~Advice to younger self~

If you could go back in time and talk with your younger self, would you have any advice to give yourself? Through our years and as we grow, we learn many lessons. Most of these lessons have built us into who we are today. Even though we learned from our mistakes in life, there are always those things we look back on and wish we had avoided because it was not an easy lesson to learn.

Years have passed by and there may have been things we missed out on because of fear of failure or lack of confidence. Would you have any advice to give yourself that could change the way your life is today, and would you want to? Over my 40 years, I have learned some valuable lessons, but I also think the way life has played out is the way it is supposed to be. However, even with that said there is some advice I would give myself that may or may not alter how my life is today.

The most important piece of advice I would tell my yourself is, never think you are not good enough. My entire life I have battled with self-confidence. I never believed that my skills in any part of life was good enough and that I should do better. I wanted to become a writer but thought that my writing was never up to par, and I would be ridiculed because of it. When I started my blog five years ago, I worried I would fail, but I have not failed and would have failed if I did not try.

I think another piece of advice I would offer my younger self would be stop second guessing myself. There have been many times I second guessed myself and then come to find out I had been correct from the start. This was not anyone else’s fault but my own because I lacked confidence in my abilities. I am not saying that I am always correct, but in some situations when I have a strong belief in something, I am 100% correct. My mother has witnessed this and is finally listening to what I say more. It only took 40 years, but at least something changed.

The third piece of advice I would tell myself is to always be proud of the person you are. You are not always going to agree with everyone around you, but if something means a lot to you never back down. I have always been firm in my beliefs and have never allowed anyone to change my mind. Of course, this has created tension in some situations, such as politics, how I treat everyone equally, and think we all have a right to love who we love. I do not judge people for who they are, unless they are harming someone else. I also do not try changing anyone else’s beliefs and will respect what they say, even if I disagree. I do tell myself that my late grandfather that I idolized would be proud of the woman I have grown to be!

The appointment I was forced to go to at the unemployment office yesterday went well but was completely pointless. The lady I spoke with asked me five or six questions and it was over. She said I should not have any issues next week with the unemployment payout, but we will see. It is terrible they require someone that has a weak immune system to go into a facility with too many people and some were not wearing a mask. Of course, I had my mask on and tried being as safe as I could.

Sadly, it is nearing on a month that Ukraine has been dealing with threats to their life. It is incredibly heartbreaking to watch the news and see what they are sharing, but even more upsetting to know they are not showing the worst of it. I guess it is good they are not showing everything because anyone with a heart and any empathy would be extremely upset. I cannot imagine what they are going through because I have never been put in this kind of situation. All I could think is it would be like North Carolina or Georgia wanting to take control of South Carolina. I mean, what do you do fight or run?

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared meant something to you and I look forward to reading what advice you would have for your younger self. It is a little interesting reflecting back at life and realizing what has been learned. I will respond to all comments as quickly as I can. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, support, and MANY positive vibes.

Always, Alyssa

5 thoughts on “~Advice to younger self~

  1. If I could go back in time, I would tell my younger self to always put me first. I’d tell my younger self not to be scared of anything, I would tell my younger self I’m good enough. I’d tell my younger self the importance of having great network.
    Thank you ☺️

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