Motivational Monday

Welcome back, Monday. I had a dream Monday would forget to return and we had Sunday 2.0, unfortunately, that dream did not come true. The only choice we have is to tackle Monday with as much strength and motivation as possible. I hope you had a nice, safe, and relaxing weekend so that you are ready for another long week. It is never easy to begin another week, but we always manage to do it because we have an internal strength we often forget about.

As we start this week, we need a reminder of how to stay motivated. I know this is not easy, especially first thing in the morning, but I hope that I can help motivate you today! I think this quote can not only provide motivation but strength, courage, and the hope many of us have lost over the years. With everything that has occurred in the last few years, losing hope has happened to many of us. My goals have always remained to instill hope and strength in others as many of us are forced to deal with things that we do not deserve.

How was your weekend? During the past several days, maybe weeks, I have been experiencing pain in my heel and foot, which I think is something called plantar fasciitis. I have felt this before, but it was when I was on my feet all day long. Waking up with this, which is making it hard to stand is new to me. This has not just been in the mornings, but it does last all day. It is miserable for it to be painful to walk, sit, stand, or even lay down, but I guess it could be worst. Has anyone reading this dealt with this issue before and if you have, did anything help you?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed this post and the quote I shared today. I hope your week begins great and only gets better with each passing day until the weekend is back again. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond to them as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Sunday Thoughts

Happy Sunday y’all! What do you enjoy doing most on a Sunday? What do you think Sundays are best for? Are you doing anything special today or just relaxing around the house? Of course, it is the day before the new week begins, but we do not have to think about the start of the week until tomorrow morning! Whatever you decide to do on a Sunday, is your choice and no one should ever try to make you do anything you do not want to do. Today is your day to do whatever it is YOU want to do😊!

My day started by waking up to our adorable cat, Luna (aka Lunatic). The sweet little girl fell asleep with me last night and stayed with me all night. I think she was trying to find a way to make my evil headache go away, which was sweet! Like every other morning, I give our older cat his medicine and all three of them their Fancy Feast breakfast! I then watched a few things on YouTube that my husband wanted to show me after his long night of work and before he went to bed. Of course, I did the last few loads of laundry, while watching a movie with our cats. My favorite way to spend a Sunday is relaxing with my loves in my house and trying to write or read a little!

I hope you have enjoyed your weekend and you were able to do the things that bring you joy. Life is short, so we should ALWAYS try at least once a week to do something that makes us happy. I think y’all know that I enjoy reading and sharing quotes. I discovered one this weekend that stood out to me. We are living in a crazy world right now where the only thing that is not unpredictable is chaos and insanity. I suppose this is the reason I found the quote I am sharing with you to be so incredibly profound. I guess this quote makes me wonder if we try seeing the world from a different angle if it could start to make sense!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today and I look forward to reading your comments. I will be responding to comments as quickly as I can because this is something that I feel brings us all closer together. We might not live in the same state or country, but we do share this same enormous world together. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Promises are a commitment

Promises no matter how big, small, insignificant, or even who it was made with, should be valued and sacred. When we make a promise, we should strive to uphold and honor whatever we promised. A promise does not always have to be with another person. There have been numerous times in my life I made a promise to myself and even though they may not understand, I have made promises to my cats😊! Unfortunately, many people make empty promises, but maybe they have forgotten what a promise is and what can happen when a promise is broken. Through the rest of this post, I will discuss the true meaning of a promise, what broken promises cause, and what all of this means to me.

If you Google what a promise means it shows the meaning as a declaration or assurance that one will do a particular thing, or a particular thing will happen. I think our promises are giving our word to another and our word is our bond. It has been suggested that people with strong relationships have higher emotional intelligence and tend to be more likely to stay loyal and true to their commitments. Whether the commitment made is to yourself or someone else, making a promise is a commitment that you will keep your word. It is within commitment that reinforces and solidifies trust.

Breaking a promise can result in an abrupt breakdown of trust. A broken promise can be felt as betrayal and disrespect. Not only does breaking a promise disappoint other people, but it can damage your self-esteem. This can tarnish friendships, destroy marriages, and undermine businesses. Failure to keep your promise leads to declines in personal and professional relationships, creates emotional conflicts, you lose honesty, and your relationships are poisoned with doubts and skepticism. There may be lasting anger towards the one that broke their promise and feelings of shame for trusting the person in the first place.

Relationships are built on trust, so before you make any promises make sure so with the intention of keeping the promise. Trust is not easy to build, and it takes time, but it can be lost in less than a second when there is any betrayal involved. I am doing this post because I have learned through the years who I can count on and who will never let me down, but at the same time, I have learned who does not deserve another second chance. One thing that has helped me is to have low expectations for anyone that has a history of letting me down so that I am not disappointed by the same person over and over again.

We have almost made it through this week with today being Friday eve. I will never know how we made it through this painfully long week, but we almost have. Of course, we all are happy that tomorrow is Friday and then we have the weekend to look forward to, which maybe we have plans or maybe our plans are to just rest and recuperate from the week😊, either way, we are strong, and powerful. I think it is important to remind people of this because it can be easy to forget. I hope this post was beneficial to you and helped you to understand the importance of trust and commitment because those are things no one can take away from us.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope your week has been great and you are looking forward to the weekend. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as possible. Remember to stand up for what you believe in and be true to who you are😊! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, support, comfort, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Motivational Monday

Here we are again with another Monday! It does not seem like we had a weekend at all, but hopefully, this new week will be amazing and full of wonderful things😉! How was your weekend? Unfortunately, I was unable to go get the piercing that I want because of car troubles. Sometimes it seems like when it rains it pours because there is always something going wrong. Not only did I have car troubles this weekend and have to rent a car, but I also had a massive headache all weekend. I am sure part of the reason for the headache was stress about the car, but the piercing was what I was hoping would help them. I am hoping to be able to get the piercing next weekend!

Starting another week is inevitable because they always return, even when we are not finished with our weekend☹. Monday does not always have to be terrible because a new week may bring better things into our life. I do understand how difficult it is to believe in hope, but without hope what do we have? With all the headaches I have had lately and other troubles, believe me, I have come close to losing hope, but then a voice in my head reminds me how crucial it is to believe in, and yes, that voice in my late grandfather😊! I hope the quote I am sharing with you will bring you some hope or at least help you to believe there is hope in our life!

Thinking about hopes and dreams, what is something you are hoping and dreaming for? I would love to believe there could be world peace and everyone could get along with one another without any issues, but I think this is a pipe dream. I would love it if genius scientists could find cures for all the diseases that have no cure, but I think that might be a fantasy and it might never happen in my lifetime. A more logical hope is that my Tahoe will be fixed and not be insanely expensive. My husband knows how to fix these trucks, so we will not be going to a mechanic that could tell me a million other things are wrong with it. Unfortunately, it is often hard to know who you can trust, but I do know that I can trust my husband!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you had an enjoyable weekend and have a wonderful week. I would love the chance to read your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I hope you enjoyed this post and the quotes I have shared with you today. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes! 

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

We have finally made it through this insanely LONG week and the weekend is to arrive soon. I know it was the same amount of time as every other week, but the past five days have been brutal. Actually, who am I kidding, the past several weeks have been ruthless! The only good thing that came out of this past week was the temperatures have been a little milder. Instead of it being in the high 90’s or low 100’s during the day, it has only been in the high 80’s, which I will take instead of any higher. I do not do well with high temperatures, it makes me completely miserable.

The week is finally over and we will be able to enjoy the weekend. We should be able to do whatever brings us the most joy during the extremely short weekend. I am just delighted that I do not have to sit and stare at a computer screen and get up early the next two days. We can all probably agree that weekdays can create a lot of negative emotions, whether it be work-related or other, we need to be able to let those feelings go. The only thing negative emotions do is cause stress and frustrations, so why bring that into the short weekend? No matter what anyone says, nobody is perfect and they do not have a perfect life. The only thing we can do is try our best and avoid stressing over an outcome we have no control over!

Now that the weekend will be here in a few hours, do you have anything planned? I mentioned the other day that I want to get the daith piercing, but I might wait until my birthday to do it, but who knows? If this is something that truly helps headaches, I cannot see a reason to wait another month. Does anyone have any advice on this? Other than possibly doing that, I have nothing else planned besides recuperating from the week and getting some much needed rest.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and found the quote helpful. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I promise to respond as quickly as I can. Hopefully, whatever you have planned for the weekend, you will remain safe and do what brings you the most joy. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve! I do would prefer to not say happy Thursday because it makes me feel like there is a lot left of this week and the week has already been too long! To think of today as Friday eve makes me feel like the week is almost over. How has your week been? I hope it has not been as long and crazy as mine has been. I do my best to avoid watching the news because there is literally nothing but negative and terrible things that happen every single day. Unfortunately, I did see some news because it showed up on my work computer. I wish I had not seen any of it because it is incredibly disturbing and discouraging! I just wish we could all get along and for one day, the only things reported on the news are positive.

For the past several weeks, I have seen some very unpleasant and disrespectful behavior. These are things that I will never understand because it is the exact opposite of how I act towards other people. I do not understand if this is something new happening in the world and I have always been too naïve to see it before, but if that is the case, I wish I could go back to being too naïve to view people for what they are. This is the reason that I decided on the quote I am sharing with you today. It does not matter how others treat me or how much they choose to disrespect me, I am going to continue being who I am and treat others with kindness. I view it as there must be a reason for the way they are behaving because why else would someone behave so unkind?

I am trying to do at least one post each day, which I was unable to on Tuesday. We all face challenges and stress in life, so it is crucial to find ways to release those negative emotions. My way to do this has always been to write and read, which is difficult to do when I have a headache. I do believe one reason I have been dealing with so many headaches is mostly due to stress, which is why I mentioned in a previous post I was slowly going to be eliminating stress from my life. Who would have thought it would be so difficult, especially when I know the stress factors?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you enjoyed what I have shared and the quote resonated with you. I know we do still have one more day until we get to the weekend, but that is much better than having to wait 5 days as we did on Monday. I do not have any definitive plans for the weekend, but I do want to go get the piecing I have heard helps migraines. Many people have told me that once they got the daith piercing (part of the ear), they did not have another migraine, or at least not as many. I look forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Halfway there!

Let’s not think of today as simply Wednesday, let us think of it as we are halfway to the weekend! I am not sure how, but we managed to survive the first half of the week, which at least for me was not easy because it was crazy busy! All I can say is I hope the last part of the week is a little easier and the pain and stress will ease up at least a little!! Why is it some weeks feel so much longer? I understand it comes with the territory, but it would help if people could be just a little less demanding and a lot more understanding.

During our lives, we are going to experience good times and bad times, but the bad times should never define or destroy who we are. It is so easy to get discouraged when negative things occur in our lives, but why let the negative times win when we have choices we can make? No matter what we go through in life, there is always a way out or a choice to make that may have a positive outcome. I hope the quote I have shared with you will inspire you and help you to understand bad things may happen, but we can decide if we let them destroy us or make us stronger. I am going to always choose the latter because I do not want to allow anything to destroy my life.

It is kind of funny that I have never met any of the people I work with in person, but have been able to get to know so many of them and make friends with them. Many people have said to me that they think it would be challenging working remotely and not meeting people face to face, but I have become used to it and enjoy it. Working with customers in person is complicated, but working with them through email is a lot more challenging because people seem to think it is easier to be rude and disrespectful. I do not understand this and doubt I ever will. I almost doubt some of these customers would behave the same if we were face to face, but I guess they might behave the same. No matter how much people decide to be nasty and rude, I have learned to just shake my head and pour on the kindness and good customer service I always provide!

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you are having a good week and never forgetting how amazing you are. I would love to know what you thought about this post and the quote I have shared with you. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Let It Go Friday

Happy Friday, y’all! Is it just me or has this been an extremely long week? I am sure I feel this way because my week started with a headache that refuses to go away, but even on the other days when the headache was tolerable the days at work felt LONG! I have given up trying to understand why people behave the way they do because I do not think I will ever understand how people can be so demanding and rude. I think I have been looking forward to today, since Sunday night!

I have always thought that Friday is the perfect day to let go of all the negative and frustrating things that occurred during the week because we deserve an opportunity to enjoy a couple of days. We are forced to work five brutal days each week and we are only given two days to rest and live life, so why carry the negative thoughts into our time? I am hoping you will find the quote I am sharing helpful to let go and live your weekend happily and without stress!

I might be wrong, but I do believe the people that cause us the most stress and pain are battling with themselves internally and their negative emotions seep out to others. This type of behavior does not make their days or lives better and only ruins another person’s day. I know I get upset and moody, but I also know how my temper can ignite to an explosive level, so I try to stay quiet. Anyone that knows me understands why I am quiet, something is very wrong and I need space. I prefer to be silent, so I do not hurt anyone’s feelings and then have to apologize a million times!

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you enjoyed what I have shared with you today. I hope the quote provides you with the strength to leave last week in the past where it belongs and you can have a stress-free, and enjoyable weekend! I look forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

Pick-Me-Up Thursday

Happy Friday Eve y’all! We have almost made it through this week and the weekend will be here shortly! This week has been a little challenging because of the nasty migraine I had for more than two days. I hated having to call out of work on Tuesday, but the head pain was unbearable and I was miserable. I am not sure why these keep happening. I mean it could be heat, stress, fatigue, or who knows what else? I keep hearing that the daith ear piercing helps migraines, but my husband keeps telling me it will not. Does anyone reading this have this piercing and if so, does it help migraines?

At this point in the week, we have made it through three full days and only have a couple left. Even though the week is nearly over, we could all use some positivity to pick us up, right? I have seen so many times when people are unhappy and miserable, they want to criticize others. Why do people think that misery loves company? That is so awful because why do people think that making others feel bad will make them feel happier? Seems a little sick and twisted to me. That is why I decided the quote I am sharing today would be a good pick-me-up. I think it is better to live our lives in a way that makes us happy and not care what others think. We do not owe anyone an explanation, as long as we are not causing harm to anyone else!

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I know how boring I must sound, but after a long and exhausting week, I enjoy having no plans! Why make any firm plans when your work week is already planned out for you? We are forced to work five days a week, that is 40 hours each week dedicated to working for someone else. There is always someone else telling you what you MUST do and I prefer not being told what to do on the only two days I have away from work. I think it is inhumane to work more days than we get off to enjoy this short life! Would it not be amazing to work three days and have four off? Or even work four and have three off?

Thank you for visiting my site today! I hope you have had a great week and your weekend is filled with everything that brings you the most joy in life. I am looking forward to reading your comments and I will respond as quickly as I can. I apologize for any comments I have not responded to yet, but I will play catch up this weekend. The first two day this week, I was battling a mean migraine, so I fell behind. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

~How to deal with manipulative people~

What does manipulation mean to you? The Webster’s Dictionary shows manipulation to mean a few different things, but for this post, it means, “to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means, especially to one’s advantage”. To your knowledge, has anyone in your life ever tried to manipulate you? If so, how did this make you feel and how did you handle it?

Unfortunately, manipulative people can be found anywhere. These people can be family, friends, co-workers, or even new people in your life. They are not always easy to detect because they can easily lie and deceive you. Although they are skillful in their deceptive and treacherous behaviors, they are careless and selfish with only their benefits in mind. 

Manipulative people know how to find your weaknesses, use them against you, and convince you to do what will benefit their interests. Some may attempt using positive tactics, such as disingenuous compliments and artificial closeness, but they typically use negative means like silent treatment, criticism, and emotional abuse. 

The feelings felt when being manipulated are unpleasant, to say the least. This can easily leave a person feeling sad, disappointed, hurt, and even betrayed. If you have even been on the receiving end of manipulation, please let this be a lesson and never treat another person in this way.

**Please note, I am not a psychologist, mental health professional, or medical professional in any way, but the following tips are what I discovered through research and I hope they will help you end manipulative people before they can hurt and deceive you**

Remember, NO means NO:

Learn how to say “NO” in a firm, calm, and diplomatic way. There is no need to add anything else to the conversation. When we offer any reason, it can just provide ammo for the person to use to get through your defenses and force you to say “yes”. Initially, the manipulative person may become irritated and persistently try to convince you of something other than what you have already stated. Do not allow their determination or pushy behavior to change your mind. Continue to say “NO” and they will eventually give up. 

Do not apologize automatically:

Manipulative people are skillful at turning the tables to make everything be your fault, even when in your heart you know it was not. These types of people are always the victim. Of course, we are all human and it may seem easier to apologize to keep the peace and end the conversation, but this will just provide them with more control. Stand your ground and know manipulative people will never take responsibility for their actions.

Do not react:

Although it is not easy, the more you defend yourself or explain your reasons, the farther you fall into their web of control. Manipulative people know the way you think and will take advantage of it. They will create drama and chaos and the more emotional you become, the calmer they will feel. They want to make you seem like the crazy one and they are sane. No matter how many accusations and criticisms they throw at you, try to walk away and simply say, “I am sorry you feel that way”.

Establish clear boundaries:

Manipulative people are drawn to and prey on people pleasers because their boundaries are often weaker. Boundaries are important in all relationships as lines are clearly drawn. If there is a manipulative person in your life that continues to cross even one of your boundaries, know when it is time to walk away and not engage further. Define ahead of time what the consequences are when the person continues to disrespect you and your boundaries.

Take time to make decisions:

Often a manipulative person will be forceful and demand an answer right away. Try to never cave into their pressure because it only gives them more control. Take as much time as you need to provide them with an answer.

Keep your distance: 

The best and most challenging thing to do is to cut these manipulative people out of your life because they will try to make you feel guilty. Sometimes ignoring the person is easier because they are unaware of what is going on.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope the information in this post will help you deal with a manipulative person in your life or at least prepare you to handle on if you ever are forced to. Life is not easy, and we always need to do what is best for us because it is our life! If you have dealt with this type of person before, I am interested to read about it and how you handled it or knew it was happening. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa