~Happy Friday Eve~

Happy Friday eve, y’all! How has your week been and how ready for the weekend are you? I can say that I have been ready for the weekend since Monday morning or maybe even Sunday evening! I am sure it has something to do with having to drive on an awful road to go to my appointment on Tuesday, but this seems to have been a really LONG week! I normally do Pick-Me-Up Thursday posts, but I am doing things a little differently today because another post I am working I have been working on has me a little upset. I am hoping to have it completed soon, but I will give you a little information as to what it is about. I am writing about the horrendous treatment from law enforcement of unarmed Black Americans. This has had me upset because I cannot understand why this is continuing to occur. 

As I already mentioned, I am doing things slightly differently today and sharing a quote that I think is beneficial, but for various reasons. There are times when we all want alone time and there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe we need time to clear our heads and think about random situations we have experienced. There might also be times when we want alone time to protect ourselves from further disappointments. Unfortunately, humans can disappoint us, some more than others. To be honest, there are some people I try to avoid because all they have done is disappoint me, which causes too much emotional pain.

Now that the weekend will be here soon, do you have any plans? The only plans I have are to finish the post I mentioned earlier, work on what I am doing for the writing competition, and hopefully sleep in at least one of the days. If I have any energy I need to burn off, I will work on cleaning the house. The weather continues to change daily, so there is no telling if it is going to be cold or warm. If it rains, that will be a wonderful time to rest with the cats on the couch and binge watch something on Netflix!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will do my best to respond as quickly as possible. Please stay tuned for the post I am working on and hope to have it published by Sunday. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that you have a good day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Continued Gun Violence

We are only 25 days into 2023 and as of yesterday, there have already been 39 mass shootings in the United States that have caused 70 innocent people to lose their lives. These tragedies do NOT occur in any other developed country because other countries have found a way to prevent unnecessary gun violence. These continued acts of hatred do not make any sense to me, and I have many questions that I am not sure anyone can answer. The first question is why can the United States not find a rational solution and end gun violence? How many more people will need to die before changes will be made? The 2nd Amendment was written in 1791, but did they mean they thought everyone should carry a weapon? I think we need to face the fact; the 2nd Amendment needs to be updated so that the mass population stops misinterpreting it.

As I have already stated, the 2nd Amendment was written in 1791 and reads, “A well-regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed.” Right in the first sentence, Militia is a military force that is raised from the civil population, to supplement a regular army in an emergency. What does this mean to you? To me, this should mean guns are for our military to use in an emergency, such as war, and or to defend our country. With that said, guns must be regulated better and more efficiently. Anytime I have tried talking to other Americans about control, they try to hold on tight to what they think the 2nd Amendment means, but I do not think they read it and understood it correctly!

I do not think that guns belong on the streets or in homes because they are unsafe when people are not trained. A couple of weeks ago, a 6-year-old child brought a gun to school with him and shot his 1st-grade teacher. This was not a mass shooting, but it did cause harm to an innocent teacher and that child should have never had access to it or even known where it was in the home. The devastation of gun violence upsets me deeply and the fact we already had so many mass shootings early in the year, scares me to see what the remainder of the year will hold. Changes with gun policies have needed to change for a long time and I only hope the change will happen sooner rather than later.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know many people will not agree with me on this topic, but I do still look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe. We have made it through the first part of the week, so hopefully, the last part of the week will be easy and go well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you have been able to enjoy your weekend😊! It is so amazing how short the weekends are, but how quickly the months pass by. It feels like January just began and yet we are more than halfway through the month. Were you able to do anything you wanted to over the weekend? Honestly, I have tried spending the weekend doing nothing. Unfortunately, I have been experiencing the VERY unwelcome. MS Hug again. I am not sure why this MS Hug was not made aware of social distancing because it has gotten WAY too close for me. I have always been uncomfortable when people get too close to me because I appreciate my personal space. I know that it will pass, but it is not passing soon enough. A heating pad helps some and no number of tears make will it go away any faster☹.

