Ways to not allow the past to destroy the future!

One thing we all undoubtedly have in common is we all have a past. There could be parts that make us feel stronger, happier, and more thankful. Other parts of our past may make us feel sadness, pain, and regret. Regardless of any emotions felt from the past it is important we continue moving forward with our lives and not allow for the past to devastate any part of the happy future we all deserve.

Do you have any past experiences or memories that still haunt you to this day? Are there any past experiences, good or bad, that shaped the way you view the world today?

Many people do not truly understand how much negative experiences affect them. Those that had an unfair and difficult childhood to being involved in a violent and abusive relationship to being hurt in other ways can leave scars on the mind and emotional well-being throughout one’s life if the problems are not addressed.

I am going to share some tips that I hope will be beneficial and lead you towards a happier and healthier life and way from allowing anything to contaminate your happy and bright future.

1. For reasons that are unknown to me, traumatic experiences are often disregarded as being a source of negative changes. Anyone that has dealt with a traumatic experience and recognized it could understand having some negative changes. I guess the big difference is some people that went through a traumatic experience never recognized it as such and how it negatively impacted them.

There are numerous opinions and definitions regarding trauma, but they do mainly focus on experiences threatening the sanity, bodily morals, or life. These experiences can include child abuse, abandonment, loss of a loved one, car accidents, having been a victim of a crime, abuse of any kind, near-death experience, being a witness of something horrendous, and so much more.Considering we are different we will all respond differently to traumatic experiences. Some people might lean on various substances to handle the issues and others may cope in less noticeable ways. Coping mechanisms are not always healthy, but hopefully, they will only be utilized for the short-term.

2. Trust is a very delicate and intricate topic. Trust involves having a certain level of vulnerableness to the person we desire to trust. It can become challenging when someone from the past has violated the trust we have instilled in them. Anytime we are hurt, it is our human nature to want to put up walls to protect ourselves from any further harm. Once we have experienced the hurt from someone that broke our trust, it can be hard to let another person in because we want to have control over what happens to us in our life.

The biggest problem with trust is it does require us to be vulnerable. No matter how much we read about who we should avoid or how to detect liars and manipulators it typically ends up being through attempting educated guesses and believing in our intuition.

3. Regret can cheat us from happiness if we remain focused on past errors made or wishing things were done differently. Regrets can also be with situations when everything was done correctly, but things still did not work out. In these scenarios, it will be best to think slightly differently. There does come a point we need to make decisions that stop allowing regret to control us and we start enjoying life in the present, but also work towards a greater future.

4. The only thing a history of past failures does is nourish depression and low self-esteem. It is only those that are very fortunate and try something new without any problems their first time. The vast majority of people, who succeed with attempting something, will fail, but use their new knowledge and try again.

5. Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be many places we can go and not come across anger, justified or not. The complication with anger is it can be toxic damaging all the positive things in life

Anger builds walls and boundaries that can become inconceivable to conquer because we are consumed with the way we are feeling. When people are angry they care far less about listening for a solution and more about having their feelings heard and validated.

We are not able to hold onto anger endlessly because it will gradually destroy our mental and emotional well-being. There does come a point we need to learn anger is counterproductive. It can work as a spark, but anger alone isn’t able to do the work needed to make a change.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I do always appreciate your continued support and truly enjoy reading your comments. I will never make comments mandatory, but I do encourage them because your thoughts are meaningful and I think beneficial to everyone reading. I hope your week has started off well and you are continuing to remain safe with this virus looming over us all. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love, comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa


11 thoughts on “Ways to not allow the past to destroy the future!

  1. All too often we judge before understanding. Regret is inevitable, the consequences of learning from mistakes. Trust on the other hand is a fragile pane of glass, once broken it can be replaced but never it will unlikely be the same again. As always stay safe xxx

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  2. Thank you for sharing!!… “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together”… Marilyn Monroe… 🙂

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