Tranquil Tuesday

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Hello Tuesday! I hope that making it until Tuesday means that your Monday went well and you are feeling good about the week ahead. I do not want to get ahead of myself, but the two interviews I had yesterday seemed to have gone well and I even have another interview scheduled for Friday with another company. There is no denying that the last month has been slightly upsetting and a little discouraging, but there is a lot to say when we do not give up and throw in the towel. Many things in life are unsettling and can make us feel defeated, but the only way we can fail and be completed defeated is if we give up. I cannot lie there were many times during the past week I wanted to give up and surrender, but I think I am a little too stubborn or rather determined to do so.

I want to be able to help others surpass times of struggle because we all need to be lifted during our lives. Someone I know through Shipt delivery and now consider a good friend helped me see that I do deserve more in life than the past month provided. I respect other’s privacy, so I never share names but will be sure that she sees this! I want her to know how much she has helped me and how much I appreciate her! I think it is amazing how true it is that we do not encounter people by mistake because everyone enters our life for a reason!

The quote that I am sharing with y’all today, I found encouraging and meaningful, and hope it will do the same for you. I will explain why I found this so meaningful but would love to know what you think as well. There are always going to be some issues in life that may break us, but there are just as many reasons to smile. I know the most challenging times in life can cloud seeing the reasons to smile, but I promise they are there we just have to look a little deeper!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will be responding to all of your comments as quickly as I can. Hopefully you are having a good week so far and your week continues to get better until we make it to Friday again. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Been a while

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Catching-Up-and-My-Favorite-ThingsWOW, it feels like it has been forever since I did anything in the blogging community! While I was on my much needed vacation with my husband last week, I took a short break from doing anything involving a computer. The two of us went to my happy place, the BEACH, not only to celebrate my birthday, but also our 8 year wedding anniversary ❤. We had an amazing time together and had absolutely beautiful weather! It was so great being far away from the stresses of work and be able to just sit back listening to the ocean waves! I honestly find the sight and sounds of the ocean 🌊, while reading a great book to be the best way to relax and refresh!

I am very far behind on reading all of your posts, which I already know are fantastic. its-been-a-whileUnfortunately, I do have to work the weekend so I can’t say I will be able to catch up, but I will still try.

Considering I have been away for almost 2 weeks now, how have y’all been doing? I hope you are feeling well and your month has started off great! October is beautiful and my favorite month, which I am not just saying that because it is the month I was married in. I have always enjoyed the change in weather during October. Normally it isn’t too hot and not that cold, it is just right! Sounds kind of like Goldilocks and the Three Bears, but yet so true! Of course the southern states are not always on the same page with my thought process and it was in the high 90’s ☀ for the first week of October, but thankfully over the weekend the temperatures are going to drop! It is crazy though because when I say the temperatures are going to drop, I mean drop more than 20 degrees in one day!

Like I already stated, my husband and I had a wonderful vacation. Of course it wasn’t long c620x376enough and it was painful to return to work. The insane thing is we didn’t get home until the early morning hours and I had to work that day. I was so exhausted; nothing bothered me at all because my mind was still at the beach and maybe I was half asleep still. Of course things not bothering me only lasted half a day and I will tell you more about this later. My boss is still the same idiot he has always been!

For my birthday we had a lovely dinner at a restaurant that was oceanfront 🌊! vacation and celebrationConsidering we were at the beach during the off season it wasn’t overly crowded, which was great! Thankfully my husband did not tell the waitress it was my birthday, so I didn’t have to deal with the wait staff singing happy birthday to me and embarrassing me. I do not like to be center of attention and would prefer to go unnoticed! 

The day after my birthday we went to another oceanfront restaurant to celebrate our 8 year wedding anniversary ❤! Back to back celebrations were nice and peaceful! It is so hard to believe we have already been married for 8 years ❤, I mean where does the time go? I still remember the day my husband proposed like it was yesterday and that was 9 years ago!

Sunrise at the beachI don’t know about you, but before last week there were times I was awake at sunrise, but never actually watched the sunrise. Standing out on the beach in the early morning hours watching the sun come up was a beautiful sight and pretty powerful! It really is amazing to watch as the sun slowly makes its way up to shine light on us all around the world! To think the sun I watched come up will also be seen on the other side of the world at some point. 

The weather was so clear we were even able to watch the sunset! The sun sets slowly over sunset at the beachthe horizons and it is quite magical, especially near the ocean! Of course I do think everything is magical and hypnotizing when I am at the beach!

I hope y’all have a wonderful weekend and you are able to enjoy every moment of it. I will be back to my normal routine next week and maybe even some extra surprises. I want to thank you for stopping by my site today and please know that I always appreciate your comments. Please never forget that no matter how busy I am, I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday y’all! Even though I am not working, yet I still find Friday as the perfect day to let go of the negative emotions the week has instilled on us. The weeks are so long and our weekends are so short, so holding onto these feelings will ruin the weekends for us. Of course, it has not been a job that has created these negative emotions for me, but the searching for a job has. Yes, I have had interviews and have two scheduled for today, but the waiting is hard for me because I am not the most patient person in the world.

I am hoping the quote I am sharing with y’all today will help you see the brighter side of life. We all face problems in life and running away from them does not fix them because they will just continue to return. I do not think we should face these problems during the short weekend because I do not want your weekend compromised. However, during the LONG week, we should face the issues so they do not fester into something more. I have never been good at sugar coating things when talking with someone, but am upfront, transparent, and honest. I do know some people do not appreciate this, but I do not think beating around the bush is a good way!

Now that the weekend is so close, how do you see the weekend playing out? How was this past week for you and did you learn any valuable lessons? I do believe the weekend should be full of everything that brings you joy, but safely of course! I also believe there are wonderful and extremely valuable lessons we learn daily, but sometimes we do not understand them right away.

Thank you for visiting today. I hope the quote I have shared and what I have written was helpful and meaningful to you because no matter where we live, we are all in the craziness of life together. I hope your weekend is wonderful and rejuvenating. I would love the opportunity to read your comments and will respond to all of them as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Overcome the Winter Blue

We all feel differently about the different seasons. Everyone has their favorite and dreaded season. Currently, in the United States, it has been winter since December 21st and does not end until March 20th. Some states face a lot of snowfall and others, such as the southern states do not get nearly as much. The southern states are not equipped with the necessary equipment, so small amounts of snow cripple the area for days.

Unfortunately, no matter where the state anyone is in, winter can cause people to feel unfavorable feelings, such as their sleep being jeopardized which can lead to feeling sluggish and hopeless. It is thought that the causes of negative feelings during the winter months are due to the lack of sunlight, which disrupts circadian rhythms and the levels of melatonin and serotonin.

If you are someone that does not care for the winter months, there are ways to manage your winter days in a better way. The following are some effective ways to try.

Maintain a proactive attitude. Winter is not a surprise because we know it happens every year. Preparing for winter, before it begins with anything that makes you feel good. You might want to join a gym or anything else that helps you to stay active. I know with COVID joining a gym may make you skeptical and I understand that, but there are safety measures gyms are using to keep their customers safe.

Considering there is less sunlight during the winter months, it is important to increase your levels of Vitamin D. One important thing about Vitamin D is that it helps regulate serotonin levels. You can add into your daily routine a Vitamin D supplement, which can be purchased over the counter. The recommended daily amount is 400-800 I.U. There are also foods that are highly enriched with Vitamin D such as fortified orange juice, tuna, eggs, mushrooms, and of course, milk.

Regardless of the short and darker days, continue with your normal schedule. This means continuing to eat healthy, exercise, and get enough sleep. It also means avoiding staying in bed when it is time to get up, remaining on the couch where you are warm and cozy, and having those late-night snacks. We are all faced with those tasty treat temptations, but we need to think ahead and know how sluggish they will make us feel.

I am just as guilty as anyone else of maintaining a normal schedule and avoiding snacking. The pandemic did not help with the snacking, and I think most people have probably gained weight since the start of the pandemic. Of course, during the winter months, we are mostly wearing baggy clothing which hides the signs of weight gain, but changes can be made for our own good. I am a huge fan of my comfy clothes because they are comfortable and baggy, but then again that is how I like to dress anyway. I guess working from home really did not help that much because I never had to go to an office and get dressed up!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have shared has been helpful for you or someone you know. I am sure you are glad the week has finally ended and hope you are looking forward to a relaxing and safe weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

How to be more confident

~Say goodbye to self-doubt~

No two people will experience the same moods, confidence, or self-esteem simultaneously. One of the most challenging things to live with is self-doubt and being your own worst enemy and hardest critic. This is something I know to be true because it is something I have lived with all my life. Always questioning if you are doing things correctly and good enough can wreak havoc on your self-confidence. Self-doubt and low self-esteem limit your full potential.

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to put an end to all m self-doubt. Unfortunately, it is already January 27th, and I am still battling with too much self-doubt. Looking back at the times I doubted myself, most of the time I was not incorrect and not doing anything wrong. I am not saying I am always right because that is not true, and no one is perfect. Admitting my faults comes easy to me but I am still trying to understand and accept that I am good enough.

Considering I have been unable to quit doubting myself and my abilities, I decided to do some research on the topic. If you have been plagued with self-doubt, we are in the same unfavorable situation. Maybe it is possible in this huge world we can help one another. I am going to share some ways to get through this pessimistic thinking and how to get into a brighter optimistic life.

Try to stay present in the conversation. Our inner critic tends to be a one-way dialogue that is filled with negativity. It is important to listen closely to what your inner voice is saying and rethink the story being told. If we can jump into the story and reinvent it in a more creative, realistic, and positive way. This allows us to take ownership and responsibility for our lives and act with mortality instead of running away from what we are meant to accomplish in life.

Attempt to create a positive life! We are not able to protect ourselves from less desirable outcomes, such as rejection, loss, let downs, and disappointments. We can decide how much we allow these negative situations to affect how we feel about ourselves. Creating a list of things that are going well in our lives and keeping it close may help in the long run. When we are feeling helpless or defeated, the list we created can be a reminder of the good things in life.

Getting out of your own head is one of the most important and difficult things to do, or at least it is for me. This is an event that explodes your self-confidence into small pieces. Maybe it is a derogatory comment heard someone say about you or not getting the job you had your heart set on. The only thing reliving the experience continuously does is prolong the pain and low self-worth felt. Falling into this negative cycle can be challenging to escape from, but distancing yourself from these thoughts can be accomplished by doing simple things you enjoy such as reading, writing binge-watching your favorite show, or anything else that helps you relax. Meditation (which I am not good at) can help to silence your pain.

Something else that I have learned over the years to be beneficial is to keep things in perspective. Those that are the least confident tend to focus on what they do not have instead of what they do have. Remaining thankful for what you do have is a BIG part of self-confidence. When you feel that your current circumstances are not measuring up to your expectations, your self-confidence could be very low. During this time, it will be easy to make a list of the 5 things you do not have in your life and want. Another list to make is 10 things you do have in your life. Although this list may be harder, it will help you to realize all you do have to be thankful for.

If self-doubt is something you deal with in life, I hope the information I have shared will be helpful. Life is short and living with these feelings is not the best way to live. If you have any other ideas you would like to share, that would be wonderful because your ways of handling these challenges could be extremely helpful for others.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe! I hope you have a great day, and you are not burdened with too much stress. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick Me Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! I hope you have had a nice week and you are looking forward to the weekend! The weeks are long, but life is short. There will be times when it may feel painfully long, but it is our life to live the best way we can. Pain is real and hard to endure. Loss and hurt are heartbreaking. At times life feels unfair, but maybe those times are a test of how strong we truly are. I cannot think of another reason why we are faced with so many challenges so this is the way that helps me to keep moving forward.

Although today is Friday, the last day we have to get through can feel daunting. Considering I understand how difficult life can get, I would love to be able to help pick your spirits up. No matter how the week has treated you or any frustrations you may be feeling, you are strong and amazing enough to get through anything! I hope the quote I am providing you today will help lift your spirits and push you through the last day of this week. No single person or event should be given the power to infringe on our peace!

As y’all already know, I have been trying to get myself back to normal. There are several reasons this has been difficult, but I will not stop trying. I have two posts that I am working on and plan to have both of them published by the end of the weekend. Once they are up, I hope the research I did was not in vain and they will be useful for you.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have had a great week so far and your day is full of happiness. I am excited to read your comments on this post and promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Inspirational Wednesday

Today is not just simply Wednesday, it means we are halfway to the weekend! I hope your week has been good up until today and the last two days are even better. Do you have any plans for the weekend? I honestly do not have anything too exciting planned for the weekend, but Friday is a rather big day. Well, I say big but it is because I have another interview and a meeting with the evil people for unemployment. The unemployment thing has been VERY frustrating and EXTREMELY unfair. No matter how frustrating and unfair things have been with unemployment, I am not giving in to their shenanigans because I have been doing everything I can to find a job. I guess they just do not understand why the job I get has to be remote, but after Friday they will understand!

I know I have not been doing my “normal” posts, but I am trying to get back to normal. I have always felt that the weeks are long and when we make it to the halfway point, we could all use some inspiration to help get us through the remainder of the week. I hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today will provide you with some inspiration and help you to feel happier! Life will always throw so much our way and it can feel overwhelming, which is why I find this quote so inspiring. If we always focus our attention on everything being thrown our way, it will be easy to miss some of the best things life has to offer!

What are some of the things you enjoy most about life, even during the painfully difficult times? I have thought about this a lot over the past month or rather a year. It is a question that can keep us grounded and satisfied with life. I love spending time with my husband and our cats. I think our cats can make everything better because they do not know or understand hate, anger, evilness, or anything else negative. I mean the day I was laid off, one of our cats would not leave my side and she is one with the most unique personality. Other times when I am not feeling well or in a lot of pain, all three of them are there to help.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading your comments. I promise I will respond to all of your comments as quickly as I can and I want you to know how much I appreciate you and your comments. I hope you have a great day and PLEASE continue to stay safe. COVID is still VERY real and continues to take the lives of so many innocent. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

New week and new opportunities!

It is Monday morning again! Before I was laid off and I was working a full-time job, I would often dread Monday morning. It proves the weekend ended and we have to work all week, again. Now that I am not working, I miss that feeling. It has not been fun to not work because I have worked for as long as I can remember. It is not that I have not been looking and applying for jobs, but none have worked out yet. I do have two phone interviews today, so hopefully one of them will actually provide me with good news. After the past month, I could use some good news!

Since I have not been working, I have not been doing my typical posts. Today, I am trying to make some changes. The truth is, life is hard and some days are so difficult it is painful to keep fighting. However, I would like to believe, we are all strong enough to keep trying and fighting for what we deserve because we are worthy of SO much more than we know. There are always going to be things that knock us off our feet and it might feel easier to surrender to the challenges, but that is NOT living! It is a good feeling when we prove those that made us feel we were not worth anything wrong! Standing up against that struggles will not weaken us, but make us twice as powerful!

How was your weekend? I hope your weekend was filled with things that bring you joy and you did so safely. Of course, I did not do anything exciting over the weekend. I did deal with a nasty migraine/sinus headache that made it feel like my head was about to explode. Thankfully my migraine/sinus headache lessened by yesterday, but it was still lingering. Are you ready for the new week to begin and do you have anything exciting going on?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote I share resonates with you and gives you additional strength! I am not sure how you are feeling about the COVID status, but I still find it terrifying because it is still killing people. I have stressed this previously, but the vaccine as scary as it might be is not killing people! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

End of weekend thoughts

I hope you had a nice weekend and you are staying safe. I have been thinking a lot over this last week and there have been many times when I felt discouraged and even useless. I do know this is not a good way to think, so I am trying to improve my thoughts, not myself. This quote has shown me hope and how to be patient with myself and my job search. I know as long as I do not stop trying, I am not failing!

The truth is, I am proud of the person I am and know that I do deserve to be treated with respect because that is the way I treat everyone else. The things I know about myself and I am most proud of is, I am determined, strong, kind, compassionate, empathic, and most of all resilient! This may have been a last minute idea to do for a post, but I feel good about it and hope you enjoyed it!

Always, Alyssa

Two Days of Head Pain

For many years now, one of the most consistent parts of my life has been the pain issues. Living with pain 24/7 is not easy but most pain I can deal with. I suppose I have learned how to continue living my life, despite the pain because I have realized it was not going anywhere. Over the years, there have been several frustrating things I have encountered when I would say, “If you can’t beat them, join them.” There are no ways to join the pain, so acceptance is the next best thing to do.

Regardless of how I have learned to live with pain, there is one type I am unable to tolerate. Everyone handles pain differently, but for me, head pain is the most unbearable. Unfortunately, headaches are something I have endured long before I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. One of my first memories of having a headache was as a child. A little girl in kindergarten getting off the school busy with so much head pain I was on the couch all night unable to move.

The painful truth about headaches is, they seem impossible to get used to. All I can do is lay down in a dark and quiet room with an ice pack on my head waiting for the pain to lessen. Every headache I get is a miserable experience that I would not wish on anyone, even my worst enemy.

Since Friday evening, I have been battling with a sinus/migraine. A normal sinus headache or migraine are bad enough on their own, but to gang up on me was just evil. Nothing was helping to ease my pain. I tried an ice pack on my head, but it continued to get too warm. I took Excedrin, Advil, and Sudafed, but it refused to ease up. This double hit of head pain caused me to feel nauseous and dizzy. After staying on the couch with my cats trying their best to make me feel better all day yesterday, I am finally somewhat better today. As I write this post, I am still dealing with the head pain, but I can tolerate it much better now.

Several years ago, when I was getting these nasty migraine/sinus headaches on a regular, I tried going off the Gilenya that I take for Multiple Sclerosis. I had known that sinus issues were a side effect of Gilenya and thought if I went off the source, the sinus headaches would stop. Of course, my doctor advised against this, but I was so sick and tired of the sinus pain, I was willing to do anything to put a stop to it. Unfortunately, going off the Gilenya for a short amount of time caused the MS to get worse and I ended up with additional lesions.

I made the decision years ago that I would rather endure the head pain rather than allow the MS to get worst. Gilenya has been a saving grace because it has slowed the progression of the MS and that means more to me than not having head pain. Yes, I do get sinus and or migraines weekly, but at least my MS is not progressing and putting me in a wheelchair. NO, being in a wheelchair is not the worst thing that could happen, but it is something that I have been terrified of since being diagnosed with MS when I was 19 years old.  I will continue to fight the MS with everything I have and if that means dealing with the head pain, so be it!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a great and safe weekend. I am sure y’all have heard that COVID numbers are increasing again, so I hope you are either already vaccinated or plan to do so soon! I would love to read your comments on what I have shared today and promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Ways to travel safely!

It had been several years since we have been able to do anything, besides be imprisoned in our house because of COVID. Recently, we were able to get out of our house and the state we live in to celebrate my husband’s birthday. Of course, he loves doing something extremely cold, and I am not that good at, snowboarding. Even though it was cold and a LONG drive, it was fantastic to have a change of scenery and freedom from house arrest (not literally, it is just because of COVID)!

Now one small problem is, what do you do when there is a long drive ahead of you and you despise driving? I never expect my husband to do all the driving on a long drive and will always offer to do some of the driving. Granted, he knows my distaste for driving because I have never hidden that from anyone. I have two reasons for detesting driving. One is driving near the big 18-wheeler trucks is terrifying and the second is it is extremely difficult for me to see at night. My vision causes me to feel worse than a deer in headlights!

As great as it was to be out of our house for the first time in three years, it was concerning due to the increased numbers of COVID. Obviously, being fully vaccinated reduces the risks of getting COVID, but unfortunately, people are still losing their battle with COVID. As resistant as I was to be going anywhere, there are ways to go away safely. I will share with you my ideas for staying safe while traveling during COVID and encourage you to share any thoughts you may have!

First things first, it is crucial to be FULLY vaccinated! I do understand why many are worried about the vaccine because it is still new and was created so quickly. However, to put your fears to rest think about how many people continue to die due to the virus as opposed to how many have died from the vaccine. Allow me to explain the numbers worldwide. As of January 19, 2022, there have been 855,000 deaths due to COVID. There have been three cases in the United States when someone died after getting the vaccine because of blood clots. I guess the truth is you can gamble with your life and not get the vaccine and have a much lesser chance of survival or get the vaccine to increase chances of survival and to avoid getting the virus.

The second thing to be sure to do is, even if you are fully vaccinated be prepared to wear a mask when not in a hotel room.  This is going to sound insane, but social distancing is my favorite thing related to COVID. I have always preferred to keep my distance from others because when someone stands too close to me, I find it to be invasive and suffocating. I say be sure to have your mask with you because many people refuse to wear a mask and or get the vaccine, so you could be the smart one wearing a mask and not getting ill.

The third thing we were sure to do when we entered the hotel room was, spray all surfaces with Lysol. I know there are proper protocols for staff to clean but spraying everything down with Lysol is a way to ensure your safety. If you are planning to spray everything in a small hotel room with Lysol, be sure of the scent because you do not want to spray everything down with something that smells bad.

The other way we stayed safe while on our mini vacation was, we did not go out to eat at a restaurant. It is just as easy to pick up a take-out order and go back to a nice warm and safe hotel room. Yes, you will not have someone waiting on you, but I think it is more important to be safe than be waited on.

I am glad we were able to get away for a few days and I am looking forward to the day we can travel again without being concerned about a deadly virus. I do not believe anyone has the answer to when this will happen, but we all must remain positive and hope for the best when the virus is no longer a threat. I know some people are still hesitant about getting the vaccine but look at how many have already gotten the vaccine and are still alive and nothing changed besides being safe from the deadly virus!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope you found what I have shared about traveling safely helpful and it will be a benefit to you in the future. I hope you are having a great week and staying safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa