Letting go of anger, bitterness, resentment, and grudges is easier said than done, especially when you have been holding onto it for too long. Unfortunately, many of us have been hurt by the words or actions of another during our lives. Maybe this was inflicted by a parent who disappointed or criticized you multiple times or a friend or partner that deceived you, or possibly you encountered a traumatic experience, such as a form of abuse during your life. Deep wounds from the past can create these negative emotions and so much more, but we do not have to be held prisoner by them.
The fact is that holding onto and dwelling on the pain will only cause you more heartache. When you can embrace forgiveness, you will feel peace and less pain. Embracing forgiveness may lead you to physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
What does forgiveness mean? The actions that caused you emotional pain may always stay with you, but forgiveness can release and reduce the grip the resentment has on your heart and soul. Forgiveness can give you freedom from the control of the one that hurt you, In time, forgiveness may even provide you with a sense of understanding, empathy, and compassion for the person that hurt you.
When we are hurt by a person that we love and trust, it can be easy to hold a grudge. The feelings that are involved with this grudge can steam from anger, sadness, confusion, resentment, and hostility. Allowing these negative emotions to take hold and derail the positive thoughts can cause you to become overwhelmed with bitterness.
Holding onto a grudge can be toxic and have several negative effects on our lives. A few negative effects a grudge can impact our lives with may include:
~Carry anger and bitterness into new relationships
~You may become so consumed with your anger, you are unable to enjoy your life
~You may experience depression, irritability, and anxiety
~You forfeit valuable and rewarding connections with others
Letting go of a grudge you have carried and moving into a state of forgiveness is a commitment that takes practice and time but may offer you several benefits. Forgiving someone for their wrongdoings does not excuse their behaviors nor does it mean you will forget what happened, but this is necessary for your mental well-being.
A few benefits to forgiveness may include:
1. Building and maintaining healthier relationships
2. Improve our overall mental health
3. Reduce anxiety, stress, and hostility
4. Lessen symptoms of depression
5. Lower blood pressure
6. Maintain a strong immune system
7. Enhance self-esteem
8. Improve heart health
I hope you found this post helpful. I do try to not hold onto grudges, but there have been several times when I have failed miserably. It is not healthy and will only hinder you in life holding onto grudges and resentment whereas letting go and allowing for forgiveness will only free you from the negativity. I do not think it would cause anything negative if we try forgiving those that have wronged us. Again, this does not mean we will forget what happened, but it can allow us to be less burdened with negative emotions!
Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a wonderful weekend doing what brings you the most joy and peace. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. There are many people that I can forgive for what they did wrong, but there is only ONE person that no matter how hard I try, I will NEVER forgive. Even though I am unable to find forgiveness in my heart, I do not allow this person’s wrongdoings to prevent my happiness. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!
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Well, considering I write finance articles, that shouldn’t come as a surprise
Thanks for sharing
I try not to hold grudges, but, like you, I’ve failed miserably on occasion.
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It is not easy to not hold a grudge. Honestly, I am able to forgive most people, but still have resentment for others and one I will never forgive!
Excellent post! You’re so right about the benefits of forgiveness. Harboring grudges can literally affect your health.
The guidance at Ephesians 4:26 reminds me to settle matters quickly and to not let my anger fester. Nipping it in the bud quickly really helps. Thanks!
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Thank you so much! I am glad you liked this post!