Merry Christmas to All!

Merry-Christmas-Background-ImagesWishing you and your family a very Merry and Joyous Christmas! Do you have a certain traditions you do every year around the holidays? Over the years my husband and I have developed a tradition that we do every year for the holidays. We spend Christmas Eve with my mother and stepfather and Christmas Day with my in-laws.

The holiday season does have a way of cheering and brightening the darkness we may feel. Holiday lights and the smiles of children awaiting Santa Claus can be so sweet! Shining Christmas lights are beautiful and illuminate the skies! While we never forget all of our past sacred memories, we are given the chance to create even more memories to cherish. I will be the first to admit that I have not been in the holiday spirit this year. Things have been a little difficult the past few months after my terrible flare up. However, my mood changed slightly after spending Christmas Eve with my husband, mother and stepfather. The four of us enjoyed a great evening catching up on life! My mother knew how difficult things had been and she made a great and successful effort to make everything perfect. My husband and stepfather had some great conversation about something they share a merry christmas 1mutual interest in, planes! It was good to see the two boys chatting about a topic they both love because my mother and I do not always share the same interests as them. My stepfather is retired and battles his own health issues. In a sense I can relate to what my stepfather is going through because we both deal with a Neurological illness. I do my best to stress to him the importance of following his doctor’s orders, taking the medicine he is prescribed as directed, getting plenty of rest and staying stress-free. Not sure why I would expect him to follow my advice when I hardly ever follow my own advice, but I do try to help him as much as I can. 

I hope y’all are feeling well today and savoring every moment of the day with loved ones! I know holidays can be stressful, so just remember to rest when you need to and take care of yourself! The great thing about family is they love us and understand that sometimes we struggle and it is okay to admit that! Much love and strength to all of you!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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Never Forget

christmas-loveThe holiday season can bring on a variety of emotions for so many. We all have a number of responsibilities to tend to daily , so often times we do not get to spend true quality time with family members. It can be exciting to have the holiday’s as a time to reconnect with our loved ones. Considering many businesses are closed we do not have to focus our attention on work, but can solely commit our thoughts to family! Even if only for a few hours, we can create a magical time of love that will extend through several days!

Loved ones during holidays

Even though we are happy that we have been given this special time to spend with our family still here with us, it can still create some sadness as we miss those that have passed away. Naturally, we always miss those special people from our lives that are no longer physically here with us and the holidays tend to create an additional sense of loss. Losing someone who we loved dearly creates a void in our heart and mind that can never be replaced. It is not just an empty seat at the dinner table but an empty place in our hearts. We need to remember to show our family how much they mean to us, not just during the holiday season, but all year-long as we do not know what tomorrow will bring. 

Unfortunately loss has no boundaries. So many are going into this Christmas holiday with the fresh loss of a loved one. Trying to keep their composure when all they want to do is break down. I can not imagine the loss I know some have gone through this year. Whether it be a spouse, grandparent, parent, child, sibling or friend the pain is real. It never forgettruly amazes me what we can suffer through, but still stand strong knowing that our loved one will always be in our heart! I know it is not easy but never forget that our loved ones that past will always be watching over us. I truly believe Grandparents I have lost never leave my side. When life gets really difficult I can almost hear my Grandfather’s encouraging and loving voice guiding me through. The sacred memories you hold onto will carry you through the holidays and every other day. Those you have loved and lost would want you to continue living your life as full as you can, even when things are unbearable, continue to stay strong for them!

I sincerely hope you have a wonderful holiday and are able to enjoy quality time with your families! I hope you are all feeling well and not in any kind or pain, physical or emotional. Each and every one of you inspire me through your posts and your comments. Never forget, positivity will get you through anything much easier than negativity. I want to thank you for all of your support since I started my blog. This has been an absolutely amazing experience for me and I look forward to many more connections with y’all!! 

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Holiday Love and Stress

christmas-loveThis year has been almost like a blur for me. So much has happened in my own life and the world we live in it is hard to keep up. We are somehow only 9 days away from Christmas, which is supposed to be a happy holiday to celebrate with family but it also brings on so much stress especially when you are unprepared for it. It seems like we went from the grueling hot summer straight into chilly Christmas time. My favorite season is Autumn, but it did not stay around long. I know it has been said “Time flies when you are having fun”, but 2017 has not been all that fun so I have no clue where time went!

What do you feel is the true meaning of Christmas? Christmas for me has never been about the gifts we get but it is about the gift of love we are able to share with those close to us! So many seem to view it as a time to spend a ridiculous amount of money on gifts for family and friends, but forget that there is much more to it! There are so many in the world we live in that are not even able to have a roof over their heads much less gifts under a tree. There are children out there that not fortunate enough to have parents that love them enough to take care of their basic needs, like safety, food and warm clothes in the cold weather. Some are not healthy enough to enjoy the holidays and are not able to afford the proper medical needs gift of loverequired. Excellent and affordable medical attention seems like finding a unicorn underneath a rainbow, very unlikely! 

My husband and I have been battling medical issues for several months now, but we are blessed enough to have each other during these difficult times. I find it extremely important to not dwell on what has happened but on what will happen moving forward. What occurred yesterday is in the past and it could have been a lesson learned to provide a better today! There is always room for improvements in our life if we just accept the changes graciously with an open mind!

With the holidays, the next few weeks at work will be shorter to allow family time. My office has a half day Friday, closed Monday for Christmas Day and then closed the following Monday for New Year’s Day! Hopefully with having 2 holidays in a row things will slow down at work and days will be nice and calm! I will be keeping my 6 hour work days through the new year so I do not have any set backs with my health. I am very aware that stress has been the main factor with the relapse I did have and for it taking SO long to heal, so I am trying my best to keep my stress low. I do find it hard to keep my stress levels low because life can be complicated and some days are harder than others! Honestly, I do noticed a dramatic difference in how I am feeling when stress gets high. Literally I can go from feeling relatively normal to horrible in about 2.5 seconds if I allow myself to get stressed. I guess the first step is acknowledging the issue and the second step in implementing a change to improve the problem! I have made it through the first step but get a little stuck on the second step. 

I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are not too overwhelmed by holiday planning! Remember to take time for yourself and know how important you are! Having the ability to care about yourself will allow you to take better care of those you love! Enjoy the rest of this beautiful Saturday and continue to be your positive and fabulous self! Much Love Y’all!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

 

Progress comes with hope!

Happy Tuesday 1Good evening Y’all! I hope you have had a great start to your week! I do not know where time has gone, but 2017 will be coming to an end soon. 2017 has been quite an unforgettable year, some of which we might wish we could forget! There seems to have been a lot of chaos all around the world, but I am hoping that 2018 will bring some change that is for the good of all of us!

Speaking of where did time go, I can not believe it is almost Christmas. I am normally very prepared for the holidays, but this year it kind of crept up on me! I am truly delighted that I will be able to spend time with family and enjoy their company but my goodness I am so not prepared! It will all work out though as the most important thing is we are all still here and healthy enough to make it to both my mother’s house and my in-law’s house!

As y’all already know, I had a terrible flare up from MS starting back in early October. It was a very difficult ride and tried it’s best to defeat my resilience, but I never gave up on myself. I have slowly managed to get back to my normal self. I still suffer from the obvious pain but it is not bringing me to tears anymore. Thankfully, my job has beenmotivational-sayings very understanding with my situation. I have been allowed to adjust my hours and week by week increase those hours. Last week I did struggle to make it through a 5 hour day, but I did it! This week I have been and will continue to work 6 hour days! I think not rushing into a full-time schedule has been very beneficial to my health! If I did rush into my normal work days, it is very likely the stress would have caused the flare up to get worse instead of better.  I truly believe that holding onto a positive mind makes all situations easier to overcome! Anything that could go wrong in life seems to all happen at the same time, but the positive thing about that is once you survive the struggles it is a success!

Life can get so demanding and it gets hard to know what is the best next step. It is important and necessary to evaluate what we are going through and try to make a plan. This is where strategy comes in very helpful. If we are able to break our difficult times into smaller pieces, it makes things much easier and not as overwhelming for us too deal with. It has helped me to just handle smaller issues at a time but still be able to overcome the entire situation!

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment on my thoughts for the day! I did not do a post yesterday because I was absolutely exhausted from a long day at work but I will adjust to the early mornings and long days soon! I hope y’all have a nice and relaxing evening! I sincerely hope y’all are feeling well today and holding onto the strength I know you have! Always remember, you are not allow with anything you are dealing with in life, there is always someone out there that understands!! Much love and take care of yourself!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa