The Daith Piercing

Happy halfway through the week😊! How has your week been going? I do hope your week is going well! Yesterday was my first day back at work after being off for just two days. It was insanely busy and playing catch up was slightly miserable. I am thankful that I did have someone covering my orders while I was out, but for some reason, no one took care of my follow-ups, and some things were missed. I am hoping that today will be a little less crazy!

On Monday afternoon, I finally got my daith piercing! I was so excited and a little nervous because I had been told this piercing was very painful. Of course, pain is something I can tolerate and deal with daily anyways. To be completely honest, with this piercing there was a lot more pressure than pain. I am glad that my husband was with me because after the piercing I was a little lightheaded and I am not sure if it was caused by the adrenaline or because I had not eaten much earlier in the day. I am glad I got this done and I love the jewelry I went with because I think it is very pretty. It has my favorite colors, purple and teal😊! After I have had this for a while, I will let y’all know if it helps with all the headaches I endure!

It is not proven, but many people have said that the daith piercing can help with headaches/migraines. This piercing can be done on one or both ears, but if you are like me and deal with headaches/migraines a lot, advocates suggest getting this piercing on the side where your headaches are most frequent. Of course, there is no scientific proof this helps, but I was willing to try and hope for the best. I do like the way they look and like I said, I love the jewelry I found because it is beautiful!

I had planned to get the daith and the helix piercing on the same day, but the place I went to said they would only do one because I needed to have a side of my head to sleep on. Truthfully, I think I would have been fine, and I would have been able to still sleep. The good thing is, this left me something else to look forward to😊! When I go back in a few months to do the helix, I plan to have the jewelry be like what I have in the daith, but maybe have a little more teal in it. I got the daith in my right ear, so I plan to get helix in the left ear! I know it sounds strange to be so excited about something that I know will cause pain, but I do not think it is too much to handle😊!

Do you have any piercings or tattoos? I always wanted to get a tattoo of a butterfly on my wrist, but never have because of how permanent they are. Please do not think I am talking down about tattoos because I do think they can be really pretty, I just have never dared to do one and also I cannot think of anything I would want forever! After my grandfather had passed away, I wanted to do a butterfly with his name under it, but then I would feel I had to get another one for each person I care about that passed away and I do not think that would be a good plan, at least for me. I think both tattoos and piercings is an art and it only matters what you like best because it is your body!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I look forward to reading your comments, which I will respond to as quickly as I can. I hope you have a wonderful day, and the rest of the week goes by as fast as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Human Rights

Abortion has been a controversial issue for decades and long before anyone had heard about Roe. Since June 24, 2022, when Roe vs Wade was overturned, abortion has become an even more heated topic. The views and beliefs of people around the world are plentiful and remain extremely controversial. I understand some of these views fall in line with religious beliefs, which is their right and no one can alter their beliefs. Row vs Wade was a ruling made almost 50 years ago in January of 1973, during a time before things were more progressive. In the past, nearly 50 years have we progressed at all? Are we trying to evolve or are we only consistently devolving?

I am very aware that there will be numerous people that are going to disagree with my thoughts, but I am going to share them anyway. This issue has caused me a lot of frustration and anger, and this post has taken me over a week to finish. First, let me start by saying that I do not agree with using abortion as a form of birth control. There are risks a woman may experience from having an abortion, which may include pain and cramping, plus some intense mental health struggles, and social and financial burdens. There is already a negative stigma surrounding abortion, so I do not believe any woman is going to choose to have an abortion if it is not truly necessary.

People do need to be responsible and practice safe sex, but unforeseen things can happen. When a woman decides for whatever reason that she wants to have an abortion, there are safe ways to have this procedure completed. According to the World Health Organization, about 45% of all abortions are unsafe of which 97% occur in developing countries. Unfortunately, unsafe abortions are a leading avoidable cause of maternal deaths. If women lose the ability to get a safe abortion where the dangers decrease, the problem will be more unsafe abortions and an increased number of women dying unnecessarily.

Another HUGE problem I have with banning abortions is it is taking away a woman’s right to decide what she can do with HER body. The United States “claims” to be a “free” country”, right? Please explain how taking away a woman’s right to her body is freedom because this does not sound like what I consider freedom.

If a woman is raped, how can anyone force her to keep her rapist’s baby? That baby will be a constant reminder of the worst day in her life, which is NOT fair. If a woman gets pregnant and can be mature enough to admit that she does not have the means to provide a safe and happy life for that child, WHY should she be forced to? She was trying to put that child’s needs first and not bring it into a world where it would not have what it needs to flourish.

Please take a look at the states that have already banned abortion. Do you see a common denominator to these states? The first two states to put an abortion ban were Indiana and West Virginia. I am not surprised about Indiana, but I have been to West Virginia and have seen what people are like there, so I am shocked they were the 2nd state to ban abortion. I do not mean to bring politics into this as that is another hot topic and causes more arguments, but most of the states that have banned abortion are Republican leading with the voting poles. This is not an opinion, but a fact!

Regardless of an individual’s political or religious ideology, what gives anyone the right to tell a woman what she can or cannot do with HER body? In a “free” country, how can a government dictate law for a human body? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months? I have heard the argument that she can give the baby up for adoption, but nine months is a long time to carry a baby and endure childbirth all because a man did not listen to the simple two letters word “NO”.

Again, I understand that many people reading this post will have opposite views that I do and that is your right. I am not trying to take anyone’s rights away from them, like so many states are doing to women. Like I have already said, I do not think abortion should be used as a form of birth control, but that is not my right to decide for another woman, it is hers and hers ONLY! I believe in a woman’s right to decide if she can take care of another human life and if she knows she can’t, I do not think she should be forced to. More than anything else, I do not think any woman should be told she must carry her rapist’s baby because this was no fault of hers.

I am sorry if this post has offended anyone but am not sorry for the way I see things. I am not sorry that I think a woman is the only person that can decide what happens to her body. I am not sorry that I do not agree a woman should never have to carry a baby from rape or incest. I am not sorry that I do not agree with what is going on in the United States. I am not sorry that I view freedom differently than some do. I am not sorry that I feel a woman has the right to decide!

Thank you for visiting my site today. Although I do know many will disagree with everything I stated, I do hope it provides you with an understanding as to why I view things the way I do. When I find something extremely disturbing and when something upset me, I feel the need to write about it because it helps me to accept things and let the anger go. I hope you are having a nice and safe weekend. I do encourage you to leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes. 

Always, Alyssa

First Day Of Fall

Happy Friday eve! Today is the first day of my favorite season, Fall or Autumn whichever you prefer to call it! This is typically the season when the temperatures are the most reasonable, they are not too hot and not too cold, they are just perfect. Funny that I am saying that because it seems that Mother Nature did not get the memo or she is having a bad day because the temperatures where I live are going to be 94 degrees. Those are stupid summer temperatures, not cool fall temperatures. I am not sure who made Mother Nature made, but I think they need to apologize because this is not the way to begin my favorite season.

What does the autumn season look like to you? What should the As temperatures be? In my opinion, this time of a year should be far less than the mid 90’s because that is what summer is. The leaves should begin to fall and blanket the ground with their beauty. Today, we should be able to say “goodbye” to summer and the insane heat until June! Please do not get me wrong, I do enjoy summertime, but only while I am at the beach with the glorious ocean breeze. The good news is after today, the temperatures will slowly be decreasing to cooler and tolerable kind of weather.

I am not sure how we managed to make it through most of the week, but we did and now we only have one day until the weekend returns. As difficult as it might feel and seem, we did make it through the most difficult part of the week, so I believe the end will be filled with everything happy! I hope y’all find the quote I am sharing and that it provides you the pick-me-up needed to push through one more day! Something that I think is important in this crazy life is that we need to try our best to just slow down and take things one at a time. This is one of the only things that help me to stress a little less.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful day and you enjoyed what I shared with you today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. No matter what happens today or what stressors appear, try to do your best to relax and take things in stride. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday

I think that a congratulations is in order because we made it through the least favorite day of the week yesterday😊. Monday is typically a day we all dread because it means the workweek began. The weekend seems so far away, but in all honesty, the days do go by rather fast. Of course, we do have to get through five grueling days just to make it to a weekend with two of the shortest days ever, but it will all be worth it. It does appear that as I get older, the days, weeks, and years go much faster!

How was your Monday? Mine was not bad at all and in fact was better than my weekend. I had almost forgotten about a one-on-one meeting with my supervisor in the morning and for some reason, I always get nervous about meetings like these. I must say, I have one of the most amazing supervisors and the best one I have had in a long time😊! This was our first one-on-one meeting and it was wonderful. I seriously wish there were more people like her because she truly cares! Not only is she easy to talk to, she listens, which is not as common as it should be!

There is one day completed this week and four left, but I think the days will pass with ease. Considering we survived Monday😊, I do not think the rest of these days will be too bad. I am hoping the quote I am sharing with y’all today will provide you with a sense of peace and calmness. Life can be stressful and we often need a reminder of how to live a calm and peaceful life. One thing that always brings me peace is the sound of the ocean. The sounds of the waves rolling in and back out are glorious and extremely peaceful.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the quote and it brings you the same peace it has given to me. The good thing about Tuesday is, we survived Monday and we are well on our way to the weekend again😊! I would love to know what you thought about what I shared today and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday eve, y’all! How has your week been? Yes, I know the short weeks can feel painfully long and people cannot seem to understand most things are not the end of the world and that life will continue to move forward. I wish people would learn to be even a little more understanding and compassionate, but it seems like that is a wish that might never come to fruition. I guess a girl can dream though😉. I do have a few people that I work with that are absolutely amazing and they can make the worst of days much brighter just by being who they are, and for that I love them!

After only a couple of days in our short week, we do still have one more to push through and I think we could all use a little pick-me-up. I love the quote from Albert Einstein I am sharing because it brings so much clarity to the world. As children, many of us had wild imaginations that we utilized, but as adults, we get so bogged down with the busyness of our daily lives we have lost the connection with our imaginations. I think if we could all try using that brilliant imagination a little during the day, we might notice an amazing change in life and even be a little less stressed and a lot happier!

I hope your week is going well and you are looking forward to the upcoming weekend. Do you have any plans for the weekend? Of course, I have no plans at all which is just the way I like it. The work week, even the short weeks seem so long and they are all planned out, I just enjoy having a few days that are not planned. I know some people would think I live a boring life and that might be true, but it is not complicated and it is safe.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and the quote helps you to use your imagination more, and that helps you through the last day of the week. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Promises are a commitment

Promises no matter how big, small, insignificant, or even who it was made with, should be valued and sacred. When we make a promise, we should strive to uphold and honor whatever we promised. A promise does not always have to be with another person. There have been numerous times in my life I made a promise to myself and even though they may not understand, I have made promises to my cats😊! Unfortunately, many people make empty promises, but maybe they have forgotten what a promise is and what can happen when a promise is broken. Through the rest of this post, I will discuss the true meaning of a promise, what broken promises cause, and what all of this means to me.

If you Google what a promise means it shows the meaning as a declaration or assurance that one will do a particular thing, or a particular thing will happen. I think our promises are giving our word to another and our word is our bond. It has been suggested that people with strong relationships have higher emotional intelligence and tend to be more likely to stay loyal and true to their commitments. Whether the commitment made is to yourself or someone else, making a promise is a commitment that you will keep your word. It is within commitment that reinforces and solidifies trust.

Breaking a promise can result in an abrupt breakdown of trust. A broken promise can be felt as betrayal and disrespect. Not only does breaking a promise disappoint other people, but it can damage your self-esteem. This can tarnish friendships, destroy marriages, and undermine businesses. Failure to keep your promise leads to declines in personal and professional relationships, creates emotional conflicts, you lose honesty, and your relationships are poisoned with doubts and skepticism. There may be lasting anger towards the one that broke their promise and feelings of shame for trusting the person in the first place.

Relationships are built on trust, so before you make any promises make sure so with the intention of keeping the promise. Trust is not easy to build, and it takes time, but it can be lost in less than a second when there is any betrayal involved. I am doing this post because I have learned through the years who I can count on and who will never let me down, but at the same time, I have learned who does not deserve another second chance. One thing that has helped me is to have low expectations for anyone that has a history of letting me down so that I am not disappointed by the same person over and over again.

We have almost made it through this week with today being Friday eve. I will never know how we made it through this painfully long week, but we almost have. Of course, we all are happy that tomorrow is Friday and then we have the weekend to look forward to, which maybe we have plans or maybe our plans are to just rest and recuperate from the week😊, either way, we are strong, and powerful. I think it is important to remind people of this because it can be easy to forget. I hope this post was beneficial to you and helped you to understand the importance of trust and commitment because those are things no one can take away from us.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week has been great and you are looking forward to the weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Remember to stand up for what you believe in and be true to who you are😊! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, support, comfort, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve! I do would prefer to not say happy Thursday because it makes me feel like there is a lot left of this week and the week has already been too long! To think of today as Friday eve makes me feel like the week is almost over. How has your week been? I hope it has not been as long and crazy as mine has been. I do my best to avoid watching the news because there is literally nothing but negative and terrible things that happen every single day. Unfortunately, I did see some news because it showed up on my work computer. I wish I had not seen any of it because it is incredibly disturbing and discouraging! I just wish we could all get along and for one day, the only things reported on the news are positive.

For the past several weeks, I have seen some very unpleasant and disrespectful behavior. These are things that I will never understand because it is the exact opposite of how I act towards other people. I do not understand if this is something new happening in the world and I have always been too naïve to see it before, but if that is the case, I wish I could go back to being too naïve to view people for what they are. This is the reason that I decided on the quote I am sharing with you today. It does not matter how others treat me or how much they choose to disrespect me, I am going to continue being who I am and treat others with kindness. I view it as there must be a reason for the way they are behaving because why else would someone behave so unkind?

I am trying to do at least one post each day, which I was unable to on Tuesday. We all face challenges and stress in life, so it is crucial to find ways to release those negative emotions. My way to do this has always been to write and read, which is difficult to do when I have a headache. I do believe one reason I have been dealing with so many headaches is mostly due to stress, which is why I mentioned in a previous post I was slowly going to be eliminating stress from my life. Who would have thought it would be so difficult, especially when I know the stress factors?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote resonated with you. I know we do still have one more day until we get to the weekend, but that is much better than having to wait 5 days as we did on Monday. I do not have any definitive plans for the weekend, but I do want to go get the piecing I have heard helps migraines. Many people have told me that once they got the daith piercing (part of the ear), they did not have another migraine, or at least not as many. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday, y’all! Is it just me or has this been an extremely long week? I am sure I feel this way because my week started with a headache that refuses to go away, but even on the other days when the headache was tolerable the days at work felt LONG! I have given up trying to understand why people behave the way they do because I do not think I will ever understand how people can be so demanding and rude. I think I have been looking forward to today, since Sunday night!

I have always thought that Friday is the perfect day to let go of all the negative and frustrating things that occurred during the week because we deserve an opportunity to enjoy a couple of days. We are forced to work five brutal days each week and we are only given two days to rest and live life, so why carry the negative thoughts into our time? I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing helpful to let go and live your weekend happily and without stress!

I might be wrong, but I do believe the people that cause us the most stress and pain are battling with themselves internally and their negative emotions seep out to others. This type of behavior does not make their days or lives better and only ruins another person’s day. I know I get upset and moody, but I also know how my temper can ignite to an explosive level, so I try to stay quiet. Anyone that knows me understands why I am quiet, something is very wrong and I need space. I prefer to be silent, so I do not hurt anyone’s feelings and then have to apologize a million times!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today. I hope the quote provides you with the strength to leave last week in the past where it belongs and you can have a stress-free, and enjoyable weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~How to deal with manipulative people~

What does manipulation mean to you? The Webster’s Dictionary shows manipulation to mean a few different things, but for this post, it means, “to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means, especially to one’s advantage”. To your knowledge, has anyone in your life ever tried to manipulate you? If so, how did this make you feel and how did you handle it?

Unfortunately, manipulative people can be found anywhere. These people can be family, friends, co-workers, or even new people in your life. They are not always easy to detect because they can easily lie and deceive you. Although they are skillful in their deceptive and treacherous behaviors, they are careless and selfish with only their benefits in mind. 

Manipulative people know how to find your weaknesses, use them against you, and convince you to do what will benefit their interests. Some may attempt using positive tactics, such as disingenuous compliments and artificial closeness, but they typically use negative means like silent treatment, criticism, and emotional abuse. 

The feelings felt when being manipulated are unpleasant, to say the least. This can easily leave a person feeling sad, disappointed, hurt, and even betrayed. If you have even been on the receiving end of manipulation, please let this be a lesson and never treat another person in this way.

**Please note, I am not a psychologist, mental health professional, or medical professional in any way, but the following tips are what I discovered through research and I hope they will help you end manipulative people before they can hurt and deceive you**

Remember, NO means NO:

Learn how to say “NO” in a firm, calm, and diplomatic way. There is no need to add anything else to the conversation. When we offer any reason, it can just provide ammo for the person to use to get through your defenses and force you to say “yes”. Initially, the manipulative person may become irritated and persistently try to convince you of something other than what you have already stated. Do not allow their determination or pushy behavior to change your mind. Continue to say “NO” and they will eventually give up. 

Do not apologize automatically:

Manipulative people are skillful at turning the tables to make everything be your fault, even when in your heart you know it was not. These types of people are always the victim. Of course, we are all human and it may seem easier to apologize to keep the peace and end the conversation, but this will just provide them with more control. Stand your ground and know manipulative people will never take responsibility for their actions.

Do not react:

Although it is not easy, the more you defend yourself or explain your reasons, the farther you fall into their web of control. Manipulative people know the way you think and will take advantage of it. They will create drama and chaos and the more emotional you become, the calmer they will feel. They want to make you seem like the crazy one and they are sane. No matter how many accusations and criticisms they throw at you, try to walk away and simply say, “I am sorry you feel that way”.

Establish clear boundaries:

Manipulative people are drawn to and prey on people pleasers because their boundaries are often weaker. Boundaries are important in all relationships as lines are clearly drawn. If there is a manipulative person in your life that continues to cross even one of your boundaries, know when it is time to walk away and not engage further. Define ahead of time what the consequences are when the person continues to disrespect you and your boundaries.

Take time to make decisions:

Often a manipulative person will be forceful and demand an answer right away. Try to never cave into their pressure because it only gives them more control. Take as much time as you need to provide them with an answer.

Keep your distance: 

The best and most challenging thing to do is to cut these manipulative people out of your life because they will try to make you feel guilty. Sometimes ignoring the person is easier because they are unaware of what is going on.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information in this post will help you deal with a manipulative person in your life or at least prepare you to handle on if you ever are forced to. Life is not easy, and we always need to do what is best for us because it is our life! If you have dealt with this type of person before, I am interested to read about it and how you handled it or knew it was happening. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

How to deal with high gas prices

In recent times we have all seen massive spikes in gas prices. While gas prices have created stress and frustrations when at the pump, it has left everyone wondering why, which is a reasonable question to ask. The situation with high gas prices did not happen overnight but has been building for decades. The United States depends heavily on other countries, such as Russia, Canada, Mexico, and Saudi Arabia for gas, but sources are becoming scarce due to increased demands in other countries.

During the summer months, the increased demand has always caused higher gas prices. The only thing that is different this year is gas prices were already too high and we may feel we need to adjust summer vacations slightly. Of course, I understand the desperate need for a vacation, especially for those who have children because the kids are on summer break from school. 

To help everyone beat the higher than we are used to gas prices, I am going to share a few tips that may help. I am sure there are many other ways, but these are tips I found through a little research. If you have any other suggestions, I would love to hear about them. 

1. Slow Down:

This is hard for me because I cannot help going a little faster than the speed limit. I always joke and say, the speed limit is just a suggestion or that I have a genetic disorder where my right foot is heavier than my left foot. Although I have never had a speeding ticket, I do not think the cops would find this funny or consider it to be a logical reason for going too fast.

Experts suggest that each 5mph you drive over 60mph is the same as paying an additional $0.15 per gallon for gas. Aggressive drivers who speed, have rapid acceleration and braking are wasting gas, which means they are also wasting money. 

2. Keep your vehicle’s maintenance updated:

This means we need to do regular tune-ups. It is also important to have a clean air filter, which is typically done when you get your oil changed. Randomly, check your tire pressure and be sure your tires are properly inflated. The proper tire pressure will be located on your tires. Also be sure you are using the proper grade of oil, which you should be able to locate in your vehicle driver’s manual.

3. Use your engine sensibly:

Avoid allowing your vehicle to idle excessively. This means you should not let your car’s engine run without moving for an extended period. When driving on the interstate, utilize your cruise control as much as possible. We normally maintain a constant speed on the interstate with limited stop-and-go traffic, so cruise control will not only help save on gas but can also help feet fatigue from constantly pressing down on the pedal. 

4. Drive Smarter:

Plan to do all errands at the same time, instead of making multiple trips out. This just requires a little better planning and time management. It might be more challenging because of COVID, but you can also try to carpool when possible. Anytime it is an option, try to telecommute. Zoom has been used much more frequently because of COVID. 

5. Lessen usage of the air conditioner:

According to GasBuddy, about 20% more fuel is used because of A/C usage. During the summer months, it is nearly impossible to not run the A/C, but we can try turning the A/C off when we are 5 minutes from our destination, parking in the shade or garage can be helpful. It is also important to keep the windows and moon, or sunroof closed when traveling at high speeds. 

Of course, I do not have to leave my house often because I work from home and get groceries delivered, but I do have to go to doctor’s appointments and pick up prescriptions for myself and my cat. Can you remember a time when gas prices were affordable? I can remember gas prices being under $1.00 a gallon when I first got my license. It has surely been crazy several decades, hasn’t it? Unfortunately, the chances of gas prices ever getting as low as they were when I first started driving are slim to none.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared useful and please if you have any other suggestions I would love to hear your thoughts. We are finally able to enjoy the much-deserved weekend and I hope you are enjoying yours. Of course, two of my cats thought it was a brilliant idea to wake me up at 06:30 AM, which I definitely did not appreciate. It is a good thing they are adorable, and I love them as much as I do or I might be ready to kick them out of the house. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa