Continued Gun Violence

We are only 25 days into 2023 and as of yesterday, there have already been 39 mass shootings in the United States that have caused 70 innocent people to lose their lives. These tragedies do NOT occur in any other developed country because other countries have found a way to prevent unnecessary gun violence. These continued acts of hatred do not make any sense to me, and I have many questions that I am not sure anyone can answer. The first question is why can the United States not find a rational solution and end gun violence? How many more people will need to die before changes will be made? The 2nd Amendment was written in 1791, but did they mean they thought everyone should carry a weapon? I think we need to face the fact; the 2nd Amendment needs to be updated so that the mass population stops misinterpreting it.

As I have already stated, the 2nd Amendment was written in 1791 and reads, “A well-regulated Militia, being necessary to the security of a free State, the right of the people to keep and bear Arms, shall not be infringed.” Right in the first sentence, Militia is a military force that is raised from the civil population, to supplement a regular army in an emergency. What does this mean to you? To me, this should mean guns are for our military to use in an emergency, such as war, and or to defend our country. With that said, guns must be regulated better and more efficiently. Anytime I have tried talking to other Americans about control, they try to hold on tight to what they think the 2nd Amendment means, but I do not think they read it and understood it correctly!

I do not think that guns belong on the streets or in homes because they are unsafe when people are not trained. A couple of weeks ago, a 6-year-old child brought a gun to school with him and shot his 1st-grade teacher. This was not a mass shooting, but it did cause harm to an innocent teacher and that child should have never had access to it or even known where it was in the home. The devastation of gun violence upsets me deeply and the fact we already had so many mass shootings early in the year, scares me to see what the remainder of the year will hold. Changes with gun policies have needed to change for a long time and I only hope the change will happen sooner rather than later.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know many people will not agree with me on this topic, but I do still look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe. We have made it through the first part of the week, so hopefully, the last part of the week will be easy and go well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

Happy Friday eve, y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend. Do you have anything planned for the weekend? I plan to try relaxing and resting because I am still a little rundown from the mini vacation for my husband’s birthday. The only thing I will ask you is, please stay safe. Several people that I work with and remember, I work from home and have not met anyone I work with personally, but I learned that several of them were diagnosed with COVID. I am unaware if they received any of the vaccines or boosters, but they did say how miserable they were feeling, and I would not want anyone to feel that way.

It does not matter who we are or what we have overcome in life, we all have bad days. When we have a bad day, it can be difficult to get over it when others are behaving negatively or unpleasantly. Yesterday, I was frustrated because of a few things that occurred when I was out, and I felt like someone was throwing me under the bus and making a mountain out of a molehill. I ended up chatting with another co-worker about the issues and told her how foolish I felt. This co-worker has become a good friend and she was able to say a few things that turned my bad day into a much brighter day. This is the reason I am sharing the quote I am today, and I hope it helps you deal with challenging days a little better😊!

We may not always be able to say the right things when communicating with others, but we can most definitely say the wrong thing that will make another person feel terrible. Our words and actions can make a HUGE difference in another person’s life, but we always want it to be for the better. There is already too much negative that occurs in the world around us, but we can do something positive. Unfortunately, we will never know the way someone else is feeling or if they are struggling and ready to give up on life. I know that none of us want to be the reason why someone does something they cannot take back!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the two quotes that I shared, and they resonate with you, and you will turn around and share them with someone else. I have always believed it is easier to be kind, understanding, and compassionate with others as opposed to being mean and rude because that takes too much energy, and is a waste of our time. All it takes is to do or say something nice to another person and it could change their entire day for the better😊! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Kindness is the way of life

We have successfully made it through the first day of the week and I hope it was a good day for y’all. I am thankful for my job and the people I work with, especially during this slow time of year. It can be easy to get discouraged in this life, but it is wonderful to have family, friends, and co-workers to make it a little easier to tolerate. Even though work has been rather slow, I try to help my co-workers because I value them and want to help them keep things on track, and so they do not feel overwhelmed. It can be exhausting when things pile up due to meetings or training, and some people have children they need to tend to. I feel like taking a little off their full plates when I can help them not get too overwhelmed and frustrated.

We never know what another person is going through in their life. Many people will put on a fake smile to hide their pain because they do not want anyone to know they are going through something complicated and mentally draining. They hide their emotional pain by acting as though their life is happy and they are not suffering silently. Others that are going through something in their personal life that is problematic and troublesome might behave negatively with an abrupt tone because they are angry and or frustrated with something personal. Even though it is not easy, we need to not take their behavior personally.

Instead of reacting negatively to someone who says something harsh or behaves rudely, we should learn to take a step back and think about what that person may be going through. If this is someone that we know and understand their personality, we should be able to figure out if something is different. It should be easy to know if their behavior is normal or out of the ordinary. There is someone that I know that can be really kind and understanding most of the time, but every once in a while her demeanor changes drastically, and not for the better. I tend to ignore the negative behavior of this person because I do know she is battling with something on a personal level. Instead of reacting in the same way she is, I do the opposite and treat her kindly.

If we react with emotions every time someone acts negatively, we would constantly be dealing with hurt feelings. Then if we speak out of hurt feelings with a negative tone and say something that makes the other person feel even worse than they did before, we will never be able to erase those hurtful words. Too many people resort to suicide when they cannot handle life anymore and we would never want our mean words to be the last words another person hears. I am not saying it will change anything, but sometimes all a person needs to hear when they are struggling are kind, supportive, compassionate, and loving words.

I think if we could all just try being nicer and more understanding of others the world might be a happier and better place to live. Maybe if we all try spreading kindness, love, compassion, and understanding, it would catch on and spread as far as and beyond negativity. I believe we can all admit that negativity can spread like wildfire, so why can kindness and love not as well? None of this should take too much energy and should be rather easy😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and my words resonated with you. Many people reading this might be battling with a medical issue, which I do understand is not easy, so it should be so easy for us to be kind to others regardless of how they behave. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Post of 2023

Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tuesday after a holiday

The Tuesday after a long weekend and a holiday always seems like a Monday on a massive amount of steroids. Of course, work for me has not been all that busy, so I am sure today will not be too bad. The only hard part is going back to the same old work week. It never fails, even on weekends I still wake up at the same time, but at least when it is the weekend I do not have to sit in front of a computer for eight very long hours! I hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend and you enjoyed yourself safely!

Lately, when I can do posts, I have been writing about things that are on my mind and troubling me. The quote I am sharing with you today is in a sense following the same kinds of things that I have written about. It does not matter which country we live in, we are all living in the same world. With that said, we should want a peaceful life without conflicts and violence. There is nothing positive that comes from hate, violence, and conflicts. It is important, to be honest, but it is also extremely important to realize how much our words and actions can harm another person. I have always believed that if I do not have anything nice to say, it is better to stay silent. We cannot take our hurtful words back or the harm we caused another person.

The weather has been slightly crazy and very unpredictable. The past few days have been super cold around the country, which over the holiday weekend caused many some additional challenges. Unfortunately, there were many that had to manage without power in the incredibly chilly temperatures. With as cold as it was, all I wanted was there to be snow. That is something I ALWAYS miss at Christmas because as a child I always had a white Christmas. How have you been dealing with the weather challenges?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful day😊! Try to remember that anything we cannot do tomorrow is another day to try again😊! Instead of thinking about how busy you are today and how much you were not at work, think about your amazing weekend, celebrating the holiday. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Last Monday of 2022

How has your year been and is there anything you wish you could have changed? I have many questions that may not have answers, but I am going to ask anyways. Why are so many so quick to make a judgment? Why do some people think it is acceptable and humane to not be kind to others? Do people really think their way of life and how they behave is much superior to everyone else in the world? I am starting to believe that I might have missed something when I was younger because I was not ever taught that any one person is better than anyone else as I was taught, we are ALL EQUAL no matter where we are from or anything else people think it is acceptable to judge others for.

Why are so many people afraid of what they do not understand and automatically think the way others are choosing to live THEIR life is not the way they should be living? Who can say there is only one way to live? I guess I was under the impression that the United States is a FREE country and therefore people can live how they want to live. As I am sure you can tell by several of my posts, this is something that bothers me tremendously.

Over the past several years, it has seemed like there has been a vast amount of people devolving instead of evolving. A lot of this might be a result of our political leaders’ comments which might have made it seem like it was okay. Too many have glamourized racism and hate because of what they were feeling inside their heart, which to me is cold and dark. It is almost 2023 and we need to get back on track with evolving with the times.

Why should anyone care who someone else loves? I mean love is love, right? Does this affect their lives in any way shape or form? Who really cares about the color of someone’s skin, where they are from, or who they worship? They cannot control or change it and it does not cause issues in anyone’s life. The things that do matter are the way we treat others because that is something we do have control over. Superficial nonsense is not things that matter in the bigger picture of this life.

2022 is almost over and 2023 will begin soon, so I think we need to begin the new year with a better and kinder outlook on life. We need to start being more accepting and compassionate towards others that live differently than we do. I think learning about others’ way of life is fascinating. Different cultures are something we should all want to learn about because no individual is the same in this HUGE world and there is nothing wrong with that. Think about it, if we were all the same, would the world not be boring?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today, and it resonated with how you feel about the world we share. I believe we should all learn new ways to think and start treating everyone equally and with respect. The only time an individual does not deserve our respect is when they disrespect us personally or someone else, but even then, it is best to not sink down to their ignorant way to behaving. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Food For Thought

The holidays are “supposed” to be a time for joy and happiness, but it tends to make me feel sad. While I know how insane this may sound, I do have my reasons. I think about those who have lost loved ones both recently and not so recently. Unfortunately, most of us have lost someone we cared deeply for and the empty chair at the dinner table during the holidays is another reminder they are gone. It does not matter how long it has been, the loss of someone we loved is a pain that stays with us.

I feel heartbreak for people I have never met that I know who lost someone they loved. Recently, there was a tragic loss for a wife and her children, when Stephen Boss, also known as “Twitch,” took his own life. Another celebrity who recently lost her life was Sonya Eddy who played Epiphany Johnson in the soap opera, General Hospital, which I have watched since I was a child. I think about the families of these two people and how they will get through the holidays without them.

During the holidays, I also think about my late Grandfather and my husband’s late Grandparents. Even though my grandfather and I did not see each other as often as I would have liked because we lived several states away from each other, I do always miss the sound of his voice when we talked on Christmas Day. Since my husband and I have been together, which is now going on twenty years, we always used to spend Christmas Day at his Grandparent’s house before they passed away, which is the house we now live in. The one thing we will all always have, no matter how many years since our loved ones passed away, is amazing memories.

I cannot help but think about the many people across this world that will face the upcoming holidays for the first time without their loved ones. So many will deal with pain and sadness over the holidays, and it fills me with sadness. Maybe I am being overly emotional, but I also think about the millions of people that are homeless and do not have the opportunity to enjoy a hot family dinner surrounded by loved ones. Too many people are doing the best they can on the streets, trying to find shelter and food, which should never be the case, no matter why they are in the situations they find themselves in.

I might overthink things too much, but there are so many questions that keep running through my head. Why do some people have to struggle, especially in a country as wealthy as the United States? Why do the ones who are not struggling financially and would not miss a few dollars not offer to help the underprivileged more? There are so many struggling with mental instabilities that cannot find the help they need and why is this? Why do people have to suffer and starve? Why can the world not be fair and provide equal opportunities to everyone? If you saw a young man or woman on the street in the cold, would you try to help them or would you turn your head and walk away? It is not possible that I am the only person who has these thoughts and wants to help.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know this post was not as uplifting as I normally try to be, but this is how I am feeling and needed to get these feelings out to others and give them something to think about. I feel that sometimes it only takes a few people to think about the bigger problems in life and make small strides to do something to help. I hope you are having a good week and there was something that I have shared in this post that resonated with you. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Cruel and beautiful world

This can be cruel, but also a beautiful world we are living in. Unfortunately, we will never know what demons another is battling against because people often hide them very well. This tends to be due to the negative stigma our society puts on mental health. It is terrible that so many feel they must distinguish their struggles with fake smiles, to avoid being labeled and shamed. It is not a weakness when someone admits they are struggling mentally and makes the decision to seek mental health help, but instead, I think it shows signs of strength and courage.

We need to keep in mind that we are all human and no matter how things may appear on the outside, no one in the world has a “perfect” life. Even celebrities seem to have what seems to be a perfect family, a beautiful home, and plenty of money to feed themselves, and their family and afford all the luxuries in life. No matter what amount of money a person has in their bank account, money CANNOT busy happiness.

Considering our society demonizes and stigmatizes people with mental health issues, it is causing people to commit suicide instead of admitting they are struggling. What kind of world would rather have people end their lives, instead of providing necessary help to those in crucial need? We cannot even watch the news without seeing another horrific act that has occurred in our country. There is far too much hate, narcissistic judgments, misery inflicting our lives, and unnecessary deaths daily, it is hard to see the silver lining any longer.

Celebrities many admire and children look up to have suffered from addiction, depression, and past issues conflicting with their lives, and many more that have committed suicide. The most recent was a brilliant dancer and DJ, Stephen Boss, better known as Twitch from So You Think You Can Dance, and the DJ on the Ellen DeGeneres show took his own life on Tuesday. Those who knew Twitch, including his wife who just celebrated their 9th wedding anniversary, did not know he was suffering with anything. Friends, family, and those who knew him well said he loved his family and what he was doing more than anything in the world, but now he is gone and those who loved him are left wondering why.

I do believe anyone should ever be judged or spoken negatively about because they are having troubles in life, but instead we should be trying to help people more. Why does anyone think they are better than another person that is having mental issues? Does anyone see what is going on in this world? Is there anyone that has a genuine smile or are they are just wearing a mask to hide the truth?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I wrote this post because what I see happening in the world is causing me so much sadness. I feel strongly that we should be lifting one another up and not tearing others down. We do not know what is going on in another person’s life and if we say something awful to them, it might be the last words they hear before making a terrible choice to end their lives. We can be kind and lift others up and we might end up making a HUGE difference that could save another person’s life. If you are struggling with something in life, please know that there is help and you are strong and courageous to admit the problems you are going through. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Do you believe in Magic?

When we were children, many of us thought magic was real and magicians may have become our heroes. We were astonished by the mesmerizing shows and may have been so impressed we wanted to be a magician when we were older. The fascination for magic may lessen as we age, but it still piques our curiosity. The magic tricks such as sawing someone in half or making someone disappear never seemed possible. To this day I still have not discovered the way the magicians perform these acts, but I have read many trickeries that are making them appear real and flawless.

Do you believe in magic? There are only a couple of things I believe are truly magical. One thing in life I feel is magical is love. Not everyone in the world feels how impactful and precious love is, so I think those who do can feel that magic love holds. Real love is powerful and encompasses completely. Love can be felt for family, friends, significant others, pets, etc. Those that experience the magic of love know it cannot dissolve or be broken and it is pure. True love is more than a physical attraction, but also includes commitment, trust, loyalty, and honesty. Not only do I think love is magical, but it is also a gift that we should all treasure and value.

The other thing that I believe is purely magical is music. This is something someone else puts a great deal of time, thought, skill, and emotion into so we can listen to their creativity anywhere we choose. Music can make us feel happy and sad because of the emotions that are put into the songs. It amazes me how perfectly the lyrics are written and fit so well with the instrumental parts. Each part of each song is pieced together flawlessly and incredibly beautiful. For so many, music fills their life with purpose and for others, it is their entire life to the point that without music, their life would not be worth living. For others, they need music to make it through long days at work because it fills them with joy!

Another thing I think is magical is acts of kindness because it seems like these acts are so limited, so when they happen it feels like a miracle has occurred. Unfortunately, it seems like so many people are overly consumed with their own lives to the point that no one else is not as important. Too many people have completely lost their ability to be understanding and compassionate toward others, which is a tragic issue. Whatever happened to being nice and caring? This should not have to be viewed as magic to have people behave kindly.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading your comments. I am interested to know your views about magic and what exactly you think magic is. Thankfully, we are halfway through this week, so the weekend will return soon! We have survived the first part of the week, so I am hopeful the last part will be easy and go by quickly. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

The importance of being Considerate

We are living in a chaotic and unpredictable world that has too much anger and hatred consuming the population in mass numbers. People have seemed to have forgotten how to or lost the ability to be understanding, kind, and considerate towards others, which is unfortunate and heartbreaking. We are not always going to agree on everything because we all have opinions, but we can disagree in better and more respectful ways. In this post, I am going to explain what consideration means and why it is an important practice to learn and include in our daily lives.

To be considerate means must be thoughtful or have sympathetic regard or respect and thoughtfulness for others. It is careful thoughts, normally over some time. This can be related to simply remembering the “Golden Rule”. We all know how we want to be treated and it should be easy to implement that same treatment toward others. I know everyone has an opinion, but I strongly believe it should not be difficult to be kind, understanding, and respectful to others.

There are many benefits to being considerate. This can simply mean we are being friendly and reliable, which should not be overly challenging. These behaviors can improve our reputation and invigorate aspects of culture making communities more cooperative and loving. The positive impacts can greatly affect our lives. When we are considerate it can increase levels of trust among others, which will make the people we interact with feel better and more secure.

Consideration of others can also be good for our overall health. The reason is it triggers the reward center of our brain, which elevates dopamine, a chemical that makes people feel good about themselves and their environment. The simple act of being considerate makes everyone involved feel good and happy, so it cannot be denied it is well worth it.

The reason that I am writing about this today is that I am tired of hearing about hate filling the world and think people need to wake up to reality. We are all human beings and most of us are trying to live a good life. There should never be anyone shamed for their life or the choices they have made because we all make mistakes. If we could all try to be nicer and more understanding towards others and help when we are able, the world would be a much better and happier place.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a great and safe weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I cannot speak for other countries, but there is too much hate in the United States and some of it stems from political views, which is crazy. The truth of the matter is no single person has the power to make the changes we think should happen, but we can rally together and try. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa