Mid-Week Thoughts

Unique personalities can be interesting, but sometimes they can be extremely challenging to deal with. When I say “unique” it is my polite way of saying mean and nasty! I try to get along with everyone and understand why some people behave the way they do because when people are rude and distasteful, I think there must be a reason. I try giving people the benefit of the doubt, but you can only do so much to help others. There are not many people I cannot get along with or at least fake it, but the ones that I struggle with I try to avoid like the plague😊! This might not be the best way to handle things, but how else do you do with challenging people, especially when you work with these people, or they are your supervisor?

Most employers say they offer work-life balance, but how does any employer help to maintain this when we must work five days a week and only get two days off? I think things would be much better if we only work three or four days and had the others off. We are working more than we can enjoy life, not that we can enjoy life as much as we used to before COVID, our pay that is never enough, health issues, violence in the country, and all the other issues the world faces. I know we cannot live in fear, but anytime we turn on the news, there is another unexpected violent act that has taken place.

Is there anyone or any type of personality you struggle to tolerate? I prefer to talk with others that are upfront, honest, and respectful. It makes me sad how many people complain and talk ugly to others, and hardly ever say anything remotely kind. I do not understand that way of thinking. We have all heard that you get more flies with honey, so why is it people forget this and behave rudely and evilly way? I think it is best to treat others the same way you want to be treated! Even with those that come across in a manner that makes me cringe, I still try to understand, but will not tolerate being talked down to or vulgar language.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I know this post was a little all over the place, but this is what has been on my mind, and I just need to vent a little bit. I would love to know your thoughts and the ways you handle people with a bad attitude. I hope your week is going well and you are staying strong. Sometimes in life, we MUST stand up for ourselves and fight back, NO matter who we are dealing with. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

One day down, four to go….

Hello Tuesday! Although I am not sure how we managed to survive Monday. How did your week start? The first part of yesterday was not bad at all, I actually received praise from a customer. I think we can all agree, that getting a compliment at work is rare because so many people tend to complain instead. That was the highlight of yesterday and then it went downhill rather fast. Honestly, I think I was overwhelmed and it should never have gone that way. Too much was being put on my plate and I found out this was NOT supposed to happen. I know everything happens for a reason, but I never question things at work and I should have much sooner!

We did make it through the first day of the week and we have four to go before the long weekend, so I think we need to help one another. It can be easy to think of everything that can and has gone wrong in life, but we need to focus on all the great things in our life that have gone great! Yes, I know it can be hard because there are so many awful things we must experience in this life, but good things come to those who wait and are patient, and resilient. We are all strong, determined, intelligent, and deserving of amazing things in our life, so we must never surrender!

I hope your week is going well so far and you found meaning in the quote I have shared with you. The rest of the week will be brighter than Monday, as it always is. Monday’s are one of the most dreaded days of the week, but that is in the past now. It is funny how much most people hate Monday, but we know they will always return and maybe we should learn to embrace them more. Yeah right! That probably will never happen because I do not think I will ever have the willpower to embrace a Monday, but I guess we just try our best.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and I look forward to reading your comments. I promise to respond to all of your comments as quickly as I can. No matter how challenging the week might seem, remember nothing is permanent and the days will go by! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Discouraging thoughts prevail

For as long as I can remember, I have been engaged in an ongoing internal battle with my thoughts. Mostly this revolves around my abilities, like what I think I might do well and what I fall short with. I consistently question everything I do, second guess myself, and repeat over and over again until I feel defeated. This only continues to cause me to give up and let go of the dreams I once had and cared deeply about. I realize this is a self-confidence issue and I am doing this to myself without input from anyone else. I am not sure what causes this and I do not know how to change this.

I have mentioned previously I have always “dreamed” of being a writer. I have done several outlines of a book that I would love to write but discouraged myself every time I think about it. I have heard about many successful authors that had a difficult time at the beginning of their careers. These authors are now famous with a long list of fantastic books written, but the first several books they spent a great deal of time writing were turned down by many publishers. The determination and strength they had is incredibly powerful and inspiring. It does make me wonder was it their strong will and resilience or was it written in the stars for these authors to become who they are now?

