Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday eve y’all! How has your week been? My new job is still going well and it is getting much easier. I was worried during training because there was so much information, but doing the work has it making more sense. I guess I was so used to my old job, so much so that it became like second nature, I was worried I was not going to be able to do the new job as well. I think I discouraged myself before trying to believe in myself, which I tend to do too much.

We have almost made it through another week, but still, have one final day to survive and I think we can with no problems. I do believe that after so many long days, we could all benefit from a little pick-me-up. I hope the quote I am sharing will provide you with that and help you to believe in yourself, and never let anyone tell you that you cannot do something. There is nothing we cannot do if we try and never give up. The only person I have ever let tell me I cannot do something is myself, but I am trying to silence that voice.

My goal was to continue doing at least one post a day, but yesterday I was too exhausted and did not have the energy to share something meaningful. The work I am doing might not be too difficult, but getting used to the system, daily workflow, the pain I always feel, and the weather made me not feel well enough. Now that the weekend is not too far away, I am hoping to finish a few posts I started, but are not completed yet. Starting something and not finishing makes me feel like there is a lot left unfinished, but I will try to do better.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I shared and the quote resonates with you. In the past, people used to think that because I had Multiple Sclerosis there were things I was not able to do and I truly loved providing them wrong. I do look forward to your comments, which I will respond to as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Peacefulness Tuesday

Happy Tuesday, y’all! The weeks often feel so long, but we did survive Monday and that is progress. How is your week going so far? I am trying to prepare my mind for starting work next Monday and although I am excited, I am also very nervous. I know it is normal to be nervous about starting a new job but this job is mainly customer service and I have always excelled in that type of work so I am sure I will do well. I am really good at taking notes and asking questions during the training, so I am going to just relax and trust my capabilities.

We are living in a world that is full of chaos, uncertainty, fear, sadness, and hatred. It can be challenging to try turning these negative feelings into anything optimistic. Regardless of how you handle these stresses, we all deserve peace. When we feel like we are drowning in stress and misery we need to discover things that can pull us out of the quicksand of sadness. I hope you will find the quote I am sharing today peaceful and calming! I do look forward to reading what you think about it because I value your opinions!

Until I start working again next week, I am sure you know noticed I have tried doing at least one post a day. I am not sure if you have heard that there is already a new COVID variant out. It is a mix of Delta and Omicron, which has me very nervous and concerned. I am planning to go get a second booster shot very soon, but who even knows if that works. I have been sick and tired of everything to do with COVID for going on three years, but I guess it is not going anywhere anytime soon.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are feeling well and having a good week. I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading your comments. I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Do you believe in signs?

Although I may never understand why certain things happen in life, there is a huge part of me that believes there are signs behind what occurs in life. Maybe there are signs that we are sent from a spiritual place or from a loved one we have lost. I am aware that not everyone believes in signs because that is something my husband and I disagree on and that is okay because everyone is entitled to their opinion.

I remember when we were relocating to another city and state a few years ago and I had just finished an interview, which I was not certain about. A beautiful butterfly flying near the car and landed on my window. She stayed there for a short time, showing off her vibrant colors. I have always loved butterflies and thought they held a powerful meaning. I viewed this encounter as a sign the job and the move were the right decision and things were going to work out beautifully. I thought this sign was from my late grandfather watching over me and ensuring life was going well.

Before the encounter with the butterfly, I have always viewed visits from them as a sign from somewhere above. After my late grandfather’s funeral and I was back home on my lunch break at work, which I took outside on nice days to get away from being trapped inside, the same butterfly or at least I thought it was the same butterfly came to visit me every day on my lunch break. Considering how heartbroken and lost I felt after this loss, I viewed this butterfly as my grandfather coming to let me know he was doing well and to continue living my life until we met again. This might sound delusional, but this butterfly offered me comfort during a tragic and painful time in my life.

Recently, I experienced something I feel is unusual. While I was working at my previous job, which of course, was at home I had a daily visit in the window above my desk. This visitor was a small, adorable bird called the Ruby-Crowned Kinglet. He always flew outside my window, kind of hoovering within my view. He seemed to be almost showing off, trying to get my attention and more so on a bad day. During the unpleasant Zoom meeting in December when I was laid off, the little bird stayed in the window for a while showing off his flying abilities, which brought me some joy during an upsetting time.

Out of pure interest and curiosity, I have looked up the meaning behind a visit from a butterfly. No to my surprise, visits from butterflies means angels are approving your actions and you might be on the right path. This can also mean that the angels are guiding you through life. This makes perfect sense to me because I am confident saying my late grandfather is my guardian angels that is always watching over me and carrying me through most struggles in life. Even to this day when I see a butterfly, I feel my grandfather’s presence nearby.

Again, purely out of my curiosity, I had to know what the sign was from the Ruby-Crowned Kinglet. Sure, enough there is meaning or a sign behind them. The spiritual meaning for the Ruby-Crowned Kinglet is fearlessness and calm, which is exactly what I needed the day I was laid off. The amusing part about my Ruby-Crowned Kinglet friend is even when he is not seen for a few months, he always returns and puts on a show by doing his little dance in the window.

When I was younger, I thought when the clocked showed “11:11” you had to make a wish. I did this for years, but when I looked this up, I learned something slightly different. The numbers 11:11 still appear to be a good sign because they are angel numbers. These angel numbers can suggest new beginnings and possibilities. It may be good to pay close attention when these numbers are seen because your guardian angels are attempting to reach out to you with positive energies. These angel numbers can also be interpreted as a sign from the universe guiding you to focus on someone or something.

Is there anything that you believe is a sign and if so, what is it? I know there are many more signs other than the three I mentioned, but I did not want this post to be too lengthy for you to read. I do believe signs can be extremely powerful but also understand some people believe these are merely coincidence. However, I do not  think things happen by accident or coincidence and believe everything happens for a reason.

Thank you for visiting my site and reading this post. I hope you found this post interesting and maybe you believe in signs as well. Monday is never an easy day because we are letting go of the weekend, but hopefully you have an amazing week. I am looking forward to reading your comments on this post and will respond as quickly as I can.  Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Beautiful Complications

The world is a beautiful, complicated, and challenging place to live in. There are times we may feel like we are suffocating or drowning in the dark and deep waters because the intensity of what we are facing is so strong. We will also experience days that are bright and full of joyful moments. These days are not normally perfectly balanced, but we have a choice to hold onto our optimism and understand it is a necessity.

As children, we depend on our parents to guide us down the right roads and teach us right from wrong. Sadly enough, not all parents teach these lessons to their children, and they go out into the world blind and unprepared. It leaves me feeling confused because there are so many people in the world that want children and would provide a loving, nurturing, and wonderful home, but they are unable to have children. On the other hand, some never wanted children and should not have them, but they do.

It breaks my heart to see the world being where it is today. The sheer levels of hate and anger tear people down and leave them as nothing more than an empty shell. I have always tried so hard to see the best in people but am struggling more and more to find the good in some that I have encountered. I used to think that there was good in everyone, no matter who they are, and I am not so sure about that anymore.

We are all faced with choices in life, one road will be the one that takes additional effort and honesty and another path, that is that easy path and can include dishonesty. Why does it seem like in the world today, people chose that path that is filled with lies, dishonesty, and deceit? It takes more effort to lie, than it does to be honest because once you begin lying, it is like a snowball effect and never ends and causes people to be hurt and disappointed.

I hate thinking that it is possible that the last honest people in the world, were in my late grandfather’s generation. You cannot turn on the news without hearing lies, deceitful, and dangerous misinformation. So many people are too selfish to understand their behavior is damaging and evil. It is not that difficult to be compassionate and understanding towards other, but it seems like people think if they practice these behaviors, it would be the end of the world.

As you can probably tell in what I have written today, I am frustrated with the mindset and behaviors of others. I do the best I can to treat everyone equally and with respect but have been treated like a nobody by people I thought were different and believed they were caring. I am proud to be different from others because I would not feel good about who I am if I were just like everyone else. What others consider normal, I consider mean and evil, so I have no interest in being what normal is to others.

I have been struggling lately with trying to find a job and understand the way people think and act. As challenging as it has been, I think finding my “perfect” job will happen long before I can understand people because most people do not make sense in anyway shape or form. I do not understand where all the hatred is coming from and why it is spreading like wildfire. It is just a sad situation and I do not know how or when it will improve. Maybe when we see the end of COVID, we will also see positive changes to those currently filled with hate. Stranger things have happened.

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading this post. I know it was not filled with sunshine and rainbows, but it was filled with my honest feelings and struggles. I am not normally a negative person, but I am an optimistic and realistic person. I hope you are enjoying your weekend and staying safe! I do look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Saturday Evening Thoughts

Happy Saturday evening y’all! I hope your weekend has started well and you are enjoying yourself. I know everyone looks forward to the weekend, but have you ever asked why exactly the weekends are so great? Of course, there is typically no work and we do not have to get up early, which is wonderful for most of us. There is still a lot of stress regarding COVID and we SHOULD all be following the advice from experts. Everyone knows that I have not worked since December 9th, when I was laid off, so things have been different for me and weekends.

Getting up early has been stuck in my being and it is frustrating. It does not matter what time I go to bed at night, I always wake up no later than 7:30 AM. Of course, one part of getting up early is because my cats want their morning treats at a specific time, and they start jumping all over me. With that said, I normally feel sleep deprived.

As for being able to enjoy the weekends, how are we supposed to do that when leaving the house can be a matter of life and death because of a deadly virus? Of course, we can leave our homes, but it is crucial to not only be vaccinated but also wear masks and social distance. How much fun can we really have when we must wear a mask which seems to be a little suffocating? With so many people still refusing to get vaccinated, and some will not wear a mask or even social distance, this virus will never go away.

As y’all know, I have been applying for jobs multiple times a day. Currently, things are starting to look brighter for the job situation. However, so far, the one that has been offered is a part-time job. Obviously, the part-time job is not enough hours for me, but at least it will be an income. There are two other full-time jobs, that I am waiting to hear back about. I am not patient and hate the waiting game, but things have a crazy way of working out. I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we do not know the reason immediately.

Being unemployed has not been a great experience for me because I have worked for as long as I can remember. It has been nice to have additional free time to write more and be more involved with my blog. Yes, there have been times I was not able to write because I was dealing with another one of my migraine/sinus headaches. However, there have been times late at night when my mind is racing, and I have ideas to write about.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have shared, and I am eager to read your comments. Hopefully, you are enjoying your weekend and staying as safe as possible. I am working on a post about the latest variant of COVID and should be publishing it by the end of the weekend. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

How to be more confident

~Say goodbye to self-doubt~

No two people will experience the same moods, confidence, or self-esteem simultaneously. One of the most challenging things to live with is self-doubt and being your own worst enemy and hardest critic. This is something I know to be true because it is something I have lived with all my life. Always questioning if you are doing things correctly and good enough can wreak havoc on your self-confidence. Self-doubt and low self-esteem limit your full potential.

One of my New Year’s resolutions was to put an end to all m self-doubt. Unfortunately, it is already January 27th, and I am still battling with too much self-doubt. Looking back at the times I doubted myself, most of the time I was not incorrect and not doing anything wrong. I am not saying I am always right because that is not true, and no one is perfect. Admitting my faults comes easy to me but I am still trying to understand and accept that I am good enough.

Considering I have been unable to quit doubting myself and my abilities, I decided to do some research on the topic. If you have been plagued with self-doubt, we are in the same unfavorable situation. Maybe it is possible in this huge world we can help one another. I am going to share some ways to get through this pessimistic thinking and how to get into a brighter optimistic life.

Try to stay present in the conversation. Our inner critic tends to be a one-way dialogue that is filled with negativity. It is important to listen closely to what your inner voice is saying and rethink the story being told. If we can jump into the story and reinvent it in a more creative, realistic, and positive way. This allows us to take ownership and responsibility for our lives and act with mortality instead of running away from what we are meant to accomplish in life.

Attempt to create a positive life! We are not able to protect ourselves from less desirable outcomes, such as rejection, loss, let downs, and disappointments. We can decide how much we allow these negative situations to affect how we feel about ourselves. Creating a list of things that are going well in our lives and keeping it close may help in the long run. When we are feeling helpless or defeated, the list we created can be a reminder of the good things in life.

Getting out of your own head is one of the most important and difficult things to do, or at least it is for me. This is an event that explodes your self-confidence into small pieces. Maybe it is a derogatory comment heard someone say about you or not getting the job you had your heart set on. The only thing reliving the experience continuously does is prolong the pain and low self-worth felt. Falling into this negative cycle can be challenging to escape from, but distancing yourself from these thoughts can be accomplished by doing simple things you enjoy such as reading, writing binge-watching your favorite show, or anything else that helps you relax. Meditation (which I am not good at) can help to silence your pain.

Something else that I have learned over the years to be beneficial is to keep things in perspective. Those that are the least confident tend to focus on what they do not have instead of what they do have. Remaining thankful for what you do have is a BIG part of self-confidence. When you feel that your current circumstances are not measuring up to your expectations, your self-confidence could be very low. During this time, it will be easy to make a list of the 5 things you do not have in your life and want. Another list to make is 10 things you do have in your life. Although this list may be harder, it will help you to realize all you do have to be thankful for.

If self-doubt is something you deal with in life, I hope the information I have shared will be helpful. Life is short and living with these feelings is not the best way to live. If you have any other ideas you would like to share, that would be wonderful because your ways of handling these challenges could be extremely helpful for others.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good week and you are staying safe! I hope you have a great day, and you are not burdened with too much stress. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Ways to travel safely!

It had been several years since we have been able to do anything, besides be imprisoned in our house because of COVID. Recently, we were able to get out of our house and the state we live in to celebrate my husband’s birthday. Of course, he loves doing something extremely cold, and I am not that good at, snowboarding. Even though it was cold and a LONG drive, it was fantastic to have a change of scenery and freedom from house arrest (not literally, it is just because of COVID)!

Now one small problem is, what do you do when there is a long drive ahead of you and you despise driving? I never expect my husband to do all the driving on a long drive and will always offer to do some of the driving. Granted, he knows my distaste for driving because I have never hidden that from anyone. I have two reasons for detesting driving. One is driving near the big 18-wheeler trucks is terrifying and the second is it is extremely difficult for me to see at night. My vision causes me to feel worse than a deer in headlights!

As great as it was to be out of our house for the first time in three years, it was concerning due to the increased numbers of COVID. Obviously, being fully vaccinated reduces the risks of getting COVID, but unfortunately, people are still losing their battle with COVID. As resistant as I was to be going anywhere, there are ways to go away safely. I will share with you my ideas for staying safe while traveling during COVID and encourage you to share any thoughts you may have!

First things first, it is crucial to be FULLY vaccinated! I do understand why many are worried about the vaccine because it is still new and was created so quickly. However, to put your fears to rest think about how many people continue to die due to the virus as opposed to how many have died from the vaccine. Allow me to explain the numbers worldwide. As of January 19, 2022, there have been 855,000 deaths due to COVID. There have been three cases in the United States when someone died after getting the vaccine because of blood clots. I guess the truth is you can gamble with your life and not get the vaccine and have a much lesser chance of survival or get the vaccine to increase chances of survival and to avoid getting the virus.

The second thing to be sure to do is, even if you are fully vaccinated be prepared to wear a mask when not in a hotel room.  This is going to sound insane, but social distancing is my favorite thing related to COVID. I have always preferred to keep my distance from others because when someone stands too close to me, I find it to be invasive and suffocating. I say be sure to have your mask with you because many people refuse to wear a mask and or get the vaccine, so you could be the smart one wearing a mask and not getting ill.

The third thing we were sure to do when we entered the hotel room was, spray all surfaces with Lysol. I know there are proper protocols for staff to clean but spraying everything down with Lysol is a way to ensure your safety. If you are planning to spray everything in a small hotel room with Lysol, be sure of the scent because you do not want to spray everything down with something that smells bad.

The other way we stayed safe while on our mini vacation was, we did not go out to eat at a restaurant. It is just as easy to pick up a take-out order and go back to a nice warm and safe hotel room. Yes, you will not have someone waiting on you, but I think it is more important to be safe than be waited on.

I am glad we were able to get away for a few days and I am looking forward to the day we can travel again without being concerned about a deadly virus. I do not believe anyone has the answer to when this will happen, but we all must remain positive and hope for the best when the virus is no longer a threat. I know some people are still hesitant about getting the vaccine but look at how many have already gotten the vaccine and are still alive and nothing changed besides being safe from the deadly virus!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I hope you found what I have shared about traveling safely helpful and it will be a benefit to you in the future. I hope you are having a great week and staying safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~Overcoming challenging obstacles~

Many things that happen in life were not planned and were completely unexpected. When these unplanned situations occur, they can turn our lives upside down and inside out. What do you do to pull yourself together and continue moving forward? Do you take a break and rebuild what feels like a collapse of your life? Do you surrender to the struggles, curl up in a ball, and wait for the storm to pass? Do you keep fighting with the strength you have internally and continue living your life?

As y’all already know, I was laid off from my job last week. Of course, even though it was always in the back of my mind that layoffs could happen, I was not expecting to be laid off so close to Christmas. Over the past few days, I have been processing my emotions and trying to let go of my anger and sadness. I have decided to do everything possible to stay positive and move forward with my life. This does not mean I will not still go through moments when I am irate and then sad, but I am going to try not letting these negative emotions consume and destroy my happiness.

Going through hard times happens to everyone, but there are several ways to overcome hard times. I hope the following ways to overcome hard times will help you the next time you face challenges, struggles, and or hardships.

One of the most important things is to understand, things will not always be as difficult as they are initially, and they will get easier. I have always believed that everything in life happens for a reason and something better is waiting for us. We cannot change the hardships when they occur, all we can do is accept and embrace them, and carry on.

With any struggle we endure there are valuable lessons to learn. The struggles we experience during our life offers us the strength we will need for tomorrow, next week, and or next year. I will admit any struggle I go through I always ask myself the same questions, “Why me?” “What did I do to deserve this?” “Why is this happening to me?” I understand blaming bad situations on my bad luck or anyone else does not fix or change anything. Accepting that no one is perfect and identifying our faults can help welcome change and improvements into our life!

Struggles can be exhausting, painful, and incredibly stressful. For our mental health we must try living for the day. Do not worry about what happened yesterday or last week, do not worry about what could happen tomorrow, just think about the current moment. If we are always worried about tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, our anxiety will continuously be extremely high, and this is an unhealthy way to live our short life.

Understanding what you can control and what you have no control over is very important. We can control our actions and reactions, but we do not have any control over anyone else’s actions or reactions. When we learn to let go of controlling others or things, we can solely focus inward!

We often feel alone when we are going through a challenging time in life. It is always important to have someone that you can trust and be able to talk with them open and honestly. I know without a doubt that my three cats know how I am feeling all the time and they are delighted that I am with them more now that I do not have a job. I think everyone knows how much I love animals and that we treat our cats like they are our children because they kind of are! Anyone that goes through something difficult in life that leaves them feeling lost needs a sweet furry friend that can make anyone smile!

On Sunday evening, I had a nice chat with my former supervisor about the layoffs. Not the supervisor I reported to at the time of the layoff, the one I was working with for a few weeks before that I just adore and respect. Chatting with her, made things feel a little better because she did not know what was going to happen on Thursday and I trust what she says. This makes me think that “maybe” my supervisor did not know as well, but I will never know what she did or did not know.

Being able to view this layoff situation in a more positive mindset means I will have more time to do the things I love and that give me the outlet needed in life. I am thankful that I will be able to focus more on building on my writing skills and learn of other ways to use the skills I learn. I have always enjoyed writing and working 40 hours a week made it difficult because at the end of the day, I was always too exhausted to focus on writing. I am also going to have more time to read the books I have been wanting to read.

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today and read what I have shared. I always welcome your comments, which I will respond to even faster now because I have the time. I hope you had a great and safe weekend, and your week starts great and gets even better with each day that passes. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Endless Circle of Change

Life can be a combination of craziness, fascination, and excitement. I think it is the changes that bring these emotions on. Change can be difficult and keep life interesting, but also a little frustrating when they happen too frequently. I think some people thrive on change, while others are apprehensive about any change. It is not necessarily that I dread or avoid change because I do think there is a lot of change needed, especially for those that do not see others as their equal because of irrational reasons. The only time when I dread change is when I am comfortable and happy with the way things are, and it is not causing other distress.

Speaking of change that I dread, two weeks ago, my position changed at work changed. I will be honest when I first heard my position was changing, I was not happy about it because it was all new to me and it made me nervous. I have been with my company for one year and doing the same thing for the entire year, so I knew what I was doing. Within the first two hours in the new position, I was incredibly happy and adored the person I was shadowing, who is the supervisor. It is amazing how much one person can make things so much better.

During my two weeks working with this amazing, understanding, compassionate, empathetic, honest, and all-around wonderful lady I learned so much. She made my work life the best it has been in years, and I never dreaded clocking into work as I have before. I have always believed that people do not come into our life by accident, but there is a reason. Even though I have never met this person face to face, I feel like I have known her for years. I felt more than 100% comfortable talking to her about anything, whether it be work or personal, which was something I needed.

I think most people only view work as a job and their co-workers as just acquaintances, but I tend to view things differently. Of course, there have been jobs and co-workers in the past that I did not find enjoyable and was just doing what I had to do for a paycheck. However, there have been jobs and co-workers that were more than just a paycheck for me, and I cared deeply for them. I became so close with co-workers in the past that I invited them to my wedding! It is not always easy to make strong connections with co-workers and it can be exceptionally challenging when you work from home, but it can be done with enough time, understanding, and kindness!

Are y’all more accepting of change, no matter how frequent they happen, or are you resistant to change? When you are faced with changes, how do you handle them? I think this can cause uncomfortable situations because we get used to things being the way they are, and we sometimes cannot see the silver lining in any change.

There are MANY changes that need to happen in the world we live in but it appears that many disagree with me on this or they cannot see why change is very needed. What do you think should change in the world today? I mean it is 2021 and there is still far too much hatred Aand discrimination that exists. I used to think we “were” doing better before certain powerful people made it normal, which brought hatred to a much brighter light, but maybe I am naïve and want to see the best in people. Or maybe are now just showing their true colors and it is not a pretty color! Often, I do feel like it is better for our own mental health to keep our expectations low, so the chances of disappointments and letdowns are less likely to occur. I know that is probably a negative way of thinking, but I have been caused too much hurt and sadness from being disappointed by someone I trusted.  

I am sure I am not the only one in the world that feels this way, but we need more people that care about others and have empathy for them. Of course, we might not always know the person that is struggling, but we can have a certain level of understanding and a desire to help those that are going through a tragic time in life. No single person can change the world, but that one person can have a positive impact on another and make at least one day better for them.

Thank you for taking the time to read what I have written today. I would love the opportunity to read what your thoughts are, and I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can. I hope you enjoy your weekend, but please do what you can to stay safe. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Importance of Relationships

There are numerous aspects of our lives that are crucial for our existence but are often what we neglect. Life can be busy and complicated which can cause us to take things and people for granted. Unfortunately, it takes some people losing what and or who is most important to them to realize what matters the most. If I asked you what or who means the most to you in your life, what would your answer be? Do you ever have to wonder if your partner in the journey of life knows what they mean to you?

Our relationships with our significant others should be valued and cherished. Not only is this special person who we are building our lives with, but they are also our best friend and confidant we go to with every part of our life. There are specific things we owe not only to this person but to ourselves. The several critical areas needed to develop a good and healthy relationship go hand in hand. The following list is in no particular order as they are all of equal importance.

Trust is what keeps a relationship strong. Without trust, a relationship will not be able to flourish and continue to be pure love. When you do not trust your partner the way you should, you will not have peace because you will spend your life with doubts and constant worrying, which is no way to live. Of course, trust is not something that can be earned overnight, but it can be lost in seconds.

Building a love with complete loyalty might be more important than love alone. I do not think that love can truly exist without loyalty because of the core meaning. The full meaning of loyalty is faithfulness to commitments and obligations, such as your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. This is a strong feeling of support, comfort, encouragement, and fidelity.

Open and honest communication is the key to make a relationship possible for success and happiness with both parties. Talking openly and in a manner your partner understands is needed for a favorable outcome. It does not matter if you are angry, happy, or filled with grief we need to be able to share these feelings with our partners. If we are not able to speak openly, clearly, and from the heart with our special person, it can be an ultimate killer in that relationship.

Respect is equally as important as love is in a relationship because when you genuinely love another person, you love them completely and for who they are. A relationship is a bond between two adults that may have a difference of opinions and views, but there is an understanding about these things. Respecting one another is the basic foundation in any healthy relationship. With this understood, it is critical to appreciate your partner for who they are and what they feel about all topics and never diminish their views. We need to know how to maintain boundaries and say things in a manner that does not hurt our partner’s feelings, which is one simple way to show respect.

Relationships can take us on a roller coaster of emotions as we endure many challenges in life. One of the great things is, our partner will be there by our side through good times, bad times, and the most tragic times. This is extremely important for mental health because life does throw so much our way and with a loving partner to offer a lending ear, a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to hold can be extremely helpful. Our partner in life is the one we share the happy and sad news with and when we are feeling down on our luck this is the one, we want to be there. Our partner in life helps keep the walls from falling around us and is the glue that keeps us together. When you are in a relationship, this is a partnership and a team that stands together with whatever life throws our way!

When you love another person, you do not think twice about giving up something you want to make the other person happy. You want to accommodate the other person’s dreams and desires. If your partner dreams of climbing Mt. Everest, you try your best to make this dream come true even if it is not something you want out of life. That might have been an extreme kind of example, but some things in life need to be considered. This does need to be a mutual part of the relationship because if only one person is continuously compromising it can create negativity, animosity, and hostility, which can cause people to drift apart.

It is a great feeling when you can completely and totally trust your partner. The only thing you MUST do to maintain this is to always be honest with your partner. The smallest of white lies and deception can dismantle the trust built up and destroy a relationship. Not only will dishonesty hurt your partner it will also break the bond shared, all trust, and your relationship as well. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes, but when we do, we need to accept responsibility for the mistake and sincerely apologize. Of course, our partner might get angry, but if we are honest with our partner, they will appreciate the honesty.

With honesty comes forgiveness, or at least it should. We all want our partners to be honest with us, but we can make this easier for them when we can forgive and forget (or at least try to forget). There are some things in a relationship that can be almost impossible to forgive but want to forget, such as infidelity.

The things I have discussed in this post are not difficult to do when you love the person you are with. The things our partner expects from us is what we should provide to them as well. Those we are in a relationship with are the one person we feel the safest with and they should feel the same way. If you have reservations about your relationship, this is something that needs to be shared with the other person. No one can read minds, so how would we expect them to know how we are feeling unless we share our feelings with them?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and look forward to reading your amazing comments. I promise to respond to all your comments as quickly as I can. Remember to continue to stay safe and take care of yourself and your family. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa