Food For Thought!

foodforthoughtThis is just a little food for thought for everyone and I look forward to your responses! I know we all have our own conditions we are dealing with and they all cause various issues. We have learned to live with the pain, dizziness, numbness and numerous medications we are required to take, amongst many other difficulties. There are definitely days that are a lot more difficult to get through than others because we are frustrated with these troubles from our illness. I can only speak for myself, but when my multiple issues act up, I tend to take my frustrations out on my family members or really whoever is closest to me. Do y’all tend to lash out at those that are closest to you because you are aggravated with the medical issues?

One example I can speak to is, when my pain levels are through the roof I get a lot more irritated with the slightest of things. I will allow my pain to control my perception of what others are trying to do, even if they are just trying to help me or offer support. It can be so difficult to not allow for pain to control our emotions because sometimes you feel as though it will never go away!

I always wondered why we feel that it is okay to take our frustrations out on loved ones. I Frustrationguess maybe it is because most of our loved ones understand our struggles and therefore are more forgiving than others that do now know the circumstances would be. Or maybe I have it all wrong and not everyone takes their frustrations out on those closest to them and I am just mean when I am in pain. I do tend to have more of an attitude with my husband and my mother, but I never mean to be ugly to either of them. I also loss my temper a little more with my poor sweet and loving cats for reasons that are not at all logical. I may want them to just lie down and rest, but they have different ideas of what they want to do and I have learned controlling cat is almost impossible! In a logical frame of mind, I know that my husband, mother and cats are just acting out of love and they all want to make me feel better, so I truly feel bad for losing my temper with all of them from time to time!

So with all that said, please let me ask y’all a few quick questions! Do you find yourself taking your frustrations out on your loved ones? Does your significant other typically irritate you more when you are struggling with pain and or other issues? Do you tend to find parents more nagging or overbearing when you are suffering with your health issues? Or do you find it harder to be patient with your children and or pets when your health issues fare up? Oh and Heaven forbid you have to leave the house, do you find others a little Peacemore aggravating that you normally would?

I do try my best to remain quiet when I am dealing with pain, numbness and or headaches because I do not want to say something I know I will regret later. Again, maybe it is just me, but when I am suffering I would prefer to be left alone so that I can begin healing in my own ways. On normal days I do not like talking on the phone, so during these times I definitely have no interest in talking on the phone. I do not want to have to put on a  happy face or be polite and positive, I just want to be left in my own little negative bubble that will pop in time! My negative little bubble does not typically last an extended period of time, but it is my process of getting well! 

I want to thank y’all for visiting my site today and I really do look forward to reading your comments! I will respond to all comments as quickly as I possibly can! I hope y’all are enjoying this beautiful Saturday and doing what you want to do! The weather does not seem to corporate for long so we have to enjoy it when the sun is actually shinning down on us! Sending you love and comfort always!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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Pain & Headaches Galore!

weekend1I hope y’all have had a great week and you are looking forward to a beautiful weekend! I have been a little absent for the past few days because I have been dealing with terrible headaches and pain. All these headaches and pain have caused me a lot of nausea and an inability to keep food down. This is the third day of these issues, but I am finally able to keep food down, well so far!

I think the most obnoxious question when I am suffering from a headache or pain is, “What do you think is causing this?” If I knew what was causing my headaches, I promise I would do anything to make them go away. The only thing I can say that helps my headaches is an ice pack and a dark quiet room. It sounds so crazy that I will use a heating pad for my back pain and an ice pack for my headaches, but it works for the most part. I know when people ask the question, “What do you think is causing this?”, they are trying to help and they mean well, but I am unfortunately never going to know what causes my headaches or pain, it is just the way things happen.

I do know that stress and weather can add to the headaches and pain. I do suffer from sinus-pressure-314x225sinus issues, but I take sinus medicine for that, it just does not seem to work as well as I would like it to. As for weather, it has been all over the place lately! It is February for God sakes and in the 80’s which is causing trees and flowers to bloom adding to the sinus troubles. It seems like we completely skipped over winter this year and just went straight from fall to spring. There was a few weeks that could be considered winter, but it came and went so fast it was hardly noticed. I mean, my body does not adjust well to temperature changes so I did notice it some. During the few weeks that were considered winter temperatures were low in the 30’s, but as soon as I adjusted to those temperatures it spiked back to the 60’s. There were days with low temperatures and then the next day would be much higher. How in the world can anyone be expected to adjust to the weather when it is constantly changing?

This is a bad time for me to be going through all these headaches and additional pain because my poor husband is dealing with some terrible tooth pain. I can not expect for him to take care of me right now when he is suffering so horribly, but he has been doing a pretty good job! Despite the pain he is going through, he is constantly making sure I have everything I need to be comfortable. We work pretty well together because we both understand pain and headaches way too much!

every-day-may-not-be-good-but-theres-something-good-in-every-day-8I can only hope that my pain and headaches will start to ease up soon so I can actually function right! I have not been able to work for the past three days because of all this, which is causing me even more stress as they are all unpaid days! After resting for the past few days and having the weekend, maybe things will improve and be much better next week. This is just an issue some of us run into and it is so important to just keep trying and hoping for better days ahead!

I hope y’all have a great weekend and enjoy every moment of it! Y’all know I love to see your comments and I do always respond to them as quickly as I can! Remember to always try to stay positive in life because no matter what is going on, there will be good days ahead! Also, I did a guest blog for a fantastic person this week. If you have not already been able to visit Grace’s blog, please check it out because she is pretty fantastic and you will also be able to see the post I did for the newly diagnosed. Her site is,  https://msgracefulnot.com/. Sending you lots of love and comfort!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Heavenly Birthday Wish

Happy Birthday PoppyThis is a very special and heartfelt post for me. Today will always be a day that I hold very near and dear to my heart! This would have been my beloved Grandfather’s 82nd birthday. My amazing and strong Grandfather was taken from this world on September 9, 2013 after he lost his fight with cancer. I will never forget the phone call I received from my Uncle notifying me that my Grandfather had moved onto the next world. This was the most traumatizing and horrific phone calls I have ever had. I thought that nothing would ever take my sweet Grandfather from me.

I always called my Grandfather Poppy. I cannot remember where it came from, but it stuck. I was the first-born Grandchild, so all the other Grandchildren also called him Poppy. Poppy always offered a positive view on anything and everything. When I told him that I had been diagnosed with MS, he told me to never allow it to get me down because I was stronger than that. He always assured me that I could fight this disease and that I could win because of who I am, his strong Granddaughter.guardian angel

Poppy has been gone from this world for almost 5 years, but I still feel his presence with me everyday. I believe that he is always watching over me and keeping me as safe as possible. He really was a remarkable man and I can only hope that I am making him proud now. I fight this illness with courage and hope for better times. Like him, I think I have a very kind and understanding heart. I have a desire to help others that are in need and encourage them as well. I believe that I get my positive and passionate personality from him. He had never met a stranger in his life, but embraced everyone with nothing but kindness and non-judgmental thoughts! I will always do my best to live by this same standard.  

I do not only think of my Poppy on his birthday, but he is in my mind and heart every day of my life! I feel so proud and honored that I had him as a role model in my life birthday in heavenbecause I do feel like that has made me a better person. I saw how he loved his family and treated everyone around him with nothing but respect. He was the type of man who did not know hate or see people for the color of their skin or their choice of religion, but for the person they were on the inside. I learned through this truly exceptional man the true meaning of respect, love, values, honesty and how you should treat others.  

As y’all can clearly see I held my Grandfather up on a pedestal. I will always treasure every moment I spent with him whether it was on the phone or in person because all of these times were a blessing that I will never forget. As I write this, I cry tears of a mixture of sadness that I am not able to carry on a conversation with him any longer but also joy that I was fortunate enough to have this man in my life. When I close my eyes I can still hear his very unique loving voice and see his beautiful face.

In my heart I do truly believe that I will see my Poppy again someday. I have alwaystil we meet again believed that we will be reunited with our loved ones again when we make it to the pearly gates of Heaven. Until the day I see him again, I will do my best to live my life the way that would make him proud of me.

Thank y’all for visiting my site today and joining me to wish my Poppy a very Happy Birthday in Heaven. Throughout his life he was a pro-golfer, so I hope on this day he is playing golf on the best course available in Heaven!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Merry Christmas to All!

Merry-Christmas-Background-ImagesWishing you and your family a very Merry and Joyous Christmas! Do you have a certain traditions you do every year around the holidays? Over the years my husband and I have developed a tradition that we do every year for the holidays. We spend Christmas Eve with my mother and stepfather and Christmas Day with my in-laws.

The holiday season does have a way of cheering and brightening the darkness we may feel. Holiday lights and the smiles of children awaiting Santa Claus can be so sweet! Shining Christmas lights are beautiful and illuminate the skies! While we never forget all of our past sacred memories, we are given the chance to create even more memories to cherish. I will be the first to admit that I have not been in the holiday spirit this year. Things have been a little difficult the past few months after my terrible flare up. However, my mood changed slightly after spending Christmas Eve with my husband, mother and stepfather. The four of us enjoyed a great evening catching up on life! My mother knew how difficult things had been and she made a great and successful effort to make everything perfect. My husband and stepfather had some great conversation about something they share a merry christmas 1mutual interest in, planes! It was good to see the two boys chatting about a topic they both love because my mother and I do not always share the same interests as them. My stepfather is retired and battles his own health issues. In a sense I can relate to what my stepfather is going through because we both deal with a Neurological illness. I do my best to stress to him the importance of following his doctor’s orders, taking the medicine he is prescribed as directed, getting plenty of rest and staying stress-free. Not sure why I would expect him to follow my advice when I hardly ever follow my own advice, but I do try to help him as much as I can. 

I hope y’all are feeling well today and savoring every moment of the day with loved ones! I know holidays can be stressful, so just remember to rest when you need to and take care of yourself! The great thing about family is they love us and understand that sometimes we struggle and it is okay to admit that! Much love and strength to all of you!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Never Forget

christmas-loveThe holiday season can bring on a variety of emotions for so many. We all have a number of responsibilities to tend to daily , so often times we do not get to spend true quality time with family members. It can be exciting to have the holiday’s as a time to reconnect with our loved ones. Considering many businesses are closed we do not have to focus our attention on work, but can solely commit our thoughts to family! Even if only for a few hours, we can create a magical time of love that will extend through several days!

Loved ones during holidays

Even though we are happy that we have been given this special time to spend with our family still here with us, it can still create some sadness as we miss those that have passed away. Naturally, we always miss those special people from our lives that are no longer physically here with us and the holidays tend to create an additional sense of loss. Losing someone who we loved dearly creates a void in our heart and mind that can never be replaced. It is not just an empty seat at the dinner table but an empty place in our hearts. We need to remember to show our family how much they mean to us, not just during the holiday season, but all year-long as we do not know what tomorrow will bring. 

Unfortunately loss has no boundaries. So many are going into this Christmas holiday with the fresh loss of a loved one. Trying to keep their composure when all they want to do is break down. I can not imagine the loss I know some have gone through this year. Whether it be a spouse, grandparent, parent, child, sibling or friend the pain is real. It never forgettruly amazes me what we can suffer through, but still stand strong knowing that our loved one will always be in our heart! I know it is not easy but never forget that our loved ones that past will always be watching over us. I truly believe Grandparents I have lost never leave my side. When life gets really difficult I can almost hear my Grandfather’s encouraging and loving voice guiding me through. The sacred memories you hold onto will carry you through the holidays and every other day. Those you have loved and lost would want you to continue living your life as full as you can, even when things are unbearable, continue to stay strong for them!

I sincerely hope you have a wonderful holiday and are able to enjoy quality time with your families! I hope you are all feeling well and not in any kind or pain, physical or emotional. Each and every one of you inspire me through your posts and your comments. Never forget, positivity will get you through anything much easier than negativity. I want to thank you for all of your support since I started my blog. This has been an absolutely amazing experience for me and I look forward to many more connections with y’all!! 

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Essentials for Chronic Illness

Sunday 1When you are first diagnosed with a Chronic Illness, what are the first things that go through your mind? I know when my doctor told me I had Multiple Sclerosis I thought my life was over! I was young and only knew it was a debilitating illness with NO cure insight. I lived the first year after diagnosed in denial and a lot of sadness. But, as I got older I realized my life was NOT over and I could live a pretty normal life! 

I have discovered there are crucial things that need to be done in order to control this disease as much as I can. The most important thing I can do is be positive about life. No matter what I deal with living with MS, it really could be worse. There are about 400,000 people just in the United States that live Multiple Sclerosis, some have a pretty “mild” case of this disease, whereas some have a really aggressive form. Yes, I deal with a lot of pain and some days are worse than others. But, I do not believe it helps me at all to create the lifesit and think about how much I hurt. I think it is better use of my time and energy to focus on the good aspects of life. I do have handicap parking because sometimes it hurts more to walk long distances. However, I do not have a walker or a wheelchair and have full function of my legs no matter how much they may hurt! I deal with a constant amount of pain in my back but shockingly enough a heating pad helps in short-term. 

I have the love and continuous support of a very loving family. I think painful and difficult times would be so much more difficult without love. I value my family more than I can even begin to explain. My husband is here with me day in and day out and will listen to me whenever I need to vent. He offers me SO much emotional support as we all have our bad days when we think that nothing will ever improve. When I have a weak moment and go to him crying because I just want all my pain to go away, he Love heartALWAYS assures me I will be okay and get better in time. He always makes sure I have everything I need in order to be comfortable when I am resting to get well! My husband has an incredible amount of patience and tolerates my stubborn behavior like a champ! My biggest problem is I want to do everything and never ask for help, but he works hard to get me to do less and rest more!

Another essential for living with a chronic illness is, getting the rest your body needs. As I have already made clear, I am really bad at this but doing my best to improve. I feel like I am being lazy when I just sit on the couch watching TV, but there are times I realize that is what my body is asking me for. Getting plenty of rest does not necessarily mean you need to sleep all the time, but it does mean you need to take time to turn your brain off and relax!

It is also essential to reduce stress from your life as much as possible. Life does come with stress whether it be work, relationships, money, health etc but we do have the relaxchoice on what extra unnecessary stress we allow into our thoughts. Is it really important for us to try to solve and worry about the problems a friend or family member might be experiencing? Now it does depend on the problem! If a family member is coping with something they just need someone to talk to someone about, that is perfectly fine as long as it does not consume our life to an unhealthy point. I have the compassion where I always want to help, but I also know there are certain things I can not do anything about and need to take a step back from the situation. 

It is vitally important to love and value yourself. If we do not take care of our own health, we will not be able to be our entire self. Sometimes it is urgent for us all to take a break and think about what we enjoy! It is not selfish to think about what we need in life, which I am honestly still working on!

Thank you for reading and commenting of my thoughts for the day. I hope you had a lovely and relaxing weekend! Hopefully y’all are ready for yet again another Monday. Thankfully, I have a short week so I can only hope it is an easy week as people are preparing for the holidays! As always, stay strong and positive and good things are bound to occur! Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

Holiday Love and Stress

christmas-loveThis year has been almost like a blur for me. So much has happened in my own life and the world we live in it is hard to keep up. We are somehow only 9 days away from Christmas, which is supposed to be a happy holiday to celebrate with family but it also brings on so much stress especially when you are unprepared for it. It seems like we went from the grueling hot summer straight into chilly Christmas time. My favorite season is Autumn, but it did not stay around long. I know it has been said “Time flies when you are having fun”, but 2017 has not been all that fun so I have no clue where time went!

What do you feel is the true meaning of Christmas? Christmas for me has never been about the gifts we get but it is about the gift of love we are able to share with those close to us! So many seem to view it as a time to spend a ridiculous amount of money on gifts for family and friends, but forget that there is much more to it! There are so many in the world we live in that are not even able to have a roof over their heads much less gifts under a tree. There are children out there that not fortunate enough to have parents that love them enough to take care of their basic needs, like safety, food and warm clothes in the cold weather. Some are not healthy enough to enjoy the holidays and are not able to afford the proper medical needs gift of loverequired. Excellent and affordable medical attention seems like finding a unicorn underneath a rainbow, very unlikely! 

My husband and I have been battling medical issues for several months now, but we are blessed enough to have each other during these difficult times. I find it extremely important to not dwell on what has happened but on what will happen moving forward. What occurred yesterday is in the past and it could have been a lesson learned to provide a better today! There is always room for improvements in our life if we just accept the changes graciously with an open mind!

With the holidays, the next few weeks at work will be shorter to allow family time. My office has a half day Friday, closed Monday for Christmas Day and then closed the following Monday for New Year’s Day! Hopefully with having 2 holidays in a row things will slow down at work and days will be nice and calm! I will be keeping my 6 hour work days through the new year so I do not have any set backs with my health. I am very aware that stress has been the main factor with the relapse I did have and for it taking SO long to heal, so I am trying my best to keep my stress low. I do find it hard to keep my stress levels low because life can be complicated and some days are harder than others! Honestly, I do noticed a dramatic difference in how I am feeling when stress gets high. Literally I can go from feeling relatively normal to horrible in about 2.5 seconds if I allow myself to get stressed. I guess the first step is acknowledging the issue and the second step in implementing a change to improve the problem! I have made it through the first step but get a little stuck on the second step. 

I hope you are enjoying your weekend and you are not too overwhelmed by holiday planning! Remember to take time for yourself and know how important you are! Having the ability to care about yourself will allow you to take better care of those you love! Enjoy the rest of this beautiful Saturday and continue to be your positive and fabulous self! Much Love Y’all!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa