My accident that shouldn’t have happened!

images (15)Just because a bad day may have turned into a bad week doesn’t mean that we have done something to deserve the troubles we are faced with! All this could mean is, whatever has occurred in our life was just meant to happen exactly when it did and not a moment sooner or later. I know this does not make it any easier to accepted, but I promise life will continue moving forward in the order it supposed to.

My week started off incredibly aggravating because I was dealing with way too many hostile, spiteful and negative co-workers. Even though we are all on the same “team”, we do images (14)work on slightly different tasks. Now each person and each different task contributes to the success of the work getting completed accurately. The ultimate goal for everyone on the “team” should be to ensure the client receives their medication that keeps them alive on time. However, it seems like some of these co-workers get angry we with me because I am able to get more work completed in less time than they can. During one of their many complaint parties, I nonchalantly said how much I understood where they were coming. This was just a way to get them to stop their download (8)complaining and also let them see I also had struggled before.  When I was asked how I managed to do what I do as fast as I do it, I said I had to play with different ways of organizing before I had one that was perfect for me! Of course being the person I am, I shared with them my work-flow with details.

Even though dealing with several snide and bitter co-workers was not easy, it is far better than dealing with purchasing health insurance. I know I have already made my views about this topic perfectly clear, but I actually found out more horrendous images (15)information on Thursday morning. If I were to go through my employer for health insurance the cost would be outrageous and that is an understatement.  My husband and I decided to purchase our own health insurance policy, well at least until he finds job that offers insurance at a more reasonable rate. We were both very pleased when we saw that the monthly rates and deductibles were far lower than the plan through my job. The plan I would get through my employer was going to only include myself and would cost about half my paycheck. The plan we can purchase would include both me and my husband and cost 21%t less than the one I could get through my employer.

The funny thing is, it isn’t even the cost anymore that has me so upset and disgusted because things got even worst. On Thursday morning, my husband and I were talking images (14)before I started work and he told me that the policy we can purchase will NOT cover pre-existing conditions until January. Y’all already know that I do have a pre-existing condition and I worried the day would come when an insurance company could discriminate against me for something I cannot control! It seems like insurance companies and the government want to punish people more that have a chronic illness and this is just NOT right! I think we are punished enough with what we already have to deal with. Maybe I am too emotionally close to this situation, but how the hell can anyone sleep at night when they are creating an awful situation for many Americans?

On Thursday, I ended up leaving work early because my pain and headache were at a high. I thought going home to rest would actually help me recover and feel better. images (16)Unfortunately, I was wrong because no more than 5 minutes of being in the car, I was in an accident. The accident was not my fault; it was the fault of a young kid. We both had a green light, but he was “supposed” to yield to on-coming traffic.

In all the years I have been driving this was the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced. Things kind of went in slow motion before the cars collided with each other. I did everything I could to avoid the crash, but it wasn’t enough. When I realized the kid was not going to stop, I laid on my horn and my foot was appearance of twoon the brake. My car is SO little and I know things could have gone much worst that they did, but it was still terrible. The sound the cars made when they made contact with each other, scared the hell out of me. I always act like a lady and try to be polite, but I got out of my car with furry and colorful language. The stupid and ignorant kid never even had the decency to apologize to me. The only thing this idiot said to me was, “We need to move the cars out of the road.” This was the first accident I have ever been in and I basically told him hell no, not until the police arrive. Honestly there were many more words than that, but I thought it was best to keep this a lot cleaner than The two carsit was!

I know my first call should have been 911, but mine was to my husband. We live so close to where the accident happened and I needed him there immediately. Thankfully my husband got to me in less than 5 minutes. When I called 911, the dispatch lady did tell me to move the cars, but of course I took pictures first. I wanted the cop to see the end result and there to be no questions at all whose fault it was.

The end result was my car was towed to a car repair place and the kid drove away with hardly any damage to his jeep. I am going to need to get a rental car until my car has been fixed, but I am terrified to drive again. Two days after the accident, I am still very sore. Y’all know I am use to dealing with pain, but it has elevated drastically. I am doing my best to just rest because that is the only thing that will calm the pain down.

on-the-tow-truck.jpgAnother thing I must say is, if my husband wasn’t there with me at the accident scene I would have been way too shaken up to handle it. Even with him there I was inconsolable and just cried and shook. Later he told me he was worried I was going to have a heart attack. In an effort to make me feel better, my husband gave me a new crochet bag and hooks, which are so great!! He has also been very attentive and helpful! I do want to let y’all know that I am okay after this accident and only dealing with extra pain.

Unfortunately I think we have all probably had a bad day or even a bad week when nothing seems to be going the right way. There comes a time when we have that thought, “Why me?” or “What did I do so wrong to deserve this?”  Well the truth is, there are NO reasons at all and it is definitely not a punishment. My experience with negative people and greedy insurance companies is just part of life. Even though I don’t know what it is, there was a reason for the accident to happen. We have been discussing selling my little car and images (17)getting me something that is much safer and maybe this accident was a push to do so!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I always appreciate your kindness and love reading your comments. I am sorry this post was SO much longer than I normally do, but I had so much to share with you.  I hope your weekend is going well and please be careful if you have to drive anywhere, it can be very dangerous out there! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤, comfort, and may positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

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Puzzle of Life!

Good afternoon y’all! I hope your weekend is starting off great and only gets better moving forward! Weekends provide much comfort and relaxation, which is often very needed and well deserved. I am still trying to get adjusted to this working full-time thing and still maintaining household duties, my blog and anything else that comes my way. Honestly it isn’t easy, but I also think I can handle it!

Over the past week or so, I have been thinking about how much our lives actually resemble a huge jigsaw puzzle. Sometimes we have a piece that fits together perfectly and other times nothing at all fits the way we expect or want  it to. It really is like when you try putting a large puzzle together, but some of the pieces you have in front of you become difficult to place because of their shape and size. We all face the same situation daily when we are confronted with people with different views and behaviors. We may strongly disagree with others point of views, but we are all entitled to our own views and perspectives. As long as these  thoughts do not cause physical and or emotional harm to another it should be accepted. 

Personally I think I am very capable of getting along with everyone and anyone, as long life-is-like-a-puzzle-stop-trying-to-place-people-where-they-dont-fit-quote-1as they are respectful of me and my beliefs. I have never tried changing another person or their views because that is just wrong to do! I feel that if we were all alike the world would be downright boring and we need diversity! I enjoy being around people who are different from myself and find learning about how they view things pretty fascinating!

All relationships and even jobs can be like putting a challenging puzzle together. When you start a new job, there will be some that51accc1426746b8fa9976fe7436086f5  co-workers you mesh well with and others whom you don’t and that is perfectly okay! You really can’t force the pieces of life together, things just fit when it’s meant to be! I have always believed that everything in life happens for a reason and when it is supposed to. Of course I tend to forget this often and get frustrated because I just want things to work out perfectly. I guess that is the part of me that is controlling, but we all have our faults and we deal with them as needed. 

Other parts of life, like dealing with a chronic illness or other difficulties just adds to thepuzzle-pieces-of-life-2-stock-illustration_csp34374889 puzzle of our life. It can be incredibly frustrating and test our strengths, but at the end of the day we can be proud of what we have accomplished. It is so important to never give up and know all the pieces will fit perfectly eventually.

I did try the new Editor version of WordPress, but did not do all that well with it. I will puzzle-piece-quotekeep trying and I am sure I will understand how it works soon. Have y’all tried it yet and do you have any advice for me?

Thank you for stopping by my site today! I always appreciate your words of wisdom and kindness. I am still working on getting caught up on reading and commenting on your posts and should be caught up before the weekend ends. I hope the rest of you day is amazing and you are feeling the best you can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Positive Ways to Job Search!

job searchIt is almost a little funny that of all people I am writing this post about job searching. Truthfully, I do not know if I am causing myself stress or if subconsciously stress is making me feel awful, but something is definitely going on. What I can say is I am going to make changes and actually listen to my own advice for once in my life!

Obviously looking for a new job can be a little stressful and quite exhausting, but that is only if we let it (which I tend to do).  All of us are in complete control of our reactions to all situations, but this can be easy to forget.

Y’all already know before my husband and I relocated I searched endlessly for a job-photo-1024x749 (1)job because I knew insurance was a MUST for me. Living in the United States, insurance is very costly, but at the same time needed because doctor’s appointments and medication is crazy expensive either way. I made this situation extremely stressful for no reason at all and it didn’t help matters. The right job was going to happen or it wasn’t going to and NO amount of stress was going to change the outcome.

images (6)As y’all know once again I am back in the job search situation. This time around was very much unexpected and caused me massive fear for a week or so, okay so I do still have the feeling of fear but I think it’s just getting a little better. It isn’t necessarily the finding a job part that worries me, it’s living with a chronic illness without insurance that terrifies me. I do know that getting overly upset won’t help me find a job any faster, but will end up causing me health issues I can’t afford at the moment.

I would like to share with y’all my new approach to job hunting with the least amount ofjob search low stress stress humanly possible. Hopefully I can stick with this though! This is just my opinion and has so far been helping me! Y’all might have a different approach that has worked for you and if you do, please share this with me. I really can use all the help I can get!!

The steps I am taking are as followed:

  1. I think this is the most important step to job searching with least amount of stress.

breathTake a deep breath and relax. If the job search was unexpected, as it was for me, it can be very emotional and time does ease the pain. Letting our emotions get in the way will only hinder success.

  1. Think about what job interests you and pursue it!

It is important to decide if you want to take this opportunity to make a career change or if you enjoyed what you had been doing and want to stay in that field. Take time with this decision because rushing into something can have you making unnecessary mistakes.

  1. Update your resume!update resume

Take time to review your current resume and modify when necessary. You might want to add new accomplishments or skills or you might want to add additional education you received. Now it the perfect time to do this!

  1. Create a cover letter.

images (7)Your cover letter needs to basically introduce and sell yourself to a potential employer. This should also be modified for each position you apply for, so you can base the content on skills required for the new job.

  1. Start your search!

Take time and utilize job search websites like Indeed, Linkedin, CareerBuilder, job.com and simplyhired.com. Honestly, even though there are many websites dedicated to people images (8)searching for a job, I am only way too familiar with Indeed and Linkendin. On the ones I have been on a lot, you can sign up to be email jobs that might be what you are looking for.

You may have noticed something common in each step and that is take time! Taking your time is only so you can find what you are looking for because the job you want is out there! After going through all these steps, all you can do is wait for a phone call or an email. I think waiting is the absolute hardest thing to do because I always want immediate results.  Definitely apply for numerous jobs because putting all your eggs in one basket is never beneficial. In time, you will get a call for an interview and at that point just be yourself! After any interview I go on, I always send a thank you email to the person I interviewed with, they seem to like that! It sets a relax-300good imagine and they will remember you when they are making their final decision.

Thank you for visiting today and I do hope this was helpful information. Of course I am looking forward to your responses and I am sure you have great ideas about looking for jobs with low stress! I hope your week is going well so far and definitely hope you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Crocheting helps with curve balls!

quote-inner-power-giant-todaySometimes life can throw a massive curve ball our way that ends up hitting us head on and hard as hell! During the past few weeks while I have been dealing with pain, heartache, disappointment and LOTS of stress it has been great to turn my attention to something that has eased my mind and given me some peace. Do y’all agree that being able to focus on something besides the stress and hardships of life is much healthier for the mind and health rather than to being absorbed by the negative is the best approach? I sure do!

Y’all might remember that during the holidays I was working on crocheting a blanket for our love seat that would match one I made previously for our couch. Well over the past f155b8cbaa1c506f981db978b13ec991few weeks I decided to focus my attention on making another blanket for our space bedroom! This has really helped ease my mind and provided me with LOTS of comfort, all while creating something that I think will be beautiful!!

Many years ago I learned how to crochet what’s called the “Granny Square” blanket. I know the name used to make me feel old, but it is a really easy pattern that you can just get completely lost in!

The one I just mentioned that I am making for our spare bedroom is going to be three 59d475ba81f82ed3c7607d4f45425c97different colors. I started with three rows of deep purple, two rows of grey and then two rows of black and just stayed with that color scheme. It fits well considering the bathroom attached to the spare bedroom is two shade of purple! I bet you can’t tell what my favorite color is! I promise, it isn’t difficult at all to change colors and actually gets easier the more you do it.

I am definitely not a pro with crocheting, but it might be the only thing that actually CsLOs_WWEAElIvNcalms my VERY tense and uptight nerves. I am going to share a few YouTube videos in case you wanted to give this a chance. If you are anything like me and gets insanely stressed out about everything, this might be very helpful for you!  These videos are pretty easy to follow and you will learn how to start a Granny Square and change colors if you want more than one color!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0g1yINMJQyI&t=447s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=26ncIHthj_I

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ResetFtgRgY

Please do not feel any pressure to try this; I just wanted to share with you what has 1.30.19-phone-300.jpghelped me through many hard times in life. If you are interested, I do know another type that I will share with you soon, but only if there is an interest. I did want to share with y’all the two of the blankets I have made. The brown, tan and black is the one for the love seat and the 1.30.19-phone-305.jpgpurple, black and great is the one that is in progress.

 I hope you are having a wonderful weekend and feeling great or at least the best you can! I am looking forward to reading any thoughts you may have about this post, if you are interested in learning to crochet or if you already know how to! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤, comfort and many positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

 

What do you do to unwind?

Happy Friday forget the weekGood morning y’all and HAPPY FRIDAY!! I think the weeks start feeling longer the older we get, but maybe that is all in my mind! What do y’all think? With the weekend finally near, I am looking forward to my two days away from work and getting up early! I might not sleep in as much as I should, but just knowing I do not have anywhere to be is a breath of fresh air!

Do y’all have things you enjoy doing to unwind from the long work week? Some of the things I truly enjoy doing and help me relax are similar to what I do in the evenings, but with more freedom and knowing the alarm will NOT wake me in the morning. I think some of what I actually enjoy others might view as stressful, but for me they WORK! Writing is something that helps me get mychristianlouboutin1 feelings and stress off my shoulders. This is something that I need because otherwise I would be even more of a massive stress case. Even though I write several hours before bedtime or when I should be preparing for sleep, I have been told (by the NP), I should not be doing so. I have said this numerous times before, but I am the only one that knows my body and what is beneficial to me. These are the types of comments and or advice I have learned to ignore or just let pass on in my mind. 

It can become a little difficult during the work week when I am too tired from work to give my nelson-mandela-quoteblogger friends the true attention they deserved. If I am too tired or in too much pain, I save reading others posts for the weekend, when I can really absorb what I am reading and then leave the best comments I can. This produces amazing friendships❤!

I honestly enjoy writing and making strong connections with others around the world. This  allows for me to learn from others different ways to handle life and the struggles we all face.  

I also really love trying to spread positivity to as many as I can! Life can get so complicated and really frustrating and we all have bad days! Even though my posts are full of reality and come straight from my heart❤, I do not sugar coat anything EVER. If I am having a horrible day my post might start off on the negative side, but they always flip to positive before it is done. The reason this happens is because I am getting the frustrations I am feeling out and finding a different way to view my struggles before I end the post. 

Now that I have shared something that actually helps me unwind and chill out, what helps y’all unwind and relax? I am interested to hear what you find beneficial as I knowrelax unwind and chill we all have different methods. What works for me, might not work for another.  Just as what works for you, might not be as helpful to me. All of this is okay because we are all uniquely different, which is what makes us special.

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today! I always appreciate you taking the time to read and LOVE❤ your comments. I am also very excited to read what you find helpful to relax after another long week! I hope you have a very lovely Friday and hope your weekend is fabulous! Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤ and comfort!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤

Zest for Life, Love & Strength!

Zest for life, love and strengthGood afternoon y’all! I hope you are enjoying your weekend and for those of us living in the states, I hope y’all are enjoying your long weekend! I sincerely hope you are feeling well. I can honestly tell you that I have been doing my best to not do much of anything and just enjoy my three days away from living on a schedule.

I think it is safe to say that we all go through difficult times over the course of our life. We will question anything and everything about what we are going through and the life we are living, only to not get any real true answers. I might be wrong, but I do believe that life was never meant to be easy. Even if we do not notice it, we learn and gain so much strength and knowledge with the challenging time we all face.Sunrise - Carolina Beach

I guess I feel that with all we deal with every single day of our life it can be pretty challenging. However we still must find the ability to enjoy the life we were given, love ourselves and those important to us and of course remember the strength we carry within ourselves as it is extremely powerful!

Even when life throws numerous curve balls at us, daily or even hourly, we still manage to do our best to bounce back from every hit. Some of the hits might be a little more intense than another, but that still doesn’t stop us! Each of us is full of love and determination, which enables us to keep up our fight for a pleasant life.

9c567cf19e3e6a689483b44f7f2ac52f--my-style-so-trueIt is crazy to think that every struggle makes us stronger because some of us have been to hell and back again so many times that we lost count, but still we may feel weak at times. I know over the 18 years I have lived with Multiple Sclerosis, there have been days I have felt like I was being punished for who know what. However, even with every horrible situation I have been through with this illness, I have never allowed Multiple Sclerosis to ruin my life and defeat me ever!

Do you ever wonder how you find the strength to get up every morning when you do not know how what do expect? Many chronic quote17-04illnesses are very unpredictable. This can mean that every day is different from another or even being a little more real, every hour of the day can different. This comes down to always being prepared for the unexpected and just keep moving forward without hesitation. This is not easy for anyone and yet that is what all of us do!

I do believe that we all have a “Zest for life, love and strength” because most days we all have the enthusiasm and energy to do it all and much more! There might be days we feel so exhausted from pain, which honestly can make us feel helpless, but just the fact that we have not given up shows our true inner strength. I think even in our weakest moments we still have a determined power that keeps us on track with our goals for life.  Is there zest for lifeanyone that is part of your life deal with what you do daily? I without a doubt can so ABSOLUTELY NOT! I would gladly change places with anyone when I hear what their very minor complaints are! The truth is, we all handle our struggles differently and for those that have been lucky enough to  have never had to endure what all of us do, they just do not understand and we can’t force them to comprehend!

Thank y’all for taking the time to visit my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have written about today and really look forward to your comments, which I will respond to just as quickly as I can! I hope you enjoy the rest of your Sunday and if this is a three-day weekend for you, I hope you enjoy the rest of the weekend! As always I am sending y’all LOTS of love ❤and comfort!

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Amazing benefits of Yoga!

good morning butterflyGood morning y’all! I hope your week has started your week off on a good note and you are feeling well today! I hope y’all have a lovely day and continue feeling the best you possibly can!

This past Sunday I received an amazing yoga tip that can be done at my desk at work from a fabulous fellow blogger! ❤Heather & Dizzy from https://dinosaursdonkeysandms.com/ sent me a YouTube link for a short yoga option that can be done easily at work! It is easy and incredibly helpful. Not only do I encourage you to check out Heather & Dizzy’s site, but please check out this short yoga video. I tried it at work on Monday and was shocked on how much it helped! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAUf7aajBWE

Both Heather & Dizzy have been doing yoga for some time now and knew how much Itransform your health really wanted to give this a try! The two of them share great videos showing just how easy yoga can be. Dizzy ❤is adorable with all her honest efforts and I know that Heather ❤will give Dizzy her favorite treats, ginger cookies!

So not just those of us living with a chronic illness, but everyone could benefit from practicing yoga. There are so many positives to trying this, with no negatives that follow! I think the improvements practicing yoga can provide us can and will be a benefit to our health!

5b25d83cf185a54b8dbe00c0871a5ae2The video I did while at work on Monday (the same one I shared with y’all) was relaxing and allowed the pain in my body to ease up some, which was wonderful! As I discover more easy-to-do yoga videos, I will continue to share them with y’all and if you know of any, please share them with me. I am really trying to find more ways to help me relax and therefore reduce the levels of stress I tend to feel daily!

Thank you so much for stopping by my site today and I do look forward to reading your comments! I do promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can! Again, please if you have not already viewed💞 Heather & Dizzy’s site, stop by their amazing site as I am more than certain you will find Heather’s personality and humor very encouraging and contagious! Thank you again Heather💞 for all of your kind & encouraging comments & your amazing advice about yoga!  Always remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love ❤and comfort! 

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