Our lives are full of small problems, huge problems, and everything in between. These problems we face can require a significant amount of resilience to protect our emotional well-being. Allowing someone else the power to dictate our emotions should never be allowed. We must remain in control of our happiness and peace because no one else cares as much as we do.

We are only human and have feelings that should never be ignored or dismissed. It is logical and normal to have negative emotions when we feel we weren’t treated fairly or things didn’t go the way we thought they would.

With all of this being said, there has to be a way to overcome these problems, right? I have discovered a 7-step process to alleviate the negative emotions felt and establish ways to not allow things to cause us distress.

1. Recognize the circumstances:

An uncomplicated way to resolve a problem is to recall what exactly the problem is. It may help to break the issue problem down into a simple feasible statement, which will allow you to see clearly what you are enduring.

2. Understand what and why:

We must be able to comprehend what we are feeling to develop the best approach to handling what we are feeling. If we do not understand what we are feeling, we will not be capable of diffusing those emotions. Whatever we are dealing with can cause an intense combination of emotions. There might be times we are sad, angry, frustrated, and disappointed all at the same time. So having a plan to deal with our emotions will be beneficial to secure our mental well-being.

3. What are the facts of the situation?

It is very easy for our emotions to blur what is real and true. We might be so angry that we are unable to see our role in the situation or be able to scrutinize the circumstances. Focusing solely on the facts of any situation does not require any of our emotions because facts are or are not. The facts can keep us balance as we cope with the issues.

4. Ask yourself, “What am I culpable for in this situation?”

We have already determined the facts regarding the situation we are dealing with. Now we need to acknowledge any part of the situation we might be at fault for. This step is important for diffusing conflicts because many actions of others are directed by what is going through their minds. Periodically things are going to happen and we have no control over them.

5. Feel the way we do and then let it go:

Sometimes we will not be able to avoid the issues that trouble us. It is normal and healthy to have negative emotions when unforeseen and or unpleasant things occur in our life. The negative emotions we experience force us to take action to ameliorate our situation. When we are unhappy with something in our life, our brain persuades us to do something to alter our situation.

We can only allow ourselves so much time to think about the negative situation before it causes us to become cynical. Continuing to dwell on the negative situation will not change anything. We need to stay active drawing our attention to something besides the negative event that took place. It is possible we need to process how we are feeling several times before we manage to find tranquility in the situation.

6. It is time to take action:

Our negative feelings can have an invaluable purpose in advising us to do something about the circumstances put on us. We are not able to control what we are faced with in life, but we can control the way we react to situations. It may help if we try having a civil conversation with the other person involved. If you feel that isn’t an option you could ask someone trusted and neutral to mediate the conversation.

7. Do not be hard on yourself:

Unfortunately, plans do not always work out the way we hoped they would. There might be times we need to accept what has occurred just to save our peace and happiness in life.

Thank you for visiting my site today. I hope you are having a good weekend and you are feeling the best you possibly can. I also hope the information provided in this post was beneficial for you. Life can get so complicated and it is easy to become frustrated. The frustrations we feel may cause us to lash out towards the person we are upset with. I would love to read what you thought of this information and promise to respond as quickly as I can!

I hope the rest of your weekend is enjoyable! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!

Always, Alyssa