Forgiveness can be one of the most challenging things to accomplish in life, especially when the person we are trying to forgive does not change and continues to disappoint us. We are never required to forgive someone and should only do so when and if we are ready to do so. Forgiveness is not something we do for the other person’s benefit and is for our benefit. This is meant to release ourselves from the feelings of resentment, regret, and reserve the limited energy we have inside.
If we forgive another person and they continue to let us down, should we continue to forgive that person or remove them from our life? I do not think there is a right or wrong answer for this question because it is a personal decision. We do need to think about self-preservation when making this decision. It becomes obvious when someone does not change, they are not thinking about anyone besides themselves, and we need to consider our needs.
In this short life we do not have a rewind button to go back in time and there is not a pause button, so we must understand we only have one chance. We should try to forgive but should not set ourselves up for further pain from being disappointed. Most times removing those from our lives that have caused monstrous amount of pain and heartache is the best chance for us to have a happier life.
Everyone deserves a chance to make changes. Even with that said, there are only so many chances we can offer before we are tormenting ourselves. Unfortunately, there have been people in my life that I have forgiven and even today they would continue to disappoint me if I did not remove them from my life. I do not have any regrets from eliminating people from my life. Why should I allow myself to be hurt repeatedly?
Boundaries and limitations are crucial to find. Personal boundaries are limits and rules we determine for relationships. Boundaries are a necessity to maintain self-care. Without boundaries we can feel exhausted, taken advantaged of and taken for granted. Not having boundaries can lead to resentment, anger, and feeling burnt out. Understanding our limitations means what we are willing to endure and to what extent.
Do you think there is such a thing as being too forgiving? How many times have your forgiven someone only to be hurt again by the same person? I am not sure what I think about being too forgiving. If the same person has hurt us multiple times, is that on them or are we responsible for the pain? There is saying, screw me once, shame on you, screw me twice, shame on me.
There is still some of the weekend left and we need to enjoy it as much as possible. Hopefully, your weekend has been full of things that made you happy. Unfortunately, I have not felt well this weekend. It has mostly been sinus issues mixed with pain, but that is just normal for me. I know the Gilenya I take for the Multiple Sclerosis is responsible for the sinus issues, but I would rather deal with that than have the MS worsen.
Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you found what I have shared beneficial and helps you understand forgiveness, boundaries, and limitations. I am looking forward to reading your comments and will respond as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes!