Category Archives: Kindness

What a long week?

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How do you enjoy spending the first day of the weekend? I prefer to use Saturday as a day to “TRY” to sleep in and get some much-needed rest after a painfully LONG week! I might try doing some cleaning today, but I might hold off until tomorrow. Even though between my sweet and loveable cats and my annoying habits of getting up at the same time daily, I will not sleep past my normal time. I do hope that I will be able to binge-watch one of my favorite shows, Law & Order Special Victims Unit, and considering I have seen every episode at least four times sleep on and off during the day. Many people do not understand why I love this show as much as I do because it is about sex crimes, but this shows is the only time I am able to see actual justice. Yes, I do know this show is not always based on actual events, there is justice for the victims!

After how long this past week felt, there is something that I cannot understand about people and their behaviors. Why is it so difficult for people to behave and treat others kindly and with respect? Also, why can people not think rationally, instead of 100% irrationally? It seems like everyone wants what they want and they want these things immediately! I understand that most people are impatient, but it is not too difficult to at least try to be reasonable. Unless I am missing something and there are people out there that can walk on water and perform miracles.

I cannot imagine I am the only person that believes in equality, right? Why should anyone be treated differently and with more respect than anyone else? I firmly believe we should all try building each other up and not tearing anyone down for any reason! If we could all try doing this once a day, once a week, or if it is too challenging for someone, once a month, I think this world would be much better and much happier! We have nothing to lose doing this, so why do more people not do so?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope your week went well and you have a wonderful and safe weekend! This is your weekend and you do not have to do anything that you do not want to or anything that does not bring you joy! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will respond to y’all as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

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Pick-Me-Up-Thursday

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Happy Friday eve, y’all! I hope you have had a good week and you are looking forward to the weekend. Do you have anything planned for the weekend? I plan to try relaxing and resting because I am still a little rundown from the mini vacation for my husband’s birthday. The only thing I will ask you is, please stay safe. Several people that I work with and remember, I work from home and have not met anyone I work with personally, but I learned that several of them were diagnosed with COVID. I am unaware if they received any of the vaccines or boosters, but they did say how miserable they were feeling, and I would not want anyone to feel that way.

It does not matter who we are or what we have overcome in life, we all have bad days. When we have a bad day, it can be difficult to get over it when others are behaving negatively or unpleasantly. Yesterday, I was frustrated because of a few things that occurred when I was out, and I felt like someone was throwing me under the bus and making a mountain out of a molehill. I ended up chatting with another co-worker about the issues and told her how foolish I felt. This co-worker has become a good friend and she was able to say a few things that turned my bad day into a much brighter day. This is the reason I am sharing the quote I am today, and I hope it helps you deal with challenging days a little better😊!

We may not always be able to say the right things when communicating with others, but we can most definitely say the wrong thing that will make another person feel terrible. Our words and actions can make a HUGE difference in another person’s life, but we always want it to be for the better. There is already too much negative that occurs in the world around us, but we can do something positive. Unfortunately, we will never know the way someone else is feeling or if they are struggling and ready to give up on life. I know that none of us want to be the reason why someone does something they cannot take back!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed the two quotes that I shared, and they resonate with you, and you will turn around and share them with someone else. I have always believed it is easier to be kind, understanding, and compassionate with others as opposed to being mean and rude because that takes too much energy, and is a waste of our time. All it takes is to do or say something nice to another person and it could change their entire day for the better😊! I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Kindness is the way of life

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We have successfully made it through the first day of the week and I hope it was a good day for y’all. I am thankful for my job and the people I work with, especially during this slow time of year. It can be easy to get discouraged in this life, but it is wonderful to have family, friends, and co-workers to make it a little easier to tolerate. Even though work has been rather slow, I try to help my co-workers because I value them and want to help them keep things on track, and so they do not feel overwhelmed. It can be exhausting when things pile up due to meetings or training, and some people have children they need to tend to. I feel like taking a little off their full plates when I can help them not get too overwhelmed and frustrated.

We never know what another person is going through in their life. Many people will put on a fake smile to hide their pain because they do not want anyone to know they are going through something complicated and mentally draining. They hide their emotional pain by acting as though their life is happy and they are not suffering silently. Others that are going through something in their personal life that is problematic and troublesome might behave negatively with an abrupt tone because they are angry and or frustrated with something personal. Even though it is not easy, we need to not take their behavior personally.

Instead of reacting negatively to someone who says something harsh or behaves rudely, we should learn to take a step back and think about what that person may be going through. If this is someone that we know and understand their personality, we should be able to figure out if something is different. It should be easy to know if their behavior is normal or out of the ordinary. There is someone that I know that can be really kind and understanding most of the time, but every once in a while her demeanor changes drastically, and not for the better. I tend to ignore the negative behavior of this person because I do know she is battling with something on a personal level. Instead of reacting in the same way she is, I do the opposite and treat her kindly.

If we react with emotions every time someone acts negatively, we would constantly be dealing with hurt feelings. Then if we speak out of hurt feelings with a negative tone and say something that makes the other person feel even worse than they did before, we will never be able to erase those hurtful words. Too many people resort to suicide when they cannot handle life anymore and we would never want our mean words to be the last words another person hears. I am not saying it will change anything, but sometimes all a person needs to hear when they are struggling are kind, supportive, compassionate, and loving words.

I think if we could all just try being nicer and more understanding of others the world might be a happier and better place to live. Maybe if we all try spreading kindness, love, compassion, and understanding, it would catch on and spread as far as and beyond negativity. I believe we can all admit that negativity can spread like wildfire, so why can kindness and love not as well? None of this should take too much energy and should be rather easy😊!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and my words resonated with you. Many people reading this might be battling with a medical issue, which I do understand is not easy, so it should be so easy for us to be kind to others regardless of how they behave. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

2023 Goals and Habits

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Hello, the first Monday of 2023! Now that 2022 is behind us and we are starting this new year with a fresh start, we can set new goals without feeling too much pressure because we have the entire year to accomplish them😊! As I said in my post yesterday, I do not make New Year’s Resolutions because I feel they are pointless and most people, including myself, never stay with them. It is always important to make goals that are attainable or create new habits that may help us to achieve our goals. We should only set a few goals that we want to achieve because they are meaningful to us. Setting too many goals or new habits can be overwhelming and we may end up getting burnt out and then give up, which no one wants to do.

For the new year, one of my goals is to learn ways to not be so hard on myself. I have always been my own worst critic and I know this is not healthy. We should want to stay motivated and encouraged in life, which is impossible to do when we are constantly criticizing everything we do. There is already far too much negativity and, in this world, and we do not need to add to that by insulting ourselves. Instead of always telling myself that I am not good enough or that I am doing something wrong, I am going to try only repeating uplifting and encouraging words to myself daily!

Another goal or habit I want to do this year is to try doing a blog at least five times each week. I want to open my horizons and write about different topics that are meaningful to me. I have always had a deep love and passion for writing, so I think it is extremely important to try new things and learn different ways to write. I would love to try doing a writing contest again and not back out before I finish the essay because I think my essay will not be good enough. We never know what we are capable of unless we try, right?

Something else I want and need to do is find ways to limit stress in life. Even though I know that stress is the silent killer, I tend to allow myself to stress about things that I have no control over. It seems silly to be able to understand and admit that I stress about things I have no control over because it is clear there is nothing that I can do to change the outcomes, so what is the purpose? There are many things in life we have no control over and should not waste time thinking about because there are also many things we can control, which are mostly our reactions to situations and the way we treat others. We will never have any control over how others behave, so it is senseless to try.

There are certain types of books that I enjoy reading and need to start making more time during the day to read. I have a few books that are on my to-read list but have neglected the books because I am too tired or cannot find the time to read them. Even if it is only 20 or 30 minutes each day, I should be able to make time to read a little. Reading helps to relax after a long day and can help people sleep better!

One thing I will always keep doing is being kind and respectful to others. It is 2023 now and things should be much different than they are. I do not know why people stopped evolving but decided to devolve to an extremely terrible level. I will do everything that I can to help others see things in a fair and better way, but I know some that are stuck in their ignorant ways, and nothing will change them.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared, and I look forward to reading your comments and learning about your goals for the new year. I hope your week begins well and gets even better with each day. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

First Post of 2023

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Another year has come to an end and the new year has begun. During the past several years, we have all experienced many challenges and 2022 was no different or an exception to the vast amounts of challenges. There is no point in dwelling on the things that went wrong or could have and should have gone better, instead, we must remember the valuable lessons that were learned. Now is a time to think about what we want this new year to contain and how we are going to make changes happen to make 2023 a great year. We must consider ways to make the changes that are needed in life and understand the reasons why change is necessary.

We have, unfortunately, all seen many negative things take place over the past several years and none of them helped us to evolve. Too many people have spent many years devolving to levels they are shameful. I cannot understand why so many are living as we did in the early 1900s when people were not treated equally and there were ignorant judgments about the way people lived their life. I will never understand why people are so scared of what they do not understand and banish the ways others are living when it is not causing anyone any harm.

There were many years when anytime we turned on the news, we saw political leaders criticizing others and spreading hatred as far as they could. The ones that valued these political leaders’ opinions and thoughts carried on with so much hate in their hearts. Why is it so difficult for people to think for themselves and stand alone if they disagree with others? I would rather stand alone in the middle of an empty space if it meant I was standing up for what I believed in and had a strong hold on my morals.

I have mentioned before that I do not believe in making New Year’s resolutions but would prefer to make good new habits. I think it is so important to treat others with kindness and respect. It does not matter if I understand how they are living their life because it does not cause me any harm. I have noticed during the past few years that honesty and love are not practiced or known. I feel that honesty and love almost go hand in hand because you cannot love if you are not being honest. How can anyone say they love another person if they are not being truthful with that person?

For 2023, I want to learn ways to not be so hard on myself and begin to trust my instincts. I want to find ways to remove the people that have a habit of disappointing me or causing me emotional pain because life is too short to deal with constant disappointments. I also want to continue treating others with kindness and respect and hopefully help others to do the same. I do know it is impossible to change others, but I do have the power to change how I allow the negativity to affect my mental health.

Did you do anything special to celebrate the New Year? My husband and I normally just spend the New Year at home because it is safer, which is what we did last night as well. Unfortunately, we were both still not feeling well because of the 2nd COVID booster we got on Friday morning. I remember after the 1st COVID booster I felt awful for several days, so I did expect the same with the 2nd booster. Is it not crazy to get something for protection against a deadly virus, but it makes you feel terrible for days? I would rather feel awful for a few days at home than be in a hospital fighting for my life. I am hoping today will be the last day of feeling bad, but we will see😊!

Now that we are in 2023, do you have any goals for the new year? How do you plan to accomplish your goals? I hope you know that you do have the strength and power to reach any of your goals! Was there anything in 2022 that you wish never happened, but did the experiences teach you any important lessons? How can you use these lessons to better your life and the new year?

Thank you for visiting my site today and reading my first post for 2023. I hope your New Year’s celebration was wonderful and safe! I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. I hope 2023 is a great year for everyone! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Tuesday after a holiday

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The Tuesday after a long weekend and a holiday always seems like a Monday on a massive amount of steroids. Of course, work for me has not been all that busy, so I am sure today will not be too bad. The only hard part is going back to the same old work week. It never fails, even on weekends I still wake up at the same time, but at least when it is the weekend I do not have to sit in front of a computer for eight very long hours! I hope you had a wonderful holiday weekend and you enjoyed yourself safely!

Lately, when I can do posts, I have been writing about things that are on my mind and troubling me. The quote I am sharing with you today is in a sense following the same kinds of things that I have written about. It does not matter which country we live in, we are all living in the same world. With that said, we should want a peaceful life without conflicts and violence. There is nothing positive that comes from hate, violence, and conflicts. It is important, to be honest, but it is also extremely important to realize how much our words and actions can harm another person. I have always believed that if I do not have anything nice to say, it is better to stay silent. We cannot take our hurtful words back or the harm we caused another person.

The weather has been slightly crazy and very unpredictable. The past few days have been super cold around the country, which over the holiday weekend caused many some additional challenges. Unfortunately, there were many that had to manage without power in the incredibly chilly temperatures. With as cold as it was, all I wanted was there to be snow. That is something I ALWAYS miss at Christmas because as a child I always had a white Christmas. How have you been dealing with the weather challenges?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have a wonderful day😊! Try to remember that anything we cannot do tomorrow is another day to try again😊! Instead of thinking about how busy you are today and how much you were not at work, think about your amazing weekend, celebrating the holiday. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Last Monday of 2022

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How has your year been and is there anything you wish you could have changed? I have many questions that may not have answers, but I am going to ask anyways. Why are so many so quick to make a judgment? Why do some people think it is acceptable and humane to not be kind to others? Do people really think their way of life and how they behave is much superior to everyone else in the world? I am starting to believe that I might have missed something when I was younger because I was not ever taught that any one person is better than anyone else as I was taught, we are ALL EQUAL no matter where we are from or anything else people think it is acceptable to judge others for.

Why are so many people afraid of what they do not understand and automatically think the way others are choosing to live THEIR life is not the way they should be living? Who can say there is only one way to live? I guess I was under the impression that the United States is a FREE country and therefore people can live how they want to live. As I am sure you can tell by several of my posts, this is something that bothers me tremendously.

Over the past several years, it has seemed like there has been a vast amount of people devolving instead of evolving. A lot of this might be a result of our political leaders’ comments which might have made it seem like it was okay. Too many have glamourized racism and hate because of what they were feeling inside their heart, which to me is cold and dark. It is almost 2023 and we need to get back on track with evolving with the times.

Why should anyone care who someone else loves? I mean love is love, right? Does this affect their lives in any way shape or form? Who really cares about the color of someone’s skin, where they are from, or who they worship? They cannot control or change it and it does not cause issues in anyone’s life. The things that do matter are the way we treat others because that is something we do have control over. Superficial nonsense is not things that matter in the bigger picture of this life.

2022 is almost over and 2023 will begin soon, so I think we need to begin the new year with a better and kinder outlook on life. We need to start being more accepting and compassionate towards others that live differently than we do. I think learning about others’ way of life is fascinating. Different cultures are something we should all want to learn about because no individual is the same in this HUGE world and there is nothing wrong with that. Think about it, if we were all the same, would the world not be boring?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared today, and it resonated with how you feel about the world we share. I believe we should all learn new ways to think and start treating everyone equally and with respect. The only time an individual does not deserve our respect is when they disrespect us personally or someone else, but even then, it is best to not sink down to their ignorant way to behaving. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

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Happy Sunday, y’all! I hope you are having a good and relaxing weekend! Can you believe that we only have two weeks left in 2022? It is amazing how quickly time goes by and how much we endure each week. Sometimes, it is hard to believe what we have survived and witnessed because some things are so incredibly unbelievable. No matter what tragic events we have dealt with, it is crucial to remember that each experience is another lesson that is going to help us become better. We need to not think of hard times as a punishment because none of them are, they each continue making us stronger and more resilient.

The past several years have been complicated, to say the least, but what have we learned over the past few years? We have seen so much violence, which “should” have taught us to be kinder and more understanding. But, honestly, has it? I ask this because violence and hatred continue to ravage the world daily. Why do people feel so much hatred? Why can we all not get along and be nice to one another? Is this something we are taught by watching the news, which has made hatred seem normal and okay?

As we approach the holidays, we need to keep a few things in mind. One is, we still need to be practicing safety protocols because COVID is still around. For anyone that is not vaccinated, it is well past time to get vaccinated. Being vaccinated against COVID can be a matter of life and death for ourselves and our families. The other thing we need to remember is, Christmas is NOT a time for receiving gifts, but it is a time to share the love with those around us and be better at practicing kindness and never forgetting what the Golden Rule means!

New Year is only two weeks away, so now is the time to recall the past year and think about what changes we want to make for the next year. Are there new things we want to learn or things we were taught years ago that we want to put back into play? Do we want to make a difference in the world and if so, what difference needs to be made? Do we want to make changes in our day-to-day lives, and if so, what changes do we want to make? I am not asking you to share this now, but I am asking you to put thought into this!

The weekend is nearing its end and I hope you had a nice weekend. Did you do anything special over the weekend? Are you looking forward to the week ahead of us and are you ready for it? We do still have several hours left of the weekend, so I would encourage you to make the best of it. The important things we always need to remember are what we are going to do this next week which is something we will be proud of!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you have enjoyed what I have shared, and it gave you things to think about. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will be responding as quickly as possible. I am going to continue to try staying on a schedule with my posts, which gets harder once the work week begins, but I am going to try. Please remember that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Cruel and beautiful world

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This can be cruel, but also a beautiful world we are living in. Unfortunately, we will never know what demons another is battling against because people often hide them very well. This tends to be due to the negative stigma our society puts on mental health. It is terrible that so many feel they must distinguish their struggles with fake smiles, to avoid being labeled and shamed. It is not a weakness when someone admits they are struggling mentally and makes the decision to seek mental health help, but instead, I think it shows signs of strength and courage.

We need to keep in mind that we are all human and no matter how things may appear on the outside, no one in the world has a “perfect” life. Even celebrities seem to have what seems to be a perfect family, a beautiful home, and plenty of money to feed themselves, and their family and afford all the luxuries in life. No matter what amount of money a person has in their bank account, money CANNOT busy happiness.

Considering our society demonizes and stigmatizes people with mental health issues, it is causing people to commit suicide instead of admitting they are struggling. What kind of world would rather have people end their lives, instead of providing necessary help to those in crucial need? We cannot even watch the news without seeing another horrific act that has occurred in our country. There is far too much hate, narcissistic judgments, misery inflicting our lives, and unnecessary deaths daily, it is hard to see the silver lining any longer.

Celebrities many admire and children look up to have suffered from addiction, depression, and past issues conflicting with their lives, and many more that have committed suicide. The most recent was a brilliant dancer and DJ, Stephen Boss, better known as Twitch from So You Think You Can Dance, and the DJ on the Ellen DeGeneres show took his own life on Tuesday. Those who knew Twitch, including his wife who just celebrated their 9th wedding anniversary, did not know he was suffering with anything. Friends, family, and those who knew him well said he loved his family and what he was doing more than anything in the world, but now he is gone and those who loved him are left wondering why.

I do believe anyone should ever be judged or spoken negatively about because they are having troubles in life, but instead we should be trying to help people more. Why does anyone think they are better than another person that is having mental issues? Does anyone see what is going on in this world? Is there anyone that has a genuine smile or are they are just wearing a mask to hide the truth?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I wrote this post because what I see happening in the world is causing me so much sadness. I feel strongly that we should be lifting one another up and not tearing others down. We do not know what is going on in another person’s life and if we say something awful to them, it might be the last words they hear before making a terrible choice to end their lives. We can be kind and lift others up and we might end up making a HUGE difference that could save another person’s life. If you are struggling with something in life, please know that there is help and you are strong and courageous to admit the problems you are going through. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Do you believe in Magic?

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When we were children, many of us thought magic was real and magicians may have become our heroes. We were astonished by the mesmerizing shows and may have been so impressed we wanted to be a magician when we were older. The fascination for magic may lessen as we age, but it still piques our curiosity. The magic tricks such as sawing someone in half or making someone disappear never seemed possible. To this day I still have not discovered the way the magicians perform these acts, but I have read many trickeries that are making them appear real and flawless.

Do you believe in magic? There are only a couple of things I believe are truly magical. One thing in life I feel is magical is love. Not everyone in the world feels how impactful and precious love is, so I think those who do can feel that magic love holds. Real love is powerful and encompasses completely. Love can be felt for family, friends, significant others, pets, etc. Those that experience the magic of love know it cannot dissolve or be broken and it is pure. True love is more than a physical attraction, but also includes commitment, trust, loyalty, and honesty. Not only do I think love is magical, but it is also a gift that we should all treasure and value.

The other thing that I believe is purely magical is music. This is something someone else puts a great deal of time, thought, skill, and emotion into so we can listen to their creativity anywhere we choose. Music can make us feel happy and sad because of the emotions that are put into the songs. It amazes me how perfectly the lyrics are written and fit so well with the instrumental parts. Each part of each song is pieced together flawlessly and incredibly beautiful. For so many, music fills their life with purpose and for others, it is their entire life to the point that without music, their life would not be worth living. For others, they need music to make it through long days at work because it fills them with joy!

Another thing I think is magical is acts of kindness because it seems like these acts are so limited, so when they happen it feels like a miracle has occurred. Unfortunately, it seems like so many people are overly consumed with their own lives to the point that no one else is not as important. Too many people have completely lost their ability to be understanding and compassionate toward others, which is a tragic issue. Whatever happened to being nice and caring? This should not have to be viewed as magic to have people behave kindly.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to reading your comments. I am interested to know your views about magic and what exactly you think magic is. Thankfully, we are halfway through this week, so the weekend will return soon! We have survived the first part of the week, so I am hopeful the last part will be easy and go by quickly. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa