Time Away!

downloadIn today’s world it seems we are always rushing to get from one point to another without stopping to enjoy life. I think it is so important to take time to sit back and just try to relax. Planning time to have away from phones, tablets, computers, TV and any other electronic device can provide you with some peaceful quiet time that is much deserved. My job entails working on a computer all day long, so sometimes at the end of the day the last thing I want to do is continue looking at another computer. I always enjoy writing on my blog and reading other blogs, but I am trying to have a cut off time from electronics, really to give my eyes a break because the computer does cause my headaches to increase.

Everyone always says that life is so short, but in the big picture it really is not all that short! If we can make the most of everyday it really may not feel that short at times. There are people out there that live until they are in their 90’s or even until they are 100, but they lived the life they were meant to live as does everyone else. I think most people get so wrapped up in social media it completely consumes their lives and they end up sharing too much with people they do not really know. It is not safe putting your entire life out there on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media sites.slowdown

What do you do to relax after a stressful day? Do you have certain routines that can to me a little mundane? Funny thing is, I do have those routines that may seem a little boring to some, but I enjoy the peacefulness it brings to my life. Considering I have been trying hard to increase my hours at work it is nice to come home to a tranquil setting! Work can cause stress so if you can eliminate any unnecessary stress at home it is best for your health!

It is really hard to believe we are already into February! It seems like January went by incredibly fast! How is 2018 coming along for y’all? Are you enjoying the year so far? My plans for the New Year were to get learn to reduce my stress levels so that hopefully my pain issues would decrease. I have been trying to not allow other people’s negative outlooks affect my life and quit trying to fix everyone’s problems. It is in my nature to always want to help others, especially those that are close to me, but I have been able to take a step back knowing I can not fix the world! I do wish I had a magic wand and could take the pain away from all that are in pain, cure-all illnesses, not allow anyone to go hungry or not have a roof over their heads and so much more, but all I am able to do is listen when I can and help when I am able.

Even trying to reduce stress from my life my pain issues are still as high as they were last year and I am really not sure why! I do realize that life with MS does come with pain and hne_pain_and_suffering_it will get better in time. It is so frustrating when an illness is so unpredictable and there are really no answers to how to decrease the pain! But even through all the horrible pain I do still try to see the positive because this could all be so much worse than it is! This illness may cause me so much pain but in the big picture it has not taken anything away from me because I am still able to do things I want to do, even if I have to tone it down a little! I find it helpful and SO important to always try to find the good in all situations because no matter what you are dealing with, it could always be so much worse!

I hope y’all are having a fabulous week so far! Looking on the bright side, it is almost Friday! I want to thank y’all for stopping by my site today. As always I do love to hear your comments and will respond to you as quickly as I can! I hope you have a nice relaxing evening! Sending you lots of love and comfort always!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

 

 

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A few days MIA

Bright weekI have not made a post in a few days because sometimes life just gets too chaotic and it is hard to do the things I want to do. Life’s obligations can get in the way of good and fun times. Now whether it be work or household chores they all get in the way of leisure times. I know once I get home from work I am exhausted and do not feel like doing much of anything. Granted my job does only consists of being at a desk and most people would think that is not very tiring, but staring at a computer screen all day is exhausting! When you are sitting all day, not being active it weakens your muscles to the point they do not want to do anything else. I almost feel that my muscles go to sleep and do not want to wake up for any such reason. Plus being at a computer all day causes me to feel so much pain in my back and that pain alone makes me fatigued. 

I have been doing my best to increase my hours at work and I have been able to do 7 hour days. I am thankful that my job has been understanding with slowly adding to how much I am able to handle. I have noticed that I feel so much better earlier in the day, but then about noon I start feeling like I have been hit by a ton of bricks. I do however keep pushing a few extra hours so I can hit my 7 hour goal! 

Y’all already know that living life with an illness can add some additional stress and challenges to your daily life. How do you fight through pain when there is not any kind of relief? Even though things have not been easy lately I do still believe everything157213-Fight-Through-The-Bad-Days happens for a reason and somehow everything works out the way they are meant to. I do realize how clique that sounds, but I do believe every word of it.  

The weather plays  huge part in the way I feel. Rain and cold cause my body to feel terrible. We had a few days of bitter cold and I felt like a truck had run me over and backed over me just for good measure. Then Mother Nature decides it needs to be warm, so my body adjusts to that only to have the weather get cold again! Then we have days of sunshine, followed by days of rain or the threat of rain and I feel horrible! If we could just have weeks or months of the same type of weather I could be adjusted and stable!

I hope y’all had a great Monday! I hope the rest of your week goes absolutely wonderful! Always remember how important it is to stay positive even when it is difficult. Strength comes from positivity! As always, I appreciate you stopping by site today and please leave comments as I will respond to you just as quickly as I can! Sending y’all lots of love and comfort always!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

Making New Year’s Resolutions?

Happy New Year 2018 HD WhatsApp Status Images & Text StatusHow many of you believe it is important to set a New Year’s Resolution? If you do commit to a New Year’s Resolution, does it ever work the way you planned? I think many people make these monumental changes on the first of the year because it is good starting point but it may add unnecessary stress to your goals. I honestly cannot remember the last time I actually made a New Year’s resolution because I do not feel that making a positive change can only be done once a year.

There are numerous things I would love to be able to change or improve with my life, but do not really want to start a new year with any possible failures. For those of you that have been following my blog over the past 6 months or so, you already know from my posts that stress, healing from a flare up and struggling with daily pain are my key points that need improvement. I know that stress contributes to my pain, so logically I know eliminating or at least reducing stress from my life could drastically improve my quality of life. Acknowledging the problem and rectifying the issue takes time, dedication and patience but it can be done and I will find a successful path in handling stress better.

I feel that love is a vital part of our lives! Not only is it critical to have loved ones surrounding us, but it is just as important to have love for yourself as well. The more we are able to value ourselves the better we can take care of own needs, both mentally and physically. Many of us take pride in caring for our spouse, parents, children or other Best-Love-Wallpaper-for-Desktopfamily members with strong needs, but sometimes fail to take that same satisfaction with our own needs. On that same note, some take a lot more pleasure in caring for their own needs rather than anyone else’s which really does not mean they are being selfish, they may just be fulfilling needs that no one else has the time for. Between both sides, there must be some kind of equal balance point of caring for your own needs and other’s needs that I would love to be able to find. I am the type that will neglect my own needs in order to take care of someone else.

In the upcoming year I want to continue my blog because the past 6 months of blogging has been an amazing experience! Of course I want to continue writing about MS with the hope that some of my experiences will be beneficial to others battling similar issues, but I also want to write about other topics that I am passionate about. As I have already said in a previous post there is so much more to me than just MS and I want to be able to show that more in 2018!

2017 has been one hell of a year and I am truly delighted it is coming to an end! I am hoping that 2018 will come with come with promising comfort, happiness, love, respect and positive changes. I hope y’all have a very safe and Happy New Year! Here’s to welcoming 2018 with optimism and enthusiasm!! Continue to stay strong and always hold onto positivity as it can get you through hard times!! Much love to y’all!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Essentials for Chronic Illness

Sunday 1When you are first diagnosed with a Chronic Illness, what are the first things that go through your mind? I know when my doctor told me I had Multiple Sclerosis I thought my life was over! I was young and only knew it was a debilitating illness with NO cure insight. I lived the first year after diagnosed in denial and a lot of sadness. But, as I got older I realized my life was NOT over and I could live a pretty normal life! 

I have discovered there are crucial things that need to be done in order to control this disease as much as I can. The most important thing I can do is be positive about life. No matter what I deal with living with MS, it really could be worse. There are about 400,000 people just in the United States that live Multiple Sclerosis, some have a pretty “mild” case of this disease, whereas some have a really aggressive form. Yes, I deal with a lot of pain and some days are worse than others. But, I do not believe it helps me at all to create the lifesit and think about how much I hurt. I think it is better use of my time and energy to focus on the good aspects of life. I do have handicap parking because sometimes it hurts more to walk long distances. However, I do not have a walker or a wheelchair and have full function of my legs no matter how much they may hurt! I deal with a constant amount of pain in my back but shockingly enough a heating pad helps in short-term. 

I have the love and continuous support of a very loving family. I think painful and difficult times would be so much more difficult without love. I value my family more than I can even begin to explain. My husband is here with me day in and day out and will listen to me whenever I need to vent. He offers me SO much emotional support as we all have our bad days when we think that nothing will ever improve. When I have a weak moment and go to him crying because I just want all my pain to go away, he Love heartALWAYS assures me I will be okay and get better in time. He always makes sure I have everything I need in order to be comfortable when I am resting to get well! My husband has an incredible amount of patience and tolerates my stubborn behavior like a champ! My biggest problem is I want to do everything and never ask for help, but he works hard to get me to do less and rest more!

Another essential for living with a chronic illness is, getting the rest your body needs. As I have already made clear, I am really bad at this but doing my best to improve. I feel like I am being lazy when I just sit on the couch watching TV, but there are times I realize that is what my body is asking me for. Getting plenty of rest does not necessarily mean you need to sleep all the time, but it does mean you need to take time to turn your brain off and relax!

It is also essential to reduce stress from your life as much as possible. Life does come with stress whether it be work, relationships, money, health etc but we do have the relaxchoice on what extra unnecessary stress we allow into our thoughts. Is it really important for us to try to solve and worry about the problems a friend or family member might be experiencing? Now it does depend on the problem! If a family member is coping with something they just need someone to talk to someone about, that is perfectly fine as long as it does not consume our life to an unhealthy point. I have the compassion where I always want to help, but I also know there are certain things I can not do anything about and need to take a step back from the situation. 

It is vitally important to love and value yourself. If we do not take care of our own health, we will not be able to be our entire self. Sometimes it is urgent for us all to take a break and think about what we enjoy! It is not selfish to think about what we need in life, which I am honestly still working on!

Thank you for reading and commenting of my thoughts for the day. I hope you had a lovely and relaxing weekend! Hopefully y’all are ready for yet again another Monday. Thankfully, I have a short week so I can only hope it is an easy week as people are preparing for the holidays! As always, stay strong and positive and good things are bound to occur! Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Holiday Love and Stress

christmas-loveThis year has been almost like a blur for me. So much has happened in my own life and the world we live in it is hard to keep up. We are somehow only 9 days away from Christmas, which is supposed to be a happy holiday to celebrate with family but it also brings on so much stress especially when you are unprepared for it. It seems like we went from the grueling hot summer straight into chilly Christmas time. My favorite season is Autumn, but it did not stay around long. I know it has been said “Time flies when you are having fun”, but 2017 has not been all that fun so I have no clue where time went!

What do you feel is the true meaning of Christmas? Christmas for me has never been about the gifts we get but it is about the gift of love we are able to share with those close to us! So many seem to view it as a time to spend a ridiculous amount of money on gifts for family and friends, but forget that there is much more to it! There are so many in the world we live in that are not even able to have a roof over their heads much less gifts under a tree. There are children out there that not fortunate enough to have parents that love them enough to take care of their basic needs, like safety, food and warm clothes in the cold weather. Some are not healthy enough to enjoy the holidays and are not able to afford the proper medical needs gift of loverequired. Excellent and affordable medical attention seems like finding a unicorn underneath a rainbow, very unlikely! 

My husband and I have been battling medical issues for several months now, but we are blessed enough to have each other during these difficult times. I find it extremely important to not dwell on what has happened but on what will happen moving forward. What occurred yesterday is in the past and it could have been a lesson learned to provide a better today! There is always room for improvements in our life if we just accept the changes graciously with an open mind!

With the holidays, the next few weeks at work will be shorter to allow family time. My office has a half day Friday, closed Monday for Christmas Day and then closed the following Monday for New Year’s Day! Hopefully with having 2 holidays in a row things will slow down at work and days will be nice and calm! I will be keeping my 6 hour work days through the new year so I do not have any set backs with my health. I am very aware that stress has been the main factor with the relapse I did have and for it taking SO long to heal, so I am trying my best to keep my stress low. I do find it hard to keep my stress levels low because life can be complicated and some days are harder than others! Honestly, I do noticed a dramatic difference in how I am feeling when stress gets high. Literally I can go from feeling relatively normal to horrible in about 2.5 seconds if I allow myself to get stressed. I guess the first step is acknowledging the issue and the second step in implementing a change to improve the problem! I have made it through the first step but get a little stuck on the second step. 

I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are not too overwhelmed by holiday planning! Remember to take time for yourself and know how important you are! Having the ability to care about yourself will allow you to take better care of those you love! Enjoy the rest of this beautiful Saturday and continue to be your positive and fabulous self! Much Love Y’all!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

Stress, how does it affect your life??

stress-symbolStress is something that plagues us all at one point or another. Unfortunately, no one is immune to stress. There are so many suggestions that are easily available online or in books as to what you can do to manage your stress, but what will work?

I am the type of person that will get stressed about things I logically know I can not control. My problem is, I always want to help those I care most about. When someone I care about is struggling, it affects me deeply. However, I do understand how crucial managing stress is because I know how negatively it can impact MS.stress about stress Considering I can fully admit how poorly I manage my own stress, I decided to look up online ways to handle it better. Through numerous articles, I stumbled upon this one https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/stress-management.htm#importance. Some of the information maybe pretty obvious but it did truly open my eyes as to what I can do better.

Personally, I know what my stressors are but I tend to try to ignore them and just move forward instead of addressing the situations. It isn’t a healthy way to handle things but I do not like confrontation. Confrontation alone causes me way too much stress. My goal is to learn healthier ways to address the things in life that I know are my main stress contributors. charlie brown stress 1

My ways of coping with the stress I face in life has never included unhealthy methods such as binge eating, drinking or sleeping too much. I would say the most unhealthy way I have coped is procrastinating addressing the issue and maybe from time to time taking it out on who ever is nearby. Those unhealthy methods are not common for me though. I think my best coping mechanism is reading a good book and writing. Reading helps me to relax and not dwell on whatever it is that is weighing on my mind. Of course writing allows me to get all my emotions out so I can think of a logical way to move forward!

As always I want to end this post with a question. What do you do to manage your stress? Your responses are greatly appreciated and helpful. I enjoy reading your suggestions and experiences and will always respond to you. I hope the rest of your weekend is fantastic!

 

Take Care, AlyssaHope for cure