Let It Go Friday!

downloadHappy Friday y’all! I hope your week went well and you are looking forward to another weekend. There have been many changes to how we spend our weekends, but I do hope your weekend will be full of happiness and relaxation. I know it is a long weekend and many things have reopened, but I still do not have any plans. Maybe I am taking it too far, but I do not feel at all safe out in the public yet. I find it very disrespectful when at a grocery store or gas station and people still do not understand social distancing. 

Our weeks are not always spent doing what we want or even have a passion for. The weeks twenty-years-from-now-you-will-be-more-disappointed-by-the-things-that-you-didnt-do-than-by-the-ones-you-did-domark-twaincan also cause many negative emotions and frustrations, but I do believe letting go of that negative energy before entering the weekend is very beneficial for our physical and mental health. I mean why allow those negative feelings to follow us into a weekend that is supposed to be about us, what we love and enjoy, and our families? I found the quote I am sharing with y’all today encouraging and motivating with letting go of things that do not really matter and I hope it will provide you with something similar. No pressure at all of course, but I would love to read what your thoughts about We are all onethis quote and if it offered some help with letting go of negativity,

Thank you so much for visiting my site today! I do always appreciate your continued support and enjoy the chats we can have. I hope your week was pleasant, you have a stress-free day and a lovely weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Breakthrough the Barriers of Social Distancing

92101563_1597447863745824_3525203181490511669_nIt was not that long ago when simply going to the grocery store did not involve the fear of a new and potentially deadly virus. For the past several months we have been faced with a world-wide pandemic, stay at home orders, businesses closing their doors (hopefully temporarily), job losses, widespread fear for our health, mask, and gloves for protection, social distancing, and many other issues that have caused panic. Truthfully, I can’t even remember the last day I wasn’t terrified to leave the house or when social distancing was not practiced by most people and then getting frustrated when some do not respect the social distancing.

I feel confident saying that while I do understand the reasons behind social distancing, it Screen-Shot-2020-04-01-at-2.23.33-PMhas been very challenging and isolating. Granted, I do have my husband and two cats home with me (24/7), but let’s face it being home all the time with no changes can make anyone get irritable. I do love my husband and cats dearly, but sometimes I need a break.

I have found some ideas for activities that could help heighten our moods and encourage Boost-your-moodmotivation.

  1. Express and stay in touch-

Acts of kindness should always be something we try doing. With all everyone around the world is dealing with today a simple email or handwritten note to someone you know could offer a positive boost to their day. Think about memorable previous bosses or co-workers and send them a note. I know some previous bosses we were glad to be rid of, but I know I have at least one that I still miss and really enjoyed working with her. This person’s name is Mary Close Hall and she really was amazing! Offer to go to the grocery store or pharmacy for an elderly neighbor that struggles with getting out of the house during normal times. While in a store, either for yourself or a neighbor, thank those on the frontline and essential workers for what they are doing for the community.

  1. Stay connected digitally-Resources+2

Today’s technology has had extensive changes over the years. Millions of people around the world already rely heavily on social media sites, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. The social media platforms offer positive ways to stay connected virtually, while we continue to practice social distancing. People from various locations can interact with one another face-to-face, well a better way to say it is screen-to-screen. The possibilities are endless to stay connected safely with family and friends.

  1. Discover your creativeness-

creativenessTasks that are repetitious such as knitting or crocheting can create a meditative state of mind and relaxation in the body and brain. These meditative and relaxed feelings have also been known to decrease worry and negative thoughts. You do not need to have or run out and buy needles, crochet hooks, and of yarn there are many other forms or art that can reduce anxiety and even be uplifting for our moods.

  1. Learn a new language-language-2

While we are stuck at home with very limited interaction with others, we can be getting prepared for future travels. There are numerous apps and YouTube videos to help teach us a foreign language. We can make the most of the times of isolation and be thankful for the time we had to learn something new!

  1. Become Cultured-

WHAT'S_YOUR_LIFE_EXPERIENCES_SCORE-_(2)Now is a great time to explore art institutions and cultural events virtually. Back when things were not so complicated, did you ever think of or find the time to visit a museum virtually? I know that it never crossed my mind to expand my worldly knowledge from my living room, but now we all can try this. Google is a fantastic tool that can act as our tour guide to these exciting new experiences.

  1. Passion Projects-passion-project_4x

Is there anything you have wanted to try, but never found the time to do so? Maybe you want to write a short story, or a book, or learn more about your ancestry. Now is a good time to pursue these projects you have thought about for so long. While we are stuck at home and feeling beginning to feel anxious, diving into a long-term project can offer us a sense of purpose.

  1. Attend a virtual class or event-

physicalMany local attractions and studios are becoming creative and offering options for enjoyable free and digital experiences. I am listing a few free options for you and your family to check out and hope you enjoy them!

https://www.facebook.com/philadelphiazoo/

https://www.amrevmuseum.org/education-museum/students-and-teachers/virtual-field-trip

https://artsandculture.google.com/partner?hl=en&tab=pop

https://www.instagram.com/artwellphilly/

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/travel/a31784720/best-virtual-tours/

These are just a few examples of fun things we are able to do from the safety of our we are in this togetherhomes. Do you have any other suggestions of things we are able to do from home? I would love to read your thoughts and any advice you might have!

downloadThank you for visiting my site today. I hope your day is going well and you are feeling the best you can. Please continue to stay safe and take care of your health! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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All we can learn from cats…

Beautiful girl ChloeMy husband and I have had one of our precious cats, Chloe, for almost 15 years. It is so hard to believe our sweet little girl is going to be 15 in June. Chloe has brought us so much happiness, laughter, and love ❤. As a kitten, Chloe would climb the artificial Let you live heretree we had in our apartment. She has always been an indoor cat, so she has never had an opportunity to climb a real tree which is good because I do not think she ever came down from the artificial tree on her own. She has always been a rather small cat and in recent years continues being tiny partially due to having early-stage kidney disease.

After Chloe was an only child for many years and my husband’s grandmother on his father’s side passed away, we took in his late grandmother’s cat ❤. I had always wanted Chloe to have a playmate, so we had two female cats and my poor husband was outnumbered by Sweet Lexiwomen! Unfortunately, we were unsure of his grandmother’s cat’s name but kept calling her “little grey” because she was a sweet little grey cat. We did end up changing her name to Lexi, for her official name. Her name was inspired by the TV show “Grey’s Anatomy”. Lexi was very unique Sisterly Loveand loving in her ways. Chloe and Lexi did not play with each other much but they seemed to have an understanding and were often seen napping close together ❤. Lexi brought us so much joy in the 5 or so years we had her. Sadly, our sweet Lexi had cancer that took her from us way too soon.

The loss of Lexi was heartbreaking for the three of us. It was terribly sad seeing Chloe continue to look for Lexi. We did everything we could to keep her as comfortable as possible by feeding her through a syringe, blankets around the house for her to rest on, and lots of love. The night before Lexi passed away, I was up with her all night. She must losshave cried every hour on the hour and I tried consoling her best I could. I had to work the following day and went to work on no sleep at all. When I called home to check in on her, my husband told me she wasn’t doing well and had shallow breathing. I immediately explained to my boss what was going on and that I had to leave. I called the veterinary while I raced home and explained what was going on and that I had to change the appointment we had scheduled for the next day to put her to sleep within the next hour. It was a rainy day, but I drove as fast as I could to get home. Unfortunately, I did not make it home in time and she was already gone when I walked in the door.

After losing Lexi, I told my husband I could never have another cat because it is too Sleepy Sundanceupsetting when anything happens to them. Funny thing it wasn’t even a year later when my mother-in-law called to tell us about a Himalayan cat that was in a foster home because his owner passed away and he needed a good home. I wasn’t as excited as I should have been because there was no replacing Lexi, but we did go see the orphan cat. My husband and I immediately fell in love ❤ with the sweet and beautiful little boy. It was impossible to not love this cat because even though he was scared, he was so sweet! We ended up going home to talk and think about it but went back the following day to bring him home with us.

Best FriendsWe introduced Chloe and her new brother, Sundance (he came with the name, his previous owner was an artist and had a unique style) slowly. Sundance stayed in our guest room for a few days so the two could get used to the smell of each other through the closed door. Of course, Chloe was used to Lexi, but we did not want Chloe and Sundance to fight. Sundance did come from a home with other cats and took well to Chloe instantly. Anytime Chloe would act irritable and swing her little paw at him, Sundance would surrender and roll over onto his back. Chloe and Sundance are now inseparable ❤. If you see one of them, it is guaranteed the other is close by!Chloe and Sundance

There is so much we can learn from cats. For starters cats, especially our two amazing cats, share such unconditional love ❤. They are completely non-judgmental and never judge someone based on petty things humans form opinions based on. There will never be a cat that will automatically dislike someone based on the color of their skin, national origin, religious beliefs, or sexual preference. I can’t say an animal would not dislike someone based on their sex though. Our sweet Sundance loves ❤ my husband now, but it took time because he seems afraid of all other men.

life-lessons-we-can-learn-from-cats-the-last-krystallosWe can learn to relax more than we do now and even take random naps when we can. I can speak only from our two cats that choose various and sometimes unusual places they find comfortable to rest in. Like my husband, cats are nocturnal creatures. They are very active during the night and can sleep soundly during the daytime hours. I am the direct opposite of my husband and cats, but everything works beautifully for us!

Even though Chloe and Sundance have a ton of toys they love empty boxes. Currently, we have a rather large and long box they enjoy playing hide and seek. The first time I witnessed their game Chloe’s attention was fixated on a small opening and then proceeded to bat at it, then Sundance camepurring flying out. Being able to enjoy the simple pleasures life has to offer us is a wonderful thing we can learn from cats!

Beginning almost immediately, kittens do not require to be taught self-love ❤ because they already completely and fully love themselves. In many ways kittens are similar to human children, they both love what they find fun and gives them positive feelings. Children and kittens can be incredibly tenacious and slightly demanding (unless they are my very demanding cats!) until they get what they want. With their incessant determination and persistence, Chloe and Sundance would be brilliant salesmen!

self loveI think everyone could learn about self-love ❤ from cats. The love a cat has for themselves is a lifetime devotion they are always true to. If you have ever been around a cat, even for only 10 minutes, you have witnessed how much pride they take in grooming and bathing themselves. Our older cat, Chloe, cleans and grooms herself many times throughout the day. Sundance, our younger cat not only keeps himself nice and clean but also enjoys bathing Chloe, which she tolerates for a little while until she has had enough. She does tell him the first few times to stop in a nice kitty way, but if he doesn’t stop she hits multiple times and he runs off.

Cats tend to live a free and candid life. They can go from sleeping to playing in less than5747-Robert-A-Heinlein-Quote-Women-and-cats-will-do-as-they-please-and 10 seconds. Cats do not play out their days and respond in a way that feels right at any given time, which can range anywhere from exploring the unknown to attacking the first toy they see and anything in between.

My husband and I treat our two cats very well and we consider them part of our family. We do not and will not have human children, but we do love and treat our cats as our children ❤. Our cats are very spoiled and are never left without anything they want or need. Both of our cats have health conditions, as I said earlier Chloe has early-stage kidney disease and Sundance has asthma. I never knew that animals can adfc05c92641e557d33a2036bd825356pretty much get anything humans can. Between special kidney food for Chloe and the medications for Sundance, they are not cheap. Chloe and Sundance amaze me every day because I can see the love ❤ in their eyes when they look at me or my husband. Anyone that says cats do not hold a grudge has obviously never met Chloe because if I ever do something, either unintentional or intentionally it could be a few hours later, but she will get her downloadrevenge.

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed the information provided and of course the fabulous pictures of my two cats! They loved helping me write this post, but they would like to take full credit for every word! I would love to know what you thought about what we can learn from a cat and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Motivational Monday

Monday-you-can-handleHappy Monday and welcome to a new week! I hope y’all had a lovely weekend and you remained safe! There seems to always be things our minds focus in on, but often what we are focusing on isn’t all that important. I know many states have opened or reopened again, but even if those in charge think all is well and safe, it isn’t yet. When the number of new Coronavirus cases are continuing to increase, we all need to pay attention, wear a mask, wear gloves, wash your92566032_148356680050649_3264718566094956429_n hands many times daily, and continue practicing social distancing. It is far better to be the only one still doing all of this, no matter how uncomfortable it is rather than basically playing Russian Roulette with your life. 

As we start a new week, some of us are either working from home or unemployed at the moment or having to go back into an office that may or may not be safe. Honestly, I am still in the process of finding a work from home job, but thankfully I do not have to rush life is likeback into the workforce because of my husband’s work from home job! Whether we are staying safely at home or going to work again, we all need a little motivation to start our week off on the right foot. I do hope the quote I am sharing with y’all today will serve as a great motivator! 

How was your weekend and are you ready to tackle with week ahead? I honestly didn’t do much over the weekend and even waited for early this morning to go grocery shopping. I have discovered going to the grocery store early in the morning while people are either at work or sleeping (which I would rather be doing) is much easier because it isn’t as busywe are in this together as it would have been over the weekend. I think for the remainder of the day I will focus on reading, writing, and maybe even cleaning the house! 

Thank y’all for visiting my site downloadtoday! I hope you enjoyed the quote I shared and hope it starts your week off great and your week continues to get better each day! I would love to read what your thoughts are on the quote and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Interesting Individuality

Be differentWe are all extraordinary, rare, and complex puzzles made up of personality, experiences, comprehension, and emotions. Each person develops their viewpoints and beliefs system, which are mostly powered by their personal experiences in their life. No matter what choices we have made in life or which paths we choose to take along the way, all journeys can leave bruises that will help shape the person we have become.

We do not necessarily end up destined to a specific outcome. Every one of our qualities that make us who we are as an intriguing individual can be sharpened, refined, and increase growth as we continue on our life’s travels.different

What are the things about you that set you apart from anyone else? How many people have you met during your life to this point that has similar personality traits as yours? How many people have you come across that were polar opposite to yourself? A difference among everyone creates distinctiveness that can be interesting instead of monotonous and mundane. Opportunities of being exposed to the way other’s viewpoints and beliefs were initiated and how they affect that person’s daily existence.

Be uniqueWe all have characteristics and qualities that make us exceptional and fascinating. Numerous things will set us apart from anyone else we meet during our lives. I am going to describe 10 things that make us remarkably rare.

  1. Individual Personality-

Our personalities are a mixture of characteristics, attributes, and patterns influencingpersonality our behaviors, thoughts, motivations, and emotions. It steers individuals to continuously think, feel, and behave in particular ways.

Each positive and negative experience, all of our successes and weaknesses provide us with the wisdom that guides us through life. There is no one else that will respond the same way. Our perceptions and gained knowledge is distinct to only us and our choices.

  1. Individual Attitude-

Individuals attituteEach person’s attitudes are created by their personal thoughts. Attitudes dominate the ways we distinguish life and the behaviors of those we are surrounded by. Whether it be a positive or negative, attitudes can be very infectious and influential. Unfortunately, negative attitudes have a way of limiting what can be accomplished in life. Those that maintain a positive attitude can be successful and will also limit their time with others that have a neutral or negative attitude. Honestly, people with a constant negative attitude are mental draining to anyone they are around.

  1. Individual Experiences-

Without a doubt, all of our past and future experiences will influence and define our experiencesdistinct character. All of our experiences assist us in the ways we interact with others. It is common when someone goes through a negative experience in life to feel distressed, uptight, hostile, and or defensive when in hurtful circumstances and want to avoid the same issues occurring again. Those that try searching for positive experiences in order to gain a clearer understanding of the world, the other people in the world, and ways to discover a happy and fulfilled life are creating positive experiences. We never have to remain a prisoner by any negative experiences, but can gain additional wisdom from them.

  1. Individual Habits-

habitsHabits are practices, actions, and or behaviors we complete instinctively, allowing us to accomplish vital tasks such as brushing our teeth, taking a shower, and getting dressed for the day. We may do these simple good habits daily and not ever put much thought into them. Of course, there are bad habits some might do daily, such as eating unhealthy foods and not exercising which can make you feel constantly fatigued. Everyone can establish new habits to try improving their mental health and well-being, such as reading or meditating.

  1. Individuals Creativity-Creative Creativity Innovation Design Vision Concept

Creativity is an amazing way to express one’s self. There are various ways of creativeness ranging from painting, drawing, dancing, singing, writing, building, gardening landscapes, and anything else showing your unique creative side. Everyone from all walks of life has a form of creativity and there are no limits to the beauty within our creative visions.

  1. Individual Perspectives-

No one has experienced life the exact same way you have. No one perceives life the same way you do. The knowledge we gain during our life will never be the same to anyone else you talk to. No one else’s your perspectiveperceptions in life are right or wrong because all way of understanding is simply based on each individual.

  1. Individuals Taste-

There can be some similarities in taste among others we know. Our taste in foods, drinks, people we have relationships with, etc influence our lives. Each person’s tastes are mainly as aspect of our personalities. For instance, my husband and I both like pizza, but he like shrimp and I do not like any kind of shrimp at all.

  1. Individual Goals-goals

Each person’s goals influence the way they spend their time, energy, and efforts. Everyone puts time and energy into what they personally want out of life and how they want to be able to give back to the world. No one else has the exact same short, medium, or long-term goals as you do. These goals are what provide individuals with guidance, ambitions, and initiative in life.

  1. Individual’s Hobbies-

HOBBIES Activity Amusement Freetime InterestThe question regarding our hobbies is a common ice-breaker when meeting new people. Our hobbies do not necessarily define us as a person, but how we spend our time does let someone else know the kind of person we are and what provides us with happiness.

  1. Individual’s Passion-

Our passions offer us direction towards the goals we have. When we understand our passions they can show us a clear path that will lead by our values and perceptions of the world.passions

I hope you enjoyed the information in this post. I think it is interesting to learn about how other people view their life and the world. I think differences make the world go round and if we are all alike it would be a boring existence. What do you think?

downloadThank you for visiting my site today. Please remember to stay safe out there in the world because we are sadly not out of the woods from COVID-19 yet. I would love to read your thoughts on this and promise to respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Let It Go Friday!

5979222-Wangari-Maathai-Quote-We-can-work-together-for-a-better-world-withHappy Friday y’all! I hope you had a great week and you are doing everything you can to stay safe. Unfortunately, everyone in the world is dealing with some type of struggle at this moment. We might not be to fix the troubles anyone else might be facing, but we can be a source of love and encouragement to others. We can also do everything within our power to stay safe which will in turn help others not become ill. 

Friday is always a good day to let go of anything that happened during the week that left quote-if-others-hurt-you-let-the-injury-go-this-is-your-test-if-you-let-it-go-you-will-find-wayne-dyer-86-19-63you feeling upset or irritable. These feelings can happen to all of us for different reasons. I do think taking these negative emotions into the weekend is not a good idea because that will only take happiness and peace away from the weekends we look forward to. I hope you will find the quote I have found a good inspiration and encouragement to let go of negative emotions.

love and supportI know there is not much we are able to do over the weekend because of COVID-19, but we can enjoy quiet and peaceful time in the comfort of our home! We all deserve serenity and tranquility without the intrusion of negativity. I mean there is enough negativity anytime you watch the news. I hope y’all can enjoy the weekend and you are feeling the best you possibly can!DoavsuCVsAELo9G

I want to thank each and everyone of you for your continued support and amazing comments. I enjoy reading your views on the various topics I have been writing about. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of ❤ love❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Why create a vision board?

Vision-Board-Poster-300x223I feel confident saying you have all heard about vision boards before, but what do they mean to you? Have you made a vision board before and if so what did you include on yours? If you have had a vision board in the past or you currently have one, did you find it to be beneficial, why or why not?

Honestly, I have heard about vision boards before, but I was not 100% clear on the purpose or what should be included in it. Of course, I am always intrigued about ways to add as many positive outlooks and or tools to life as I possibly can. With all that the world as a whole is going through at the moment, I think now is a time we all need as much positivity as we can get.rsz_vision-board-example

There are numerous reasons for having a vision board. As I list the questions I was curious about, though please note they are not in any particular order. What is the purpose? What should be included on a vision board? What is needed to create one? Do they really help? Are there any benefits and if so what are they?

There are several reasons to have a vision board and yet there aren’t any rules. Your vision board is a corporeal portrayal of a goal or goals you are focused on accomplishing. It is meant to be your dedicated exhibit of what you want in life. Your vision board can bring your ambitions, desires, dreams, objective, and intentions into your existence and cd8d1c_8bed59f4db02485fa79996edbf45b08c_mv2reality.

The sky is the limit to what you can include on your vision board. Your vision board can be your goals for career, relationship, home, travel, personal growth, education, spirituality, social life, education and anything else revolving around your goals. Your vision board can include things you want to view every day and motivates you. Any quotes, pictures, sayings, and places you desire going to, people that inspire you, reminders of events, and anything that encourages you.

You should give yourself time to create your vision board, it should be fun utilizing your creativity and NEVER stressful. I have discovered a few ideas to help start a vision board that might be helpful which include:dd51b203ce6b932b0643081b965a53ec

  • Working on ways to heal from hardships
  • Explore your passions and talents
  • Learn more about who you are
  • Envision what you want from life
  • Spend time with those you admire
  • And literally anything else that comes to mind, just don’t limit yourself

To create your vision board you dream-board-ideas-01-1only need a few simple items including:

  • Posterboard, corkboard, or canvas
  • Several old magazines
  • Pictures printed from an online source
  • Scissors, tape, pins and or glue stick
  • Markers, paint and or sticker
  • Most important anything you know you will want to see daily. This is where those inspirational quotes, sayings, and people will come into play

The benefits you may get from a vision board are endless and could be different for each person. I will share a few and then you can decide how it benefits you.

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  • Brings clarity to your dreams
  • Initiates your ambitions
  • Allows for your creativity to shine through
  • Enables you to be more motivated
  • Makes you more productive
  • Grants you with better focus
  • Promotes your opportunities for success
  • Releases your inner potential
  • Encourages you to be positive and motivation 1happy
  • Gives you additional motivation
  • Amplifies your self-confidence
  • Poses as a mental rehearsal
  • Relaxes you
  • Enhances your self-image
  • Expands your desires

DDhIbVOUAAAute4Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found this information helpful and something fun to try, if you haven’t already done so. I do look forward to reading your thoughts on this and if you have any other reasons why a vision board can be beneficial to our lives.

Of course, I already know there is not much we can do outside our homes, but I do hope you are enjoying your weekend so far. I only hope your weekend is relaxing and enjoyable. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Eliminate bad habits and gain good habits

replace-bad-habits-with-good-habits-400px-4We all have good and bad habits that are perpetual and emerge from our unconscious minds. It is almost as though we have some kind of control over them. However, logically do we have any control over our habits?

How would you explain what is meant regarding bad habits? Bad habits are a negative behavior in regards to our behavioral patterns. Most commonly procrastinating, spending too 7040000947_dmuch money, nail-biting, spending excessive amounts of time watching TV or on the computer are bad habits.

Have you ever wondered what caused our bad habits? According to the author, James Clear, who wrote “Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results. Atomic Habits”, stress and boredom could be the key contributors to our bad habits. It is also possible that our boredom and stress are only on the surface and the causes of our bad habits are from much deeper issues. What we may have experienced might be bad-habits-2challenging and painful to think about, but if we are truly committed to making changes; we need to face the issues head-on. To overcome our bad habits, we will need to acknowledge them first.

No matter what good or bad habits we currently have, there is a reason they are in our lives. We might never know why these habits are in our lives, but they do have a purpose and even a benefit. Most of the time, our bad habits are how we handle stress.

It isn’t easy to comprehend how our bad habits can be beneficial in our lives. However,26ad67a072eb39fd803a5ecf73a8fbf1 we need to try understanding how instead of straightforwardly eliminating them, we should attempt replacing them with good habits that provide us with comparable benefits.

Do you know any good ways to break bad habits? Personally, I have several habits that aren’t just bad, they are awful habits. Through some research, I have discovered some ways to break the bad habit cycle we deal with.

Before I dive too deep into ways to break the bad habits, I am going to explain how our habits are driven by a 3-part loop sequence, that was initiated from Mayo Oshin,

  1. Trigger is the stimulus that starts the habit
  2. Routine is doing the habit and behavior itself
  3. Reward of the benefit is associated with the behavior

ooda-loop-simpleNow we can finally dive deep into Mayo Oshin’s coherent strategies that will help us utilize psychology when recognizing our triggers for our bad habits, quit procrastinating and begin easily getting things done.

Oshin’s three strategies to break bad habits include:

  1. Use the words “I don’t” as opposed to “I can’t”, which can assist with making better choices. In two different research studies, participants that use the words “I don’t” were able to meet their goals and had positive impacts on their well-being more than those that used “I can’t”.
  2. Practice becoming aware of the triggers. The more aware we are of our triggers that lead us to lean on our bad habits, the higher the chances we have on interfering with the existence of the loop leading us towards bad habits.

msc-mindfulnessAn addiction expert, Judson Brewer, performed a study with smokers trying to quit smoking. Brewer believes that practicing mindfulness frequently can help end the bad habits. In his study, Brewer found 36% of individuals that practiced mindfulness were successful with quitting, as opposed to the 15% that did not use mindfulness and were not successful with quitting smoking.

An intriguing practice exercise you can try is the following steps! The next time you are tempted with your bad habit, take a step back, answer the following questions and log your answer if you want something 5-minute-craving-busters-2824747_FINAL-5bd0bfe046e0fb0051c82ed7to reflect on

  • Where were you when the cravings occurred?
  • What time of day does this happen?
  • What was your emotional state of mind?
  • Who were you with?
  • What happened before your cravings?

You can keep your answers in a journal, so you can refer back to them at a later time and maybe notice a trend. This is a way to practice mindfulness and also assist you in taking more control of your actions. By tracking the issues you will be that much more aware of your 1933.1549052609behavior and offer ideas to stop!

  1. Use an “if-then” plan to replace the bad habits with good habits. It isn’t enough to only have a goal to break bad habits. To perpetually continue with a good habit, we need an intentional plan.

To create an “if-then” plan we need to do the following steps.

  1. Recognize a situation that commonly triggers our bad habits
  2. Identify a distinct reaction to the trigger. Typically, this would be a good habit to 5a1ef657150000a73c85a7aareplace and prevent falling right into the temptation
  3. Combine steps 1 &2 into an “if-then” format. Utilizing an “if-then” plan creates an easier reaction for our cravings and replaces them with a good habit because of the made ready automatic response. Over time, we will be able to see how effective it can be to assist in breaking away from bad habits.

I hope you found this information beneficial in your life. There is no pressure at all, buScreen-Shot-2019-01-08-at-9.10.06-AM-300x168t what habits of yours do you think are bad habits? I will share mine with y’all. One is definitely I always think I am fat and that I need to lose weight, but my husband always tells me I am crazy and don’t need to lose weight. I will say telling someone that thinks they are fat crazy might not be the best way to approach the topic, but men often don’t think before they speak. Another habit of mine that could be viewed as bad is that I apologize for everything, even when I didn’t really do anything wrong. I don’t know why, I just immediately say “I’m sorry.” One more habit, that can be viewed as good and bad 101961is, I am way too overly emotional about everything!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have a great day and you are ending the week feeling the best you possibly can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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Ways to get something positive out of confinement & social distancing

coronavirus lockdownThere is a very good chance I lost count of how many days we have been under what feels like home lockdown and social distancing due to COVID-19 pandemic. So many of us are in areas where those that are in charge have implemented a “Stay at home” order, which means do not leave your house unless it is necessary. Never in a million years could I have imagined people are being advised to not go to work, school, or even church due to risks of the spread of COVID-19.

I cannot just sit around the house doing nothing. It is challenging for me to not be unnamed (2)productive or be able to go to the grocery store. Considering how much I detest grocery shopping, I should be thankful for the fact going to the grocery store is not an option for me. I hate being told what I can and can’t do and I might have some very mild control issues. (I know my husband would be laughing about this right now, so I am not showing him!)

To keep what sanity I do have and remain in a good mindset, I have been thinking of things to pass the time and how to view home confinement as a positive thing. I am going to share some ideas I have thought of and encourage you to let me know what you thought of this information and share any ideas you have to get through all this mess.

  1. Remember when you were a child and how much fun you had putting a jigsaw images (2)puzzle together. Enjoy while you reminisce about the excitement you experience when you completed your masterpiece.
  2. Have a little fun and give yourself a manicure and pedicure. It might not be as great as when someone else does it for you, but your nails and toes will be pretty.
  3. Choose an interesting podcast to listen to. There are millions of podcasts to listen to podcastand there’s bound to be something you will enthrall. The link I am sharing will take you to many different podcasts you can check out. https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/saving-and-budgeting/articles/best-personal-finance-podcasts-to-listen-to
  4. Teach yourself a foreign language. There are many apps you can download, which will be very helpful for learning a new language. The link I have shared will take you to a list of great websites that will help you learn whatever language you desire. https://www.lingualift.com/blog/best-language-learning-apps/
  5. Write a letter to a friend or family member to let them know you are thinking about them. Or, think about a time when someone did something nice for you and even thank-you-600went out of their way to help you. Write this person a warmhearted letter acknowledging what they did and why you are appreciative. This caring letter will make the other person surprised and overjoyed.
  6. Over the years have you accumulated insane amounts of Tupperware? I will tell you that I have accumulated a lot! Organizing where your Tupperware is store by size and matching the lids, which will serve you well in several aspects. One, being organizing will help the massive clutter. It is true performing something like this, will give your mind a break from the COVID-19 stress.
  7. Now is a great time to go through your closet and determine what you will wear again and those you will never wear. Many of these items could be given away to 51bAji8JsgLhelp someone in critical need. We are now helping someone else and clearing space I nm closet I know this will sound crazy, but that’s okay! I enjoy organizing my closet and tend to have it in order by color, like from light to dark A little insane, right?
  8. We all have at least one drawer where we throw things because they do not have a designated home. Going through this drawer and either throwing things away or putting them where they need to be will help with decluttering our mind.
  9. Knitting and crocheting can be very relaxing. If you do not know how to either crochet or knit, watch a few YouTube videos to learn how!
  10. Coloring is no longer for kids only. There are many great adult coloring books unnamed (2)available and if you do not have one coloring page, pictures are available online to print and then color!
  11. Maybe it is just me, but I have a ton of makeup I have not used in years and really need to let some products out of the house. We can go through our makeup drawer and decide which products will not be used anymore and ones that will continue being used.
  12. As silly as this may sound, reorganize your dresser drawers. You know there is at least one thing you can’t even remember the last time you wore or used, so it might be time for donating!
  13. Discover new music! YouTube offers many music videos for a wide range of songs. Any type of music you enjoy, you can watch the video, plus Pandora and Spotify will give you more great music to uncover.maxresdefault
  14. Do something silly, like attempt writing with your non-dominated hand and laugh at how awful it looks. You can try training yourself to write with your non-dominate hand which might be frustrating, but could be interesting!
  15. This is a great time to catch up on the sleep we have been deprived of. We can enjoy catch upthe time we do not have anywhere to be and there is no rushing around.

Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I hope the information I have provided will be beneficial to you while we are in difficult times. I am excited to read what you think about my ideas and even more excited to read your suggestions. Of course, we do not know how long we will be in this situation, but we can make the most of a difficult time by working together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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The Importance of Compartmentalization

compartmentalize-lifestyle-1Life can be challenging and often we do not get a break, but need to keep moving. During the day or week, we are confronted with so many difficult decisions and the million things we want to get accomplished. All of this was just personal things that do not matter too many people. Besides what we are going through our own experiences, we still see so much tragedy when we view the news.

 

If I were to ask you what compartmentalize meant, what would you say? There is a lot tocompart be said regarding the answer to this question. If you are anything like me, it wasn’t until I spent hours upon hours researching this topic because all I want to provide you with it the best and most clear information I possibly can. Compartmentalize is an internal process of putting feelings towards someone or an experience you had away from your immediate thoughts. This is also a way to lighten the emotional baggage we carry with us everyday. Chances are we have many things going on in our life that need to be compartmentalized to keep them from overlapping other things in our life. Utilizing compartmentalization can be a way of doing something that under normal circumstances, you would never think to do. Of course, there are both healthy and unhealthy ways this can be implemented.

Compartmentalization can be used as a healthy way to handle and even manage emotional situations. Healthy compartmentalization is a tactic we can use in our daily lives; to reduce the weight of existence, protect at least some of our personal peace and to chase our happiness.

human-emotions-compartmentalizedCompartmentalization can be used as a defense mechanism and to gain the endurance we need for any situation we may encounter or it can show how our minds deal with conflicting internal standpoints simultaneously.

Compartmentalization can be unhealthy if we only try to continuously ignore our emotions because we will never be able to ignore them indefinitely. Memories, good or bad, tend to have a way of revealing themselves anytime without warning. There isn’t a way to keep bad emotions hidden for long, which is why we should tackle our problems when we are emotionally ready to.

I am going to share two different healthy techniques to compartmentalize our emotions. The great thing is, this places us in better control of how we address serious issues in their own time and place.

  1. Try extreme focus-

It is normal and common when placed in a stressful situation to act based on instinctsort-categorize-compartmentalize-organizes and the desire to compartmentalize the stress by pushing the stress to the side. It can be helpful to push everything, accept for our stressor to the side and put your focus on what is causing the stress. An entrepreneur, Ryan Blair, calls this technique extreme focus and suggests setting things aside for a brief and distinct period for us to jump into one specific problem. It is important to know when that time is up, close that compartment, and move on with our day.

  1. Create healthy boundaries-

There are times in our life there are people that provoke painful memories or topics every time we get together with the person. Sometimes it might be best to gently reject the invitation. No one can expect to compartmentalize healthy if we are feeling pressured by the environment we are in because this will only lead to a sea of negative emotions. Once we are feeling secure with the issues at hand, we can readdress future divorce-compartmentalizationinvitations.

  1. Don’t make false connections-

If we intend to live a well-balanced and positive life, we will not be able to have a compartment for every emotion we have. There will be some smaller problems that we can choose to simply let go of, disconnect them from the more urgent issues, and move on.

The goal behind compartmentalizing emotions and life is not to allow any unnecessary or extreme attention to situations that don’t warrant for. We can designate specific things and then put them away in a box. We only will open a box when we are steadily searching for direction, knowledge, solutions, or you are dealing with a similar situation. We are teaching our brains to not dwell needlessly. Below is another way to utilize compartmentalization.

  1. Identify the situations and circumstances that need to be compartmentalized

It is important to visualize we have various boxes in our minds. Each of these boxes cani-am-in-control-prints accommodate our thoughts for any given situations that need to be compartmentalized.

  1. Determine what thoughts, emotions, and worries that need to go in each box

Write down any thoughts or worries that are associated with any specific thing. It could make how we understand our views of emotions and thoughts easier.

  1. Determine appropriate times to address the contents in our boxes

Our lives can’t fit easily and methodically in a box, so we will typically open one box at a time and handle something we see. For the most part, we will handle certain issues as they arise.

1516733-Terrence-J-Quote-I-ve-really-learned-to-compartmentalize-theIntrusions are not always avoidable, which means we need to find ways to carry on. Being predictable is very helpful. This also means we don’t open any of our boxes until it is necessary.

  1. Take time to open boxes and process the contents within

Problems compartmentalizing can create are avoidance and procrastinating. It is crucial to not forget one thing and then avoid another because if we continue doing this the contents within our boxes will overflow and it will make going through the boxes more complicated. We should only open a box when the time is right.

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This is the hardest part. This might be a new habit and the form of mindfulness will also be new. It does take time and practice, but in time we will have many benefits for our physical and mental health.

I hope this information was beneficial for you! I did share two different healthy ways to compartmentalize, so you can decide which one works better for you. Maybe neither of them work for you, which is perfectly fine because there are a few other ways that might be better suited for you.

compartmentalize-repost-alexinstinctnyc-someinspirationalbullshit-2362242I really appreciate you taking the time to visit my site today. I am looking forward to reading any comments you may have about these techniques, but no pressure to leave a comment. I hope your weekend has started of great and you are able to relax and recharge. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort, and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