Even though things did not go the way I would have hoped the first time I tried, I am considering doing another writing competition. The difference in the one I am thinking about doing is I have a choice to either do a personal essay or I can do an article based on something I have researched. I have always enjoyed researching and think this would be an exciting adventure. The bad part about trying this is that I have always questioned my abilities and never thought that I was good enough. Of course, I also think that if I do not at least try I will always wonder what could have been. Do any of you have any advice or suggestions?

For most people, Sunday is a day to rest and prepare for the week ahead of us. Normally, I try getting laundry done today and anything else I was not able to do during the week. Today, where I live is rainy with a slight chill in the air, but I will still finish the one load of laundry I did not get done yet and relax with the cats on the couch. I am also going to think about writing ideas for the competition that I may or may not participate in. Who am I kidding? I do fully plan to do the competition because if I do not, I will always wonder what might have happened.

What do you think about change? Do you think that in 2023, the world should be more accepting of others and the way they choose to live THEIR lives? Do you think we should have evolved much more than many have? I am not trying to push my views onto anyone else, but I do not think anything should trouble our lives unless it negatively affects our daily lives. It does not affect my life if two people get married out of love, even if they are of the same sex. Another thing that does not affect my daily life is transgender. The United States is SUPPOSED to be a free country and unless we have been lied to for decades, we can all live our lives the way we want, which means we are allowed to love who we love, be whoever we want to be, follow the religion we want and read the bible associated with that religion, and anything else as long as it does not harm another person!

Do you think that our governments tell us the truth? Would it be so hard to believe that we are not being told the truth about things in this world? Why are many of us not being treated fairly and able to have healthcare that is the best for us, which would be free or at least a lot more affordable? Why do so many have to suffer from an illness we are told there is no cure for? Would it be so hard to believe that there are cures for many of the diseases in the world, but only for an extremely HIGH amount? I do believe anything is possible!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and that you are having a good weekend. I know some of what I have written can be a little controversial and some of you may disagree with me, which is completely within your rights. I would love the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday eve, y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend. Do you have anything planned for the weekend? I plan to try relaxing and resting because I am still a little rundown from the mini vacation for my husband’s birthday. The only thing I will ask you is, please stay safe. Several people that I work with and remember, I work from home and have not met anyone I work with personally, but I learned that several of them were diagnosed with COVID. I am unaware if they received any of the vaccines or boosters, but they did say how miserable they were feeling, and I would not want anyone to feel that way.

It does not matter who we are or what we have overcome in life, we all have bad days. When we have a bad day, it can be difficult to get over it when others are behaving negatively or unpleasantly. Yesterday, I was frustrated because of a few things that occurred when I was out, and I felt like someone was throwing me under the bus and making a mountain out of a molehill. I ended up chatting with another co-worker about the issues and told her how foolish I felt. This co-worker has become a good friend and she was able to say a few things that turned my bad day into a much brighter day. This is the reason I am sharing the quote I am today, and I hope it helps you deal with challenging days a little better😊!

We may not always be able to say the right things when communicating with others, but we can most definitely say the wrong thing that will make another person feel terrible. Our words and actions can make a HUGE difference in another person’s life, but we always want it to be for the better. There is already too much negative that occurs in the world around us, but we can do something positive. Unfortunately, we will never know the way someone else is feeling or if they are struggling and ready to give up on life. I know that none of us want to be the reason why someone does something they cannot take back!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the two quotes that I shared, and they resonate with you, and you will turn around and share them with someone else. I have always believed it is easier to be kind, understanding, and compassionate with others as opposed to being mean and rude because that takes too much energy, and is a waste of our time. All it takes is to do or say something nice to another person and it could change their entire day for the better😊! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Kindness is the way of life

We have successfully made it through the first day of the week and I hope it was a good day for y’all. I am thankful for my job and the people I work with, especially during this slow time of year. It can be easy to get discouraged in this life, but it is wonderful to have family, friends, and co-workers to make it a little easier to tolerate. Even though work has been rather slow, I try to help my co-workers because I value them and want to help them keep things on track, and so they do not feel overwhelmed. It can be exhausting when things pile up due to meetings or training, and some people have children they need to tend to. I feel like taking a little off their full plates when I can help them not get too overwhelmed and frustrated.

We never know what another person is going through in their life. Many people will put on a fake smile to hide their pain because they do not want anyone to know they are going through something complicated and mentally draining. They hide their emotional pain by acting as though their life is happy and they are not suffering silently. Others that are going through something in their personal life that is problematic and troublesome might behave negatively with an abrupt tone because they are angry and or frustrated with something personal. Even though it is not easy, we need to not take their behavior personally.

Instead of reacting negatively to someone who says something harsh or behaves rudely, we should learn to take a step back and think about what that person may be going through. If this is someone that we know and understand their personality, we should be able to figure out if something is different. It should be easy to know if their behavior is normal or out of the ordinary. There is someone that I know that can be really kind and understanding most of the time, but every once in a while her demeanor changes drastically, and not for the better. I tend to ignore the negative behavior of this person because I do know she is battling with something on a personal level. Instead of reacting in the same way she is, I do the opposite and treat her kindly.

If we react with emotions every time someone acts negatively, we would constantly be dealing with hurt feelings. Then if we speak out of hurt feelings with a negative tone and say something that makes the other person feel even worse than they did before, we will never be able to erase those hurtful words. Too many people resort to suicide when they cannot handle life anymore and we would never want our mean words to be the last words another person hears. I am not saying it will change anything, but sometimes all a person needs to hear when they are struggling are kind, supportive, compassionate, and loving words.

I think if we could all just try being nicer and more understanding of others the world might be a happier and better place to live. Maybe if we all try spreading kindness, love, compassion, and understanding, it would catch on and spread as far as and beyond negativity. I believe we can all admit that negativity can spread like wildfire, so why can kindness and love not as well? None of this should take too much energy and should be rather easy😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and my words resonated with you. Many people reading this might be battling with a medical issue, which I do understand is not easy, so it should be so easy for us to be kind to others regardless of how they behave. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

2023 Goals and Habits

Hello, the first Monday of 2023! Now that 2022 is behind us and we are starting this new year with a fresh start, we can set new goals without feeling too much pressure because we have the entire year to accomplish them😊! As I said in my post yesterday, I do not make New Year’s Resolutions because I feel they are pointless and most people, including myself, never stay with them. It is always important to make goals that are attainable or create new habits that may help us to achieve our goals. We should only set a few goals that we want to achieve because they are meaningful to us. Setting too many goals or new habits can be overwhelming and we may end up getting burnt out and then give up, which no one wants to do.

For the new year, one of my goals is to learn ways to not be so hard on myself. I have always been my own worst critic and I know this is not healthy. We should want to stay motivated and encouraged in life, which is impossible to do when we are constantly criticizing everything we do. There is already far too much negativity and, in this world, and we do not need to add to that by insulting ourselves. Instead of always telling myself that I am not good enough or that I am doing something wrong, I am going to try only repeating uplifting and encouraging words to myself daily!

Another goal or habit I want to do this year is to try doing a blog at least five times each week. I want to open my horizons and write about different topics that are meaningful to me. I have always had a deep love and passion for writing, so I think it is extremely important to try new things and learn different ways to write. I would love to try doing a writing contest again and not back out before I finish the essay because I think my essay will not be good enough. We never know what we are capable of unless we try, right?

Something else I want and need to do is find ways to limit stress in life. Even though I know that stress is the silent killer, I tend to allow myself to stress about things that I have no control over. It seems silly to be able to understand and admit that I stress about things I have no control over because it is clear there is nothing that I can do to change the outcomes, so what is the purpose? There are many things in life we have no control over and should not waste time thinking about because there are also many things we can control, which are mostly our reactions to situations and the way we treat others. We will never have any control over how others behave, so it is senseless to try.

There are certain types of books that I enjoy reading and need to start making more time during the day to read. I have a few books that are on my to-read list but have neglected the books because I am too tired or cannot find the time to read them. Even if it is only 20 or 30 minutes each day, I should be able to make time to read a little. Reading helps to relax after a long day and can help people sleep better!

One thing I will always keep doing is being kind and respectful to others. It is 2023 now and things should be much different than they are. I do not know why people stopped evolving but decided to devolve to an extremely terrible level. I will do everything that I can to help others see things in a fair and better way, but I know some that are stuck in their ignorant ways, and nothing will change them.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I look forward to reading your comments and learning about your goals for the new year. I hope your week begins well and gets even better with each day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Post of 2023

Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Last Monday of 2022

How has your year been and is there anything you wish you could have changed? I have many questions that may not have answers, but I am going to ask anyways. Why are so many so quick to make a judgment? Why do some people think it is acceptable and humane to not be kind to others? Do people really think their way of life and how they behave is much superior to everyone else in the world? I am starting to believe that I might have missed something when I was younger because I was not ever taught that any one person is better than anyone else as I was taught, we are ALL EQUAL no matter where we are from or anything else people think it is acceptable to judge others for.

Why are so many people afraid of what they do not understand and automatically think the way others are choosing to live THEIR life is not the way they should be living? Who can say there is only one way to live? I guess I was under the impression that the United States is a FREE country and therefore people can live how they want to live. As I am sure you can tell by several of my posts, this is something that bothers me tremendously.

Over the past several years, it has seemed like there has been a vast amount of people devolving instead of evolving. A lot of this might be a result of our political leaders’ comments which might have made it seem like it was okay. Too many have glamourized racism and hate because of what they were feeling inside their heart, which to me is cold and dark. It is almost 2023 and we need to get back on track with evolving with the times.

Why should anyone care who someone else loves? I mean love is love, right? Does this affect their lives in any way shape or form? Who really cares about the color of someone’s skin, where they are from, or who they worship? They cannot control or change it and it does not cause issues in anyone’s life. The things that do matter are the way we treat others because that is something we do have control over. Superficial nonsense is not things that matter in the bigger picture of this life.

2022 is almost over and 2023 will begin soon, so I think we need to begin the new year with a better and kinder outlook on life. We need to start being more accepting and compassionate towards others that live differently than we do. I think learning about others’ way of life is fascinating. Different cultures are something we should all want to learn about because no individual is the same in this HUGE world and there is nothing wrong with that. Think about it, if we were all the same, would the world not be boring?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today, and it resonated with how you feel about the world we share. I believe we should all learn new ways to think and start treating everyone equally and with respect. The only time an individual does not deserve our respect is when they disrespect us personally or someone else, but even then, it is best to not sink down to their ignorant way to behaving. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Build Up to Holidays

The holidays for the past few years have been abnormal, to say the least. We had been forced to place family gatherings on hold, with no idea when to reschedule them for. COVID caused holiday celebrations to change drastically and add even more stress to an already stressful time of year. Although COVID is much better than it was a few years ago, the pandemic has not seen its final days yet. The good news is that travel restrictions have been lifted, which is helping make long-distance family gatherings more manageable. Everything seems as though there are promises life will see what we used to consider “normal” again soon.

Even though life is starting to become normal again and COVID stress is decreasing some may still feel increased stress as the holidays approach us. Many have adjusted increasingly well to being at home and isolated from the outside world. Of course, for anyone who naturally enjoys socializing, the ability to interact with others, and to have mindless conversations, the holidays will be a breath of fresh air and excitement.

The low-key, mellow homebody type was thrilled to have a logical excuse to stay at home for the holiday of their dreams. Changing back to the spectacle of talkative relatives, rambunctious children, and loud noises may be a complete shock to their sheltered systems. Human beings do have the ability to acclimate to new environments quickly and adjust to change, which COVID pushed all of us to learn quickly.

Everyone needs to remember that the holidays do not mean we need to make up for all the holidays missed due to COVID in one day. We need to enjoy these times without feeling increased pressure. We can converse and interact with our family and friends, while still protecting our personal space.

For anyone that is an introvert and enjoys the comforts of their home, the following tips might be beneficial to read. I am sure there are many more ideas available, but these are just a few that I came across and wanted to share them.

Take Baby Steps:

Now is a time to take things slow and not push ourselves too far. Many of us might be tempted to try avoiding social gatherings and holiday parties, but we should try to at least make a conscious effort. Avoidance can potentially make things far worse than they truly are.

The best way to readjust and ease back into the “normal” holidays is to take it one manageable event at a time. Remember, to stay true to yourself, if large events and gatherings cause you too much stress and anxiety, choose to attend smaller gatherings until you begin to feel more comfortable and less anxious.

It is crucial to create and maintain time limits. If you know you can only tolerate an hour or two at a family dinner, let this be known so everyone is aware and understands. You could simply say, “I am so excited to celebrate the holiday with everyone, but unfortunately, I must leave by 9 PM.” If you are with your significant other or a friend, establish a code word to let that person know you are ready to head home, so you can begin saying your “goodbyes”.

Envision Success:

During the days leading up to your holiday gathering, try to self-talk. Do not tell yourself, it is going to be an uncomfortable and awful situation. Instead, remind yourself you are going to be surrounded by family who loves and accept you, and everything is going to be fine. The more you tell yourself this, the more that is what your brain will hold onto and remember.

Allow Yourself Breaks:

Whether the holiday gathering is with family or friends, keep your needs in mind. Stay aware of any indicators you are getting overwhelmed, your heart begins racing, you become overheated, etc. If your stress and uncomfortable feelings build up, simply politely excuse yourself to the restroom or step outside for some fresh air. A short and quiet break can help to calm yourself and be ready to socialize more.

The holidays do not need to be stressful, as they are meant to be enjoyable. We still have a few days left before Christmas Day, so try to keep yourself stress free and look forward to spending time with your loved ones. If you are not able to see everyone in your family due to distance, there is nothing wrong with picking up the phone to chat or even chatting on Zoom.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the tips I have shared helpful, but if you have others, I will encourage you to share them. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope your week is going well and you have a good day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you are having a good and relaxing weekend! Can you believe that we only have two weeks left in 2022? It is amazing how quickly time goes by and how much we endure each week. Sometimes, it is hard to believe what we have survived and witnessed because some things are so incredibly unbelievable. No matter what tragic events we have dealt with, it is crucial to remember that each experience is another lesson that is going to help us become better. We need to not think of hard times as a punishment because none of them are, they each continue making us stronger and more resilient.

The past several years have been complicated, to say the least, but what have we learned over the past few years? We have seen so much violence, which “should” have taught us to be kinder and more understanding. But, honestly, has it? I ask this because violence and hatred continue to ravage the world daily. Why do people feel so much hatred? Why can we all not get along and be nice to one another? Is this something we are taught by watching the news, which has made hatred seem normal and okay?

As we approach the holidays, we need to keep a few things in mind. One is, we still need to be practicing safety protocols because COVID is still around. For anyone that is not vaccinated, it is well past time to get vaccinated. Being vaccinated against COVID can be a matter of life and death for ourselves and our families. The other thing we need to remember is, Christmas is NOT a time for receiving gifts, but it is a time to share the love with those around us and be better at practicing kindness and never forgetting what the Golden Rule means!

New Year is only two weeks away, so now is the time to recall the past year and think about what changes we want to make for the next year. Are there new things we want to learn or things we were taught years ago that we want to put back into play? Do we want to make a difference in the world and if so, what difference needs to be made? Do we want to make changes in our day-to-day lives, and if so, what changes do we want to make? I am not asking you to share this now, but I am asking you to put thought into this!

The weekend is nearing its end and I hope you had a nice weekend. Did you do anything special over the weekend? Are you looking forward to the week ahead of us and are you ready for it? We do still have several hours left of the weekend, so I would encourage you to make the best of it. The important things we always need to remember are what we are going to do this next week which is something we will be proud of!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have shared, and it gave you things to think about. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will be responding as quickly as possible. I am going to continue to try staying on a schedule with my posts, which gets harder once the work week begins, but I am going to try. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa