September Suicide Awareness and Prevention Month

Spread Love & Not Hate

I have said it before, but I will say it again, life is anything but easy. Currently, we are under trying times and it has been painfully difficult for many months now. NO, COVID-19 has not gone away or anywhere close to it as the president claimed it would. With times being extremely difficult for every single person around the world, I think it is very important to bring some attention to something heartbreaking for many people. September is “Suicide Awareness and Prevention Month”

Suicide is not something that is discussed often because many people do not what they can or should say. Unfortunately, this is something that will impact families and friends long after the tragic loss of their loved ones. Those that are left behind will have to go through the rest of their lives wondering what they could have done differently, but the answers will vary between each person.

I am going to be sharing some very chilling, melancholy, and distressing information regarding this very delicate topic. Over 44,000 Americans each year take their own lives by committing suicide. With that being said, on average on person commits suicide every 16.2 minutes. Due to the global pandemic of COVID-19, there has already been a serious escalation in the number of suicides.

Sadly to say, suicide is the 4th leading cause of death in people between the ages of 18 and 65. Another incredibly sad and heart-wrenching statistic is for every death by suicide, there are approximately 25 suicide attempts. Men are four times more at risk than women to commit suicide and their most common way to do so is by use of firearms. The suicide rate for men is highest in those that are 75 and older. Men that are battling with substance usage are two to three times more likely to attempt suicide.

Unfortunately, more teens die by suicide than cancer, the flu, and AIDS combined. It is the 2nd leading cause of death in people between the age of 10 and 34. It is thought that 80% of teens who die by suicide showed some warning signs before taking their life, but some can keep their thoughts, pain, and plans hidden very well. That being said, 90% of teens who die by suicide have some type of mental health issue or issues.

While it is 2020 and we should be more evolved and accepting by now, but regrettably many are still not. LGBTQIA youth have four times greater of a chance to attempting suicide than other young people. Also, LGBTQIA individuals with unaccepting families are eight times more likely to attempt suicide than those that have more accepting, evolved, and understanding families.

It may not be easy or even always clear, but some warning signs could be alarming, urgent, and possibly a cry for help. The signs include, but are not limited to:

1.Talking about wanting to die

2 Searching or looking for a way to kill one’s self

3.Talking about not having any reason to live

4.Giving away valuable/prized possessions

5.Acting or displaying new anxiousness or agitation

6.Talking about being in unbearable pain

7.Sleeping too little or too much

8.Withdrawing or becoming isolated

9.Increased use of alcohol and or drugs

10.Showing rage and or seeking revenge

11.Displaying extreme mood swings

12.Talking about being a burden to others

13.Exhibiting new daring or risk-taking behaviors

14.Showing a lack of interest for any plans for the future

Helping someone with suicidal thoughts can be challenging and painful, but it may be possible that you could save their life. Several things have been suggested by professionals, which include the following:

Ask: It is completely natural to feel fear when doing this, but do not ever hesitate to come out and ASK the person if they think about dying or killing themselves. By simply asking them, know you are not putting the thoughts in their mind and it will not make them any more likely to attempt suicide.

Listen: Try starting a conversation with the person and just be an ear to LISTEN without passing any judgments. You need to only show that you care and are there for them. Produce a safe space for them to share their feelings and vent freely. One thing that will be important, do not swear to secrecy because, with this type of situation, you might not be able to.

Stay: Once you have started a conversation with the person and they have opened up to you, do not leave that person alone. Make sure you STAY with them or at least make sure they are in a private and secure space with another trustworthy and caring person until you can get further assistance and guidance.

Secure: If you have reason to believe or suspect the person may harm themselves, take them seriously. Be sure you REMOVE any, and all objects that could be used in a suicide attempt.

Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 and follow their guidance!

***CALL 911 if self-harm seems like an immediate need***

Many years ago, I worked at a children’s hospital. During my years at the children’s hospital, I worked with numerous children that attempted suicide. I would take the time to talk with the child and give them a chance to talk openly about what was causing them the troubles. Of course, I was not a nurse, therapist, or physician and was only a nursing assistant who could show compassion to a troubled teenager. Normally, I was the person that would ride with the child from the hospital to the mental health facility because it was required by law and I wanted to be there for the child. It was difficult listening to the child’s painful stories, but I was able to offer them some friendly and nonjudgmental advice. Some of these children were abused by a relative, others had a recent break-up, and others were troubled by bullies. Often times, children do not feel like they can open up to their parents and have no one they can trust to talk to, which is extremely sad. Children have a hopefully long and great life ahead of them and need role models and people they can trust. These young people are the future and should be encouraged instead of degraded and harmed.

I had a friend in high school that had a tragic and difficult life. She was able to open up to me about some of it and I had firsthand experience with much of what she said. This friend did have her first child our last year in high school, but she remained strong during this. Many years later after her husband and father of her children was murdered, one of her children committed suicide. I know this haunts her to this day and that breaks my heart. I wish I had been able to be there for her during these times, but I was already living 900 miles away and was only able to offer her support through messages and phone calls.

Typically, my posts are a lot more positive and uplifting than this one, but all the information in this post is crucial and needed to be shared. I am so sorry if this is something any of you have experienced and hope your heart is healing from the sadness and that you will be able to help another that goes through something as awful as losing a loved on to suicide. Times around the world are the hardest they have been in decades so now is a time to pay close attention to people that we care about. I believe we all need to stand together and support one another during these troubling times because it is the only way we will make it through with any sanity we have left.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are doing well, your weekend has been going well and you are staying safe. Y’all already know that I am a very sensitive person, so you will not be surprised that this subject hurts my heart. This is a time we need to support others and spread love and not hate! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday!

It’s time to let go of negative emotions from the week & enjoy the weekend!

Happy Friday y’all! We finally made it through the week and I hope you had a wonderful week! Do you have anything planned for the weekend? I know that any plans you may have, y’all will stay safe, right? I know this will come as a surprise to y’all, so brace yourself, I have nothing planned at all. I know you must think I just live a boring life, but truthfully, this is what I prefer because of my intense fears of COVID-19.

As this week finally comes to an end and with so much going on around the world that may cause some stress and or negative feelings, I think today is the perfect day to attempt to let those emotions go to hopefully enjoy the short weekend. The weeks are so long and the weekends seem to get shorter, we need to be able to enjoy it as much as we possibly can. I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing with y’all today encouraging and it helps you let go of any negative feelings you may be carrying with you.

It breaks my heart anytime I hear the news because there are so many awful things going on and not just with the virus. I have never understood why there is so much hate that is only building throughout the country. In my eyes, we are all simply imperfect human-beings with a heart and feelings. It does not matter how much money you have in the bank, the house you live in, the clothes you wear, cars you drive, or anything else because what matters is the way you treat others. I feel pretty confident that y’all agree with me on this, but please let me know what you think.

Thank you for visiting my site today. As always, I appreciate you taking the time to read what I have shared and I also love reading your comments, which I will respond to as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday!

Happy Friday Eve Y’all!!

We are almost to the end of the week, so how has your week been? I hope it has been a good week and I know you must be looking forward to the weekend, I know I am! As you might have guessed, I do not really have plans for the weekend! I like I sound like an old lady, who is just a home body and maybe that is partially right. I am just doing what I can to stay safe from COVID-19.

Now that our week is coming to an end, I think we could all use just a little pick me up! What do you think? I hope the quote that I am sharing with y’all will serve it’s purpose and it is to pick us up and guide us through one more day of the week! I am looking forward to reading your amazing comments, which I will respond to as quickly as I can!

I think I must be driving y’all crazy because I say this in pretty much every post, but it is because I care! I know there is a lot of talk about COVID-19 and I also know some of what we hear isn’t entirely true. What I do believe is, this virus isn’t going anywhere anytime soon and times are only getting more dangerous. We are all sick of staying at home and if we do leave the house, wearing a mask got old months ago, but I do believe it is something we need to continue doing.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful Friday Eve and all goes well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and may positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~Inspirational Wednesday~

We Are Half-Way There!

WOW, what a week! I can’t believe it is finally Wednesday and we are halfway until we finally get to the weekend! How has your week been? I hope you are having a great week and keeping yourself positive! For some reason, this week has been a little exhausting, but good. I know that doesn’t make a lot of sense because how can an exhausting week be good, but I enjoy being busy and doing well with my job!

With us being halfway through the week I think a little inspiration would help us get through two more days! I love the quote I am sharing with y’all today because it does hold a lot of meaning. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I promise to respond as quickly as I can!

I hope your week is going well and that y’all are staying safe! I am not sure how concerned y’all are about the virus, but it terrifies me. I do everything I can to keep myself and my family safe because I worry about my weak immune system. We have all heard those with weak immune systems should be extra careful because if we get the virus, it could potentially be deadly. I am not really ready to chance my life, so I stay home 99.99% of the time. If I do have to leave my house, I always weak a mask, practice social distancing, and wash my hands multiple times a day. Thank goodness for Bath and Body Works having great specials!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I always appreciate your continued support and love the great conversations we have! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday!

Here Is To A Great Tuesday!

We can say, one day down and four to go! How has your week started off? I hope it is going well and you are feeling as good as you possibly can! Y’all know I had to go yesterday for blood work and it was not all that bad. The worst part of the entire appointment was, nothing went the way it should have because the doctor did not put the codes on the paperwork that was required. Things happen and we all know nothing goes the way it should with medical things and doctors do not listen!

As we are entering the second day of our week, we need to do our best to remain optimistic and understanding. Things are not easy for so many people right now and I do know we should not stay in the negative land of COVID-19, but we do need to be practical and do what we can to stay safe. I hope the quote I am sharing will give you a sense of tranquility! I am looking forward to reading your amazing comments and I will respond as quickly as I possibly can!

I want to thank you for visiting my site today and I hope you have a wonderful and safe day! The week has just begun and hopefully it is going great and only getting better each day! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday!

Happy Monday! It Is Going To Be A Great Week!

I hope y’all had a lovely and safe weekend! Honestly, I did not do much of anything over the weekend and stayed safe. I did not really feel all that great, but I do think it had something to do with the weather. It kept raining on and off, which tends to cause pain and headaches for me. As we are entering a new week, that is a full week, hopefully, it will not feel as long as last week felt.

Unfortunately, I have to go get blood work done today because the unpleasant nurse at my specialist’s office has been on my case. I do not mind blood work and actually enjoy watching it, but with COVID being uncontrollable, I am not thrilled about going to the office. I will, of course, remain safe and wear my mask. Plus, I can check-in from my car and go in when they are ready.

As always, I think a motivating quote is helpful when starting a new week. I think a positive and motivating quote can set the tone for the week and hopefully the week will only get better each day! I do hope you will find the quote motivating and you enjoy it! I do look forward to reading your fabulous comments, which I will respond to as soon as I possibly can!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful week and of course, please stay as safe as you possibly can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday!

Finally, Happy Friday Y’all!

We finally made it through the week and even it was a shorter week, it certainly felt much longer! How was your week? I sure hope your week was great and you are looking forward to the weekend! Do y’all have any plans for the upcoming week? Y’all will not be surprised, but I have no plans. With schools opening here in the United States long before they should have, the numbers of COVID-19 are increasing drastically. I think it is safe to say that things are only getting more dangerous, instead of improving as they should be.

As our short week comes to an end, I believe we need a quote that might helps us to let go of any negative emotions so we are able can enjoy our weekend. Y’all know the weekends end up becoming shorter, so we need to be able to enjoy it as much as we possibly can. I do hope you will find the quote I am sharing helpful and do look forward to reading your thoughts on it!

Please know the only reason why I say this in every post is because I care, but whatever your plans are for the weekend remember to stay safe! COVID-19 is still very serious and dangerous. We have all been dealing with this for so long and we are all tired of it, but we need to not become negligent and continue practicing ALL safety protocols that have been shared for months now!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a great day and it isn’t too stressful. Even though my plans for the weekend are staying home, like always, I am still looking forward to not having to wake up early. There are plenty of things I can do around the house to keep me busy and that sounds like a perfect weekend to me! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve Y’all!

Thankfully, we have another short week and we are almost to the weekend again! How has your week been? Sometimes it feels like the short weeks are so much longer than they really are. Tuesday kind of felt like Monday on steroids. Even though the week has felt long and yesterday was an emotional day for me, things at work went well and busy. I prefer to be busy during my work day because it makes the day go by that much faster.

As we are approaching the end of the week and have one more day to get through, I want to share a quote that I hope will be a good pick me up for y’all! With the state of the nation still being in turmoil it can get difficult to stay optimistic, but we need to continue to try. I would love to read what you think about the quote I share with y’all today and promise you I will respond as quickly as I can!

I hope on this Friday eve y’all are still doing what is necessary to stay safe. Unfortunately, there is no know end to the COVID-19 crisis and we need to follow the guidelines that the top healthcare professionals advise. I do completely understand that wearing masks is uncomfortable, but the short-term discomfort can keep you alive and is worth it!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a great and safe day. As you prepare for the weekend I do hope whatever you have planned you will stay safe and enjoy the two days away from the work week! The weekends are short and you should do what makes you happy. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tranquil Tuesday!

We Must Fight Together, Not Against Each Other

Happy Tuesday y’all! I hope you had a lovely and safe long weekend! Surprise, I didn’t do anything but deal with a nasty headache/migraine and it wasn’t any fun! We are starting our new week off on Tuesday this week instead of Monday, which only means it is going to be a crazy Tuesday with a bit of a Monday revelation. Let’s just hope it won’t be too insane!

I did change my Tuesday post a little with thanks to my mother input! I hope you enjoy the new label! It will still have a quote included and a touch the togetherness we all need! I do hope you find the quote I am sharing uplifting and encouraging as we begin this week!

While we are all still dealing with COVID-19, it is still so crucial to stay as safe as we possibly can. I know it isn’t any fun wearing a mask and really feels pretty suffocating, but it is imperative to still do so. Practicing social distancing doesn’t cause us any difficulties, so it is rather easy to do. Washing our hands doesn’t really cause us any challenges and is easy especially when you have great smelling hand soaps! Many of us live an ocean apart and never come into contact with one another, but we are all in this fight together!

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed the quote I have shared and I do really look forward to reading your thoughts on the quote and this post. I hope you stay safe all week and you have a great day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

I hope y’all are having a great long weekend and that you are feeling great and staying safe! Do you have anything planned for today? I do hope no matter what you are planning to do, you will stay safe and listen to what expects are telling us. Unfortunately, even though many of us are off today for Labor Day, but COVID-19 does not take days off. In fact, I know many people are completely forgetting about this virus and doing what they would normally do to celebrate a holiday.

On Friday, my thoughts for the weekend were finish a few posts that I had started, organize a few things, and clean, which may sound pretty boring but sounded great to me. Unfortunately, something I never planned for invaded my long weekend and I ended up dealing with yet again another nasty headache. Things are a lot better today, but I still have a manageable headache and will do the best I can to finish those two posts that I had started. I swear there is never any planning or expecting a terrible headache, but it is something I should never dismiss because they happen.

I might be a little behind because of my horrible and evil headache/migraine, but I do want to share a great quote to help motivate us all at the beginning of this short week. I do hope you will find meaning within this quote and it will motivate you to keep pushing forward no matter what happens. Life is difficult and living with an incurable chronic illness does not help, but we are all powerful and can handle just about anything. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this quote.

I do not want to make any promises that I might not be able to keep, but I do want to finish a few posts I have started. One of these will not be pushed until Wednesday because it is all about what the date means to me. I hope the rest of your day goes well and you stay safe! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa