Love & Hate

love_and_hate_are_so_close_by_mishdew.jpgIt seems as though there has been a collision between love and hate in this world! We may find it difficult to find a balance in life when there is so much controversy everywhere we look, but it so important to at least try! I believe some allow themselves to be influenced by hatred and it tends to consume their lives. I can not help but ask myself why this is happening. We all deserve to be treated with love and respect no matter what our personal beliefs are. Why is it that it is so much easier to adopt hate into our lives and abolish the love in our hearts? It is my opinion that if there was even a little more love and a lot less hate the world would be a much better place!love and hate

I am a firm believer that it is essential to be kind to others! We never truly know what someone else is going through in life, but our kind words might be just what they need to change their perspectives. We may not fully understand what that person is battling, but we can at least try to empathize with them. No matter what is on the surface we all have struggles in life and sometimes need a little encouragement! We all want to triumph the struggles we face with dignity and grace! No one should ever be scrutinized for how they choose to deal with their daily struggles but be fully supported with love! 

I hope y’all had a great day today! I am continuously astonished by all of your fantastic comments on my posts as well as your own posts that you share! Each and every one of you have so much strength and passion that is incredibly inspirational! It takes so much resilience to push through chronic illnesses and pain, but y’all do a phenomenally with this everyday! Continue to be positive because as I have said so many times it is so important as it pushes away the all negative from your life! Thank you for stopping by today and please leave a comment on my thoughts for the day! I am always sending y’all love and comfort!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

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Essentials for Chronic Illness

Sunday 1When you are first diagnosed with a Chronic Illness, what are the first things that go through your mind? I know when my doctor told me I had Multiple Sclerosis I thought my life was over! I was young and only knew it was a debilitating illness with NO cure insight. I lived the first year after diagnosed in denial and a lot of sadness. But, as I got older I realized my life was NOT over and I could live a pretty normal life! 

I have discovered there are crucial things that need to be done in order to control this disease as much as I can. The most important thing I can do is be positive about life. No matter what I deal with living with MS, it really could be worse. There are about 400,000 people just in the United States that live Multiple Sclerosis, some have a pretty “mild” case of this disease, whereas some have a really aggressive form. Yes, I deal with a lot of pain and some days are worse than others. But, I do not believe it helps me at all to create the lifesit and think about how much I hurt. I think it is better use of my time and energy to focus on the good aspects of life. I do have handicap parking because sometimes it hurts more to walk long distances. However, I do not have a walker or a wheelchair and have full function of my legs no matter how much they may hurt! I deal with a constant amount of pain in my back but shockingly enough a heating pad helps in short-term. 

I have the love and continuous support of a very loving family. I think painful and difficult times would be so much more difficult without love. I value my family more than I can even begin to explain. My husband is here with me day in and day out and will listen to me whenever I need to vent. He offers me SO much emotional support as we all have our bad days when we think that nothing will ever improve. When I have a weak moment and go to him crying because I just want all my pain to go away, he Love heartALWAYS assures me I will be okay and get better in time. He always makes sure I have everything I need in order to be comfortable when I am resting to get well! My husband has an incredible amount of patience and tolerates my stubborn behavior like a champ! My biggest problem is I want to do everything and never ask for help, but he works hard to get me to do less and rest more!

Another essential for living with a chronic illness is, getting the rest your body needs. As I have already made clear, I am really bad at this but doing my best to improve. I feel like I am being lazy when I just sit on the couch watching TV, but there are times I realize that is what my body is asking me for. Getting plenty of rest does not necessarily mean you need to sleep all the time, but it does mean you need to take time to turn your brain off and relax!

It is also essential to reduce stress from your life as much as possible. Life does come with stress whether it be work, relationships, money, health etc but we do have the relaxchoice on what extra unnecessary stress we allow into our thoughts. Is it really important for us to try to solve and worry about the problems a friend or family member might be experiencing? Now it does depend on the problem! If a family member is coping with something they just need someone to talk to someone about, that is perfectly fine as long as it does not consume our life to an unhealthy point. I have the compassion where I always want to help, but I also know there are certain things I can not do anything about and need to take a step back from the situation. 

It is vitally important to love and value yourself. If we do not take care of our own health, we will not be able to be our entire self. Sometimes it is urgent for us all to take a break and think about what we enjoy! It is not selfish to think about what we need in life, which I am honestly still working on!

Thank you for reading and commenting of my thoughts for the day. I hope you had a lovely and relaxing weekend! Hopefully y’all are ready for yet again another Monday. Thankfully, I have a short week so I can only hope it is an easy week as people are preparing for the holidays! As always, stay strong and positive and good things are bound to occur! Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Time change confusion!

Fall backI hope y’all had a great weekend! I remembered to change our clocks last night before we went to bed, but for some reason this morning I was so confused as to what time it was. No clue by, but I was trying to set it back again. 

This is by far my favorite time of year. I know it gets dark earlier, but this  of year it is not too hot and not too cold, it is just right! Summers in the south are way too hot! I mean you step out side and you can not breath. Winters can be cold in the south, but they are very tolerable. Even though winters are not extremely cold, I do still enjoy the Autumn crispness and beautiful colors as the leaves fall. There is a calmness, when you look outside and see all the leaves changing colors! 

Today, there has been a darkness outside and definitely a little chill in the air. The crazy thing is, the weather will go from being cloudy and in the upper 60’s today, to rainy in the 70’s tomorrow and then mid-week drop again to the upper 60’s. The fluctuation of the temperatures does not allow our bodies to adjust to the changes, which typically causes me a lot more pain issues. 

As y’all know, I have been out of work for about one month now, battling my most recent 6601871244d8d3798da7c92b540e2044--dont-give-up-quotes-dont-give-upexacerbation. It has not been an easy month, but I am doing my best. I have tried this several times before, but I am trying again to go back to work tomorrow. I will be working  shorter days Monday-Wednesday, and then re-evaluating how I am feeling to determine my hours for the rest of the week. I am taking things slow, so that I do not slide backwards in my healing process. I am hoping taking things at a snail pace will be easier! Even though things did not work out for me before when I tried going back, I did not give up and I am trying again!

I am of course tired of living in pain, but I am learning  to try to almost ignore it. Ignoring the pain is not always easy , but I am just trying to focus my mind on other things. Honestly, some days my pain is so high that I am not able to focus on anything at all! It is almost like looking at a blank page when I try to read my book. I am trying to learn to take things on slowly , even reading in very small amounts, negativejust so I can make it through least a chapter.  I am really hopeful that I will do well back at work tomorrow and hopefully not have an increased amount of pain!

I truly hope y’all enjoyed your weekend and you are ready for the new week to start! I think it is important to start a new week with positive thoughts and not hold onto anything that may be negative from the previous weeks! When you go into a new week with a positive mind-set, it will only be able to bring happiness to your life!  We do all go through possibly long periods of time when we feel like nothing is going to change, but if you want there to be change in your life, you have to do something to make it happen. Unfortunately, things do not change if we just sit by waiting on the changes with all talk and no action.

As always please leave a comment and I will respond as quickly as I can! I have had the opportunity to get to know so many amazing people during my 4 months of doing this blog. I really look forward to getting to know many more people and hopefully what I write in my blog will help, inspire and encourage others when they are going through hard times.  Y’all take care and remember that you are not alone with what you are dealing with in life. There is always someone who does understand!

Love 2

 

Always, Alyssa

 

Importance of a Strong Support System

fight ms butterflyEveryone in this world has something they are going through in their life. Whether you are dealing with a break-up, starting a new relationship, loss of a job, loss of a loved one, financial struggles or getting diagnosed with an illness that has no cure,yet. All of these troubles are difficult to get through if you do not have someone there to help you see that there is hope. Being able to talk to someone you trust about something that is troubling you will not only reduce extra stress but will also help you process what you are being faced with.

Like everyone else, I have bad days. There are times I have come home from working a long 8+ hour day so exhausted and in so much pain that I am just about in tears. I am almost always home from work before my husband, Jon, so I will sit on the couch with our ever so loving cats and vent to them and even cry. As soon as Jon walks in the door he can always tell that something is wrong even if I am not in tears. He will automatically come over to give me a hug and so kindly ask what is wrong. I am able to share with him how frustrated I am about how much my back and legs hurt and that my right arm from my shoulder to my finger tips hurt from typing all day. After listening to all my complaints and trying to help me remember that the pain will get better but I do need to rest in order to get better. I am so thankful that Jon is so supportive, understanding and patient with me during my negative moments. Anyone that knows me, especially him, knows that I am too stubborn for my own good and I am horrible about just sitting back to relax. So he does everything in his power to take care of, listen to me and make sure that I am as comfortable as I can get. 

No matter what we are dealing with in life it is impossible to remain positive all of the time. We all have our bad days. We might feel helpless to a specific situation or we might feel like things will never change or we might even start wondering why me, what did I do so wrong to deserve this much pain and frustration. It is okay to feel like that and it doesn’t make you weak, it just makes you human. My Grandfather, who was a very strong and wonderful man, use to tell me “No matter what you are going through in life, there is always someone else that is going through something worse.” To me, those are some very powerful words to live by. I have always kept that in my mind when I start feeling sorry for myself when I am struggling with pain issues. It is normal to get upset about something but is so important to keep your head held high and remember tomorrow is another day and things will get better!

Thank you for returning to visit by blog. I hope that this post was helpful to everyone. This blog is meant to help keep spirits lifted and even be a resource if you need someone to connect with. Please share this site with anyone you know that is battling an incurable illness or someone who needs help with struggles.  

Hope for cureBest Wishes and thank you for your support,

             Alyssa