My husband has witnessed my love and passion for writing for years now. He has read my posts and the many poems I have written over the years. He has been encouraging me to write a short story. Of course, I did start this new adventure with the hopes of strengthening my abilities and confidence. After I read several articles about how to write a short story, I stopped because I convinced myself the one, I was working on would never be good enough. I worried the story was taking too long because I read a short story that should not take long and should not be too long and overly detailed.

I understand there are different types of writing and numerous opinions on everything that is involved. One great thing I always used to think about writing is, that there is no right or wrong way to write, and each writer has their own personal style. It is amazing what the mind is capable of doing both positively and negatively, unfortunately, I tend to lean on the negative side. How do you break the cycle of always being hard on yourself?

How do you stop being your own worst enemy and convince yourself you are never going to be good enough? We only have one life to live and we will never be given a second chance or a do-over, so we much take chances and never give up on our dreams. Why are we living, if we do not always try our best to achieve our dreams? When we do not strive for what we want out of this life, we will lose hope and remain discouraged.

It is not always easy, but we must try to encourage ourselves and those around us. Life is already challenging and when we put ourselves down and enable further discouragement we will never believe in ourselves. It is critical to look on the bright side of all situations and gravitate toward those ideas. After we can correct the way we think about things, our lives will flourish and become happier!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you had a lovely and safe weekend, and you are ready to begin this new week with a positive state of mind! I hope you found this post useful and encouraging, but I would love to read your thoughts. I will respond to all comments as soon as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Stand up for rights

On June 24th, the US Supreme Court decided amongst themselves and others with the same ideology to overturn a landmark decision made in 1973, Roe vs Wade. As it should have, this incredibly unethical and terribly flawed decision has caused an uprise in the country. We were supposed to be evolving in our lives, not devolving, and creating additional turmoil in a country already overflowing with hatred! The ruling regarding Roe vs Wade was brought into light almost 50 years ago when the thought processes of the people had not advanced to a kinder and more understanding way, which was the way things were in the past.

Please allow me to explain more about the way I feel about what has taken place. I am not pro-abortion, but I am pro-choice and believe women have the right to decide what happens with their bodies. Not all pregnancies were meant to go full-term, and it is not necessarily murder. Sometimes deciding what is best for the unborn child and a mother may seem unconventional and cause disagreements, but it should remain a choice. If a mother knows she does not have the means to provide a good and happy life for a child, why should the unborn child have to endure a difficult life? It is already challenging enough for people to survive this unpredictable and demanding life without dealing with hardships that could be prevented.

If the United States was truly a “free” country, there would not be a question or argument about a woman having the right to decide what happens with her body. Clearly, this is not the case because of the Supreme Court. It does not matter anymore if the pregnancy was from rape, incest, or merely an accident, abortion is now the choice of each individual state. I am an empathetic person and do not feel any woman or child needs to suffer the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. A child’s life does need to be valued, but can they be loved unconditionally if they are the product of rape or incest? Are those that are making an abortion difficult going to care for a child of incest and possible birth defects this may cause?

Unfortunately, there are people out there that do not have the means to afford birth control or to see a doctor to obtain birth control. What about the men involved? Why do they not have to suffer any consequences and why do some men think all they had to do was one small thing to become a father, but they do nothing else with a child’s life? Sex does not make them a father but being there and helping does! It enrages me that some men have unprotected sex one time, which causes the woman to be pregnant, but they do NOTHING to support the mother or child. If a woman’s right to abortion is compromised, why should men get off free?

On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court made same sex marriage legal in all 50 states. There was NO reason why this should have been an issue in the first place. Love is love and should NOT matter if it is the same sex or opposite sex, as it does not cause anyone any harm. Seven years later, some within the Supreme Court want to change this again and make same sex marriage and relationships illegal. I do not understand if these individuals fear what they do not understand or maybe they prefer the same sex and are afraid of what people will think. Again, if the United States is a “FREE” country, what gives anyone the right to say who one should love or not?

What does love mean? Is there anything in the definition of love that says you can only love someone of the opposite sex? I have never seen this in any definition and think that love is love. Who cares if someone loves another that is the same sex or opposite sex? The problem with people that want to put restrictions on love is, that they do not understand what it means to love and probably lack love in their hearts. Of course, so many want to quote the bible, which I think is a weak and ignorant person’s way out of understanding. Again, if this is a free country, why does it matter who someone marries? Just as long as love is involved, no one is getting harmed!

Considering this is “supposed” to be a “free” country, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but should those opinions weigh in on the choices people make for their lives or what they are able to do with their bodies? Of course, when something is harmful to the lives of other people, there should be laws in place to prevent and protect it. I realize some people believe abortion is murder. With that said, what is worst for an unborn child to be born into a life where they will not be safe, offered food, and a room over their head, OR to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated? Why should a woman that is raped be forced to carry her rapist’s baby for nine months and go through delivery, and either keep the baby or give it up for adoption?

These topics are controversial, and I am sure what I have said will cause people to be angry, but if my views cause you to be angry, please explain to me why. I want to understand why anyone thinks anyone’s life should be controlled, especially when they are not harming anyone. I understand abortion can be viewed as harming an unborn child, but their life might be worst if they are born. And what harm does someone cause by loving someone of the same sex?

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post. I do understand that not everyone is going to agree with anything I have said, and I do know you have the right to your opinions. I am just a firm believer in equal rights and do not think anyone’s right should be ignored. Life is so short, and we only get one chance, so why can we all not be considerate of others? Why should anyone be forced to change who they are or why should a woman not get to decide what happens to her body? Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve 😊! How has your week been? It has been far too HOT and I do not think the temperatures are going to get cooler anytime soon. I swear, summer can often feel like we are living in hell, but hotter! It is terrible when you walk aside and feel like you are in a sauna or an oven that is turned up as high as it can go. Of course, there are good things about summer, but it is almost impossible to live near the ocean so you can feel the glorious ocean breeze and hear the waves crashing down!

We have somehow survived most of this week, but we do have a couple left before the weekend returns. This is the home stretch, as we wait “patiently” for the weekend 😊! I think we can all use a little pick-me-up that offers encouragement and strength. I hope you will feel the meaning of the quote I have shared and it encourages you to push forward for the remainder of this week. I think what we are “supposed:” to do, taking care of our responsibilities, home life, and work are embedded into our minds and we get lost. Many people are so focused on caring for everyone and everything else, they feel their emotions are unimportant and invalid. This way of thinking is not true and it is a hard pattern to end, but we can do it!

Now that the weekend is almost here, do you have any plans? One thing I want to do is purchase a few things for the outside of our house. I would like to plant some flowers in large pots to go on our front porch. I think flowers brighten life up and look really pretty. It might have to wait until next spring, but I really want to plant butterfly bushes because I LOVE butterflies and it would be amazing to see butterflies around the house! Does anyone have any advice on planting flowers and the best way to plant bushes?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared and I was able to shine a little light on your day! I would love to know you thoughts about the quote I shared and any other comments you have. I promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Three Important Traits

I think three of the most important traits we “should” have as good human beings go hand in hand. The traits I think are the most important and required in life are truth, honesty, and loyalty. Of course, this is just my opinion, but I do believe you cannot have one of these traits without the others because they are firmly linked together. I know it seems obvious what these traits mean, but I am going to explain what each of them means. I am also aware that it seems that truth and honesty are the same, but there is a difference.

What does truth mean to you? For me, truth means saying what is a fact beyond a shadow of a doubt. According to the dictionary, truth can mean one of two things. One is that which is true or in accordance with fact or reality. Second, is a fact or belief that is accepted as true. Clearly, truth means speaking only what is real and absolute fact!

When you hear the word honestly, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Honesty to me means being truthful, fair, and loyal. According to the dictionary, honesty means the quality or fact of being honest, truthfulness, sincerity, or frankness with freedom of deceit or fraud. Over the past few years, we have witnessed too many lies from people running the country, which are the ones we “should” be able to truth. No matter who they are, once someone lies and deceives our trust, it can take years if ever to truth the person again. The only thing that can be accomplished with lies is hurt and severe emotional pain.

Without truth and honesty, can someone truly be loyal? What does loyalty mean to you? For me, loyalty is to be supportive, honest, truthful, and to always stand by your morals. It does not matter if you are married, in a relationship, or single, you should always stand by your significant other or family. We do not always need to agree with our partners, but we should always be honorable, faithful, and honest. According to the dictionary, loyalty means strong feelings or allegiance.

Now that the definitions have been explained, do you think you can have one without the others? What makes you feel the way you do about loyalty? As I have already said, I do not think you can have one of these traits without having the others. If someone is not truthful and honest, how can they be loyal? If we have morals, that we believe in strongly, we are probably honest, truthful, and loyal, but everyone is different, therefore their morals are unique.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your comments and your views on these traits. We all have the right to our own opinions, and I think it is important to try understanding other people’s views. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Life is a Cycle

It never matters what goes on, life keeps moving on whether we are ready or not. It seems like life is on an endless cycle of time. Life will keep going even when we are suffering from some type of challenge or hardship. The crazy thing is, that we are strong enough to handle it all, even when we cannot see the strength within ourselves. We did not ask for it, but the day we were born was a gift and we can decide what we do with this gift.

Although I know we all appreciate our lives, I am sure there are things you wish you could change. One thing that never stops is, that bills come at the same time every single month. Of course, we work to survive, pay bills, and enjoy life, but the darn bills get old! It would be nice if just once the bills would not come in. It seems like some, especially the power bill increases every month! I am sure the power bill increase has something to do with the insane heat! I am not sure about you, but I cannot deal with the heat.

I can still remember a time when there were four different and unique seasons. Unfortunately, now it seems like spring and summer became one where temperatures are just HOT. Then autumn and winter have become one of the same where you can hardly tell the difference between the two. Spring used to be tolerable temperatures. Autumn used to be a beautiful season with the leaves changing colors and temperatures getting cooler. During the winter months, the ground was covered with powdery snow that glistened. Summer has always been hot, but now it is too hot to survive.

Is there anything you wish you could change about life? Yes, life can be beautiful and exciting, but there can be improvements with everything. The two things I wish I had the power to change are the insane temperatures and the bills that will not stop coming. Logically, I know there is nothing I can do to change these things, but it would be great if I did. I am not trying to complain because I know complaining does not change anything, I am just venting😊!

We are already almost at the end of June, so we have almost made it through half of the year. How are your week and year going? What do you want for next month or next year? Dreams and hopes should never leave our hearts because they are meaningful😊! I know the past few years have been a struggle, but we have survived, and we are stronger because of everything we have gone through. Sometimes, we need to remind ourselves how incredible we are and how much courage we all have!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are doing well and having a great week! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Happy Monday, y’all! I hope you had a nice and relaxing weekend! I do not know if it was the heat or fatigue, but I was a little slack from blogging last week. I am going to do my best to back in the swing of things again and do better. It never fails, as the weather causes extremely hot temperatures, I end up feeling more exhausted and my pain levels increase rapidly. I have lived in the south more than 20 years and do not think I will ever get used to how incredibly HOT it gets, but I do think it has been worst in the last decade or so.

I would like to start this new week off being motivated and optimistic. Of course, the weather has been a struggle for me and it has not been easy, but do not want to allow this issue to hold me down. I hope you are going to find the quote I am sharing with you today motivating and it helps to carry you through the days until the weekend returns. I think it is important for us to hold onto our dreams and never let them go. Life is always going to be challenging and we will never stop experiencing difficult times, but our dreams can carry us through them all.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you have a lovely week and you do not deal with any extra stresses. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

World of Hurt

I think we can all agree the past several years dealing with COVID fears has not been easy. The COVID pandemic put our lives on hiatus. All the things we wanted to do and took for granted were halted. It was not easy to be stuck at home all the time and only see the same four walls, day in and day out. While COVID has not vanished from existence, many have taken the necessary precautions by getting the vaccine. I still have hope that life can start becoming closer to the normal we once knew, but I do understand things do not always work out the way we want them to.

The truth is, we are only offered one chance at this life, so we should not waste any time on anger and hate. Instead, we should always continue growing, changing, learning, and striving to improve. Each day we encounter numerous challenges and struggles, which even though it is not easy to see in the moment, make us stronger and more courageous. No matter how difficult the challenges we face seem, if we can think of them as opportunities, they might get easier.

We have been dealing with stress and loneliness due to COVID for so long, that I can hardly remember what life used to be like. I cannot remember what we used to do on weekends or vacations. The only way I can view weekends now is time I do not have to work. It seems like for years we have had nothing to look forward to or be excited about.

Although I know cases and deaths from COVID have decreased, there are still lingering fears in my mind that I cannot erase. Besides COVID, other terrible things are occurring too often. I understand the United States will not take away the people’s right to guns, but something needs to change. We should not have to fear going to a grocery store, hospital, mall, movie theater, out to dinner, or children going to school. Gun control may help save lives or at least lessen the chance of an unstable person being able to purchase a gun. Assault rifles and semi-automatic guns are not meant to be in the hands of ordinary people and should only be used during war times. Schools, stores, restaurants, and hospitals are not acts of war.

Mental health has been a serious issue for decades, but it does not seem like anyone is trying to make changes. Those that suffer in silence and alone need to feel comfortable asking for help, without fear of ridicule, judgment, and not having the ability to afford help. There are too many people battling addictions, which can lead to depression and possibly death. Why should people be forced to suffer without any viable help? The United States is one of the wealthiest countries in the world, but the citizens cannot afford help, healthcare, or medications. That just does not seem right to me!

Unfortunately, we continue to live in a world of fears. We should all try to understand others and help when we can. Of course, we need to try putting our needs first because if we are not well, we will not be able to help anyone else. Putting our needs first is not selfish, which I do tend to have a hard time understanding because has always been in my nature to put other’s needs ahead of my own. This is something I am working on and know I will succeed with someday.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared today meaningful. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and remaining safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Half-Way Through the Week

Happy Half-Way through the week! I was, unfortunately, unable to work on Monday because of an awful migraine that was making me extremely nauseous. I get migraines too much and I would rank this one of the worst I have had in a long time. I thought I was going to be able to work, but after twenty minutes decided there was no way I could make it through the day. I was miserable with pain that went into my neck and shoulders. I could hardly see straight much less do anything else. I am used to dealing with pain, but it was so bad nothing helped. I ended up being on the couch with my cats and an ice pack all day with NO relief. Thankfully, I was able to work yesterday, but still had a slight headache throughout the day.

Talking about headaches/migraines, do you get these frequently? I would not have wished the one I had on Monday on my worst enemy because no one should have to deal with that. I can normally use an ice pack to help the pain in my head subside, but nothing was helping me at all. My poor cats did not leave my side and I mean that literally. When you get a nightmare headache/migraine, what do you do about it? I feel bad because I think I probably neglected the cats on Monday, but I could hardly take care of myself, so they were lucky to have been fed.

Enough about migraines/headaches, how has your week been? Thankfully, we are closer to the weekend than we were on Monday, so it will be here soon! Of course, we do still have two more days to make it through and I think we could all use something to make us smile and give us some kind of hope! We have a choice to be happy with the life we were given and if there is something we are unhappy with, we need to find a way to change it. I understand change can be scary, but life is short and we need to make the most of what we were given!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you found what I have shared interesting and you might even be able to relate. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa