds that penetrated his abdomen. At one point he tried lifting his head, but the officer using his foot pushed his head back down onto the pavement. After not getting medical attention on the scene and the hour wait to arrive at the hospital, he was pronounced dead at the hospital.

It was only 8 days later on July 17, 2014, when another unarmed black man was brutalized by a police officer. Eric Garner in Staton Island, NY was accused by a police officer of selling single cigarettes without tax stamps. Garner simply denied what he was accused of and told the officer he was tired of the constant harassment. The officer did not take kindly to this and began attempting to arrest Garner. Once the officer placed his hands on Garner, he pulled his arms away. At this time the officer thought it was necessary to put his arm around Garner’s neck and continued wrestling him to the ground. Multiple other officers joined in to assist with restraining Garner, while he reiterated three words, “I can’t breathe” 11 times as he laid face down on the sidewalk. Even after Garner lost consciousness the officers kept him in a chokehold and only turned him onto his side. While they waited 7 minutes for the ambulance to arrive, not one of the officers attempted to provide first aid to Garner. One hour later, Garner was sadly pronounced dead at a local hospital, which could have been avoided if only they tried to help him when he stated he couldn’t breathe.

Less than one month later in Ferguson, MI, an unarmed 18-year-old black man, Michael Brown Jr. was shot and killed by another police officer. Brown was walking down the street with a friend, both boys were unarmed and not causing any problems. Of course, the officer-involved stated he was acting in self-defense by choosing to fire his weapon several times. Brown’s friend that was there when his friend was killed has explained they were walking away from the officer after they were told to get off the streets, which they had explained they were a few moments from their destination. Brown’s friend said the officer came back towards them in his patrol car and after a few words tried pulling Brown into the car. Brown freed himself from the officer and started running away, when the officer exited his car, shooting his gun multiple times, which ended another innocent black man’s life.

On November 22, 2014, in Cleveland, OH a 12-year-old child, Tamir Rice was shot and killed by a police officer. Rice, being a young boy was outside playing and holding his toy gun acting like he was shooting it. The officers that first saw Rice were responding to a 911 call about a man flaunting a gun at a nearby park. Moments after the two responding officers saw the boy and say they didn’t know he was a child, but thought he was the man that was called into 911, one of the officers didn’t waste any time and fired two shots, one of which killed this little boy. Most young boys play with toy guns and aren’t aware of how some may view this as a threat. In my eyes, this was a heinous act that could have and should have been avoided. Sadly, Tamir Rice’s parents lost their child, and the officer that fired the fatal shot was not charged with criminal charges as he should have been.

On the morning of April 4, 2015, in North Charleston, SC, another unarmed black man was shot and killed by a police officer. Walter L. Scott was on his way to an auto parts store when he was pulled over for a non-functioning brake light. After the officer involved had finished talking with Scott and was going back to his patrol car, Scott exited the vehicle and started running away. It was at this time the officer began his chase on foot. Scott and the officer became involved in a physical altercation when the officer managed to fire his Taser, which did hit Scott, but he continued to try running away again. A few moments later the officer drew his handgun, firing eight rounds at Scott from behind. Scott was struck 5 times, 3 in his back, once in the upper buttocks, and once in the ear. This sounds like a perfect example of excessive force to me, what do you think?

Another incident that occurred recently was shortly before midnight on March 13, 2020, in Louisville, KY. Police claiming they knocked several times and announced themselves as they entered the apartment of a young black woman, Breonna Taylor to serve a “no-knock” search warrant regarding a tip they received regarding drug activity. When the police busted down the door, Taylor’s boyfriend thought the apartment had been broken into and went for his licensed firearm. Her boyfriend feared for both of their lives and was acting in self-defense when he fired the first shot that hit one of the officers involved in the leg. The officers then responded with their open fire of more than 20 rounds, which hit objects throughout the entire apartment, including Taylor at least 8 times. Taylor was sadly pronounced dead at the scene. Neighbors of Taylor spoke out saying they never heard the officers knock or announce themselves and they were also in fear. In this situation, not only did the officers NOT announce who they were, but they also killed another innocent black person and their reason for the search had no validity because there were no drugs found in the apartment.

I want to thank y’all for visiting my site today. I am sure it is obvious how upset I am about this entire situation. I spent most of my life blind to these issues of police brutality and now want to do more or at least something to end this! I am very aware the people I mentioned in this post are only a few and there are many others that experienced police brutality and sadly lost their lives.There comes a time when change is a necessary thing and it takes many people demanding these changes for something to actually get done. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Struggles With Dizzy Spells

My Struggles with Dizzy Spells

Unfortunately, dizziness is a very common issue for those of us living with Multiple Sclerosis. Of course, this doesn’t make the experience any easier and might even just knowing it is common, make matters worse. It could cause anyone to think it will happen often and or it will never end, but it does end in time. Dizziness rarely continues without an end in MS patients.

Dizziness is a condition known also as vertigo. This issue may cause a person to feel off-balanced, lightheaded, or have a sensation either they or their surroundings are spinning. Even though dizziness and vertigo are often thought to be the same and discussed together, they are both very unpleasant, but also different.

Allow me to describe what dizziness and vertigo mean. Dizziness is used to explain a variety of sensations, such as feeling faint, woozy, weak, or unsteady. This can give a false sense you or your surroundings are spinning, which is called vertigo. Vertigo is not necessarily a condition, but it is rather a symptom. Vertigo may not be noticeable, but can also be severe enough to make it difficult to maintain balance, creating a higher fall potential.

Of course, vertigo is common with multiple sclerosis, which is the reason I am so familiar with this symptom, but it also impacts almost 40% of adults in the United States at least once during their lifetime. In general, this is more common in older individuals, but people of any age can be affected.

There are two main types of vertigo, peripheral vertigo which has other types as well, and central vertigo. Peripheral Vertigo is the result of an issue with the inner ear, which is what controls our balance. The first type of peripheral vertigo is known as Benign Paroxysmal positional vertigo (BPPV). This form is the most common, typically causing short, frequent spells of vertigo. It is believed that small pieces of the anatomical debris break off from the inner ear canal and prompts small hairs lining the inner ear. This process confuses the brain causing the dizziness sensation.

Another type of peripheral vertigo is called Labyrinthitis, which causes dizziness or a sensation of moving when you are perfectly still. An inner ear infection is the common cause of this type of vertigo. There are often other symptoms the will follow the infection, including fever and earache. The infection is in a structure in the inner ear that controls both balance and hearing known as the labyrinth. The infection may be caused by a viral illness such as a cold, flu, or a bacterial ear infection.

Vestibular neuronitis is a type of vertigo that is also known as Vestibular Neuritis. There is an unexpected onset of vertigo that may cause unsteadiness, earache, nausea, and or vomiting. This is normally the result of an infection that spread to the vestibular nerves, which controls our balance. A viral infection, such as a cold or flu will commonly follow.

Meniere’s disease produces unforeseen vertigo that may last up to 24-hours. Vertigo experienced is most often severe causing nausea and vomiting. Meniere’s disease may also cause hearing loss, ringing in the ears, and feeling of fullness n the ears.

Central Vertigo is a clinical condition causing an individual to experience hallucinations involving motion. These hallucinations may be in their surroundings or a feeling of spinning while remaining completely still, this is a result of a dysfunction of the vestibular structures in the central nervous system (CNS).

Vertigo that arises from Central Vertigo is common because of a disease that begins in the central nervous system. Lesions on cranial nerve VIII are common as well.

Vertigo symptoms may be different from person to person. Depending on what is causing the sue, symptoms can range from mild to severe and anything in between. The symptoms of peripheral vertigo and central vertigo have distinct differences which are as follows:

Peripheral Vertigo has signs and symptom that consist of:

*Dizziness

*Feeling you are moving or spinning

*Problems focusing eyes

*Hearing loss in one ear

*Balance troubles

*Ringing in ears

*Sweating

*Nausea or vomiting

Central Vertigo signs and symptoms may consist of:

*Double vision

*Complications swallowing

*Facial paralysis

*Eye movement issues

*Slurred speech

*Weakness in limbs

When you go to your doctor with issues of dizziness, the doctor should do the following ask questions regarding the symptoms and current medications. He should also complete physical exams which include viewing the way you walk and maintain balance and how major nerves of the central nervous system work

Other tests the doctor may order are: eye movement tests, head movement tests, posturography, rotary chair test, and blood work to check for infections.

If you start experiencing dizziness it is best to consult with your physician to find the cause and determine the best treatment plan. Issues with dizziness are not usually life threatening, but it is still best to have a treatment that will best help deal with these issues.

This past Wednesday, I started having massive dizzy spells early in the day. Considering I have dealt with these multiple times during my MS lifetime, I thought it would be best to rest and let it subside on its own. Unfortunately, later in the evening it only got worse causing me to fall twice. I was not injured from these falls thankfully, but it was still alarming. I still was having dizzy spells into Thursday, but they were nowhere near as awful. I am happy to say that today I have been dizzy spell free for almost two days and hope it will stay that way. The only thing I can think is that the heat and humidly is what caused my two days of dizziness. It isn’t even officially summer time, but the southern heat is already pretty bad.

Thank y’all for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a nice, relaxing and safe weekend so far. It leaves me speechless how many people are not taking COVID-19 seriously because where I live the cases are increasing in triple digits now. Of course, I do what I can to stay safe by leaving the house only when necessary and when I do I wear a mask! I would love to read any comments you may have about dizzy spells and if you experience them how you try to manage them. I promise to respond to all comments within 24 hours and hopefully sooner than that! Please know that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

happy Friday!

I hope y’all had a great week and you are feeling the absolute best you possibly can! It seems like it has been a rather long week and hopefully y’all have something fun, but safe planned for the weekend. My husband works the weekend, so my plans are non-existent but I am totally fine with that. I do feel like the virus is a lot more dangerous now, than it was when it first arrived. People, at least where I live are not taking it at all serious and the number of new cases are only continuing to increase drastically. I am going grocery shopping early this morning because it is a time when the store is the least crowded. Please whatever you do over the weekend, practice social distancing and all other safety measures.

Y’all already know that I think Friday is the perfect day to Let Go of anything that occurred during the week that might not have gone well or left negative feelings behind. It is never in your best interest to carry negativity into the weekend that is supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable. With so much negativity that is pumping through our days, it is crucial to find what brings us the most happiness. Just as negativity is contagious, happiness can be contagious as well. I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today will add a little help for you to let go of pains from the week and find your happiness!

Thank y’all for visiting my site today! I hope the last day of your week goes well and any plans you have for the weekend you will remember to follow all safety measures to keep you and your family safe. Like I said in the beginning, the virus isn’t going anywhere and is a lot more dangerous today than even yesterday. I know I say this multiple times a week, but I just want everyone to remain safe!

I hope y’all already know how much I appreciate your daily and continued support. I enjoy everything about blogging and hope y’all are enjoying what I share. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa