Life’s Hard Lessons

After a few months, multiple weeks, and too many days of searching for a job I have learned so much about life and people. One of the most important and hardest lessons has been who is a real friend and who is not. Although this has NOT been an easy lesson to learn, it has made me stronger and more resilient. We are all tested daily, and those tests show who we are on the inside and what we are capable of.

It blows my mind that people I have known for years started feeling more like a stranger than a friend I met through a grocery delivery service, Shipt I have been using since the pandemic started. I never use the names of people I write about in my posts because I want to protect their privacy, so we are going to refer to her as “J”. In a world where there is so much complaining and talking so negative, I want to let be sure to let others know when they are appreciated. “J” has randomly texted me to see how I was doing and given me a great lead on a job. She has been more caring than any of my other long-time friends and for that I am incredibly thankful!!

The numerous challenges we face daily can make or break us, it all depends on what we are willing to do to overcome them. I am not going to lie, there have been some that I felt were going to break me, but I am too stubborn to let anything break my spirit. The past few years have been exhausting and we have all come across things we never thought we would, but we are still here to reflect on those issues. Of course, Multiple Sclerosis tests my strength every day and multiple times a day and somehow, I still have not surrendered.

Something I have always felt strongly about is it is important in life to show respect, kindness, compassion, and understanding to all, even when it seems impossible. What we can learn from others can have a HUGE impact on our lives and most of the time it is for the positive. We never know what someone else is struggling with and why they are acting the way they are, but if we try to listen and understand it can impact the other person’s life and our own in amazing ways.

Days are going to continue going by, so I do not think it takes too much time to try helping someone else. Who knows the ways we can accomplish this and the benefits it may bring to life? I think it is worth trying though! There are times in all our lives we need someone to listen and in a non-judgmental way. I might not agree with everything someone else does, but that does not make them wrong or me right, so trying to see their perspective adds to my knowledge.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope what I have shared today resonates with you and will help you to be a little more understanding to others in your life. I know all of you are caring and want what is best for others, so I also know you do what you can to be kind! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, compassion, support, and MANY positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa

8 thoughts on “Life’s Hard Lessons

  1. Thank you for writing this. Just this past December I found out I was hired for “Only” renovating some condos that were being sold “I was never told”. After being told to report to the office before the holidays, I found out my employment was expected to expire in 30 days. The property sold on December 21, leaving me out of a job and facing insurmountable relationship stress with my Wife to be. As painful as it was to realize that a secondary source of income was the ONLY important thing to her, I’m glad I went through that storm that opened my eyes and cancelled my plans. What you said about “knowing who your friends are” couldn’t be more true!

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    • I am so sorry you went through this. I know it was not easy, but I do hope your wife to be was understanding and supportive. Learning who our friends are is hard and normally disappointing, but learning this can also be a good thing for our life.

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  2. Sometimes when you listen to someone in need whether it be a friend, child, coworker or spouse it’s not always easy. When you hear disappointment and sadness in the voice of someone you love it hurts. Not only them, but you as well. You just want to get in there and fix it all, but it’s not that easy. It’s difficult to just listen without offering feedback. Feedback doesn’t mean you’re judging someone. Feedback isn’t a secret way to attack someone. I believe you’re just trying to provide a different way for someone to look at a situation while offering support at the same time. You truly have their best interest at heart. You only want the best for them. Being an outsider of course we will always see things differently than the person in the situation. We all need to ask for advice and/or talk to someone throughout our lives. We don’t have all the answers. It’s okay to look at things from a different perspective. We all deserve the best this life has to offer. All my Love & Support, Mom!!

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