How to be more confident

~Say goodbye to self-doubt~

No two people will experience the same moods, confidence, or self-esteem simultaneously. One of the most challenging things to live with is self-doubt and being your own worst enemy and hardest critic. This is something I know to be true because it is something I have lived with all my life. Always questioning if you are doing things correctly and good enough can wreak havoc on your self-confidence. Self-doubt and low self-esteem limit your full potential.

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to put an end to all m self-doubt. Unfortunately, it is already January 27th, and I am still battling with too much self-doubt. Looking back at the times I doubted myself, most of the time I was not incorrect and not doing anything wrong. I am not saying I am always right because that is not true, and no one is perfect. Admitting my faults comes easy to me but I am still trying to understand and accept that I am good enough.

Considering I have been unable to quit doubting myself and my abilities, I decided to do some research on the topic. If you have been plagued with self-doubt, we are in the same unfavorable situation. Maybe it is possible in this huge world we can help one another. I am going to share some ways to get through this pessimistic thinking and how to get into a brighter optimistic life.

Try to stay present in the conversation. Our inner critic tends to be a one-way dialogue that is filled with negativity. It is important to listen closely to what your inner voice is saying and rethink the story being told. If we can jump into the story and reinvent it in a more creative, realistic, and positive way. This allows us to take ownership and responsibility for our lives and act with mortality instead of running away from what we are meant to accomplish in life.

Attempt to create a positive life! We are not able to protect ourselves from less desirable outcomes, such as rejection, loss, let downs, and disappointments. We can decide how much we allow these negative situations to affect how we feel about ourselves. Creating a list of things that are going well in our lives and keeping it close may help in the long run. When we are feeling helpless or defeated, the list we created can be a reminder of the good things in life.

Getting out of your own head is one of the most important and difficult things to do, or at least it is for me. This is an event that explodes your self-confidence into small pieces. Maybe it is a derogatory comment heard someone say about you or not getting the job you had your heart set on. The only thing reliving the experience continuously does is prolong the pain and low self-worth felt. Falling into this negative cycle can be challenging to escape from, but distancing yourself from these thoughts can be accomplished by doing simple things you enjoy such as reading, writing binge-watching your favorite show, or anything else that helps you relax. Meditation (which I am not good at) can help to silence your pain.

Something else that I have learned over the years to be beneficial is to keep things in perspective. Those that are the least confident tend to focus on what they do not have instead of what they do have. Remaining thankful for what you do have is a BIG part of self-confidence. When you feel that your current circumstances are not measuring up to your expectations, your self-confidence could be very low. During this time, it will be easy to make a list of the 5 things you do not have in your life and want. Another list to make is 10 things you do have in your life. Although this list may be harder, it will help you to realize all you do have to be thankful for.

If self-doubt is something you deal with in life, I hope the information I have shared will be helpful. Life is short and living with these feelings is not the best way to live. If you have any other ideas you would like to share, that would be wonderful because your ways of handling these challenges could be extremely helpful for others.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe! I hope you have a great day, and you are not burdened with too much stress. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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