The Importance of Compartmentalization

compartmentalize-lifestyle-1Life can be challenging and often we do not get a break, but need to keep moving. During the day or week, we are confronted with so many difficult decisions and the million things we want to get accomplished. All of this was just personal things that do not matter too many people. Besides what we are going through our own experiences, we still see so much tragedy when we view the news.

 

If I were to ask you what compartmentalize meant, what would you say? There is a lot tocompart be said regarding the answer to this question. If you are anything like me, it wasn’t until I spent hours upon hours researching this topic because all I want to provide you with it the best and most clear information I possibly can. Compartmentalize is an internal process of putting feelings towards someone or an experience you had away from your immediate thoughts. This is also a way to lighten the emotional baggage we carry with us everyday. Chances are we have many things going on in our life that need to be compartmentalized to keep them from overlapping other things in our life. Utilizing compartmentalization can be a way of doing something that under normal circumstances, you would never think to do. Of course, there are both healthy and unhealthy ways this can be implemented.

Compartmentalization can be used as a healthy way to handle and even manage emotional situations. Healthy compartmentalization is a tactic we can use in our daily lives; to reduce the weight of existence, protect at least some of our personal peace and to chase our happiness.

human-emotions-compartmentalizedCompartmentalization can be used as a defense mechanism and to gain the endurance we need for any situation we may encounter or it can show how our minds deal with conflicting internal standpoints simultaneously.

Compartmentalization can be unhealthy if we only try to continuously ignore our emotions because we will never be able to ignore them indefinitely. Memories, good or bad, tend to have a way of revealing themselves anytime without warning. There isn’t a way to keep bad emotions hidden for long, which is why we should tackle our problems when we are emotionally ready to.

I am going to share two different healthy techniques to compartmentalize our emotions. The great thing is, this places us in better control of how we address serious issues in their own time and place.

  1. Try extreme focus-

It is normal and common when placed in a stressful situation to act based on instinctsort-categorize-compartmentalize-organizes and the desire to compartmentalize the stress by pushing the stress to the side. It can be helpful to push everything, accept for our stressor to the side and put your focus on what is causing the stress. An entrepreneur, Ryan Blair, calls this technique extreme focus and suggests setting things aside for a brief and distinct period for us to jump into one specific problem. It is important to know when that time is up, close that compartment, and move on with our day.

  1. Create healthy boundaries-

There are times in our life there are people that provoke painful memories or topics every time we get together with the person. Sometimes it might be best to gently reject the invitation. No one can expect to compartmentalize healthy if we are feeling pressured by the environment we are in because this will only lead to a sea of negative emotions. Once we are feeling secure with the issues at hand, we can readdress future divorce-compartmentalizationinvitations.

  1. Don’t make false connections-

If we intend to live a well-balanced and positive life, we will not be able to have a compartment for every emotion we have. There will be some smaller problems that we can choose to simply let go of, disconnect them from the more urgent issues, and move on.

The goal behind compartmentalizing emotions and life is not to allow any unnecessary or extreme attention to situations that don’t warrant for. We can designate specific things and then put them away in a box. We only will open a box when we are steadily searching for direction, knowledge, solutions, or you are dealing with a similar situation. We are teaching our brains to not dwell needlessly. Below is another way to utilize compartmentalization.

  1. Identify the situations and circumstances that need to be compartmentalized

It is important to visualize we have various boxes in our minds. Each of these boxes cani-am-in-control-prints accommodate our thoughts for any given situations that need to be compartmentalized.

  1. Determine what thoughts, emotions, and worries that need to go in each box

Write down any thoughts or worries that are associated with any specific thing. It could make how we understand our views of emotions and thoughts easier.

  1. Determine appropriate times to address the contents in our boxes

Our lives can’t fit easily and methodically in a box, so we will typically open one box at a time and handle something we see. For the most part, we will handle certain issues as they arise.

1516733-Terrence-J-Quote-I-ve-really-learned-to-compartmentalize-theIntrusions are not always avoidable, which means we need to find ways to carry on. Being predictable is very helpful. This also means we don’t open any of our boxes until it is necessary.

  1. Take time to open boxes and process the contents within

Problems compartmentalizing can create are avoidance and procrastinating. It is crucial to not forget one thing and then avoid another because if we continue doing this the contents within our boxes will overflow and it will make going through the boxes more complicated. We should only open a box when the time is right.

  1. Work on keeping this in their respective boxes, until we decide to deal with them againCompartmentalization-longside-e1516683510343

This is the hardest part. This might be a new habit and the form of mindfulness will also be new. It does take time and practice, but in time we will have many benefits for our physical and mental health.

I hope this information was beneficial for you! I did share two different healthy ways to compartmentalize, so you can decide which one works better for you. Maybe neither of them work for you, which is perfectly fine because there are a few other ways that might be better suited for you.

compartmentalize-repost-alexinstinctnyc-someinspirationalbullshit-2362242I really appreciate you taking the time to visit my site today. I am looking forward to reading any comments you may have about these techniques, but no pressure to leave a comment. I hope your weekend has started of great and you are able to relax and recharge. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

How to not feel trapped by life

pursuit of happinessWe are all in the pursuit of happiness for our life. We must try to discover what we truly want from the life we are living. We can easily begin to feel trapped by our aspirations, triumphs, failures, and responsibilities. We can inflict these on ourselves or they may be imposed on us by outside forces.

Our ultimate goal needs to be to not feelwindow-335607_960_720 trapped in life because there are so many pathways for a joyful, prosperous life that there isn’t a good reason to not aspire for something healthier.

It is crucial to create your own journey and not view something as better but focus on making things healthier. This can enable us to free our mind from feeling trapped in our life. Below are ways we might be able to get to that free point.

  1. Live below your means

There is so much marketing that encourages consumers to buy new products. They promote these new products as better and those they will make people happy, which isn’t true.

live belowThis creates the thoughts we need to make more money so we can buy bigger houses, newer cars, up to date brand name clothes, or the most current electronics, even though the one bought last year still works.

Living below our means gives us the freedom to not be a slave to a job that makes us miserable. The advertisements that are created to grab our interests need to be ignored because most of those products are not needed. Balancing our needs with wants is important to acknowledge.

  1. Accept responsibility for your choices and actions

We are the only one that can save ourselves from the decisions we have made. There arerespp too many people that spend their time complaining about how awful they think their life is, instead of putting the effort into making the changes we need. There are times bad things happen to a person that can’t be avoided.  When this does happen, we need to accept what occurred and move on the best we can.

The truth is, many only want to blame everyone and everything else for their hard times in life, but they fail to look in the mirror for the blame. It is important to look in the mirror because often times there is no one else that can fix our problems.

  1. Strive for a healthier lifestyle

Living an unhealthy lifestyle will negatively influence our quality of thoughts, emotions, bband life.

Easy choices like cutting back on unhealthy foods, trying to get a little more regular exercise, and the proper amount of sleep each night can drastically improve our mentality and perspectives. A healthier lifestyle can depend on the foundation of sleep. The deeper stages of sleep are when our brain produces the images (1)chemicals to maintain our mood and balance throughout the day. Both our moods and emotions will suffer if we don’t get enough sleep.

Food and drinks provide our minds with the nourishment we need and offer us our energy throughout the day. The simple changes we can make to drink less sugary and caffeinated beverages and more water can provide mental and physical health benefits.

  1. Embrace change when it is the only option

Growth and change are things that can’t be avoided if we are living a positive and meaningful life. We will make changes to our views; work on our mental and emotional health, which may show us we have outgrown some situations and or people.12-30-2018_Image_EmbraceChangeposter

Outgrowing certain situations may be challenging. Outgrowing some of our friends and even our family will be much more difficult. During this time we need to analyze the situations and people to determine which are meaningful to our life. If you view some people are toxic because of their actions, they will only continue dragging us down.

Some people actually prefer to stay stagnant in their life because it is comfortable and they do care to make changes for a healthier life. We need to try embracing changes and enjoy the amazing opportunities that will free us from feeling trapped.

  1. Learn to say “NO”

unknown-author-color-text-cream-paper-learn-say-no-explaining-8u3xAdapting to the ability to say “no” can be difficult, but it is an important skill to learn. There will never be a time when something isn’t going on or someone else doesn’t need something or even when another responsibility doesn’t come up. If we don’t learn to say “no” we will always be caught up with something and may even be taken advantage of by someone who doesn’t expect to hear us say no.

The ability to say no could keep us from feeling trapped by too many responsibilities.

  1. Do more things that make us happy

This might not be something we think about because of many different reasons that make sense to us.7df2c73195ef62c8298ee47459879666 As long as what makes us happy isn’t harming anyone else, there is nothing wrong with it. We all know that people enjoy judging others for how they live, but they really do not matter at the end of the day.

We all have the right to discover happiness and do what makes us happy. Dedicating time to what brings us happiness is necessary for self-care.

The normal day-to-day life can have a great deal of negativity and repetition. There are times when the repetition can lead us to believe we are bored with our life, which can make us feel trapped. This is the main reason for doing things that bring us joy is so important.

  1. Add spontaneity and creativity to your life

Human beings are not designed for an inflexible immutable schedule of things we mustcreativity do. Often the feelings of being trapped are more thought of being trapped due to the monotony of life.

Working a normal job, bills to pay, and other responsibilities can get too routine. We all need excitement, creativity, and spontaneity in our life. Whatever we do doesn’t need to be expensive, it can simply be a walk in the park or a short scenic drive. We can even do something creative that can be displayed around the house or given to a friend or family member.

  1. Seek help from a professional

crossroad signThere are many reasons a person may feel trapped and not all will be easy to figure out. The reasons could lead to depression or other mental health issues.

It might not be easy admitting the need to talk to a professional, but it might be worth it. Talking to a professional could help get past the feelings of being trapped.

 

Our life doesn’t need to feel like it is a chore because it has so much more to offer. If we can learn to replace our negative emotions with healthier thoughts and habits, we can allow ourselves a more fulfilling life.depositphotos_110108908-stock-illustration-healthy-body-helthy-mind-healthy

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I hope what I have shared will be beneficial to helping you do what you need, so you can have the happiest life possible. I do look forward to reading what you thought about this information and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Motivational Monday

Cute-motivational-Monday-quote.-Time-to-sparkle-and-shineHappy Monday y’all! I hope you had a wonderful weekend and you are ready to start a new week. How was your weekend? Did you do anything special or were you able to rest up to be ready for this week? Of course, I did not do much, but I was able to make a couple proposals for a potential freelance job! Keep your fingers crossed for me!

Now that we are starting another week, I think we need a positive quote to get the week maya-angelou-quote-love-suregoing on the right side! There are many reasons the quote I am sharing with y’all mean so much, but I would love to read what you think. With all the hatred in this world, I think more people should read this quote. I do think if we had a lot more love in this world, things would be far better place. I do my best to share as much love and kindness as I can each day. 

Thank you so much for stopping artworkimage-medium-21902316-7336573by my site today. I hope you enjoyed this quote and it provided you with the motivation to carry you through this week. I am wishing for you to have a wonderful day and that your week will only gets better each day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Three Helpful Sleep Practices

  1. Good nights sleep

Do you ever have trouble falling asleep and or staying asleep? Do you find it difficult to turn your brain off from any stresses you might be experiencing? I know I do because my brain is on constant overdrive. I have discovered a few sleep practices; I wanted to share with y’all to try.

  1. Progressive Breathing:

First, try counting each inhales in seconds, then each exhales by two counts. Simply by doing this exercise before bed, you can be provided with many benefits which include Progressive-Muscle-Relaxation-1 (1)relief from insomnia and anxiety and peaceful easy feelings. Try the following steps tonight and see how much it will benefit you and your sleep.

  • Begin by sitting in a comfortable position, keeping your spin straight.
  • Close your eyes take a few deep inhales through your nose and exhale from your mouth.
  • Inhale through your nose for a count of 3 seconds, and then exhale through your mouth for count of 5 seconds.
  • Inhale counts 4 seconds, and then exhale count of 6 seconds.
  • Inhale count of 5 seconds and then exhale count of 7 seconds.
  • You can continue with this pattern increasing inhale count by 1 and exhale count HL-templateby 2 each time for as long as you are comfortable. Do not increase more than you are comfortable with considering this will not work if you are not at ease. The important part of this exercise isn’t the length of your inhales, it’s the exhaling longer.
  1. Visiting Your “Happy Place”:

The purpose of this exercise is to mentally put yourself in a setting where peace and relaxation are purely natural. We can prompt our brains to release serotonin, which makes us feel good and helps override panic by spending time in our “happy place”. This doesn’t mean we are avoiding any stress we might be feeling, but rather we are learning how to cope with the stress. We don’t want to allow stress to control our sleep; we want to be in control of the stress.

Let’s try creating the perfect place in our minds!Happy Place

  • Sit tall or lie down comfortably, supporting yourself with blankets and pillows. Create the most peaceful setting possible in your mind.
  • Now close your eyes. Focus your attention on your breathing while gradually relaxing every muscle in your body.
  • If you find it difficult to create a pleasant image, just focus on the journey you would take to get there. The journey might take a lot of effort, but the purpose is well worth it.
  • Image there is a protective entry-way made of light. This entry-way keeps the outside world out and provides restfulness and peace.
  • Picture a peaceful and beautiful scene, a place where everything is exactly where you picture it in your “happy place”.49877854edac394a4db2ef479cf7c2cc
  • Submerge yourself in the sensory elements of the beautiful place. For instance, imagine the warmth of the sun heating your skin, the sounds of the waves crashing on the shores and the smell of saltwater filling your nose. The feeling of warm sand surrounding your feet.
  • Linger in this comforting place as long as you can, even if for only a few minutes. It will help!
  • If any thoughts from the day appear, gently guide your mind back to the peaceful place you had been in. In a tranquil state of mind, bring your focus back to your breathing
  1. Emotional Landscape:

Direct your imagination to help overshadow the tormenting and agonizing thoughts keeping you awake at night. By gaining a different perspective on your emotional landscapes, you are giving yourself the liberation for relief. You are basically renewing your subconscious mind to distinguish emotions without allowing them to dictate your course of sleep. Sounds pretty interesting, doesn’t it? Follow the steps below and see what this can do for you.cover_2

  • Sit comfortably and use relaxed breathing.
  • Choose an uncomfortable emotion you would like to change. It can be anything, regret, shame, self-doubt, bitterness, and the list carries on.
  • Try to imagine yourself sitting barefoot in a place where you can feel the earth beneath you. For instance, this can be on top of a mountain or on a quiet hill or even on the beach with the whitest sand.
  • Invite the discomfort to present itself to you as a landscape. Utilize your curious mind, notice what you can see, a dark forest, vast ocean, the choice is all yours.
  • Observe any details on the landscape. Don’t force it because things will come together. Describe anything that grabs your attention, sights, sounds, colors, shapes, impressions, everything means something.
  • Recognize the place showing itself as an internal state of being you recently inhabited.91Hnl6IueiL._SS500_
  • Try to heighten your exploration by calling in a winged creature that is big enough to climb on. You could even imagine being on a hot air balloon or sitting on your own cloud.
  • When you feel ready, ask to be brought back to the mountain or hill you started on.
  • Don’t forget to bring back the steady breathing.

I hope the information I have shared with you will be beneficial and you will have a much better night’s sleep. We have all heard how important sleep is, but unfortunately,2948304_0 some of us struggle with sleep for so many reasons. I will be honest and tell you, I am unable to turn my thoughts off at night and this does include all the stress I feel daily. If you do end up trying one of these habits, please let me know which one worked for you, if any.

Thank you for stopping by my site today. I hope you have enjoyed your weekend to the fullest. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of ❤ love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

 

 

 

Let It Go Friday

1665142_1000x0Happy Friday y’all! I hope you had a great week, you are feeling well, and you are looking forward to the weekend ahead of us! I do not really have many plans for the weekend, but I tend to never have any plans. Truthfully, I do not really have the desire to go out in large crowds of people with all that is going on with the Coronavirus spreading as much as it is. Of course, I do not plan to live my life in fear, but this is a valid concern at the moment. I do not care what the president says, it is something to worry about. It is pretty sad when so people have already died and yet the president of the United States says it isn’t something we need to be worried about! dont-be-afraid

On a much more positive note, let us use Friday as a day to let go of anything and  everything that might not have gone the way we desired for it to during the week. I have been applying for jobs over the past several week, a few of them being work from home, which is ideal. I have not heard anything back yet, which is honestly a little discouraging. Another thing I feel I need to let go of is the political unfairness. I believe that when we might finally have someone running for president of the United States, who actually cares about the American Citizens, but he may never be supported in the way he should be! Please accept my apologies if I was at all offensive with my ugly comment about that man in the White House.let go 26

The quote I want to share with y’all today, I hope will bring you something positive and uplifting from it! I would love to read what your thoughts are on this quote because I know you will add so much to the already fabulous quote!

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I always appreciate your support and your incredible feedback! I strongly believe each time we get feedback, either positive or negative, it helps us to grow and become better people.  Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Happy New Year!!!

Goodbye-2019-Happy-New-Year-2020-greetings-and-wishes-card-915x515Another year has passed us by again and we are ready to embark on a brand new year. I went into 2019 with high hopes for a better year, but unfortunately, it felt like a repeat of 2017 and 2018 with no noticeable changes. Although the logical part of my brain gets over-run by the illogical part, I would like to believe that no change is far better than dealing with any negative changes.

As I think back on how fast the previous years went by, I feel 2019 went by at lete-review.jpgsupersonic speed! I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we have to dig a little deeper to identify those reasons. All that we face in life happens exactly when it is supposed to and hold valuable lessons.

At the end of 2019, I would like to ask y’all a few questions! I think this will be a fun and interesting way to end the year and discover ways for better years to come! I do look forward to reading your answers and to be fair, I am going to answer the same questions I asked you to!

What were the three best things that occurred during 2019?

  1. I was able to build up the courage and strength to leave a job that brought me nothing logo-retina1but misery before having another.
  2. Even with changes in jobs/schedules, I have still managed to find the time to continue blogging as much as I can.
  3. After being in an accident (obviously not a good thing), I was able to purchase the car I had wanted! It wasn’t lucky to be in an accident that totaled my car, but I was fortunate enough to find exactly what I wanted.

  If it were possible, what are three things you would change about 2019?

  1. After my husband and I moved, I was supposed to have found a new neurologist so I would not have to drive 2 hours to my old one. It has been over a year and I still change.jpghaven’t made an appointment with a new one. I
  2. I know there is not much I can do about this, but I do wish I could change and end all the senseless hatred that has built up in my country, which is causing way too many mass shootings. It is downright insanity when you have to fear a possible gunman being at the grocery store or that latest issue at a church.
  3. If I could change all the dishonesty and corruption in politics, I would and it would possibly bring back democracy.

What are the three worse things that happened in 2019?

  1. During 2019 I had my first accident and it totaled my poor car. The accident was not Bad Time Represents Hard Times And Miserymy fault, but it scared the heck out of me. I am pretty sure as scared as I was; the young kid that hit my car was twice as scared when I got out of my car yelling as I have never yelled before, especially at a young kid (well he was 17 so I am sure has heard worse)!
  2. 2019 was the first time in a long time I had to go without insurance. Going without insurance and having a chronic illness living in the United States can be dangerous.
  3. Another thing that occurred in 2019 is, mass murders were happening so frequently it became normal to see on TV. Even though I saw it all happen through the news, I can’t for the life of me understand why murders were the only way to deal with differences. It is never going to be acceptable to me.

 What are the three accomplishments you had during 2019?

  1. After walking away from one job I hated, I was able to quickly find something else that will hopefully be easier on my health.images (1)
  2. I have taken the steps needed to achieve something I am passionate about, which is trying my hand in freelance writing. Honestly, I still have more to do with getting started, but I plan to have things going further within the month of January.
  3. I have built many friendships in the blogging community that I will cherish forever and look forward to many more in the years to come!

Based on what you learned over the past year, what are the three goals you have for 2020? I decided to ask about goals instead of New Year’s Resolutions. I think resolutions put too much stress and expectations on us!

  1. I have always been extremely hard on myself. I have always been my biggest critic of everything I do. One of my goals is to stop being so hard on myself and quit second-masthead_2020-sustainability-goals-carnival-mobile.jpgguessing myself.
  2. Another goal I have is to build on my writing skills and start a freelance career.
  3. One of my greatest struggles is that I stress about everything. A continued amount of stress causes my health to deteriorate and what good is that doing anyone? I want to focus on relaxing a lot more and stressing a lot less.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your answers to the five questions I have asked. I will admit, it took me a while to complete because I had to put a lot of thought into each question.

Happy-New-Year-2020-with-lightsHappy New Year to all of you! I wish for y’all to have an amazing 2020 and all your dreams come true. I am looking forward to another year of getting to know y’all and building fabulous friendships! As always, please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Let It Go Friday!

imagesHappy Friday y’all! How was your first week of December? I think I am still lost as to what happened to this year! I mean, come on time is on super charge! I swear I have been hearing Christmas songs for weeks now! What happened to waiting until after Thanksgiving to start anything with Christmas? I did spend the most of the week waiting patiently, okay let’s face it I wasn’t that patient for my background check to be clear from a state I haven’t lived in or even been to in 20 years! Thankfullywelcome friday, the background came back late Thursday afternoon and just like I told the recruiter, I have absolutely nothing on my background check, not even a speeding ticket! Good news is, I am starting the new job on Monday!!! I would have never thought I would be looking forward to going to work.

Today marks the day we made it through another week! Now we can cleanse our minds from any negative emotions and start again with nothing but positivity! Letting go of disappointments, sadness, negativity and frustrations will benefit us in many ways!

seek-respect-not-attention--it-lasts-longer--1I do believe we all have dreams of something we want to do, accomplish, go visit somewhere we want to see and anything else you can think of. Sometimes, we have to fight twice as hard against our thoughts that are trying to hold us back. Being held back could be due to our lack of confidence, which we can correct I find the quote I am sharing with y’all today very encouraging and I plan to never give up on the dreams that are close to my heart! 

Let me ask you one question, what is one of your most desired dreams? Do you have any plans on how to make your dream, become your reality? I guess it shows that I am a planner, which I sometimes go a little overboard. The truth is I might also be a bit of a control freak and planning is the positive-vibes.jpgonly thing I have control of. 

I hope you have a good day and your weekend will start off incredible. I am looking forward to reading your comments and learning what your most desired dream is. I am finally starting my new job on Monday, so I might be a little slow with reading and commenting on posts. I don’t think it is going to take me long to adjust, but I wanted to give you a heads up. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

I have a few books that I would like to share with you. I believe I already told you about these books before, but as Christmas is near wanted to share them with you again. The author of these amazing books is one of my fabulous blogger friends, so I know just how talented she is!! Thank you Emma for your brilliant books!