*Rest & Alone Time Good for the soul!*

let-discuss.jpgLet’s have an open and honest discussion about something that is very important to all of us! What do you do when there are several things you either want to do or need to do, but your body is screaming for you to stop and rest?  Do you try your best to ignore pleads from your overworked and weary body and keep going on? Or do you take a step back and listen to what your body is begging you for? Honestly, even though I know it would be best to rest, I tend to push myself not to stop or even slow down at all.life changes

Considering I do want to start making positive changes in my life, I wanted to find out how beneficial restful alone time can be for a person. This is going so sound a little crazy, but I almost felt like this information was granting me permission to have my pleasant alone time and not feel guilty or selfish for doing so.

Unfortunately, finding peace in the world today isn’t an easy task to take on and can exhaustingPositive Life Affirmation and Old Thought Patterns

to try. We see so much hatred and negativity every single day and that is SO WRONG! Even with that said, I do still believe, although it may only be short lived, there are minor things we can do for peace and comfort. I am going to list a few benefits to having your own personal and quit alone time!

  • Alone time gives you the opportunity to unwind and reboot your brain. If your brain is constantly turned “ON”, you are not giving your brain a chance to replenish itself. Time alone with no distractionsimages (7) allows for you to clear your mind, focus, and think a lot more clearly than before. This gives you the chance to revitalize both you mind and body!
  • Alone time can help improve concentration skills and even increase your productivity. If we can remove distractions and interruption from our lives the best we can, our concentration abilities will improve, which will help you get more work done, images (8)is less the time. Spending time by yourself gives you time to discover who you are and to hear your voice. When you are in a group with other people, you tend to just go along with whatever others said, even if it isn’t the action you think would be best.
  • You will have an opportunity to think far deeper if you are left alone with your thoughts, rather than in a group. On a normal day we are thinking or stressing about what our to-do list entails. Try to take short periods of time to sit alone and allow your thoughts to come alive!deep-quotes-every-saint-has-a-past-every-sinner-has-a-future-oscar-wilde-wisdom-quotes
  • It is often difficult to work through our troubles when we are surrounded with interruptions from either other humans or electronics. We do have a better chance to solve our problems if we take time and process things alone.
  • Spending time alone can improve your relationships. If you have spent time by yourself, you will have a better understanding of who you are and who you want to surround yourself with. Once you spent time alone, you will be able to appreciate Zenspirations®_by_Joanne_Fink_Blog_12_4_17_Let_Ypur_Creativity_Shineyour relationships with more love and honesty.
  • Alone time creates a space for creativity to grow and expand! Spending time alone allows your mind to wander candidly activating the brain’s default mode network that is responsible for most original thoughts and ideas.
  • Spending time alone increases self-sufficiency. This gives you the chance to self-reflect and even become comfortable with who you are. You will also be motivated to form your own opinions, free from judgment and criticism from others.

I hope you have found this information as interesting and helpful as I did. I believe allb0c97863a133d3e681c89beadb0f7a6b--art-tutorial-inspirational-posters of us should be learning more and evolving. I really appreciate you taking time to read this. I am not pushing you make a comment, but I would really like to encourage you to do so. I look forward to reading your thoughts because all of you are pretty great. I hope your weekend has been full of happy time and pain free! Please always remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤ , comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

P.S I hope everything came out okay with this post, WP was giving me troubles this evening

Let It Go Friday!

just breathGood morning y’all and happy Friday! I have been looking forward to this day all week because I only have to work 3 hours today and then have the entire weekend off! I really need this time away from all the pressures and stresses work is causing me and to focus on things that bring me joy.

I think way more often than not, I hold onto the stress that others are causing me and the pressure that comes along with it. One of my co-workers has hated her job original-3584403-1since she started because it feels like a hostile work environment. She is the assistant manager and the property manager does not communicate with her at all, but instead avoids even talking to her. He seems to expect her to know everything without the proper training. I think we already established the fact that my manager is an absolute moron and treats people so wrong. I am happy for my ❤ sweet friend because she found another job where I hope she will be happier and way more appreciated. I am definitely going to miss her❤, but we are going to stay in touch❤!

My other co-worker opened up to tumblr_lpmzts804m1qimgijus today about things he has gone through in life. The stories he told us broke my heart 💜 and yet I really understood most of what he has gone through in life. It is kind of funny, we never really know what someone else has dealt with in life because we weren’t there, but when they confide in us, we can give them the support they truly deserve and need💜

Today being Friday is a great day to start letting go of all the stresses from the week and just breath a sign of relief. We made it through another rather long week and now we can kick back and relax. The quote I am sharing with you today is very powerful and will have different meaning to all that read it.let go7

Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤ for stopping by my site today. I look forwardimages (6) to reading your amazing thoughts on this quote and everything else I shared today. I hope y’all have a lovely day and you are looking forward to the weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Let It Go Friday!

maxresdefaultHappy Friday y’all! I hope you had a lovely ❤ pain and stress free week! Now let me be honest,  just typing “pain and stress free week” almost seems like a fairy-tale or climbing Mount Everest in heals. I am not even sure I can remember a week or just a day, where there was not something that caused stress or pain. I do believe life can be difficult, but through all the difficulties ❤ life can still be beautiful. 

I think it is much better to not dwell on any of the hardships we have faced or are currently facing because all the stress in the world will never change the outcome. I find it is much healthier, both physically and mentally to just accept when it is time to just LET GO. Letting go is not giving up, it is just a way to take a time out so you can think a lot more clear. Each-time-we-face-our-fear-we-gain-strength-courage-and-confidence-in-the-doing.

Through my years, I have learned when I am overwhelmed the only way I will ever succeed is to take a short break away from my work location. If I do not walk away from a negative situation, I will probably make an ugly comment or remember something awful from the the past few days, as crazy as that might sound!images (2)

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed and found meaning in the quote I have shared. Isn’t it better to let go of all the negative feelings from all those awful situations we have dealt with and gain much more, like strength, courage and confidence? I hope you had a great week and you are looking forward to some time. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

Coping with Chronic Pain

Sunday-QuoteCoping with chronic pain while still trying to maintain a normal life seems almost impossible at times and even a little frustrating! The beginning of this week was hard for me because I was on my feet way more than I could tolerate. I was truly thankful for the two days off I had, but work on Saturday was absolutely insane!

Currently I work at an apartment community in what should be a low stress position because I am just a leasing consultant. I arrived to work at 10:00 am and at 10:02 I had my first people arrive saying they were supposed to be moving in that day. There was no information anywhere on the other Restartleasing consultant’s desk and the manager keeps his office locked, which makes absolutely NO sense!!I ended up calling my co-worker on his day off, after all this was his lease and should have been handled on Friday. I was not at all surprised that he did not know which apartment the couple was moving into or what they owed. We tried contacting the property manager, who of course did not answer his phone or return the phone call. I ended up having to explain to the couple we would have to postpone their move in date until Monday because I was not able to get any of the information we needed. Thankfully, they did still have their other apartment, so they chaouswould not be forced to get a hotel room for the weekend.

The second person arrived at about 10:30 and this was my lease, so I knew what needed to be done. The gentleman just needed to view the three apartments I had available for his move in date. Consider his move in date was not right away, I was not allowed to hold a normal apartment for him. The three I was able to hold were slightly modified to accommodate a handicap individual, which he is not. Even though I disagreed with this situation, I did this at the direction of my manager! Thankfully he was satisfied with the first one because he wanted to be closer to the front of the community. This was the easiest situation I had to deal with all day!download (4)

Once I got back to the office, after showing the three apartments, there was another person waiting because she was also supposed to be moving in. With no surprise at all there was very limited information on my co-workers desk regarding the move-in, but at least I was able to find what the apartment number was and what the new resident owed. Unfortunately, the important things that were missing were the lease to be signed and keys to the apartment. My guess is the lease was in my manager’s LOCKED office and no one informed maintenance of the correct move-in day. I was able to work around the issues by giving the young lady the ONLY key we had and asking her to come into the office on Monday to sign her lease and get the real keys.

I do not handle things well when simple things do not go well. I remember asking my co-8767492ff9e8b5334f5408fde751e388-thankful-for-grateful-for-300x237worker early in the week to make sure ALL his move-ins were completed, which would have meant walking through the apartment to ensure there were NO issues, the lease was signed and apartment keys were waiting in the file. I gave him several days’ notice to handle things properly and in my opinion how he handled them were unacceptable. I blame him and the manager for how terrible things went yesterday, but I do plan to make some suggestions on Monday morning so this kind of thing NEVER happens again! I do not think this sets a horrible feel for someone moving in to a new apartment when nothing was handled in an appropriate manner!

The entire day was a total disaster and most of the issues could have and should have been images (1)avoided. Another HUGE issue I was dealing with was, phone call after phone call with residents complaining their air conditioner was not working. The maintenance person informed me that the new management company was not allowing them to buy Freon from the vendor they had been using for years, but did not have another vendor lined up. The residents are paying to live these apartment and therefore important things like a working air conditioner when the temperatures are in the high 90’s is a priority and should Work-Quotes-Jim-Collins-in-his-book-Good-To-Great-shares-that-we-need-to-get-the-right-peoplalso be a requirement!

By the end of my day on Saturday, I was not only over-heated, fatigued and in an insane amount of pain, but I was also extremely irritated. It is not fair to force someone to pay for an apartment and then not fix things that break! If I am not mistaken, it is in the lease agreement what each party is responsible for.

It is now Sunday and my last day of the my short weekend before going back to work five days in a row. Unfortunately, even though I am trying to rest, my pain is still rather high. It seems like things have just continued to add up for me and I almost feel like I am trying to walk uphill in quicksand! At this point all I can do is hope this upcoming week will go much better and things will start to ease up.download (4)

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I am sorry this was a bit of rant, but my goodness if only people could act right, I would not have to go on rants! I always appreciate you and your amazing comments! I hope you have had a lovely weekend and you are able to enjoy the last day of it. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

What brings you happiness?

Tough-times-dont-last-tough-people-do.-300x300There are many times during our lives when things get very difficult! I feel like it is important to do our best to push those feelings aside and not dwell on the negative. Is this easy? Absolutely NOT, but sitting around allowing for the hardships to dictate our life will never do us any good. I find that during the difficult times, we must try to think about what brings us joy. Maybe flooding our minds with the positives will actually bring them into reality; we will never know 100% unless we try it!

I want to ask you a question and really look forward to reading your response. To show how much I want to do the same, I will answer my question for y’all!beautiful times

What are five things that bring happiness to your life?

The answer to my question is:

  1. The love ❤ I share with my husband is quite powerful and never-ending.
  2. My two absolutely adorable and loving cats. I don’t think anyone could be around them and not find joy!
  3. It makes me very happy to be able to write what I want to 
  4. write about.
  5. The incredible connections I have been able to make through my blog. Y’all have truly been amazing and I am thankful for all of you!
  6. Travelling to new places when we are able or even travelling to places we have been many times before. The beach  is by far my preference.

motivational-quotes-for-someone-down-with-i-might-fall-but-will-not-stay-gym-2During times when I get very stressed or very upset, these are the things that can change my mood. My husband knows what I am feeling and thinking before I even say it out loud. Even though there was no consoling me after my accident, if he did not get to me as quickly as he did, I would have been much more upset and terrified! Both of my cats know when I am feeling horrible and or in pain, so they do not leave my side or shall I say my lap until they think I am feeling a little better! It is hilarious both of them trying to fit on my lap because even though the older cat is very petite, the younger one is a big boy!download (1)

I know I have said in earlier posts that writing is the best outlet for me.  Writing has always been one of my strongest passions and I have no doubt my love for writing will never fade. By continuing to read what I share, y’all are not only giving me the opportunity to continue to write, but also the chance to make great friends that truly understand!

During the truly frustrating times after the accident I had last week, I am trying my best 0fb54ae29b2fd5f0b57ec18d819ce11eto keep these positive things in my mind! We are currently waiting for the driver that was in this accident to accept responsibility because there needs to be payout for the repairs and a rental car for me. I will never understand this considering the police report stated clearly it was his fault! I mean who is really ever going to take responsibility for their wrong doings when they can just prolong the situation by either not answering calls or denying responsibility all together? It is pretty ridiculous, but I am trying to be patient which isn’t one of my strongest qualities.

Thank you for visiting my site today and I do look forward to reading your answer to my HOW_TO_THINK_WHEN_LIFE_GETS_DIFFICULTquestion! There are two options we have when it comes to being happy. One is we can hold onto and dwell on negative emotions or choose to remember the things that bring us the most joy in life and hold onto those instead! I do hope you will take a few moments to answer my question, but I understand if you aren’t able to. Of course I will love to learn what makes you happy and I will respond to all comments as soon as I can! Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Things I didn’t know about Gluten Intolerance!

good-evening-images-63Good evening y’all! I hope you are having a good week so far and hope it stays pleasant! Just think, we already made it through two days of the week, so we are almost half way there!

Y’all already know I have been battling with what I thought was a nasty stomach bug, but after doing a little research I do not think that is the case anymore. Of course I haven’t seen a doctor about it because I do not have insurance, but I think I figured it out on my own. I am about 99.9% sure I have developed Gluten Intolerance. I guess that is actually a good thing because understanding what is images (1)going on and understanding how to handle it will provide me with some relief or at least I hope it will! Obviously I am not a doctor, but I think I am familiar enough with the body I have lived in for almost 38 years. I am going to share with y’all what I have learned and please if you have any other helpful tips or ideas, please let me know!

Wheat-Gluten-IntoleranceI first want to clarify a few important details I have learned! Gluten Intolerance is often confused with other issues, like Celiac Disease or food allergies, but there are some differences and similarities. Gluten is a protein found mainly in wheat, barley and rye. This protein can cause digestive problems like gassiness, abdominal pain or diarrhea. With food allergies, the immune system overreacts to a particular food causing various reactions and levels of severity. Celiac Disease is an inherited autoimmune disorder that can damage the small intestines, but Gluten Intolerance almost mimics this.

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  1. Bloating: This is when the belly is swollen or full of gas after eating. This is very common and does occur in 87% of individuals with Gluten Intolerance.
  2. Diarrhea, constipation and smelly feces: About 50% of individuals with gluten intolerance deal with diarrhea and 25% experience constipation. This is when you would experience inflammation in the gut after eating gluten. This damages gut lining, leading to poor nutrient absorption.
  3. Abdominal Pain: This is something else that is very common with Gluten Intolerance. 83% of individuals living with this intolerance experience abdominal pain.
  4. Headaches:  About 10-12% of the Western population experiences migraines. People with Gluten Intolerance are prone to migraines. 
  5. Feeling Tired: This is also being very common, leading to 60-82% of individuals with Gluten Intolerance experience this. People with this condition are prone to Gluten-Intolerance-Symptoms-Do-You-Have-Themfatigue and tiredness, having very low energy. Gluten Intolerance can cause iron-deficiency anemia. This is a condition in which blood lacks adequate healthy red blood cells. Red blood cells carry oxygen to the body’s tissues
  6. Skin Problems: There is a blistering skin condition called Dermatitis Herpetiformis, which is a manifestation of gluten-sensitive enteropathy, commonly known as celiac disease. This is not as common and can improve once on a Gluten-Free Diet!
  7. Depression:  Depression is not as common and only affects 6% of those living with11246-health-1-1 this intolerance. People with digestive issues seem more prone to both anxiety and depression.-Even though depression is not too common, there are a few theories for how Gluten Intolerance can lead to depression.*Abnormal  serotonin levels. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter allowing cells to communicate and is commonly referred to as “Happiness” hormones.

    *Gluten Exorphines, these peptides are formed during digestion of the gluten proteins. The gluten proteins may interfere with the Central Nervous System, which may raise the risk of depression.

    *Changes in gut microbiota. This is increased harmful bacteria and decrease beneficial bacteria increasing the risk of depression.

  8. Unexplained Weight Loss
  9. Iron-Deficiency Anemia: This causes symptoms such as low blood volume, fatigue, 6-signs-of-gluten-intolerance-300x165shortness of breath, dizziness, headaches, pale skin and weakness.
  10. Anxiety: This can affect anywhere from 3% to 30% of people worldwide. Involves feelings of worry, nervousness, unease and agitation. People with gluten intolerance are more prone to anxiety and panic disorders.
  11.  Autoimmune Disorders: Even though Gluten Intolerance is a separate issue from Celiac Disorder, I thought it would be good to share this as well. Celiac Disease is an autoimmune disorder causing your immune system to attach the digestive tract after consuming gluten. Typically people with gluten intolerance also have another autoimmune diseases to cope with.Gluten-Intolerance-Symptoms
  12. Joint and Muscle Pain: There is a  theory that people with Celiac Disease have a genetically determined over-sensitive or over-excitable nervous system. Gluten exposure may cause inflammation in gluten sensitive people. This inflammation may result in wide-spread pain, including joints and muscles.
  13. Leg or Arm Numbness:  Neuropathy symptoms involving numbness and tingling in the arms and legs.
  14. Brain Fog: This issue affects up to 40% of those with Gluten Intolerance. Forgetful, difficulty thinking, feeling cloudy and mental fatigue.

After learning more about this the things I deal with almost make more sense in  a way. Battling with stomach issues for over on month, numerous headaches/migraines, ud6zQ3sJTmewbULOd0n7_Beyond-Gluten-Free-Article-2018-1280x720-1constant feeling of fatigue, obnoxious levels of anxiety, nervousness, worrying and quick agitation, dizziness at random times, weakness, joint and muscle pain, numbness and cloudiness in my mind. I always blamed so many of these symptoms on Multiple Sclerosis and maybe that is still the case, but maybe it is a Gluten Intolerance causing more of it. 

I am doing my best right now to change my diet, but it really isn’t easy. I bought several gluten-free products at the grocery store, clementines and carrots, but honestly have not seen much of a change. Logically, I have only been trying this for a couple of days and I know it takes time for this type of change, but at least I am trying! Do y’all have any advice you would be willing to share? I know you always have great ideas and fantastic suggestions that I do appreciate!download

Thank y’all for stopping by my site today and I am sorry this was a little longer than most of my posts, but there was so much information to share. I hope you have a lovely and relaxing evening and of course I hope you are feeling well! I know it often takes me longer to respond to your comments, but I promise to respond as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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Truths of stress!

the-biggest-killer-in-this-world-is-stress-and-the-14748167.pngHave you ever asked your self what exactly stress is and what the heck causes it? I know I have more times than I can count, using all ten fingers and toes! Do you know what stress can actually do to you both physically and mentally? It is a difficult thing to control and even harder to eliminate it from our daily lives.

Stress can feel like a reoccurring nightmare that you just can’t wake up from and it can happen anytime. Often you might feel you have it under control because you think you have identified and solved what was causing your stress, but it always seems to return with an evil vengeance! It can actually make you feel like you are drowning in the darkest and deepest ocean without a life vest available.2stress_jokes_600x4502-600x400

Stress can make us feel overloaded and leave us wondering how we will ever cope with the stress that was put on us. This issue can change our views and perspectives on life and it isn’t ever for the better, or at least it never is for myself. I am sure you have heard before that stress is a killer, well sadly there are many reasons this is very true!! There is absolutely NO logical reason why I can’t stop feeling like this more often than not!

stress 2Y’all probably already know the difference between stress and stressors, but I just want to clarify this a little more. A stressor is the agent actually causing the feelings of stress. These are things we respond to in our environment and can range drastically! Stress is the numerous feelings we have when faced with pressures!

I know how incredibly difficult and painful it is to live with stress. Even though I am stress-illustrationfully aware of the dangers, I continue to battle with this. Personally, I have battled stress for 37 years and tend to worry about anything and everything! I think it is highly likely I was even a stress case while my mother was pregnant with me! Damn, I imagine I was a difficult child and probably worried if my dolls and other toys were happy. Can you even imagine dealing with a toddler that has these feelings? I think my mother probably does!

There are many emotional and physical disorders that are linked to stress. A few of these disorders include: depression, anxiety, heart attacks, strokes, hypertension (high blood pressure), stress-info.pngimmune system disturbances that increase susceptibility to infections, common colds and so much more. Now for those of us living with an already weak immune system, it really should be a no brainer stop stressing, if only it was that easy!

There are many signs and symptoms attached to stress, but I am only going to list a few so this  isn’t an insanely long post. Many of these I was fully aware of, like headaches, pain and panic attacks, but there are also some I wasn’t aware of. Just a few of these signs and symptoms I may have symptoms of stressknown about, but never associated them with stress are dizziness, fainting, dry mouth, ringing sounds and cold/sweaty hands/feet.

My doctor and Nurse Practitioner (NP) have been telling me for decades that stress can and will cause my health to deteriorate, but I never listened to them because I don’t know how to not worry. I mean, how crazy is it to tell a person that already becomes stressed easily something that would cause anyone to worry? One of usatcollege-CollegeUSAT-567808-stressthe last times I saw the NP she told me I shouldn’t write on my blog much because it would cause me to feel anxious. Even though I do value her opinions because she did work closely with my first specialist, I told her she couldn’t be more wrong. Writing has always provided me the absolute best form of therapy and relaxation!

As I wrap this post up, let me as y’all a few questions. Do you face a lot of stress in yourLoyola-why-is-nursing-school-so-stressful-4-stressors life? Obviously I know living with a chronic illness does cause unwanted feelings of stress, but how do you handle these feelings in  a healthy and beneficial way? Knowing how incredible each of you are, I will value and appreciate learning how you combat these feelings.

Thank y’all so much for stopping by my site today! Of course y’all already know that I do encourage your comments, but I also will never pressure you to do this. I hope you are having a wonderful weekend and you are able to do what brings you the most joy because that is what you deserve! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