Tranquil Tuesday

First Post of 2023

Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Build Up to Holidays

The holidays for the past few years have been abnormal, to say the least. We had been forced to place family gatherings on hold, with no idea when to reschedule them for. COVID caused holiday celebrations to change drastically and add even more stress to an already stressful time of year. Although COVID is much better than it was a few years ago, the pandemic has not seen its final days yet. The good news is that travel restrictions have been lifted, which is helping make long-distance family gatherings more manageable. Everything seems as though there are promises life will see what we used to consider “normal” again soon.

Even though life is starting to become normal again and COVID stress is decreasing some may still feel increased stress as the holidays approach us. Many have adjusted increasingly well to being at home and isolated from the outside world. Of course, for anyone who naturally enjoys socializing, the ability to interact with others, and to have mindless conversations, the holidays will be a breath of fresh air and excitement.

The low-key, mellow homebody type was thrilled to have a logical excuse to stay at home for the holiday of their dreams. Changing back to the spectacle of talkative relatives, rambunctious children, and loud noises may be a complete shock to their sheltered systems. Human beings do have the ability to acclimate to new environments quickly and adjust to change, which COVID pushed all of us to learn quickly.

Everyone needs to remember that the holidays do not mean we need to make up for all the holidays missed due to COVID in one day. We need to enjoy these times without feeling increased pressure. We can converse and interact with our family and friends, while still protecting our personal space.

For anyone that is an introvert and enjoys the comforts of their home, the following tips might be beneficial to read. I am sure there are many more ideas available, but these are just a few that I came across and wanted to share them.

Take Baby Steps:

Now is a time to take things slow and not push ourselves too far. Many of us might be tempted to try avoiding social gatherings and holiday parties, but we should try to at least make a conscious effort. Avoidance can potentially make things far worse than they truly are.

The best way to readjust and ease back into the “normal” holidays is to take it one manageable event at a time. Remember, to stay true to yourself, if large events and gatherings cause you too much stress and anxiety, choose to attend smaller gatherings until you begin to feel more comfortable and less anxious.

It is crucial to create and maintain time limits. If you know you can only tolerate an hour or two at a family dinner, let this be known so everyone is aware and understands. You could simply say, “I am so excited to celebrate the holiday with everyone, but unfortunately, I must leave by 9 PM.” If you are with your significant other or a friend, establish a code word to let that person know you are ready to head home, so you can begin saying your “goodbyes”.

Envision Success:

During the days leading up to your holiday gathering, try to self-talk. Do not tell yourself, it is going to be an uncomfortable and awful situation. Instead, remind yourself you are going to be surrounded by family who loves and accept you, and everything is going to be fine. The more you tell yourself this, the more that is what your brain will hold onto and remember.

Allow Yourself Breaks:

Whether the holiday gathering is with family or friends, keep your needs in mind. Stay aware of any indicators you are getting overwhelmed, your heart begins racing, you become overheated, etc. If your stress and uncomfortable feelings build up, simply politely excuse yourself to the restroom or step outside for some fresh air. A short and quiet break can help to calm yourself and be ready to socialize more.

The holidays do not need to be stressful, as they are meant to be enjoyable. We still have a few days left before Christmas Day, so try to keep yourself stress free and look forward to spending time with your loved ones. If you are not able to see everyone in your family due to distance, there is nothing wrong with picking up the phone to chat or even chatting on Zoom.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found the tips I have shared helpful, but if you have others, I will encourage you to share them. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope your week is going well and you have a good day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Letting Go Of The Past

Something everyone around the world has in common is, we all have a past. This can include positive and negative situations. Of course, we all enjoy remembering the positive things that happen and never want to forget those memories. Unfortunately, life is not perfect, and we encounter negative experiences during our lifetime. Although our first reaction to negative situations is to try forgetting them because they were traumatic and caused emotional pain and anxiety. There are better and more effective ways to handle those negative situations.

Instead of trying to ignore and forget about the past, it might be better and longer lasting to confront the past head-on. Confronting the past involved a conscious, dedicated choice to approach past emotional pain and begin to process them. When we continue trying to avoid the past, it is only going to circle back around. This will continuously force us to remember the pain over and over again, which is a vicious negative cycle.

There are numerous ways to confront the past and I am going to share some steps that I hope will help you. I do understand that you may have other ways that have helped you, which is great. Everyone deals with emotional pain and stress differently, so I would encourage you to share what has helped you face these issues.

One: Acceptance:

Accepting the traumatic events that were experienced is the first step and can be the most challenging step towards recovery. It depends on the severity of the trauma, but it may require professional help to overcome it and move forward. Mental health is critical to take care of before it escalates, so seeking guidance from a professional should not be viewed as a weakness and no one should feel shame from this.

Two: Consider the effects:

Any hurt we experience is going to include a reaction. We will gain additional wisdom that we must value. We should always try using what was learned from our painful experiences to have a better reaction when faced with future pain. Everything experienced in life is meant to help us deal with similar situations that we may encounter, and they are all learning opportunities. These opportunities are a gift to help us handle complicated situations we may endure and should not be viewed as a punishment, but more as a benefit.

Three: Distance:

We have all heard that sometimes it is necessary to distance ourselves from negative situations or toxic people in our life. It has been suggested by psychologists, that distance from a situation or the individual causing us to feel upset or stressed can help with letting go because we are not around the individual or situation and not forced to think about whatever is causing us to be upset. Often, we need space and time to process things on our terms.

Four: Allow yourself time to let the negative feeling flow:

We may try to avoid negative feelings out of fear but understand this is normal. Many people are in fear of feeling such as anger, grief, sadness, and disappointment, but these are common and natural feelings to experience once you have been hurt. It is okay to take time alone to let your tears flow or scream your frustration and anger out when no one is around. This release may severe you well and you are one step closer to recovery. If you do not want to scream or cry your feelings out, you can try writing a letter that you do not plan to send to whatever has you upset.

Five: Accept you may never get an apology:

Waiting for another person to accept responsibility for hurting you and apologizing can be a wasted energy. If you wait for an apology, it will only slow the progress of letting go down. It is not easy to understand why people are so unwilling to accept responsibility for the wrongs they do, but unfortunately, it is the way things are and we deserve the chance to let go so we can be happy!

We have almost made it to the end of the week, and I know we are all looking forward to the weekend. I know I have talked about this before, but PLEASE if you have not already been vaccinated for COVID, PLEASE do so. The vaccine can save lives and we all should be wearing masks when in public places to keep ourselves and others safe from getting COVID. Over the past years, too many have lost their lives and this COULD have been avoided. My mother and her husband, both are vaccinated have recently been diagnosed with COVID. I am thankful they were both vaccinated because that might have saved their lives! Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers! 

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have shared will be beneficial for you and if you have other advice, I do wish you would share it. Life is challenging and we do not need additional stresses added to our lives because it is not worth it. It is so important that we try to be understanding towards what others might be going through and know there are probably things we do not know about. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! I hope you are having a good week. I was unable to do a post the past few days because I was battling with a nagging headache that refused to go away. It started to worry me a little because I read about a new variant of COVID which is causing headaches and body aches. I typically do not worry much with headaches or body pains because I deal with them SO often, but after seeing there is a new COVID variant that is bypassing the vaccine, I worried a little. Thankfully, after three days of pure misery, I am finally starting to feel a little better.

This week has been painful because of the nagging headache I was dealing with, but this week is nearly over now. Of course, we do have a couple of days left before the weekend returns and I think we could all use a little pick-me-up to help us push through the last few days of this week, or at least I know I could! I hope you will find the quote I am sharing with you meaningful and that it resonates deeply with you. I enjoyed this and wanted to share it hoping it will brighten your week. I think it is extremely important to be kind, respectful, and considerate of others because we never know what they are going through in life.

Now that the weekend is so close, do you have any plans you are looking forward to? The only thing I am looking forward to is the chance to possibly sleep a little later than 7:00 AM. It does not matter what day it is, I always wake up at the same early time and never take naps. I am also looking forward to staying at home and having a quiet weekend. Considering my week has been challenging, I really need a couple of days with nothing but calmness and peace!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can, so please bear with me! I hope the last part of your week goes even better than the first part and you have an amazing day. Stay tuned as I have two other posts that are nearly complete, I am just putting some finishing touches on them. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday thoughts

Full disclosure and I am sorry in advance. I know I am mentioned the following statement multiple times over the years, but it still stands to be true, and I feel is worth repeating. Although life can be complicated and exhausting at times, life is short. No matter what we go through or how overwhelmed we feel, we should never give up and must do what brings us the most joy. We do not need to explain ourselves to anyone because this is our life. Other people may not agree with how we live our life or any of the decisions we make, but no one needs to understand why we made certain decisions. As long as we are not causing harm to anyone else, it should not matter how we are living our lives. 

Over the past several years and the first days of knowing what COVID was, and the damning effects it inflicted, many have been stressed and scared. These feelings are normal because COVID has killed so many. I am sure everyone has heard another strain that is more contagious making its way through the world. The new strain BA.5 has caused illness in people that have been vaccinated and boosted, which has been upsetting. However, we all must keep our vaccinations current because, without them, the chances of survival decrease significantly. It does seem as though anytime we think we have seen the last of COVID, something new appears.

I do understand that many people were hesitant about the COVID vaccine when we were first introduced to it, and many refused to get the vaccine because it was so new. We are all entitled to our opinions, but if we look at how many unvaccinated people have died when they got COVID to the number of vaccinated people that had a breakthrough infection and survived, it seems like an easy and logical decision. Scientists have stated that those who get the newest strain of COVID that are vaccinated have experienced less severe symptoms and heal faster than those who are unvaccinated. Recently, a friend of mine got sick with COVID. She has an underlying condition and was double vaccinated and had the booster, she has made a full recovery but might not have if she was not vaccinated. I think the decision to be vaccinated or not is a gamble with our lives and I am not a gambler!

Another issue everyone around the world is experiencing is the unbearable heat! Yesterday I had to go out to do a few things, which I normally do not have to do. The heat was so awful that walking from my front door to the truck caused more dizziness and irritation. Do you wonder why the heat is so out of control? Is there any doubt that global warming is real? The healthiest people in the world cannot tolerate this heat, so for anyone who battles with health issues, it can feel like their life is being sucked out of them. Extreme temperatures have always caused me additional problems with my Multiple Sclerosis, but the extreme heat is making things 100 times more intense. I told my husband yesterday that I am not leaving the house during the day anymore until at least November. I did look ahead at what the weather was going to be like next week and it looks as though more miserable days with heat are coming!

What are some of the most important things in your life? Do you think anyone should have to explain why they love who they love? Does it seem like there is too much hatred filling this world? I am unable to understand hate and I do not think I ever will understand it because, in my opinion, we are all human and deserve to be treated fairly and with compassion. We will never know what someone else is going through in life unless we try. Sometimes a person will have an unpleasant attitude because they are struggling with something in their life, but it is possible they just need someone to understand and offer them love. Do you ever think that being kind to another person might have a HUGE impact on their life and make a difference? I do without a doubt!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good weekend and staying safe. I am looking forward to reading your comments and hope that you have enjoyed this post. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. It is a little sad the weekend is becoming to an end soon and we will be getting ready for another long week, but if we view each week as an opportunity, it might make it a little easier😊! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Finally Friday!

Happy Friday, y’all! I hope you had a great week and you are looking forward to the weekend. This week has felt super long which included good, bad, and awful days. I already explained how things went on Monday with my doctor’s appointment and how incredibly rude they were to force me to reschedule when I was three minutes from their office. Yes, I am still a little sour about this because gas prices are insane and the traffic on the interstate is miserable, which they are fully aware of. Besides my frustrations with the doctor’s office, people have been ridiculously demanding and rude. I do not understand it, but I guess they never learned that you get more flies with honey than vinegar😊!

As we end this week, we need to not hold onto anything negative that occurred during the week. Something I have learned is, that we need to not dwell on things we cannot change and anything we have no control over we need to let go and move on. Why overthink something we have no control over and cannot change? I would like to share a quote with y’all today that I found interesting and incredibly true. No matter how many bad things may happen in life, many good things can unfold from the challenges and experiences we endure. We should always keep our eyes wide open and be accepting because this will help us deal with everything with dignity and grace!

Most of us are fully vaccinated, which is great, but we still need to be cautious. Many that have been fully vaccinated with two vaccines and a booster are becoming ill because of a new COVID strain. The good news is those that who are fully vaccinated are not getting gravely ill but still may get sick. The vaccines do not last a lifetime and unfortunately, we may need to continue getting vaccines to stay safe. As y’all know, I have a weak immune system, so my husband and I are going this weekend to get the 2nd booster. Honestly, I am not excited about this because the 1st booster had me sick for the entire weekend, but I would rather be sick for a few days than lose my life.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to all of your comments as quickly as I can. I hope you have a wonderful day and an incredible, and safe weekend! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Blessing OR A Curse?

Is it a blessing or a curse to be an emotional kind of person? I used to believe it was a blessing because this allows you to empathize with others, but over the last several years I am starting to think it is more of a curse. Anyone that can turn on the news and see what has occurred in the world, and not break down into tears, I envy them. So many times, even during the past month, I am unable to not do this. There have been SO many tragedies and lives destroyed throughout the world, and many were in the country I was born and raised in, which I find extremely appalling. Honestly, how seeing what has gone on in the United States, how can anyone still say they are “proud” to be an American?

I do not know any of the people who have gone through tragic times, but my heart still breaks for them. I cannot imagine what the parents have gone through and continue to go through after losing a child or the families that lost a loved one in the Uvalde school shooting. It was my last year in high school when Columbine occurred and even as a 17-year-old girl, it was horrifying. I will never forget that many thought it would be funny to pull the fire alarm to make everyone run outside, but I refused to do so after the first few because I knew what could happen as it did a week before they were pulling these immature pranks.

When I kept hearing the interviews with people who lost someone due to COVID-19, I would cry along with them. I will never understand what they went through saying “goodbye” to a loved one on a computer screen. Of course, I did not get to say “goodbye” to my late grandfather, but I was able to go to his funeral (which truthfully did not bring any peace for me as it was such a painful loss). It is hard enough losing someone we love, but not being able to say our goodbyes or have a proper funeral would be awful. Many people thought COVID ruined their lives because they were not able to do the fun things they always did before, had to wear a mask or get the vaccine or isolate at home, but the loss of a loved one or becoming ill due to COVID would be devastating.

I have seen some horrible images of Ukraine and interviews with people from the country. I might not find the way things are in the United States upstanding or positive, but at least, for the most part, we do not have to fear bombs and the military killing us daily. Of course, there have had far too many shootings in the United States, but the gunmen were typically deranged and mentally ill people with no morals or love for human life, which I guess can describe the individual responsible for attacking Ukraine.

I mentioned to y’all that my mother got married on Monday evening. Of course, I was not able to attend in person, but my husband and I watched the wedding via Zoom. It was a beautiful wedding and they looked very happy. I wish her and her new husband nothing but the best in life. I do think it is true that love can be unexpected at times and that good things come to those who wait!

I also told y’all I had a follow-up appointment with my pain management doctor. I am NEVER late for anything, but because of the insane stop and go traffic on the interstate, I was running 10 minutes late. I was three minutes from the office when the office called to tell me the Nurse Practitioner had to leave, and I was going to have to reschedule. I cannot explain how incredibly angry I was about this because every other time when I had an appointment, I was at least 15 minutes early and was forced to wait for the Nurse Practitioner for at least 30 minutes. I had just driven an hour and a half, left work early, and had to turn around and go back home! All I can say about this now is, I am glad the appointment was rescheduled in two weeks because I need that time to cool down and best believe, they better not have me waiting 30 minutes when I get there!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a good week and staying safe. The good news about today is, we are halfway to the weekend, so we are closer to the weekend than we were yesterday😊! I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

World of Hurt

I think we can all agree the past several years dealing with COVID fears has not been easy. The COVID pandemic put our lives on hiatus. All the things we wanted to do and took for granted were halted. It was not easy to be stuck at home all the time and only see the same four walls, day in and day out. While COVID has not vanished from existence, many have taken the necessary precautions by getting the vaccine. I still have hope that life can start becoming closer to the normal we once knew, but I do understand things do not always work out the way we want them to.

The truth is, we are only offered one chance at this life, so we should not waste any time on anger and hate. Instead, we should always continue growing, changing, learning, and striving to improve. Each day we encounter numerous challenges and struggles, which even though it is not easy to see in the moment, make us stronger and more courageous. No matter how difficult the challenges we face seem, if we can think of them as opportunities, they might get easier.

We have been dealing with stress and loneliness due to COVID for so long, that I can hardly remember what life used to be like. I cannot remember what we used to do on weekends or vacations. The only way I can view weekends now is time I do not have to work. It seems like for years we have had nothing to look forward to or be excited about.

Although I know cases and deaths from COVID have decreased, there are still lingering fears in my mind that I cannot erase. Besides COVID, other terrible things are occurring too often. I understand the United States will not take away the people’s right to guns, but something needs to change. We should not have to fear going to a grocery store, hospital, mall, movie theater, out to dinner, or children going to school. Gun control may help save lives or at least lessen the chance of an unstable person being able to purchase a gun. Assault rifles and semi-automatic guns are not meant to be in the hands of ordinary people and should only be used during war times. Schools, stores, restaurants, and hospitals are not acts of war.

Mental health has been a serious issue for decades, but it does not seem like anyone is trying to make changes. Those that suffer in silence and alone need to feel comfortable asking for help, without fear of ridicule, judgment, and not having the ability to afford help. There are too many people battling addictions, which can lead to depression and possibly death. Why should people be forced to suffer without any viable help? The United States is one of the wealthiest countries in the world, but the citizens cannot afford help, healthcare, or medications. That just does not seem right to me!

Unfortunately, we continue to live in a world of fears. We should all try to understand others and help when we can. Of course, we need to try putting our needs first because if we are not well, we will not be able to help anyone else. Putting our needs first is not selfish, which I do tend to have a hard time understanding because has always been in my nature to put other’s needs ahead of my own. This is something I am working on and know I will succeed with someday.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared today meaningful. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and remaining safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Never-ending Headache

Happy Sunday to y’all! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and of course, staying safe. I found out some slightly upsetting information the other day. The mother of a friend of mine from high school has COVID. Unfortunately, so many people are under the impression that COVID is something from the past and is long gone now, but the hard truth is, that COVID is still lingering around and invading the lives of too many. My husband and I have done everything possible to stay safe and I think we are the only two people in our circle of friends and family that have not gotten COVID.

I have been unable to do a post for several days now because I have been battling with an evil headache/migraine/sinuses. Over the past several days, this pain has eased up and came back full force numerous times. Considering I have been used to pain for over 20 years, I can normally ignore the pain, but head pain is something I have not learned to ignore. This typically puts me in the bed or on the couch with the cats in misery. If I had to guess, I think this is coming from the weather changes and stress. We are just now in June and the temperatures where I live have already been too close to 100 degrees. I am dreading the next several months of summertime heat!!!!

Regardless of any stress or pain, I cannot even begin to explain how excited I am for June 10th when I get to meet my literary idol, James Patterson. I know this meet and greet will only be a few minutes to tell him how honored I am to meet him, shake his hand, and hopefully get a picture with him, but those few minutes will be amazing! Many people dream to meet a celebrity or rock star, but this man is a rock star in my eyes. I am in complete awe of his writing abilities and only wish I had his talent. I do not think I have ever looked forward to something so much in my life. I am excited and a little nervous because I do not want to become tongue tide and not be able to tell him how much I appreciate his work and enjoyable books!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today and that you might have some advice for when you meet your idol! Today is the last day of the weekend, so I hope you enjoy it to the fullest. Tomorrow is another Monday when the new week starts, so rest up and get prepared. I am only working four days because I am off on Friday to go meet James Patterson. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa